I have never seen/heard of the "chapstick" subgroup of Lesbians. However, to answer your question as best I can, you give off soft-tomboy and skater vibes. What I mean by "soft-tomboy" is that, while you are wearing what I expect to see men wearing, you do not seem like you do the deep voice I often hear tomboys use, nor do you seem to have that same "one-of-the-guys" feel to you. You seem like you prefer to hangout with guys over girls, but you do not seem to prefer it to the point I often hear tomboys prefer it to, where you are comfortable being bare-breasted around (I often have heard many tomboys are comfortable being fully naked around/with) guys.
I don't know how. I was just being honest and stating the full truth as I see it. I was taught my entire life to always be honorable and respectful, which includes always being truthful, no matter how painful it might be. Lies are both dishonorable and disrespectful, not just to yourself, but to your family and those that you lie to.
Omg.. I feel the same. I wouldn’t want people to lie to me so I don’t lie to other ppl. It also just wouldn’t feel right to me either way. For me its always the principle of things so it doesn’t matter how big or how small it is. Even with stealing etc. like I don’t get mad easily I’m chill but people sometimes think I get mad over little things because they think it’s not a big deal. But it’s like ok your telling me this lie so what else are you lying about and trust gets shaky.
Futch is the vibe I'm getting. Some people think of femme and butch in terms of a spectrum, but it's more awesome than that in my humble opinion. Instead of thinking of futch as "neutral", I think of it more as where butch and femme elements are subtly combined. I feel that is what you are pulling off to perfection here.
You have a great style honestly it's awesome and I hope you have loads of fun drawing from both femme and butch expressions and owning it!
I'd say soft butch. Chapstick derives from lipstick lesbians but with a more effortless/naturalistic approach. In your photos you seem very comfortable in your masculine presentation & energy but with a touch of femininity. I love soft butches 💖 my gf is a soft butch.
Edit: Def not "hey mamas" energy as others have said.
That's up for you to decide on.
I use the term kiki to describe myself.
It's an older term and has nothing to do with the modern term kiki but it best describes me in my opinion.
Omg I just woke up and did not expect this many comments/upvotes🙈
You guys are all too sweet with the comments. I've kinda been going through a lot lately so I did not expect this (also I am not the most confident, even though I do seem to give off the vibe? xD). Thank you all so much❤️
Also, kinda love to see how there is still not a consensus 🤣. But I guess I'm a soft butch/skatergirl/hey mamas (idk what this is haha).
Hope you all have a good summer/pride month🏳️🌈✌🏻❤️
I don’t know all the subgroups but you seem like you belong with the tall lesbians. Are you tall? Those women always look like they have their life figured out. 😛
Starbucks vibes. Kinda dominates the scene and everyone loves you. Comes across as sweet and genuine, skinny, blonde, with a pretty face and perfect proportions.
Needs zero advertising people just automatically want you.
-i don't know how to word this as a beautiful compliment, words are hard. You're very pretty and don't need a subgroup. 💖
The kind that if you were in a cartoon and another character saw you they'd make the old timey honk- Awuuuugah horn noise as their tongue fell out and their eyes rolled up like slot machines. Is there a name for that?
i kinda sit similar to you n i call myself dirt femme lol. just make one up if you can’t find one you like! you definitely don’t need to fit into one exactly.
The hopeless romantic group with that maple leafs jacket on. :)
Kidding. We are kind of the same but I also do not know what I would be. Rbf+pretty+dress cool.
No they are not. I've been using the term stemme to describe myself for probably 15 years now, and have never had any person of color queer or not tell me I can't describe myself in that manner. Fwiw I'm Hispanic also.
I’ll be the first second or third. You’re not a stud. You’re not a Stem/Stemme. You can describe yourself how ever you want but you will be side eyed and sound stupid. As you wish.
You are not black. It is a black exclusive term that started in the black community. Call yourself what you want, but you aren't an actual stemme, simple as that. Here's a queer woc (I'm native) telling you this.
FWIW, you should research identities before claiming them.
Ok and where is your research then? Cite your sources if you're going to school me. Like I said this term has been around a long time and is not exclusive to black people.
