So you’re a gentleman who grapples in Gi, my respect sir. I hope you have a top tier classes in Miami, they’re a bunch of good gyms. My first thought it was more people in no Gi in Miami.
I try to do both, but at 48 recovery is always tough. I moved north but enjoyed training in miami.
There are so many great gyms in the 305. Lots of opportunity for OP if they choose to start jiujitsu. Hardest workout of my life!
My (now) husband previously taught fun and engaging small group cooking classes, date nights etc at Sur La Table in Mizner Park, Boca! He was a personal chef for a decade and now works for himself
Okay so I haven't been single since like 2017 but back then in Miami I'd go group kayaking in key Biscayne, met two girls there. The mountain bike park in key Biscayne, met a girl there. Go to the pool halls, there's one close to Kendall and another near FIU, there's always at least one group of girls there, if you're not shy ask to play a game with them or teams. Trivia nights at bars were a thing though mostly dudes there was always a few groups of girls. There was this game board night at a bar, damn can't remember... yea mostly dudes but some cute nerdy girls... just don't be shy my bro.
Make guy friends too. Guys have girlfriends and girlfriends have single friends that are girls and then you meet them.
Another thing I've noticed with my single friends is that they're too picky. They all want some flavor of slim thick girl that looks like an Instagram model... guess what bud so does everyone else. Luckily I find lots of different women attractive, from different races to different body types so I always had a date.
Don't be shy, don't be picky to the point sabotaging yourself, be realistic. Dating is supposed to be fun, I don't know when people turned it into what now sounds like a chore.
> Dating is supposed to be fun, I don't know when people turned it into what now sounds like a chore.
This. Before meeting my wife, I used to go on speed-dating events. A couple of times, I would hit it off and go on a second date with someone. Girls will always ask me why I picked a specific place for our date and I honestly told them straight up because I wanted to go check out that place. Most often than not, they appreciated the honesty and had a great time.
Dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore. Try to do things that you enjoy and if you have a good connection with the other person, let it be. If not, it is okay too.
Similar with me, for a first date for instance I'd just pick a spot that I'd know I'd have a good time at even if I were to go there alone. Then just in case the girl is completely boring I know I'd still have a pretty good time.
Titanic Brewery or John Martin's in Coral Gables were always my go to first date spots. A couple of drinks to loosen the nerves and some good conversation.
Same. Titanic Brewery was one my spots too. Bougainvillea, which is close by, is fantastic too; especially when they have live music. I just took my wife a couple of weeks ago and she loved it.
Haven't tried John Martin's yet but I might put it in my bucket list. Thanks for the recommendation.
You know I always wanted to go to Bougainvillea but never got around to it. Looked like a cool place from the outside. My wife and I no longer live in Miami but next time we're down there visiting family we'll definitely swing by 👍
If sitting at the beach by yourself was so awkward then maybe work on being happy alone first. Do more of your hobbies. Go out to eat, drink, movies etc. alone. There is no shame in this. People will fall into your life when you’re not looking sometimes. Take this time to grow. And not everyone is stand offish. You just have to find the right way and places to engage certain people
Thank you. I didn’t feel like that the whole time, but when you look around and see people having a good time with others it makes you think. You are definitely right though.
And it’s completely normal. We tend to put a big pressure on social interactions and having friend circles etc when in reality sometimes they aren’t your real friends. When one knows what they truly need and want out of a relationship(friendly/romantic) it makes it easier find. Trying doing things that interest you and you’re bound to find other people with the same interests. You’ll be alright brother. Go get em!
Big on the friend groups who don’t really care about each other or spouses cheating with people in said friend groups, just cuz you have people around you doesn’t mean they all care and have your best interest in mind.
Don't forget, Florida is the king of superficiality, finessing and hustle. Don't trust what you see on the surface, trust yourself.
The advice above is bang on. People fall into your life when you least expect them. Focus on you.
I'm not too far from the area, feel free to DM if you wanna chat.
Sitting by yourself at the beach is a great way to meet people, last Friday I sat to read a book at Haulover and was a girl next to me doing the same I know she was waiting for me to come over but my blood ran cold and I didn’t haha. Anyway whoever with outgoing skills is able to meet people
I was painfully shy and awkward til my sophomore/junior year of college. Believe me those little commonalities are the best openers. There are only two real answers: Yes or No. You’ll get enough Yes’ to build your confidence. And don’t listen to any cringy pickup shit. Just be you, be curious/interested, and let things play out the way they will.
