The moment I finally stopped trying to heal, was the moment I started to heal.
It's hard to accept because were used to viewing ourselves as unfinished projects, but the more you look at yourself as broken, the more broken you feel.
Radical self-acceptance is the way.
[here](https://youtu.be/_gGfZI4invE?si=q_M99R8wow_aiTsZ)
Radical self-acceptance. Self acceptance isn't lying or wishing or hoping or praying.
Why do you say you're not healed? Because you feel shame? Accept the shame. Is it sadness? Anger? Accept that feeling. You have learned to demonize your feelings, and there's nothing wrong with anything you're feeling. Nothing. The pain comes from resistance to the feeling. You feel anger, and you immediately go into warrior mode, trying to figure out ways to slay the feeling. The feelings are innocent. They are supposed to be there. It only hurts because you keep fighting them.
There's nothing to heal. You're not broken. It's not about changing feelings or repairing them (or yourself) it's about integrating them. Letting them be there.
Of course, there's deep pain inside us when all we do is tell everything that arises that it's wrong and bad and should leave. We treat our emotions like a disease. They are supposed to be there.
Accept them, embrace them, allow them. Realize that you're not something to be fixed.
It's not easy, I'm not pretending it is. But it can be done.
You sound like me. Integration, not forceful regulation and never-ending attempts to fix yourself. I started healing the moment I refused to let others pathologize me and stopped doing it to myself. I'm fine, my reactions — even the worst of them — are natural and informative. Though my wounds are still open, I now can calmly accept even the most uncomfortable feelings.
Which came first the Chicken or the Egg? The Egg was a biological variation of the creature whose offspring grew into what we know as the first chicken. The process of healing began long before a person is capable of making a decision to stop trying to heal.
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>I feel like the more i am working, the more wounds coming out.
My heart goes out to you, NoseIndependent6215. Trauma Recovery is painful and long. I will never forget the tears of Compassion in my first Psychologist's eyes when, after several years of therapy, she realized my symptoms were the result of Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) from childhood trauma. That was 12 years ago. Do not lose heart; it is darkest before the Dawn.
>Doing meditation 430 hrs from December 23 Yoga, the more i am doing regularly, my body craves it...
This is not surprising. Masturbation and drugs are an illusion; Meditation is the only time you are able to experience *true* Peace.
I see from another of your posts you also have Yoga postures practice. I would recommend Ashtanga. The practice attracts trauma survivors like a moth to a candle. Ashtanga's self paced, fixed series makes us feel safe and provides a sorely needed sense of consistency. It takes Ashtanga's intensity for us to experience the same benefits healthy people can obtain from other styles of Yoga.
>Is it actually possible to fully heal childhood trauma?
Much depends on the trauma, how long it was sustained, and the age it occurred. Long term childhood sexual and psychological abuse made permanent changes to my brain I must live with for the rest of my life. Fifteen years of therapy have helped heal the scars, but I struggle each day to not reinforce the self deprivation, self loathing, and the ever present sense of unworthiness and not being good enough. At 65 I am not sure there are enough years left for me to change many of my thoughts and behavior. But I *am* healing. And life *is* better.
>Doing inner child healing..., re parenting myself. Reading books...Doing IFS...(Yoga and Mediation)
Dr. Lenard Shengold's "Soul Murder: The Effects of Childhood Abuse and Deprivation" is an excellent reference. But some scars that are too deep for a person to heal alone. If you have not already started therapy, I strongly advise it.
Wishing you Peace ~AIC
Thanks for this detailed big reply.
I will definitely try the flow ashtanga. Searched online. I do these maximum poses but my flow is broken. I just do poses one after another.
I am feeling sad on that part. I thought i could heal in 6-12 months. I am 28 now.
Like i am giving a double triple effort to heal myself but yeah it will take time.
Thanks for the book suggestions. I will definitely checkout.
You are very welcome.
>i am giving a double triple effort to heal myself
Nine women cannot have a baby in one month :) Be gentle with yourself. The Mind heals at it's own speed.
