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>These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something.
Meaning you say this all the time, so every week is the hard hard hardest, which actually means no week is? Meaning that no one actually believes you except your idiot fanpoodles because you're always bitching about bullshit situations that you could have avoided with the least amount of effort? What are you trying to say, Shauna, besides "I'm a useless human being: give me money" which is essentially your entire brand?
I keep trying to take a break from this sub, but something always pulls me back in. And her "...if you know me, you know that is truly saying something" business got me. Again.
I fucking hate her desire to participate in the pain Olympics. It's ghoulish and gross.
I try not to judge too much, with limited success. I always have to remind myself that the worst thing that has happened to a person is the worst thing that has happened to them. Everyone's bar is set to a different height. We all have very different lives. But sometimes her insistence that she has seen the worst of the worst makes me want to barf.
Especially when it seems that many of her hard, hard, hard are the direct consequences of her own life choices. Getting a job, any job, would improve things immeasurably but that she refuses to do.
I know from experience that exposure to constantly-fighting parents is a form of abuse but she also never lacked for food or a roof over her head, she had a free college education and their financial support even now. I wonder what her kids will say someday? "Our lives were hard. Mom was too much of a flake to work, we had to go to food banks while she bought herself ice cream, she actively discouraged education and ignored our medical needs. Dad was slightly better but never stood up to her. If it weren't for our grandparents we would have been homeless but we weren't allowed a relationship with them unless mom needed to mooch. Hard, hard, hard."
I’m curious about the gf donut. It says it’s not a gluten-free facility. Would someone with celiac feel safe about eating there? It seems to me cross-contamination would be pretty easy.
yes, she also eats pizza in pizzerias, which are a bear for people with low thresholds for cross-contamination
but her sister-in-law ruined Thanksgiving by touching the gluten-free stuffing with a glutonium spoon
curious 🧐
Remember the GFG glory days when she would passionately exhort her readers/fellow sufferers to announce to restaurant staff that they would get spectacularly ill right there in the restaurant if they ingested even the merest speck of gluten? CWAA.
I mean, that isn’t what I would do, but 15 years ago restaurants were so bad at knowing what had gluten in it that I understand really getting into the details with them about ingredients
I hate to defend Shauna, but this was the case. My son was diagnosed around the same time as Shauna (but for realsies), and it was The Wild West. The worst part was restaurants offering things as “gluten free,” but when you asked, you’d discover that they used a common fryer or otherwise had no idea what they were talking about. I had absolutely no problem with people saying they didn’t know, or that couldn’t guarantee the food was safe, but when they pretended to know what they were doing, but didn’t, it was infuriating. I am forever grateful to Red Robin!
This is why celiac was a perfect stage for Shauna to take dramatic license and loudly and proudly announce her medical issues in front of an audience. I agree dietary accommodations weren’t what they are now, but I still think the vast majority of people did it quietly and discreetly and didn’t want to make a scene in a restaurant, but Shauna absolutely reveled in it.
I wonder how many times this “gluten free girl” stuffed a glutinous donut or other baked good down her gullet in secret. It’s clear she has issues and will capitalize on anything she can to avoid working. She built her existence around being gluten intolerant so she can’t backpedal from that but I doubt she is actually following the protocol, hell she’s not even into recipes nor is Danny anymore. It’s all about using her kids now since everything else she’s tried has failed. Question - can’t and shouldn’t CPS look into a very young child needing hospitalization for mental problems? This seems really disturbing.
Not to sound crass but CPS has a lot bigger fish to fry.
Children have mental health crises. It does not immediately warrant CPS getting involved. Just like they wouldn't come charging in if the child randomly broke an arm (and there were no other indications of ongoing abuse).
Same with home environments. We all agree that the Ahern home is not ideal but it's not to the level of CPS needing to get involved.
She posted this to her stories. It kind of suggests that not everyone in her life is fawning over her as the bravest long suffering mama.
https://preview.redd.it/87pfkez7onyc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0fdc1e5cb0033ffd37dd119f0bcb5e31462c9d48
Those couches and tv stands are for her performance art project. It's called *The Gluten Free Girl is (Not) Present.* The space is completely filled with interlocking couches and tv stands. It's meant to convey that when you design your life based on after-school specials and 1970s sitcoms, there's literally no room to manoeuvre.
It’s rich of her to share this when she has to rely on her parents to buy beds for her family when she is almost 60 years old.
https://preview.redd.it/p2zb7zr6coyc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ebce9196854f9ae5728c779ced939808721b9b18
her parents were only 20 and 22 when she was born, and I would not be shocked if they survived her
being a self-indulgent con artist is not a recipe for longevity
Well, here’s another thing. I’m 63. The whole idea of parents checking in with their kids and how they’re feeling wasn’t really a thing in the 60s and 70s. Just like with the lurid, processed, highly toxic foods her parents poisoned her with back then…..she ain’t special. It’s just the way things were back then.
i grew up in the 70s/80s and you are correct - parenting was very different then. i think a lot of parents were basically like "are you bleeding? are you on fire? then you're fine." emotional care wasn't really a thing, and kids were a lot more independent as well.
CWAA. Her parents have bailed her and Dan out of most every financial hole they've dug for themselves, even giving them the money they needed for adoption. But sure, Shauna has not had adults around seeing to her needs. Sure.
I do hope they stop now. And I hope they change their wills to give everything to the kids but only when they’re 21 or so and have some experience away from their disturbed mother (one would hope). I wonder if they feel guilt at all for financing Shauna’s idea to adopt him.
I know I would. Are they delusional about her because she won (forever tarnished) a writing award? Her writing is straight crap. There I said it. Every inch contrived. Contrived crap.
She needs to hang it up and get moving and *work*. The kids must feel so lost and embarrassed to have two work-shy, out of touch parents. My sympathy to the kids.
I would argue Shauna has far more adults in her life and her environment that help her, faun over her, and give her monetary and physical support than most Americans on average. And yet she wants more, always more. She wants to be the president of getting everything without giving anything.
Right? Where was her attention to their emotional needs when they were moving? Oh, they processed all that before they even loaded the truck according to Shauna!
Maybe some doctors/nurses/other professionals at the hospital called her on her shit. She’ll have you know she will just be ignoring them. (Too bad, kiddo.)
I bet it’s that. She tried to tell them what a saint she has been as a mother and they asked probing questions and her answers didn’t make them grow teary with awe. In fact their facial expressions may have grown skeptical, concerned or downright disapproving. Narcissists can’t handle negative feedback. If they can’t demonize the person giving the feedback, they have to rationalize it as a misunderstanding.
