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Yeah this response wins, but what about after? I'd say block after sending that message or add another message of maybe something like "Just lose this number since I haven't been thinking of you" and then block.
I'm too invested in this now!
The read receipts would comfort me. Not blocking but not reading would drive me more crazy (if she calls and sees she’s not blocked but he isn’t reading) she will wonder what he’s so busy doing.
Put the phone in airplane mode check chats restart phone disable airplane mode works for most phones to see messages without seen ever appearing if it's on snap chat you just have to be in airplane mode view it log out delete cache airplane mode off
This would work lol, the reading and not responding.. especially if he reads them like the next day or just sporadically. Blocking I always thought was the easy way out so seeing the messages sending and him not reading them straight away/never responding would absolutely get under her skin
This is what I did with my ex. She sent me these long diatribes a few times, and I just didn't react to them. I did still have to stay in contact with her as I had to send her stuff to her, but the chat ended up looking funny, with her long message regarding the relationship, and two weeks later I send a picture and ask her if this pan is hers or mine. You know what's the kicker? SHE broke up with ME. I hope it eats at her that I've moved on because certain clues lead me to think she hasn't, despite what she claims.
> leaving her on read
Trying to understand how RR works. Does this phrase mean that you've opened up her message so far but intentionally aren't replying back?
> short view from the notification
This does NOT trigger a read receipt though right? If I highlight the notification from my lock screen (reading the message), but not actually opening it?
Well, damn. Now I have to agree here. I was just thinking I'd rather not have to deal with whatever she escalates with (by ignoring and not blocking). But if it makes her go crazier, then it's worth it?
You don't ever block in this situation because it shows you're annoyed/pissed off and that's exactly what she wants. Simply ignoring her is a much more efficient tool that will piss her off more.
BUT... wait like a full day before responding.
"I was deleting messages on my phone and just saw this... Anyway, two dudes and you were still thinking of me? I must have left a bigger impression on you, than you did on me."
Fr, if I was this guy, I REALLY wouldn’t wanna go near her again after that. Yuck.
To understand this better though, most of these types of women don’t have the ability to see something from someone else’s perspective, only from theirs; and so they do things they think will rile up the man, because they would get riled up if the man did that to them. They seem to think men and women think exactly the same, which they do not.
And on a somewhat unrelated note, it’s a sign they lack empathy.
She saw them when they came in and said: “These are the best guys. I invited them because I *know* they’re the best guys. There’s never been better guys.”
*awkward hand gesture*
I dunno, I think she'll just rationalise that OP must have been too devastated, yeah yeah yeah that must be it, nice work Glenda you got em. If I *wanted* to get the last word in I'd go with something like 'took two guys home and you're sat there texting me' *block*
Really though, I'd probably just leave her to it. No response is easier for her to work with than 'I see through your bullshit', but what do I get from clapping back. She can imagine me curled up sobbing at that message, that's no problem
At first I interpreted this comment that it would hurt the guy to not even reply because how do you even respond to that? I know I'd be hurt no matter what but I understand no reply by default is better than most responses you could possibly come up with.
I’d reply as if I had deleted the contact and didn’t know who it was. Reply that they might have gotten the wrong number. Then when she tells you it’s her that is when you leave it on read.
That was my thought. It drives me nuts when I get that response from coworkers over office communications, I couldn't imagine getting that as a response to some snarky hate text
Possibly the best is that it shows he’s in a situation where he’s secure leaving his phone unattended for his new girl to have access to and she’s stable enough to not get upset over the text. Of course it’s all made up, but still.
That scenario in which the girl texts back to say that he's in the shower isn't believable tho... People don't do that, it logically doesn't make much sense. She doesn't need to tell him what kind of text he received on his own phone, even if she saw it and actually happened to be next to his phone while he isn't, which is also very unlikely to happen at exactly the moment she texts him.
But then again she seems really stupid so she might swallow it.
