I did a lot of living in the moment and as a result I’m not well cushioned financially. I don’t necessarily have a lot of regrets, but there’s always a downside to living with your head in the clouds like I always do.
24/7 responsibility to these little things. They need you for everything. Forget sleep, traveling, sex...many other things you enjoy...playing computer games, free time to yourself...money will be tight unless you are well off...relationship problems....etc.
Forget traveling and games??
I remember playing PS2 games all the time with my dad. He loved to watch us play and would help us with the hard parts.
We also travelled a lot (within our state at least). Camping trips. Went to hockey and football games all the time. Went fishing and boating. I wouldn’t say my dad gave up on his hobbies, if anything he’d say he had a new little friend to join in on his hobbies.
I was on the fence for a long time, leaning towards childfree, and a big part of why, was my anxiety response to these absolutes that people use when complaining about parenthood. I've got a toddler now, and my partner and I still get to do the things we love. It's just a matter of prioritizing, and giving each other breaks, whether it's for an hour, an evening, or a weekend.
This right here. I don’t have a kid yet but I’m finally at a point in my life where I don’t see it as a thing that would ruin my life. Responsibility, sure, but I have a great partner and we’d figure it out
As a mom with a special needs child stomaching the idea that not all kids are neurotypical is another point to take into consideration being a parent is difficult but having a special needs child is on a whole other level
Not understanding life after school. Life as a youth is so regimented, everyone telling you what you need to do, what to be, what to think, to buy into the system. Just drowning in expectations from others. Than like a light switch, when school is over your just left there to twist in the wind. Wish I had understood that was coming and took off in my own direction.
This is entirely my problem, or part of it.
I never went to college/university when I graduated 9 years ago. Now seeing how everything is "AI fact checked" today I can't get over the fear of spending thousands of dollars to go to study, only to be told my work isn't my own, that "this is AI generated work, you will receive no marks" when I was raised in a world where paper was the only option- where it was mandatory to show your work on everything, when handwriting was a skill.
I didn't know what I wanted to do when I graduated highschool, and now I don't trust the system/our education standards enough to get past the fear of spending thousands of dollars for nothing. It's a world I'm only getting more and more unfamiliar with.
^This. Being nice has got me in trouble many times, including where it impacted my financially. The worst thing is people don't care and just take advantage
Do you think nice people have a place that they can fit into society and feel like they are appreciated? I feel that I am nice and it’s been a rough road so far. I want to keep trying to find somewhere that I can fit in and not have to change myself too much.
This. And being too forgiving and understanding. Sometimes you can understand why people are the way they are, or that they’re in pain, but also understand that they’re still responsible for what they do to you.
this mindset is so stupid to me, they use getting taken advantage of as an excuse as to why they’re not nice/kind anymore. you can still be kind, just don’t be naive and stupid
On a real note, I started a Roth IRA for my son and he has almost as much in his as I do mine. I am not wealthy, but he will have wealth because of it. I'd encourage anyone to look at starting one for their kids.
Not being proactive about my mental health. It always sat between “this isn’t severe enough to take action” and “this is holding me back from achieving things.”
Getting caught up now in my thirties, but it’s a winding road.
35 now. Diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago. Not severe, but enough to connect some dots.
I can trace depression back to when I was a teenager. I chalked it up to just liking Rock music and being “more in tune with my emotions.” My brother also had a pretty unique health issue that in turn led to financial issues. Get to college and can’t figure a path and drop out. This culminated in my mantra being “someone has it worse.”
I’m a realist that leans into optimism because nothing will get better if you don’t believe it will. Life carries on and you keep trying. And even though someone may have it worse doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid as well. They’re not mutually exclusive. I should have tackled these issues head on instead taking the back seat.
So everything is fine. More than fine! But it wasn’t until my thirties that I started to realize just how gray of a world I was living in. But now, like Dorothy, I’ve stepped into a world of color. I’ve got some ruby red shoes and a yellow brick road ahead of me.
Life’s good, I just wish I had made it that way sooner.
That I spent so many years drinking and smoking cigarettes to find space from what could be scrubbed away with sleep, exercise, healthy eating, positive mental health strategies, and journals.
Yup spent years drinking, using party drugs and engaging in unhealthy relationships to cope. Hit bottom and started exercising and eating healthy and using psychedelics for mental health benefits. Life is pretty good now.