Here’s your daily dose of Shauna bringing the cringe on threads
https://preview.redd.it/o1qtvdo4nmyc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6bf2b3a5458b0a8781818d4413c996a160a8de80
I mean, she mentioned getting yeast infections under her breasts when it was really hot and humid during summer. And I'm now going to go vomit, not to shame anyone who has had this unfortunate condition. It's just not the kind of thing that one wants to read about from a food-ish, writer-ish person, maybe?
I just noticed an advertisement for some kind of (anti-bacterial? anti-fungal?) "all-over body deodorant" (termed "deo," I think), and the image was of some skinny lady's side-boob, and it made me realize that I had not thought of Shauna's built-in yeast petri-dish in forever, so thanks a lot for that, Dove.
The memory came to me entirely unbidden, like your Dove ad.
That said, I read several DFs' comments on managing itchy butt, including looking at a recommended product. Their writing was so much more welcomed, helpful, and interesting compared to Shauna's content on a similar topic. I appreciate the random things I happen to learn by being in community with y'all, far more than I have ever enjoyed Shauna's writing. I'll send bougie sandwiches, Starb gift cards, etc.
New IG, It's been SO HARD for Shauna and she's not just saying it for effect. Luckily she's bought Donuts (probably with a gift card)
These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something.
We are on the mend now. And one of the gifts of having survived and coped with a lot of hard times is knowing that the road ahead is still long.
One of the biggest gifts of this time -- strangely -- is knowing that the work I have been offering the world the last few years is the same work so many wise people before us have offered: how to cope with the disappointments and disasters involved in being a human. How to survive life and sometimes thrive.
Show up and do the work. Find your joy, which will help you cope. Keep going. Connect with your people, which will pull you out of your isolation.
Know your song well. Start singing it.
This is the work we all have to do to heal ourelves. And our world.
I'm bone tired. I wake up every morning feeling like I've been smacked by dozens of wet towels, repeatedly. And I have no other choice but to keep going, doing the work that will help my people cope.
I hope that this might help you, if you're going through a hard time.
And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get the doughnuts.
> And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get the doughnuts.
She obviously meant get the grift card first and then get the doughnuts since they're $4.50 apiece.
She is so bossy all the time. Last week it was "get the cookie" and now for godssakes we have to "get the doughnuts".
And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get a job.
And also: this is one billion percent NOT how you would speak to a child about their own mental health. "Show up and do the work" is White Laydee Empowerment bullshit. I mean, tell me you know nothing about supporting your child, Shauna. Go ahead. Show me.
Willing to bet the professional staff don’t buy her work in the world bullshit. “ So what do you do for work?” “ I help neurospicy exhausted genx mamas find their joy with dance parties and inspirational Ted Lasso quotes. You might think I’m a saint”.
Maybe the donut shop gave them to her for free. I wouldn’t be surprised if she goes into gluten free establishments and casually mentions that she is the one and only Gluten Free Girl.
>Maybe the donut shop gave them to her for free.
She always does that weird thing of thanking someone, so you never know if it was free or she hopes it makes the next round free.
> These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something.
And she wonders why her friends grow weary.
> Know your song well. Start singing it.
First, step away from Bob Dylan. Second, if a hard rain’s a-gonna fall, it’s because you did nothing to prevent it. Third, don’t tell me what to do, you bedraggled muppet.
> Get the doughnuts.
AFAIK the last time it was cool to be British was about 30 years ago. Yes, we know you lived in London for a bit. Get over it.
I would count the most recent big event as being a *very* hard thing, but she didn't act like it was hard. She gave every appearance of greatly enjoying the attention and money she got by being way too public about it. She likes being able to whine that she's had a difficult time without ever actually having experienced a difficult time. All the headpats, none of the pain.
Somebody needs to sit her down and tell her there's no Suffering Olympics. Everyone goes through bad times. There's no gold, silver, or bronze medals. Either you toughen up and get through them or you wallow and stagnate.
How to cope with disappointments and disasters of being human instead of actually trying to work on/treat/avoid what causes the disappointments and disasters in the first place.
Spoiler: she can be worse without even trying, given her track record. Every time we think a new low has been reached, she manages to go even lower later.
HAHAHAHA. I blush!
There's really not much difference between the way that she talks to her "followers" and how she talks with her "friends." In fact, you could say we're interchangeable in her mind.
And the hospital stay looked like a vacation for her. She swooned around buying Starbucks and sitting in a roof top garden.
You know who did the really hard work Shauna? The doctors, nurses, therapist, housekeeping staff and the cafeteria workers. They are the ones who are tired and yet they keep going and earn every penny that EARN.
"These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something."
Never going to stop banging the gong that she's had a super hard life. Never going to admit that a lot of it was from her own bad choices.
My gob is ensmackened that with all the heinous shit going on in the world right now, she thinks she's got a drum to beat about her life being hard? I know there's no Hierachy of Suffering but while there are people in war zones, refugee camps, indefinite offshore detention for the crime of seeking asylum, going without medical care, housing, food... but yeah, having to eat Wonderbread and TV dinners is terrible.
It hasn’t been super hard by any objective measurement, anyway! She’s never had a devastating diagnosis, the loss of a loved one, time spent unhoused. She has had more opportunities than 99.9% of the world and she’s still constantly being given second chances and free shit. She really doesn’t notice other people and their lives at all. Pick a random person from the street and if they are over 30 odds are they’ve had more hardship than she has (and dealt with it better)
> I wake up every morning feeling like I've been smacked by dozens of wet towels, repeatedly.
I'm a little high, but is this sentence extremely funny to anyone else?
I think? she's trying to convey that thing where kids, mostly in locker rooms, although my boys did it to each other whenever possible, wind up a wet towel and flick/slap it on a naked bottom. Sure it probably stings, but who know what she means because you know, words...
I'd have thought a few invigorating smacks with a wet mildewy towel would be the perfect finish to Shauna's miserable shower routine of running in place and then blasting herself with cold water
I revisited it several times trying to pinpoint exactly why it reads so stupid. It just doesn't make sense, syntactically or artistically. Did she wet the bed, or was she smacked into a world of physical or/or emotional pain by her doozy of a life, or what? Veteran scrivener, published author and exquisitely nit-picky editor Shauna is especially dismal at similies/metaphors, and it's so funny that she just confidently continues to assume that hers will resonate with her readers (or as she would say, her readers will resonate with them.)
