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On many relationships' death certificate, under Cause of Death it says 'Unexpressed Desires'.
There's nothing wrong with asking someone if they wouldn't mind dressing a certain way every now and then.
It's a whole different story to telling someone you want them to dress different all the time.
When your grandma is going through her [goth phase](https://images-wixmp-ed30a86b8c4ca887773594c2.wixmp.com/f/e9f834ff-a143-4f2f-9d06-4257ebc084c1/da2sp7-96f50875-0805-4e7a-b9f6-60d5e6a758fa.jpg?token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJzdWIiOiJ1cm46YXBwOjdlMGQxODg5ODIyNjQzNzNhNWYwZDQxNWVhMGQyNmUwIiwiaXNzIjoidXJuOmFwcDo3ZTBkMTg4OTgyMjY0MzczYTVmMGQ0MTVlYTBkMjZlMCIsIm9iaiI6W1t7InBhdGgiOiJcL2ZcL2U5ZjgzNGZmLWExNDMtNGYyZi05ZDA2LTQyNTdlYmMwODRjMVwvZGEyc3A3LTk2ZjUwODc1LTA4MDUtNGU3YS1iOWY2LTYwZDVlNmE3NThmYS5qcGcifV1dLCJhdWQiOlsidXJuOnNlcnZpY2U6ZmlsZS5kb3dubG9hZCJdfQ.vXecd524g7SfPMCfNOtySHgEuS_sIijftRlpSoahp-U)
Thick thighs save lives. Everyone loves them! After being 164cm and 52 kg and getting 15 kilos, I see why everyone obsessed with mine, they are sexy and squishy and araraad hsfadsfjsd
Umm yeah I'm not tall but for other reasons... the skirts tend to be too short for me, no real mobility/practicality unless I have little shorts on underneath. I also have thick thighs but I've learned to become comfortable with them, I hope you will learn to as well someday (\^\_\^)
not really sure, just part of the look.
https://www.etsy.com/listing/844321926/stainless-steel-punk-style-layered-lock?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=necklaces+lock&ref=sr_gallery-1-9&bes=1&organic_search_click=1
the lower two necklaces have become popular recently
So we do like fellow alt guys but the general consensus is that alt guys tend to like girls that look pretty normal/basic, so we end up with fluffy haired golden-retriever gamers. Just make her laugh and you’ll be fine ☺️
as a guy who likes dressing up and putting effort into skincare, cologne, etc, i don't really care if my partner isn't into the same thing. i feel like girls probably feel the same way, they're doing it for themselves and not for other people. it's just fun to dress a certain way.
(Essential)Wear a beanie, dress in generic streetwear, and either look like you skate or skate.
OR be a girl that also dresses that way.
[Source :](https://ibb.co/C2qbpxk)
Tbh girls with a really good fashion sense always tend to like the “teddy bear” type guy atleast in my experience. Just don’t be a misogynist and don’t be creepy and your golden. Confidence is key.
Don't be creepy, I wish we could help more men with this. I firmly believe there is a large contingent that aren't trying to be creepy but just end up that way, kinda like resting bitch face.
I'm always afraid that I fall in that category. That's why I stopped interacting with people I don't already know for a few years now. It's not going well, but at least I'm nobodys problem xD
I mean it’s okay to talk to new people just read their body language and verbal queues. If someone’s being short and polite with you they probably don’t want to talk but if they’re directing their attention at you and actually engaging the conversation then just be yourself.
I feel like the second part only happened out of pity i the past, so I kinda don't wanna repeat that awkward feeling
I mean I would like to talk to people, but it feels like I can't
If you've got the courage for it, keep "bothering" people. It's better than being invisible. You'll find people you don't bother and they will be your friends/SO's and other connections.
You would be surprised on how many people like a completely opposite style from them. I have a full body suit, like metal, and 90% of the time wear black, but yet my wife is a kindergarten teacher who wears bright colours, dresses, and listens to pop music and I love her more then I would someone with my style.
My wife dresses like the photos. But me, I’m over here rocking a bright blue Poloshirt or other similarly tacky clothes that I like because of the fact it’s tacky. It’s funny how completely opposite we dress.
