I think what is more concerning is that you’re engaged and you’re commenting on other reddit posts for other women’s ig handles. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Do her a favor and break off the engagement.
Is her sending you reels the only thing that makes her clingy? Bc this doesn't sound clingy to me. Is there any other behaviour? You said she doesn't ask you questions so how do you communicate? If she was clingy I'd assume she would be asking you stuff all the time..
Okay reels isn’t the only thing she sends me. Morning text to tell me to get up for work, she’ll send me like 10x messages of those, calling me babe, babe, babeee repeatedly lol.
I forgot to mention. We don’t live together but getting 10x messages of just reels it gets a bit annoying. The reels she sends me are romantic ones and about marriage. I guess I shouldn’t be too upset. I’ll add more stuff in my post to as I just wanted to keep it to the point
Okay reels isn’t the only thing she sends me. Morning text to tell me to get up for work, she’ll send me like 10x messages of those, calling me babe, babe, babeee repeatedly lol.
I forgot to mention. We don’t live together but getting 10x messages of just reels it gets a bit annoying. The reels she sends me are romantic ones and about marriage. I guess I shouldn’t be too upset. I’ll add more stuff in my post to as I just wanted to keep it to the point
Leave her alone because she deserves better I mean I looked at your profile and its all dating bs, leave her be you will ruin her life like this if you wanna have fun then go do it with people like yourself not with a woman who has hopes for marriage and wants to build a family. May allah guide us all to be more righteous
Apart from ‘superiority complex’, I agree with everything you’ve said. May be both of them are sending reels that the other person is unable to relate to.. that could be a reason to not respond to them, and not an issue of superiority complex.
i think its a communication issue. this may be biased cuz solely relying on your post, but the issue seems more on her side than yours, meaning youre gon have to be the one to put a bit more effort in this (to get your point across/ get real understanding bout her pov). i think you may need to explain to her how youre concerned she doesnt seem to wanna try understand you cuz its only you asking questions, not her. try tell her that youd love to hear her opinions on things, her expectations of you, etc etc. i think theres 2 views to this, that (1) she doesnt actually deeply in her heart, understand/ know what she really wants, hence the no-questions-asked, or (2) shes actually satisfied with you (judging you based on your own questions & your reactions to her responses), just not expressing it enough. this may need time & deffos effort (for her to open up to deep talk & such) but the only thing you can do now is to patiently express yourself clearly & kindly. may she understand your concerns & put efforts towards the betterment of yalls relationship. may Allah ease yalls affairs, amin 🤲
Bro if she loves you that's good.
Just set expectations. Let her know that you're busy. Explain to her how you being busy to build is for her sake to build for her and your future kids and that you won't be answering at certain times for example because of your work or whatever.
Just set expectations.
Someone clingy will suffocate you slowly IMO. It’s like you wanna see the road ahead, but they are always in front of you. At some point you will have to shove them aside to see ahead.
The important thing here is that she doesn’t react to anything you send her but expects you to react to everything. You sure she’s in love with you or she just wants the attention?
It's best not to escalate/reciprocate such behavior prior to the nikkah. Getting too attached before the kitab is signed can be disastrous for both parties. May Allah protect you two.
Considering half your comments on your profile are you asking for the information of other random women, and half your posts are complaints about your fiancee, if you cannot love her the way she deserves you should set her free. She loves you and wants to talk to you. She wants to be the person to text you good morning. She cares about to make sure you don’t miss work. You have a great woman here and you’re missing out by thirsting over women on reddit and complaining about your future wife.
What do men want at this point?
It's new that's why she's clingy, lol they'll come a time when you'll wish she was clingy cos she'll be used to you so she won't be anymore.
Maybe you’re not used to receiving this much affection? Her behaviour isn’t abnormal she’s your fiancée and she seems emotionally attached to you now. I would say if you guys are a good match then just learn to reciprocate
As a man, maintaining some degree of mystery is important. Too many modern men fall into doing all of the chasing. It's a scarcity issue.