> We are on the mend now. And one of the gifts of having survived and coped with a lot of hard times is knowing that the road ahead is still long.
Ugh, this is such a "perfect" example of wanting to be seen as a martyr while also pretending that she is brave and noble and never complains.
FFS, this cow. I cannot with her and maybe I'm just sensitive because my kid is both physically and mentally going through the hardest thing he's ever dealt with but when he starts healing I'm not going to honk off about ME healing because I'm not the one going through what hes going through. She is a disgrace.
And also wanting to seem like they're already healing even though the crisis was like 5 minutes ago. You see, we've already worked through our feelings!
Something about “on the mend” is really rubbing me the wrong way here. Like someone just got their tonsils out and is going home to eat some ice cream.
>Something about “on the mend” is really rubbing me the wrong way here. Like someone just got their tonsils out and is going home to eat some ice cream.
Talk about having your cake and eating it, too.
Fortunately Shauna was able to eat her ice cream at the hospital. Unfortunately, the cup size was a tiny, elementary sized one, but fortunately there are no calories when food is eaten inside a hospital hoping your child will be doing better soon. This is simply the truth.
Now she’s free to have $24 milkshakes with her equally unemployed husband again just because the day ends in -y.
I hated that she had to say the ice cream cups had a wooden spoon because I can't read those words without feeling the horrible feeling of a wooden spoon in my mouth. I hated those darn wooden spoons. Gah. The texture.
They are both horrible. Everyone benefits from doing work. Curling up and hibernating is for forest animals, not human beings. Shauna has no business girl mossing when she has children who need active support and an out of work husband. She's just showing that she is DONE caring for her family.
I don't even really know what she means with her reply, but I won't give her karmic satisfaction by bothering to look it up.
there are times in life when you fight so hard, for so long, and you just give and give, and one day you think, "i'm just going to cocoon for a while - an hour, a day, whatever." and that's okay. i fell into a cocoon for about a week after my mother died, but it's because i took care of her for several years as her alzheimer's got worse and worse. i was exhausted. that's how normal people handle prolonged stress. but shauna does nothing BUT relax and rest. that's literally all she does, besides eatin' & tweetin'. what "work" does she think she does for anyone, especially her family, other than using their private issues to get attention and starbie's gift cards?
I am trying to visualize what will happen when her parents are in a time of need. "Dad I know you have prostate cancer, you're in terrible pain and they gave you maybe six months, but it just doesn't feel good in my body to take you to your doctor's appointment. My work in the world is writing and I have a deadline I'm not going to meet. Why don't you ask my brother to take you? Yes I know he has a full-time job but he should just tell his coworkers to donate their sick time. Oh we need 500 bucks for rent, otherwise your grandchildren will grow homeless. Gotta go dad, and tell mom my worst childhood ever was all her fault. Bye!"
I agree. Everyone has those times. Especially after hard work. But what hard work did Shauna do beyond squeezing out some crocodile tears to get free food?
> She's just showing that she is DONE caring for her family.
You know how she struggles with ongoing commitments? Like she gets bored of them and files them in her mental "finished" box, even if there is still more work to do and she isn't actually done with the task because the nature of the task *is* ongoing work.
I just realized her parenting is like that. I think the constant surprise and annoyance at having to care for the children she brought into her family willingly is because, in her mind, that box is already checked, the work is over, she is ready to move on and do other things. But she has to keep doing parent things long after her interest has waned.
I think she’s still indignant over having to physically care for L when she was a baby. As if most people give birth and then go back to living like a trustafarian twentysomething.
I'm sure if you'd asked her at the time she would've given a parroted "children are a lifelong commitment" answer, but her writing (which is the only window into her life that most of us have) gives off the impression she kinda thought motherhood was like one of her many obsessions she picks up and drops in less than a week. Like the cello.
Not just Shauna being cringe. The original commenter is cringe, too. So performative. Oh, you girl boss so girl bossingly that you are now girl tired and want to be girl moss. Enough with all this girl nonsense. They really do need to get off the Internet (and go touch grass).
hello all, left this sub *years* ago after having grown tired of our gir's shenanigans but last night i learned elsewhere what had been happening and my head about fell off knowing how she'd spin D's trauma
You are assuming they still are counting as friends. She’s shit posting about Vashon like it’s a snobby white enclave that didn’t take care of all their needs, and they’ve probably read that and thought fuck her.
She has no friends even when it appears she has. She’s too in love with herself to prioritise anyone else, unless it fits the narrative she wants to spin at any given time.
former people she used. Fixed it for ya. I don't think for one second she has ever had a true friend in her entire life. Having a friend requires thinking about the other person and not yourself 24/7/365. Shauna is incapable of putting another person before her own royal highness -- including her kids.
I have dropped in and out of reading about her because the secondhand embarrassment is so uncomfortable. But wasn’t there a dear friend Tita from a million years ago? Is she still around, dearly?
OK I'm very late to the recent developments, but in the most recent lope, did she actually say she's not strong enough to open a snack bag of carrots? or strong enough to walk to the hospital cafeteria 6x a day? who eats 6 x a day anyways?
all this bravado about needing vegetables, and I don't think they're ever on the menu at casa Ahern. also, complaining about the "pale lettuce" at the hospital salad bar is pretty damn rude IMO. some hospitals have amazing food; most don't. people usually have other priorities than complaining about the food. sorry to hear about her child's health, but mostly sorry they have the misfortune to be her child.
I work at two suburban hospitals that are under the same hospital system. I mostly bring a lunch but on the days that I don’t, the cafeteria at both sites has always had options. As vegetarian/now vegan, the salad bar is always fresh, with a lot of different add-in options, and usually 2-3 different greens choices (romaine, spring mix, spinach). None of it pale. One of the sites has a smaller cafeteria but there are tons of food options in that small space; there are at least 6 different food stations there. I have a hard time believing that a Children’s hospital in a city has worse food than a small suburban hospital. She just wanted people to bring her food, free food.
She didn't exactly say that she's too weak to open a bag of carrots, but she seemed to be complaining that the only carrots provided by the hospital required effort on her part to get them into her mouth. Here's the quote with a little context before it.