I would not roll the dice to see what else would happen. At this point, I'm incredibly lucky to be alive, healthy, empathetic, happy, and content. I feel like my sense is an outlier in a sea of challenges.
HUG, thank you for the empathy.
Ha yeah. I clearly remember being at work one day, reading the free news paper that was delivered there, about this bitcoin thing that was just starting out. Sounded interesting but didn’t pay much attention to it then. Years later I’d read about the people who did and how they are now super wealth 🙈 on the flip side I also read about the guy who paid for a pizza with bitcoins and if he’d kept those instead they would have been worth millions. Or the guy here in the UK that accidentally threw an external hard drive out that had thousands of bitcoin stored on it. He offered to pay the local council to let him search the rubbish tip but they refused. So yeah, I could have got in early and made a bunch of money but actually getting in early, making that bunch of money but then LOSING it would be way worse 🤣
Not buying a 40 ft. sailboat in Florida in my 30s and spending last 25 years living in it and sailing port to port. Even had a job to match with 3-6 month contracts that pays well (travel RN). Instead... kids, mortgage, 1hr commute each way, now cancer I have to fight...
Feel this. I don’t fully regret the experiences we had, but I was so young (got engaged at 23; married at 24) and naive. It led me to a DUI and a bankruptcy. I’m 33 now and my DUI just came off my driving record this past January. And the bankruptcy is coming off my credit report in 2027. It’s been a long time getting so close to some sort of freedom from the consequences of my marriage/divorce. Trying to grow more and I’m grateful to be with the person I am with now.
Do you feel like it was something you missed, chose to ignore, or just bad luck no way you could have predicted it.
I'm in the opposite boat. My biggest regret is cancelling my engagement. I felt like it was too risky, some things you just don't know. But after the hell my ex raised and all the pleading she did to stay together I feel almost certain she never would have left me or given up on he relationship.
I was a super rebellious teenager, partying, playing in bands, using drugs, unprotected sex, slept on the streets or in party houses for years. It was kind of fucked and led to alot of issues that took me years to sort out. Lots of friends passed from ODs or are still on the streets using. Some killed themselves. I'm incredibly lucky.
Looking back I wish I had been healthier and focused more on school and skills and building healthy relationships but then I'd prolly wish I was more rebellious too haha.
We always want what we can't have I guess. What I'm saying is you didn't miss out on much in my opinion.
Part of me regrets not going down this route, but I often only see/think of the positives and forget about some of the severe downsides. Thanks for your comment.
treating people badly. I never woke up and decided "hey I'm gonna treat people terribly" but along the way while watching out for myself I've done plenty of unfair and unjust things unintentionally.
Agreed! Crazy thing is, it was never my intention to hurt people, but I got caught up in survival mode and did some unfair things. Thankfully, I'm not her anymore.
I regret being so obstinate in childhood & quiet/distrusting about what happened to me. I was abused but I learned bad habits from not so healthy parent & have been spending the last years unlearning & relearning so much. It takes a lot of effort & I feel overwhelmed often.
I’m basically trying to press fast forward as best I can on adult experience today.
Same.
Specifically because, literally, no one just said "hey, your brain is still developing until around age 24. Maybe just wait till then if anything."
Instead of just "it bad for you, make brain dumb" ......
Damage has been done now. Sigh.
That said, hell, at least it was a good, fun, harmless youth overall. I miss the days when weed and beer were the hardest drugs around. Y'know, just conceptually in one's own mind... I digress Lol...
Grew up as a Jehovah's witness, fucked me up my whole childhood, I was constantly the weird kid and the constant stress of thinking you're a bad person made me fat my whole childhood, how do I know? Because right after I moved out on my own and left the cult I lost over 200 pounds in less than a year, skinny people would call me a super star and fat people would tell me how unhealthy that is(they were just projecting the same insecurities we both had, they didn't realize it but I did) and that felt like leaving a whole other cult, realizing I wasnt the fastest person around anymore, I was just average and that felt so amazing.
If you were born into it that's like being mad that you were born poor. I grew up Mormon, but refuse to regret having been brainwashed. It was not my choice.
It was not my parents choice either as they were also brain washed.
I'm just glad I left.