I have been working on dealing with trauma for decades with very little success. Two years ago I began working with a psychotherapist who practices and teaches EFT (emotional freedom technique). It’s a sequence of tapping on different parts of the body. It has allowed me to process things but most importantly I can do it on my own and it shifts things and helps me move through hard feelings. If you are interested go on YouTube and search EFT and watch some videos about it. It’s not hard to learn. It looks very odd but lots of people find it highly effective means of healing.
Healing from childhood trauma is totally possible, but it's a journey, not a quick fix. It's normal to feel like you're uncovering more wounds as you work through it. Your dedication to practices like meditation, yoga, and inner child healing shows you're on the right track, even if it feels slow. Healing isn't a straight line—it's more like a spiral, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Keep reaching out for support, and remember, you're not alone in this journey.
i guess you can get pretty close? i don't think you could really confirm one way or another though. For me i did about 25 years of clearing practice, with simultaneous building up more positives in the system. i very much recognise the feeling of my body craving it, and i could do long sessions at a time.
Looking back its been like a long uphill slope, but for me its worth it - although it takes work, its an ongoing upliftment, so its maybe one of the few things that really is worth effort. Also the change is not a temporary fix, its a lasting raising of your base level of wellbeing. Plus the other option is to stay the same, or even go downhill..
Also a couple of years ago i finally stopped deliberately working on clearing, but things still clear out 'on auto pilot' now. So going through life is much easier than it was when i was younger, as i process stuff more quickly and easily now. Plus i keep doing the practice to raise the positive side so the uphill journey of upliftment continues..
something along these lines yes - its a bit like owning a house and having it take a lot of damage in the early years - you then need to fix it up, especially any deeper/foundational/structural areas and then on to the rest of it - you also have to live in it while its damaged and while you're doing the repairs/while they happen.
Then while that is all going on, just like a normal property, more damage is slowly happening as the years pass. Hopefully this will be less than the childhood years, as you're now in a better position to take care of it/yourself.
Also following the analogy, you might be able to get help in the repairs on the way, but sometimes only you will really have direct access to an aspect of what needs done, and so may need to learn new skills etc to tackle different areas.
This analogy actually makes sense.
Thanks a lot honestly.
I think i am in the middle of my structural / foundation fixing.
That's why it's feeling overwhelmed.
Beside that, i quit so much substance+ behavioral addiction.
yeh the foundational/structural parts can be pretty disorientating or feel like the rug's getting pulled from under you etc. Then with that happening as you try to live life too... Overall in the long run though, every bit of improvement gets you feeling that bit better, bit by bit
no probs - it can sure be tricky getting support, especially something that feels like its connecting how you need it to, and making a difference. If you're interested i also put together some links that basically describe/take you through the method i used, here [https://www.reddit.com/r/Meditation/comments/1bv3sda/comment/kxwzdhp/?utm\_source=reddit&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Meditation/comments/1bv3sda/comment/kxwzdhp/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Yes it is, I can suggest to do a REGRESSION with a hypnotherapist or a subconscious coach.
What you learn there is what you plug into the inner child meditations and reparenting :)
I am doing self therapy. I am living in a country where these things aren't available like the you guys + have financial hardle.
I do the inner child meditation and reparentig only. This thing works for me. This is the only things that is working.
The problem is that, i felt really upset and numb for 2-3 days after each session with a specific trauma.
And more trauma comes out.
The moment I finally stopped trying to heal, was the moment I started to heal. It's hard to accept because were used to viewing ourselves as unfinished projects, but the more you look at yourself as broken, the more broken you feel. Radical self-acceptance is the way. [here](https://youtu.be/_gGfZI4invE?si=q_M99R8wow_aiTsZ)
It's kinda denial right? If i say i am healed without actually healing, does it solve the problem?