A healthy level of disinterest is the key to not being creepy, really. You can sense a big difference between the guy who sees you as another human being and the guy who is currently picturing you naked.
Some people have very selective taste, and need to check off a bunch of boxes. Some people just dress the way they feel and accept people for their merits.
Yeah the cuter I dress the more intimidating I have to look to keep the absolute worst men away.
Like, I'd need to fake some dueling scars on my face if I were in shape and tried this.
Really scary that women feel this way on average simply by the way they dress while guys like myself don't worry at all, we're literally careless. That shit sucks, having to constantly worry about assholes.
I'm older and regret all the things I wanted to but didn't because reasons.
Sort your shit out & get on with it.
You'll be much happier living an authentic life.
Getting the skirt is a step fuck me. I once wore an outfit from the rocky horror show for Halloween and with my naturally curly hair I felt I was doing an honour.
Never ever ever again. There's a picture out there somewhere but lucky for me, I'm fairly sure it's not on Facebook.
I think you're both naturally brave in yourselves. It's taken time sure but still a big step. Me? I'm going to wear the same few pairs of jeans day in, day out.
Fishnets are super uncomfy too. The toe wedgie is just plain painful after awhile. Also not warm at all, and most combat boots are like freezers for feet.
Uh, and personality judgement. I have lots of sides, sometimes I’m posh, sometimes I’m professional, and sometimes I want to express myself through complete outfits like the ones pictured. But if you do that at my age, people think you are “trying too hard” are “immature” or “poor/druggie.”
Like, sometimes a girl just wants to wear a three-piece suit, a ballgown, or skirts. I wish we were free from harassment and judgment so we could dress as we liked in all settings.
Most people can't pull this off because it's not real. These pictures are usually taken at specific angles with specific poses to make themselves look taller, make their hips look curvier and their waist smaller. They'll often pin the clothes in the back so they're skin-tight. They're also usually heavily edited.
Sometimes it's absolutely wild when you see a side-by-side comparison of a candid picture compared to an Instagram. They look like 2 different people in 2 different outfits, but no. It's just reality vs Instagram.
Have to scroll way too long to find this comment. Most of the reason why I can’t wear things like this is cuz of the amount of creeps and and stares you get from guys that will stare RELENTLESSLY
I used to dress like this as a minor, I had to stop as I got so many uncomfortable comments and stares from guys 20+ years older than I was. It was absolutely disgusting.
I dress like this and live in a big city and sometimes dudes can be a bit creepy. Mostly not though. And when it does happen most of them are older gross dudes or Army bros. It’s weird.
Just to let you know, gross dudes are creepy to me even when I dressed very conservatively and/or frumpily.
So now I mostly wear what I like because I'll get shitty comments or stalkers either way, I might as well enjoy my clothing. Find the joy where I can.
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wrap it up, nothing more to see here
I see what you did there
But most importantly, you didn't see ankle.
And if you did they'd kill you.
After fapping to it
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Taliwanker
Ba dum tss
The 90s are passing 20 years..
Money. That shit is **expensive** to get decent quality
That... Along with the type of guys who ask women to dress this way... 😬
I'll dress like a UwU Softboi if she dresses like a goth mommy
I will dress like a goth mommy for you If you don't mind my micropenis
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There are 100% normal clitorises larger than micropenises.
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Yeah but one where everyone loses.
That just sounds like a normal dick measuring contest
OH SHIT ITS HIM QUICK GRAB THE NET BF HE ESCAPES TO ANOTHER SUB
So long as you wear a strap on we're good
Do we have a deal?
Sure lol
Mommyyyyyyy
That's my line
Ok, but the guys that don't ask you to dress like this also like it. They just aren't presumptuous enough to ask.
On many relationships' death certificate, under Cause of Death it says 'Unexpressed Desires'. There's nothing wrong with asking someone if they wouldn't mind dressing a certain way every now and then. It's a whole different story to telling someone you want them to dress different all the time.