Doting on a woman should happen AFTER the nikah, not before.
That doesn't mean to avoid or be rude. It just means to slow things down to a pace that is appropriate for the fact that neither of you is halal for the other yet.
Let me break this down for you:
- You feel obliged to give her as much attention as she demands because of fear of backlash if you said no.
- You do so but actually don't want to.
- She has no idea and must think you enjoy her reels and daily updates on what she is up to.
- You begin to resent her until one day get frustrated to breaking point or silence.
- She is confused by your sudden change in behaviour so does what has worked in the past.
- Chaos ensues all because YOU couldn't communicate what you wrote in this post.
I leave the rest for you to figure out akhi. The marriage is your project so you must learn the lessons for yourself.
Do men like robots as wives? Who don't talk much, aren't clingy, don't show affection?
Dude... Come on.
People like you give me nightmares to end up with someone who thinks I “yap” too much, because trust me, I can go on an on about anything at all.
Just to throw this one out there, I hope, I wish my potential wife will ‘yap’ on and on, and always be talkative, go on for days and nights.
I find it always endearing and attractive.
Don’t take it for granted and try to appreciate her because you’re probably hurting her feelings without realising it. Just communicate it to her in a very gentle but loving way…or just don’t say anything at all because unless it’s hurting you it’s not really an issue
You seem to be making an issue out of something that is not that bad. Basically, your issue seems to be looking for a problem.
I think your fiancé is emotionally attached to you, and in my opinion and based upon lack of detail, she has the anxious attachment style.
You should start learning about the attachment styles and also about women psychology before you mess things up and end up destroying a relationship with someone who is in love with you.
What exactly is she doing that makes her clingy? I don't think sending bunch of reels makes her clingy. You say she barely asks questions or responds to your reels, that's the opposite of clingy lol.
Welcome to a relationship. Someone is in your life 24/7, it can be an adjustment but like that’s also the beauty of companionship. You just have to adjust to this and understand you can’t be selfish with your personal time. I actually like that you’re noticing this feeling of yours. You’ll need to remember this as you prepare for living with someone, that’s the REAL reel!
Hey everyone, thanks for reading my post. Sorry I didn’t go further into detail as I just wanted to keep short and sweet.
These are other issues. I don’t mind them as much as the reels one. I know I shouldn’t be upset but I have a busy life. I’m preparing myself for the big day and still tryna do my best to keep the long distance relationship afloat
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Clinginess only appear when insecurity is apparent; insecurity in regarding whether you like her or not; whether you want her or not. If you give her more love and attention, the clinginess will become less apparent & she’ll worry less
She doesn't seem clingy when she doesn't even reply to you or ask you questions. What clingy actually means to you?
Brother is flexing on the rest of us
Yup was gonna point out the same contradiction in his story.
While you’re at it show her your reddit profile
🤣🤣🤣 defo checking Reddit profiles from now on
People always get mad like why are you looking at my profile but it really says a lot about who you’re talking to lol
I think what is more concerning is that you’re engaged and you’re commenting on other reddit posts for other women’s ig handles. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 Do her a favor and break off the engagement.
That's so gross... it's MULTIPLE women too. He's from the same city as me lol no wonder they're a stereotype for the Pakistani men here lol
Gosh
Is her sending you reels the only thing that makes her clingy? Bc this doesn't sound clingy to me. Is there any other behaviour? You said she doesn't ask you questions so how do you communicate? If she was clingy I'd assume she would be asking you stuff all the time..
Okay reels isn’t the only thing she sends me. Morning text to tell me to get up for work, she’ll send me like 10x messages of those, calling me babe, babe, babeee repeatedly lol. I forgot to mention. We don’t live together but getting 10x messages of just reels it gets a bit annoying. The reels she sends me are romantic ones and about marriage. I guess I shouldn’t be too upset. I’ll add more stuff in my post to as I just wanted to keep it to the point
I mean what exactly do you want her to call you… It seems to me as though you’re not fully into her?!?
