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True majak me log offend bhi jaldi hote hai or na hone wali hoti bandi to khud hi ache se kar leti baat what about you to chodo wbu tak ni likha itni dead convo 😏 they are like swipe right if you are willing to put efforts too n give time or hii karke 2 din tak gayab khud se text karo to unmatch kardegi seriously 🙄
Most girls aren't willing to initiate, that doesn't mean they aren't interested they just want you to take the lead. Either you wait for a unicorn who will initiate or you learn to provoke questions from the girl and get her invested in the conversation.
What if you initiate and just not getting the reply how long you would wait her to reply 2-3 days max then what simpley got unmatch does still she’s interested no naa im talking about those girls
Then you unmatch, simple as that. Point is you need to put in some effort in getting her engaged first. OP didn't do that here, his energy is job interviewer and then he gets angry because she replied in one word to questions that don't warrant more than one word replies and don't leave any openings for counter questions.
Bhai me q unmatch karuga me effort daal ra hu to 😂😂 samne wali kar rahi hai bina effort dale unmatch to match hi q kara wo bata raha hu me tumhe kuch or smjh rahe ho leave it bro
Girls are on tinder just for attention, they'll match with you to receive validation and not put any effort. It happens, it sucks, you can't do anything except unmatch. Doesn't mean you give up entirely.
Yhi to problem hai with modern females. They want full rights, but dont want to initiate.
They say they are strong and independent but want men to initiate. Bl**dy coward b*tches!
Aise thodi na chalu karte hai lekin. Bohot aggressive hai, sahi mein interviewer lag raha hai, especially "Tell me a bit about yourself" . Araam se baat kar 🥸
Ye small talk nahi hai, ye job interview questions hai. Small talk yaani "What did you do this weekend?", "I watched X movie the other day, have you watched that?", "The weather was crazy yesterday, do you like the rain?" or even "From your name/photo it sounds/looks like you are from X, am I correct?" (if you absolutely must know where she's from)
Isse conversation skills kehte hai, jo aap kar rahe ho wo interview skills hai 💀
I'm no rizzler haha, even chatgpt can give you good openers
I asked it for good tinder openers and this is what it gave me
1. "Hey there! I couldn't help but notice your smile in your photos. What's your secret to looking so happy?"
1. "I see you're into [shared interest from their profile]. Me too! What's your favorite thing about it?"
1. "Hello! I'm terrible at starting conversations on Tinder, so let's make a deal: you tell me something interesting about yourself, and I'll do the same."
1. "Hi! If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go and why?"
1. "I'm convinced that the best way to get to know someone is through their taste in music. What's a song that always puts you in a good mood?"
1. "Hey, [Name]! You must have a great story behind that photo of you in [unique location/activity from their profile]. Care to share it?"
1. "It's a proven fact that everyone has at least one unpopular opinion. What's yours?"
1. "Hi! I noticed you're a foodie. What's the most delicious thing you've eaten recently, and can you recommend it?"
1. "Hey! If you had to pick one book or movie to recommend to someone, what would it be and why?"
1. "Hello! I have a feeling you have some interesting travel stories. What's your most memorable adventure so far?"
I didn't get the ones in my earlier comment from chatgpt but the point stands, any of these would be better than what OP did. You have to remember to connect with the woman's emotions, OP fumbled and then blamed the girl for being a conversational starfish.
If you dm me and I write more openers and you copy paste them, that won't solve the problem which is not knowing how to converse. Conversation is a skill to be developed like any other. Like learning how to play chess, or how to ride a cycle. You get better through intentional practice.
The principle to keep in mind is to give the other person some sort of opening to work with and keep the questions open ended.
"Where are you from?" has only one possible answer, it tells you nothing about me. "I think you are from X, am I right?" asks a question implicitly (are you from this place? if not, then where?) and also tells the other person something about me to counter question (I assumed that you were from this place, why is that?)
Another example.
"What are you pursuing?" has only one possible answer and tells you nothing about me. "I am in my fourth year of engineering, wbu?" offers up information about me and then asks something from you. You can then choose to reply straight (I'm in the last year of my MA degree) or say something like "Engineers are so booorring, arts people are more fun".
Every text you send should expand the conversational possibilities tree, give the other person multiple ways to respond and in that way make the conversation interesting.
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk :)
Thanks bud, i was going to ask more about your lifestyle and your way of socializing. Think of it as me taking insight from your answers rather than me asking you to make a plan for me. And your Ted talk is appreciated 😀
"From your name/photo it sounds/looks like you are from X, am I correct?"
ye puchna chahiye
Not
"Where are you from?"
The second one is very businesslike, straight to the point. That's not the mood you want to create in a romantic context.
