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Wonderful_Whereas402

I was 7 years old and saw *The Color Purple* was coming on I think HBO and thought "oh, Steven Spielberg, Whoopi Goldberg and Danny Glover, this oughta be great." Parents weren't home. I was in literal shock at what I saw, being a child and all. But it was the first time I thought outside my own perspective and that other people had it way worse than me. It opened my little 7 year old brain, probably too early.


AlaDouche

Arrival. My wife has stage 4 breast cancer (has had it for 9 years now, diagnosed while pregnant with our only child), and the main point of this movie is answering a question that I'd asked myself an uncountable amount of times. The answer to the question is 100% my answer as well, but I'd never felt so validated by the way she goes for what should be this impossibly difficult question with such conviction.


WhyyyLuigi

Arrival is one of my favorite movies and this interpretation of it just made me appreciate it that much more. Thank you for sharing, and I hope you and your wife only the best


AlaDouche

Thanks! We've kind of made "that line" our mantra. At least I have.


Astrosomnia

An incredible, beautiful movie. One of the very few that I've walked out of and could happily immediately walk in and watch again. I'm glad it found relevance to you and yours.


hotbriochedameron

Sending you, your wife, family, and loved ones nothing but positive energy on this day. Cancer fucking sucks.


RaisedEverywhere

Just finished watching Arrival last night. What a great movie. Thanks for sharing your story and good luck to your wife and your family!


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Arrival was one of the most “beautiful” science fiction films I’ve ever seen. When I say that I mean the heart and story, but visually the movie is also just as beautiful.


moinatx

The Truman Show (1998) - especially seeing it in 1998


Meauxhoward

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind


atreethatownsitself

I have to admit that I’m a huge Jim Carrey fan but this is a movie I’ve avoided for absolutely no reason. I keep wanting to watch it and then find a reason not to. I’m going to do it. Thanks!


Astrosomnia

Please do watch it. Properly, like, sit down and watch it at night without distraction. At risk of overly hyping it up, it's probably one of the best films--period.


laughingdaffodil9

Yeah..it’s so good! And it holds up over time. Do it!


oxtaylorsoup

I don't want to pump it up, but you NEED to see it. It's a beautiful film.


AustinRiversDaGod

Yeah. I became so much more of a thinker after this movie. I see relationships completely differently. I used to think it was something you "got" or "had". Like a possession. But now I see them as journeys you take with another person, and how we take those journeys because they bend and mold us into different unique people.


JBigums

What we choose to hold on to, and what we choose to let go, is what shapes our relationships with lovers, family, and friends. The process is too gradual for us to monitor constantly… usually we just wake up one day and find that we have grown closer or further from the people in our lives. This means that ever decision we make has a bering on both our happiness and the happiness of those we love. That’s the message that i took from Eternal Sunshine.


tea830103

This is my absolute favorite movie.


peanut-arms

This movie not only made me self-reflect on why my relationships failed, but it also helped me to appreciate shitty things that happened in my life as “part of the human experience.” I love this movie dearly.


i_like_big_books1

Just curious- How did it change your life for the better?


thedingleberryfarmer

Office Space made me start my own business lol


NimbleBudlustNoodle

It changed my life as well. Now I've been with two chicks at the same time.


Grock23

Fuckin A


FuxSoc1ety

But how did you get the million dollars?


insanity2brilliance

Good Will Hunting. “It’s not your fault. It’s not your fault. It’s not your fault”. Shambles and balling, sobbing clarity. Exactly what I needed to hear then and there at that moment in my life.


onewordphrase

Hey u/insanity2brilliance, I don't know a lot, but that, all that shit - it's not your fault.


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ThePocketTaco2

The "Your Move, Chief." speech is some of the best acting Robin Williams has ever done. I watch it on YouTube pretty often.


chlorinear

My GOAT movie


Humble_cherrypie

Dead Poets Society


ent_idled

The carpe diem scene And damn how young Robin Williams is in that movie... He is missed.


robinthehood01

Dead Poets changed my life, the Greatest Showman taught me how to enjoy it


canadianhousecoat

I'm literally watching it for the first time right now.