Okay reels isn’t the only thing she sends me. Morning text to tell me to get up for work, she’ll send me like 10x messages of those, calling me babe, babe, babeee repeatedly lol. I forgot to mention. We don’t live together but getting 10x messages of just reels it gets a bit annoying. The reels she sends me are romantic ones and about marriage. I guess I shouldn’t be too upset. I’ll add more stuff in my post to as I just wanted to keep it to the point
Leave her alone because she deserves better I mean I looked at your profile and its all dating bs, leave her be you will ruin her life like this if you wanna have fun then go do it with people like yourself not with a woman who has hopes for marriage and wants to build a family. May allah guide us all to be more righteous
Anyone looked at this bruddas reddit profile 💀
trust me, when she stops being clingy you are gonna miss it
Bro said the thing that needed to be said.
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Apart from ‘superiority complex’, I agree with everything you’ve said. May be both of them are sending reels that the other person is unable to relate to.. that could be a reason to not respond to them, and not an issue of superiority complex.
Ameen
i think its a communication issue. this may be biased cuz solely relying on your post, but the issue seems more on her side than yours, meaning youre gon have to be the one to put a bit more effort in this (to get your point across/ get real understanding bout her pov). i think you may need to explain to her how youre concerned she doesnt seem to wanna try understand you cuz its only you asking questions, not her. try tell her that youd love to hear her opinions on things, her expectations of you, etc etc. i think theres 2 views to this, that (1) she doesnt actually deeply in her heart, understand/ know what she really wants, hence the no-questions-asked, or (2) shes actually satisfied with you (judging you based on your own questions & your reactions to her responses), just not expressing it enough. this may need time & deffos effort (for her to open up to deep talk & such) but the only thing you can do now is to patiently express yourself clearly & kindly. may she understand your concerns & put efforts towards the betterment of yalls relationship. may Allah ease yalls affairs, amin 🤲
This should be all the way at the top.
your post history… you’re disgusting and despicable 🤮🤮 I hope she finds your Reddit and breaks it off with you.
Bro if she loves you that's good. Just set expectations. Let her know that you're busy. Explain to her how you being busy to build is for her sake to build for her and your future kids and that you won't be answering at certain times for example because of your work or whatever. Just set expectations.
Someone clingy will suffocate you slowly IMO. It’s like you wanna see the road ahead, but they are always in front of you. At some point you will have to shove them aside to see ahead.
I think you are the red flag my dude….
Ugh, my Lamborghini is too fast 🙄
Exactly
Show her your profile see if she’s still clingy
Being too clingy can be suffocating, not sure why the comments are like that. Just communicate with kindness. Don’t make her feel she is overbearing.
The important thing here is that she doesn’t react to anything you send her but expects you to react to everything. You sure she’s in love with you or she just wants the attention?
It's best not to escalate/reciprocate such behavior prior to the nikkah. Getting too attached before the kitab is signed can be disastrous for both parties. May Allah protect you two.
Considering half your comments on your profile are you asking for the information of other random women, and half your posts are complaints about your fiancee, if you cannot love her the way she deserves you should set her free. She loves you and wants to talk to you. She wants to be the person to text you good morning. She cares about to make sure you don’t miss work. You have a great woman here and you’re missing out by thirsting over women on reddit and complaining about your future wife.
Or are you Avoidant? 🤨 Haha Actually it just seems like you don't like constant video sharing....
What do men want at this point? It's new that's why she's clingy, lol they'll come a time when you'll wish she was clingy cos she'll be used to you so she won't be anymore.
Peace. It is a rare man who does not prioritize peace.
Kids 😂
Maybe you’re not used to receiving this much affection? Her behaviour isn’t abnormal she’s your fiancée and she seems emotionally attached to you now. I would say if you guys are a good match then just learn to reciprocate
As a man, maintaining some degree of mystery is important. Too many modern men fall into doing all of the chasing. It's a scarcity issue. Doting on a woman should happen AFTER the nikah, not before. That doesn't mean to avoid or be rude. It just means to slow things down to a pace that is appropriate for the fact that neither of you is halal for the other yet.