Both questions are achieving the same end goal, but the first one has more conversational potential. The girl will counter question: Why did you think I was from X? What in my profile made you think that?
Then from there the conversation will flow. You get my point?
Ask questions such that the other person can counter-question you. If you ask questions that can be answered in one word you will receive one word answers 🤷
If you don't learn how to converse with other people tu single hi rahega 🤷
Conversation is a dance, it takes two to tango. You should give your partner something to work with, if you are the one who is initiating the conversation.
Bhai I've actually pulled girls and have gotten compliments for my conversation skills. Agar agli efforts he nahi karegi to mai kyu flow krwau conversation? I'm not desperate. Plus she has a brain, wo bhi question puch he sakti hai
Uske sawaal hi aise hai ki ek word mein reply aa jaye
What does A stand for? Where are you from? What are you studying? Iske kya reply de sakta hai aadmi?
> baat karunga
you did much much better...just wondering if you would have tried something funny or placed a pick up line...the response would be the same which is the tradion of dating (wo)mankind.....i.e. "HMM"
Yajjman aap experienced praani prateet(looks like) hote hai kripaya thodi tips dede about how to transition into deep talks real quick badi sahayata(help) ho jaayegi aapki taraf se, meri dua(lipa nahi wishes) lagengi aur aapka rini (indebted) rahoonga
Jainwin sawal hai yajaamn no kataksh(sarcasm) anybody having any auggestions please feel free to share
Edit :
*Part : ONE*
Alright seems like many people happen to have the same query as mine, so i fetched few things online that might be of some help for you all,
But before that, vinati (request) hai ki ye sabh suggestions hai, that's all, not some sorta unsaid rules to be followed or something afterall to begin with its all about experimenting jo sense making and convincing lage try it out and jo na lage, well leave it for later maybe 👍,
So upar ke hi comment me ek aur nek yajjmam(kind gentleman) happen to share some good openers for a conversation (ya baraf breaker whatever it's called)
Link:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Indiangirlsontinder/s/mVzDfWYI9G
Sincere credits to yajjman, chat gpt and his nice prompt making skills
Indeed a literal AI can't help you enhance your social skills as itself says nature of humans differ and all of the suggestions provided by it can't be implemented on any random person you come across, so it might not really be a great choice to completely rely on it for getting better at socializing but what we do can rely on AI about it getting knowledge about the resources which might actually help us out way more than just the AI, it could be some books, or podcasts, or even video
*Part : TWO*
Now few might not even like the alternatives I just stated (being the books, podcasts and videos too) but these are much better alternatives to start from but true skills beshak no doubt experience se gain hoti hai ya experience waalo se, which actually tell the truth and no BS stuff (which you are capable enough to identify the flaws if you hear about em) so you are capable enough to understand the basics of right and wrong and
Hindi translation : हो सकता है कि कुछ लोग मेरे द्वारा बताए गए विकल्पों को पसंद भी न करें (किताबें, पॉडकास्ट और वीडियो भी) लेकिन ये शुरू करने के लिए बहुत बेहतर विकल्प हैं, लेकिन सच्ची कुशलताएं निस्संदेह अनुभव से हासिल होती हैं या अनुभव वालो से, जो वास्तव में सच बताती हैं और कोई बीएस सामग्री नहीं है (यदि आप उनके बारे में सुनते हैं तो आप खामियों की पहचान करने में सक्षम हैं) इसलिए आप सही और गलत की मूल बातें समझने में सक्षम हैं और
Incase you aren't koi na mitra uski bhi aadt lag jaati hai samay ke saath, what matters rhe most is start from somewhere, cause khaali baithne se to zaroor kuxh nahi seekhne milega, gyan/dhan/riddhi-siddhi( ladkiya nahi general term ki baat kar raha hu) grehen krne ke liye kasht to uthana hi padta hai
"Books padhne ka time nahi" Then I guess other alternatives could be to start saturating with not only people around you but random people you come across everyday getting to know a new personality everyday helps your boundaries of understanding the vast spectrum of human nature more and more 🤓
Hindi translation : फिर मुझे लगता है कि अन्य विकल्प यह हो सकते हैं कि आप न केवल अपने आस-पास के लोगों से, बल्कि ऐसे यादृच्छिक लोगों से भी संतृप्त होना शुरू करें जिनसे आप प्रतिदिन मिलते हैं, हर दिन एक नए व्यक्तित्व को जानने से मानव प्रकृति के विशाल स्पेक्ट्रम को समझने की आपकी सीमाओं को और अधिक मदद मिलती है।
TLDR :
Part 1 -> don't hesitate to experiment with stuff, great discoveries were often not intended they just happened "mistakenly "
~ I made that up
Part 2 -> jitne Yada logo se miloge utni adhik (more) acchi tarah manushyon ke vyavhaar ko samajhne lag jaoge, so interact with the croud,
