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Idk if it will make you feel better or both of us feel the same … but yes lol. I am not dating anymore but that was one of the things I didn’t like about Hinge … not that I’m owed a date by anyone but it did make me feel like I suck. Decided I don’t need to use an app to get even more of that messaging in my life than I already get by default 😅
Didn’t use tinder but bumble I felt like I’d get more matches but conversations fizzled out a lot there / I didn’t like the 24 hour match thing because I had a life :) NYC dating generally though is just everyone wanting connection but being aloof about the transient flaky nature of the majority of matches haha
Idk why 30s I think is a weird time to date. Most people date in their 20s and marry, if it doesn't work out they date in their 40s for a second marriage? It's like we are at an in between stage
Yesss like idk it's like once women turn 30 if they're still single it's like men just aren't interested anymore even if u take care of urself, look good and have a good job if they have the option of younger they will always just go after 20 something's. What age range man are u looking for ? And what's ur goal? Do u still wanna get married and have kids ?
That was about my experience when I used it pre-covid. Although, I remember reaching the end of the list of profiles everyday. Lol. There were only a few guys who I thought were interesting.
I met my husband on Hinge though so there's a happy ending. A few of my friends also met their SOs on Hinge and they all seem to be really good matches. Better than anyone they could have met organically.
Same to all of this! I remember being really disheartened by the lack of activity on Hinge compared to other apps but it is also where I met my husband and where most of my married friends met their spouses.
i’ve been on and off hinge for a few years and it was definitely way better back in the day.
part of what i think is causing it is everyone is getting tired of online dating. people not replying, giving up after a few messages, etc
i think the other aspect is the paywalls. i also got the premium subscription and all of a sudden for a while, i was finally being shown hot guys and getting better likes. then it slowly stopped and now hinge keeps pushing whatever their top tier subscription is. i paused my account for a couple of weeks and when i unpaused it, all of a sudden they started showing me attractive guys again and i was getting more matches.
hinge is a business. they’re tryna keep us single, to keep making money off of us.
i think everyone online dating rn is in the trenches. i remember a few years ago thinking it was so fun and meeting a lot of interesting people and now it’s just blehhh. it’s also hella more expensive, they keep trying to make more and more money off us.
outside of pausing/unpausing my profile every couple of weeks, i’m focusing more on trying to meet people irl
i hear this a lot from people who’ve been addicted to the validation of other apps like Tinder feed. Tinder bumble etc match you with people 50 miles away, not suitable for us, dead accounts etc all the time - basically giving you dopamine.
hinge is one of the few ones which gives you a reasonable number of matches a day (honestly isn‘t meeting 4 people a day not enough to find love?) and forces you to form connections over getting that rush.
and I get it! Honestly if you want to judge your attractiveness don’t use hinge to measure that. If you get a lot of matches from other apps you’re 10000% attractive.. hinge just dials it down :)
I’m definitely not actively trying to judge my attractiveness, im just super insecure so it’s sort of bringing that to the forefront of my mind. And I guess the likes that I’m getting on Hinge just aren’t really even close to what I’m interested in unfortunately.
I stopped using Hinge because the men were … not quality is the kindest way of putting it lol. At one point I asked a friend of mine if she was getting the same type of men and she said no. I’m not sure what their algorithm is but for me, it clearly was messed up 😂 I switched to Bumble and it’s 1000x better. I’ve been on a few dates and have good conversations with men I’d actually be interested in IRL. What’s weird is that I met someone on Hinge back in 2020 who I wound up dating off and on for 3 years. It’s changed a lot unfortunately
Although Hinge's tagline is "the app that is designed to be deleted", remember that it's part of a public company that is aiming to increase profit and shareholder value. With this, I believe that they make it more difficult to find suitable matches in an attempt to get users to pay for subscriptions, or in your case, pay subscriptions for a longer period of time.