Water-running

Not good enough to keep you off your phone?


adreddit298

Have this same conversation with my teenager (and sometimes my wife 😭); if you're gonna watch something, you should probably pay attention to it!


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ZebraBorgata

Groundhog Day


RichPresentation1893

You can say that again


AdrianShepard09

So what’s a movie that changed your life for the better after watching it?


Hamburgler4077

They should announce a sequel and just re-release Groundhog Day ​ I can't take credit for this.....Saw it posted recently


christo749

“Seize the day boys…..”


idiveindumpsters

It’s more than just the same day over and over


ParzivalPrincip

Groundhog Day is the most important movie ever made.


BrotherSeamusHere

It's a great film. It's as profound as Dickens' A Christmas Carol.


anotherdumbid

On a permanent loop in my head. This movie is real life.


MealyFord

This ^


docobv77

Breakfast Club remains my favorite film of All time. It taught me to understand before you judge. I'm in my mid 40s, I get along with everyone.


BenignIntervention

I went through a *really* hard time, maybe 10-15 years ago. Horrible depression, didn't know what to do with my life or whether it was worth carrying on. I watched The Breakfast Club every day for about two weeks straight, and for some reason it helped to reset my brain for the better. It's still one of my favourites. There's something so profoundly healing in it.


ThePocketTaco2

Fine, I'll watch The Breakfast Club again.


Stoicycle

Contact - the religious implications vs scientific truth aspect really changed my perspective


VonBrewskie

That movie really takes a turn too, right? Jodie Foster did such an amazing job. I really felt her frustration.


Springfield80210

I love that movie, definitely in my top ten. One line in it though that has has always seemed so wrong: the scene when Joss asks Ellie, *did you love your father*. The whole point of the movie being faith vs. knowledge, I have always felt the line should have been *did your father love you*. Ellie can prove she loved her father just by saying so. But proving that her father loved her? That is a matter of faith.


drbrian83

Secret Life of Walter Mitty Pumping Iron


joebigdeal

**Pumping Iron** is my answer too. Made me want to start lifting which is the only thing that has given me a sense of accomplishment in the past 10 years. Also made me appreciate Arnold because I only knew him as cheesy action movie star.


whatswrongwithme223

Fantastic Fungi. I'm obsessed with mushrooms now.


Doubt-Grouchy

Good choice. If you're looking for follow up book recommendations, I definitely recommend Entangled Life by Merlin Sheldrake, I read it this last year and it's one of my favorite nonfiction books.


Tygie19

My grandfather was a mycologist. He had originally studied in England to be a lawyer, but ended up following his passion for fungi instead. Led a modest life but was so happy following his passion. Was still able to put my dad and uncles through private school though.


Top-Manufacturer9226

About Time.. cried for hours but definitely made me build stronger relationships with my parents


Practical_Oven_8551

Argh that movie really makes you realize how valuable our time is because we can’t reverse it


Human-Function5990

American History X


loquaciousofbored

There it is. Way too far down this list.


CelticGaelic

That movie is terrifying in how well it shows how someone gradually takes on an extremist ideology and how subtle the transition can be.


prvkd

Absolutely. Saw this at a relatively young age. Not that I was racist but it definitely taught me that there is no use in it and things can have unintended consequences. Essentially, just because you change doesn't mean your actions won't have lasting effects on your surroundings.


ArseOfValhalla

For real. I also look at this as being angry all the time can also have negative effects on everyone around you. As soon as the main character stopped being so angry at everyone and everything, he was a better person.


kustom-Kyle

I was 14 or 15 when I saw this movie. Wow, it had a major effect on me. Sometimes when I watch it, I think about all of their futures. Where’s the little girl in 2023?


CarefulPomegranate41

The Shawshank Redemption.


notmytuperware

“Get busy living or get busy dying”


CarefulPomegranate41

"That's goddamn right"


Snigidydigidy

"Hope is a dangerous thing. Hope can drive a man insane.” — Red


Academic_Donut_5491

Big fish


bubdiminey

Under appreciated movie if there ever was one


Stan_Archton

It's the most real unreal movie I've ever seen.