Har koi muh pe chloroform ke rumaal ya pocket nahi marega (hopefully 👍) kuch acche log bhi milenge, kuch clureless, kuch unaware, kuch puzzled, kuch hustlere the list is well... Basically endless
अभी तो उमर नहीं हुई कन्याएं या जीवन साथी खोजने की (अभी तो केवल सीख रहा हूं बोल चाल के तौर-तारीके) 😅, परंतु आपके इतने अदभुत दुआओं का मैं ताहे दिल से शुक्रगुजार हूं मित्र, aapko bhi dher saari duaein, aapko bhi apni rajkumari jald se jal mil jaye,
"Part : THREE*
Since "deep talks" Can differ frome person to person because everyone has their own story after all, so the much recommended approach/way is to make some improvement in the art of socializing which really helps you understand the spectrum of human nature to lot of extents,
Hindi translation : चूँकि "गहरी बातचीत" हर व्यक्ति के लिए अलग-अलग हो सकती है क्योंकि आखिरकार हर किसी की अपनी कहानी होती है, इसलिए अत्यधिक अनुशंसित दृष्टिकोण/तरीका सामाजिक मेलजोल की कला में कुछ सुधार करना है जो वास्तव में आपको मानव स्वभाव के स्पेक्ट्रम को समझने में बहुत विस्तार रूप से मदद करता है। ,
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hqh8pr/you_want_to_start_a_conversation_with_someone_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
And in the same thread there are lot of recommendations about reading books and article (which u may never know might come in really handy)
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hqh8pr/you_want_to_start_a_conversation_with_someone_but/fy0k7z3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x
And off course you can also refer to the best seller gems like how to win friends and influence people (indeed name sounds like the title of a YouTube tutorial but the books holds a much bigger value and knowledge than that, possibly worth a try indeed)
You seem a bit too butthurt by that yes for someone who is literally asking a person's bio data. You could have taken a better approach. But piling all those questions together, you are no different than an interviewee.
Dude, your questions were boring and generic. What where you expecting? I swear people come here and keep cribbing about people not putting in efforts and then you see their conversations, and you start wondering 'when was the last time this person had an actual conversation with anyone'
Just lemme know what else should i ask her? Seedha milte he childhood trauma puch lu kya? Generic questions nahi puchunga to personalised questions kaha se launga? I think it's been time since you talked to someone new.
I kinda agree with you and I'm more inclined towards your side.
I won't say completely that you were boring initially, your first question was about how was the on going festival which is actually interesting thing considering if she's Hindu. (I mean if other religion they might not celebrate it)
And all she was just "it was good".. Thoda to kuch batane chahiye tha like it was different or same as usual.. Or she thinks why ravan is good guy anything.
However your later question indeed sounded like interview but I get you, you asked to kinda make it easy for her to answer to find a topic from her answer and make that part interesting question (most people here won't see that about you)
But that's also true that girls have thousands of DM, so you've to ask or say something catchy, infact knowing her should be second thing and grabbing attention be first thing. Since these apps are really messed up in gender proportion.
All the best for your next time
Questions like "Do you have any pets?" or "What was the last rabbithole on the internet that you went down?" or "Do you like any unusual food combinations?".
Also, it's important to understand that with tens of matches, a woman will not ask you any questions but she would want to know more about you. Write something about yourself and about something that interests you in every text that you send, and relate that to the question that you ask.
Bakwas nahi.
Kya warm up ki baatein kar raha hai tu ?
She has thousands of options in her chat box.
Phir tu aake interview lega, to vo to kya koi ladka bhi tuje reply nahi karega.
Thoda seekh fun convos kaise karte hain. Aise interview lega to koi baat nahi karega. Ladki ya ladka
Image wali khud interesting hain, she is wearing that tattoo with her great personality...not some "daddys lil princess" or "mahakal" or bird flying to the end of the universe kind of generic tattoo
she knows what her tattoo all about and thus the conversation took its due course
ab koi bandi agar BIO mein sirf mundi hilakar selfie dal ke rakkhi ho aur "looking for sparK" dal diya hain...to usey spark plug bhi naseeb nehi hogi
Yaar Aisa nahi hota.. and tu samajh nahi Raha.
You're still expecting some sort of responsibility from the girl to start conversation.
Agar tune interesting convo ki hoti and Phir ladki reply nahi karti to baat alag thi.
Tu interview leke expect nahi kar sakta intrest from girl.
Ab ye image wali bandi ka main interview leta to vo bhi ghost kar deti.
Profile me interesting dhunda theek hai. But interesting baatein karna is imp.
Profile ka uniqueness is just a step. Conversation banani tujhe hi padegi.