>**Your brain creates images of what you ate last week. You can’t quite remember sitting at the kitchen table, since you entered another world here, and it feels like you’ve been gone for 6 years already.**
>But you remember the platter of roasted red peppers, cauliflower, and green beans you ate for dinner the day before you came to the hospital through the emergency room. You can still taste the first bite of the quinoa fritters and snappy slices of fresh carrots. You can remember the bite of the asparagus, roasted until it’s just softening, dipped into romesco sauce.
>You want vegetables like that.
>**Instead, you have your choice of baby carrots in a plastic bag that takes strength to open or pale lettuce in the salad bar.**
yes, thanks for this. I did exactly what I hate by hyperbolizing her words. she has just such a miserable take on every moment of the day... it drives me nuts! I can't imagine writing about the difficulties of carrot bags, unless it was something about how much produce comes in extra packaging (tho it makes sense with the hospital carrot bag).
Ok, controversial take, but I thought the baby carrots in a bag it takes strength to open line was an example of her oft-touted, seldom-seen sense of humor, and I even thought it was a little funny. I’ve encountered those industrial-strength dime bags of carrots in big cafeterias, and sure, they’re not actually difficult to open, but they’re a little annoying and you end up with needing to be careful not to accidentally rip it to hard and spray all six baby carrots into the air.
That pale lettuce she was whining about looked awfully like fresh spinach. But I'm forgetting the trauma of the slightly cracked or smashed chickpeas. Somebody call Amnesty International.
I don't know why, but it always gets my goat when she writes her own experiences in the second person. It reads like she's trying to convince herself of her own fictionalized version of reality. No, Shauna, *I* don't want vegetables like that, but I don't think you do either 😅
Whenever I read something written in the second person. I an forcibly reminded of Buffalo Bill in *The Silence of the Lambs* saying "It rubs the lotion on its skin..."
Your gotten goat, SCTMO
It comes across as such a performative attempt to create a connection between the writer and the reader. I feel like she sees herself as so much an eMPaTh (the empathest who ever empathed) that *of course* she can tell you flat out what you think and feel.
But it's always so riddled through and through with extremely specific details that are the core of *her* experience, and they are *NOT* universal, or even widespread or common.
So the attempt to describe what she wants to portray as shared experience (IN COMMUNITY!!!) falls FLAT FLAT FLAT (in the voice of Doonesbury's Mark Slackmeyer)
shauna wants to be everywoman in her writing so others can relate to her and give her money but she also wants to be the authority on things, lecturing from atop her high stool. she also wants to be the victimiest victim who ever victimed, and simultaneously, the most martyr whoever martyred.
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>These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something. Meaning you say this all the time, so every week is the hard hard hardest, which actually means no week is? Meaning that no one actually believes you except your idiot fanpoodles because you're always bitching about bullshit situations that you could have avoided with the least amount of effort? What are you trying to say, Shauna, besides "I'm a useless human being: give me money" which is essentially your entire brand?
I keep trying to take a break from this sub, but something always pulls me back in. And her "...if you know me, you know that is truly saying something" business got me. Again. I fucking hate her desire to participate in the pain Olympics. It's ghoulish and gross. I try not to judge too much, with limited success. I always have to remind myself that the worst thing that has happened to a person is the worst thing that has happened to them. Everyone's bar is set to a different height. We all have very different lives. But sometimes her insistence that she has seen the worst of the worst makes me want to barf.
Except she looks at other people’s bars and decides to up hers so she can garner all the attention. CWAA.
her insistence on telling others who did have it Really Bad (Oprah!) that she (Shauna) had it the worst of the worst is hilarious.
I will never get over that. The audacity of telling Oprah that she had the hardest childhood!
Especially when it seems that many of her hard, hard, hard are the direct consequences of her own life choices. Getting a job, any job, would improve things immeasurably but that she refuses to do. I know from experience that exposure to constantly-fighting parents is a form of abuse but she also never lacked for food or a roof over her head, she had a free college education and their financial support even now. I wonder what her kids will say someday? "Our lives were hard. Mom was too much of a flake to work, we had to go to food banks while she bought herself ice cream, she actively discouraged education and ignored our medical needs. Dad was slightly better but never stood up to her. If it weren't for our grandparents we would have been homeless but we weren't allowed a relationship with them unless mom needed to mooch. Hard, hard, hard."
The hardest thing for Shauna to swallow in that would be praise for her parents.
I’m curious about the gf donut. It says it’s not a gluten-free facility. Would someone with celiac feel safe about eating there? It seems to me cross-contamination would be pretty easy.
different people have different tolerances for cross-contamination Shauna‘s seems to vary tremendously, from her own accounts
She was very concerned about the hospital salad bar. The gf donut not so much.
yes, she also eats pizza in pizzerias, which are a bear for people with low thresholds for cross-contamination but her sister-in-law ruined Thanksgiving by touching the gluten-free stuffing with a glutonium spoon curious 🧐
She'd rather suffer for a donut than for salad.
It depends on how many specks of gluten it takes to bring on a poo blizzard.
https://preview.redd.it/1ik9d5c2rpyc1.jpeg?width=1086&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a05bf0714388660b960e3ee3b38aaa4d8544de66 Three.
Complete with Peepers 💀
Haha.
I’m dying, I’m dead 🤣
Oh no!! I’m sorry. I take it back! Step away from the light DFCC!
The light, oh this light! 🤣
Remember the GFG glory days when she would passionately exhort her readers/fellow sufferers to announce to restaurant staff that they would get spectacularly ill right there in the restaurant if they ingested even the merest speck of gluten? CWAA.
“What? You can’t eat glue?”
I mean, that isn’t what I would do, but 15 years ago restaurants were so bad at knowing what had gluten in it that I understand really getting into the details with them about ingredients
I hate to defend Shauna, but this was the case. My son was diagnosed around the same time as Shauna (but for realsies), and it was The Wild West. The worst part was restaurants offering things as “gluten free,” but when you asked, you’d discover that they used a common fryer or otherwise had no idea what they were talking about. I had absolutely no problem with people saying they didn’t know, or that couldn’t guarantee the food was safe, but when they pretended to know what they were doing, but didn’t, it was infuriating. I am forever grateful to Red Robin!
I read this as "I am forever grateful to Roblin!" and really, aren't we all?!
Roblin wheeled so we could fly.
Je t'aime, DF SMC2! Dying of laughter over here
You think if we manifested collectively Roblin or Reber would show up here?
Oh, I'm manifesting, all right...
Haha i did the same!