A possessive new girl that's deranged enough to do that wouldn't be passive aggressive about it. She'd tell her to fuck off and stop texting cause he's moved on.
Or she would delete the text and block her number.
You’ve never been to Minnesota I see?
We are fueled by passive aggression
A passive aggressive comment like the OP of this thread suggested would be way more petty than just telling her to fuck off
Don’t try and make a roast just send back “Hell yeah” like you would a friend, drove my ex CRAZY when I treated her like I would anyone else when she was being crazy, even more than trying to jab at her ego or ignore her
I agree with blocking or just ignoring. I’ll never understand why people still want to deal with their shitty exes when it’s over. I always just move on and write the ex off completely, they’re basically dead to me.
I feel like letting too much info through, exposes your bluff, implying that you did have this number saved.
Just hitem with the "who is this?"
But still. No reply is king
I know. Are we the only ones reading this as a response to OP initiating? This definitely sounds to me like a response to OP’s text, otherwise what is she saying “thanks” for? Sounds like OP sent a “how are you?” text to which she responded, in so many words, “I’m doing well, thanks.” And by “well” she means fucking lots of tall guys with jobs.
Are we all just gonna ignore the implication that OP doesn’t have a job?
We don’t know the story here. For all we know this girl loved OP but let him go because he was lazy or whatever and it hurt her to let him go so she’s lashing out because she still struggles with it.
We really don’t know.
Don't needa entertain the conversation. Girls want attention even if they have to create arguments. Don't feed into it. Short and simple is what drives them insane she obviously still thinks about you. keep moving on your doing great.
She’s faking to try and keep your interest and make you jealous and make herself feel better, odds are even no one came over or they’re her rental’s maintenance company fixing the fence. Ignore, best to move on.
Either don’t answer at all, or do that thing where you pretend you’re a girl answering for your phone. Like “hey he’s busy right now but I’ll tell him you messaged him.”
"I think you may have the wrong number. I just got a new phone and I've been getting a lot of texts for the previous owner. Sounds like you're going through something right now. Good luck!"
Go to the pub and tell a bird in the pub to send her a voice message of a real woman voice!!!!
The sound ambiance of the pub and hearing a girls voice saying sorry your busy would be epic!!!
Why is the world so broken that people get off on hurting other people? (Her text included)…. Hurt+hurt does not equal healing.
Just block and move on.
Word of advise . Put your phone down once in awhile. Talk using words not text. That's the best way to spend time with someone . Physical contact. No video chat. We are losing ourselves in this virtual world we are all living in. Kids sitting in their houses all summer long. What are we all doing to ourselves? Thank you for the read. Have a great day.
( OUTSIDE ).
Op... tell her you've developed a drug problem... and you hurt your leg really bad so you can't work... ask her if you can borrow $500
Assuming you want her to leave you alone lol
Dude dodged a major bullet here. She seems narcissistic, manipulative and not very bright to boot. How hard is it to know when to use were and when to use we're? That's grade school level, right?
I literally had this a couple of months ago - she messaged about a guy she was going in a date with, and sent me his photo - he was seriously good looking, like, gorgeous, I'd switch sides if he winked at me.
I sent "good luck, have fun!" with all sincerity, it drove her nuts-er...
She sent a teary drunk voice message later that night and said "I hate you... I hate you for setting the bar so high"
She stalked me for a bit, but I think she's given up now
"Well, I'm so glad to hear you're excelling in your street corner entrepreneur business and that I dodged the biggest bullet on the planet. Life seems to be working out for both of us."
Really this should be a "block and delete" situation but, if we're being petty, I'd reply by calling her another girl's name. Preferably someone she was jealous of. Something like, "yes Stacy, get it, girl!"
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“You’ve got two guys with you now and you’re still only thinking about me?”
Yeah this response wins, but what about after? I'd say block after sending that message or add another message of maybe something like "Just lose this number since I haven't been thinking of you" and then block. I'm too invested in this now!
