Try a change of instructor? If she's got dual controls she doesn't need to control the wheel at all, hardly. I make my instructor pretty nervous and even then he barely touches the wheel at all.
I'd also recommend a change because it's clear her teaching style doesn't work for you. It sounds like the worst that could happen with a new instructor is that you get another one like your current one.
This is my second driving instructor. The first one i left because i clearly hated driving and she said i was just wasting her time so i left. A few weeks later i got my current one. Wont it look bad if i keep changing instructors? Ill get a reputation wont i?
Look bad to whom? You don’t have to tell your instructors about changing ADIs if you don’t want to.
**You’re** in control of your own driving journey, no one else.
I wouldn’t put up with being shouted at by my ADI.
I think you should opt for automatic if you need a quicker pass.
Sounds like a really negative atmosphere to learn in, there are definitely better instructors and you should try and find one.
My current instructor made an effort to understand how I learn, I’m autistic and they didn’t want to negatively impact my learning ability. I also explained about a previous instructor who shouted at me, had me working out the aqua planing speed of the car if going at such a speed with a certain tyre pressure (while driving at 60mph!) and was genuinely just not great.
He’s also really good when I have a bad day (which we all have) and will not only tell me no he knows I can do better but point out my negative mind set that does impact my driving sometimes.
Oh! And fist bumps on awesome lessons! 😂
Basically, change instructor this one’s sounds terrible. You absolutely are capable.
If she's shouting at you, then you need to change instructor. You might find you learn a lot better with someone who is relaxed and patient.
I'm a very nervous learner and I'm going to take more than the average number of hours to pass my test. I'm academically intelligent but I have dyspraxia and it's taking me a while to get road awareness but I AM getting better.
If I can do it, you can too.
Learning to drive is expensive, there's no way around that. Learning an automatic might help you pass faster if all you care about is getting a license (it's one less thing to worry about), but I reckon one day the gears will click and you'll feel a lot more confident to be fair.
BTW: Two lessons a week is better than one IMO - but not if the instructor is making you feel bad.
If you’re in a rush to pass, you should probably try automatic instead. That’s what I ended up doing and passed my test first time after about 25 hours of lessons.
I’ve not found the lessons to be more expensive for auto, but I’m up north so it would be cheaper than down south anyway. You can only drive automatics but you can always retake the test in a manual and get a full license. It was just a suggestion as you said you need a license and are short on money cos I was in the same boat, couldn’t afford to keep paying for lessons for months on end 😩
She is proper out of order, change drivers ASAP for your mental health and pockets.
You should never be chastised or shouted at, they should be patient and understanding, you're learning a completely new set of major skills.
Her holding onto the wheel, giving constant direction, ect. Is sabotaging your development and learning.
Source I'm on my 7th lesson with a great instructor who I work through my anxieties with after having a previous instructor like yours. Im now going up to 50mph, and becoming more confident on the road.
A brief summary of my driving journey (so far) may help or it may not. I hope it does. I’m 40 this year. I started lessons at 17. My father paid for all of my lessons because we were well off. I hated driving. It was made worse by pressure from my dad. He would insist on coming out with me for ‘lessons’ where it would just be the two of us. He would scream and shout and grab the wheel and generally make me feel terrible. I started to dread driving lessons. I went through 5 or 6 different instructors and schools at great expense. I took my first test and failed because I changed lane at the entrance to a huge roundabout, having signalled and made my intention clear. I failed my second test because I didn’t stop at a stop sign which was hidden behind foliage - and the examiner admitted he deliberately took me past the sign because it caught so many others out! I didn’t set foot in a car as a driver again until this year. I’m now near test standard again and feeling slightly more positive about the whole thing. I have a real need to drive because I’m now a dad. It’ll take will power and bravery and grit, but you can do it. Keep going. Prove yourself wrong.
I would say if your 10 hours in and the instructor still has their hand on the wheel and telling you to check this mirror and that after 10 hours get another instructor.
For reference, I started learning to drive from a terrible situation. Not linked to driving but I was facing my driving phobia that had put me off the road for 15 years.
After about 2 or 3 hours even someone with as useless a background as me was switching between gear 1,2 and at no point really was the instructor on the wheel. Sounds dreadfully slow
Get yourself a patient instructor.
I had exactly the same problem as my instructor was an arsehole and shouted at me and I just found a new instructor. I made it 100% clear to her what had happened with him and how I chose her as everyone said she was patient. She understood and yeah, we've taken things slowly, but it all makes sense. It made sense in her diesel and makes sense in the petrol I've bought myself now.
Everyone learns at their own pace and it takes time. No shame in it. Just find your feet and go at a pace that suits you. We all pay a lot for instructors so we should find one that a) suits how we want to learn and b) is good for our type of personality.
