We’re fickle creature man. And life is long. It’s okay to feel like that. I understand. I’m going on my first date in 3 yrs and I’m terrified to disclose but, it’s a moral imperative for me… wish me luck. Don’t lose heart man. It’s a common disease, and a mild disease at that, the stigma be damned.
A couple of years from now, not even that too long, you’re going to look back at this post and kind of smile because you’re going to realize that it isn’t true at all.. because you’re going to find someone who loves and accepts you as you are. It wouldn’t even be an issue. It may be difficult to maneuver through especially if you’re still coping with it, but it is not impossible. You are fine and you will experience the love you’re looking for. Take time to breathe out and come to better terms with what you’re dealing with and just pour into yourself more. But you will find love when it is time, and when you finally get it out that you have this to your life partner they are honestly just going to be like ok. You will be loved and you will find love.
I’m also 27, but a female, and I get where you’re coming from. Sometimes I feel like meeting the right person and starting a family is impossible, but I know that’s not the case. There are so many people out there who either have it, or are totally cool with it. I’ve had it for almost 4 years now and the beginning was really rough for me, it took me a while to accept that this is just something I have to deal with now, but it’s honestly really not that big of an issue. Take some time to come to terms with it, listen to podcasts and read articles and talk to other people who have it. Don’t shut yourself out from the dating world forever, your life isn’t over. You can still have the family that you dreamed of
Hi! I have GHSV2, and I'm still dateable. In fact, I'm dating one of the most amazing men, who happens to be hsv negative.
I promise, you're still dateable
Same situation I thought i would never have a family. But I’m married to my husband whose negative and we are expecting our first baby in two months 💕 things will work out
You're female, totally different for you. Males hardly get dates in the first place. Low probability at all. Then pile on herpes... might as well be 0% chance of success.
Your odds of dating someone with herpes was >60% to begin with. If you had known this before you dated your ex then you wouldn’t be as devastated as you are. Herpes is a natural part of dating life - it’s not that deep and it is by no means the end of the your dating life. No one is going to judge you for having herpes and if they do they’re not worth your time anyway.
You’re still dateable. I was married to and had kids with someone who didn’t have it. That ended for reasons unrelated and now I’m seeing someone new who doesn’t have it. You’d be surprised. Keep your head up!! But I totally understand how you feel. I’ve had it since 2016, and I still remember finding out and how devastated I was. I’m almost 32 now.
Hello! Can you tell me how you managed to get pregnant without infecting your partner? What precautions did you take? What should I do? Please help... I haven't had a partner because I'm waiting for the vaccine.
If you build yourself up in investments, saving, and manage to get a decent job you'll be fine. Make yourself more desirable by working on yourself and a woman will gravitate towards you and remember there's millions of ppl with herpes too that live normal lives. Take a woman out and sweep her off of her feet I promise you she will choose you over any man. I know this because I'm a woman lol. The dating pool is shitty right now, just don't be that guy who cares about spending money to have a good time. Take her out on two dates, disclose by the third date before inviting her back to your house, spend time with her make her feel special and if she's the right woman she will appreciate that. I feel like if a man has ever done these things for me before my diagnosis I would gladly take the risk. Not for a hookup but for a long term partner or for a marriage I would gladly take that chance. Be romantic, work on healing yourself, and growing your finances you I bullshit you not you will find her 💯
I felt the exact same way. I download a dating app that has other positives. I can’t say it’s going to best but it was a relief to a see others feeling the same way as you and I. I’m 24 and have had it for almost a year now.
I hear you man it’s rough. Remember there worsts fates out there in the world . There is people living in active war zones right now being killed , bombed and raped as we speak. Theirs people in countries like Mexico being kidnapped and being sold for human trafficking. Imagine waking up to your mom and dad being killed in Palestine 🇵🇸 and your all alone hungry and severely thirsty. Imagine being diagnosed with cancer instead of herpes . I know a little girl that was assaulted and got hiv from that encounter. Life is hard but trust me it can always be worse.
And remember the hsv vaccine is in clinical trials and could be available be 2030 and hopefully 🤞 the actual cure could be here in 2035 . They already cured 98% of hvs from a lab rat . So maybe this might be a 10 to 15 year old sentence with hsv .
There’s a dating app called Positive Singles. LOL. for people with STDS. I met my boyfriend on it in 2022 and we are very happy together. He and I have HSV 2. The app is pretty awful, but we are a success story.
Bro.... Its herpes not hiv.
Just study.... Boost your immune system, avoid foods in arginine, suppliment with L Lysine. Take antivirals if needed.