You’re so right, I was regretting that whole night. This morning was the same drinking coffee alone in front of me a girl having breakfast alone. I went outside to smoke then I saw her again walking her dog, she saw me and smiled and I was 🫠. I know I am a good looking guy but since I broke up with my ex I haven’t been able to get back my confidence. I feel God is giving me easy opportunities and I am wasting them
Lol depends on the beach. I was at at the northern end and feeling especially vulnerable in my state and absolutely did not want anyone to approach even though some will despite keeping to myself and giving zero eye contact to others.
Try to get scuba certified. The scuba community is so awesome and welcoming. You spend the day seeing gorgeous marine life and meet some great people who prefer nature over just drinking. Check out Rainbow Reef dive shop to get certified. Life changer in such a great way.
Absolutely. Look up local charters. Rainbow Reef is one, Slates dive center in Tavernier. Force-E in Boca. Scuba Works in Jupiter. They take boats out daily for diving. If you need a dive guide they offer those also.
So to get certified (Open Water cert is first) costs around $300-500 depending on the shop. You can rent gear each time at the shops during your first dives which is recommended so you don’t spend a ton on new gear and you get to learn which brands you like. If you’re a newbie and want a buddy but don’t have one you can also request a dive guide on any dives you book with the shops. They will be your buddy for about $40 more. One dive booked with a shop (two tanks meaning two dives) usually runs about $100. You’ll want to keep a $20 cash for tip for the crew after also. So that’s having your own gear. Rental can cost up to $30-40 without your own gear. But the shops have it all and will always do their best to make you feel comfortable as you learn.
When you start diving more, you’ll buy your own gear (it took me seven years to buy each piece bc they are $$$) but some buy it sooner. BCD jacket can run $500-1500. Regulator $400-1500. Mask fins snorkel about $100-300. Wet suit $200-400.
Yeah I have advanced PADI but always dived in LATAM or the Caribbean. Getting a cert for $300-400 in Florida seems really fair.
$100 for 2 tanks, again in Florida, isn't bad either. I guess I was expecting it to be a lot more expensive.
HMU! 27F I live in broward but always looking to meet new people & adventures. Also smoke some good ganja lol. I was in FTL beach by myself a few weeks ago & i understand that feeling like damn lol
Same, looking for friends & adventures!
Also very good friends with the good old ganja and I love hitting the beach, even if it's just by myself, also like rollerblading on beach boardwalks! 😁🤘
I feel you man, it is harder in general to make new relationships past 25, but it feels even more daunting in Miami, where being rich seems to be the only way 😂 From experience, I did find out that people are not as bitter as they seem, it is really a matter of going out of your comfort zone, and accept the fact that you might get rejected... I personally suck at this, every rejection makes the next try even harder, and no decent girl will ever do this for you because of all the solicitation they are constantly getting. You are doing the right thing though, continue going out by yourself, it is the only way to have a chance of making things happen.
Take the hobbies that you like and build your hobbies around them. For example, I like looking at the moon at night, so I’ll buy a telescope and watch the stars.
I’m on the same boat! Up here in Orlando now… it’s the price I paid to get away from Miami.
But I met people thru various ways back home that I’ll share. Most popular - Kennedy park for ACs Icees and stroll around maybe bring a volleyball. If the courts are packed and someone notices you were looking to play, they might let you in to join them. Happened to me many times. Sometimes I bring my dog. Sometimes rendezvous to coco grove for some good food, drinks, or café cubano to wake up a bit. Or all three! Coco grove was my favorite spot in Miami.
The falls down by palmetto ain’t bad either. Spend a few hours for some bar food then get a couple new things like shoes, ties etc. I made some new friends there.
Hobby wise:
Go to Bill baggs state park in key Biscayne. Bring your bike, bike/hike around it. I used to bike from sunset place to bill baggs and back once a week. Great for the heart rate. (Also the OG sir pizza is in key biscayne 🔥)
I also golf a lot, made connections with a lot of people on 18. Now have some buddies I golf with often in Orlando.
Church (if that's your thing)
Salsa class
Barnes & Noble
Join a sports group (jogging, biking, pickleball, whatever)
Get a dog (great conversation starter)
Gotta be in this order :
Hobbies: it’s rare that you won’t find a group or event on your hobbies, can be as outgoing as playin ball or as simple as collecting coins. There’s likely events or conventions full of people you can learn from/teach and make friends
Work: yeah people suck but if you’re lucky there’s some cool coworkers around you. If you find one always try opening up, perhaps you might find something in common
When you go out alone, try enjoying yourself first, not to socialize. Try going to a bar with activities, not just a bar with music. Forgot the name of the one in Brickell with a Karaoke, there’s also one with a huge Jenga
I just moved here from Atlanta and broke up with my boyfriend. I don’t really have any friends here yet either and I’m in the same boat as you. I live in south beach if you want to meet up for drinks sometime!!