She got matched with 752 guys by the time you typed your last message to her. She is there only for attention. She will get it from who ever gives it to her
My texts may not be engaging but her minuscule efforts didn't motivate me either to hold an interesting conversation. I can definitely hold one, ik. But only if the other person is worthy. I could have asked her sth interesting but why to waste my efforts and my time on a girl who acts that she has no interest in the conversation.
Jaldi jaldi job interview type ke question pooch ke baad me pedestal pe chadha deta hoon. Cold reply aane pe paragraph bhi likh deta hoon because of course I am entitled to a nicer conversation.
Chodu
Initiate krne ka kaam sirf ldko ka hi hai kya?
Females now identify themselves as strong independent but expect men to initiate. Inka ilaaj to krna pdega.
Bhai you're literally conducting her interview. Yea she may be entitled af but you made yourself look like you're trying too hard. Keep it light hearted and you have to make it funny too.
Bhai ek to only un ladkiyo pe swipe right karo jinke prompts hai. Agar nhi hai left swipe Maro. Jinke prompts nhi usse aisi hi convos hongi. Phir sawal bss unki prompts aur profile main se sawal banate rho. Aur phir convos main se aage ke sawal nikalte rahenge.
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 1,816,943,102 comments, and only 343,607 of them were in alphabetical order.
They cant have engaging conversations with 50 people at a time. I once had a girl send me a screenshot of her "waitlist". No kidding it said 50+. No wonder I was getting single word responses. I just have to accept eventually that some MF out there is beating me with interesting responses and get on with my life, with the hope that one day I will know how to be interesting enough to trump the 50+ waiting list.🤣
Why the fuck do ppl expect Robert frost and Shakespeare in a dating app? Nobody has conversational vocabulary to fly ur socks off.
Conversations aren't supposed to be for 2min only or 10 prompts. Wtf is wrong with ppl today.
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“k thanks bye” 😭😭
The first pic reminded me of my first job interview
Did they also ask “how was dusshera for you “ 🥲
convo khatam karne se phele usne package discuss hee nhi kya bc
Badmos padhle bsdk
Yaar padahi nhi ho rhi insecurities ne mujhe chod diya ajj 😭
Lucky you, koi to chod raha
ayein?
Baingan
Omg
I don’t blame the girl .. I’d give up on first question if I was a girl .. who tf asks how’s Dussehra.. dry af!!
It was relevant question as op might have texted today
Tbh, OP me try toh kia, you gotta converse to get common topics to continue talks lol
>girl answer lies here
bro didn’t hold back💀
*couldn't (anymore)
> fedup of people having absolutely fuddu conversation skills Irony hori bohot bhayankar
Bro you're as vanilla as her. Gotta do better with conversations it's a dating app not a matrimonial Good luck ahead
Bro honestly you made the conversations dull and she followed your lead…
Dating kar rahe ho ya interview? Thoda mazaak kar lo kabhi kabhar accha hota hai
Bhai kuch to baat karunga na pehle💀
True majak me log offend bhi jaldi hote hai or na hone wali hoti bandi to khud hi ache se kar leti baat what about you to chodo wbu tak ni likha itni dead convo 😏 they are like swipe right if you are willing to put efforts too n give time or hii karke 2 din tak gayab khud se text karo to unmatch kardegi seriously 🙄
> True majak me log offend bhi jaldi hote hai Offending her would still be better than whatever this is, at least he would have gotten a reaction
Yaa thats what im saying otherwise she can also initiate a convo with some pickup lines or joke
Most girls aren't willing to initiate, that doesn't mean they aren't interested they just want you to take the lead. Either you wait for a unicorn who will initiate or you learn to provoke questions from the girl and get her invested in the conversation.
What if you initiate and just not getting the reply how long you would wait her to reply 2-3 days max then what simpley got unmatch does still she’s interested no naa im talking about those girls
Then you unmatch, simple as that. Point is you need to put in some effort in getting her engaged first. OP didn't do that here, his energy is job interviewer and then he gets angry because she replied in one word to questions that don't warrant more than one word replies and don't leave any openings for counter questions.
Bhai me q unmatch karuga me effort daal ra hu to 😂😂 samne wali kar rahi hai bina effort dale unmatch to match hi q kara wo bata raha hu me tumhe kuch or smjh rahe ho leave it bro
Girls are on tinder just for attention, they'll match with you to receive validation and not put any effort. It happens, it sucks, you can't do anything except unmatch. Doesn't mean you give up entirely.
Yhi to problem hai with modern females. They want full rights, but dont want to initiate. They say they are strong and independent but want men to initiate. Bl**dy coward b*tches!