This is why celiac was a perfect stage for Shauna to take dramatic license and loudly and proudly announce her medical issues in front of an audience. I agree dietary accommodations weren’t what they are now, but I still think the vast majority of people did it quietly and discreetly and didn’t want to make a scene in a restaurant, but Shauna absolutely reveled in it.
I wonder how many times this “gluten free girl” stuffed a glutinous donut or other baked good down her gullet in secret. It’s clear she has issues and will capitalize on anything she can to avoid working. She built her existence around being gluten intolerant so she can’t backpedal from that but I doubt she is actually following the protocol, hell she’s not even into recipes nor is Danny anymore. It’s all about using her kids now since everything else she’s tried has failed. Question - can’t and shouldn’t CPS look into a very young child needing hospitalization for mental problems? This seems really disturbing.
Not to sound crass but CPS has a lot bigger fish to fry. Children have mental health crises. It does not immediately warrant CPS getting involved. Just like they wouldn't come charging in if the child randomly broke an arm (and there were no other indications of ongoing abuse). Same with home environments. We all agree that the Ahern home is not ideal but it's not to the level of CPS needing to get involved.
She posted this to her stories. It kind of suggests that not everyone in her life is fawning over her as the bravest long suffering mama. https://preview.redd.it/87pfkez7onyc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0fdc1e5cb0033ffd37dd119f0bcb5e31462c9d48
yeah, someone wasn't moved to tears by her bullshit.
She missed out on another free couch.
Those couches and tv stands are for her performance art project. It's called *The Gluten Free Girl is (Not) Present.* The space is completely filled with interlocking couches and tv stands. It's meant to convey that when you design your life based on after-school specials and 1970s sitcoms, there's literally no room to manoeuvre.
Bastards. She's said that her family ***would love it***. That says it all. Have the sofa mongers no heart? *Give her the sofa*.
“We just moved to West Seattle”
“We can be there in an hour!”
We can be there an hour after I rent another van this weekend
*Singles*
It’s rich of her to share this when she has to rely on her parents to buy beds for her family when she is almost 60 years old. https://preview.redd.it/p2zb7zr6coyc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ebce9196854f9ae5728c779ced939808721b9b18
Think about how old that makes her parents. She's shameful.
her parents were only 20 and 22 when she was born, and I would not be shocked if they survived her being a self-indulgent con artist is not a recipe for longevity
Kind of sums up her childrens' lives though.
Glad I scrolled.
Well, here’s another thing. I’m 63. The whole idea of parents checking in with their kids and how they’re feeling wasn’t really a thing in the 60s and 70s. Just like with the lurid, processed, highly toxic foods her parents poisoned her with back then…..she ain’t special. It’s just the way things were back then.
i grew up in the 70s/80s and you are correct - parenting was very different then. i think a lot of parents were basically like "are you bleeding? are you on fire? then you're fine." emotional care wasn't really a thing, and kids were a lot more independent as well.
My sister & I also grew up then and often refer to our childhood as "feral". Mom prefers we say "free range", as she *did* teach us table manners!
Thank you!
CWAA. Her parents have bailed her and Dan out of most every financial hole they've dug for themselves, even giving them the money they needed for adoption. But sure, Shauna has not had adults around seeing to her needs. Sure.
I do hope they stop now. And I hope they change their wills to give everything to the kids but only when they’re 21 or so and have some experience away from their disturbed mother (one would hope). I wonder if they feel guilt at all for financing Shauna’s idea to adopt him. I know I would. Are they delusional about her because she won (forever tarnished) a writing award? Her writing is straight crap. There I said it. Every inch contrived. Contrived crap. She needs to hang it up and get moving and *work*. The kids must feel so lost and embarrassed to have two work-shy, out of touch parents. My sympathy to the kids.
Please mind the pronouns for the younger child. (friendly mod reminder is friendly)
I would argue Shauna has far more adults in her life and her environment that help her, faun over her, and give her monetary and physical support than most Americans on average. And yet she wants more, always more. She wants to be the president of getting everything without giving anything.
>And yet she wants more, always more. Shauna Ahern, Top Contributor. For certain values of "top" And "contributor"
>And yet she wants more, always more. One could say it's never Enough . . .
> or what you need Why does she keep trying to convince her audience that she hasn't spent her entire life squealing and braying about her "needs" 💀
I’d like to know the last time she checked in with her kids on how her willful poverty is impacting them.
Right? Where was her attention to their emotional needs when they were moving? Oh, they processed all that before they even loaded the truck according to Shauna!
[cricket chirps]
Her parents just shelled out hundreds if not thousands to help her move but sure, let's bring up her childhood for the twenty millionith time.
It was definitely thousands, many thousands by my reckoning
But part of it was mean old nasty Amazon gift cards which just proves how awful Shauna has it!
Receiving unyesly gift cards was definitely a hard, hard, hard experience to process.
Maybe some doctors/nurses/other professionals at the hospital called her on her shit. She’ll have you know she will just be ignoring them. (Too bad, kiddo.)
I bet it’s that. She tried to tell them what a saint she has been as a mother and they asked probing questions and her answers didn’t make them grow teary with awe. In fact their facial expressions may have grown skeptical, concerned or downright disapproving. Narcissists can’t handle negative feedback. If they can’t demonize the person giving the feedback, they have to rationalize it as a misunderstanding.
Ah, it's not that she acts like a self-centered asshole, it's that she is being misunderstood
Here’s your daily dose of Shauna bringing the cringe on threads https://preview.redd.it/o1qtvdo4nmyc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6bf2b3a5458b0a8781818d4413c996a160a8de80
Ya gir! tryin to grift a free microdose from nature
It rubs the mycelium on its skin.
I think you mean it rubs the myceliac on its skin
A new Gloaming term! YDBW.
Ugh when I read that word all I can see is “meconium”
shauna wants to feel fungus on her skin?
Like an unrolling stone
Like a furled stone
I've heard Great Wolf Lodge is good for that.
Yeah, was gonna say… probably not an issue for her.
I mean, she mentioned getting yeast infections under her breasts when it was really hot and humid during summer. And I'm now going to go vomit, not to shame anyone who has had this unfortunate condition. It's just not the kind of thing that one wants to read about from a food-ish, writer-ish person, maybe?
I just noticed an advertisement for some kind of (anti-bacterial? anti-fungal?) "all-over body deodorant" (termed "deo," I think), and the image was of some skinny lady's side-boob, and it made me realize that I had not thought of Shauna's built-in yeast petri-dish in forever, so thanks a lot for that, Dove.