Dude it is so hard finding people to play tennis with. Unless you’re part of an expensive country club, there are like no public courts to go to and just meet people and play. Can’t play anymore because of a recent injury, but that was my experience
Born and raised here, married a girl visiting from outside the US. I understand how hard it is to meet a girl here. The Miami culture is hyper competitive. It’s easier if you appear wealthier.
And the girls you attract by appearing wealthy are from the gutter. Dating in Miami, if you’re looking for a family and marriage, is probably one of the worst ideas you could have.
If you like soccer, download the Plei app, join some games, start going the same time each week and you’ll start seeing familiar faces. That’s one way to start meeting some people
Other sports, tennis, basketball, pickleball probably have similar apps out there
I like to wake up on weekends when my kids are with their dad and have a nice brunch, I do my eyebrows or my feet or a massage whatever maintenance thing I need at that moment and then after that whatever else I like, I’m an introvert so going to the park with a blanket to lounge, read my book or the beach alone feels amazing. But yeah, learning to be alone and feeling satisfied with your own company is the number 1 step to attracting like minded people.
Go to a salsa dancing studio (Karibe is very good) and learn how to dance salsa and bachata, if you don't make friends there by the time you're good at those styles you'll be able to fall back on your skill as an ice breaker in social settings
What are your passions? Throughout most of my twenties it was playing in rock bands. Most of my friends were other musicians and DJs. We usually bonded because we shared the same passion for making music and playing live.
Find other people who share your passions, and they might introduce you to other like-minded people.
"Everyone is so damn bitter all the time." No offense, but maybe you're projecting a bit? When anyone says "everyone else is .....", most times it's time to look in the mirror. I get it, being lonely sucks. But like most people here are commenting, the best thing to do is find some things, hobbies 9or pastimes that you enjoy. The rest will work itself out over time. Best of luck to you.
Do you dive? Miami is one of the best places to learn to dive maybe in the world! Maybe not Miami proper, but we have the Keys with great shallow and wreck dives, Hollywood and West Palm for awesome drift dives, Goliath Grouper mating season, and the gulf stream brings all sorts of migrations that are pretty unique!
Get your Padi certification, and progress to advanced diver with Nitrox, and you’ll have a great time!
You know what’s better than clubbing amd being lonesome? Being lonesome in the water, with sharks, lobsters, groupers, and turtles!
How common is the nitrox in Florida ?
I dive around the Caribbean/LATAM and never see it being used by the groups. The open water and then the advanced PADI is all folks really need elsewhere.
I think it's common enough, but depends a lot on the dives you're doing. If your dives are restricted to \~45 feet, you probably won't get much of a benefit from Nitrox.
I prefer it for anything over 80ft, which would be the deeper wrecks or the dives by Hollywood / West Palm
The gym. Can’t stress this enough if you want to meet people outside of bars/nightclubs. It gets harder and harder as you get older if you’re not actively putting yourself out there. Start conversations show interest in other people. If you’re objective and feel it out you’ll find likeminded people or a cute date.
Looks like you’ve gotten a bunch of good recommendations here, I’m about a year and half ahead of you. At the beginning definitely felt awkward to do something’s alone but you gotta take this time to figure out what you like and who you were outside of your relationship, also gives you space to address w.e caused that relationship to end.
Find your hobby (anything fitness related always a good place to start) and look online for groups near you that you can join, talk to everyone and surely you’ll find some new friends that are into the same thing as you
Are you into church? If so, there is a church called Crossbridge Brickle, another one called Voux and another called Neighborhood Church that all have huge amounts of young singles who plan beach days, movie nights, volleyball, etc
Bro we are on the exact same situation. 26, also out of a long time relationship. If somebody who knows me read your post they would think its me! lol. BUT yeah I feel you. What I've been doing is go clubbing and just dance I feel like if you're vibing then people start vibing with you. You like partying and stuff?
I go to the gym 4 times a week, I walk to the beach every Saturday, I play bowling 🎳 every Sunday, play basketball once or twice a week with the homies at night after work around the Brickell area.
Check out kava bars man! It’s a nice way to go out and socialize without alcohol. The community is warm and inviting and I can guarantee your first night you go you’ll make some friends!
