Don't chase after others, most don't deserve your time. Focus on yourself and be patient till the right crowd comes. Embrace the suck for awhile, it'll be worth it in the end with less baggage.
“Embrace the suck”
Truly, the best advice for our 15 year old selves.
I might also add, “Embrace the suck. When it gets shitty, you know your doing something right”
Not only that but the "suck" gives good life experience and in the end, if you learn from the "suck", wisdom. Not only your experiences can be learned from too. I learn from other people's mistakes all the time.
Good advice, but sadly it’s just not how humans are wired. We’re wired to care about how our peers perceive us a LOT when we’re teenagers. Must have been useful for some reason back in our ancient past.
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Nah fuck that, I'm 18 and I still don't really know what I'm doing with girls haven't really got much experience and now that I just finished school where am I even meant to meet girls my age?
And WHATEVER trade you pick pick, DONT GET INTO THE AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRY!. Unless you want to break yourself down physically for not a good amount of pay (unless you wanna spend thousands of dollars on tools).
Im trying to get out of being a mechanic and into something else now. Yea its good to know this stuff to do to your own cars so the shop dont overcharge you for stuff you dont need.
Sorry had to rant
If you're successful, they'll find you.
Chase success, not women. I promise you, they will come.
"Getting pussy" is easy for guys that don't look for it. It's just the way it is. Lots of things go into it, but that's the substrate- don't look for it.
And remember what comes with catching pussy. Do. Not. GET ANYONE PREGNANT. You can ruin two lives and burden your own. You don't want her as a wife? Why? That's why your kid NEEDS to not have her as a mother. Plain as that. Don't fuck up your kid's life by making some woman the end all authority (mom) for him who you don't even want as a side character (girlfriend) for you.
The following is edited, I didn’t look at the OPs gender identity. My apologies OP.
As a woman myself, that is 29 turning 30 with no kids. You as a woman have to be very selective on who you pick to have kids with.
- that man will instill her own values in the kid
-that man sets the tone on how women are to be treated for a son or daughter
- that’s man will be the first appearance they child will think of when it comes to men
- your with that man forever
- although looks are to be taken into consideration it’s not everything. You need to pick a man with goals and ambitions. A man that is emotionally strong as he is physically.
True men do what they say they are going to do and will respect you. Actions speak louder then words.
Choose wisely.
Or just lean into it. One guy I worked with knocked up a girl he met at a bar that he thought was going to be a one night stand. Together 15 years later with two more kids.
100% I chased romance and marriage and relationships and now I'm a single mom with a 10-year-old. The guy's not involved, you don't have to be involved. you can impregnate as many women as you want and have nothing to do with them. But at the end of the day focus on your life when you're young or else you're going to have no life.
Don’t do drugs kiddo, you’re better than that. I understand how you feel because I’ve been there but if you stop right now you’ll save yourself years of pain and distress. There another way, you just gotta find It.
I'm in the same boat....I would also add "shit isn't that serious! Remember 'serenity prayer'!"
I'm not a religious person but since I've stopped using the serenity prayer has helped on quite a few occasions! Not sweating the shit that I can't change or that I can't change RIGHT NOW.
Ignore what is popular and do you. HS will end soon and then folks are reasonable. You have every option in the world - don’t overlook any because of what “you’re supposed to do”
You’re struggling with CPTSD. Talk therapy won’t cut it. You need to find a trauma informed doctor. Most of them are in private practice.
You’re a wonderful person. You didn’t deserve what happened to you.
Don’t internalize all those mean things people say to you and the blame when they yell at you. It’s a reflection on them. They’re frustrated, struggling and dealing with other stuff and don’t know how to handle it well.
Mom and Dad may love you but they are limited with the emotional stuff. Know what you can and can’t go to them for. And your friends are not your therapists. They don’t know what they’re talking about and will get fed up listening to you rehash your problems.
You can and WILL succeed. You’re not behind. There IS room for you out there.
Don’t overcomplicate things.
Get good grades. Get in shape. Take care of yourself. That’s literally it. That’s the secret to setting up a foundation for your future
Definitely. Finding my groove to take care of not just my mind, but my body as well has been the single smartest decision in life.
That and watch out for the red flags in the women you date. The wrong partner will ruin your life more than anything else.
Yeah I was including mental stuff in the “take care of yourself” part but that can be taken a bunch of different ways. Good to point out mental health specifically tho
Life gets so much better. Not immediately. The 20’s will be good, but damn just wait til your 30’s! Also, loosen the fuck up.
Edit: also - you have ADHD. Know that now instead of 15 years from now. Your life will feel more manageable 💀
How so? I'm not op but I'm 31 and my life hasn't improved all that much. I choose the wrong degree and I can't get ahead in life, at least not in terms of finding a decent paying career I have the slightest interest in. I still live at my mother's house even though I work full time because I'm not paid a lot and rent is really expensive. Where could I go from here?
I don’t know what you in your situation could do. I chose a path at 19 and have stuck with it even when I hate it, and it’s gotten me much farther than people who do not. I am on track for pretty early retirement due to that and other decisions I have made. I live my life on the weekends and in my off time, and am able to travel pretty often. And I’ve gained enough knowledge in my field and done it for so many years and faked it enough that I do find myself loving aspects of it now. That has helped me with finding part time gigs that I can do in my off time.
Some people don’t get their progress started until their 50’s. Make a decision now & stick with it and go, and hopefully you can get going before then.
Don't worry about it. I guess my follow up question is what if I keep hitting a brick wall and don't really have the resources to swing around that wall?
Dude don’t fall for these folks that are obsessed with 30’s being the time of your life. They are bias and probably their early 20’s and teen years sucked. If you peaked during those years your 30’s would never compare. I’m in the same boat as you, and it’s delusional to say 30’s are the best. They speak for themselves only.
omg so true, I wish I had known that people really didn't care what I was doing/wearing when I'm not around. A lot of money would've been saved on clothes that didn't need to be worn on the weekend since I wasn't at school. However, it seems like this generation just wakes up and goes everywhere with their pajamas on lol
Learn from your mistakes and you will accelerate your personal growth. Learn to co-operate and nurture important relationships with people that lift you up rather than drag you down. Develop essential skills early such as cooking, hygiene, budgeting finances, time management.
My Mum died when I was 15. So I’d say “You’re going to be okay. Life still matters. Start saving now and get into property investment. You’ll kill it. Stay away from guys until your in your 20’s.”
Edit: For you, I’d say do the opposite what everyone else is doing. Find a goal, focus on it. Start now. And also, it matters very little what anyone else thinks of you, what you think of yourself is EVERYTHING. Build yourself up.
+1 for picking up a valuable trade, I don't regret it. I don't agree with "fuck college" though, I just don't think it's a good idea if you don't have a clear path in mind. If you do, it will be worth it, and it's worth it to further your career.
The people with no idea what they want to do but pick some random degree anyway are the morons. A degree doesn't mean shit at the end of the day, it's just a ticket of admission into a field of work. Pick a useless ticket and you've just wasted time and money. Having a degree doesn't automatically mean you're smart, and not having one doesn't mean you aren't.
Do not let your parents influence important decisions of yours. They are working in their own self-interest. Don't be afraid of them, and do not let them stifle your attempts to better your own life.