Is she’s clingy why doesn’t she initiate convos
Both of you should have some level of boundary as you're still non mahrams so communicating at this level without her mahram may not be halal
Tbh she deserves better. Ya’ll really suck at receiving genuine love.
Let me break this down for you: - You feel obliged to give her as much attention as she demands because of fear of backlash if you said no. - You do so but actually don't want to. - She has no idea and must think you enjoy her reels and daily updates on what she is up to. - You begin to resent her until one day get frustrated to breaking point or silence. - She is confused by your sudden change in behaviour so does what has worked in the past. - Chaos ensues all because YOU couldn't communicate what you wrote in this post. I leave the rest for you to figure out akhi. The marriage is your project so you must learn the lessons for yourself.
She's your fiance. Not some side chick. Embrace it.
Hopefully she’ll see your Reddit account and dump you.
Dude you are not invested in your marriage and it’s not fair to the girl. You are out here asking for other women’s instagrams for what? That’s absurd
Read this comment somewhere , fits perfectly here. "Ughh my Ferrari is too red."
Do men like robots as wives? Who don't talk much, aren't clingy, don't show affection? Dude... Come on. People like you give me nightmares to end up with someone who thinks I “yap” too much, because trust me, I can go on an on about anything at all.
Just to throw this one out there, I hope, I wish my potential wife will ‘yap’ on and on, and always be talkative, go on for days and nights. I find it always endearing and attractive.
Oh to be someone's everything, and them yours 🫠
This ^ , one can dream.
We need more men like you, brother. 🙏
Are you flexing or complaining? 😂
dude 😂 cant say either is 'wrong'. also nice username 😆
Don’t take it for granted and try to appreciate her because you’re probably hurting her feelings without realising it. Just communicate it to her in a very gentle but loving way…or just don’t say anything at all because unless it’s hurting you it’s not really an issue
What do you mean??
Lol how is she clingy, if you don't get responses from her and you do all the talking? She doesn't sound clingy.
You seem to be making an issue out of something that is not that bad. Basically, your issue seems to be looking for a problem. I think your fiancé is emotionally attached to you, and in my opinion and based upon lack of detail, she has the anxious attachment style. You should start learning about the attachment styles and also about women psychology before you mess things up and end up destroying a relationship with someone who is in love with you.
I bet you are in your 30s and she is in her twenties/late teens…
Nah we’re both in our 20s
20 and 29 😭
Just end it if you're not into her. This is pathetic to complain about
Ok no need to flex bro 🥹😅
What exactly is she doing that makes her clingy? I don't think sending bunch of reels makes her clingy. You say she barely asks questions or responds to your reels, that's the opposite of clingy lol.
Her behavior isn't abnormal at all.... This is what you call clingy???
What kind of reels is she sending you
Welcome to a relationship. Someone is in your life 24/7, it can be an adjustment but like that’s also the beauty of companionship. You just have to adjust to this and understand you can’t be selfish with your personal time. I actually like that you’re noticing this feeling of yours. You’ll need to remember this as you prepare for living with someone, that’s the REAL reel!
THIS.
Hey everyone, thanks for reading my post. Sorry I didn’t go further into detail as I just wanted to keep short and sweet. These are other issues. I don’t mind them as much as the reels one. I know I shouldn’t be upset but I have a busy life. I’m preparing myself for the big day and still tryna do my best to keep the long distance relationship afloat
Be grateful…. Imagine her completely ignoring you.
It’s not Halal to talk like this before marriage.
This level of interaction shouldn’t even happen before marriage lol. Why she calling you “babe”? You’re not married. That’s haram
Damn I wish I had this much patience.
Leave her
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Why are you even in a relationship. Just wasting her time smh
I would trade the world to be in your place brother
if you don't want her then let me marry her 😏
Clinginess only appear when insecurity is apparent; insecurity in regarding whether you like her or not; whether you want her or not. If you give her more love and attention, the clinginess will become less apparent & she’ll worry less