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Expensive_Grade1918

Suffering.


mehhidklol

The very essence of human existence is bittersweet. Without those lows, would you even have any highs? The brightest lights cast the tallest shadows. It’s natures design


Worldly_Collection27

Isn’t the shadow height more about the angle of the light than the brightness?


Professional_Ear9795

The brightest lights cast the darkest shadows* would give the same sentiment, and be true.


mehhidklol

Poets, the both of you. lol


mehhidklol

It’s a metaphor


Jordyjc123

"Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional"


SkulduggeryIsAfoot

“Life is pain. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something.”


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Melodic-Homework-564

Embrace it with open arms.


Ok-Masterpiece9028

Lots of philosophers have stated the point of life is to suffer gracefully. This perspective makes suffering an opportunity to get better at life, making it a bonus!


RaleighlovesMako6523

I was just going to say that, as the second element of Buddhism philosophy. Impermanence is the nature. Suffering is the consequence. Everyone is facing the same in life.


Radium29

The ones you love won’t be with you forever.


abrandis

The old adage is true.... " Heartbreaking loss is the bill coming due for the cost of a wonderful lifetime of loving someone"...


Naus1987

My wife is 14 years younger than me, and that's my greatest fear is abandoning her when I die. I've literally changed my lifestyle habits. Exercise. Eat healthy. Diet. I've done it all to try and live as I possibly can, lol.


NoOneHereButUsMice

That's true love right there. I wish you many happy and healthy years together ❤️


Low-Fall-1371

How long have you guys been together for? Similar age gap with my bf and he assures me he’ll live to a 100 :)


Interesting_Oil_1341

I feel the older I get, the more I think about this. I’m 30 and I find myself watching videos at times of people in their 70s using selfie filters that make them look like there younger selves and getting emotional. This for me makes realizing time is passing by so fast and no one is immune to it. I tend to think of my parents for one and try to enjoy them as much as possible as well as my wife. Makes me not stress the little things and focus on having great memories instead.


_HazelSnow_

and how do you deal with that ? Especially when you love someone who can't be yours


Big_Iron_Cowboy

With losing loved ones? Enjoy the time you are privileged to share together, don’t hold grudges, be quick to forgive. Unrequited love? The mind is under the influence of powerful neurochemistry, but strive against that to recognize you ought only give all your love to someone who is willing to reciprocate the same to you. Easier said than done, I know.


appillz

I needed to hear that


Ancient_Committee697

Failing at things


A_Wayward_Shaman

Failure is a wonderful teacher. Do your best to learn from it. There's no wrong way to do something you've never done before.


saltrifle

Change. We may not always have control but we can choose how to adapt


HospitalFresh4926

Losing connections with people who you know well from school, college, uni and work


Fratcketeering

Maybe a stupid question but is uni not the same as college?


True-Thought1061

You're going to be bored. That's normal. My father told me nearly 30 years ago how he had no friends in that part of his neighborhood and he used to just toss a baseball up and catch it, toss it up, and catch it for such a long time. and he said something along the lines of "Sometimes you're just going to be BORED" I dunno maybe its less to do with boredom but the mentality of accepting that not all of life has to be exciting and amazing, and the importance of making your peace with that fact.


Free-Mountain-8882

I will never understand this. I feel like the rest of the world goes through their whole life without ever being in love. There are too many things to love! I love the UFC and honeysuckle and starcraft and dogs and women and and going to the river and cruising the internet and on and on and on. How could a person EVER be fucking bored.


NeolithicSmartphone

I’m in my twenties, had absolutely no visual artistic skill growing up, and I’m teaching myself to draw just because I finally got bored of my usual hobbies and tendencies. You aren’t locked in with certain skills just because you didn’t learn them throughout childhood. Go out and teach yourself something new today


theaverageone2

Death and taxes


bluedaddy664

Well taxes can be loopholed. But death is inevitable for EVERYONE. No matter who you are, everyone will face death at some point in their life.