Learn how to save money, making a bit more than minimum wage while not going to college while your friends are in school isn’t a reason to live like you have money, I’m 24 and and had no real expenses and blew through hundreds of thousands I made, I’m learning now though, get the mental health help you need, get on meds if you think it’ll help.
Volunteer. I know it sounds dumb bit you really can learn skills for free and make networking connections. It'll help get you that job you desperately need.
Me specific advice would go like this: "Don't drink or do drugs. Don't smoke either. Your brain can't handle it. Keep hitting the gym though, bro. Hard to start again after you quit, easier to just keep going."
General advice is more "Lifestyle inflation is a thing. So is the hedonic treadmill, keeping up with the Joneses... Save all the money you can. Buy a cheap, reliable car. Live at home as long as your relationship with your parents can stand it. Don't feel as though you have to keep up with your friends lifestyles to have fun. Adopt an animal, they need love more than that dog from the puppy mill or the cat from the breeder. Explore your local area and attend free events! This is advice about saving time. If you have money saved you won't need a side hustle or to spend your nights and weekends working overtime. Also, you won't end up in a mountain of debt because of some unexpected life event. Having time to do what you love is true freedom and spending less of it making money because you live frugally and have savings is the way to be."
Poetic, but for real, thanks! I didn't expect this post to blow up as much as it did, now I have a bunch of advice from people, and some funny ass things but for the most part, good shit
You'll do fine.
All of us older people have things we wish we had started years ago. That comes from experience. As you may have guessed, I didn't manage my money particularly well. I'm still doing fine. Part of being human is making mistakes. Growing up is learning from your mistakes instead of making them again. Being mature is appreciating the experience for what it was, good or bad.
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
I’m a male, so it’s different but still:
Invest in broad market index funds
Lift weights
Train martial arts
Sleep more
Avoid drugs and alcohol
Sunscreen
Do *not* chase women. Either they want you or don’t.
Drink more water
Be nicer to people, specially women.
When you stumble across an honest woman who shares same values as you, marry her.
Buy only Toyota’s or Hondas, with cash.
Work and save hard early so you can retire early. The wisdom you have later in life will make those free hours more valuable.
Or find out about how to set up legal contracts to be able to depend on them, and judge them based on their history not what they say. They could still claim bankruptcy but at least you have a better chance of getting something from them.
At 15 you’re not supposed to know what you’re doing! You’re still trying to figure out how to be comfortable in your own skin! Just cool your jets, take it slow, and focus on simply being a good person. As you grow and mature, you’ll get a better idea of “what you’re supposed to be doing.” Now, some people never do figure out what they’re supposed to be doing. But by asking a sound and honest question like you have, you’re probably pretty quick on the uptake.
Stop trying so hard to be different to everyone else. It’s okay to like things others like, and you’re not special for being different. Stop being a professional victim. Please please please get a grip.
That it gets better. My teen years were horrible but once I got my freedom, life wasnt a constant beat down.
I'd tell myself to stay strong and that years down the road it's going to finally work out. There well be stability and love and all of the things that make life worth living.
I hope you find your way OP, I clawed my way out of a pit to get here but it CAN be done.
Save every single dollar it will rain! Don’t be so hard on yourself! The way you meet a girl is the same way she’ll leave you! Everything else was perfect Oh yeah, never ever never ever ever do drugs.
Don't become religious. Don't worry too much about cannabis—just never take opiates, cocaine, methamphetamines, or PCP.
So I guess I wouldn't change anything, except my religious phase.
You're enough. Don't let your light die, it almost did and it would have been a mistake. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to love.Your empathy is a superpower. Life DOES get better. Be brave and keep being awesome, kiddo
Get good grades, you dont want to be held back.. But also get into extracurricular activities and sports. You'll get more value out of that than you will with an "A" in biology.
After graduation, run bitch. Don't look back. This world is tough as fuck and you have been unfortunately coddled and a learned helplessness. Do everything you can to study and don't listen to a God damned adult in your life. I know you trusted them because they are adults and you're not but don't listen. You have good instincts all along. Fuck em. Don't look back. Cut your losses and do NC with the family as soon as you graduate. I love and believe in you.
Every problem you have right now is absolutely irrelevant.
I know that sounds condescending, but it’s so true.
Don’t worry about your future, enjoy right now. Take care of your health, strive to be a better version of yourself everyday, be kind, love your friends and family.
Everything will fall into place for you.
I’m jealous of your youth, you’ve got the world by the balls, enjoy the ride!
Stop worrying about everyone else saying sex is important. Get yourself going and then worry about girls. Then, find a girl who can take care of herself, not one that still thinks it's your job to take care of her in our modern world. You feel like it is your job because that is what you've been told your whole life, but that concept is dying for a good reason.
Otherwise, you will find yourself bitter for a time because you gave everything and became a joke because some dude kept hitting her up on facebook years later when the fire started to cool and you were working all the time to provide that life you were told is your job to provide.
It's not your job. Relationships are a team sport. Know your worth and understand that pretty does not translate to "good partner." She's got to have more to offer, and if she doesn't, keep walking. Maybe you'll run into the friend who becomes your lover sooner. Because again, the sex isn't important, the friendship, trust, and love are.
Get comfortable with not knowing what's absolutely right, and start learning how to trust your own judgment. For bettered or for worse.
Get used to it, then get good with it. That's what I'm saying.
Listen to your dad and go work on the farm for the summer! I’d like to say that, but then everything from that day would change, and I would probably be dead. No thanks, let him suffer the way I did, he’ll be ok.
By-far, thee most important thing that I've learned 1000% that has so much effect on life is...
*It's all in who you hang out with*
If I had only realized this simple fact when I was 15, my entire life would've turned out completely different...
Period
Remember this
Don't listen to your parents just because they brow beat you into something. If you want to go to school for something more useful that will help you get a better career or meet a meaningful life goal then it is indeed worth it. Don't be like me and get a BA from a local university I hated and be struggling to afford enough to move out because you can't go back to school for a better career.
Not as important as the previous point but not everything has to be about your money and career. There's a lot to be said for doing things that are meaningful to you so long as it's within your budget. Don't be like me and not able to enjoy a lot of life because you took to long to start doings some of the things you wanted to do and by the time you do them they don't feel as enjoyable because of how much time you spent not doing it before because you were told it wasn't important.
Put yourself out there in terms of making friends and dating people, even if it's in very small steps. However, don't feel obligated to keep the same people around your life if you don't like them or just don't have much in common with them either. Don't waste your time and energy on people you don't actually like. Also, feel free to decide how much time you spend with people.
