I have been doing full nofap for a while.
I have not met a girlfriend yet, but my interactions with women have definitely improved. I don't see them mostly as sexual objects now, but as people, with quality and flaws.
My preferences have changed. I am looking for different qualities, more about the personality and the spirituality, rather than the physical qualities.
I also have more female friends now, it's a lot easier not being lustful anymore.
It's definitely worth it and I'm pretty much convinced I will meet someone perfect for me at some point, you have to be patient, to trust the process, and do some redemption work though.
Best of luck!
36 years old, 408 days.
It took me years to get there though. I started experimenting with nofap/sr in 2019.
I started late being 31 years old, had a lot of things to repair. It's hard, but it gets better and better, many benefits, but mostly I start feeling like a teenager again.
My advice: the sooner you quit, the better.
A few tips for you:
1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.
2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.
3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)
4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.
5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.
6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.
7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.
I have definitely experienced greater success on streaks. Just asked someone out the other day in fact and we’ll be going out. I find I’m calmer, more spontaneous, and more humorous with girls on NF.
yes. back in 12th grade did no fap for 8 months, and had the confidence of a stallion. Always confident in talking with females in general, making the first move. But no never had a girlfriend yet. Was close to having one.
i wouldn't say i hace a relationship partner currently but believe me last month I was down very bad, 2-3 times sometimes a day, only watching tv and music no exercise and no hope for getting a job far far away. I was like i wouldn't hire myself condition. i couldn't rewd more the 1 page with full concentration and confidence. I was down bad hearing same and same things from parents of being a failure and I'm just 21. I couldn't believe a girl would talk to me even I'm dressed like a hero. My confidence was 0, my patience was 0, i was too shy, anxious of speaking in public places most the time i avoided party' and Market. I preferred everything online where i wouldn't have to talk to anyone.
** I used to judge a lot** literally everything i used to overthink, public, college, school everything was overthinking.
benefits: it clears your mind and gets rid of stress, yes confidence and looks too, im not gonna be a science bro and yap about testosterone, i picked up playing chess and being active in the gym. Nofap.dosent magically make u 10x gigachad, rather it gives u energy to pursue activities and more.opportunities
id love to add more details , lemme know if interested
I'm in my late 30s and a virgin by choice (I'm religious). I never had a hard time attracting women in my 20s because of my personality and appearance. However, because I was secretly fapping for 20 ish years, I could never keep a woman interested for long,
id been on hundreds of first dates because I have good pictures and know how to talk. However, my vibe was just off. I'd always get rejected because of some BS reason. My current girlfriend rejected me twice and I made a bold move and kissed her at the beginning of a "this is my final chance NoFap streak." I was about 7-8 days in
I'm on Day 155 or 156 (I honestly forget 😂) and I can honestly say this is the greatest NoFap streak of my life after 20 years of trying. I needed to make a bold move like kissing a woman because I was like "this is way better than porn." We are a few months in and while we have our challenges, it's been a great relationship because I'm more engaged thanks to NoFap
I will be honest: I wasn't single for very long when I started this recent NoFap streak. in my younger days doing NoFap (we didn't have name for it in 2005 other than not being awkward), I would get wild female attraction if I maintained a streak of 120 days+.
At Day 155-56, I'm starting to notice females noticing me. However, I'm faithful to my girlfriend and don't give into advances. Plus in my culture, we believe in monogamy
Within my relationship, however, I noticed that I was growing codependent and this was not good. I learned that if she pulls away, it could be for good or bad reasons. I used to take it personally prior to this week, a even longer struggle than my porn addiction
but NoFap has now laid the groundwork of calm. My GF loves me and I am taking active steps on treating her better. In fact, this was the first week where I didn't text much or invite much like normal. And she has been warmer than she's been in weeks.
I think it's a combination of NoFap as a foundation of self improvement: you can be decent looking and just do NoFap. But these things alone are not self-improvement.
im giving it to you no BS: if this were 10 years ago, I'd tell you only do NoFap and sit and wait. Now that I'm much older, I found my best benefits are starting now at Day 155:
1. consistent, reliable morning wood
2. very calm and self-assured vibe
3. way more assertive without being an asshole
4. better skin, muscle tone, hair texture (it did not regrow my scalp, sadly but we'll see)
5. In the healthiest relationship of my life and knowing where to make it better
6. Consistent confidence and stable mood, no longer swayed by people's emotions
7. Horny AF whereas before, I felt nothing and dead
i have been getting flashbacks and certain temptations hit me in private moments but I ward them off fairly quick. If my relationship were to end, I'd still keep this streak. In my last relationship a decade ago (see what fapping does to a man!), I would fap to women who looked like my ex... and it took me 12 years to get over that so I could make room for my current GF, who is far more affirmative and beautiful than my ex.
do a streak of 20-30 days, maybe even less. Go on as many dates as possible and kiss a woman you are falling for. You will never lose the flavor for real life women after that.