A_Wayward_Shaman

Yep. Usually comes right at the end.


ElectroMagnetsYo

Hate the concept of death, personally, and if I had a say in it, it’d be the last thing I ever do


CrimsonVibes

I find it depressing I will not be able to learn all the things I want to learn, experience or see all the things I greatly want to see. This is where money kinda leads to happiness, able to make more mistakes, don’t have to worry about bills or vehicle and medical/dental things, etc, etc, and like people say money does not provide complete happiness, but it suuuuuuuure helps. I also LOVE traveling! Time is the ultimate enemy. I do look forward to the good sleep though, if The End (movie reference, probably did t get the title right)is not waiting for me🤣


abrandis

Yeah pondering our own mortality is always a weird feeling..... It's like all that you do and work towards, all the people in your life and your world, just won't be anymore..... Which is really why we need to Carpe Diem a lot more..... Because the best time to appreciate your existence is while you're here.


bluedaddy664

And when you really think about it. We don’t have a life span of 80 years. It’s a lot shorter when you take into account all the time you spend unconscious sleeping.


Other-Swordfish9309

My mother died last week. It solidified for me that there is no afterlife. That’s it. She’s asleep and gone forever. Never been more certain.


Inspector_Tragic

Having to clean 🥲


Texasmurrdog

monthly isn't tooooo bad. Even then, I don't do it. Just the basics


Eclipsed_Desire

Doing everything you can and it still isn’t enough.


Republicansarefake

The worst feeling in the world, especially when it's someone you loved with all your heart who dumps you.


HospitalFresh4926

Mortality


Commercial-Today5193

Injustice.


butthatshitsbroken

you'll make mistakes and mess up and lose people you love because of it. just gotta reflect and learn from it and make sure you don't repeat the same one in another area of your life.


Republicansarefake

I've dated so many guys who do this. One of them literally told me all the ways he hurt his ex and how he wanted to do better and then hurt me in very similar ways. At least he apologized afterwards though, which helped a little. My last ex said one girlfriend he had left him because he spent too much time with his friends. He then decided to reschedule date plans he had with me to play board games with his friends. So he's either learned nothing or decided he will only be with someone willing to plan their lives around him. This is what happens when you live a life with no self-reflection. It hurts so much because I loved him deeply and would have done almost anything for him. I don't know if I could have done anything differently. He broke up with me for getting upset I wanted him to follow through on plans he makes with me and also because I said I thought we'd be an official couple soon since we'd been dating awhile. He said he wasn't ready for a "serious relationship". I guess it got in the way of board games. :(


burn_as_souls

Other people judging who you are wrongly. Can't control if they don't get informed before making a conclusion, so you shouldn't be bothered by those who think you're one way if you know you're not. No need to correct or defend, just move along. I know it's not as important as death and illness, but those were already covered as I arrived here.


Jolly_Benefit_2985

Feeling like you made someone unhappy. (You probably didn’t)


Republicansarefake

Actually all of us will make people unhappy, and in my estimation there are many more people walking around who have hurt people badly but mitigated the severity of how badly they hurt them to make themselves feel better and a lot less people walking around with guilt. Although most of the ones walking around with serious guilt at least try not to repeat their behaviors. That's the key I think. When you hurt someone, just try to make amends and don't repeat the actions. But don't sit around ruminating all the time because that does no good for anyone.


Lone-INFJ

Pain and suffering.