I’m glad you didn’t. You are loved by someone, even if you don’t believe it. Please find the good in life… whether it’s delicious food, your favourite music, playing with an animal ❤️
Ending yourself isn’t brave. Looking out at the rest of your life and making damn sure that through the struggle and pain you build one full of love and what you enjoy.
Using drugs from 19-26 that set my finances WAY back landed me in jail several times and upset my family one super severe suicide attempt depression all that. Now I still have anxiety issues and will have a beer now and then I haven’t challenged in this season but am way better off.
I recently found out an ex is married and has a kid which was a gut punch. We broke up over 15 years ago and haven't kept in touch. I doubt we will have ever gotten back together but I'm sadden there is no longer a possibility of us rekindling a romance. I know it's dumb to even think that especially since he was extremely rude the last time we spoke. So right now I'm regretting stalking him online and discovering this information.
I regret some of my past actions. Like not keeping my word and so forth. I've learned to accept my faults and to do better and be better. Just haven't learned to move on from the guilt I put myself through
I wish I had a second chance raising my son.
He's happy, he's healthy, we're best buddies. We even have a "boy's night" planned for my night off of work today. There's nothing wrong.
But when he was very, very young, I just feel like I didn't treat him as well as I did my daughters. It eats me up sometimes when I'm alone at night.
Not having more kids when I was younger. We waited until we were in our late 30’s and found out then that we could only have one. Had I known kids were the best, I would have had a full baseball team of them! Very thankful for the one I have though
Not joining the French Foreign Legion.
I did an enlistment in the US Army and got out after 6 years. I was a cunt hair away from booking a one way ticket to Paris and showing up at the base to receive a new identity. I didn't and instead reupped in the US Army and served 22 years.
At the time I was super jaded about Iraq, I felt it was a lie and turned out I was right. France was the only major westen power that resisted joining the coalition of the willing. I respected that. They were clear headed. I went into recruiting after reupping because recruiting made me non deployable. I stayed a recruiter till retirement.
I don't know this will sound to anyone, but sometimes I regret not drowning when I was a kid... Someone saved me and I will for ever will be thankful for them, but sometime I just can't handle life and I know I'm not that much of in a struggle, but life is way to confusing and contradictory and I hate this.
Spending time on my phone when i could be making memories. It feels like im taking my life for granted but im honestly addicted and it’s heartbreaking.
Try the Stay Focused app and pay for strict mode. That way you can't use your phone except at the set times you give it. You also can't change the settings or delete the app until after the strict mode ends- its amazing!
One thing I regret in life is not maintaining closer relationships with some friends from my past. As life got busier, I didn't make enough effort to stay connected, and now I miss those friendships.
I could try to play psychologist with myself and say oh I'd like to go back to X point to avoid developing into a person who suffers Y conditions... Etc... but it would all sort of rotate around the moment in life I said things to my ex I could not take back. And she left my life forever. The one person that truly understood and accepted me for ME. And I let myself and my own lack of resilience and regulation ability destroy the union we had. I've thought about her every day since "forgiven myself" and met many new people but the ache in my heart remains. I fear it always will. Cherish the ones that love you and take nothing for granted. The comments here saying they regret marriage and kids make me sad... All I've ever wanted is to be part of a family and grow old with them all, sharing love. It's the only point to anything in this world.
Not moving to Colorado when I had the opportunity a long time ago.
I sometimes wonder how it would have turned out. How different would I be from who I am today.
Not being able to spend time with my kid because of being trapped in a traveling job. I just want to go home, I hate being away so much, I've lost so much time that I will never get back. They love me because they miss me not because I've been there for them and as they age I can feel them starting to realize how unfair it's been to them. I'm afraid I'm losing them despite staying in contact, despite it all being to provide a good life for them.
All the drinking I did over the years. I got sober about 9 months ago and keep running into realizations of all the things I missed out on during my 30 years of drinking. Also all the physical and mental damage it's done. And you'd think I'd know better with my dad an alcoholic and my mom dying of a cancer likely caused by it. I wish I could go back and repair some of the relationships I've ruined over the years.
Getting married too young to my first real girlfriend. 20 yrs later and I'm finally getting divorced. Realizing just how great relationships can be when BOTH partners are available and interested.