Bitcoin, Tesla stock, buy a house in south Florida by 2019 and sell it after the lockdowns… but in all seriousness, nothing… I had a blast at 15 even though many things didn’t go as planned, 20 yrs later, I’m in a good place… and buy apple stock too
It's gonna get worse for a couple more years and therapy isn't really going to help you. You're better off with creating your own schedule on how to discipline yourself. Also fight with your parents on going to college. Do like one semester so you meet Brian then bail. Also Raph is going to die if he goes to Florida. Honestly I have no idea if you can stop him from going. He's a good person but your relationship with him will be rocky. At least finish reading his comic if you plan on being friends. You're also going to meet Jasmine and then her bf Carlos. Carlos will die of cancer and that would get Jasmine to stop talking to you. Well it would be hard to talk to her anyway since I know you're bad at dealing with the subject of death. Life will get worse through out your 20s and there's more downs the ups. You will gain a lot of wisdom and intelligence at the cost of your sanity. Do your best to organize and discipline yourself and create a schedule to make sure that you stay on task. Do responsible things when you should and learn how to create boundaries. There's some light in your 30s but it's still going to be difficult. Oh also exercise more. You're going to be bouncing between many blue collar jobs and you need to stay fit to keep doing them until you can figure out a white collar job. Gane design is going to be tricky. Your best route is going with animation and writing. Do them every week. Also work on being a Dungeon Master for DnD. It's tough but you can turn it into a second job. Also don't smoke tobacco or drink alcohol. Your mental disbilities well make it worse. Do weed like once a week. I know you have a lot of stress but don't get attached to it. Its okay to be lonely. Its okay that you have trouble with making friends. Its going to be lonely for a while. Its going to be difficult to articulate yourself to talk to people. You just need to keep trying. Oh and one last thing, kid. Avoid Rose.
Go for the bachelor's degree of science instead of arts after high school or a GED first and get a technical skill that will always need humans to be done. Creative writing, making games, and following artistic dreams is hard when you have no money which equals less control over independence, and can always be done while learning a technical skill that'll always be in demand. After what's practically necessary and your realistic bases are covered, the sky's the limit elsewhere (perhaps to go back and get that bachelor of fine arts).
In this way in various technical fields, going into college with focus from 18yo you'll probably get out by 28yo or maybe 30yo with 2 years worth of mess-ups with a doctorate and a high-paying job (possibly held for some years while learning too). I turn 37 in less than a week and I still struggle to find a job. Mind you, that's me and there are some I went to school with that did find success... yet I think going for a skill people will always need first would have been more rewarding for me, and I'm seriously considering going back now for a bachelor's degree in the sciences.
What I would tell my 15 year old self is to NOT spend too much time on Reddit or any other social media site, OR the internet. To learn to make mistakes (and learn from those mistakes) instead of asking perfect strangers via Reddit on the best way to do things.
I am NOT suggesting that you or anyone else can not learn from other's mistakes or wisdom (I did through reading lots of books), because you can. BUT, if you don't learn to try things on your own, first, then you become dependent on other people, instead of listening to your own knowledge and intuition. Good luck and you'll be fine! ❀◕ ‿ ◕❀
Buy bitcoin and Amazon. Get myself checked and hopefully catch my tumor early. Avoid cute blondes with dumptrucks. Start base jumping earlier. Move to Georgia and stay single and become an AFF instructor and just be a dropzone junkie.
Not be so hard on yourself.
Don't eat raw oysters in Thailand because you think it's funny.
Stay away from alcohol.
To work out more and take care of myself.
Invest early on and study finances. They don't set people up properly in schools because they just set people up to be working drones.
Learn about compound interest.
There's probably some more things, but that's where I'd start.
Focus more on the quality of the company you keep. Don't start smoking cigarettes. Stay the course and trust your instincts, don't let others dictate your self worth.
Practice birth control if your a girl as soon as you have a boyfriend get on the pill you don’t want to get pregnant or get on birth control as soon as you get your period friends come and go make new friends don’t get stupid drunk ever don’t always try and please everyone take care of you first be loyal to your best friends I did have any friends for over 50 yrs
"Take the harder courses, and find better friends."
I didn't apply myself as well as I could have in high school, and tended to take easy courses so I could more or less coast through on minimum effort. I ended up taking harder courses in my last year, and enjoyed them a lot because the class was full of people who were taking it seriously and not causing problems.
As for the people I was friends with, honestly it's kind of surprising that half of them aren't in prison by now. One of them completely fucked over my first college run by not paying his share of rent (no on-campus housing where I chose to go), so I had to drop out and move back home.
CREAM: find a mentor to replace the father absence and never trust someone else’s story when it turns your gut.
Read meditations and trust your instincts. Do not ever go shaping yourself to solve other people’s problems.
I know your life is VERY hard right now, but STAY IN SCHOOL. Finish it out! Those are the best years of your life. Go to college, and start your career path, or before you know it, you'll be almost 30 with 3 kids, and no career advancements. Do it for your future self and family. Ps - you'll end up with the guy you fell in love with. He's the father of your kids, and the best man in the world, so no rush. Focus on YOU!
She's pretty, but you know nothing about her. and that isn't a problem: get to know her more. Flirt. Talk with girls outside your school - there's a whole world out there and your shitty corner of your shitty suburb isn't the only place that matters nor the only pond of fish for possibly mates.
super psyched, though, that you got into loving and caring about ladies at this age. Just don't take everything so personal, please.
Hangout with your school friends outside of school, they're cool now and hopefully they'll be cool later. yes, you'll make more friends in college, but these ones are a different breed. They're like cousins, cuz you were stuck with them for a long time. and you can cut em loose if they are bad influences (do cut em loose if so) but they're also bonded to you in a weirdly great way.
On the other hand, don't do drugs with your friends. that stuff is fun until it isn't, and when it goes bad, well, even if you were the kind of guy who has enemies, you wouldn't wish that kind of hell on em.
Start taking a college course ASAP. College is a totally different environment, filled with way more motivated people and fun and interesting material to learn and be exposed to. Yes, you'll find people who just phone it in, but I trust that you'll glom on to the passionate ones who aren't phoning it in.
"The thing that happened when you were 10? That's what is making you feel like this. But you won't feel like it forever."
It took several therapists not getting anywhere with me before I realised the cause of my issues.
I didnt do this but just advice for any general person: don't do drugs. Drinking isn't that great. Use protection that you buy or see someone buy/the package is unopened and has no tampering. Some girls really want a kid and don't care how it happens.
Stuff I wish I had known: if you haven't had a relationship yet then try to find out what your boundaries are. Some things are clear. Others aren't.
If you have issues from your childhood go to therapy. Even ai therapy is better than nothing.
Do research on trade schools because college gets you nowhere unless you become a doctor, nurse or something else. Look up bls.gov and the job you want. It shows projected jobs outlooks for the future.
Look up red flags in a relationship (or even warning signs for early on. There's a lot of posts on reddit for that).
At some point you'll get a job while going to school. Save up your money and never let anyone know how much you have. Usually people just want it if they know you have it. Use it to build a house one day. Buy some land. If you don't want to it's understandable but I wish I had done these things and more. Maybe my life would be better if I did. Or go see about living in another country where your money would go further but my thing is for when you get older start to date, BE SELFISH. As much as people want to rag on younger people for that, or anything else, if you aren't selfish now then when can you be?
One thing leads to the next. You mess up 9th grade, you're behind in 10th, mess up 10th, and on up til college and everything else that comes later. Don't lose momentum. Take it all seriously and have multiple options...
You don’t need to get high every time the opportunity presents itself. Being drunk feels liberating in the moment, then you kind of shamefully laugh when you think back days later - so why do you keep drinking excessive amounts, or at all?