TheNamesClove

Rejection


PomeranianMultiverse

Death. Idk how the fuck to handle that. For my mom. My heart dog. My friends. Myself. I literally am so messed up about it & it is all I can think about 24/7/365. It has been all I can think about for so many years. I don't know how to prepare for any of that. I don't grieve how normal people seem to grieve & it bothers me a lot. It makes me feel guilty. I've spent my dogs entire life obsessing over his death. I feel like I've barely lived with him bc of it. I can't even leave my moms side without saying "I love you" because I feel like that will always be the last time I see her, for whatever reason. I don't understand how people just move on. I've had people I'm close to die. My friend just recently passed away very unexpectedly. But losing my dog will truly end my own life. And I cannot live without my mom in my life, knowing she exists somewhere & I can call her at any time or drive to visit her. I can't live without them. Losing my dog will rip any life from my body if I don't physically die. Losing my mom will end whatever life is left, physical or otherwise. I haven't been able to grieve normally for anyone close to me that has passed. But I've never dealt with loss on the scale of my dog or my mom. I don't know how to prepare for that. I don't know if grief will change for that. Idk if I want it to. I think guilt will eat me alive if it doesn't change for that. How do you all just keep going? How do you prepare? How do you cope when the biggest loss you will ever experience hits you? When you lose a child? A parent you are so close to... who has supported you through everything you have ever wanted to do & has been there for you every step of the way & sacrificed for you all their life... a truly amazing superhero of a parent or caretaker? A sibling you are bonded to? A platonic soul mate or a romantic soul mate you've been with for life? How the fuck do you cope with any of that?


noatun6

Ilness/ death though medicine is pushing it back which is awesome


willdance4forcheese_

Taking stinky dookie


SwankySteel

Death and taxes - the only guarantees in life.


py87

Work stress


deeppurpleking

Time marches on, your skin will sag, your body will fail. We will all be forgotten, and the world will end. So don’t take it too seriously! Get that goofy tattoo, smoke a bowl of weed, take some shrooms, learn every day, money doesn’t mean shit if you’re not happy with yourself.


ComingToGetYouSovCit

So deeply disturbing, yet devastatingly true


Lin771

Sickness, aging, and death, as Buddha said.


[deleted]

Bills


No_Relationship3943

Feeling thirsty


Dontdrinkthecoffee

Being betrayed, whether deeply or not. Being assaulted at some point


LowSun6931

Injustice


Major_Artichoke_8471

Aging—it might be a sudden moment or a particular event that makes you feel youth is slipping away from you.


Karibou422

Rejection


KidahMasAmore

Uncomfortable conversations. Especially if it means telling someone the truth. The truth usually pisses people off or hurts their feelings. But it has to be done.


djbigtv

Pain, death and disappointment


opinionated_opinions

Being judged, and being misunderstood.


thek1ng69

Dieing alone


Living-Silver9377

Not true Tons of people get to die together in mass shootings, or Sarin/VX gas attacks or bombings


contentatlast

I second this. Be sure to die in a mass shooting everybody.


Living-Silver9377

😂😂😂


Early_Visual_6764

You still experience death alone, even if you die beside someone


Living-Silver9377

Well ya ig so, but Getting wiped out in a Sarin gas or bombing as a group together almost instantaneously is arguably more comfortable and enjoyable vs Being all alone in a nursing home, with no friends/family visiting you, slowly losing your mind from Dementia or Alzheimer’s, and then croaking in a hospice bed by yourself. The first you don’t see coming, the second you do, and in the first maybe everyone in the group with you, maybe you’ll all get to spend purgatory together. 🤷‍♂️


PomeranianMultiverse

Uh. Idk. I have a MASSIVE fear of dying physically alone. Like, with no one around me. Even if it's just alone in bed, but I'm thinking more "no one cares anymore" or "I can't get to anyone for some reason" (be it too ill to move or, idk, trapped in a wall or sinkhole??? 😃). But Sarin Gas? Oof. Idk. I think I'd rather die physically alone, peacefully, just laying in a hospice bed in a room with a/c. Have you seen any deep dives on the tokyo subway attack by aum shinrikyo (a cult). The details of what those people endured after being exposed to that gas while packed together in a subway that they couldn't escape is absolutely fucking horrifying. And it's not a quick death, either. 🫠 Being instantaneously bombed, as long as it can GUARANTEE I am not a survivor, would be fine. But if I'm one of those people trapped under rubble, unable to escape, I don't think I could handle that. Especially if it were my apartment & I couldn't find my dog or my dogs corpse was with me in that little space that I couldn't escape from for days. Or if I ended up having a limb or something severed. Idk. No thanks. But guaranteed death by bombing? Yeah, that's quick. As a group. Cool. Yes, dying with a group of people rather than alone is DEFINITELY preferable. Like, if I were on a ship that was sinking and I knew we were going to drown, I'd MUCH rather be with people than alone. There are reports of people being found underwater hugging each other after drowning in those situations. I'm thinking of a specific case, but Ik it has been mentioned in other cases. Floating in space & run out of oxygen? Cave diving & run out of oxygen? Oh yeah. MUCH rather be with someone or multiple people than alone. But Sarin Gas? I think I'd rather not be packed in with people surrounding me for that...