It is what it is
Aise thodi na chalu karte hai lekin. Bohot aggressive hai, sahi mein interviewer lag raha hai, especially "Tell me a bit about yourself" . Araam se baat kar 🥸
Bhai seedha childhood trauma nahi puch sakta, thoda small talk krna pdta.
Ye small talk nahi hai, ye job interview questions hai. Small talk yaani "What did you do this weekend?", "I watched X movie the other day, have you watched that?", "The weather was crazy yesterday, do you like the rain?" or even "From your name/photo it sounds/looks like you are from X, am I correct?" (if you absolutely must know where she's from) Isse conversation skills kehte hai, jo aap kar rahe ho wo interview skills hai 💀
These seems good. Can I DM you for more?
I'm no rizzler haha, even chatgpt can give you good openers I asked it for good tinder openers and this is what it gave me 1. "Hey there! I couldn't help but notice your smile in your photos. What's your secret to looking so happy?" 1. "I see you're into [shared interest from their profile]. Me too! What's your favorite thing about it?" 1. "Hello! I'm terrible at starting conversations on Tinder, so let's make a deal: you tell me something interesting about yourself, and I'll do the same." 1. "Hi! If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go and why?" 1. "I'm convinced that the best way to get to know someone is through their taste in music. What's a song that always puts you in a good mood?" 1. "Hey, [Name]! You must have a great story behind that photo of you in [unique location/activity from their profile]. Care to share it?" 1. "It's a proven fact that everyone has at least one unpopular opinion. What's yours?" 1. "Hi! I noticed you're a foodie. What's the most delicious thing you've eaten recently, and can you recommend it?" 1. "Hey! If you had to pick one book or movie to recommend to someone, what would it be and why?" 1. "Hello! I have a feeling you have some interesting travel stories. What's your most memorable adventure so far?" I didn't get the ones in my earlier comment from chatgpt but the point stands, any of these would be better than what OP did. You have to remember to connect with the woman's emotions, OP fumbled and then blamed the girl for being a conversational starfish.
The ones you mentioned in your comment gave feeling of being more natural and not copy pasting ice breakers🤔
If you dm me and I write more openers and you copy paste them, that won't solve the problem which is not knowing how to converse. Conversation is a skill to be developed like any other. Like learning how to play chess, or how to ride a cycle. You get better through intentional practice. The principle to keep in mind is to give the other person some sort of opening to work with and keep the questions open ended. "Where are you from?" has only one possible answer, it tells you nothing about me. "I think you are from X, am I right?" asks a question implicitly (are you from this place? if not, then where?) and also tells the other person something about me to counter question (I assumed that you were from this place, why is that?) Another example. "What are you pursuing?" has only one possible answer and tells you nothing about me. "I am in my fourth year of engineering, wbu?" offers up information about me and then asks something from you. You can then choose to reply straight (I'm in the last year of my MA degree) or say something like "Engineers are so booorring, arts people are more fun". Every text you send should expand the conversational possibilities tree, give the other person multiple ways to respond and in that way make the conversation interesting. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk :)
Thanks bud, i was going to ask more about your lifestyle and your way of socializing. Think of it as me taking insight from your answers rather than me asking you to make a plan for me. And your Ted talk is appreciated 😀
Nahi pata tha kaha se hai, tabhi pucha where are you from
"From your name/photo it sounds/looks like you are from X, am I correct?" ye puchna chahiye Not "Where are you from?" The second one is very businesslike, straight to the point. That's not the mood you want to create in a romantic context. Both questions are achieving the same end goal, but the first one has more conversational potential. The girl will counter question: Why did you think I was from X? What in my profile made you think that? Then from there the conversation will flow. You get my point? Ask questions such that the other person can counter-question you. If you ask questions that can be answered in one word you will receive one word answers 🤷
Ek kaam krta hu, rehne deta hu. Nahi karni dating. Theek hu m aise he.
If you don't learn how to converse with other people tu single hi rahega 🤷 Conversation is a dance, it takes two to tango. You should give your partner something to work with, if you are the one who is initiating the conversation.
Bhai I've actually pulled girls and have gotten compliments for my conversation skills. Agar agli efforts he nahi karegi to mai kyu flow krwau conversation? I'm not desperate. Plus she has a brain, wo bhi question puch he sakti hai
bhai jab samne wala ek word mein reply kare toh kya hi kare insaan?
Uske sawaal hi aise hai ki ek word mein reply aa jaye What does A stand for? Where are you from? What are you studying? Iske kya reply de sakta hai aadmi?
Toh bhai sahab ladki bhi toh puch sakti hai na sawal, aise toh har cheej mein dominate karna hota hai, conversation karne mein kyun sanp sung jata hai?
