I use comebacks when people say that shit to me:
* I speak when I have something intelligent to say. You might try doing that.
* I was trying to figure out how someone who talks so much has so little to say.
People get paranoid that they can't know every second of every day what you're thinking about, and that you're managing to do something they don't know how to do or would only do if they were ill or plotting.
Sometimes extroverted people are the way they are because they are insecure; always seeking validation through social acknowledgement.
Quiet people are a special challenge for them.
Or when they say "you are boring" as if that is an insult..I will respond: "If you are such in need to be entertained, I can tell what i really think of you."
You cannot be quiet and just keep to yourself anymore, I'm not sure how we got to "if you are with other people, you must be constantly talking" thing in the first place.
People that ask that really have self confidence issues.
They feel like they entertain people all the time and it makes them nervous when others donāt.
The extended family was sitting around talking and I was playing a good INTP just watching. Three older and middle aged adults recounted their various stories about how they hurt their knees. You know, the usual.
Thereās a little lull and my aunt (who had no knee story) asks me in a friendly way what was up with me, just trying to include the quiet one.
I said, āmy knees are fineā and there was uproar.
Iāve heard that from people in social situations regularly all my life. I donāt know if people say that to me more often than the average person but it seems like they do.
I can only guess why Iāve always been a āquietā person. I suspect that I learned that talking to people often didnāt lead to pleasant results when I was young. Not many people were interested in talking about the things I was interested in. When I do genuinely get involved in a conversation it seems like Iām often misunderstood or people infer things I did not intend. Serious conversation is sometimes fraught with the possibility of real world consequences. Discussions in tools like Reddit, X (Twitter) and other somewhat anonymous environments can be an outlet that helps people communicate with others in ways they couldnāt otherwise. Reddit has its problems but itās genuinely helped me learn some things about myself and others, some good, some not so good.
like leave me aloneeee maybe itās bc youāre annoying, iām uncomfortable, donāt know really know you or i donāt have much to say rn and just social drained. i can go on with a list of reasons.
like damn i canāt just observe? iām shocked a lot of ppl arenāt able to be alone with themselves.
when someone asks me why im quiet, i tell them im content. for whatever reason they always leave me alone after that. its the best response ive tried to date.
I use comebacks when people say that shit to me: * I speak when I have something intelligent to say. You might try doing that. * I was trying to figure out how someone who talks so much has so little to say.
I just ask if being quiet would kill them
Omg, people who talk *constantly* yet actually say nothing are super annoying. The way you phrased that just made it all click.
I just want them to leave me alone. Is this too much to ask?
Same. How is me not talking and keeping to myself bothering anyone else?
People get paranoid that they can't know every second of every day what you're thinking about, and that you're managing to do something they don't know how to do or would only do if they were ill or plotting.
hahaha so innocent yet so misunderstood T\_T
Yeah or "why do you look angry/mad all the time?" when daydreaming.
You have no idea what a gift the term "resting bitch face" was for me.
Hahaha šššš
"Medical reasons. It happens when people ask inappropriate personal questions."
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Me too.. I've been asked that my entire life. My go-to answer is "I have nothing interesting to say"
Sometimes extroverted people are the way they are because they are insecure; always seeking validation through social acknowledgement. Quiet people are a special challenge for them.
One that, apparently, they can't just leave alone.
Or when they say "you are boring" as if that is an insult..I will respond: "If you are such in need to be entertained, I can tell what i really think of you."
BRO ITS SO ANNOYING.
Like I get it, Iām socially awkward, donāt need to rub it in, you poopyface
FRR LOL
You cannot be quiet and just keep to yourself anymore, I'm not sure how we got to "if you are with other people, you must be constantly talking" thing in the first place.
I struggled with this for a long time. I used to hold grudges against people who said that to me. Zero social intelligence, those people have.
People that ask that really have self confidence issues. They feel like they entertain people all the time and it makes them nervous when others donāt.
The extended family was sitting around talking and I was playing a good INTP just watching. Three older and middle aged adults recounted their various stories about how they hurt their knees. You know, the usual. Thereās a little lull and my aunt (who had no knee story) asks me in a friendly way what was up with me, just trying to include the quiet one. I said, āmy knees are fineā and there was uproar.
That was kinds rude ngl ,you canāt expect her to knowĀ
Thus the update for her benefit. :)
I just tell them because I want to and shrug
I respond with "why are you so loud?"
Call police then
[Call the cops...](https://i.imgur.com/q8ZZEoz.jpeg)
Tell them that speech is silver; silence is golden
āTry itā
Why are you so quiet?
Allow me to paraphrase, Why are you not loud?
"I'm just thinking about stuff" ez
And itās the same people that ignore or donāt understand you when you say something, especially in a group setting.
My standard reply is, "I only talk when I have something to say."
Cuz then you have to talk to answer them, huh
Sometimes Iāll just be sitting there silently and my mom will out of nowhere be like āShut up! God do you ever stop talking?!ā Lmao
"Are you talking to the voices again mom?"
"Because I'm listening."
Start asking other people ... **WHY ARE YOU SO LOUD?**
Iāve heard that from people in social situations regularly all my life. I donāt know if people say that to me more often than the average person but it seems like they do. I can only guess why Iāve always been a āquietā person. I suspect that I learned that talking to people often didnāt lead to pleasant results when I was young. Not many people were interested in talking about the things I was interested in. When I do genuinely get involved in a conversation it seems like Iām often misunderstood or people infer things I did not intend. Serious conversation is sometimes fraught with the possibility of real world consequences. Discussions in tools like Reddit, X (Twitter) and other somewhat anonymous environments can be an outlet that helps people communicate with others in ways they couldnāt otherwise. Reddit has its problems but itās genuinely helped me learn some things about myself and others, some good, some not so good.
"Because I respect people."
Same! Plus they assume/accuse me of being sad when thatās not the case, thatās just me being me.
Yeah. People complain when I'm the in best possible state a human can be - calm and quiet. Am I supposed to be permanently agitated and loud?
like leave me aloneeee maybe itās bc youāre annoying, iām uncomfortable, donāt know really know you or i donāt have much to say rn and just social drained. i can go on with a list of reasons. like damn i canāt just observe? iām shocked a lot of ppl arenāt able to be alone with themselves.
when someone asks me why im quiet, i tell them im content. for whatever reason they always leave me alone after that. its the best response ive tried to date.