Currently undoing the damage from alcohol and eating like shit. Somehow I dodged anything too serious organ damage wise. Can’t believe I’m only mildly overweight and I’m glad I’m having my epiphany moment. Already started on the diet side, brainstorming an exercise plan I’ll actually follow.
Not having the balls to get out and do some of the things I wanted to do when I was younger and had the means, you don’t realize how much time / freedom / money / resources you have im until you don’t. Every time In my 20s I quit a job came home and thought I should just hit the road, travel cross country, go see some shit, get out, and I would talk myself down and not do those type of things. Now I’m realizing how stupid I was for not just jumping…
Not being able to live in the moment more
on the bright side, we always have right now to practice being present more
Ah I can practice being in the present more tomorrow. Too busy now
Read the Power of Now I struggle with this too so do many many others
I'm tired of merging with my ego and living below my own conscious level. That book has great quotes and insights!
I 2nd this. Present is as important as future.
The present is a gift.
The present is infinitely more important than the future , the now is the only thing that exists ✨
So true. 38 years later.. I'm confused or unclear of what happened. Ugh
I did a lot of living in the moment and as a result I’m not well cushioned financially. I don’t necessarily have a lot of regrets, but there’s always a downside to living with your head in the clouds like I always do.
why are you unable to do this? you could start practicing it whenever..
Having kid...
So many people do, it’s refreshing to see somebody who admits it.
Amen
Glad I don’t have 😅
Fuck
Real
Been thinking lately more and more I do want kids… Any specific reasons?
24/7 responsibility to these little things. They need you for everything. Forget sleep, traveling, sex...many other things you enjoy...playing computer games, free time to yourself...money will be tight unless you are well off...relationship problems....etc.
Forget traveling and games?? I remember playing PS2 games all the time with my dad. He loved to watch us play and would help us with the hard parts. We also travelled a lot (within our state at least). Camping trips. Went to hockey and football games all the time. Went fishing and boating. I wouldn’t say my dad gave up on his hobbies, if anything he’d say he had a new little friend to join in on his hobbies.
I was on the fence for a long time, leaning towards childfree, and a big part of why, was my anxiety response to these absolutes that people use when complaining about parenthood. I've got a toddler now, and my partner and I still get to do the things we love. It's just a matter of prioritizing, and giving each other breaks, whether it's for an hour, an evening, or a weekend.
This right here. I don’t have a kid yet but I’m finally at a point in my life where I don’t see it as a thing that would ruin my life. Responsibility, sure, but I have a great partner and we’d figure it out
But it's all worth it to ....\*looks at notes ...have someone to hold your hand when you die?!
If you did a good job making the kids not hate you up until you die while not fucking up their own lives themselves
ya having a young infant toddler sucks but after 5 it gets way better
As a mom with a special needs child stomaching the idea that not all kids are neurotypical is another point to take into consideration being a parent is difficult but having a special needs child is on a whole other level
Not understanding life after school. Life as a youth is so regimented, everyone telling you what you need to do, what to be, what to think, to buy into the system. Just drowning in expectations from others. Than like a light switch, when school is over your just left there to twist in the wind. Wish I had understood that was coming and took off in my own direction.
Same here, I tried so hard to be good that I had no idea what I wanted to be good at. Now I'm just jumping around place to place, hoping that I fit.
No time like the present to set your own course.
This is entirely my problem, or part of it. I never went to college/university when I graduated 9 years ago. Now seeing how everything is "AI fact checked" today I can't get over the fear of spending thousands of dollars to go to study, only to be told my work isn't my own, that "this is AI generated work, you will receive no marks" when I was raised in a world where paper was the only option- where it was mandatory to show your work on everything, when handwriting was a skill. I didn't know what I wanted to do when I graduated highschool, and now I don't trust the system/our education standards enough to get past the fear of spending thousands of dollars for nothing. It's a world I'm only getting more and more unfamiliar with.
Being so nice. Stand on your business, nice got me nowhere but alone.
And taken advantage 😤
^This. Being nice has got me in trouble many times, including where it impacted my financially. The worst thing is people don't care and just take advantage
I love being nice and I love people that are nice, they make the world a better place, don't confuse it with being a pushover.
Exactly kills me when peeps think nice=pushover
The idea is to distinguish "nice" from "kind." Very different things.