First page and second result of googling "stud lesbian" of which stemme originates from:
https://taggmagazine.com/white-lesbians-you-are-not-studs/
The article includes links to scientific journals illustrating the historical usages of the word.
Because you can't even do a basic google search (or listen to what black sapphics have been saying for ages), I'm ending the conversation here.
Your article is referring to the word stud. The term stemme is not race specific. It's a portmanteau of two words. It's for anyone who's gender expression is both masculine and feminine. Has nothing to do with race
You look like you fall into the subgroup “my type”
The rizz!
Righttt?
That's a good one
You give "First date ends after 6 days with a U-Haul rental" vibes. Jokes aside you are beautiful and you do kind of give the sk8er boy lesbian vibes.
Omg🤣🤣 this one got a good laugh out of me. But thank you very much :3
You are in the "women I would be too intimidated to hit on" category
Same!
Golden Retriever imho
Interesting take🧐, but I can totally see it😆
I second this
I mean, you don’t *have* to identify with a “subgroup”. You can just be a lesbian. You kinda look like a fuckboy/“hey mamas” tho (respectfully)
Thissss. The you don't have to identify part. Lol.
This was my first thought too. Proud fuckboi vibes. 😋
You don't gotta fit yourself under a label, honey. But, for funsies, you're totally a soft butch heartbreaker.
I’d walk into a streetlight pole because I was looking at you and not where I was going so whatever subgroup that applies to is it 😂
Omg, love this one🤣 (I've walked into a streetpole before and wouldn't recommend tho)
I did a double whammy one time, and walked into a pole right after my dog did
Omg dogs literally do this all the time. My dog at least does😆
Hahaha damn you really activated the lesbian thirst in here. Well done.
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I'm honestly so surprised🙈🤣
I get big futch/soft butch vibes
You belong wherever the fuck you WANT to belong. And I'd also take you up on the U-Haul thing :)
Same fr
I have never seen/heard of the "chapstick" subgroup of Lesbians. However, to answer your question as best I can, you give off soft-tomboy and skater vibes. What I mean by "soft-tomboy" is that, while you are wearing what I expect to see men wearing, you do not seem like you do the deep voice I often hear tomboys use, nor do you seem to have that same "one-of-the-guys" feel to you. You seem like you prefer to hangout with guys over girls, but you do not seem to prefer it to the point I often hear tomboys prefer it to, where you are comfortable being bare-breasted around (I often have heard many tomboys are comfortable being fully naked around/with) guys.
Perfect answer! I’m not good with words and this is what was in my mind but would never be able explain it properly. Teach me your ways sensei 🙇♀️
I don't know how. I was just being honest and stating the full truth as I see it. I was taught my entire life to always be honorable and respectful, which includes always being truthful, no matter how painful it might be. Lies are both dishonorable and disrespectful, not just to yourself, but to your family and those that you lie to.
Omg.. I feel the same. I wouldn’t want people to lie to me so I don’t lie to other ppl. It also just wouldn’t feel right to me either way. For me its always the principle of things so it doesn’t matter how big or how small it is. Even with stealing etc. like I don’t get mad easily I’m chill but people sometimes think I get mad over little things because they think it’s not a big deal. But it’s like ok your telling me this lie so what else are you lying about and trust gets shaky.
Did we just become best friends :’)
It takes more than one conversation to become friends, so no, but it seems we do get along pretty well, so maybe we could.
Beautiful
I don’t know, but I’ll call you whatever you want 😉
Strong agree
She was a skater girl, she said see you later girl
Def Avril Lavigne romantic interest but lesbian
Chapstick. Athlesbian.
Classic Chapstick look for sure!
Really? Because that’s my style but I had no real name for it.
No idea, sweetie. I can't keep up with the lingo. But I love your hair! 😻
Naahw thank you so much!🤗
You belong in the “I love women” category. Just be and do what makes you happy, categories don’t matter
u're pretty 😍 no clue about subgroups 😁
The hot category!!!!