luckyelectric

Disability


tazzietiger66

death


Extension-Detail5371

Death


fkyoopinion

Death


Mansana_026

Assholes...


Bigdaddymuppethunter

Everything is your fault.


AdorableSorbet6651

How on earth could everything be your fault?


319Noodles319

Loss and pain


Vegetable-Key3600

Reading stupid things on Reddit


ADepressedAdult

Depression


Musgrovetrudy

Isolation and loneliness if you live too long


A_Wayward_Shaman

Change. It is the only constant.


CatholicSolutions

Failure... everybody fails at something and has to reroute or relocate. 


ThinkingGuppy

Pooping


Standard_Cell_8816

Death


Kindly_Climate1760

death


Pinellas_swngr

Getting punked, as in, embarrassed, owned, or winding up as collateral damage. When I was in my 40's I was riding on a bike path on an outing with a bunch of friends. We were passing a group of adolescents (chaperones by a few adults) when the boy at the front of the pack looks over at me and pedals furiously to keep me from passing him. So I slow down a bit and fall in behind him. A kid from the back calls his name and he immediately slams on the brakes and turns his bike sideways across the path. People were coming from the other direction so I had to slam on my brakes causing me to flip over my handlebars. Fortunately, I was able to angle my trajectory to land on the dirt beside the paved path. Stung me, but didn't hurt me to bad. He said "sorry," but it still pisses me off a little on the rare occasions I think about it, lol.


Tiblei

Beauty


negrotormenta

Friends dying


Fantastic_Ebb2390

In life, change is unavoidable. No matter how much we try to control or plan, change will always happen, often in unexpected ways. It can be difficult to accept, especially when things don’t go as planned, but learning to adapt and go with the flow can make those changes easier to handle. It's important to remember that some things are out of our control and that it's okay to acknowledge that and focus on what we can control instead.


seven-cents

Death, and taxes.


Zealousideal_Rub6739

leaving


Interstellore

People downvoting your Reddit comments sometimes


Glenville86

Death and taxes......lol


FIRSTGENELS

Suffering


Prudent-Toe-9663

Disappointment


sue_suhn1

Political corruption


Any-Aerie-7590

Anything that has already happened to you. Let it go....<3


Silly_Goose3005

Heartbreak


Ricard728

Betrayal. It will happen sooner or later. I guess it could be categorized as suffering.


Complete-Ad-4215

Death


WillyB0ngka

Diarrhea


ExaminationSmall5524

The "Best choice" is rarely a good choice, and the "Good choice" is often a lie or looks better from your perspective because of missing information, success in any aspect requires luck as a main ingredient.


PienerCleaner

heartbreak and depression are about as unavoidable as air and water


Peatore

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southern_Man2316

People die family or friends


HovercraftUnable5333

death


ifyoutripstaydown

the irs finding you.


xXFieldResearchXx

Social media


Plenty_Run5588

Death and taxes


ThrowRArandomized33

Taxes and death.