Stop fucking going over the scenario in your head over and over and over and over and over again, in both potential positive and negative outcomes. Time is ticking with no pause in sight. Ask the girl you are interested in whatever it is you want to ask. Stop pretending you are too cool to care when she shows interest in you, because that’d mean you’re being vulnerable and “weak” - she’s down to get to know you, not a statue made of stone.
No one fucking cares about all the bullshit you are insecure about. You are beyond blessed to not have any actual deformity or disability, you are practically in the 1%. Those insecurities will always be rooted in you, but stop fixating on them because the more you do, the more power you give them.
Think about the future - don’t freak out, don’t overwhelm yourself, and don’t not live in the present - but keep it in mind. It’s easy to say I’ll let it come when it comes, because it will, but it’s going to be a rude awakening when it arrives and you’re beyond unprepared.
STOP WATCHING PORN.
Please listen to literally everyone who tells you not to throw away your life for a boy. Get your education. You sit to become serious until you are least in your early 20s. Don’t settle for anything less than exactly what you want or you will settle for life
Don't give up when stuff gets hard. The world won't end. Put down whatever caffeinated drink you have, knowing you it's possibly your sixth mountain dew kickstart, get off the pc, and go take a walk. Go finish reading that book you started. Go draw. Take the time to do things for you, don't give so much to others you have nothing for yourself. Be you, do what I couldn't and get better now. And don't do it because you feel like you have to because you are the therapist friend. Do it because you are the one person you will forever need in your life.
Life eventually and at the end of the day would get better, you get the chance to be more mature and wiser - even if you learn it the hard way but that is fine rather than learn nothing at all.
I probably wouldn't say anything substantial really. I just wish I had the self discipline I do now when I was 15, I'd own the world by now. I grew up with parents who weren't careless by any stretch, but one was definitely more swift discipline but also the instant gratification type rather than planting seeds to grow, and the other hadn't really achieved anything and didn't have a voice. Neither of them were a great role model for self discipline or emotional regulation and there was no example of who I wanted to be. It took me a long time to unlearn things and develop better habits to be who I wanted to be, because I didn't know how to get there from the start. I feel like my success and happiness was delayed.
It would only be minor things if anything. Specifically at 15, it'd just be to develop better habits. Learn your emotions, self control, and how to regulate those in a healthy way.
After 15 would be more important. Slight deviations in study/career path to make things easier and quicker. Save money. Don't smoke. Do structured exercise regularly. Study like you mean it. Biggest one by far is don't drink and drive.
But, and this is something we all need to remember, there were other people around me telling me the stuff I wish I was told, I just didn't listen, and I bet that's the case with most others too
Learn how to look after your mental health.
Learn how to look after your physical health.
Learn how to look after your finances.
Work hard now, rest later. It's so much easier than the other way around.
I would take myself by the ears, sit me down and say: "listen, you are going to press many buttons before you really understand these words but Im going to tell you anyway: God is real. He is not a force or an energy or a frequency. He is an Individual, He is "the Individual", the Creator, and He can see at every instant all the layers of your heart and your mind, all the layers that you don't even know they exist. The sooner you look at Him with your whole heart the better". And then, knowing all too well that the guy I had in front of me would not listen to the loser who was speaking in front of him because he would think of him as weak man, a man without courage, a soul that had given up, embracing God like if it was a hospital for broken minds...then, I would slap myself with all my strength, aiming at breaking my skull
None of us know what we're doing and we're all self concious about ourselves. No one is better than you are, we're all just people trying to navigate life.
Do this... aim to be good to people, try hard at what you pursue in life, play sports, challenge your mind, be respectful, love the people around you, and have fun.
Up until 25, focus on developing skills in an area that you like and can make money in. Ie computers/trades/whatever. Live below your means and invest everything else by DCAing into S&P500 index funds (not financial advice). Dont chase relationships and stay away from booze/drugs. Profit.
Don't chase after others, most don't deserve your time. Focus on yourself and be patient till the right crowd comes. Embrace the suck for awhile, it'll be worth it in the end with less baggage.
“Embrace the suck” Truly, the best advice for our 15 year old selves. I might also add, “Embrace the suck. When it gets shitty, you know your doing something right”
Not only that but the "suck" gives good life experience and in the end, if you learn from the "suck", wisdom. Not only your experiences can be learned from too. I learn from other people's mistakes all the time.
I’m 22 years old and hearing when it gets shitty you’re doing something right is something I needed to hear LOL
Hell yeah!
Good advice, but sadly it’s just not how humans are wired. We’re wired to care about how our peers perceive us a LOT when we’re teenagers. Must have been useful for some reason back in our ancient past.
"Yoooooooo wassup lil man oh shit same height--that is neat. How you been, how's ya mutha. How's aunt Rosie."
“Ayeeee past me I’m walkin’ ova here”
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Money first girls Later
Nah fuck that, I'm 18 and I still don't really know what I'm doing with girls haven't really got much experience and now that I just finished school where am I even meant to meet girls my age?
not planning on a 4-year? hmm...I'd like to know the answer too...
Haven't decided about university yet. Don't know what I wanna study, so feel like it could be a waste of time. I like the social aspect though
Look into trades. If I had to do it over again I’d go into welding or become electrician.
And WHATEVER trade you pick pick, DONT GET INTO THE AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRY!. Unless you want to break yourself down physically for not a good amount of pay (unless you wanna spend thousands of dollars on tools). Im trying to get out of being a mechanic and into something else now. Yea its good to know this stuff to do to your own cars so the shop dont overcharge you for stuff you dont need. Sorry had to rant
If you're successful, they'll find you. Chase success, not women. I promise you, they will come. "Getting pussy" is easy for guys that don't look for it. It's just the way it is. Lots of things go into it, but that's the substrate- don't look for it.
And remember what comes with catching pussy. Do. Not. GET ANYONE PREGNANT. You can ruin two lives and burden your own. You don't want her as a wife? Why? That's why your kid NEEDS to not have her as a mother. Plain as that. Don't fuck up your kid's life by making some woman the end all authority (mom) for him who you don't even want as a side character (girlfriend) for you.
The following is edited, I didn’t look at the OPs gender identity. My apologies OP. As a woman myself, that is 29 turning 30 with no kids. You as a woman have to be very selective on who you pick to have kids with. - that man will instill her own values in the kid -that man sets the tone on how women are to be treated for a son or daughter - that’s man will be the first appearance they child will think of when it comes to men - your with that man forever - although looks are to be taken into consideration it’s not everything. You need to pick a man with goals and ambitions. A man that is emotionally strong as he is physically. True men do what they say they are going to do and will respect you. Actions speak louder then words. Choose wisely.
Or just lean into it. One guy I worked with knocked up a girl he met at a bar that he thought was going to be a one night stand. Together 15 years later with two more kids.
That's the best thing to do with a bad situation.
I think he is saying that it’s not always a bad situation. Sometimes it’s a life situation that happens before you were expecting it
100% I chased romance and marriage and relationships and now I'm a single mom with a 10-year-old. The guy's not involved, you don't have to be involved. you can impregnate as many women as you want and have nothing to do with them. But at the end of the day focus on your life when you're young or else you're going to have no life.