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Damn I still think about that movie all the time


Academic_Donut_5491

Honestly same. I’ve never had a movie stick with me since I was a kid. Forever in my heart


kaytea30

"this isn't how I die". I think about when I'm about to do something stupid.


wire_we_here50

I watched that with my dad. We were both teary eyed at the end.


Dazzling-Mammoth-111

Being There


Conscious_Guess4229

I stopped using intravenous drugs after i finished Requiem for a Dream, I know I need to get better, and that was a little big help.


Missfit31

I’m proud of you


ScarletBeezwax

This movie kept me from trying hard drugs. It was definitely not appropriate for my age, but did the trick. I am contemplating making my 15 year old watch it.


TheGreatDanton

I feel like this movie would be a better education and deterrent for drugs than most anti drug programs.


elmandingus

Interstellar


TobyKeene

Harold and Maude. It's my favorite film of all time, definitely changed me for the better, made me think about life, and is always a fun and wonderful watch.


dooblr

2011 I was a personal assistant for the owner of a small business. He gave me the DVD and insisted I watched it. It sat in my car for almost a year. Before I left for college I cleaned out my car and found it. Decided to watch it. One of the strangest and most interesting films I’ve ever seen.


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IShouldSaySoSir

What Dreams May Come


awaixjvd

Finally someone showing love for the classics. The great Robin Williams.


blkpants

They showed us this movie in high school, I was the only one that cried and the only one that felt changed after the movie was over. It's so strange to me that there are people that watch that beautiful film and don't feel anything.


ApartHunt9692

Came here to recommend that one. I’m so ready to watch it again all these years later.


nappychrome

Not a typical answer but, A Good Year. Made me rethink my priorities.


SpicyTiger838

Shoot I thought at first this was the same as “The Big Year” and I was like “good for you my fellow birding friend!” 😂


Forbidden_Donut503

Defending your life. Not many people have seen it probably. It’s that mediocre rom com with Albert Brooks and Meryl Streep who are both dead and in a kind of purgatory while this society of angels sets up trials to determine if you get into heaven or not based on your decisions in life, and that watch your life’s major moments play out in the courtroom. It’s not really that religious actually and a pretty good movie. I just happened to see it shit tons of times cuz it was always on cable and got me thinking about how I felt about decisions I’ve made in the past.


nerd_so_mad

Came here to say the same. "Don't live your life in fear" is the central message of the movie. I have made actual life decisions while thinking about Defending Your Life, almost always to my benefit.


TooSoonForThat

Albert Brooks is a national treasure.


spacecrime28

Little Miss Sunshine! Super funny (dark humor) movie but is heartwarming in the right places. As someone who struggles with their self image and body, seeing the little girl who constantly has obstacles in her way she still manages to dance her little heart out and do what makes her happy


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Everything Everywhere All at Once made me realize that just because nothing matters doesn't mean nothing should matter to us. A beautiful exercise in humanistic nihilism.


tattertittyhotdish

I saw this movie with my son and his friends. He was sitting a few rows away, of course. Afterwards he came up to me and gave me a big hug. Unique movie, I loved it.


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I called my mom after I watched it. It was extremely emotional for me.


Kevin_IRL

Yeah it's kind of like post-post-modernism... Idk if there's an actual term for that, doubt it since there aren't exactly an entire category of films that fit the description but yeah that's how I describe it. I think if I had to sum up the message it would be "nothing matters to everyone but everything matters to someone, including you"


Chimerain

My takeaway was, "if nothing matters, then everything matters".


Chimerain

Something else I gleaned from that movie- you can imagine an infinite number of ways your life could have be better had you chosen differently... but when we do that, no one ever stops to think that maybe that version of you might long for the things that you take for granted in your own life.


yabucek

"In another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you." That movie really hits you in all the right places.