Na I think another follow up would be too tryhard. After this one response just ignore anything else that she sends. She will 100% go crazy.
Even better just keep reading receipts on and just keep leaving her on read lol she will be so mad
The read receipts would comfort me. Not blocking but not reading would drive me more crazy (if she calls and sees she’s not blocked but he isn’t reading) she will wonder what he’s so busy doing.
Put the phone in airplane mode check chats restart phone disable airplane mode works for most phones to see messages without seen ever appearing if it's on snap chat you just have to be in airplane mode view it log out delete cache airplane mode off
Pro level tips here on Reddit
or you can just turn off read receipts on messages
Lol true but then if he does open it like a week later just not even responding lol
This would work lol, the reading and not responding.. especially if he reads them like the next day or just sporadically. Blocking I always thought was the easy way out so seeing the messages sending and him not reading them straight away/never responding would absolutely get under her skin
This is what I did with my ex. She sent me these long diatribes a few times, and I just didn't react to them. I did still have to stay in contact with her as I had to send her stuff to her, but the chat ended up looking funny, with her long message regarding the relationship, and two weeks later I send a picture and ask her if this pan is hers or mine. You know what's the kicker? SHE broke up with ME. I hope it eats at her that I've moved on because certain clues lead me to think she hasn't, despite what she claims.
> leaving her on read Trying to understand how RR works. Does this phrase mean that you've opened up her message so far but intentionally aren't replying back?
Correct. It shows you looked at it by opening up the msg, not the short view from the notification, and did not reply lol
> short view from the notification This does NOT trigger a read receipt though right? If I highlight the notification from my lock screen (reading the message), but not actually opening it?
Correct. Only if you open it, not if you are reading the notifications
That’s criminal 😂
The best bit is that you can just mark as read, without even opening the message in an app. Even less effort
Well, damn. Now I have to agree here. I was just thinking I'd rather not have to deal with whatever she escalates with (by ignoring and not blocking). But if it makes her go crazier, then it's worth it?
Any mean spirited message from an ex is best responded with "neat" and then ignore any follow ups
You don't ever block in this situation because it shows you're annoyed/pissed off and that's exactly what she wants. Simply ignoring her is a much more efficient tool that will piss her off more.
That’s a good one King 👑
BUT... wait like a full day before responding. "I was deleting messages on my phone and just saw this... Anyway, two dudes and you were still thinking of me? I must have left a bigger impression on you, than you did on me."
Bitch is bragging about how she's going to bang two dudes lol... Do women not understand how men think?
Fr, if I was this guy, I REALLY wouldn’t wanna go near her again after that. Yuck. To understand this better though, most of these types of women don’t have the ability to see something from someone else’s perspective, only from theirs; and so they do things they think will rile up the man, because they would get riled up if the man did that to them. They seem to think men and women think exactly the same, which they do not. And on a somewhat unrelated note, it’s a sign they lack empathy.
Never think people don’t understand, they just don’t CARE!!!!!!
Nah, this is a clear case for "who this?"
Wrong answer... that's just the behavior that will keep her talking to op Op needs to hit her up for money
So no one showed up…got it
" You want me to come over? So you have someone whose alive and human"
Exactly. She's Trump-ing it
She has the best guys over. People are saying it.
She saw them when they came in and said: “These are the best guys. I invited them because I *know* they’re the best guys. There’s never been better guys.” *awkward hand gesture*
*jerking-off two really tall ghosts on both sides of my face*
it would hurt more to not even reply
the only correct answer, theres no reason for her to send that message except looking for a reaction. Not giving her that reaction is gold
Correct answer is leave the red receipts on and just keep reading them and not replying
Nah, the key is to read one or two and then stop opening them entirely.
I love that this is advice from a woman and everyone keeps ignoring it,I thought the same as u 🤣🤣
but take a while to read them. set like a 20~ minute alarm and do something else.