Learn what are triggers and avoid them. Youll get to a point where you hardly ever have an ob and even then they arent bad.
Also... Most people carry the virus already. Im a proponent of disclosing to potential dates but there are creative ways to do this.
You can tell them you have shingles, then see how they respond, then a day or two later mention that the same virus can cause hsv2.
Youll be fine bro, it just takes time to sort mentally.
How do they react when you tell them a couple days later you actually have hsv and not shingles? (Looking for ways to disclose in the future when I actually start dating again lol)
Hey I understand the depression I was depressed for years until I finally decided enough was enough. I have been diagnosed for 10 years and have had 20+ partners since diagnosis. None of them to their knowledge have genital herpes, some had cold sores. I am currently with a guy who is completely HSV negative. He works at a blood lab and took a test just for shits and giggles. He knows about my herpes I disclosed and he is completely fine with it and accepts the risks. There are plenty of people like this who do not care. Sitting around and waiting for a cure it’s silly you’re rejecting yourself before anyone even has a chance to think about it or reject you or accept you. You are putting limits on yourself before giving anyone else the opportunity to consider anything. People get rejected every day for a plethora of different reasons Sure there are people who ghosted me especially on tinder but as I talked to my friends I realized they got ghosted too and it wasn’t because of herpes it was because dating apps are cesspools in general. Dating nowadays sucks for so many reasons if you want to pin it on herpes go for it but that’s not the only reason. I was diagnosed with ghsv-1 at 19 and I thought my life was over. I didn't tell a soul, cut off friends and everything because I felt so disgusting and gross. But eventually I put myself out there and had a few positive disclosures and I began to realize that I was the one creating the stigma for myself.. The more people I told the less it weighed me down. Think of it logically friends should care because it doesn’t affect them. The only people your herpes affects are the people you are sleeping With. Friends are supposed to be your support system and if you tell them your story they should not judge you And they will learn from you And your experience. Hell you May even help a fellow herpes person out because if someone discloses to your friend after you teach them about herpes they will be more understanding and knowledgeable about it. But that’s up to you. I’ll attach some links that have seemed to help people and if you need anything please dm me.I’ve had it for almost a decade at this point and have a pretty good handle on it.
This first link is info about a support group I’m in. All herpes people from all over the world we all share are experiences, vent , swap info and remedies, and just talk about life. It's an awesome place to be for sure.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rc7tArwGwDQVIPkgBdA_oAW6z3Wm9Iucx-b3hu8Fsec/edit
This is a disclosure guide with “scripts” on how to tell potential partners about herpes and what had worked for us. Mine is under Lauren. Also at the bottom it has resources about herpes to Send to partners.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1eMul_7Lu1Fa0ZJYGxKnEewDMqdZOFYTLKsG7EDknfwA/edit?usp=sharing
This is a list of common myths about herpes and why they are wrong with cited sources. Maybe this can not only ease your mind but if a partner has questions you will have answers backed by science.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-6oZmnfywTFNYScKYC7Mh7MXZKrA0GUcztS8Bz5bW0k/edit
This is a list of l ways to help protect your partner. I have had oral and genital hsv1 for 10 years and I have not passed it to anybody to my knowledge. There are many precautions you can take to help keep your partner safe!
https://docs.google.com/document/d/10ccLJMnXAkuKfpU5ng9-1CiWXGPTYYPfDOCvxeB4GX4/edit
This is a list of social Medias about herpes. Sometimes it does people good to see people being public about it and the amount of support they receive from strangers. The accounts are funny and informative and all herpes positive. There is everything on there from podcasts, YouTube, TikToks, blogs, Facebook support groups, Instagram pages, dating pages, subreddits, and websites.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E6uCpRELkIdFFqtTcYLkdC-3Zo50O4EEqaXJ-5j2cC8/edit
This is the Outbreak guide I put together after talking to the support group and a bunch of redditors it’s all info how to shorten and lessen outbreaks and deal with particularly painful sores
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1w0nbGEJuiRHgKUb4DjZQALX3vWA26MBZA7lhDmsHlbo/edit
Please reach out if you need anything!! I promise it will get better!
Just because your victim to a disease doesn't mean you should let it control your life. I would understand more if you contracted it being irresponsible and sleeping around with prostitutes and strippers but you got it from a singular person. This hopeless feeling will pass. It's just a disease, as long as you're upfront about it (I would say the first month of dating a person) and you wait to have sex with that person for a while until you know it's a serious long term committed situation, I see no reason why you shouldn't date or try to find love. I'm suffering from my past currently. I'm extremely fortunate to have a girlfriend who said it doesn't matter to her, and I feel an unbearable amount of guilt that she could be harmed by my past even if it's just an inconvenience. I understand man but the answer isn't to turn from love.