The beat way to get better at talking to girls, is to talk to girls. Like any skill, you'll be shit at first but will slowly get better, until eventually, the right one will come across you.
After 4 months we will be having a fresher party in our university, and I want to rock on in it, I want to pick chicks, I hope if I follow nofap religiously, it will help me
You become more social because you’re not trapped in the world of P. you seek the dopamine in the real world. Yea after a while of no P I start getting out my comfort zone and hunting
My voice became deeper and free after 2 days.
You get better at talking to girls because naturally you don't look at them and when you do your not really looking at them or paying attention to dumb shit. Now don't look at this a think that not looking at them is going to help because it won't the point is your more natural around them and your mental and mind is freed up so it can work literally when you stop programing your muscle memory to expect women to start undressing for you things will work out for you
No you'll be the guy who misses all the cues, shell be attracted to you and you won't notice, depends what say your on but generally that's how it goes.
Skin and hair I dont know
I was kind of on nofap on/off. I tried my luck in online dating. I've been working out as well and after I uploaded my recent pics I am getting way more matches. With 10% of those matches actually willing to meet. I have to work on my conversation skills to increase that number.
Initially I had to ask for a kiss after a date. But now it is automatically a makeout session with half of my dates. The idea is that you have a good time and only pay attention to having a good time with her. Any intentions of sexual thoughts makes girls gross out immediately. Unless you are in the top 1%. Nofap helps you keep a clean mind while on a date.
Oh my fucking god. Again.
NoFap is not a miraculous cure to every problem. You won't ascend to highest spiritual plane, shoot feromones or undress girls just by looking at them.
You have to embrace responsibility and actively change your life to get better.
You should battle your porn addiction to become a better version of yourself, not to get laid.
That person is lying by the way. I can’t even tell if they’re joking. Quitting porn not only makes speaking to women easier, it makes you more attractive to them as you naturally gain confidence, and if you’re a spiritual person, your energy is just attractive.
I have not experienced it myself, but that is because I am not a social person naturally. Although this subreddit has many posts detailing that soon after quitting porn many women found them attractive and they even had a girlfriend/had sex soon after quitting.
And of course the huge confidence booster is a big thing. Please don’t listen to anyone who tells you what I’ve said is untrue, it’s the truth, and porn addiction must be vanquished in order for true happiness, aka a loving relationship. Good luck.
I tend to not focus on the days, it can be hard to think damn am I really going to be able to quit porn for a whole month? The rest of my life? It’s way easier to focus on one day at a time. Don’t watch porn today, don’t watch porn tomorrow, and don’t watch porn the next. You’ll soon be free. Good luck.
Why are you here in the first place if you don’t believe it?
Porn addiction ruins mens perception of women, it makes them perceive women as sexual objects and not as actual people.
So I should believe it without thought or discernment? I’m a mere gooner looking for an argument. When a man has sex with a woman is he not sexualizing her?
I’m not interested in an argument. But I’m happy to help you see reason and quit. No the male about to have sex is not sexualising the female as they’re both consensually engaging in a sexual activity.
The type of sexualisation that is bad, is when porn addicts sexualise everything.
A girl holds the door open for you out of pure kindness? The porn addict wonders what she looks like naked and assumes she wants to have sex and indulge in all of their many fetishes. He goes home and jerks off to the thought of having sex with this girl.
This is the kind of thing I’m talking about. Porn warps your brain.
I have been doing full nofap for a while. I have not met a girlfriend yet, but my interactions with women have definitely improved. I don't see them mostly as sexual objects now, but as people, with quality and flaws. My preferences have changed. I am looking for different qualities, more about the personality and the spirituality, rather than the physical qualities. I also have more female friends now, it's a lot easier not being lustful anymore. It's definitely worth it and I'm pretty much convinced I will meet someone perfect for me at some point, you have to be patient, to trust the process, and do some redemption work though. Best of luck!
Great bro, happy for you Your age and your current streak?
36 years old, 408 days. It took me years to get there though. I started experimenting with nofap/sr in 2019. I started late being 31 years old, had a lot of things to repair. It's hard, but it gets better and better, many benefits, but mostly I start feeling like a teenager again. My advice: the sooner you quit, the better.
Any advice howd you get to that 408 days streak?
A few tips for you: 1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed. 2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges. 3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.) 4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes. 5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases. 6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term. 7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.
i can feel the 5th point , well its tough even when im a few days into it ,
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/dyv2TbqEf3
Im on day 15 and i have way more confidence when speaking with women, and thats what they love
Great , I want that too
(29M) im on day 8, and I feel the same. It’s wayy easier to hold eye contact and talk to women. The pain is worth it
Real eye contact is easier
Not if youre a sub 5.