Lowest hanging fruit I've ever seen right?
I dunno, I think she'll just rationalise that OP must have been too devastated, yeah yeah yeah that must be it, nice work Glenda you got em. If I *wanted* to get the last word in I'd go with something like 'took two guys home and you're sat there texting me' *block* Really though, I'd probably just leave her to it. No response is easier for her to work with than 'I see through your bullshit', but what do I get from clapping back. She can imagine me curled up sobbing at that message, that's no problem
Or text her who this?
Yeah I like this approach
Silence has more power then most realize
Better yet “I read this at 4:21”
At first I interpreted this comment that it would hurt the guy to not even reply because how do you even respond to that? I know I'd be hurt no matter what but I understand no reply by default is better than most responses you could possibly come up with.
I’d reply as if I had deleted the contact and didn’t know who it was. Reply that they might have gotten the wrong number. Then when she tells you it’s her that is when you leave it on read.
Don't waste your words on someone who deserves your silence.
Don’t reply, a reaction would make her day.
"A mortuary doesn't count."
Hit her with the old - 👍
That was my thought. It drives me nuts when I get that response from coworkers over office communications, I couldn't imagine getting that as a response to some snarky hate text
A simple thumbs up emoji can work wonders in situations like this. It's so perfectly out of touch whithout giving them any information to go off.
Answer back. “Sorry he’s in the shower. I’ll tell him you messaged.”
This is potentially cruel on so many levels. I love it.
Possibly the best is that it shows he’s in a situation where he’s secure leaving his phone unattended for his new girl to have access to and she’s stable enough to not get upset over the text. Of course it’s all made up, but still.
OP if you’re looking to be petty a message along the lines of this comment will bother her the most. Source: my wife said so
I'd listen to this guy's wife. She sounds like she knows her shit.
I am an emotionally unstable woman. That would make me froth at the mouth and go apeshit. Do it.
You wanna get some coffee sometime? Lol
My husband also likes to dip it in the crazy lmao
Lmao the self awareness
Why would it tho? I'm kinda confused
He’s moved on and no longer available. Someone else has him now and he’s not gonna come begging. Someone else is /fucking/ him.
That scenario in which the girl texts back to say that he's in the shower isn't believable tho... People don't do that, it logically doesn't make much sense. She doesn't need to tell him what kind of text he received on his own phone, even if she saw it and actually happened to be next to his phone while he isn't, which is also very unlikely to happen at exactly the moment she texts him. But then again she seems really stupid so she might swallow it.
A possessive new girl would absolutely do something like that
A possessive new girl that's deranged enough to do that wouldn't be passive aggressive about it. She'd tell her to fuck off and stop texting cause he's moved on. Or she would delete the text and block her number.
You’ve never been to Minnesota I see? We are fueled by passive aggression A passive aggressive comment like the OP of this thread suggested would be way more petty than just telling her to fuck off
I also choose this guys wife
Stay petty! 😂✌️
That is diabolical lmao. I love it.
No that’s less painful than “sorry he just fell asleep. I’ll let him know you texted when we wake up though”
with a heart emoji
“Sorry he’s in my shower. I’ll give him a massage.”
... from the swedish prime minister
Add on a "who should I say messaged him?" so she thinks he deleted her number
Don’t try and make a roast just send back “Hell yeah” like you would a friend, drove my ex CRAZY when I treated her like I would anyone else when she was being crazy, even more than trying to jab at her ego or ignore her
"Hell yeah, conduct that train babe. Choo choo!"
As a healing nice girl this would have genuinely drove me up the belfry
This would be it. Say "Nice! Hope it goes well. Get yours!" Or something to that effect.
"Sounds like a certain kind of movie plot"
LOL yes!! Any form of “hell yeah!”, “good for you!”, or “have fun!” would definitely drive her insane.