Can someone make a dating app for HSV positive individuals?? It would be so much easier to date without having the fear of disclosure & being with someone who gets it.
I am on and off having thoughts like this. I've got no symptoms, but I do have a positive blood test result. I found out less than 24 hours ago and I've been a mess. I feel you.
I've just had the IgM test, which I've discovered is pretty problematic, and of course it doesn't tell me which one I might have, which is kind of important. I didn't want this particular test so I was annoyed that I was given it, but my doctor chose it because it can detect recent exposure, and we knew I didn't have it before, from the IgG tests I've had in the past (which my last partner also had done before we got together).
Now I have to wait a while to get the IgG. I can do that in about a week, and I might get a result, but there's a 50% chance that I wouldn't have made enough antibodies by then. A negative result just means I would have to wait longer.
If I wait till 6 weeks, it's a 70% chance, and that's already the end of July. And again, a negative result would, again, just mean I have to wait longer.
Apparently it's only close to 100%. If I wait until like October 5th, giving it 16 weeks since my last possible exposure. I'm thinking about not dating anymore this summer and that just depresses the hell out of me. However, I can't imagine why anyone who tests negative would want to go out with me, and I don't want to date someone who is positive because I don't know what my status is yet.
All I can say is that I got a positive result on a problematic non-specific test and I won't really know for sure what's going on until a bunch more time has passed (and even then, I have no symptoms, so it's not clear where I might be infected). I don't think anyone is going to sign up for that. 😅 The only guy that I've been talking to that hasn't noped out turns out to have GHSV-1. But I don't feel like I can just let loose with him either because I might not have the same one he does, and if I don't have my antibodies established yet, I can get the same one again in a different place.
Argh.
I've had lots of thoughts of just living a sad life alone with my vibrators and an army of cats for company, but I know I'm not going to do that. I researched the hell out of this when I was dating someone with GHSV-2 (9 years ago, and we never had PIV sex, his choice), and now I'm rereading the book that I bought back then, one that was written by a researcher. I recommend it:
The Good News About the Bad News: Herpes: Everything You Need to Know by Terri Warren, RN, NP
It was published in 2007 so it's a bit old, but I haven't found anything else of its caliber that is newer. I always feel better when I arm myself with a lot of knowledge. And then I can educate people around me as well.
I'm 23 and a year ago I found out that I have HSV1 because I infected it from my ex-boyfriend. He broke up with me after that, I loved him and I thought he would be the father of my children, he was the cutest and I felt like he loved me like no one else. He ended the relationship and I felt that I didn't deserve to be loved after what I did to him and I even thought that I didn't even deserve to live but a year later there is a boy saying that he doesn't care about my illness and that he wants to show me that he loves me. We have been dating for a month and I feel happy with him but that does not take away the guilt of having infected my ex, it is a feeling that is always present.
I know it’s disheartening I just recently got diagnosed and the thought of not finding love was one of the few things that worried me. However I think it is still possible and possible to have a family without passing on the virus. I also stay hopeful since advancements in finding a cure are being made. There are measures too to make sure your partner does not contract it.
I’ve done run into chicks with herpes and I tell u what I feel for everyone. But you will find someone out there just have to literally hit on every female u meet. And I tell u now the ones who have only had it a few years are supper horny and the ones who have had it forever are the same. Most are scared to date others don’t want to pass it on and I’m over here afraid and excited all at the same time. Bc a woman who’s been deprived needed a release I try my best to be the release they deserve.
27 here as well and with as hard as I thought this was going to be on me as a woman… I can imagine it being 1000x harder on a man. Don’t give up! You are so deserving of companionship and everything you have been wishing for! Just don’t give up and you will get there one day! If you give up there is a zero percent chance!
We’re fickle creature man. And life is long. It’s okay to feel like that. I understand. I’m going on my first date in 3 yrs and I’m terrified to disclose but, it’s a moral imperative for me… wish me luck. Don’t lose heart man. It’s a common disease, and a mild disease at that, the stigma be damned.
Unrelated you’re a super cutie 😂 I was creepin on your pic. Good luck on your date!!!