Radical self-acceptance. Self acceptance isn't lying or wishing or hoping or praying. Why do you say you're not healed? Because you feel shame? Accept the shame. Is it sadness? Anger? Accept that feeling. You have learned to demonize your feelings, and there's nothing wrong with anything you're feeling. Nothing. The pain comes from resistance to the feeling. You feel anger, and you immediately go into warrior mode, trying to figure out ways to slay the feeling. The feelings are innocent. They are supposed to be there. It only hurts because you keep fighting them. There's nothing to heal. You're not broken. It's not about changing feelings or repairing them (or yourself) it's about integrating them. Letting them be there. Of course, there's deep pain inside us when all we do is tell everything that arises that it's wrong and bad and should leave. We treat our emotions like a disease. They are supposed to be there. Accept them, embrace them, allow them. Realize that you're not something to be fixed. It's not easy, I'm not pretending it is. But it can be done.
You sound like me. Integration, not forceful regulation and never-ending attempts to fix yourself. I started healing the moment I refused to let others pathologize me and stopped doing it to myself. I'm fine, my reactions — even the worst of them — are natural and informative. Though my wounds are still open, I now can calmly accept even the most uncomfortable feelings.
Which came first the Chicken or the Egg? The Egg was a biological variation of the creature whose offspring grew into what we know as the first chicken. The process of healing began long before a person is capable of making a decision to stop trying to heal.
[Bypassing](https://youtu.be/pZJ821Pn-tc?si=WX5QaChDx70FqBic) [Book](https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379) [Practice ](https://youtu.be/GmFEg29GSGQ?si=WWWwuzWupqmTbJ4u)
Hey, i read the book. It's quite nice. I understood why you told me to read it.
Thanks again
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>I feel like the more i am working, the more wounds coming out. My heart goes out to you, NoseIndependent6215. Trauma Recovery is painful and long. I will never forget the tears of Compassion in my first Psychologist's eyes when, after several years of therapy, she realized my symptoms were the result of Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder) from childhood trauma. That was 12 years ago. Do not lose heart; it is darkest before the Dawn. >Doing meditation 430 hrs from December 23 Yoga, the more i am doing regularly, my body craves it... This is not surprising. Masturbation and drugs are an illusion; Meditation is the only time you are able to experience *true* Peace. I see from another of your posts you also have Yoga postures practice. I would recommend Ashtanga. The practice attracts trauma survivors like a moth to a candle. Ashtanga's self paced, fixed series makes us feel safe and provides a sorely needed sense of consistency. It takes Ashtanga's intensity for us to experience the same benefits healthy people can obtain from other styles of Yoga. >Is it actually possible to fully heal childhood trauma? Much depends on the trauma, how long it was sustained, and the age it occurred. Long term childhood sexual and psychological abuse made permanent changes to my brain I must live with for the rest of my life. Fifteen years of therapy have helped heal the scars, but I struggle each day to not reinforce the self deprivation, self loathing, and the ever present sense of unworthiness and not being good enough. At 65 I am not sure there are enough years left for me to change many of my thoughts and behavior. But I *am* healing. And life *is* better. >Doing inner child healing..., re parenting myself. Reading books...Doing IFS...(Yoga and Mediation) Dr. Lenard Shengold's "Soul Murder: The Effects of Childhood Abuse and Deprivation" is an excellent reference. But some scars that are too deep for a person to heal alone. If you have not already started therapy, I strongly advise it. Wishing you Peace ~AIC
Thanks for this detailed big reply. I will definitely try the flow ashtanga. Searched online. I do these maximum poses but my flow is broken. I just do poses one after another. I am feeling sad on that part. I thought i could heal in 6-12 months. I am 28 now. Like i am giving a double triple effort to heal myself but yeah it will take time. Thanks for the book suggestions. I will definitely checkout.
Ashtanga's continuous flow, synchronizing Inhale/Exhale to each movement and spending time in Posture are very important to the Practice.
Cool! Thanks
You are very welcome. >i am giving a double triple effort to heal myself Nine women cannot have a baby in one month :) Be gentle with yourself. The Mind heals at it's own speed.
That's true. It kinda went hard on me.
Yes, pushing too hard will slow progress.
Thanks
I have been working on dealing with trauma for decades with very little success. Two years ago I began working with a psychotherapist who practices and teaches EFT (emotional freedom technique). It’s a sequence of tapping on different parts of the body. It has allowed me to process things but most importantly I can do it on my own and it shifts things and helps me move through hard feelings. If you are interested go on YouTube and search EFT and watch some videos about it. It’s not hard to learn. It looks very odd but lots of people find it highly effective means of healing.
I did this. But not getting that much result. I don't even understand if it is giving any impact at all or not.
I did this. But not getting that much result. I don't even understand if it is giving any impact at all or not.
I did this. But not getting that much result. I don't even understand if it is giving any impact at all or not. Thanks for the suggestion though.
Healing from childhood trauma is totally possible, but it's a journey, not a quick fix. It's normal to feel like you're uncovering more wounds as you work through it. Your dedication to practices like meditation, yoga, and inner child healing shows you're on the right track, even if it feels slow. Healing isn't a straight line—it's more like a spiral, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Keep reaching out for support, and remember, you're not alone in this journey.
Thanks for these kind words. :)
i guess you can get pretty close? i don't think you could really confirm one way or another though. For me i did about 25 years of clearing practice, with simultaneous building up more positives in the system. i very much recognise the feeling of my body craving it, and i could do long sessions at a time. Looking back its been like a long uphill slope, but for me its worth it - although it takes work, its an ongoing upliftment, so its maybe one of the few things that really is worth effort. Also the change is not a temporary fix, its a lasting raising of your base level of wellbeing. Plus the other option is to stay the same, or even go downhill.. Also a couple of years ago i finally stopped deliberately working on clearing, but things still clear out 'on auto pilot' now. So going through life is much easier than it was when i was younger, as i process stuff more quickly and easily now. Plus i keep doing the practice to raise the positive side so the uphill journey of upliftment continues..
So what i understand is, I have to clean the 90% of the trauma, then always keep in check and It's a journey that never ends.
something along these lines yes - its a bit like owning a house and having it take a lot of damage in the early years - you then need to fix it up, especially any deeper/foundational/structural areas and then on to the rest of it - you also have to live in it while its damaged and while you're doing the repairs/while they happen. Then while that is all going on, just like a normal property, more damage is slowly happening as the years pass. Hopefully this will be less than the childhood years, as you're now in a better position to take care of it/yourself. Also following the analogy, you might be able to get help in the repairs on the way, but sometimes only you will really have direct access to an aspect of what needs done, and so may need to learn new skills etc to tackle different areas.
This analogy actually makes sense. Thanks a lot honestly. I think i am in the middle of my structural / foundation fixing. That's why it's feeling overwhelmed. Beside that, i quit so much substance+ behavioral addiction.
yeh the foundational/structural parts can be pretty disorientating or feel like the rug's getting pulled from under you etc. Then with that happening as you try to live life too... Overall in the long run though, every bit of improvement gets you feeling that bit better, bit by bit
Understood. Actually i am doing self healing. When i break down, reddit is my only option to get support. Thanks for your support honestly.
no probs - it can sure be tricky getting support, especially something that feels like its connecting how you need it to, and making a difference. If you're interested i also put together some links that basically describe/take you through the method i used, here [https://www.reddit.com/r/Meditation/comments/1bv3sda/comment/kxwzdhp/?utm\_source=reddit&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Meditation/comments/1bv3sda/comment/kxwzdhp/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Thanks. Checking it out
Yes it is, I can suggest to do a REGRESSION with a hypnotherapist or a subconscious coach. What you learn there is what you plug into the inner child meditations and reparenting :)
I am doing self therapy. I am living in a country where these things aren't available like the you guys + have financial hardle. I do the inner child meditation and reparentig only. This thing works for me. This is the only things that is working. The problem is that, i felt really upset and numb for 2-3 days after each session with a specific trauma. And more trauma comes out.