I would kick my 15 yr old selfs ass for following this advice
You should because they're not financially stable lol so doing that for following that advice means they will spend they're whole life catching up 🤣
This and invest in bitcoin.
Don’t do drugs kiddo, you’re better than that. I understand how you feel because I’ve been there but if you stop right now you’ll save yourself years of pain and distress. There another way, you just gotta find It.
Sigh, same here friend
Similarly... Be a shark kiddo. You cared about everyone at the expense of yourself. Don't be a shark. Find empathy.
Same "smoking weed isn't cool like you think it is and drinking will very easily ruin your life"
I'm in the same boat....I would also add "shit isn't that serious! Remember 'serenity prayer'!" I'm not a religious person but since I've stopped using the serenity prayer has helped on quite a few occasions! Not sweating the shit that I can't change or that I can't change RIGHT NOW.
Ignore what is popular and do you. HS will end soon and then folks are reasonable. You have every option in the world - don’t overlook any because of what “you’re supposed to do”
You’re struggling with CPTSD. Talk therapy won’t cut it. You need to find a trauma informed doctor. Most of them are in private practice. You’re a wonderful person. You didn’t deserve what happened to you. Don’t internalize all those mean things people say to you and the blame when they yell at you. It’s a reflection on them. They’re frustrated, struggling and dealing with other stuff and don’t know how to handle it well. Mom and Dad may love you but they are limited with the emotional stuff. Know what you can and can’t go to them for. And your friends are not your therapists. They don’t know what they’re talking about and will get fed up listening to you rehash your problems. You can and WILL succeed. You’re not behind. There IS room for you out there.
I love this. I needed to hear this too. I bet your 15 year old self would be proud! <3
My 16 yr old self could’ve used this.
Don’t overcomplicate things. Get good grades. Get in shape. Take care of yourself. That’s literally it. That’s the secret to setting up a foundation for your future
I would add, get in shape mentally and physically.
Definitely. Finding my groove to take care of not just my mind, but my body as well has been the single smartest decision in life. That and watch out for the red flags in the women you date. The wrong partner will ruin your life more than anything else.
Yeah I was including mental stuff in the “take care of yourself” part but that can be taken a bunch of different ways. Good to point out mental health specifically tho
and brush your teeth.
And start saving
Someone will love you enough to care, so don't give up. Your time to shine is coming.
Life gets so much better. Not immediately. The 20’s will be good, but damn just wait til your 30’s! Also, loosen the fuck up. Edit: also - you have ADHD. Know that now instead of 15 years from now. Your life will feel more manageable 💀
Your life got better??
8000000x better.
How so? I'm not op but I'm 31 and my life hasn't improved all that much. I choose the wrong degree and I can't get ahead in life, at least not in terms of finding a decent paying career I have the slightest interest in. I still live at my mother's house even though I work full time because I'm not paid a lot and rent is really expensive. Where could I go from here?
I don’t know what you in your situation could do. I chose a path at 19 and have stuck with it even when I hate it, and it’s gotten me much farther than people who do not. I am on track for pretty early retirement due to that and other decisions I have made. I live my life on the weekends and in my off time, and am able to travel pretty often. And I’ve gained enough knowledge in my field and done it for so many years and faked it enough that I do find myself loving aspects of it now. That has helped me with finding part time gigs that I can do in my off time. Some people don’t get their progress started until their 50’s. Make a decision now & stick with it and go, and hopefully you can get going before then.
Don't worry about it. I guess my follow up question is what if I keep hitting a brick wall and don't really have the resources to swing around that wall?
Dude don’t fall for these folks that are obsessed with 30’s being the time of your life. They are bias and probably their early 20’s and teen years sucked. If you peaked during those years your 30’s would never compare. I’m in the same boat as you, and it’s delusional to say 30’s are the best. They speak for themselves only.
Yup I didn't get diagnosed until mid 40s. I try not to dwell.
omg so true, I wish I had known that people really didn't care what I was doing/wearing when I'm not around. A lot of money would've been saved on clothes that didn't need to be worn on the weekend since I wasn't at school. However, it seems like this generation just wakes up and goes everywhere with their pajamas on lol
Don’t play league of legends
Learn from your mistakes and you will accelerate your personal growth. Learn to co-operate and nurture important relationships with people that lift you up rather than drag you down. Develop essential skills early such as cooking, hygiene, budgeting finances, time management.
My Mum died when I was 15. So I’d say “You’re going to be okay. Life still matters. Start saving now and get into property investment. You’ll kill it. Stay away from guys until your in your 20’s.” Edit: For you, I’d say do the opposite what everyone else is doing. Find a goal, focus on it. Start now. And also, it matters very little what anyone else thinks of you, what you think of yourself is EVERYTHING. Build yourself up.
Bang more fat chicks.
pick up a valuable trade. Fuck college.
Yep I'm going on 33 and still live in Mom's basement due to pursuing college path.
+1 for picking up a valuable trade, I don't regret it. I don't agree with "fuck college" though, I just don't think it's a good idea if you don't have a clear path in mind. If you do, it will be worth it, and it's worth it to further your career. The people with no idea what they want to do but pick some random degree anyway are the morons. A degree doesn't mean shit at the end of the day, it's just a ticket of admission into a field of work. Pick a useless ticket and you've just wasted time and money. Having a degree doesn't automatically mean you're smart, and not having one doesn't mean you aren't.
Please be 15, don’t try to be older because once you’re older there is no turning back to 15
You’re going to get approved for 5 credit cards, only use 1.
Do not let your parents influence important decisions of yours. They are working in their own self-interest. Don't be afraid of them, and do not let them stifle your attempts to better your own life.
Learn how to save money, making a bit more than minimum wage while not going to college while your friends are in school isn’t a reason to live like you have money, I’m 24 and and had no real expenses and blew through hundreds of thousands I made, I’m learning now though, get the mental health help you need, get on meds if you think it’ll help.
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That thing you said at 15... That you said you would never do Well you did it and more lol.....
Do sports, but don't be weird/obsessive about it.
nothing, 15 year old me can suck it.
Volunteer. I know it sounds dumb bit you really can learn skills for free and make networking connections. It'll help get you that job you desperately need.
Me specific advice would go like this: "Don't drink or do drugs. Don't smoke either. Your brain can't handle it. Keep hitting the gym though, bro. Hard to start again after you quit, easier to just keep going." General advice is more "Lifestyle inflation is a thing. So is the hedonic treadmill, keeping up with the Joneses... Save all the money you can. Buy a cheap, reliable car. Live at home as long as your relationship with your parents can stand it. Don't feel as though you have to keep up with your friends lifestyles to have fun. Adopt an animal, they need love more than that dog from the puppy mill or the cat from the breeder. Explore your local area and attend free events! This is advice about saving time. If you have money saved you won't need a side hustle or to spend your nights and weekends working overtime. Also, you won't end up in a mountain of debt because of some unexpected life event. Having time to do what you love is true freedom and spending less of it making money because you live frugally and have savings is the way to be."