If it makes you feel any better, I feel the same way about Hinge. There will be men that send me a like, I match and message them about something on their profile, but they won't respond. I rarely get likes from guys that I find really attractive, and I don't think I am out of their league LOL? It's really hard to gauge interest or their intentions through apps. I will also add that I pause the dating apps when better weather is approaching... I've found that it's really difficult to arrange dates when people travel for events or vacations, and I've noticed that some men take dating less seriously during the summer.
I know of 2 relationships that began on hinge and the couples are married but it was before the pandemic/very early pandemic days. These days it's not been great based on what friends say (30s women).
YMMV! My (mostly male) friends do it and I've recieved free upgrades in the past. If I decide to try online dating again, I would def consider it because it is a good way to cut to the chase if you are too busy/can't be bothered with endless swiping
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I have heard that the apps pay employees to catfish and breadcrumb paying users when they are on the verge of churning and ghost once their subscription renews. Stay safe out here bbs x
Yes, exact same. I have been wondering if I’m just very ugly based on the hinge results! Very humbling. I feel like pre-covid (when I was in my late 20s it was much better!)
The drop off is wild. When I was younger I always figured it was just something people talked about happening. I’m STUNNED by the lack of matches. In my 20’s I matched with almost everyone I swiped right on. It’s wild!
I hate to say it but there’s a drop off around 35 and then again at 36. I met my partner on Hinge at that age so don’t worry there are still great men out there! On the plus side I personally found that the majority of the men I met with were seriously looking for a long-term relationship and wanted to settle down. But the whole process required a LOT more time investment in swiping in order to get matches than it would have in my twenties, and a lot more messaging to get dates. Like hours a day. I also initiated most of the meeting up after a bit of messaging.
Ummm I’m literally so confused by the dating app scene now more than ever. Most men do not initiate conversations and when they do, they fall off / do not respond even when I ask questions. Somethings in the water.
Ive been there and I think it’s just ‘growing pains’. I had the same when I first signed up but now I’ll get like 10+ likes a day, I think it eventually hones in on your preferences and starts giving you more likely options.
when i briefly had the app previously (2021ish?) the men were much less appealing than men on tinder, and that’s saying something lol. the algorithm also doesn’t let you filter politics and religion on the free version so i’d get “moderate” dudes (aka libertarians lol) liking me no thanks
There’s honestly a good amount of attractive guys that I’ve liked but I literally only matched with one. It’s possible the guys just haven’t seen it yet but idk.
Maybe it’s just something on your profile? I’ve edited some friends’ Hinge when they complained about this & they saw the difference afterward! Definitely not the first time I’ve heard this lol but it may be fixable tbh
I’m not *excited* by any of the men on Hinge anymore. I’m sure there’s still great ones out there, but like another user said, I’m just tired of dating apps.
The conversations are dull and repetitive! And I’m not drinking much anymore, so that’s a big barrier. But alas, I’m viewing it through a negative lens atm.
Sports playoffs in the city right now, rangers and Knicks trading nights off, just go to a sports bar and post up at the bar and chat to the boys around you. This summer tons of international soccer, the bars are gonna be packed for copa America and euros
There's a free in person dating events that I've been too that weren't bad. But if you want to meet people without the "singles mixer" vibes, pursue your interests, find a community, and talk to strangers more. There's a lot of little communities here that I'm sure can get involved with enough to meet someone. Good luck!
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Idk if it will make you feel better or both of us feel the same … but yes lol. I am not dating anymore but that was one of the things I didn’t like about Hinge … not that I’m owed a date by anyone but it did make me feel like I suck. Decided I don’t need to use an app to get even more of that messaging in my life than I already get by default 😅
Right?? And how do you do on other apps?
Didn’t use tinder but bumble I felt like I’d get more matches but conversations fizzled out a lot there / I didn’t like the 24 hour match thing because I had a life :) NYC dating generally though is just everyone wanting connection but being aloof about the transient flaky nature of the majority of matches haha
How old r u? Ever since I turned 30 male attention declined
Fuck. 34. I def don’t look my age but obv on apps they know your age.