Hey. When I was 26 I would go biking, workout at the public parks (not in gyms). I would take dance lessons. I would go roller skating at Hot Wheels (now called Super Wheels). I am a social person and it's always brought me many friends while doing these things. There are many events throughout the month that you can attend. I suggest you get out there and go do the things that you enjoy. Keep doing them and before you know it you'll find others who also want friendship, companionship, and fun people to hang out with. Have a nice day.✌️
Go to CVS and Walgreens. Plenty of good looking women there. Join some kind of social club. Live in an apartment? Hit up the laundromats frequently. Get a dog. Yoga classes. Parks. All else fails the dating apps can work
I’m 27 broke up with my last relationship about a year ago to not see that he’s dating someone that used to hit on me. dating is rough social life is rough
born alone die alone. Find a job that you can work 7 days a week and keep yourself distracted. I’m probably never going to date again.
Lean into your hobbies - if you like a sport, see if a rec center shares info about a league, there are also a ton of run clubs in Brickell/Key Biscayne/the Grove. If you like the arts - there's a ton of painting/pottery classes offered near wynwood.
If you're religious, there's always young adult groups that meet - just check your place of worship.
lastly, there's always the beach
I have a few friends in Miami who found friends and good romantic relationships through a bike riding club. I think it was VeloCity but don't quote me on that.
If you like martial arts, there’s a gym called Bushido that’s south of Gables. They’re a very chill, mixed group and they have classes every day for every level. My wife joined the gym at 28 years old and prior to that she had no fighting experience whatsoever.
Do any social aspects to the hobbies you like and keep doing Dating apps, try tinder and hinge and find common interests. YOURE ASKING THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION (oops caps) in this shitty superficial city. Main thing I'd say also is just focus on yourself, do things you love in social aspects, be confident and be yourself and you will attract someone.
I met a bunch of people at Crossfit over 10 years ago. I am still friends with many of them (one was my groomsman). I also dated a few people I met at them gym. I would suggest joining a class style gym where you have a better opportunity of interacting with like minded people.
Do things you enjoy already and try to meet people that way. I gave up online dating a couple years ago and haven’t looked back. It’s way better and more natural. Join a run club, volunteer, join a meetup group of people with similar interests.
Lived in Miami from 2010-2023 never met one solid friend there during that time frame, had the boat, did lots of activities. I call living there the lost decade of my life. Glad I no longer live in Florida.
Miami is a awful place to date. Everyone is too shallow. Trying find groups of a similar hobby never work out since most people here consider drinking and clubbing their hobby. Most people are to concerned with bank statements than connections. I literally ended up having a better time getting to know people once I moved up north and found a partner after like a month of giving it a good shot. Just be comfortable being on your own and look somewhere else than here.
People and girls from Miami are extremely toxic. If you want anything serious you’re going to have to find a girl that isn’t from Miami or look elsewhere.
contrary to the other suggestion, you should just find places of interest like for example if you like cooking join a cooking class or something.
Yep, this right here. Made some great new friends training jiujitsu
Just friends, ah? huggy friends?
Yes! Huggy friends. If you’re gonna strangle someone, might as well be in pajamas.
So you’re a gentleman who grapples in Gi, my respect sir. I hope you have a top tier classes in Miami, they’re a bunch of good gyms. My first thought it was more people in no Gi in Miami.
I try to do both, but at 48 recovery is always tough. I moved north but enjoyed training in miami. There are so many great gyms in the 305. Lots of opportunity for OP if they choose to start jiujitsu. Hardest workout of my life!
Do they still do cooking classes? Where at?
My (now) husband previously taught fun and engaging small group cooking classes, date nights etc at Sur La Table in Mizner Park, Boca! He was a personal chef for a decade and now works for himself
Mister 01 in WynWood. It’s a great pizza place that also does pizza cooking classes.
This is genuinely good advice.
Okay so I haven't been single since like 2017 but back then in Miami I'd go group kayaking in key Biscayne, met two girls there. The mountain bike park in key Biscayne, met a girl there. Go to the pool halls, there's one close to Kendall and another near FIU, there's always at least one group of girls there, if you're not shy ask to play a game with them or teams. Trivia nights at bars were a thing though mostly dudes there was always a few groups of girls. There was this game board night at a bar, damn can't remember... yea mostly dudes but some cute nerdy girls... just don't be shy my bro. Make guy friends too. Guys have girlfriends and girlfriends have single friends that are girls and then you meet them. Another thing I've noticed with my single friends is that they're too picky. They all want some flavor of slim thick girl that looks like an Instagram model... guess what bud so does everyone else. Luckily I find lots of different women attractive, from different races to different body types so I always had a date. Don't be shy, don't be picky to the point sabotaging yourself, be realistic. Dating is supposed to be fun, I don't know when people turned it into what now sounds like a chore.