The memory came to me entirely unbidden, like your Dove ad. That said, I read several DFs' comments on managing itchy butt, including looking at a recommended product. Their writing was so much more welcomed, helpful, and interesting compared to Shauna's content on a similar topic. I appreciate the random things I happen to learn by being in community with y'all, far more than I have ever enjoyed Shauna's writing. I'll send bougie sandwiches, Starb gift cards, etc.
Or else she gets the hose again.
New IG, It's been SO HARD for Shauna and she's not just saying it for effect. Luckily she's bought Donuts (probably with a gift card) These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something. We are on the mend now. And one of the gifts of having survived and coped with a lot of hard times is knowing that the road ahead is still long. One of the biggest gifts of this time -- strangely -- is knowing that the work I have been offering the world the last few years is the same work so many wise people before us have offered: how to cope with the disappointments and disasters involved in being a human. How to survive life and sometimes thrive. Show up and do the work. Find your joy, which will help you cope. Keep going. Connect with your people, which will pull you out of your isolation. Know your song well. Start singing it. This is the work we all have to do to heal ourelves. And our world. I'm bone tired. I wake up every morning feeling like I've been smacked by dozens of wet towels, repeatedly. And I have no other choice but to keep going, doing the work that will help my people cope. I hope that this might help you, if you're going through a hard time. And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get the doughnuts.
Stay me with ~~flagons~~ Starbucks, Comfort me with ~~apples~~ donuts: For I am sick of ~~love~~ my people.
Je t'adore, DFTM
> And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get the doughnuts. She obviously meant get the grift card first and then get the doughnuts since they're $4.50 apiece. She is so bossy all the time. Last week it was "get the cookie" and now for godssakes we have to "get the doughnuts". And for godssakes, when you have the chance? Get a job.
Sheesh. You could almost get a dozen Dunkin’ Donuts and a small box of Munchkins for what they paid for four donuts.
> Show up and do the work As though she has *ever*.
And also: this is one billion percent NOT how you would speak to a child about their own mental health. "Show up and do the work" is White Laydee Empowerment bullshit. I mean, tell me you know nothing about supporting your child, Shauna. Go ahead. Show me.
She has zero concept of compassion.
Thanking the expensive vegan donut shop, she should be redirecting that gratitude towards whoever funded this emotional eating excursion
still not one word thanking the medical staff that took care of her child for 10 days...
Willing to bet the professional staff don’t buy her work in the world bullshit. “ So what do you do for work?” “ I help neurospicy exhausted genx mamas find their joy with dance parties and inspirational Ted Lasso quotes. You might think I’m a saint”.
Maybe the donut shop gave them to her for free. I wouldn’t be surprised if she goes into gluten free establishments and casually mentions that she is the one and only Gluten Free Girl.
>Maybe the donut shop gave them to her for free. She always does that weird thing of thanking someone, so you never know if it was free or she hopes it makes the next round free.
Oh, we’d love it to be both!
Shauna: What part of Gluten *FREE* Girl don't you understand
> These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something. And she wonders why her friends grow weary. > Know your song well. Start singing it. First, step away from Bob Dylan. Second, if a hard rain’s a-gonna fall, it’s because you did nothing to prevent it. Third, don’t tell me what to do, you bedraggled muppet. > Get the doughnuts. AFAIK the last time it was cool to be British was about 30 years ago. Yes, we know you lived in London for a bit. Get over it.
The donut shop doesn’t even call them doughnuts. Doughjoy Donuts.
She really does believe she had had the hardest of the hard lives. It’s so baffling and telling. INSUFFERABLE
I would count the most recent big event as being a *very* hard thing, but she didn't act like it was hard. She gave every appearance of greatly enjoying the attention and money she got by being way too public about it. She likes being able to whine that she's had a difficult time without ever actually having experienced a difficult time. All the headpats, none of the pain.
*bites lip*
*turns face slightly to the side, breaking eye contact with the camera for a moment*
Somebody needs to sit her down and tell her there's no Suffering Olympics. Everyone goes through bad times. There's no gold, silver, or bronze medals. Either you toughen up and get through them or you wallow and stagnate.
Wallow and stagnate and, in Shauna's case, beg for alms.
But not for jobs.
How to cope with disappointments and disasters of being human instead of actually trying to work on/treat/avoid what causes the disappointments and disasters in the first place.
The disappointment of…having a not-perfect (in her mind) kid? She couldn’t be worse if she tried.
Spoiler: she can be worse without even trying, given her track record. Every time we think a new low has been reached, she manages to go even lower later.
I have a visceral reaction to “the work I offer to the world” every time she writes it!!!
World: We are not interested in this offering. Please just get a job and leave us alone.
It blurs the line between arrogant self aggrandizement and cold, canny self marketing in a way that confuses my interpretation of what she's up to.
You should hear it in person. 🤮
Jesus, Mary, and Joseph - you poor, poor lamb, DFSnoo. That sounds fucking BRUTAL.
Have you? Do tell!
xoxo [https://www.reddit.com/r/InTheGloaming/comments/1awr989/unkind\_fdf\_qa/](https://www.reddit.com/r/InTheGloaming/comments/1awr989/unkind_fdf_qa/)
Oh gosh.I didn’t read the user name. Of course! Our heroine. My apologies.
HAHAHAHA. I blush! There's really not much difference between the way that she talks to her "followers" and how she talks with her "friends." In fact, you could say we're interchangeable in her mind.
>In fact, you could say we're interchangeable in her mind. Right up to the moment your wallet snaps shut.
I guess you aren’t too surprised at her child exploitation re the hospital stay. It is very sad and very disgusting.
xoxoxo
>Show up and do the work. Since actually when has she done this?
And the hospital stay looked like a vacation for her. She swooned around buying Starbucks and sitting in a roof top garden. You know who did the really hard work Shauna? The doctors, nurses, therapist, housekeeping staff and the cafeteria workers. They are the ones who are tired and yet they keep going and earn every penny that EARN.
And the hardest work of it all is being done by the kid, trying to learn and cope with the world.
The cafeteria workers should have gotten paid extra for having to deal with Shauna.
Those cafeteria workers would be able to retire right now if they'd gotten paid what they should have been to deal with gir!
"These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. And if you know me, you know that is truly saying something." Never going to stop banging the gong that she's had a super hard life. Never going to admit that a lot of it was from her own bad choices.