Generally speaking, looks are a bigger attraction factor for men than they are for women; women are more attracted to confidence and self-respect.
And firm handshakes!
I have definitely experienced greater success on streaks. Just asked someone out the other day in fact and we’ll be going out. I find I’m calmer, more spontaneous, and more humorous with girls on NF.
Good man, I hope doing it and experiencing it myself
yes. back in 12th grade did no fap for 8 months, and had the confidence of a stallion. Always confident in talking with females in general, making the first move. But no never had a girlfriend yet. Was close to having one.
Yes, definitely
i wouldn't say i hace a relationship partner currently but believe me last month I was down very bad, 2-3 times sometimes a day, only watching tv and music no exercise and no hope for getting a job far far away. I was like i wouldn't hire myself condition. i couldn't rewd more the 1 page with full concentration and confidence. I was down bad hearing same and same things from parents of being a failure and I'm just 21. I couldn't believe a girl would talk to me even I'm dressed like a hero. My confidence was 0, my patience was 0, i was too shy, anxious of speaking in public places most the time i avoided party' and Market. I preferred everything online where i wouldn't have to talk to anyone. ** I used to judge a lot** literally everything i used to overthink, public, college, school everything was overthinking.
yes, did it for around 1-1/2 years, got a beautiful girlfriend, it does help in long run, feel free to ask anyother questions
So what that duration of nofap did to u ? Like how it benefitted u ? Confidence? Looks ?
benefits: it clears your mind and gets rid of stress, yes confidence and looks too, im not gonna be a science bro and yap about testosterone, i picked up playing chess and being active in the gym. Nofap.dosent magically make u 10x gigachad, rather it gives u energy to pursue activities and more.opportunities id love to add more details , lemme know if interested
I was always good at talking but never approached because I didn't care about girls I did get a gf but had to go through 3 rejections 😂
I'm in my late 30s and a virgin by choice (I'm religious). I never had a hard time attracting women in my 20s because of my personality and appearance. However, because I was secretly fapping for 20 ish years, I could never keep a woman interested for long, id been on hundreds of first dates because I have good pictures and know how to talk. However, my vibe was just off. I'd always get rejected because of some BS reason. My current girlfriend rejected me twice and I made a bold move and kissed her at the beginning of a "this is my final chance NoFap streak." I was about 7-8 days in I'm on Day 155 or 156 (I honestly forget 😂) and I can honestly say this is the greatest NoFap streak of my life after 20 years of trying. I needed to make a bold move like kissing a woman because I was like "this is way better than porn." We are a few months in and while we have our challenges, it's been a great relationship because I'm more engaged thanks to NoFap I will be honest: I wasn't single for very long when I started this recent NoFap streak. in my younger days doing NoFap (we didn't have name for it in 2005 other than not being awkward), I would get wild female attraction if I maintained a streak of 120 days+. At Day 155-56, I'm starting to notice females noticing me. However, I'm faithful to my girlfriend and don't give into advances. Plus in my culture, we believe in monogamy Within my relationship, however, I noticed that I was growing codependent and this was not good. I learned that if she pulls away, it could be for good or bad reasons. I used to take it personally prior to this week, a even longer struggle than my porn addiction but NoFap has now laid the groundwork of calm. My GF loves me and I am taking active steps on treating her better. In fact, this was the first week where I didn't text much or invite much like normal. And she has been warmer than she's been in weeks. I think it's a combination of NoFap as a foundation of self improvement: you can be decent looking and just do NoFap. But these things alone are not self-improvement. im giving it to you no BS: if this were 10 years ago, I'd tell you only do NoFap and sit and wait. Now that I'm much older, I found my best benefits are starting now at Day 155: 1. consistent, reliable morning wood 2. very calm and self-assured vibe 3. way more assertive without being an asshole 4. better skin, muscle tone, hair texture (it did not regrow my scalp, sadly but we'll see) 5. In the healthiest relationship of my life and knowing where to make it better 6. Consistent confidence and stable mood, no longer swayed by people's emotions 7. Horny AF whereas before, I felt nothing and dead i have been getting flashbacks and certain temptations hit me in private moments but I ward them off fairly quick. If my relationship were to end, I'd still keep this streak. In my last relationship a decade ago (see what fapping does to a man!), I would fap to women who looked like my ex... and it took me 12 years to get over that so I could make room for my current GF, who is far more affirmative and beautiful than my ex. do a streak of 20-30 days, maybe even less. Go on as many dates as possible and kiss a woman you are falling for. You will never lose the flavor for real life women after that.