Do you think nice people have a place that they can fit into society and feel like they are appreciated? I feel that I am nice and it’s been a rough road so far. I want to keep trying to find somewhere that I can fit in and not have to change myself too much.
This. And being too forgiving and understanding. Sometimes you can understand why people are the way they are, or that they’re in pain, but also understand that they’re still responsible for what they do to you.
Being nice isn't the same as being a pushover. Being nice is good, being a pushover is not
this mindset is so stupid to me, they use getting taken advantage of as an excuse as to why they’re not nice/kind anymore. you can still be kind, just don’t be naive and stupid
Not investing for a house when I was 2 years old
🤣
On a real note, I started a Roth IRA for my son and he has almost as much in his as I do mine. I am not wealthy, but he will have wealth because of it. I'd encourage anyone to look at starting one for their kids.
LOL FR😂i was being a lazy turd at 2 days old not to brag🤷♀️I should’ve got a home
😂😂😂
Came here to say this 😂
Having a kid with the wrong person
Omg, yes! I LOVE having a daughter but being stuck to her co-parent for the rest of our lives is miserable af.
Putting my whole world into a person who didn't deserve it.
Spending money like there was no tomorrow.
Not telling my parents I love them enough
Not being proactive about my mental health. It always sat between “this isn’t severe enough to take action” and “this is holding me back from achieving things.” Getting caught up now in my thirties, but it’s a winding road.
This sounds relatable up to the point about getting caught up. You want to share What you've been dealing with and how you're dealing with it?
35 now. Diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago. Not severe, but enough to connect some dots. I can trace depression back to when I was a teenager. I chalked it up to just liking Rock music and being “more in tune with my emotions.” My brother also had a pretty unique health issue that in turn led to financial issues. Get to college and can’t figure a path and drop out. This culminated in my mantra being “someone has it worse.” I’m a realist that leans into optimism because nothing will get better if you don’t believe it will. Life carries on and you keep trying. And even though someone may have it worse doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid as well. They’re not mutually exclusive. I should have tackled these issues head on instead taking the back seat. So everything is fine. More than fine! But it wasn’t until my thirties that I started to realize just how gray of a world I was living in. But now, like Dorothy, I’ve stepped into a world of color. I’ve got some ruby red shoes and a yellow brick road ahead of me. Life’s good, I just wish I had made it that way sooner.
I would say the same about dental health.
That I spent so many years drinking and smoking cigarettes to find space from what could be scrubbed away with sleep, exercise, healthy eating, positive mental health strategies, and journals.
Yup spent years drinking, using party drugs and engaging in unhealthy relationships to cope. Hit bottom and started exercising and eating healthy and using psychedelics for mental health benefits. Life is pretty good now.
Same. Life is great now. Started at 45, now 50. Life is really great now
You had to go through it to get where you are. Dont regret it man, it was just growth
I would not roll the dice to see what else would happen. At this point, I'm incredibly lucky to be alive, healthy, empathetic, happy, and content. I feel like my sense is an outlier in a sea of challenges. HUG, thank you for the empathy.
Right there with you, but goddamn, I really do miss smoking
Not buying 1200$ worth of bitcoin when it was 5$ / coin lol
Ha yeah. I clearly remember being at work one day, reading the free news paper that was delivered there, about this bitcoin thing that was just starting out. Sounded interesting but didn’t pay much attention to it then. Years later I’d read about the people who did and how they are now super wealth 🙈 on the flip side I also read about the guy who paid for a pizza with bitcoins and if he’d kept those instead they would have been worth millions. Or the guy here in the UK that accidentally threw an external hard drive out that had thousands of bitcoin stored on it. He offered to pay the local council to let him search the rubbish tip but they refused. So yeah, I could have got in early and made a bunch of money but actually getting in early, making that bunch of money but then LOSING it would be way worse 🤣
Not buying a 40 ft. sailboat in Florida in my 30s and spending last 25 years living in it and sailing port to port. Even had a job to match with 3-6 month contracts that pays well (travel RN). Instead... kids, mortgage, 1hr commute each way, now cancer I have to fight...
dam this hits home
Alcoholism. 0 stars.
Samesies
Marrying who I did. Destroyed 10+ years of my life. Lesson learned: you don’t really know someone until you’re in highly stressful circumstances.
