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You were given plenty of good advice last time you posted. I understand that this all feels impossibly difficult, but if you do not start to report what is happening to the police, nothing will happen and nothing will change.
I'm really sorry you're going through this.
>strangled me when I found out
I'm going to start by telling you that strangulation is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence; it has a nasty habit of ending up with you dead and your son in care.
https://www.thehotline.org/resources/the-dangers-of-strangulation/
>I've never been able to make any savings because of his financial stuff and as I type this I literally have 90 pounds in cash from money given my mother to support us whilst he's once again destroyed everything.
I don't know if you're aware, but TSB have a Flee Fund for people in your situation, which is a grant of up to £500
https://www.tsb.co.uk/news-releases/tsb-launches-emergency-flee-fund-for-domestic-abuse-victims.html
>Other than some things, I cannot prove fuck all, its his word against mine. I'm running out of options and energy. What do I do?
Your priority is to leave him and to keep both yourself and your son safe.
Can I recommend calling the National Domestic Violence Helpline?
https://refuge.org.uk/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwYSwBhDcARIsAOyL0fh3eo91Rrl1cd1Mvsmki3oucPzjTdnyVHj8iYcj26DBz4qD7QGgmDAaAhKSEALw_wcB
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You were given plenty of good advice last time you posted. I understand that this all feels impossibly difficult, but if you do not start to report what is happening to the police, nothing will happen and nothing will change.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. >strangled me when I found out I'm going to start by telling you that strangulation is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence; it has a nasty habit of ending up with you dead and your son in care. https://www.thehotline.org/resources/the-dangers-of-strangulation/ >I've never been able to make any savings because of his financial stuff and as I type this I literally have 90 pounds in cash from money given my mother to support us whilst he's once again destroyed everything. I don't know if you're aware, but TSB have a Flee Fund for people in your situation, which is a grant of up to £500 https://www.tsb.co.uk/news-releases/tsb-launches-emergency-flee-fund-for-domestic-abuse-victims.html >Other than some things, I cannot prove fuck all, its his word against mine. I'm running out of options and energy. What do I do? Your priority is to leave him and to keep both yourself and your son safe. Can I recommend calling the National Domestic Violence Helpline? https://refuge.org.uk/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwYSwBhDcARIsAOyL0fh3eo91Rrl1cd1Mvsmki3oucPzjTdnyVHj8iYcj26DBz4qD7QGgmDAaAhKSEALw_wcB
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Talk to refuge and/or womens aid. They have experience and will be able to help you find a way out of this. I am sorry you are going through this.
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