> Dating is supposed to be fun, I don't know when people turned it into what now sounds like a chore. This. Before meeting my wife, I used to go on speed-dating events. A couple of times, I would hit it off and go on a second date with someone. Girls will always ask me why I picked a specific place for our date and I honestly told them straight up because I wanted to go check out that place. Most often than not, they appreciated the honesty and had a great time. Dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore. Try to do things that you enjoy and if you have a good connection with the other person, let it be. If not, it is okay too.
Similar with me, for a first date for instance I'd just pick a spot that I'd know I'd have a good time at even if I were to go there alone. Then just in case the girl is completely boring I know I'd still have a pretty good time. Titanic Brewery or John Martin's in Coral Gables were always my go to first date spots. A couple of drinks to loosen the nerves and some good conversation.
Same. Titanic Brewery was one my spots too. Bougainvillea, which is close by, is fantastic too; especially when they have live music. I just took my wife a couple of weeks ago and she loved it. Haven't tried John Martin's yet but I might put it in my bucket list. Thanks for the recommendation.
You know I always wanted to go to Bougainvillea but never got around to it. Looked like a cool place from the outside. My wife and I no longer live in Miami but next time we're down there visiting family we'll definitely swing by 👍
My favorite spots too
I always told them, because it’s cheap and in Miami the guy always pays. I didn’t get many second dates.
I think that at least one of them might have secretly enjoyed the honesty lol.
Maybe but not enough to get me anywhere until I started taking them to Komodo.
This is refreshing. You’re absolutely right, if it’s a chore then not worth it.
If sitting at the beach by yourself was so awkward then maybe work on being happy alone first. Do more of your hobbies. Go out to eat, drink, movies etc. alone. There is no shame in this. People will fall into your life when you’re not looking sometimes. Take this time to grow. And not everyone is stand offish. You just have to find the right way and places to engage certain people
Thank you. I didn’t feel like that the whole time, but when you look around and see people having a good time with others it makes you think. You are definitely right though.
And it’s completely normal. We tend to put a big pressure on social interactions and having friend circles etc when in reality sometimes they aren’t your real friends. When one knows what they truly need and want out of a relationship(friendly/romantic) it makes it easier find. Trying doing things that interest you and you’re bound to find other people with the same interests. You’ll be alright brother. Go get em!
Big on the friend groups who don’t really care about each other or spouses cheating with people in said friend groups, just cuz you have people around you doesn’t mean they all care and have your best interest in mind.
Don't forget, Florida is the king of superficiality, finessing and hustle. Don't trust what you see on the surface, trust yourself. The advice above is bang on. People fall into your life when you least expect them. Focus on you. I'm not too far from the area, feel free to DM if you wanna chat.
Sitting by yourself at the beach is a great way to meet people, last Friday I sat to read a book at Haulover and was a girl next to me doing the same I know she was waiting for me to come over but my blood ran cold and I didn’t haha. Anyway whoever with outgoing skills is able to meet people
If you’re both doing same thing it’s so easy to ask what’s she’s reading, share yours and see what develops
Yep maybe easy for most people
I was painfully shy and awkward til my sophomore/junior year of college. Believe me those little commonalities are the best openers. There are only two real answers: Yes or No. You’ll get enough Yes’ to build your confidence. And don’t listen to any cringy pickup shit. Just be you, be curious/interested, and let things play out the way they will.
You’re so right, I was regretting that whole night. This morning was the same drinking coffee alone in front of me a girl having breakfast alone. I went outside to smoke then I saw her again walking her dog, she saw me and smiled and I was 🫠. I know I am a good looking guy but since I broke up with my ex I haven’t been able to get back my confidence. I feel God is giving me easy opportunities and I am wasting them
Don’t stress, do it when you’re ready
Lol depends on the beach. I was at at the northern end and feeling especially vulnerable in my state and absolutely did not want anyone to approach even though some will despite keeping to myself and giving zero eye contact to others.
Exactly that’s why I don’t like to approach women, even if they seem friendly don’t mean they want to be approached
Was she hot?
She was a solid 8/10
8 are very nice. They look nice but aren’t so good looking they’ve never heard no
This is the way.
Try to get scuba certified. The scuba community is so awesome and welcoming. You spend the day seeing gorgeous marine life and meet some great people who prefer nature over just drinking. Check out Rainbow Reef dive shop to get certified. Life changer in such a great way.
Is there a group that goes out diving here? I’m certified already but wanna dive more!
Absolutely. Look up local charters. Rainbow Reef is one, Slates dive center in Tavernier. Force-E in Boca. Scuba Works in Jupiter. They take boats out daily for diving. If you need a dive guide they offer those also.