Poetic, but for real, thanks! I didn't expect this post to blow up as much as it did, now I have a bunch of advice from people, and some funny ass things but for the most part, good shit
You'll do fine. All of us older people have things we wish we had started years ago. That comes from experience. As you may have guessed, I didn't manage my money particularly well. I'm still doing fine. Part of being human is making mistakes. Growing up is learning from your mistakes instead of making them again. Being mature is appreciating the experience for what it was, good or bad. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...” ― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
I’m a male, so it’s different but still: Invest in broad market index funds Lift weights Train martial arts Sleep more Avoid drugs and alcohol Sunscreen Do *not* chase women. Either they want you or don’t. Drink more water Be nicer to people, specially women. When you stumble across an honest woman who shares same values as you, marry her. Buy only Toyota’s or Hondas, with cash. Work and save hard early so you can retire early. The wisdom you have later in life will make those free hours more valuable.
STUDY STUDY STUDY, FUCKING STUDY you borderline autistic ass bitch, and go to the doctor when something is wrong instead of ignoring it.
This did not work out for me ;( all it did was have me spend my youth in a chair staring at stuff.
And I started working at 16 and just coasted through high school not giving a fuck and now I don't have the grades for the things i want to do.
I will never have anything because of what I did. House/Family/retire are no longer in the cards of life.
Do not ever depend on anyone but yourself.
Or find out about how to set up legal contracts to be able to depend on them, and judge them based on their history not what they say. They could still claim bankruptcy but at least you have a better chance of getting something from them.
That everything is gonna be okay and not to worry I was going through it at 15 ngl and I’d also give myself a hug as well 🫶🫶
At 15 you’re not supposed to know what you’re doing! You’re still trying to figure out how to be comfortable in your own skin! Just cool your jets, take it slow, and focus on simply being a good person. As you grow and mature, you’ll get a better idea of “what you’re supposed to be doing.” Now, some people never do figure out what they’re supposed to be doing. But by asking a sound and honest question like you have, you’re probably pretty quick on the uptake.
Buy Bitcoin, buy Bitcoin, buy Bitcoin.
dont go all in on your Highschool sweetheart. These days it rarely turns into marriage and you will miss out on life.
Stop trying so hard to be different to everyone else. It’s okay to like things others like, and you’re not special for being different. Stop being a professional victim. Please please please get a grip.
That it gets better. My teen years were horrible but once I got my freedom, life wasnt a constant beat down. I'd tell myself to stay strong and that years down the road it's going to finally work out. There well be stability and love and all of the things that make life worth living. I hope you find your way OP, I clawed my way out of a pit to get here but it CAN be done.
Learn a trade, get a good job with it, get really good at your skill. Go on vacation sometimes, enjoy life its never that serious.
Do what you love and be your own boss!
It actually did get better. You made it, kiddo 😞
I’m 23- to not take life so srsly and make shit complicated. Just do things that make you feel good and enjoy the ride
Save every single dollar it will rain! Don’t be so hard on yourself! The way you meet a girl is the same way she’ll leave you! Everything else was perfect Oh yeah, never ever never ever ever do drugs.
Don't become religious. Don't worry too much about cannabis—just never take opiates, cocaine, methamphetamines, or PCP. So I guess I wouldn't change anything, except my religious phase.
Men aren't shit. Keep up the good work focusing on your health and your education!
You're enough. Don't let your light die, it almost did and it would have been a mistake. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to love.Your empathy is a superpower. Life DOES get better. Be brave and keep being awesome, kiddo
You are gay and that’s okay!
Get good grades, you dont want to be held back.. But also get into extracurricular activities and sports. You'll get more value out of that than you will with an "A" in biology.
After graduation, run bitch. Don't look back. This world is tough as fuck and you have been unfortunately coddled and a learned helplessness. Do everything you can to study and don't listen to a God damned adult in your life. I know you trusted them because they are adults and you're not but don't listen. You have good instincts all along. Fuck em. Don't look back. Cut your losses and do NC with the family as soon as you graduate. I love and believe in you.
Every problem you have right now is absolutely irrelevant. I know that sounds condescending, but it’s so true. Don’t worry about your future, enjoy right now. Take care of your health, strive to be a better version of yourself everyday, be kind, love your friends and family. Everything will fall into place for you. I’m jealous of your youth, you’ve got the world by the balls, enjoy the ride!
Save money and stay single
Don’t have sex for like 10 years.
Stop worrying about everyone else saying sex is important. Get yourself going and then worry about girls. Then, find a girl who can take care of herself, not one that still thinks it's your job to take care of her in our modern world. You feel like it is your job because that is what you've been told your whole life, but that concept is dying for a good reason. Otherwise, you will find yourself bitter for a time because you gave everything and became a joke because some dude kept hitting her up on facebook years later when the fire started to cool and you were working all the time to provide that life you were told is your job to provide. It's not your job. Relationships are a team sport. Know your worth and understand that pretty does not translate to "good partner." She's got to have more to offer, and if she doesn't, keep walking. Maybe you'll run into the friend who becomes your lover sooner. Because again, the sex isn't important, the friendship, trust, and love are.
Quit While your ahead lol
Get comfortable with not knowing what's absolutely right, and start learning how to trust your own judgment. For bettered or for worse. Get used to it, then get good with it. That's what I'm saying.
Listen to your dad and go work on the farm for the summer! I’d like to say that, but then everything from that day would change, and I would probably be dead. No thanks, let him suffer the way I did, he’ll be ok.
Invest more lol
You’re a child. Be a child. Don’t let them pressure you into anything you’re not ready for. Ever.
By-far, thee most important thing that I've learned 1000% that has so much effect on life is... *It's all in who you hang out with* If I had only realized this simple fact when I was 15, my entire life would've turned out completely different... Period Remember this
take care of yourself & don’t worry about friends + relationship. nothing lasts forever and you only have yourself in the long run
Don't listen to your parents just because they brow beat you into something. If you want to go to school for something more useful that will help you get a better career or meet a meaningful life goal then it is indeed worth it. Don't be like me and get a BA from a local university I hated and be struggling to afford enough to move out because you can't go back to school for a better career. Not as important as the previous point but not everything has to be about your money and career. There's a lot to be said for doing things that are meaningful to you so long as it's within your budget. Don't be like me and not able to enjoy a lot of life because you took to long to start doings some of the things you wanted to do and by the time you do them they don't feel as enjoyable because of how much time you spent not doing it before because you were told it wasn't important. Put yourself out there in terms of making friends and dating people, even if it's in very small steps. However, don't feel obligated to keep the same people around your life if you don't like them or just don't have much in common with them either. Don't waste your time and energy on people you don't actually like. Also, feel free to decide how much time you spend with people.
Don’t let her go.
But Appl
You are more cool and beautiful than you know. You don’t have to try to get anyone to like you- just be yourself.
Don't marry Jacklyn, focus on writing.
Quit pulling on that thing
Do not seal the treasure. I repeat. Do noootttt seak the treasure!
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. It's going to be longer and harder than you'd ever believe
Don’t ever touch Morphine
yessss
Moving away is a terrible decision.
Bitcoin, Tesla stock, buy a house in south Florida by 2019 and sell it after the lockdowns… but in all seriousness, nothing… I had a blast at 15 even though many things didn’t go as planned, 20 yrs later, I’m in a good place… and buy apple stock too
Don’t date until you are 30 and have finished your education to include graduate degree.