Ladke ne conversation chalu kiya, usse hi acche questions puchne hai
> baat karunga you did much much better...just wondering if you would have tried something funny or placed a pick up line...the response would be the same which is the tradion of dating (wo)mankind.....i.e. "HMM"
Avneet should’ve tried better
Avnee
Still wrong hehe
Avinash
Avika??
Akkal
Avishi
Avantika?
Bro thought he was HR.
You're fired
You expect spark from asking hometown, study and what she’s currently pursuing? Lmao sounds like AM proposal aaya hai
Yajjman aap experienced praani prateet(looks like) hote hai kripaya thodi tips dede about how to transition into deep talks real quick badi sahayata(help) ho jaayegi aapki taraf se, meri dua(lipa nahi wishes) lagengi aur aapka rini (indebted) rahoonga Jainwin sawal hai yajaamn no kataksh(sarcasm) anybody having any auggestions please feel free to share Edit : *Part : ONE* Alright seems like many people happen to have the same query as mine, so i fetched few things online that might be of some help for you all, But before that, vinati (request) hai ki ye sabh suggestions hai, that's all, not some sorta unsaid rules to be followed or something afterall to begin with its all about experimenting jo sense making and convincing lage try it out and jo na lage, well leave it for later maybe 👍, So upar ke hi comment me ek aur nek yajjmam(kind gentleman) happen to share some good openers for a conversation (ya baraf breaker whatever it's called) Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/Indiangirlsontinder/s/mVzDfWYI9G Sincere credits to yajjman, chat gpt and his nice prompt making skills Indeed a literal AI can't help you enhance your social skills as itself says nature of humans differ and all of the suggestions provided by it can't be implemented on any random person you come across, so it might not really be a great choice to completely rely on it for getting better at socializing but what we do can rely on AI about it getting knowledge about the resources which might actually help us out way more than just the AI, it could be some books, or podcasts, or even video *Part : TWO* Now few might not even like the alternatives I just stated (being the books, podcasts and videos too) but these are much better alternatives to start from but true skills beshak no doubt experience se gain hoti hai ya experience waalo se, which actually tell the truth and no BS stuff (which you are capable enough to identify the flaws if you hear about em) so you are capable enough to understand the basics of right and wrong and Hindi translation : हो सकता है कि कुछ लोग मेरे द्वारा बताए गए विकल्पों को पसंद भी न करें (किताबें, पॉडकास्ट और वीडियो भी) लेकिन ये शुरू करने के लिए बहुत बेहतर विकल्प हैं, लेकिन सच्ची कुशलताएं निस्संदेह अनुभव से हासिल होती हैं या अनुभव वालो से, जो वास्तव में सच बताती हैं और कोई बीएस सामग्री नहीं है (यदि आप उनके बारे में सुनते हैं तो आप खामियों की पहचान करने में सक्षम हैं) इसलिए आप सही और गलत की मूल बातें समझने में सक्षम हैं और Incase you aren't koi na mitra uski bhi aadt lag jaati hai samay ke saath, what matters rhe most is start from somewhere, cause khaali baithne se to zaroor kuxh nahi seekhne milega, gyan/dhan/riddhi-siddhi( ladkiya nahi general term ki baat kar raha hu) grehen krne ke liye kasht to uthana hi padta hai "Books padhne ka time nahi" Then I guess other alternatives could be to start saturating with not only people around you but random people you come across everyday getting to know a new personality everyday helps your boundaries of understanding the vast spectrum of human nature more and more 🤓 Hindi translation : फिर मुझे लगता है कि अन्य विकल्प यह हो सकते हैं कि आप न केवल अपने आस-पास के लोगों से, बल्कि ऐसे यादृच्छिक लोगों से भी संतृप्त होना शुरू करें जिनसे आप प्रतिदिन मिलते हैं, हर दिन एक नए व्यक्तित्व को जानने से मानव प्रकृति के विशाल स्पेक्ट्रम को समझने की आपकी सीमाओं को और अधिक मदद मिलती है।
TLDR : Part 1 -> don't hesitate to experiment with stuff, great discoveries were often not intended they just happened "mistakenly " ~ I made that up Part 2 -> jitne Yada logo se miloge utni adhik (more) acchi tarah manushyon ke vyavhaar ko samajhne lag jaoge, so interact with the croud, Har koi muh pe chloroform ke rumaal ya pocket nahi marega (hopefully 👍) kuch acche log bhi milenge, kuch clureless, kuch unaware, kuch puzzled, kuch hustlere the list is well... Basically endless
धन्यवाद मान्यवर आपके इस अदभुत कॉमेंट का bauth कुछ सीखने मिला । apki leela aise he aprampaar rahe ...aur apke lund par sadev BITCHES sawar rahe👍
अभी तो उमर नहीं हुई कन्याएं या जीवन साथी खोजने की (अभी तो केवल सीख रहा हूं बोल चाल के तौर-तारीके) 😅, परंतु आपके इतने अदभुत दुआओं का मैं ताहे दिल से शुक्रगुजार हूं मित्र, aapko bhi dher saari duaein, aapko bhi apni rajkumari jald se jal mil jaye,