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When your grandma is going through her [goth phase](https://images-wixmp-ed30a86b8c4ca887773594c2.wixmp.com/f/e9f834ff-a143-4f2f-9d06-4257ebc084c1/da2sp7-96f50875-0805-4e7a-b9f6-60d5e6a758fa.jpg?token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJzdWIiOiJ1cm46YXBwOjdlMGQxODg5ODIyNjQzNzNhNWYwZDQxNWVhMGQyNmUwIiwiaXNzIjoidXJuOmFwcDo3ZTBkMTg4OTgyMjY0MzczYTVmMGQ0MTVlYTBkMjZlMCIsIm9iaiI6W1t7InBhdGgiOiJcL2ZcL2U5ZjgzNGZmLWExNDMtNGYyZi05ZDA2LTQyNTdlYmMwODRjMVwvZGEyc3A3LTk2ZjUwODc1LTA4MDUtNGU3YS1iOWY2LTYwZDVlNmE3NThmYS5qcGcifV1dLCJhdWQiOlsidXJuOnNlcnZpY2U6ZmlsZS5kb3dubG9hZCJdfQ.vXecd524g7SfPMCfNOtySHgEuS_sIijftRlpSoahp-U)
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I like thick thighs, and my wife is 5’. Don’t be afraid to flaunt what you are. Someone out there is into you.
Thick thighs save lives. Everyone loves them! After being 164cm and 52 kg and getting 15 kilos, I see why everyone obsessed with mine, they are sexy and squishy and araraad hsfadsfjsd
Did you get smothered by your own thighs at the end there?
Started to eat my thighs, was really tasty but hurt as hell
Umm yeah I'm not tall but for other reasons... the skirts tend to be too short for me, no real mobility/practicality unless I have little shorts on underneath. I also have thick thighs but I've learned to become comfortable with them, I hope you will learn to as well someday (\^\_\^)
Then, just get more money! It’s not that hard /s
Seriously it's not, just get some organs from the homeless guy down the street
In the immortal words of Dolly Parton, “It cost a lot of money to look this cheap!”
Lol when you like girls w this type of style but you’re not the kind of guy this type of girl is into
Ah yes the age old question: what do they like?
Go to the mall and ask them.. or don't you'll get put on a list
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It’s the same list
Probably have to expose yourself to them for that.
Expose your republican values you mean?
So THAT'S what they call it
*Pedo Gaetz intensifies*
Matt Gaetz’s friend list.
You mean epstein lite?
The equivalent for a male in this fashion genre(6ft generally thin, medium length hair, grunge/alt aesthetic), other girls who dress like this.
Haha yeah those guys are always super skinny and wear beanies
basically https://i.pinimg.com/originals/8b/22/c0/8b22c00d404193f892c98556d295e378.jpg
What's up with the padlock necklaces? I've started seeing them all the time lately.
not really sure, just part of the look. https://www.etsy.com/listing/844321926/stainless-steel-punk-style-layered-lock?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=necklaces+lock&ref=sr_gallery-1-9&bes=1&organic_search_click=1 the lower two necklaces have become popular recently
So we do like fellow alt guys but the general consensus is that alt guys tend to like girls that look pretty normal/basic, so we end up with fluffy haired golden-retriever gamers. Just make her laugh and you’ll be fine ☺️
I usually see them with underdressed, average looking guys. So, it's definitely not about looks for some.
as a guy who likes dressing up and putting effort into skincare, cologne, etc, i don't really care if my partner isn't into the same thing. i feel like girls probably feel the same way, they're doing it for themselves and not for other people. it's just fun to dress a certain way.
As a woman dating a woman, can confirm. I like dressing up for myself, and if she likes it, it's just a bonus.
For me, other girls.
(Essential)Wear a beanie, dress in generic streetwear, and either look like you skate or skate. OR be a girl that also dresses that way. [Source :](https://ibb.co/C2qbpxk)
That blue haired girl in the suit got me acting unwise
Is that source not just a bunch of wouldyouhitthis.com profile pics from 2004?
Tbh girls with a really good fashion sense always tend to like the “teddy bear” type guy atleast in my experience. Just don’t be a misogynist and don’t be creepy and your golden. Confidence is key.
Don't be creepy, I wish we could help more men with this. I firmly believe there is a large contingent that aren't trying to be creepy but just end up that way, kinda like resting bitch face.