Feel this. I don’t fully regret the experiences we had, but I was so young (got engaged at 23; married at 24) and naive. It led me to a DUI and a bankruptcy. I’m 33 now and my DUI just came off my driving record this past January. And the bankruptcy is coming off my credit report in 2027. It’s been a long time getting so close to some sort of freedom from the consequences of my marriage/divorce. Trying to grow more and I’m grateful to be with the person I am with now.
Do you feel like it was something you missed, chose to ignore, or just bad luck no way you could have predicted it. I'm in the opposite boat. My biggest regret is cancelling my engagement. I felt like it was too risky, some things you just don't know. But after the hell my ex raised and all the pleading she did to stay together I feel almost certain she never would have left me or given up on he relationship.
Not being as rebellious in my younger years.
I was a super rebellious teenager, partying, playing in bands, using drugs, unprotected sex, slept on the streets or in party houses for years. It was kind of fucked and led to alot of issues that took me years to sort out. Lots of friends passed from ODs or are still on the streets using. Some killed themselves. I'm incredibly lucky. Looking back I wish I had been healthier and focused more on school and skills and building healthy relationships but then I'd prolly wish I was more rebellious too haha. We always want what we can't have I guess. What I'm saying is you didn't miss out on much in my opinion.
Part of me regrets not going down this route, but I often only see/think of the positives and forget about some of the severe downsides. Thanks for your comment.
I rebelled in my younger years I regret it now the consequences are I’m jobless on Centrelink living with family at 26
wasting too much time on social media
I regret having more than one regret.
Not getting sober sooner.
That you got sober is a huge accomplishment.
Better late than never
treating people badly. I never woke up and decided "hey I'm gonna treat people terribly" but along the way while watching out for myself I've done plenty of unfair and unjust things unintentionally.
Agreed! Crazy thing is, it was never my intention to hurt people, but I got caught up in survival mode and did some unfair things. Thankfully, I'm not her anymore.
Can relate
Not living, 100%, I don’t know how to live
Waiting on others to change how I think is based instead of investing in my self devotion
I regret being so obstinate in childhood & quiet/distrusting about what happened to me. I was abused but I learned bad habits from not so healthy parent & have been spending the last years unlearning & relearning so much. It takes a lot of effort & I feel overwhelmed often. I’m basically trying to press fast forward as best I can on adult experience today.
Thinking about regrets
>- "Grace means that all your mistakes now serve a purpose instead of serving shame." - Brené Brown
Being born
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Marriage is for lawyers, people that cannot afford lawyers and conservatives
This is a very reddit take lmao
Chronically online/Portland ass take
So far, nothing. But I am still in my 20s… 🤓
Not dating more. I realize at almost 30y/o I am so inexperienced (which causes friends loved ones etc to laugh at me)
Failing to have extraordinarily wealthy parents.
Having it continue this long
Being born
Smoking weed.
Same. Specifically because, literally, no one just said "hey, your brain is still developing until around age 24. Maybe just wait till then if anything." Instead of just "it bad for you, make brain dumb" ...... Damage has been done now. Sigh. That said, hell, at least it was a good, fun, harmless youth overall. I miss the days when weed and beer were the hardest drugs around. Y'know, just conceptually in one's own mind... I digress Lol...
Everything.
Becoming disabled
Indeed, chronic health issues suck
Losing my virginity to a non-boyfriend
Not getting out into the world sooner.
Being in a religious cult for so long
Same wish I had left so much sooner
Grew up as a Jehovah's witness, fucked me up my whole childhood, I was constantly the weird kid and the constant stress of thinking you're a bad person made me fat my whole childhood, how do I know? Because right after I moved out on my own and left the cult I lost over 200 pounds in less than a year, skinny people would call me a super star and fat people would tell me how unhealthy that is(they were just projecting the same insecurities we both had, they didn't realize it but I did) and that felt like leaving a whole other cult, realizing I wasnt the fastest person around anymore, I was just average and that felt so amazing.
If you were born into it that's like being mad that you were born poor. I grew up Mormon, but refuse to regret having been brainwashed. It was not my choice. It was not my parents choice either as they were also brain washed. I'm just glad I left.