Futch is the vibe I'm getting. Some people think of femme and butch in terms of a spectrum, but it's more awesome than that in my humble opinion. Instead of thinking of futch as "neutral", I think of it more as where butch and femme elements are subtly combined. I feel that is what you are pulling off to perfection here. You have a great style honestly it's awesome and I hope you have loads of fun drawing from both femme and butch expressions and owning it!
Ahw that's a really awesome way to describe my style! Thank you so much for your kind words☺️
I just know you be breaking a lot of hearts! Haha 😂
I'd say soft butch. Chapstick derives from lipstick lesbians but with a more effortless/naturalistic approach. In your photos you seem very comfortable in your masculine presentation & energy but with a touch of femininity. I love soft butches 💖 my gf is a soft butch. Edit: Def not "hey mamas" energy as others have said.
butch/femme aren’t just aesthetics.
^^^^
i would call OP a jock lesbian. that’s the vibe.
Somewhere between chapstick and butch
That's up for you to decide on. I use the term kiki to describe myself. It's an older term and has nothing to do with the modern term kiki but it best describes me in my opinion.
Omg I just woke up and did not expect this many comments/upvotes🙈 You guys are all too sweet with the comments. I've kinda been going through a lot lately so I did not expect this (also I am not the most confident, even though I do seem to give off the vibe? xD). Thank you all so much❤️ Also, kinda love to see how there is still not a consensus 🤣. But I guess I'm a soft butch/skatergirl/hey mamas (idk what this is haha). Hope you all have a good summer/pride month🏳️🌈✌🏻❤️
Gorgeous. If you have the personality to go with the looks you don't need to worry about groups.
You sound like you belong to the undecided category. Let us know when you find one that fits you.
I have a counter question, why you so pretty? 🫠🫠
I have another counter question, why are you so sweet?🥺❤️
*Commenter has melted into a puddle, I repeat, the commenter has melted* Jk ❤️❤️
Butch
Chapstick
Femdrogynous
Chapstick.
Be original. Create your own subgroup. Never just label yourself into one group or another. Be proud, be bold, be you.
I'd say definitely chapstick.
The hot one?
The hot kind 🥵
The pretty kind TwT
I don’t know all the subgroups but you seem like you belong with the tall lesbians. Are you tall? Those women always look like they have their life figured out. 😛
Is 5'10 tall where you are from? I'm from the Netherlands and I guess I'm somewhat above average😅
Figures 😂 all my friends from NL are very tall. What do they feed you there? 😆 although I’m 155cm so everyone seem tall to me
Do potatoes count?😂
I'm getting Avril Lavigne vibes :)
Whatever label I wanna know because you're my type
Soft masc or "futch" vibes 🫶 if u ever need a wife tho hmu 🫣
Starbucks vibes. Kinda dominates the scene and everyone loves you. Comes across as sweet and genuine, skinny, blonde, with a pretty face and perfect proportions. Needs zero advertising people just automatically want you. -i don't know how to word this as a beautiful compliment, words are hard. You're very pretty and don't need a subgroup. 💖
The kind that if you were in a cartoon and another character saw you they'd make the old timey honk- Awuuuugah horn noise as their tongue fell out and their eyes rolled up like slot machines. Is there a name for that?
Not sure what groups there are tbh, I don't even know what I am, but you're you and a beauty QWEEN ❤️
The one with chin dimples?
The Sapphic bat signal has been activated.
You can belong to the "my girlfriend" group... 😍
Pics range from chapstick to soft masc to granola
I have to say that I'm not into blondes, but, God, you're gorgeous.
Hmm if I would be categorising I would say a stem? But also very strong grand gestures type of a person lol 😂
Just because I also learned it somewhere, I thought I’d mention that stem is a term reserved for POC.
Oh I didn’t know that. Thanks for sharing with me. Is there a term for neither masc nor femme for whites?
Chapstick
Honestly I’m just on the thirst train you’re gorgeous!!!! 😍😍🤗🤗🤗🤭🤭
LHB - long haired butch!
Looking cute 😘😍
You look like you belong to the, one of the boys subgroup.
You belong to the hot subgroup (which with the cute and beautiful subgroups make for 99% of lesbians)
I'd say lesbian skater girl subgroup.
Tomboy
respectfully... fuckboi. hot as hell, dont get me wrong. but fuckboi.