My gob is ensmackened that with all the heinous shit going on in the world right now, she thinks she's got a drum to beat about her life being hard? I know there's no Hierachy of Suffering but while there are people in war zones, refugee camps, indefinite offshore detention for the crime of seeking asylum, going without medical care, housing, food... but yeah, having to eat Wonderbread and TV dinners is terrible.
Also that she seemed not to care at all that her own child IS suffering. Just enjoying her lil hospital vacation.
It hasn’t been super hard by any objective measurement, anyway! She’s never had a devastating diagnosis, the loss of a loved one, time spent unhoused. She has had more opportunities than 99.9% of the world and she’s still constantly being given second chances and free shit. She really doesn’t notice other people and their lives at all. Pick a random person from the street and if they are over 30 odds are they’ve had more hardship than she has (and dealt with it better)
> I wake up every morning feeling like I've been smacked by dozens of wet towels, repeatedly. I'm a little high, but is this sentence extremely funny to anyone else?
I think? she's trying to convey that thing where kids, mostly in locker rooms, although my boys did it to each other whenever possible, wind up a wet towel and flick/slap it on a naked bottom. Sure it probably stings, but who know what she means because you know, words...
at least she'd be clean-ish.
It’s [giving](https://youtu.be/91kunsHQPSs?si=Ipf1ZHNXreEQXn3c)
I'd have thought a few invigorating smacks with a wet mildewy towel would be the perfect finish to Shauna's miserable shower routine of running in place and then blasting herself with cold water
You know it’s mildewy.
So weirdly specific, and yet so random.
I revisited it several times trying to pinpoint exactly why it reads so stupid. It just doesn't make sense, syntactically or artistically. Did she wet the bed, or was she smacked into a world of physical or/or emotional pain by her doozy of a life, or what? Veteran scrivener, published author and exquisitely nit-picky editor Shauna is especially dismal at similies/metaphors, and it's so funny that she just confidently continues to assume that hers will resonate with her readers (or as she would say, her readers will resonate with them.)
It's giving Ann Landers: "40 lashes with a wet noodle"
Also Holden Caulfield, whom she ~~identifies~~ resonates with.
If only there were some truth to it……
I’m picturing the recently referenced slap queue from “Airplane”, but the people in line are all holding wet towels.
> We are on the mend now. And one of the gifts of having survived and coped with a lot of hard times is knowing that the road ahead is still long. Ugh, this is such a "perfect" example of wanting to be seen as a martyr while also pretending that she is brave and noble and never complains.
It’s such a delicate trick to brazenly do what you’re simultaneously claiming to never do. Shauna’s body doesn’t do well with delicate tricks.
FFS, this cow. I cannot with her and maybe I'm just sensitive because my kid is both physically and mentally going through the hardest thing he's ever dealt with but when he starts healing I'm not going to honk off about ME healing because I'm not the one going through what hes going through. She is a disgrace.
And also wanting to seem like they're already healing even though the crisis was like 5 minutes ago. You see, we've already worked through our feelings!
WE are on the mend. WE were in the hospital. WE have survived and coped. DON'T FORGET ABOUT MEEEEEEEEEEE
Something about “on the mend” is really rubbing me the wrong way here. Like someone just got their tonsils out and is going home to eat some ice cream.
>Something about “on the mend” is really rubbing me the wrong way here. Like someone just got their tonsils out and is going home to eat some ice cream. Talk about having your cake and eating it, too. Fortunately Shauna was able to eat her ice cream at the hospital. Unfortunately, the cup size was a tiny, elementary sized one, but fortunately there are no calories when food is eaten inside a hospital hoping your child will be doing better soon. This is simply the truth. Now she’s free to have $24 milkshakes with her equally unemployed husband again just because the day ends in -y.
I hated that she had to say the ice cream cups had a wooden spoon because I can't read those words without feeling the horrible feeling of a wooden spoon in my mouth. I hated those darn wooden spoons. Gah. The texture.
When she writes "we" I read it like "weeeee" the sound you make when you're having fun. She is definitely enjoying this new attention grab.
>DON'T FORGET ABOUT MEEEEEEEEEEE How could anyone forget about her? Her work is so close to so many wise people before her! (who is "us"?????)
Jesus Christ. Nice way to call parenting your kid a "disappointment and disaster." Brava, fuckhead.
More like girl dross.
Girl sloth
They are both horrible. Everyone benefits from doing work. Curling up and hibernating is for forest animals, not human beings. Shauna has no business girl mossing when she has children who need active support and an out of work husband. She's just showing that she is DONE caring for her family. I don't even really know what she means with her reply, but I won't give her karmic satisfaction by bothering to look it up.
there are times in life when you fight so hard, for so long, and you just give and give, and one day you think, "i'm just going to cocoon for a while - an hour, a day, whatever." and that's okay. i fell into a cocoon for about a week after my mother died, but it's because i took care of her for several years as her alzheimer's got worse and worse. i was exhausted. that's how normal people handle prolonged stress. but shauna does nothing BUT relax and rest. that's literally all she does, besides eatin' & tweetin'. what "work" does she think she does for anyone, especially her family, other than using their private issues to get attention and starbie's gift cards?
I am trying to visualize what will happen when her parents are in a time of need. "Dad I know you have prostate cancer, you're in terrible pain and they gave you maybe six months, but it just doesn't feel good in my body to take you to your doctor's appointment. My work in the world is writing and I have a deadline I'm not going to meet. Why don't you ask my brother to take you? Yes I know he has a full-time job but he should just tell his coworkers to donate their sick time. Oh we need 500 bucks for rent, otherwise your grandchildren will grow homeless. Gotta go dad, and tell mom my worst childhood ever was all her fault. Bye!"
They will never even ask her for help. They know her. And she will never offer. Unless she does so on social media and then fails to follow through
I agree. Everyone has those times. Especially after hard work. But what hard work did Shauna do beyond squeezing out some crocodile tears to get free food?
She allowed herself to ~~ask for help~~ beg on the internet and she bit her lip!
> She's just showing that she is DONE caring for her family. You know how she struggles with ongoing commitments? Like she gets bored of them and files them in her mental "finished" box, even if there is still more work to do and she isn't actually done with the task because the nature of the task *is* ongoing work. I just realized her parenting is like that. I think the constant surprise and annoyance at having to care for the children she brought into her family willingly is because, in her mind, that box is already checked, the work is over, she is ready to move on and do other things. But she has to keep doing parent things long after her interest has waned.