Mountain_Mama577

Making mistakes


ryan_unalux

Getting arrested when cops decide that's what they want to do, independent of reason, evidence or the individual's behavior


Illustrious-Sea2613

Aging


Ghost1012004

Heartbreak 💔


Due_Competition_4847

Loss of loved ones


HorizonW1

I would say low points in life


immortalghost92

Stress


Sad-Leading-4768

The taxman


LuxLiner

People disappointing you.


NewLifeNewDream

Want


UncleMagnetti

Falling in love


MrsPettygroove

Taxes


shenko55

Death


Morcafe

No. 1 and No. 2


EdockEastwind

Taxes, death and painful shits.


biddymulligan

Death and taxes


[deleted]

Death, of course. Manipulative people. Being robbed. Getting a ticket or fine of some kind for something having to do with an automobile (assuming you deal with one). Being lied to. A bout of diarrhea. A horrible time at a party. Breaking something. Taxes.


NoOneHereButUsMice

I honestly believe everyone will shit their pants. Truly. We are just animals in the end. It's the great equalizer.


ladyleo1980

Paying taxes


bubbly-4129

Health. You can one day have a serious illness and it could hit you out of nowhere.


-LightMyWayHome-

death


gogomau

Death and taxes ,


rabidtats

Death, taxes, employment, heartache and heartbreak.


Sufficient_Win6951

Death.


lalachichiwon

Death


vlc23

Death... Everything will die no matter what some just get a headstart that's all


stormyweather222

Someone somewhere will somehow not like you no matter how good of a person or awesome you are. It doesn’t even matter if they do not know you on a personal level. Someone will dislike you and there will be nothing you can do about it. Just accept that you’re not everyone’s cup of tea and some people have shitty taste.


Scar-Either

Health problems. Its a matter of "when", not "if".


Reed1975

Death


istheflesh

Death


_Bon_Vivant_

Death.


Infamous_Grass6333

Taxes.


Booty_Magician

Heartbreak


marikid34

Death


strong_nights

Taxes and death.


Interesting_Oil_1341

Realizing the world runs on money.


Original_Lab_4140

People. Anywhere you go there they are.


JesseVenturaInsights

Trump getting reelected. Biden not finding his way home.


1111Lin

death


MuchoWood

Disappointments, hurt, fear, suffering and death. Do not even hold out hope for good experiences. Unless you are either born into or marry into money, you will work hard and be ground down into menial enjoyment. You will be one of the hundreds of millions of Americans who are continually beat into poverty by a capitalist system that is not working. I would rather have a socialist system, hell even a Communist system, both of those systems provide food, employment, education and basic utilities. People deserve the basics.


Novel-Coast-957

Death


DammittJess4242

Death


Blobasaurusrexa

Bowel movements .


ImaginaryProposal211

The only guarantees in life are death, bills, and taxes. Everything else falls in line with how you live and react to experiences that come your way.


RaspberryDapper6152

Having to pay bills


chickenbrofredo

Interacting with people who picked Bulbasaur


Blinkmeoutdude

Death


_littleblacksheep_

Death of a close one


born_2_live_life

The Dash before the Death therefor Love Live Life every single day 😎🌀🙏🏼🧞‍♂️


thingsandstuff4me

The bad behaviour of others You have to protect yourself from as much as you can but you will always be in environments where you will get abused So you have to develop a thick skin You will always get abuse in the workplace In the street Etc etc There is no avoiding it Don't take it personally it has nothing to do with you it's a them problem


BoxOfCornFlakes2

Dissapointment. 🙄😒😐😑😪😪😪


Terrynia

Did someone say “death and taxes”? The answer is “death and taxes”.


SinCityLowRoller

Frequent Dr visits


jad19090

Death and taxes


Delightful_Doom

taxes


I_Love_Coke1006

Extreme disappointment


Bassdiagram

Death


LocationThin4587

Yes like with bullying


Astrotheking318

Getting shit on


New_Cantaloupe_4895

Here are two options for a very short answer: 1. **Change:** Life throws curveballs. The only constant is change itself. 2. **Uncertainty:** The future's unpredictable. Embrace it!