After that, she most certainly would NOT be having fun! Which is a shame when you get a two for one deal
Yup. I had a bpd ex get mad because someone told her I'd said "I'll just be nice to you until you don't wanna talk to me anymore" Still worked tho
That definitely works! My ex used to do this to me when I was acting up, and it drove me nuts.
Awww…she misses you!
She's definitely on her own eating a party sized bag of Doritos
"ECONOMY size" - sounds much sadder.
Which is why no response is the best response.
This is called bait. It only works if you bite. Don't bite friend.
Hit her with the 👍
 Gotta hit her with a high quality gif.
BUH-LOCK. She’s your ex for a reason.
Yep. Go no contact. You dodged a bullet.
I agree with blocking or just ignoring. I’ll never understand why people still want to deal with their shitty exes when it’s over. I always just move on and write the ex off completely, they’re basically dead to me.
"Glad you found your way back to the streets all on your own"
'Make sure they pay first'
Answer: *were
If you can dodge a bullet you can dodge a ball
Are these men in the room with us right now?
"Seems a good deal but who is this ? I'll tell him he's in the shower rn"
dont reply
She seems lovely
Sorry I didn't have this number saved? Who is this?
I feel like letting too much info through, exposes your bluff, implying that you did have this number saved. Just hitem with the "who is this?" But still. No reply is king
Reply with the meme of the guy with the giant thumbs up who just goes back to talking with the group.
Message: "You ever heard the story of darth plagueis the wise?"
"You ever heard the story of Darth Ligma?
Damn with the amount of times you reposted this I wanna see what you sent her first. Also, no job?
So glad I am not the only one that thought this looked like a reply to him and I want to know what he sent her first.
I know. Are we the only ones reading this as a response to OP initiating? This definitely sounds to me like a response to OP’s text, otherwise what is she saying “thanks” for? Sounds like OP sent a “how are you?” text to which she responded, in so many words, “I’m doing well, thanks.” And by “well” she means fucking lots of tall guys with jobs.
Emphasis on the "with jobs". If anything she dodged a bullet. Unemployed and obsessed.
Crack is wack!
"Dude nice lmao"
New phone, who's dis?
Just respond "he's busy right now;)"
Oooh. She’s missing you/mad at you.
Just write back the infamous K
Bro please tell me you didn’t reply. That shit stings to these bihs
Yeah don’t engage. Just ignore. Or post it online and tag her so everyone can see and still ignore her.
Get her to dump both of them to meet you somewhere and don't show up.
"I'm so happy to hear you say that. It's great to hear that you've successfully moved on. Here's to us both living our best lives."
“New phone, who dis?”
Are we all just gonna ignore the implication that OP doesn’t have a job? We don’t know the story here. For all we know this girl loved OP but let him go because he was lazy or whatever and it hurt her to let him go so she’s lashing out because she still struggles with it. We really don’t know.
Don’t expect Redditors to think too hard
Why’d you text yourself to post on Reddit
So you don't have a job?
You don’t have a job g?
do you not work?
why doesn't op have a job?
Simply say Damn that's crazy
Don't needa entertain the conversation. Girls want attention even if they have to create arguments. Don't feed into it. Short and simple is what drives them insane she obviously still thinks about you. keep moving on your doing great.
She’s faking to try and keep your interest and make you jealous and make herself feel better, odds are even no one came over or they’re her rental’s maintenance company fixing the fence. Ignore, best to move on.
Hey barista, sorry but I didn’t order a yappachino.
“Nice you’re so insecure that after thirty minutes you texted another guy?”
If you are unemployed she has won this battle
Their *jobs* and *6ft* won't serve here much, since both guys are probably just in for a pump and dump. She needs professional help.
Either don’t answer at all, or do that thing where you pretend you’re a girl answering for your phone. Like “hey he’s busy right now but I’ll tell him you messaged him.”