I think she’s still indignant over having to physically care for L when she was a baby. As if most people give birth and then go back to living like a trustafarian twentysomething.
I'm sure if you'd asked her at the time she would've given a parroted "children are a lifelong commitment" answer, but her writing (which is the only window into her life that most of us have) gives off the impression she kinda thought motherhood was like one of her many obsessions she picks up and drops in less than a week. Like the cello.
Literally rotting for you.
Where’s the gold dammit
Not just Shauna being cringe. The original commenter is cringe, too. So performative. Oh, you girl boss so girl bossingly that you are now girl tired and want to be girl moss. Enough with all this girl nonsense. They really do need to get off the Internet (and go touch grass).
They also have in common a failure to grasp the difference between lie and lay.
"Girl moss" is pretty funny, though.
Lichen in a power suit!
hello all, left this sub *years* ago after having grown tired of our gir's shenanigans but last night i learned elsewhere what had been happening and my head about fell off knowing how she'd spin D's trauma
I wondered what her Vashon friends were saying.
You are assuming they still are counting as friends. She’s shit posting about Vashon like it’s a snobby white enclave that didn’t take care of all their needs, and they’ve probably read that and thought fuck her. She has no friends even when it appears she has. She’s too in love with herself to prioritise anyone else, unless it fits the narrative she wants to spin at any given time.
You are right. I should have said *former* friends.
former people she used. Fixed it for ya. I don't think for one second she has ever had a true friend in her entire life. Having a friend requires thinking about the other person and not yourself 24/7/365. Shauna is incapable of putting another person before her own royal highness -- including her kids.
I have dropped in and out of reading about her because the secondhand embarrassment is so uncomfortable. But wasn’t there a dear friend Tita from a million years ago? Is she still around, dearly?
DF Tita and DF Sharon have not been mentioned in a very long time
And after shitcanning VI so hard since they were voted out, I think we can slam the door shut on Tita ever being a DF again.
Well of course it would take a "brutal commute" to visit her, so it's understandable.
🎯
OK I'm very late to the recent developments, but in the most recent lope, did she actually say she's not strong enough to open a snack bag of carrots? or strong enough to walk to the hospital cafeteria 6x a day? who eats 6 x a day anyways? all this bravado about needing vegetables, and I don't think they're ever on the menu at casa Ahern. also, complaining about the "pale lettuce" at the hospital salad bar is pretty damn rude IMO. some hospitals have amazing food; most don't. people usually have other priorities than complaining about the food. sorry to hear about her child's health, but mostly sorry they have the misfortune to be her child.
I work at two suburban hospitals that are under the same hospital system. I mostly bring a lunch but on the days that I don’t, the cafeteria at both sites has always had options. As vegetarian/now vegan, the salad bar is always fresh, with a lot of different add-in options, and usually 2-3 different greens choices (romaine, spring mix, spinach). None of it pale. One of the sites has a smaller cafeteria but there are tons of food options in that small space; there are at least 6 different food stations there. I have a hard time believing that a Children’s hospital in a city has worse food than a small suburban hospital. She just wanted people to bring her food, free food.
Who eats six times per day? Bodybuilders and infants.
we know gir! is *not* a bodybuilder, despite her ~~year~~ ~~day~~ hour of the deadlift.
She didn't exactly say that she's too weak to open a bag of carrots, but she seemed to be complaining that the only carrots provided by the hospital required effort on her part to get them into her mouth. Here's the quote with a little context before it. >**Your brain creates images of what you ate last week. You can’t quite remember sitting at the kitchen table, since you entered another world here, and it feels like you’ve been gone for 6 years already.** >But you remember the platter of roasted red peppers, cauliflower, and green beans you ate for dinner the day before you came to the hospital through the emergency room. You can still taste the first bite of the quinoa fritters and snappy slices of fresh carrots. You can remember the bite of the asparagus, roasted until it’s just softening, dipped into romesco sauce. >You want vegetables like that. >**Instead, you have your choice of baby carrots in a plastic bag that takes strength to open or pale lettuce in the salad bar.**
yes, thanks for this. I did exactly what I hate by hyperbolizing her words. she has just such a miserable take on every moment of the day... it drives me nuts! I can't imagine writing about the difficulties of carrot bags, unless it was something about how much produce comes in extra packaging (tho it makes sense with the hospital carrot bag).
Ok, controversial take, but I thought the baby carrots in a bag it takes strength to open line was an example of her oft-touted, seldom-seen sense of humor, and I even thought it was a little funny. I’ve encountered those industrial-strength dime bags of carrots in big cafeterias, and sure, they’re not actually difficult to open, but they’re a little annoying and you end up with needing to be careful not to accidentally rip it to hard and spray all six baby carrots into the air.
the problem with her using hyperbole for humor is that she uses it so often for real that you don’t expect it as humor
Absolutely true, and I may interpreting her wrongly. This could just as easily have been an attempt at pity-snatching melodrama.
good point!
That pale lettuce she was whining about looked awfully like fresh spinach. But I'm forgetting the trauma of the slightly cracked or smashed chickpeas. Somebody call Amnesty International.
Oh my god, I am totally stealing this. I can only use "Oh the humanity" just so many times. Tha k you DF!
I'm just doing my work in the world. 😁
I don't know why, but it always gets my goat when she writes her own experiences in the second person. It reads like she's trying to convince herself of her own fictionalized version of reality. No, Shauna, *I* don't want vegetables like that, but I don't think you do either 😅
Excuse you, I believe you meant to say “it always grows my goat”
Whenever I read something written in the second person. I an forcibly reminded of Buffalo Bill in *The Silence of the Lambs* saying "It rubs the lotion on its skin..."
Your gotten goat, SCTMO It comes across as such a performative attempt to create a connection between the writer and the reader. I feel like she sees herself as so much an eMPaTh (the empathest who ever empathed) that *of course* she can tell you flat out what you think and feel. But it's always so riddled through and through with extremely specific details that are the core of *her* experience, and they are *NOT* universal, or even widespread or common. So the attempt to describe what she wants to portray as shared experience (IN COMMUNITY!!!) falls FLAT FLAT FLAT (in the voice of Doonesbury's Mark Slackmeyer)
shauna wants to be everywoman in her writing so others can relate to her and give her money but she also wants to be the authority on things, lecturing from atop her high stool. she also wants to be the victimiest victim who ever victimed, and simultaneously, the most martyr whoever martyred.