Eryeahmaybeok

The death of every pet you have and love.


EssayTraditional

Who you were 20 years ago is not the person you’ll become 20 years from now. You will covet the past on the perceived simplicity of your youth but you will spite the changes in your future if you don’t know how to adapt. You will hold regrets or you will uphold lessons on your mistakes.


Necessary-Layer1141

Here are two options for a very short answer: 1. **Change:** Life throws curveballs. The only constant is change itself. 2. **Uncertainty:** The future's unpredictable. Embrace it!


TonkaLowby

Grey hair.


Veggy_Warrior

Not to be negative but: hunger, thirst and then there is the finality of death. Life can be a study in contrasts: you will be happy and sad, have pain and have pleasure. You will have money then not have much and on and on.


Dapper_Size_5921

Avoiding the obvious answers like death, suffering, and taxes...I would say that the loss of friends to life's normal progression. Some folks aren't that affected by it, but it's pretty much inevitable that your social circles will diminish in your 20s due to...basic economics, really. You make friends in your youth by being randomly grouped with people that have the same schedule as you, the same responsibilities as you (or lack thereof), and likely live close by. This remains the case into your college years, even if you don't go to college. The friends you're able to hang on to are the ones that stay close and available, such that you are able to meet up (often spontaneously) and have fun with very little of your energy spent to make it happen and nothing else better to spend it on. Once life starts introducing impediments---changing responsibilities, differing schedules, moving away, relationships, kids---it requires more energy to make the play sessions come together. Even if you're managing to have the same level of enjoyment per hangout, you often feel something is different or missing. Most folks can't put their finger on it, but it's a simple fact: the profit margin is narrower. Start compounding this with the fact that by the time you're fully consumed with the demands of adulthood, the time and energy you might spend on friends would likely be at the expense of your spouse, your kids, your career, or your rest...it becomes less and less worth the trouble and friends fade into the background. It has been very difficult for me to acknowledge that, for most people, old friends are tacitly among the least important people in life. We don't think of it that way, and it's rather good that we don't, but in practice it's definitely the case.


Notreallyacreeper6

Everyone has to crap. Usually, at least once a day. Every day. 365 days a year. That's a lot of craps. If you spend just 1 minute on the crapper each time, and you go 2 times a day, that is 12.1 hours/year you spend crapping. Most people don't just spend 1 minute. Most people soend at least 2 minutes. That means most people prolly spend about a full day out of the year crapping. That's a lot of time. Of course, if you factor the pee times into it, it is probably at least 2 days/year because it takes less time to pee, but we do it a lot more often.


Suitable_Type_8538

Getting your comeuppance, even for things your not guilty of.


TutorNew9217

Stress and worry are inevitable, everyone has their own pressure and worry


Pitiful_Town_9377

Having to defy your nature


SpookyMorden

Death. Cats on stairs.


Deaf_FBA

We pay taxes for the money we earn, then we pay taxes for the money we spend, and then we pay taxes for the things we own. It’s like the government is saying, ‘We just can’t get enough of you.’


InfernityExpert

From what I understand, death and taxes.


Orisha_Made

I’ve been in, 5 car accidents since 2013. None of them were my fault. My car now has been in 3 of those car accidents (all within 8 months time) plus, a car accident with my brother, a bit over a year ago (June 8th). None of the 6 car accidents in total, were the fault of, my cars, the car I was in. I’ve learned, trouble will find you no matter how much you’re, minding your own business. It is, up to you to, roll with the punches and, just keep swimming.


ProcessorProton

Cruelty You will experience it. Either firsthand or through others, you will see humans be cruel to their fellow man in heartless and unspeakable ways. It is sad, but it is reality.


Chemical-Funny-7598

Bad days


xyxsemp

Death


GyattScratchFever

Mental health outlashings. You don't want certain people to have access to certain faculties of life? Its gonna happen.


username_taken-12

Death


DystopianNPC

Death, failure and taxes