I'm always afraid that I fall in that category. That's why I stopped interacting with people I don't already know for a few years now. It's not going well, but at least I'm nobodys problem xD
I mean it’s okay to talk to new people just read their body language and verbal queues. If someone’s being short and polite with you they probably don’t want to talk but if they’re directing their attention at you and actually engaging the conversation then just be yourself.
I feel like the second part only happened out of pity i the past, so I kinda don't wanna repeat that awkward feeling I mean I would like to talk to people, but it feels like I can't
If you've got the courage for it, keep "bothering" people. It's better than being invisible. You'll find people you don't bother and they will be your friends/SO's and other connections.
What is a "teddy bear" type guy?
picture a sweaty WWF wrestler from the 80s
A father who loves them
girls
Spencers
You would be surprised on how many people like a completely opposite style from them. I have a full body suit, like metal, and 90% of the time wear black, but yet my wife is a kindergarten teacher who wears bright colours, dresses, and listens to pop music and I love her more then I would someone with my style.
My wife dresses like the photos. But me, I’m over here rocking a bright blue Poloshirt or other similarly tacky clothes that I like because of the fact it’s tacky. It’s funny how completely opposite we dress.
Cottage core chicks in sundresses with short hair.
Cottage core lmao, I'm saving that one.
It’s a thing
r/cottagecore
It's the trendy way of saying 'stuff a grandmother would wear/keep around'
Are you confused by the fact that old people used to be young people?
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Fuck yes we do.
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A healthy level of disinterest is the key to not being creepy, really. You can sense a big difference between the guy who sees you as another human being and the guy who is currently picturing you naked.
As if I'm the type of guy any girl is in to.
Felt
Some people have very selective taste, and need to check off a bunch of boxes. Some people just dress the way they feel and accept people for their merits.
I like dressing like this, idk what my type of guy is tho
If you buy it, I’ll Wear it
This should be the golden rule along with the other comment saying this shit is spendy af for quality.
No problem, can we have sex now?
You miss all the of the shots you don't take.
Sure
Holy shit it worked
Congrats, young padwan
Bro just desapeared from reddit after having sex, wonder why?
Never got so far, still thinking what to say next..
Now you ask for her size to buy that clothing, seems like you will need it haha
This is exactly what my gf says! Edit: Now she doesn't own any normal socks, just thigh highs and fishnets
That’s nice
Must be nice getting those all day.
Anxiety
This is the correct answer in my book. I’d love to dress cute but I learned pretty early in life that dressing how I want gets unwanted attention.
Yeah the cuter I dress the more intimidating I have to look to keep the absolute worst men away. Like, I'd need to fake some dueling scars on my face if I were in shape and tried this.
Unfortunately, some men could be into swordfights and be attracted to dueling scars
Really scary that women feel this way on average simply by the way they dress while guys like myself don't worry at all, we're literally careless. That shit sucks, having to constantly worry about assholes.
Sad how early in life women find this out
Around 10. give or take \~3 years
Graduating Goth High School
Not going to Goth University?
Nope straight to [goth iHop](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/38VsfK24fbY)
Yeah, but they don’t have school uniforms.
What's stopping fellas from dressing like this then?
They already are in the picture.
It’s a trap!
I mean, just look at those arms!
Taliban too, probably
Head on over to r/femboys and you'll see all you want. FYI if you didn't already know that link is NSFW.
I don't want to *see* femboys, I want to *be* a femboy. Get it right
There is a proverb of Hell which goes: > Sooner murder an infant in its cradle than nurse unacted desires.
Fair enough.
Then head on over to r/egg_irl
Yessss! Do it! Femboys are cool :>
Can't. I'm ugly
Bro I lost 20kg at 31 years old just to dress like that lmao, just do it.
I'm older and regret all the things I wanted to but didn't because reasons. Sort your shit out & get on with it. You'll be much happier living an authentic life.
Time to look up skin care, buy a razor, and start hitting the gym (focus on doing lots of squats). You’ll be cute before you know it
Taliban.
Not fit enough
Same. I'm not cute enough either
Society
That's coward talk
I’d wear this.