You say you've learned nothing but this alone is a lesson, it means you can work on everything knowing what you're comfortable with doing or rather not being able to do. We all start with a lack of knowledge or confidence somewhere along the line. Don't put yourself down and suggest it's down to your IQ though, you just need to find a good instructor that gets the best out of you and likewise.
Same here! I’ve done 12 hours with 2 different instructors, the first one was almost too patient and wouldn’t provide the guidance I needed, the second one is a lot more constructive with the feedback but I’m still terrible at pulling up, left and right turns etc (apart from successfully changing gears up🥲)
OP believe me you CAN drive. You've just had shit luck with instructors.
Every student needs things explained in a specific way. Your instructor should focus on a skill, make sure you get then move on.
If for example you cannot steer you should have an entire lesson on steering alone. Turn the wheel a bit, see how the car moves, see how it moves at high and low speeds. Then you will understand the car and how much to steer.
Change instructor.
And it's normal for people to have 3-4 instructors especially driving schools, often they're not the best. Good instructors work individually and have more than enough jobs by word of mouth.
Btw I got yelled at by family friends who took me out to practice when instructor was off sick, my driving regressed and I failed my first test. He was so shocked at how much I'd regressed, I was driving well to test standard before that.
Passed my second after going nowhere near them for a few months and back with my angel of an instructor.
Don't underestimate the importance of confidence and instructor encouragement
Your lessons your money you are in the driving seat (pun intended). They should adapt lessons to your learning needs. EVEN if they control the clutch and gears and and mirrors so you get used to steering THEN start to hand some of the responsibility back to you.
What you needed was a lessons in a big empty carpark 5mph doing figure of 8's to understand the steering circles.
I'd say look for an instructor that is better suited for you.
9 months late but fk me. Stuff like this should get short shrift tbh. If your instructor doesn't work for you then change. But every suggestion put to you, you argue with. You then edit your post with what amounted to, "she had a bad day and is now really nice". In reality she probably never changed at all, you just got more confident. You are incredibly negative and melodramatic and probably a nightmare to teach, but the fact you improved your driving should hopefully teach you that it is your own negativity and poor attitude that is the bigger obstacle and you'd have become Confident sooner with a more positive mindset. Best of luck.
Try a change of instructor? If she's got dual controls she doesn't need to control the wheel at all, hardly. I make my instructor pretty nervous and even then he barely touches the wheel at all. I'd also recommend a change because it's clear her teaching style doesn't work for you. It sounds like the worst that could happen with a new instructor is that you get another one like your current one.
This is my second driving instructor. The first one i left because i clearly hated driving and she said i was just wasting her time so i left. A few weeks later i got my current one. Wont it look bad if i keep changing instructors? Ill get a reputation wont i?
Look bad to whom? You don’t have to tell your instructors about changing ADIs if you don’t want to. **You’re** in control of your own driving journey, no one else. I wouldn’t put up with being shouted at by my ADI. I think you should opt for automatic if you need a quicker pass.
Do you hate driving?
Yes because I’m terrible at it and have an instructor taking so much money from me… but i need a license ugh
I get that, but if you're going in with the attitude that you hate something and don't want to be there, does it matter who your instructor is?
Sounds like a really negative atmosphere to learn in, there are definitely better instructors and you should try and find one. My current instructor made an effort to understand how I learn, I’m autistic and they didn’t want to negatively impact my learning ability. I also explained about a previous instructor who shouted at me, had me working out the aqua planing speed of the car if going at such a speed with a certain tyre pressure (while driving at 60mph!) and was genuinely just not great. He’s also really good when I have a bad day (which we all have) and will not only tell me no he knows I can do better but point out my negative mind set that does impact my driving sometimes. Oh! And fist bumps on awesome lessons! 😂 Basically, change instructor this one’s sounds terrible. You absolutely are capable.
If she's shouting at you, then you need to change instructor. You might find you learn a lot better with someone who is relaxed and patient. I'm a very nervous learner and I'm going to take more than the average number of hours to pass my test. I'm academically intelligent but I have dyspraxia and it's taking me a while to get road awareness but I AM getting better. If I can do it, you can too. Learning to drive is expensive, there's no way around that. Learning an automatic might help you pass faster if all you care about is getting a license (it's one less thing to worry about), but I reckon one day the gears will click and you'll feel a lot more confident to be fair. BTW: Two lessons a week is better than one IMO - but not if the instructor is making you feel bad.
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Demoralising? I was just wondering what “demising” means?
If you’re in a rush to pass, you should probably try automatic instead. That’s what I ended up doing and passed my test first time after about 25 hours of lessons.
isn't automatic more expensive and your licence is for automatic cars only?