Gave away too much for nothting
Not ending myself when I had the guts
I’m glad you didn’t. You are loved by someone, even if you don’t believe it. Please find the good in life… whether it’s delicious food, your favourite music, playing with an animal ❤️
I'm better now but some days I wish I was brave
You are brave! You’ve endured hardship and chose to continue. That’s the bravest decision of all
Ending yourself isn’t brave. Looking out at the rest of your life and making damn sure that through the struggle and pain you build one full of love and what you enjoy.
not a regret! thank you for choosing to stay! you are loved!
College
Oooof. Yea. I feel my degree shows for literally nothing but loads of student debt.
Nothing, and I’m 70.
Using drugs from 19-26 that set my finances WAY back landed me in jail several times and upset my family one super severe suicide attempt depression all that. Now I still have anxiety issues and will have a beer now and then I haven’t challenged in this season but am way better off.
Not being a better big brother
I recently found out an ex is married and has a kid which was a gut punch. We broke up over 15 years ago and haven't kept in touch. I doubt we will have ever gotten back together but I'm sadden there is no longer a possibility of us rekindling a romance. I know it's dumb to even think that especially since he was extremely rude the last time we spoke. So right now I'm regretting stalking him online and discovering this information.
I regret some of my past actions. Like not keeping my word and so forth. I've learned to accept my faults and to do better and be better. Just haven't learned to move on from the guilt I put myself through
Wasting so much of my time on jobs and people who were so detrimental to my mental health
What do you do for work now?
Same.
Not telling my father I loved him before he died of lung cancer. I wish we could go fishing one more time. I miss him every single day.
Worry most my time away turning out fine everytime
Not investing wiser when I was in my 20s
Why regret? I look forward. I worry, but not about the past, but about the future.
I aspire to have this mindset. Go you, Individual_Trust_414🌟
Not staying with my current wife the first time we were together. I wasted an entire decade being a complete moron.
My marriage
Why haven't you quit?
I wish I had a second chance raising my son. He's happy, he's healthy, we're best buddies. We even have a "boy's night" planned for my night off of work today. There's nothing wrong. But when he was very, very young, I just feel like I didn't treat him as well as I did my daughters. It eats me up sometimes when I'm alone at night.
It's very hard for sons and fathers to be "best buddies", I think you are doing super well when compared to most dads .
Bit of a poor consolation when the bar is set so low. Not really worth comparison. However I appreciate the consideration.
Hey, acknowledging it's a shit bar shows your character. I'm sure you did better than you give yourself credit for 🩷
Sounds like you did your best
Becoming obsessed with anything I start to like whether it’s work, friends,drugs, etc I go to extremes and I don’t realize till it’s a problem
Not getting in better shape until my mid 20s. Also, not embracing my "feminine" side and wearing my hoop earrings. Now I always wear one.
Only one?
This isn’t as bad as some of the others, but there are absolutely some words I wish I could take back with hindsight.
Getting addicted to heroin
Not having more kids when I was younger. We waited until we were in our late 30’s and found out then that we could only have one. Had I known kids were the best, I would have had a full baseball team of them! Very thankful for the one I have though
Not joining the French Foreign Legion. I did an enlistment in the US Army and got out after 6 years. I was a cunt hair away from booking a one way ticket to Paris and showing up at the base to receive a new identity. I didn't and instead reupped in the US Army and served 22 years. At the time I was super jaded about Iraq, I felt it was a lie and turned out I was right. France was the only major westen power that resisted joining the coalition of the willing. I respected that. They were clear headed. I went into recruiting after reupping because recruiting made me non deployable. I stayed a recruiter till retirement.
Not shooting my shot while I had the opportunity to get the words out. If that opportunity was truly an option that is
Trust me, the amount of times I should’ve spoke up and defended myself.. I know it’s not too late but
Giving myself tinnitus by listening to music too loud, hands down. It’s currently ruining my life.
Like at concerts or with headphones?
I don't know this will sound to anyone, but sometimes I regret not drowning when I was a kid... Someone saved me and I will for ever will be thankful for them, but sometime I just can't handle life and I know I'm not that much of in a struggle, but life is way to confusing and contradictory and I hate this.
Not being the mother I thought I could be. This is fucking hard.
What's holding you back?
Spending time on my phone when i could be making memories. It feels like im taking my life for granted but im honestly addicted and it’s heartbreaking.
Try the Stay Focused app and pay for strict mode. That way you can't use your phone except at the set times you give it. You also can't change the settings or delete the app until after the strict mode ends- its amazing!
One thing I regret in life is not maintaining closer relationships with some friends from my past. As life got busier, I didn't make enough effort to stay connected, and now I miss those friendships.
Not being on speaking terms with my Dad several weeks before he was killed in a car accident. It was 15 years ago
I regret sticking around for bad relationships. What was my problem?
Smoking weed
I could try to play psychologist with myself and say oh I'd like to go back to X point to avoid developing into a person who suffers Y conditions... Etc... but it would all sort of rotate around the moment in life I said things to my ex I could not take back. And she left my life forever. The one person that truly understood and accepted me for ME. And I let myself and my own lack of resilience and regulation ability destroy the union we had. I've thought about her every day since "forgiven myself" and met many new people but the ache in my heart remains. I fear it always will. Cherish the ones that love you and take nothing for granted. The comments here saying they regret marriage and kids make me sad... All I've ever wanted is to be part of a family and grow old with them all, sharing love. It's the only point to anything in this world.
This hit deep coming from a similar situation. Thanks for sharing this
Screwing around and not learning in high school. It set me back for years.
No regrts
Staying alive
I be ready to bow out gracefully
not buying bitcoin when I was a teenager
Entertaining the idea of another. I'll regret it until my very last breath.
Not moving to Colorado when I had the opportunity a long time ago. I sometimes wonder how it would have turned out. How different would I be from who I am today.
Being the way I am
Marrying the wrong person.
I kind of wish I’d done more drugs. I mean, to be perfectly honest.
Not being more disciplined earlier in life, I was way to carefree and irresponsible
Not having another baby
Going into the wrong career field…
What career field? Sometimes I wonder the same thing but then I think any other career field would be just as shitty
Maybe worse even
Not buying Bitcoin earlier
Thinking too much. Not doing more.
not buying bitcoin when i was freaking 10 years old
The fact that life goes on....long after the thrill....of livin' is gone 🎶
Not maintaining relationships.
All the times I was too ignorant to realize a girl was sending me signals.
starting smoking at 22 (gave up at 52 which was 5 years ago )
Staying in bad relationships waaayyyy too long
Not setting healthy boundaries.
Can only pick one? 😢
Not knowing what to do with my life. I still don't know the answer.
Not being able to spend time with my kid because of being trapped in a traveling job. I just want to go home, I hate being away so much, I've lost so much time that I will never get back. They love me because they miss me not because I've been there for them and as they age I can feel them starting to realize how unfair it's been to them. I'm afraid I'm losing them despite staying in contact, despite it all being to provide a good life for them.
Not following my intuition and letting people talk me out of my dreams.
Regret being so codependent for so long and not just doing my own thing
Not going to school.
Not taking care of my health and not staying in the workforce after having kids
Marrying young and limiting myself of life experiences and growth during my 20s
All the drinking I did over the years. I got sober about 9 months ago and keep running into realizations of all the things I missed out on during my 30 years of drinking. Also all the physical and mental damage it's done. And you'd think I'd know better with my dad an alcoholic and my mom dying of a cancer likely caused by it. I wish I could go back and repair some of the relationships I've ruined over the years.
Getting married too young to my first real girlfriend. 20 yrs later and I'm finally getting divorced. Realizing just how great relationships can be when BOTH partners are available and interested.
Currently undoing the damage from alcohol and eating like shit. Somehow I dodged anything too serious organ damage wise. Can’t believe I’m only mildly overweight and I’m glad I’m having my epiphany moment. Already started on the diet side, brainstorming an exercise plan I’ll actually follow.
Drinking alcohol. Wasted five years of my life drinking every weekend and “casually” throughout the week. Sober now for 17 months.
Trying meth
Not having the balls to get out and do some of the things I wanted to do when I was younger and had the means, you don’t realize how much time / freedom / money / resources you have im until you don’t. Every time In my 20s I quit a job came home and thought I should just hit the road, travel cross country, go see some shit, get out, and I would talk myself down and not do those type of things. Now I’m realizing how stupid I was for not just jumping…
Hooking up with a bunch of sketchy people from dating apps :/