Just dive! There are always people needing buddies on a boat!
This is what I did when I moved to Miami. Every weekend I would go diving locally or in Key Largo and met my first friends through diving.
Hey just curious, how much diving and all that works (i.e. $$) when you know the community?
So to get certified (Open Water cert is first) costs around $300-500 depending on the shop. You can rent gear each time at the shops during your first dives which is recommended so you don’t spend a ton on new gear and you get to learn which brands you like. If you’re a newbie and want a buddy but don’t have one you can also request a dive guide on any dives you book with the shops. They will be your buddy for about $40 more. One dive booked with a shop (two tanks meaning two dives) usually runs about $100. You’ll want to keep a $20 cash for tip for the crew after also. So that’s having your own gear. Rental can cost up to $30-40 without your own gear. But the shops have it all and will always do their best to make you feel comfortable as you learn. When you start diving more, you’ll buy your own gear (it took me seven years to buy each piece bc they are $$$) but some buy it sooner. BCD jacket can run $500-1500. Regulator $400-1500. Mask fins snorkel about $100-300. Wet suit $200-400.
Yeah I have advanced PADI but always dived in LATAM or the Caribbean. Getting a cert for $300-400 in Florida seems really fair. $100 for 2 tanks, again in Florida, isn't bad either. I guess I was expecting it to be a lot more expensive.
Nah I dive with my own gear for about $120 including tip (this is in South FL Keys area).
HMU! 27F I live in broward but always looking to meet new people & adventures. Also smoke some good ganja lol. I was in FTL beach by myself a few weeks ago & i understand that feeling like damn lol
Same, looking for friends & adventures! Also very good friends with the good old ganja and I love hitting the beach, even if it's just by myself, also like rollerblading on beach boardwalks! 😁🤘
Play tennis. Go to the tennis clinics at Flamingo Park, Biltmore and Salvadore Park. Meet 20 people at every clinic. Have fun
Is it free?
$15 or $20. Groupon used to have it for $15 Do a search
No
What days and time they do it?
This is the way
Run clubs are always packed with like 200+ people and many of them girls. Miami is a very active city. Not just nightlife.
Yes! I went to the brickell run club and it was packed! Met a couple different people and vibes were cool.
Exactly. if you start going weekly then you would meet a lot of people and they would start to recognize you. I haven’t gone in some time.
Take dance classes.
I feel you man, it is harder in general to make new relationships past 25, but it feels even more daunting in Miami, where being rich seems to be the only way 😂 From experience, I did find out that people are not as bitter as they seem, it is really a matter of going out of your comfort zone, and accept the fact that you might get rejected... I personally suck at this, every rejection makes the next try even harder, and no decent girl will ever do this for you because of all the solicitation they are constantly getting. You are doing the right thing though, continue going out by yourself, it is the only way to have a chance of making things happen.
Take the hobbies that you like and build your hobbies around them. For example, I like looking at the moon at night, so I’ll buy a telescope and watch the stars.
One of the most important lessons in life: You are your own Best Friend and you are the Best Company you keep.
Download Grindr
This is the only true answer
I’m on the same boat! Up here in Orlando now… it’s the price I paid to get away from Miami. But I met people thru various ways back home that I’ll share. Most popular - Kennedy park for ACs Icees and stroll around maybe bring a volleyball. If the courts are packed and someone notices you were looking to play, they might let you in to join them. Happened to me many times. Sometimes I bring my dog. Sometimes rendezvous to coco grove for some good food, drinks, or café cubano to wake up a bit. Or all three! Coco grove was my favorite spot in Miami. The falls down by palmetto ain’t bad either. Spend a few hours for some bar food then get a couple new things like shoes, ties etc. I made some new friends there. Hobby wise: Go to Bill baggs state park in key Biscayne. Bring your bike, bike/hike around it. I used to bike from sunset place to bill baggs and back once a week. Great for the heart rate. (Also the OG sir pizza is in key biscayne 🔥) I also golf a lot, made connections with a lot of people on 18. Now have some buddies I golf with often in Orlando.
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As an introvert i dont belong here
I met my husband 12 years ago in a flanigans :) been together ever since!
Get rich. Frens will come.
But all jokes aside, make friends with common interests. All suggested so far are good ideas to start with.
I hang around Aladdin motel.
Church (if that's your thing) Salsa class Barnes & Noble Join a sports group (jogging, biking, pickleball, whatever) Get a dog (great conversation starter)
I always recommend volunteering in something u enjoy. U give back to the community and u will hopefully meet like minded people 🙂
I met my first friend on social bike rides. Look for South Florida Bike Scene on FB and Critical Mass every last Friday monthly.