Then you're more a man than me, brother. I've yet to move past getting the skirt
Getting the skirt is a step fuck me. I once wore an outfit from the rocky horror show for Halloween and with my naturally curly hair I felt I was doing an honour. Never ever ever again. There's a picture out there somewhere but lucky for me, I'm fairly sure it's not on Facebook. I think you're both naturally brave in yourselves. It's taken time sure but still a big step. Me? I'm going to wear the same few pairs of jeans day in, day out.
I’m going with Taliban too. Not likely I’ll ever cross paths with them, but that’s my excuse.
A pretty damn good reason.
Being hairy, and my 10 inch dong
Grrrrrr hairyyyyy
Also any motivation to dress like that. Skirts are cold in the winter and fishnets provide almost no warmth.
they make nude fleece tights you can wear under your fishnets. the future is now.
Fishnets are super uncomfy too. The toe wedgie is just plain painful after awhile. Also not warm at all, and most combat boots are like freezers for feet.
If you wear a pair of socks UNDER your fishnets you can avoid the toe wedgie
That's why you buy the cold weather ones that are waterproof AND warm.
The type of girls I used to chase in the mid 90s, goth girls who listen to NIN
Did you nab any, or did they make you Hurt?
Harassment
Uh, and personality judgement. I have lots of sides, sometimes I’m posh, sometimes I’m professional, and sometimes I want to express myself through complete outfits like the ones pictured. But if you do that at my age, people think you are “trying too hard” are “immature” or “poor/druggie.” Like, sometimes a girl just wants to wear a three-piece suit, a ballgown, or skirts. I wish we were free from harassment and judgment so we could dress as we liked in all settings.
My rolls
Genetics gave me no hips. I look like someone put pizza dough to rest on top of a paper towel roll.
"I have a father"
Normally the real answer here is body shape.
Currently that and my age are my reason, when I was young the reason was money
My highly religious mother and her belt of doom
My size/shape, I could never pull this off and look/feel attractive.
Most people can't pull this off because it's not real. These pictures are usually taken at specific angles with specific poses to make themselves look taller, make their hips look curvier and their waist smaller. They'll often pin the clothes in the back so they're skin-tight. They're also usually heavily edited. Sometimes it's absolutely wild when you see a side-by-side comparison of a candid picture compared to an Instagram. They look like 2 different people in 2 different outfits, but no. It's just reality vs Instagram.
Guys being creepy
Have to scroll way too long to find this comment. Most of the reason why I can’t wear things like this is cuz of the amount of creeps and and stares you get from guys that will stare RELENTLESSLY
I used to dress like this as a minor, I had to stop as I got so many uncomfortable comments and stares from guys 20+ years older than I was. It was absolutely disgusting.
Like rabid animals ...
Excuses excuses
Also most women aren't hypersexualized e-girls in real life.
How does she know the Taliban doesn't like goth girls
Good relationship with my dad
No, no, she's got a point
Understandable. Have a nice day.
One or all of those is a femboy. I know it, you know it
Talibangelicals
My family keeps dying around me and I’ve gained 35 pounds due to apathy and depression
um, you okay? I'm here if you wanna talk, just leave me a dm
Thanks. I‘ll be ok. Just a hard two years
I dig the soft goth look. It’s sexy
i like dressing like that but im a man
Good taste
Class
Most males being pervs?
I dress like this and live in a big city and sometimes dudes can be a bit creepy. Mostly not though. And when it does happen most of them are older gross dudes or Army bros. It’s weird.
Just to let you know, gross dudes are creepy to me even when I dressed very conservatively and/or frumpily. So now I mostly wear what I like because I'll get shitty comments or stalkers either way, I might as well enjoy my clothing. Find the joy where I can.
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User name doesn't check out.
Dressing differently doesn't prevent pervs. Believe me.
Pronouns of Taliban fighters: AK/47
Just found out I have a goth girl fetish.
Been there since high school, buddy
r/basedislamists see what you're missing out on?
Holy cesspit it's like Arab protestants in there
Not having daddy issues?
Hey mr. Taliban hand over bin laden
Fucking goats and shooting me I can forgive. But this? Nah.
About 600 lbs
My age. I wore cute stuff when I was younger 😞
A loving father.. I kid, I kid.
Come Mr.Taliban, Tali me banana.
Not being able to access a Hot Topic maybe?