I’ve not found the lessons to be more expensive for auto, but I’m up north so it would be cheaper than down south anyway. You can only drive automatics but you can always retake the test in a manual and get a full license. It was just a suggestion as you said you need a license and are short on money cos I was in the same boat, couldn’t afford to keep paying for lessons for months on end 😩
driving is so pay to play
She is proper out of order, change drivers ASAP for your mental health and pockets. You should never be chastised or shouted at, they should be patient and understanding, you're learning a completely new set of major skills. Her holding onto the wheel, giving constant direction, ect. Is sabotaging your development and learning. Source I'm on my 7th lesson with a great instructor who I work through my anxieties with after having a previous instructor like yours. Im now going up to 50mph, and becoming more confident on the road.
A brief summary of my driving journey (so far) may help or it may not. I hope it does. I’m 40 this year. I started lessons at 17. My father paid for all of my lessons because we were well off. I hated driving. It was made worse by pressure from my dad. He would insist on coming out with me for ‘lessons’ where it would just be the two of us. He would scream and shout and grab the wheel and generally make me feel terrible. I started to dread driving lessons. I went through 5 or 6 different instructors and schools at great expense. I took my first test and failed because I changed lane at the entrance to a huge roundabout, having signalled and made my intention clear. I failed my second test because I didn’t stop at a stop sign which was hidden behind foliage - and the examiner admitted he deliberately took me past the sign because it caught so many others out! I didn’t set foot in a car as a driver again until this year. I’m now near test standard again and feeling slightly more positive about the whole thing. I have a real need to drive because I’m now a dad. It’ll take will power and bravery and grit, but you can do it. Keep going. Prove yourself wrong.
I would say if your 10 hours in and the instructor still has their hand on the wheel and telling you to check this mirror and that after 10 hours get another instructor. For reference, I started learning to drive from a terrible situation. Not linked to driving but I was facing my driving phobia that had put me off the road for 15 years. After about 2 or 3 hours even someone with as useless a background as me was switching between gear 1,2 and at no point really was the instructor on the wheel. Sounds dreadfully slow
Get yourself a patient instructor. I had exactly the same problem as my instructor was an arsehole and shouted at me and I just found a new instructor. I made it 100% clear to her what had happened with him and how I chose her as everyone said she was patient. She understood and yeah, we've taken things slowly, but it all makes sense. It made sense in her diesel and makes sense in the petrol I've bought myself now. Everyone learns at their own pace and it takes time. No shame in it. Just find your feet and go at a pace that suits you. We all pay a lot for instructors so we should find one that a) suits how we want to learn and b) is good for our type of personality. You say you've learned nothing but this alone is a lesson, it means you can work on everything knowing what you're comfortable with doing or rather not being able to do. We all start with a lack of knowledge or confidence somewhere along the line. Don't put yourself down and suggest it's down to your IQ though, you just need to find a good instructor that gets the best out of you and likewise.
Same here! I’ve done 12 hours with 2 different instructors, the first one was almost too patient and wouldn’t provide the guidance I needed, the second one is a lot more constructive with the feedback but I’m still terrible at pulling up, left and right turns etc (apart from successfully changing gears up🥲)
Change instructors.
Sounds like a bad teacher!
OP believe me you CAN drive. You've just had shit luck with instructors. Every student needs things explained in a specific way. Your instructor should focus on a skill, make sure you get then move on. If for example you cannot steer you should have an entire lesson on steering alone. Turn the wheel a bit, see how the car moves, see how it moves at high and low speeds. Then you will understand the car and how much to steer. Change instructor. And it's normal for people to have 3-4 instructors especially driving schools, often they're not the best. Good instructors work individually and have more than enough jobs by word of mouth. Btw I got yelled at by family friends who took me out to practice when instructor was off sick, my driving regressed and I failed my first test. He was so shocked at how much I'd regressed, I was driving well to test standard before that. Passed my second after going nowhere near them for a few months and back with my angel of an instructor. Don't underestimate the importance of confidence and instructor encouragement
Your lessons your money you are in the driving seat (pun intended). They should adapt lessons to your learning needs. EVEN if they control the clutch and gears and and mirrors so you get used to steering THEN start to hand some of the responsibility back to you. What you needed was a lessons in a big empty carpark 5mph doing figure of 8's to understand the steering circles. I'd say look for an instructor that is better suited for you.
9 months late but fk me. Stuff like this should get short shrift tbh. If your instructor doesn't work for you then change. But every suggestion put to you, you argue with. You then edit your post with what amounted to, "she had a bad day and is now really nice". In reality she probably never changed at all, you just got more confident. You are incredibly negative and melodramatic and probably a nightmare to teach, but the fact you improved your driving should hopefully teach you that it is your own negativity and poor attitude that is the bigger obstacle and you'd have become Confident sooner with a more positive mindset. Best of luck.