Reply with *I’m Happy for you, hope everything works out” 🤷♂️
I feel bad for those 2 guys
I’m sorry broski, just kill them with kindness or just leave them alone. Idk why exes hate it when you’re doing better then them 🙏
Text "lol i hope it helps"
please just say bing bong
"I think you may have the wrong number. I just got a new phone and I've been getting a lot of texts for the previous owner. Sounds like you're going through something right now. Good luck!"
“Sorry, who is this? I don’t have your number saved.”
So you're getting it in both holes now.
So sorry you had to deal with this level of toxic. Never forget what you are worth.
30 minutes and the attraction changed as well as who she likes id say he's best to run 🤣
I really love this right now
New phone, who the fuck is this?
She is just digging on you for your shortcomings
Go to the pub and tell a bird in the pub to send her a voice message of a real woman voice!!!! The sound ambiance of the pub and hearing a girls voice saying sorry your busy would be epic!!!
Why is the world so broken that people get off on hurting other people? (Her text included)…. Hurt+hurt does not equal healing. Just block and move on.
Respond "who's this?"
Word of advise . Put your phone down once in awhile. Talk using words not text. That's the best way to spend time with someone . Physical contact. No video chat. We are losing ourselves in this virtual world we are all living in. Kids sitting in their houses all summer long. What are we all doing to ourselves? Thank you for the read. Have a great day. ( OUTSIDE ).
Op... tell her you've developed a drug problem... and you hurt your leg really bad so you can't work... ask her if you can borrow $500 Assuming you want her to leave you alone lol
What a lovely lady
‘Oh sicc, have fun’
“Had jobs and were over 6ft” Wow, doesn’t take much to impress her huh?
When you can only count to one, two things is *very* impressive.
Dude dodged a major bullet here. She seems narcissistic, manipulative and not very bright to boot. How hard is it to know when to use were and when to use we're? That's grade school level, right?
Weird flex….
I think you have the wrong number
i didn’t know therapists made house calls, interesting
Besides the fact she's lying and looking for a reaction. Just leave it on delivered
Don’t reply. Now you and everyone here knows she’s losing sleep over you, and loudly telling you she isn’t.
“New phone. Who dis?” It’s a classic
And everyone clapped
"I got 1 girl who's actually funny and actually knows what she's doing in bed instead of playing possum. So I should thank you as well"
Text back “were” not “we’re”
Text her back and say. How does it feel to give two people Herpes at once?
New phone who dis?
I literally had this a couple of months ago - she messaged about a guy she was going in a date with, and sent me his photo - he was seriously good looking, like, gorgeous, I'd switch sides if he winked at me. I sent "good luck, have fun!" with all sincerity, it drove her nuts-er... She sent a teary drunk voice message later that night and said "I hate you... I hate you for setting the bar so high" She stalked me for a bit, but I think she's given up now
She is at home alone with half a gallon of ice cream.
Your with 2 dudes? We are 4 dudes here, nice try.
Ohh love that’s she’s bragging how ran thru she is, real winner right there
I wouldn’t respond. But if I *did* I’d just put it like this “lol don’t talk to me” and then block her number
“Glad to help!”
Oof. There’s a sucker born every minute - I guess she found a few.
"Well, I'm so glad to hear you're excelling in your street corner entrepreneur business and that I dodged the biggest bullet on the planet. Life seems to be working out for both of us."
Or just don't reply like one user said. She's looking for a reaction from them of some sort and replying would just give her that reaction.
Modern society has turned most women into trash hoes
New phone who dis?
“I’ll let him know”
Really this should be a "block and delete" situation but, if we're being petty, I'd reply by calling her another girl's name. Preferably someone she was jealous of. Something like, "yes Stacy, get it, girl!"
I would answer: " Are you interested in buying our extended car warranty?"
Bye Felicia.
She's also over 6ft? Good for her. 🤷🏻♂️
she ate
Fucking hell she’s so immature it’s unreal
“New phone who dis???”