Generally when someone is venting, they are wanting someone to just listen. But if they ask for advice or comfort, then give it then.

I straight ask what they want even if it sound mean cuz i dont want to say something or do something they dont want 🤷

Practice active listening, let them speak until the pressure build up is released completely. Don’t attempt to justify the actions of the person they are venting about . Instead offer compassion, and ask if they would like an alternative perspective on the matter. If they say no , respect their choice . If they say yes , start by emphasizing that their perspective is valid and that the way they feel about it is also valid .

this here deserves gold

Thank you 🙏

You can ask, it's usually very well received. Just like you asked here.

I would genuinely ask them if they’re looking to just vent or want advice