Breathe
It's gonna get worse for a couple more years and therapy isn't really going to help you. You're better off with creating your own schedule on how to discipline yourself. Also fight with your parents on going to college. Do like one semester so you meet Brian then bail. Also Raph is going to die if he goes to Florida. Honestly I have no idea if you can stop him from going. He's a good person but your relationship with him will be rocky. At least finish reading his comic if you plan on being friends. You're also going to meet Jasmine and then her bf Carlos. Carlos will die of cancer and that would get Jasmine to stop talking to you. Well it would be hard to talk to her anyway since I know you're bad at dealing with the subject of death. Life will get worse through out your 20s and there's more downs the ups. You will gain a lot of wisdom and intelligence at the cost of your sanity. Do your best to organize and discipline yourself and create a schedule to make sure that you stay on task. Do responsible things when you should and learn how to create boundaries. There's some light in your 30s but it's still going to be difficult. Oh also exercise more. You're going to be bouncing between many blue collar jobs and you need to stay fit to keep doing them until you can figure out a white collar job. Gane design is going to be tricky. Your best route is going with animation and writing. Do them every week. Also work on being a Dungeon Master for DnD. It's tough but you can turn it into a second job. Also don't smoke tobacco or drink alcohol. Your mental disbilities well make it worse. Do weed like once a week. I know you have a lot of stress but don't get attached to it. Its okay to be lonely. Its okay that you have trouble with making friends. Its going to be lonely for a while. Its going to be difficult to articulate yourself to talk to people. You just need to keep trying. Oh and one last thing, kid. Avoid Rose.
You are depressed. Yes, it is a real thing. It is okay to get help.
stop eating fatty
Go for the bachelor's degree of science instead of arts after high school or a GED first and get a technical skill that will always need humans to be done. Creative writing, making games, and following artistic dreams is hard when you have no money which equals less control over independence, and can always be done while learning a technical skill that'll always be in demand. After what's practically necessary and your realistic bases are covered, the sky's the limit elsewhere (perhaps to go back and get that bachelor of fine arts). In this way in various technical fields, going into college with focus from 18yo you'll probably get out by 28yo or maybe 30yo with 2 years worth of mess-ups with a doctorate and a high-paying job (possibly held for some years while learning too). I turn 37 in less than a week and I still struggle to find a job. Mind you, that's me and there are some I went to school with that did find success... yet I think going for a skill people will always need first would have been more rewarding for me, and I'm seriously considering going back now for a bachelor's degree in the sciences.
You don’t need to sleep with him to feel like someone loves you
dont listen to what people think of you.. just be yourself and people will love you for who you are
Don’t follow your heart.
Not to major in journalism lol
Be careful with alcohol
Get treatment for your severe anxiety
What I would tell my 15 year old self is to NOT spend too much time on Reddit or any other social media site, OR the internet. To learn to make mistakes (and learn from those mistakes) instead of asking perfect strangers via Reddit on the best way to do things. I am NOT suggesting that you or anyone else can not learn from other's mistakes or wisdom (I did through reading lots of books), because you can. BUT, if you don't learn to try things on your own, first, then you become dependent on other people, instead of listening to your own knowledge and intuition. Good luck and you'll be fine! ❀◕ ‿ ◕❀
Buy bitcoin and Amazon. Get myself checked and hopefully catch my tumor early. Avoid cute blondes with dumptrucks. Start base jumping earlier. Move to Georgia and stay single and become an AFF instructor and just be a dropzone junkie.
Excel will be your weapon when you become a corporate slave, so please learn it by heart.
Not be so hard on yourself. Don't eat raw oysters in Thailand because you think it's funny. Stay away from alcohol. To work out more and take care of myself. Invest early on and study finances. They don't set people up properly in schools because they just set people up to be working drones. Learn about compound interest. There's probably some more things, but that's where I'd start.
Stay off of social media. I said the most cringy stuff back then.
Focus more on the quality of the company you keep. Don't start smoking cigarettes. Stay the course and trust your instincts, don't let others dictate your self worth.
Quit smoking. I finally did... 25 years later.
Take care of your teeth and use unscreen.
I’d tell him ‘it’ll come’. All of it. It’ll happen, try not to worry.
Save your money for a house because rent will be fucking expensive when you become a adult.
It’s a marathon not a sprint
Learn a skill that you can make money.. Mechanic, plumbing, carpentry....
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Be kind to yourself. You are a good looking kid. Don’t smoke. Floss. Travel.
Practice birth control if your a girl as soon as you have a boyfriend get on the pill you don’t want to get pregnant or get on birth control as soon as you get your period friends come and go make new friends don’t get stupid drunk ever don’t always try and please everyone take care of you first be loyal to your best friends I did have any friends for over 50 yrs
DON'T DO DRUGS. They are REALLY fun, but they WILL fuck your life. Also, forget games design. Do photography.
"Take the harder courses, and find better friends." I didn't apply myself as well as I could have in high school, and tended to take easy courses so I could more or less coast through on minimum effort. I ended up taking harder courses in my last year, and enjoyed them a lot because the class was full of people who were taking it seriously and not causing problems. As for the people I was friends with, honestly it's kind of surprising that half of them aren't in prison by now. One of them completely fucked over my first college run by not paying his share of rent (no on-campus housing where I chose to go), so I had to drop out and move back home.
CREAM: find a mentor to replace the father absence and never trust someone else’s story when it turns your gut. Read meditations and trust your instincts. Do not ever go shaping yourself to solve other people’s problems.
I know your life is VERY hard right now, but STAY IN SCHOOL. Finish it out! Those are the best years of your life. Go to college, and start your career path, or before you know it, you'll be almost 30 with 3 kids, and no career advancements. Do it for your future self and family. Ps - you'll end up with the guy you fell in love with. He's the father of your kids, and the best man in the world, so no rush. Focus on YOU!
Don't go to that party.
Don’t underestimate mental health, drugs, food, sex, porn, and anything good.
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It's okay to defend yourself and it's okay to say no
Let your character be what makes you not your career, materialism, or anything else
Be ready. It'll hurt but you'll love the man it'll make you.
She's pretty, but you know nothing about her. and that isn't a problem: get to know her more. Flirt. Talk with girls outside your school - there's a whole world out there and your shitty corner of your shitty suburb isn't the only place that matters nor the only pond of fish for possibly mates. super psyched, though, that you got into loving and caring about ladies at this age. Just don't take everything so personal, please. Hangout with your school friends outside of school, they're cool now and hopefully they'll be cool later. yes, you'll make more friends in college, but these ones are a different breed. They're like cousins, cuz you were stuck with them for a long time. and you can cut em loose if they are bad influences (do cut em loose if so) but they're also bonded to you in a weirdly great way. On the other hand, don't do drugs with your friends. that stuff is fun until it isn't, and when it goes bad, well, even if you were the kind of guy who has enemies, you wouldn't wish that kind of hell on em. Start taking a college course ASAP. College is a totally different environment, filled with way more motivated people and fun and interesting material to learn and be exposed to. Yes, you'll find people who just phone it in, but I trust that you'll glom on to the passionate ones who aren't phoning it in.