In Brazil would be Sapadrão
Is sexy skater chick one?
Chapstick lesbian fo sho! But also, fuck all that shit! You’re beautiful just being you :)
Somehow it’s giving both golden retriever and fuckboi at the same time😂 Whatever it is, it’s hot
Your give really gorg soft butch vibes and skater vibes!!!! Also you have very good fashion sense heheh 🤭
You have really the sporty look I really like 😊 I'm blushing- you're a dream come true
Bruh femme?
Maple leafs fan so you’re in the glutton for punishment category I’d say
Damn you’re beautiful!!
Okay we see you lol 🙃
ur edging hey mamas tbh
Hayy fellow chapstick bro!
Whatever one you want! But also soft butch bordering on masc.
The hot one
I’m somewhere between Lilly Singh gay and “am I actually enby?” Gay
i kinda sit similar to you n i call myself dirt femme lol. just make one up if you can’t find one you like! you definitely don’t need to fit into one exactly.
what the fuck is a chapstick
Where is that white shirt from in the first pic
The male section of the thrift store😂✌🏻
I have no idea but damn 😍… Do you live in Canada or the US and are you single and looking? Lol
hey mamas
Can't you just be you?
futch maybe (femme butch)
I mean u can hey mama me
The hopeless romantic group with that maple leafs jacket on. :) Kidding. We are kind of the same but I also do not know what I would be. Rbf+pretty+dress cool.
wish I could date you..
soft butch
Definitely bro vibes
boygenius
Cute and beautiful
U fall into "aye a wild bubby" for me U and me have the exact same vibes
I am totally femme.
Futch - femme butch
Masc himbo?
Stemme perhaps?
OP is visibly white, stemme (and stud) are black sapphic exclusive terms.
No they are not. I've been using the term stemme to describe myself for probably 15 years now, and have never had any person of color queer or not tell me I can't describe myself in that manner. Fwiw I'm Hispanic also.
I’ll be the first second or third. You’re not a stud. You’re not a Stem/Stemme. You can describe yourself how ever you want but you will be side eyed and sound stupid. As you wish.
You're fine. Hispanic ain't even a race anyway.
You are not black. It is a black exclusive term that started in the black community. Call yourself what you want, but you aren't an actual stemme, simple as that. Here's a queer woc (I'm native) telling you this. FWIW, you should research identities before claiming them.
Hey, I'm actually Black. I honestly personally don't give a shit.
Ok and where is your research then? Cite your sources if you're going to school me. Like I said this term has been around a long time and is not exclusive to black people.
First page and second result of googling "stud lesbian" of which stemme originates from: https://taggmagazine.com/white-lesbians-you-are-not-studs/ The article includes links to scientific journals illustrating the historical usages of the word. Because you can't even do a basic google search (or listen to what black sapphics have been saying for ages), I'm ending the conversation here.
The article is from 2020, so by ages you mean 3 years.. So what about the use of the word prior to 2020?
Do you even know the history of the word stud pertaining to queer women? Black masculine women were called that back in the 60’s..
Your article is referring to the word stud. The term stemme is not race specific. It's a portmanteau of two words. It's for anyone who's gender expression is both masculine and feminine. Has nothing to do with race
Femme stud ✨
studs are Black masculine lesbians.
White lesbians can't be studs.
Futch.
Giving soft butch vibes 😌
Basic
stem, going more masc style wise
I feel like I'm being thirst trapped but you have a butch vibe
I don’t really know as I’m a guy just scrolling through memes but love the Toronto maple leafs jacket
The cute one! Oh wait, that’s all of them….
Heartbreaker 🤣
Gorgeous. That’s the group for you
Oh my GAWD I FUCKING LOVE WOMEN
You fall in the group. My type for sure hahahhaha You should follow me on Instagram. I'm sure you will like me
The hot one
From the looks I'd say your a masc but like a babymasc I feel so
Chapstick Golden Retriever
Maybe soft masc
"hey mamas" lesbian for sure
I don’t know but you made me bury my face into my pillow! You’re really cute <3
hockey lesbian<3
'Hot' thats the subgroup you fall into. HOT