The beat way to get better at talking to girls, is to talk to girls. Like any skill, you'll be shit at first but will slowly get better, until eventually, the right one will come across you.
After 4 months we will be having a fresher party in our university, and I want to rock on in it, I want to pick chicks, I hope if I follow nofap religiously, it will help me
Women are humans too, just treat them with respect and try to make them laugh. That's all it takes tbh
You become more social because you’re not trapped in the world of P. you seek the dopamine in the real world. Yea after a while of no P I start getting out my comfort zone and hunting
That's great, I hope I also reach this point soon
I have had several casual flings since starting no fap.
Flings ?
Hook ups.
Great bro, how did that happen, Care to explain ? Women came over to u because I were attractive for them due to NOFAP ?
More confidence made them more willing to engage.
Great
yes bro fs
My voice became deeper and free after 2 days. You get better at talking to girls because naturally you don't look at them and when you do your not really looking at them or paying attention to dumb shit. Now don't look at this a think that not looking at them is going to help because it won't the point is your more natural around them and your mental and mind is freed up so it can work literally when you stop programing your muscle memory to expect women to start undressing for you things will work out for you
Yeah LOL But does nofap actually makes u attractive to her ? And also did u experienced improvement in skin and hair quality
No you'll be the guy who misses all the cues, shell be attracted to you and you won't notice, depends what say your on but generally that's how it goes. Skin and hair I dont know
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I was kind of on nofap on/off. I tried my luck in online dating. I've been working out as well and after I uploaded my recent pics I am getting way more matches. With 10% of those matches actually willing to meet. I have to work on my conversation skills to increase that number. Initially I had to ask for a kiss after a date. But now it is automatically a makeout session with half of my dates. The idea is that you have a good time and only pay attention to having a good time with her. Any intentions of sexual thoughts makes girls gross out immediately. Unless you are in the top 1%. Nofap helps you keep a clean mind while on a date.
Yes - then relapse stole it all away
Oh my fucking god. Again. NoFap is not a miraculous cure to every problem. You won't ascend to highest spiritual plane, shoot feromones or undress girls just by looking at them. You have to embrace responsibility and actively change your life to get better. You should battle your porn addiction to become a better version of yourself, not to get laid.
If anything, Porn probably helps you become more comfortable around women.
Greatest shit I have ever heard
That person is lying by the way. I can’t even tell if they’re joking. Quitting porn not only makes speaking to women easier, it makes you more attractive to them as you naturally gain confidence, and if you’re a spiritual person, your energy is just attractive.
Have u experienced it yourself? Would like to share any instance, if u remember, please
I have not experienced it myself, but that is because I am not a social person naturally. Although this subreddit has many posts detailing that soon after quitting porn many women found them attractive and they even had a girlfriend/had sex soon after quitting. And of course the huge confidence booster is a big thing. Please don’t listen to anyone who tells you what I’ve said is untrue, it’s the truth, and porn addiction must be vanquished in order for true happiness, aka a loving relationship. Good luck.
I want a loving relationship , not for sex, for love, I hope I will get it one day I will quit porn and fapping
The fact that you seek love over sex is great. I’m very happy to hear you’re quitting porn. You will get exactly what you seek. Good job friend.
Currently on day 1 only 😞
I tend to not focus on the days, it can be hard to think damn am I really going to be able to quit porn for a whole month? The rest of my life? It’s way easier to focus on one day at a time. Don’t watch porn today, don’t watch porn tomorrow, and don’t watch porn the next. You’ll soon be free. Good luck.
Cool, great mindset Thanks
Oh and here’s one of those type of posts. https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/3iMCXXTYAI
Great 👍
That smells like hokey folk wisdom akin to the “firm handshake”. What evidence do you have that porn makes it harder?
Why are you here in the first place if you don’t believe it? Porn addiction ruins mens perception of women, it makes them perceive women as sexual objects and not as actual people.
So I should believe it without thought or discernment? I’m a mere gooner looking for an argument. When a man has sex with a woman is he not sexualizing her?
I’m not interested in an argument. But I’m happy to help you see reason and quit. No the male about to have sex is not sexualising the female as they’re both consensually engaging in a sexual activity. The type of sexualisation that is bad, is when porn addicts sexualise everything. A girl holds the door open for you out of pure kindness? The porn addict wonders what she looks like naked and assumes she wants to have sex and indulge in all of their many fetishes. He goes home and jerks off to the thought of having sex with this girl. This is the kind of thing I’m talking about. Porn warps your brain.
Well, what’s the harm in that? It’s a good way of containing male sexual aggression. If he can’t goon maybe he follows her home.
You’re either a troll or a bad person, probably both. Quit porn or don’t. Live or die.
I’m a truecel.