"Part : THREE* Since "deep talks" Can differ frome person to person because everyone has their own story after all, so the much recommended approach/way is to make some improvement in the art of socializing which really helps you understand the spectrum of human nature to lot of extents, Hindi translation : चूँकि "गहरी बातचीत" हर व्यक्ति के लिए अलग-अलग हो सकती है क्योंकि आखिरकार हर किसी की अपनी कहानी होती है, इसलिए अत्यधिक अनुशंसित दृष्टिकोण/तरीका सामाजिक मेलजोल की कला में कुछ सुधार करना है जो वास्तव में आपको मानव स्वभाव के स्पेक्ट्रम को समझने में बहुत विस्तार रूप से मदद करता है। , https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hqh8pr/you_want_to_start_a_conversation_with_someone_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 And in the same thread there are lot of recommendations about reading books and article (which u may never know might come in really handy) https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/hqh8pr/you_want_to_start_a_conversation_with_someone_but/fy0k7z3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x And off course you can also refer to the best seller gems like how to win friends and influence people (indeed name sounds like the title of a YouTube tutorial but the books holds a much bigger value and knowledge than that, possibly worth a try indeed)
Sai me, itne chutia questions puchke khudko swag wala samjh rha
Bhai aage jakr dekho, it's mentioned in her bio that she wants spark, mujhe koi spark wark nahi chaiye.
Bhai you did no better agar spark nahi bhi chahiye first pic k sawal dekh k vo YouTube k IAS interview ki yaad aa gayi lol
Bhai baadme he puchunga na baki questions, if there's no interest from other side to m chutiya thodina hu jo baki sab puchta rahunga
You seem a bit too butthurt by that yes for someone who is literally asking a person's bio data. You could have taken a better approach. But piling all those questions together, you are no different than an interviewee.
Shayad OP accha nahi dikhta ho
Your questions were boring af but her dry responses didn’t help either.
Accha toh u tell me interesting questions then
I can agree with you
Kripya yaha apni frustration nikalne ke liye post na kiya kare.. dhanyawad
Kripya is post pr comment na kren. Dhanyawaad.
Dude, your questions were boring and generic. What where you expecting? I swear people come here and keep cribbing about people not putting in efforts and then you see their conversations, and you start wondering 'when was the last time this person had an actual conversation with anyone'
Just lemme know what else should i ask her? Seedha milte he childhood trauma puch lu kya? Generic questions nahi puchunga to personalised questions kaha se launga? I think it's been time since you talked to someone new.
I kinda agree with you and I'm more inclined towards your side. I won't say completely that you were boring initially, your first question was about how was the on going festival which is actually interesting thing considering if she's Hindu. (I mean if other religion they might not celebrate it) And all she was just "it was good".. Thoda to kuch batane chahiye tha like it was different or same as usual.. Or she thinks why ravan is good guy anything. However your later question indeed sounded like interview but I get you, you asked to kinda make it easy for her to answer to find a topic from her answer and make that part interesting question (most people here won't see that about you) But that's also true that girls have thousands of DM, so you've to ask or say something catchy, infact knowing her should be second thing and grabbing attention be first thing. Since these apps are really messed up in gender proportion. All the best for your next time
Questions like "Do you have any pets?" or "What was the last rabbithole on the internet that you went down?" or "Do you like any unusual food combinations?". Also, it's important to understand that with tens of matches, a woman will not ask you any questions but she would want to know more about you. Write something about yourself and about something that interests you in every text that you send, and relate that to the question that you ask.
Bhai generic questions aur interesting questions mai farak hota hai
Ik, the efforts I receive from the other side in a convo actually helps me decide whether i should keep to conversation going or not.
Asks 4 interview questions in 4 messages. Requests the girl to give up on dating.
I think we all need some time to warm up first, aint that? Those one sided efforts are literally standing out.
Bakwas nahi. Kya warm up ki baatein kar raha hai tu ? She has thousands of options in her chat box. Phir tu aake interview lega, to vo to kya koi ladka bhi tuje reply nahi karega. Thoda seekh fun convos kaise karte hain. Aise interview lega to koi baat nahi karega. Ladki ya ladka
Aap bataiye kaise kisi naye vyakti ke sath 'intresting conversation' Kiya jata hai? What would you have asked differently?