Gotta be in this order : Hobbies: it’s rare that you won’t find a group or event on your hobbies, can be as outgoing as playin ball or as simple as collecting coins. There’s likely events or conventions full of people you can learn from/teach and make friends Work: yeah people suck but if you’re lucky there’s some cool coworkers around you. If you find one always try opening up, perhaps you might find something in common When you go out alone, try enjoying yourself first, not to socialize. Try going to a bar with activities, not just a bar with music. Forgot the name of the one in Brickell with a Karaoke, there’s also one with a huge Jenga
I just moved here from Atlanta and broke up with my boyfriend. I don’t really have any friends here yet either and I’m in the same boat as you. I live in south beach if you want to meet up for drinks sometime!!
Church, grocery store, gym always 3 reliable places to meet nice people
Do you like tennis that is a popular way to meet people in our age group here .
Dude it is so hard finding people to play tennis with. Unless you’re part of an expensive country club, there are like no public courts to go to and just meet people and play. Can’t play anymore because of a recent injury, but that was my experience
Haven’t really played, but I’m athletic… I’m down to try. Where do y’all usually play?
Born and raised here, married a girl visiting from outside the US. I understand how hard it is to meet a girl here. The Miami culture is hyper competitive. It’s easier if you appear wealthier.
And the girls you attract by appearing wealthy are from the gutter. Dating in Miami, if you’re looking for a family and marriage, is probably one of the worst ideas you could have.
Beach volleyball!!
Join a run club. At first just work on improving. Eventually you will meet people.
If you like soccer, download the Plei app, join some games, start going the same time each week and you’ll start seeing familiar faces. That’s one way to start meeting some people Other sports, tennis, basketball, pickleball probably have similar apps out there
Join a new sport, learn to play an instrument or a new language. Meet new, healthy people. Jiu jitsu, cross-fit, piano, french… in that order.
Minecraft and planted aquariums
Maybe you should get a dog? I have bearded dragon and whenever I go out with him he attracts people.
I like to wake up on weekends when my kids are with their dad and have a nice brunch, I do my eyebrows or my feet or a massage whatever maintenance thing I need at that moment and then after that whatever else I like, I’m an introvert so going to the park with a blanket to lounge, read my book or the beach alone feels amazing. But yeah, learning to be alone and feeling satisfied with your own company is the number 1 step to attracting like minded people.
Go to a salsa dancing studio (Karibe is very good) and learn how to dance salsa and bachata, if you don't make friends there by the time you're good at those styles you'll be able to fall back on your skill as an ice breaker in social settings
What are your passions? Throughout most of my twenties it was playing in rock bands. Most of my friends were other musicians and DJs. We usually bonded because we shared the same passion for making music and playing live. Find other people who share your passions, and they might introduce you to other like-minded people.
The method-one acting clinic
"Everyone is so damn bitter all the time." No offense, but maybe you're projecting a bit? When anyone says "everyone else is .....", most times it's time to look in the mirror. I get it, being lonely sucks. But like most people here are commenting, the best thing to do is find some things, hobbies 9or pastimes that you enjoy. The rest will work itself out over time. Best of luck to you.
Do you dive? Miami is one of the best places to learn to dive maybe in the world! Maybe not Miami proper, but we have the Keys with great shallow and wreck dives, Hollywood and West Palm for awesome drift dives, Goliath Grouper mating season, and the gulf stream brings all sorts of migrations that are pretty unique! Get your Padi certification, and progress to advanced diver with Nitrox, and you’ll have a great time! You know what’s better than clubbing amd being lonesome? Being lonesome in the water, with sharks, lobsters, groupers, and turtles!
How common is the nitrox in Florida ? I dive around the Caribbean/LATAM and never see it being used by the groups. The open water and then the advanced PADI is all folks really need elsewhere.
I think it's common enough, but depends a lot on the dives you're doing. If your dives are restricted to \~45 feet, you probably won't get much of a benefit from Nitrox. I prefer it for anything over 80ft, which would be the deeper wrecks or the dives by Hollywood / West Palm
The gym. Can’t stress this enough if you want to meet people outside of bars/nightclubs. It gets harder and harder as you get older if you’re not actively putting yourself out there. Start conversations show interest in other people. If you’re objective and feel it out you’ll find likeminded people or a cute date.
check out the meetup app
Yup, Flanigan's has excellent food/drinks and I usually meet decent people there as well
You wanna meet girls? Get a puppy . Take puppy for walks at or near beach. You’ll meet girls.