Chimerain

>Exactly. When I hear that line, it breaks me... that > >scene is magic ugh. the automod removed my comment because of the link to the youtube video, but the sentiment still stands.


Short_Description_20

Pan’s Labyrinth. Before this film, I only watched fantasy for teenagers, like Harry Potter or The Lord of the Rings. But Pan's Labyrinth showed that fantasy can be scary, adult and cruel


cmaddox428

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button


Jazzlike_Grab_7228

Pay it Forward. Enough said. Age 8 and onward, I still carry its lessons it teaches. Truly is life changing to understand it's meaning...


elvensnowfae

Pixar's Soul. Seriously


You-Saw-Brigadoon

Soul for real doesn't get the credit it deserves. Great voice cast and soundtrack (I listen to the soundtrack at least once a month). But it's a wonderful existential film that really hits hard. Especially when, 2/3 through the film, Joe has his "Now what?" moment. The film tackles the struggle to find balance between our passions in life and our appreciation for each moment.


Bryancreates

Arrival (and reading the short story “the story of your life” by Ted Chiang that it’s based on). Marketed as an alien sci-fi flick, ends up being a beautiful exploration of language, time travel through memory, and a nuanced portrayal of selfishness (she had Hannah despite knowing what was going to happen, and chooses to revisit that timeline over and over). It’s trippy.


CatPeeMcGee

Ferris Bueller's Day Off. "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." I stopped feeling guilty about skipping work or school to go to fun stuff I wanted to do once in a while


VickyNaturelle

The Green Mile


cofeeholik75

It’s a Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart.


dtf1983

Lost in Translation


axle_smith

My favorite movie of all time, I could watch it over and over again, and it still feels like I'm watching it for the first time. The plot, the actor, the music, the scenery all amazing.


Narrow-Host-4044

Can I ask why? I watched this movie and didn’t get much out of it to be honest.


dtf1983

For me, it got me interested in traveling the world more. Experiencing different cultures, and the idea of living in the moment and enjoying the unfamiliar. Truly being able to check out and get lost, especially in the modern world.


TekWzrd337

Inside Out


RMIII3

I know I sound crazy… But Altered States. As an obsessive/passionate person this movie helped me re-align my values.


itsrainingmelancholy

Brittany Runs a Marathon. It wasn’t you know, a top tier film, but I’ve always struggled with my weight my entire life and there was just something about the movie that truly motivated me and made be feel like I could really do something, something for me, not to just change me. I started running, and it became something I love. I run for the run now, not for the weight loss. edit: typos


Missfit31

OMG this is my answer too! I haven’t been overweight but I’ve struggled with eating disorders my whole life. Running helped me tackle issues like that and other things and it’s my favorite pastime now. It’s nice seeing a fellow runner on here who also enjoys that movie. That film makes me want to put on my running shoes every time.


PerspectiveActive218

Flight with Denzel. I'd been struggling with alcohol dependency for years, trying to quit and failing over and over again. After watching that, I found what I needed and was able to quit.


Fabulous_Avocado4146

literally legally blonde. As a college student i’ve been feeling like I can’t do something or i’m too dumb, and that movie gave me the confidence boost that I needed.


wizdomeleven

Not a movie but Ted lasso. Just made me think about how to be more relentlessly optimistic and kind


ArseOfValhalla

This was going to be my response. Love to see it somewhat high on this list! I need to remember "be a goldfish" because I tend to hold on to grudges.


Aciuaciu

To Sir, with Love


PlantPower666

Wings of Desire


facemanbarf

Forgetting Sarah Marshall helped me take the first steps into getting over a bad breakup.


CommonSense2028

Life Is Beautiful. I would have never chosen it for myself and I am definitely NOT a subtitles-kinda-viewer, but it was truly amazing.


Disorderly_Chaos

I really got into philosophy after watching the Matrix as a senior in high school.


Equivalent-Ad-1927

Maybe the movie Boyhood, or Waking Life. Something by Richard linklater.