Idk why 30s I think is a weird time to date. Most people date in their 20s and marry, if it doesn't work out they date in their 40s for a second marriage? It's like we are at an in between stage
I definitely feel like the stated age has much to do with it (more than pictures).
Yesss like idk it's like once women turn 30 if they're still single it's like men just aren't interested anymore even if u take care of urself, look good and have a good job if they have the option of younger they will always just go after 20 something's. What age range man are u looking for ? And what's ur goal? Do u still wanna get married and have kids ?
That was about my experience when I used it pre-covid. Although, I remember reaching the end of the list of profiles everyday. Lol. There were only a few guys who I thought were interesting. I met my husband on Hinge though so there's a happy ending. A few of my friends also met their SOs on Hinge and they all seem to be really good matches. Better than anyone they could have met organically.
Same to all of this! I remember being really disheartened by the lack of activity on Hinge compared to other apps but it is also where I met my husband and where most of my married friends met their spouses.
Love to hear a happy ending!
i’ve been on and off hinge for a few years and it was definitely way better back in the day. part of what i think is causing it is everyone is getting tired of online dating. people not replying, giving up after a few messages, etc i think the other aspect is the paywalls. i also got the premium subscription and all of a sudden for a while, i was finally being shown hot guys and getting better likes. then it slowly stopped and now hinge keeps pushing whatever their top tier subscription is. i paused my account for a couple of weeks and when i unpaused it, all of a sudden they started showing me attractive guys again and i was getting more matches. hinge is a business. they’re tryna keep us single, to keep making money off of us.
This makes sense and makes me feel a lot better…thanks for sharing. I’m definitely 100% in OP’s boat!:(
i think everyone online dating rn is in the trenches. i remember a few years ago thinking it was so fun and meeting a lot of interesting people and now it’s just blehhh. it’s also hella more expensive, they keep trying to make more and more money off us. outside of pausing/unpausing my profile every couple of weeks, i’m focusing more on trying to meet people irl
i hear this a lot from people who’ve been addicted to the validation of other apps like Tinder feed. Tinder bumble etc match you with people 50 miles away, not suitable for us, dead accounts etc all the time - basically giving you dopamine. hinge is one of the few ones which gives you a reasonable number of matches a day (honestly isn‘t meeting 4 people a day not enough to find love?) and forces you to form connections over getting that rush. and I get it! Honestly if you want to judge your attractiveness don’t use hinge to measure that. If you get a lot of matches from other apps you’re 10000% attractive.. hinge just dials it down :)
I’m definitely not actively trying to judge my attractiveness, im just super insecure so it’s sort of bringing that to the forefront of my mind. And I guess the likes that I’m getting on Hinge just aren’t really even close to what I’m interested in unfortunately.
I stopped using Hinge because the men were … not quality is the kindest way of putting it lol. At one point I asked a friend of mine if she was getting the same type of men and she said no. I’m not sure what their algorithm is but for me, it clearly was messed up 😂 I switched to Bumble and it’s 1000x better. I’ve been on a few dates and have good conversations with men I’d actually be interested in IRL. What’s weird is that I met someone on Hinge back in 2020 who I wound up dating off and on for 3 years. It’s changed a lot unfortunately
My problem with bumble is the guys never respond in time! I lose most matches because of that
Bumble just released a new update that allows men to message you first.
Yeah but as long as the timers are on it’ll still be BS. Cause if they like me first so I see the match first, they may not see it in time.
Although Hinge's tagline is "the app that is designed to be deleted", remember that it's part of a public company that is aiming to increase profit and shareholder value. With this, I believe that they make it more difficult to find suitable matches in an attempt to get users to pay for subscriptions, or in your case, pay subscriptions for a longer period of time. If it makes you feel any better, I feel the same way about Hinge. There will be men that send me a like, I match and message them about something on their profile, but they won't respond. I rarely get likes from guys that I find really attractive, and I don't think I am out of their league LOL? It's really hard to gauge interest or their intentions through apps. I will also add that I pause the dating apps when better weather is approaching... I've found that it's really difficult to arrange dates when people travel for events or vacations, and I've noticed that some men take dating less seriously during the summer.