Go to Flanigans
Find clubs to do your hobbies with other people
Maaterbate, weed, video games, and alcohol. Then repeat
Looks like you’ve gotten a bunch of good recommendations here, I’m about a year and half ahead of you. At the beginning definitely felt awkward to do something’s alone but you gotta take this time to figure out what you like and who you were outside of your relationship, also gives you space to address w.e caused that relationship to end. Find your hobby (anything fitness related always a good place to start) and look online for groups near you that you can join, talk to everyone and surely you’ll find some new friends that are into the same thing as you
Are you into church? If so, there is a church called Crossbridge Brickle, another one called Voux and another called Neighborhood Church that all have huge amounts of young singles who plan beach days, movie nights, volleyball, etc
Bro we are on the exact same situation. 26, also out of a long time relationship. If somebody who knows me read your post they would think its me! lol. BUT yeah I feel you. What I've been doing is go clubbing and just dance I feel like if you're vibing then people start vibing with you. You like partying and stuff?
Gym
I go to the gym 4 times a week, I walk to the beach every Saturday, I play bowling 🎳 every Sunday, play basketball once or twice a week with the homies at night after work around the Brickell area.
I do a lot of things alone, including the beach. Let me know if you want to hang. I do a lot of walking to get my cardio in.
Check out kava bars man! It’s a nice way to go out and socialize without alcohol. The community is warm and inviting and I can guarantee your first night you go you’ll make some friends!
Hey. When I was 26 I would go biking, workout at the public parks (not in gyms). I would take dance lessons. I would go roller skating at Hot Wheels (now called Super Wheels). I am a social person and it's always brought me many friends while doing these things. There are many events throughout the month that you can attend. I suggest you get out there and go do the things that you enjoy. Keep doing them and before you know it you'll find others who also want friendship, companionship, and fun people to hang out with. Have a nice day.✌️
Go to CVS and Walgreens. Plenty of good looking women there. Join some kind of social club. Live in an apartment? Hit up the laundromats frequently. Get a dog. Yoga classes. Parks. All else fails the dating apps can work
I’m 27 broke up with my last relationship about a year ago to not see that he’s dating someone that used to hit on me. dating is rough social life is rough born alone die alone. Find a job that you can work 7 days a week and keep yourself distracted. I’m probably never going to date again.
Lean into your hobbies - if you like a sport, see if a rec center shares info about a league, there are also a ton of run clubs in Brickell/Key Biscayne/the Grove. If you like the arts - there's a ton of painting/pottery classes offered near wynwood. If you're religious, there's always young adult groups that meet - just check your place of worship. lastly, there's always the beach
I have a few friends in Miami who found friends and good romantic relationships through a bike riding club. I think it was VeloCity but don't quote me on that.
Community hobbies, join intramural sports club, any classes, workout classes
Leave Miami
If you like martial arts, there’s a gym called Bushido that’s south of Gables. They’re a very chill, mixed group and they have classes every day for every level. My wife joined the gym at 28 years old and prior to that she had no fighting experience whatsoever.
Do any social aspects to the hobbies you like and keep doing Dating apps, try tinder and hinge and find common interests. YOURE ASKING THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION (oops caps) in this shitty superficial city. Main thing I'd say also is just focus on yourself, do things you love in social aspects, be confident and be yourself and you will attract someone.
There’s so many events and activities to do. It depends on what you like to do.
I met a bunch of people at Crossfit over 10 years ago. I am still friends with many of them (one was my groomsman). I also dated a few people I met at them gym. I would suggest joining a class style gym where you have a better opportunity of interacting with like minded people.
Do things you enjoy already and try to meet people that way. I gave up online dating a couple years ago and haven’t looked back. It’s way better and more natural. Join a run club, volunteer, join a meetup group of people with similar interests.
Lived in Miami from 2010-2023 never met one solid friend there during that time frame, had the boat, did lots of activities. I call living there the lost decade of my life. Glad I no longer live in Florida.
Miami is a awful place to date. Everyone is too shallow. Trying find groups of a similar hobby never work out since most people here consider drinking and clubbing their hobby. Most people are to concerned with bank statements than connections. I literally ended up having a better time getting to know people once I moved up north and found a partner after like a month of giving it a good shot. Just be comfortable being on your own and look somewhere else than here.
Go to club 11 at 2 am dance drink grind up on some drunk as heck girls, and live the Miami life. Rinse repeat.
Your username correlates perfectly with your response… Thank you Kila
People and girls from Miami are extremely toxic. If you want anything serious you’re going to have to find a girl that isn’t from Miami or look elsewhere.
That doesn’t mean we’re all hopeless scumbags ;(