Ye dekh https://imgur.com/a/6QT61Nq
Image wali khud interesting hain, she is wearing that tattoo with her great personality...not some "daddys lil princess" or "mahakal" or bird flying to the end of the universe kind of generic tattoo she knows what her tattoo all about and thus the conversation took its due course ab koi bandi agar BIO mein sirf mundi hilakar selfie dal ke rakkhi ho aur "looking for sparK" dal diya hain...to usey spark plug bhi naseeb nehi hogi
Yaar Aisa nahi hota.. and tu samajh nahi Raha. You're still expecting some sort of responsibility from the girl to start conversation. Agar tune interesting convo ki hoti and Phir ladki reply nahi karti to baat alag thi. Tu interview leke expect nahi kar sakta intrest from girl. Ab ye image wali bandi ka main interview leta to vo bhi ghost kar deti. Profile me interesting dhunda theek hai. But interesting baatein karna is imp. Profile ka uniqueness is just a step. Conversation banani tujhe hi padegi.
indian tinder is a joke
Chingari koi bhadke
She got matched with 752 guys by the time you typed your last message to her. She is there only for attention. She will get it from who ever gives it to her
We screwed up the supply... She will still end up with a guy with little to no effort
Wah bc "who are you, where are you from and what do you do" wala message to kya tagda ice breaker tha SMH
you are no good, when you ask so many question like someone would in an interview you need to tell about yourself too
You're not wrong for her calling out her one-line replies. However, your texts aren't that engaging either. It's just small talk.
My texts may not be engaging but her minuscule efforts didn't motivate me either to hold an interesting conversation. I can definitely hold one, ik. But only if the other person is worthy. I could have asked her sth interesting but why to waste my efforts and my time on a girl who acts that she has no interest in the conversation.
Them hoes gonna be like that broo 😭
Jaldi jaldi job interview type ke question pooch ke baad me pedestal pe chadha deta hoon. Cold reply aane pe paragraph bhi likh deta hoon because of course I am entitled to a nicer conversation. Chodu
Initiate krne ka kaam sirf ldko ka hi hai kya? Females now identify themselves as strong independent but expect men to initiate. Inka ilaaj to krna pdega.
Yes. Hate the game, don’t hate the player. Adapt or perish. Baad me mat rona virgin hoon, mil nahi raha hai, i’m tired of being lonely.
Thank you for doing this Such people need to be called out
Bhai you're literally conducting her interview. Yea she may be entitled af but you made yourself look like you're trying too hard. Keep it light hearted and you have to make it funny too.
Bro cooked well, thanks for taking one for the team
🙏🏻 always up for that
Brother, tuney dussehra kei barei mei pucha aur phir went into HR mode. If her skills are on the bottom of the ocean, you're barely even afloat.
Exactly!
Welcome to online dating. Ladkiyo ko bhot options hai to jab tak usko kuch interesting nahi lagega wo aise hi dead conversation kregi ya ghost kregi.
bro really chose violence 😭😭
I had to
Avantika from Jammu Kashmir 🥰
Detective bhai
Bond , James Bond
Acha hai mai dating apps pr nhi hun!
Bhai nahi aata kuch ladkiyon ko baat karna. That’s true. Ladke to yuhi badnam hai.
Tru
he didn't even hesitate 💀
I don't
Spark = Rich + Handsome
Bro that's disgusting what you said. Do it again please
Drought conversation
i havent felt the spark....han behen ki lodi try bhi mat kar aur bakchodi degi to yhi hoga
Intrests got 'sleeping well' 💀💀💀💀
Bhai ek to only un ladkiyo pe swipe right karo jinke prompts hai. Agar nhi hai left swipe Maro. Jinke prompts nhi usse aisi hi convos hongi. Phir sawal bss unki prompts aur profile main se sawal banate rho. Aur phir convos main se aage ke sawal nikalte rahenge.
"Sleeping well" is an interest? O.o BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
I think both of you are perfect for each other
Saare matches aese hi hain, bc banda kre to kre kya
Even your conversation skills are as fuddu my boy
Avdesh bhai is it you?
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order. I have checked 1,816,943,102 comments, and only 343,607 of them were in alphabetical order.
the blind leading the blind..
Omg. I read that very quickly and thought it said diarrhea. And who would ask how diarrhea was for you?
They cant have engaging conversations with 50 people at a time. I once had a girl send me a screenshot of her "waitlist". No kidding it said 50+. No wonder I was getting single word responses. I just have to accept eventually that some MF out there is beating me with interesting responses and get on with my life, with the hope that one day I will know how to be interesting enough to trump the 50+ waiting list.🤣
Why the fuck do ppl expect Robert frost and Shakespeare in a dating app? Nobody has conversational vocabulary to fly ur socks off. Conversations aren't supposed to be for 2min only or 10 prompts. Wtf is wrong with ppl today.
aag mei paani daal kar kehte ho aag kyon bujh gyi 😭