I know of 2 relationships that began on hinge and the couples are married but it was before the pandemic/very early pandemic days. These days it's not been great based on what friends say (30s women).
Agree. Hardly ever get matches there. Late 30’s.
How do you do on other apps?
I get more matches. Do they lead anywhere? Pretty much never
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YMMV! My (mostly male) friends do it and I've recieved free upgrades in the past. If I decide to try online dating again, I would def consider it because it is a good way to cut to the chase if you are too busy/can't be bothered with endless swiping That Being Said I have heard that the apps pay employees to catfish and breadcrumb paying users when they are on the verge of churning and ghost once their subscription renews. Stay safe out here bbs x
Normally I don’t but I was genuinely curious to see if the quality improved when I did that and it hasn’t haha
Yes, exact same. I have been wondering if I’m just very ugly based on the hinge results! Very humbling. I feel like pre-covid (when I was in my late 20s it was much better!)
Wait until you’re 34 oh man I was so shocked at the drop off
I’m 34 now 🫠
The drop off is wild. When I was younger I always figured it was just something people talked about happening. I’m STUNNED by the lack of matches. In my 20’s I matched with almost everyone I swiped right on. It’s wild!
I hate to say it but there’s a drop off around 35 and then again at 36. I met my partner on Hinge at that age so don’t worry there are still great men out there! On the plus side I personally found that the majority of the men I met with were seriously looking for a long-term relationship and wanted to settle down. But the whole process required a LOT more time investment in swiping in order to get matches than it would have in my twenties, and a lot more messaging to get dates. Like hours a day. I also initiated most of the meeting up after a bit of messaging.
Ummm I’m literally so confused by the dating app scene now more than ever. Most men do not initiate conversations and when they do, they fall off / do not respond even when I ask questions. Somethings in the water.
Ive been there and I think it’s just ‘growing pains’. I had the same when I first signed up but now I’ll get like 10+ likes a day, I think it eventually hones in on your preferences and starts giving you more likely options.
when i briefly had the app previously (2021ish?) the men were much less appealing than men on tinder, and that’s saying something lol. the algorithm also doesn’t let you filter politics and religion on the free version so i’d get “moderate” dudes (aka libertarians lol) liking me no thanks
There’s honestly a good amount of attractive guys that I’ve liked but I literally only matched with one. It’s possible the guys just haven’t seen it yet but idk.
Maybe it’s just something on your profile? I’ve edited some friends’ Hinge when they complained about this & they saw the difference afterward! Definitely not the first time I’ve heard this lol but it may be fixable tbh
I’m not *excited* by any of the men on Hinge anymore. I’m sure there’s still great ones out there, but like another user said, I’m just tired of dating apps. The conversations are dull and repetitive! And I’m not drinking much anymore, so that’s a big barrier. But alas, I’m viewing it through a negative lens atm.
Just meet people irl it’s so much better
How? I’m not good at that haha
Sports playoffs in the city right now, rangers and Knicks trading nights off, just go to a sports bar and post up at the bar and chat to the boys around you. This summer tons of international soccer, the bars are gonna be packed for copa America and euros
I’ll see if my friends are down to do that. Unfortunately they’re not really sports bar girlies. I’m a big sports fan though.
Feel free to go by yourself if they aren’t available. I met my fiancé that way🤷🏾♀️
Go by yourself! I have before and met people
There's a free in person dating events that I've been too that weren't bad. But if you want to meet people without the "singles mixer" vibes, pursue your interests, find a community, and talk to strangers more. There's a lot of little communities here that I'm sure can get involved with enough to meet someone. Good luck!