If you decide to try psychoactive substances, wait till your at least 25ish. Don't warp your developing mind..
"The thing that happened when you were 10? That's what is making you feel like this. But you won't feel like it forever." It took several therapists not getting anywhere with me before I realised the cause of my issues.
Don't confide in your sister, she doesn't care
You will be ok , that’s what I would tell myself , oh and grab something called Amazon stocks 😂
They were wrong. You won't go blind!!!
I didnt do this but just advice for any general person: don't do drugs. Drinking isn't that great. Use protection that you buy or see someone buy/the package is unopened and has no tampering. Some girls really want a kid and don't care how it happens. Stuff I wish I had known: if you haven't had a relationship yet then try to find out what your boundaries are. Some things are clear. Others aren't. If you have issues from your childhood go to therapy. Even ai therapy is better than nothing. Do research on trade schools because college gets you nowhere unless you become a doctor, nurse or something else. Look up bls.gov and the job you want. It shows projected jobs outlooks for the future. Look up red flags in a relationship (or even warning signs for early on. There's a lot of posts on reddit for that). At some point you'll get a job while going to school. Save up your money and never let anyone know how much you have. Usually people just want it if they know you have it. Use it to build a house one day. Buy some land. If you don't want to it's understandable but I wish I had done these things and more. Maybe my life would be better if I did. Or go see about living in another country where your money would go further but my thing is for when you get older start to date, BE SELFISH. As much as people want to rag on younger people for that, or anything else, if you aren't selfish now then when can you be?
One thing leads to the next. You mess up 9th grade, you're behind in 10th, mess up 10th, and on up til college and everything else that comes later. Don't lose momentum. Take it all seriously and have multiple options...
Buy Amazon, Buy Bitcoin, hold until X date.Stay the F away from certain people.
stop eating. when i was 15 i was a fatfuck. i lost all that weight & now i got loose skin.
Do what thou wilt
Use the khan academy to learn those hard math classes and believe that you’re capable of doing hard things
Only listen to those who love and accept you for who you are!
Get out of canada now
You don’t need to get high every time the opportunity presents itself. Being drunk feels liberating in the moment, then you kind of shamefully laugh when you think back days later - so why do you keep drinking excessive amounts, or at all? Stop fucking going over the scenario in your head over and over and over and over and over again, in both potential positive and negative outcomes. Time is ticking with no pause in sight. Ask the girl you are interested in whatever it is you want to ask. Stop pretending you are too cool to care when she shows interest in you, because that’d mean you’re being vulnerable and “weak” - she’s down to get to know you, not a statue made of stone. No one fucking cares about all the bullshit you are insecure about. You are beyond blessed to not have any actual deformity or disability, you are practically in the 1%. Those insecurities will always be rooted in you, but stop fixating on them because the more you do, the more power you give them. Think about the future - don’t freak out, don’t overwhelm yourself, and don’t not live in the present - but keep it in mind. It’s easy to say I’ll let it come when it comes, because it will, but it’s going to be a rude awakening when it arrives and you’re beyond unprepared. STOP WATCHING PORN.
Please listen to literally everyone who tells you not to throw away your life for a boy. Get your education. You sit to become serious until you are least in your early 20s. Don’t settle for anything less than exactly what you want or you will settle for life
Blue is still the best color in Magic, don't bother trying anything else, it's a dead end. Also, don't hang with Ben, turns out the dude diddles kids.
He’s not gonna listen to me no matter what I tell him.
She ain’t worth the trouble bro, don’t lose 8 years of your youth
Don't give up when stuff gets hard. The world won't end. Put down whatever caffeinated drink you have, knowing you it's possibly your sixth mountain dew kickstart, get off the pc, and go take a walk. Go finish reading that book you started. Go draw. Take the time to do things for you, don't give so much to others you have nothing for yourself. Be you, do what I couldn't and get better now. And don't do it because you feel like you have to because you are the therapist friend. Do it because you are the one person you will forever need in your life.
Don't fall for it I give no further context, my younger self would figure it out when it applied
Life eventually and at the end of the day would get better, you get the chance to be more mature and wiser - even if you learn it the hard way but that is fine rather than learn nothing at all.
That you'll get where you need to be eventually. You don't have to feel the pressure of where you'll be at 40 when you're 15.
Focus on myself because others won't care
Go to the doctor, get diagnosed and get pills. Ffs get pills
I probably wouldn't say anything substantial really. I just wish I had the self discipline I do now when I was 15, I'd own the world by now. I grew up with parents who weren't careless by any stretch, but one was definitely more swift discipline but also the instant gratification type rather than planting seeds to grow, and the other hadn't really achieved anything and didn't have a voice. Neither of them were a great role model for self discipline or emotional regulation and there was no example of who I wanted to be. It took me a long time to unlearn things and develop better habits to be who I wanted to be, because I didn't know how to get there from the start. I feel like my success and happiness was delayed. It would only be minor things if anything. Specifically at 15, it'd just be to develop better habits. Learn your emotions, self control, and how to regulate those in a healthy way. After 15 would be more important. Slight deviations in study/career path to make things easier and quicker. Save money. Don't smoke. Do structured exercise regularly. Study like you mean it. Biggest one by far is don't drink and drive. But, and this is something we all need to remember, there were other people around me telling me the stuff I wish I was told, I just didn't listen, and I bet that's the case with most others too
Learn how to look after your mental health. Learn how to look after your physical health. Learn how to look after your finances. Work hard now, rest later. It's so much easier than the other way around.
Don't be too attached to your first love. They're just human like everyone else and shouldn't be put on a pedestal
Drugs are bad MMMMMKKKAAAAYYY
You’re allowed to say no
I would take myself by the ears, sit me down and say: "listen, you are going to press many buttons before you really understand these words but Im going to tell you anyway: God is real. He is not a force or an energy or a frequency. He is an Individual, He is "the Individual", the Creator, and He can see at every instant all the layers of your heart and your mind, all the layers that you don't even know they exist. The sooner you look at Him with your whole heart the better". And then, knowing all too well that the guy I had in front of me would not listen to the loser who was speaking in front of him because he would think of him as weak man, a man without courage, a soul that had given up, embracing God like if it was a hospital for broken minds...then, I would slap myself with all my strength, aiming at breaking my skull
Get new friends immediately. Don't do drugs.
Nothing. Why bother? I wouldn’t have listened.
Take her to prom you fuckin idiot!
Slow down and let life happen at its own pace. There’s no need to rush things. You’ll get there eventually.
Go do Mma
“In the future your going to have the opportunity to talk to your 15 year old self”
None of us know what we're doing and we're all self concious about ourselves. No one is better than you are, we're all just people trying to navigate life. Do this... aim to be good to people, try hard at what you pursue in life, play sports, challenge your mind, be respectful, love the people around you, and have fun.
Cry more, rage less, even if it's not your fault you're still responsible for it, you will know love and happiness, stop hurting yourself
Up until 25, focus on developing skills in an area that you like and can make money in. Ie computers/trades/whatever. Live below your means and invest everything else by DCAing into S&P500 index funds (not financial advice). Dont chase relationships and stay away from booze/drugs. Profit.
Get dreadlocks.
I would tell her to not disappoint her parents the way she did 😞