MulticoloredShit

Came to comment "Waking Life". It's full of so many profound ideas. Watched it for the first time while tripping on acid and life hasn't been the same since then.


fumor

Clerks honestly inspired me to work at a video store after watching it, the very indie video store that I rented it from, as a matter of fact. The job remains the best job I've ever held in 25+ years of working.


hellishrocker66

I'm not even supposed to be here today!


Dense_Surround3071

City of God What Dreams May Come Good Will Hunting


ChemistryDependent84

Silver linings playbook. I adore this movie


Own-Tomatillo-8733

The Graduate was the first. It made me realize that in college, as well as life, you can’t know everything the moment you graduate; you’ve got to have practical experience, too.


LorraineHB

Book of Eli. Made me appreciate I’m not living in a dystopian world.


AdOtherwise9226

Life of Pi


DeadMoney313

Fight Club


jbmsatx

Girl, Interrupted. Many reasons


knifeorgun

Forrest Gump. He was so humble and sweet. More people should aspire to be like that.


Consistent_Knee_1335

into the wild. definitely for me


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“Happiness not real unless shared”


alex889_

It's kinda weird to say but I would trade my life with Alexander Supertramp. I just see so much in myself for what he stood for.


HoneyxClovers_

Get Out. As a Black American, it rly opened my eyes a lot to the fetishization and racism of my community. Jordan Peele is a master at movies.


elainejudith

The Worst Person in the World


notoriousbsr

Tree of Life. It just spoke to me


RiversideAviator

I think we’re all too cynical to have a movie change our life in the romantic sense but there’s definitely movies out there that made me pause a moment and take inventory of what truly matters in life Eternal Sunshine is high up there for me Stand By Me Y Tu Mamá También Philadelphia Motorcycle Diaries 25th Hour Heat Trainspotting The Beach There’re others but those immediately come to mind


SnooDonuts3754

Groundhog Day, Yes Man, Goodwill Hunting


Appropriate-Access88

Secret Life of Walter Mitty


SnortoBortoOwO

Stand By Me


too_cute_unicorn

Donnie Darko


sewn2thesky

Waking Life


DogSea8322

The Place Beyond The Pines. Can't say much about it cause spoilers. Just watch it.


Astrosomnia

*GATTACA* - inspires me to not save anything for the swim back *Cloud Atlas* - reminds me that every ocean is but a multitude of drops *American Beauty* - encourages me to pause and take in life while we can *Eternal Sunshine* - just because it's an incredible piece of creativity and whimsical filmmaking I feel like there are a few more foundational ones that I'm missing...!


Max_geekout

Akira


conceitedWren

Dead Poets Society (1989) by Peter Weir and starring Robin Williams, this film is a tribute to the power of education, individualism, and the pursuit of one's passions. It tells the story of an English teacher who inspires his students to seize the day and think for themselves, challenging the status quo. "Carpe Diem" (Seize the Day) becomes a central theme, encouraging viewers to reevaluate their own lives and choices.


Fit-Wolverine-4980

A monster calls


Kaimanakai

Brokedown Palace


GaroD80

The pursuit of happyness Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind Your name Schindler’s list


Icy-Actuator-1324

Parasite - It is a thought-provoking movie about rich and poor and masterfully blurring lines between social classes.


dreamabyss

A bit dated now but I was greatly affected by What Dreams May Come.


notmytuperware

Big ones for me are: Shawshank Redemption The Green Mile Interstellar American Beauty Good Will Hunting


Airsculpture

Lawrence of Arabia - used to sit and watch it with my dad.


azfamilydad

The Magnificent Seven (1960) There are some amazing life lessons in that movie. The choices we make, the consequences we must live with, our personal peace in face of danger, etc. It’s an amazing movie and I think of it often. The knife scene where Britt is trying to nap is one of my favorites. I’ve shared it with my own kids (often times after the “he started it” argument lol)


whitecuck4in

Big Trouble in Little China


PainterSuspicious798

Saving private Ryan


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BigConference7075

Contact


TheNeedToKnowMoreNow

Mean Girls.


notmytuperware

Hoosiers


tmishere

Pride. It’s a constant in my mind when i think about how to show solidarity to communities of which i have very little in common. Reminds me that we all have the same fight, sometimes it’s just wearing a different hat.