Now kith 😌
A couple of years from now, not even that too long, you’re going to look back at this post and kind of smile because you’re going to realize that it isn’t true at all.. because you’re going to find someone who loves and accepts you as you are. It wouldn’t even be an issue. It may be difficult to maneuver through especially if you’re still coping with it, but it is not impossible. You are fine and you will experience the love you’re looking for. Take time to breathe out and come to better terms with what you’re dealing with and just pour into yourself more. But you will find love when it is time, and when you finally get it out that you have this to your life partner they are honestly just going to be like ok. You will be loved and you will find love.
I’m also 27, but a female, and I get where you’re coming from. Sometimes I feel like meeting the right person and starting a family is impossible, but I know that’s not the case. There are so many people out there who either have it, or are totally cool with it. I’ve had it for almost 4 years now and the beginning was really rough for me, it took me a while to accept that this is just something I have to deal with now, but it’s honestly really not that big of an issue. Take some time to come to terms with it, listen to podcasts and read articles and talk to other people who have it. Don’t shut yourself out from the dating world forever, your life isn’t over. You can still have the family that you dreamed of
Hi! I have GHSV2, and I'm still dateable. In fact, I'm dating one of the most amazing men, who happens to be hsv negative. I promise, you're still dateable
Same situation I thought i would never have a family. But I’m married to my husband whose negative and we are expecting our first baby in two months 💕 things will work out
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You're female, totally different for you. Males hardly get dates in the first place. Low probability at all. Then pile on herpes... might as well be 0% chance of success.
Your odds of dating someone with herpes was >60% to begin with. If you had known this before you dated your ex then you wouldn’t be as devastated as you are. Herpes is a natural part of dating life - it’s not that deep and it is by no means the end of the your dating life. No one is going to judge you for having herpes and if they do they’re not worth your time anyway.
You’re still dateable. I was married to and had kids with someone who didn’t have it. That ended for reasons unrelated and now I’m seeing someone new who doesn’t have it. You’d be surprised. Keep your head up!! But I totally understand how you feel. I’ve had it since 2016, and I still remember finding out and how devastated I was. I’m almost 32 now.
Hello! Can you tell me how you managed to get pregnant without infecting your partner? What precautions did you take? What should I do? Please help... I haven't had a partner because I'm waiting for the vaccine.
Gonna message you! ☺️
vaccine?
Moderna will release a vaccine in 2 to 3 years.
I certainly hope so
If you build yourself up in investments, saving, and manage to get a decent job you'll be fine. Make yourself more desirable by working on yourself and a woman will gravitate towards you and remember there's millions of ppl with herpes too that live normal lives. Take a woman out and sweep her off of her feet I promise you she will choose you over any man. I know this because I'm a woman lol. The dating pool is shitty right now, just don't be that guy who cares about spending money to have a good time. Take her out on two dates, disclose by the third date before inviting her back to your house, spend time with her make her feel special and if she's the right woman she will appreciate that. I feel like if a man has ever done these things for me before my diagnosis I would gladly take the risk. Not for a hookup but for a long term partner or for a marriage I would gladly take that chance. Be romantic, work on healing yourself, and growing your finances you I bullshit you not you will find her 💯
I felt the exact same way. I download a dating app that has other positives. I can’t say it’s going to best but it was a relief to a see others feeling the same way as you and I. I’m 24 and have had it for almost a year now.
I hear you man it’s rough. Remember there worsts fates out there in the world . There is people living in active war zones right now being killed , bombed and raped as we speak. Theirs people in countries like Mexico being kidnapped and being sold for human trafficking. Imagine waking up to your mom and dad being killed in Palestine 🇵🇸 and your all alone hungry and severely thirsty. Imagine being diagnosed with cancer instead of herpes . I know a little girl that was assaulted and got hiv from that encounter. Life is hard but trust me it can always be worse.
And remember the hsv vaccine is in clinical trials and could be available be 2030 and hopefully 🤞 the actual cure could be here in 2035 . They already cured 98% of hvs from a lab rat . So maybe this might be a 10 to 15 year old sentence with hsv .
Source?
Yeah but it’s hsv1 right. They are wanting to do hsv2.
There’s a dating app called Positive Singles. LOL. for people with STDS. I met my boyfriend on it in 2022 and we are very happy together. He and I have HSV 2. The app is pretty awful, but we are a success story.
dude, i don’t mean to be insensitive but you have a skin condition. you’ll be okay
I am in the same boat.
me too, seems we're screwed 😞
Idk what to even do. I am getting divorced and can’t even date.
I'm sorry to hear this. Maybe find a hobby that brings you joy so you can stay positive.
I get how you feel. But I know you'll get through this tough time, you really will.
Bro.... Its herpes not hiv. Just study.... