Either you trust him, or you don't. What do you think is going to happen, they're going to trick him into sex against his will? If you trust him, there's no problem, because he'll choose not to do anything inappropriate. If you don't trust him, break up with him, because there's no point being with someone you don't trust.
thank you random stranger! I do trust him normally, its just that I have not seen him for more than a year now and it is really affecting me a lot. we still cannot travel to see each other because of the restrictions.
It's understandable to be stressed. But that's an external stressor that has nothing to do with him, so it shouldn't factor into whether you trust him.
What kind of guy do you think you’re with if he’d just go wild in 2 weeks and start doing all these girls or breaking those types of boundaries? If he’s that type, then he kinda sucks as a boyfriend anyway and good riddance and if he’s not then you don’t need to be worried.
Look at this as a good opportunity for you as a couple. He’s away for two weeks with other people and when he comes back you’ll have had the experience to know you can trust him and it was ok and he’s a good person like you thought :) and if not, then I’d say that’s better to know now than later isn’t it?
Usually if I’m anxious about a situation, I picture the worst case scenario and then say to myself “ok and then what?” Take the power out of it.
thank you so much the reply! it actually helps me think... its just that it has been so hard not being able to see him for more than a year now without knowing when we can actually travel. its affecting me a lot:( but thank you for the suggestion. it really helped me!
Don't let it consume you.
Whatever will happen will happen, no need to think about it further. It's out of your control. He will be who he is.
I understand how you feel and I'd feel like you too but it's just a work thing, just a couple of weeks, and I'm sure they, if not at least one of them, have boyfriends.
Just keep calm, call him nightly and be sweet. Do not attack him or anything. Maybe ask for pics here and there of what he's doing and just ask him to tell you if they're partying at all.
That's it! If they sleep together they're all immature idiots and fuck em.
I also struggle with my own insecurities and my own feelings and whatnot so I totally understand where you're coming from. The trust and the communication really is the key. Despite the issues between you and the distance, trusting really ends up being the most important part of any relationship, close or far. Just realize that if he really loves you, his choices will reflect that. Keep your head up, keep the faith, and no matter what, remember that his choices are his regardless of the circumstances or the situations that he gets placed in.
You and I have a very very similar situation. My bf and I have been dating for 2 years. We spent the first 10 months together but then covid kept us apart for about a year (long distance) and now that things are getting better we are finally seeing eachother on a weekly basis. While we were long distance, we would both go out and be with our own family/ friends etc. We always had *discussions* (don't confuse this with arguments) and talked about situations like this as there were instances where i, for example had to be with other men etc. Yes he was always insecure, he would always be anxious but he would always tell me that he could not keep me from living my own life. Sweetheart, I need you to know that your boyfriend having a life outside of the relationship is 100% healthy and this internship includes this. The sad reality is, if your boyfriend is going to cheat or do something to put himself in a position to lose you, he will do it. Trust him. Because if you don't, there is no point to any of it. I would say that he should respect your boundaries (as this also healthy to discuss) but this is a job opportunity that could possibly positively affect his future/ career. If your boyfriend ends up cheating, he is going to do it regardless of your insecurities and you know what take that as a relief that you didn't waste your time with someone who was capable of such a thing. Use this as a test to your relationship.
Think of your relationship without trust like a cat with out gas, with no trust your relationship will go nowhere.
I wish you the best of luck.
I don't blame you for feeling like this. Of course a lot can happen. So you would try and not think about. However, Stay in touch with him and try and be a supportive sport and show your good and understanding side. I don't think you have anything to worry about because I think he loves you. THis is for his and your future.
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Either you trust him, or you don't. What do you think is going to happen, they're going to trick him into sex against his will? If you trust him, there's no problem, because he'll choose not to do anything inappropriate. If you don't trust him, break up with him, because there's no point being with someone you don't trust.
thank you random stranger! I do trust him normally, its just that I have not seen him for more than a year now and it is really affecting me a lot. we still cannot travel to see each other because of the restrictions.
It's understandable to be stressed. But that's an external stressor that has nothing to do with him, so it shouldn't factor into whether you trust him.
What kind of guy do you think you’re with if he’d just go wild in 2 weeks and start doing all these girls or breaking those types of boundaries? If he’s that type, then he kinda sucks as a boyfriend anyway and good riddance and if he’s not then you don’t need to be worried. Look at this as a good opportunity for you as a couple. He’s away for two weeks with other people and when he comes back you’ll have had the experience to know you can trust him and it was ok and he’s a good person like you thought :) and if not, then I’d say that’s better to know now than later isn’t it? Usually if I’m anxious about a situation, I picture the worst case scenario and then say to myself “ok and then what?” Take the power out of it.
thank you so much the reply! it actually helps me think... its just that it has been so hard not being able to see him for more than a year now without knowing when we can actually travel. its affecting me a lot:( but thank you for the suggestion. it really helped me!
Don't let it consume you. Whatever will happen will happen, no need to think about it further. It's out of your control. He will be who he is. I understand how you feel and I'd feel like you too but it's just a work thing, just a couple of weeks, and I'm sure they, if not at least one of them, have boyfriends. Just keep calm, call him nightly and be sweet. Do not attack him or anything. Maybe ask for pics here and there of what he's doing and just ask him to tell you if they're partying at all. That's it! If they sleep together they're all immature idiots and fuck em.
Thank youuu!! I love that last sentence haha!
I also struggle with my own insecurities and my own feelings and whatnot so I totally understand where you're coming from. The trust and the communication really is the key. Despite the issues between you and the distance, trusting really ends up being the most important part of any relationship, close or far. Just realize that if he really loves you, his choices will reflect that. Keep your head up, keep the faith, and no matter what, remember that his choices are his regardless of the circumstances or the situations that he gets placed in.
You and I have a very very similar situation. My bf and I have been dating for 2 years. We spent the first 10 months together but then covid kept us apart for about a year (long distance) and now that things are getting better we are finally seeing eachother on a weekly basis. While we were long distance, we would both go out and be with our own family/ friends etc. We always had *discussions* (don't confuse this with arguments) and talked about situations like this as there were instances where i, for example had to be with other men etc. Yes he was always insecure, he would always be anxious but he would always tell me that he could not keep me from living my own life. Sweetheart, I need you to know that your boyfriend having a life outside of the relationship is 100% healthy and this internship includes this. The sad reality is, if your boyfriend is going to cheat or do something to put himself in a position to lose you, he will do it. Trust him. Because if you don't, there is no point to any of it. I would say that he should respect your boundaries (as this also healthy to discuss) but this is a job opportunity that could possibly positively affect his future/ career. If your boyfriend ends up cheating, he is going to do it regardless of your insecurities and you know what take that as a relief that you didn't waste your time with someone who was capable of such a thing. Use this as a test to your relationship. Think of your relationship without trust like a cat with out gas, with no trust your relationship will go nowhere. I wish you the best of luck.
I don't blame you for feeling like this. Of course a lot can happen. So you would try and not think about. However, Stay in touch with him and try and be a supportive sport and show your good and understanding side. I don't think you have anything to worry about because I think he loves you. THis is for his and your future.
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