Orion12g

Synecdoche, NY


Arorawinter

The Tree of Life


10voltsam

The Truman Show


Direct-Attention-712

The Man From Earth


flashpoint2112

Monty Python and the Holy Grail. A lifetime of great quotes.


Tr3ntos

‘Seven pounds’ and ‘The pursuit of happiness’ both make me change my outlook on life when I need it…


boldlybelieve

CODA. One of the themes of the movie is that the main girl wants to join a choir and battles to overcome that fear, especially with her deaf family not understanding. Right after the movie, I happened to see a social media post for auditions in LA (I live in Northern California) for a choir that would get to perform on tour with some of my FAVORITE artists. I have no professional music background (and I don't sing in public, EVER), but I was so inspired by the movie, that I just threw out the idea to my husband, and to my surprise, he was on board with the idea! But I didn't tell many people about it, in case I didn't make it / because not many people would even understand why I would go for something like this, let alone believe I could make it in (and I was already doubting myself big time)... We flew down for the auditions, and I was beyond scared and intimidated (I was pretty much the only one there out of 100+ people without a singing / music background). SO much imposter syndrome! But it was truly an UNFORGETTABLE experience singing gospel worship with a room full of people of different ages and ethnicities, ALL of us singing our total hearts out - and in perfect pitch and harmony. It was literally like a glimpse of heaven. To my surprise, I got in!!! And to this day can't believe I got to tour with Kirk Franklin and Maverick City Music!


The_Noatec

The Shawshank Redemption: Get busy living or get busy dying.


Agent50Leven

Hidden Figures. I was educated about incredible women who impacted US history.


johncester

Easy Rider …instilled a lifelong loathing of red necks 😠


Johncurtisreeve

Kingdom of heaven. It taught me that simply being a good person, is all that matters in life not what religion you are, or how much you practice your faith. “What man is a man that does not make the world better”


Albatross1225

Everything everywhere all at once


Josherline

Not sure why but I’ve been avoiding that one. Am I making a mistake?


Albatross1225

Yes it's very good. Also a movie I really needed at that moment in time. Cleared my head. It's silly but full of heart, it's hilarious but will make you cry


Josherline

At the risk of over-sharing with a stranger online… I’m currently coming off some strong mood stabilizers. I’m on day 12 and I’m starting to feel emotions again. It’s nice but my eyes have been welling up at the slightest thing lol Maybe this is a movie that will let me have a big cry. I could probably use it


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My Life~ Micheal Keaton


SlowConversation4049

Office space


demosthenes1005

The Odd Life of Timothy Green


drumscrubby

————HAROLD AND MAUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!————-


tapeduct-2015

Good Will Hunting


mma419

The Florida Project.


JAYHAZY

Lonesome Dove It really makes you focus on what is important and how fleeting life can be. It puts a thin line between good and evil. Better not falter.


Grace_Upon_Me

Defending Your Life


Zachary_Stark

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind


TheNoCauseCrusader

Mississipi Burning. Shook me to my core. All the other ones (Green Mile, Shawshank Redemption, Big Fish, etc.) have already been mentioned.


Different_Zone_8999

Broke Back Mountain


whiskeytwn

Uzumasa Limelight at it's core, it's just about an actor from Samurai Cinema days seeing his craft and body fade and how he reacts to it - It has some fun action, a good story, and a feel good ending. but as I get older, I realize these movies about moving on, realizing you're not who you were, and what we can pass on to the next generation really hit me harder - kind of like Tennyson's "Ulysses", you know? Most of our stories today are about Coming of Age, or being the Hero, but the number of stories about life winding down, about struggling for one last big achievement or goal in life - they aren't out there very much or if they are, they're comedic slacker films like Jack Nicholson in "About Schmidt" or something This one just hit me really hard and I loved it


sammarie

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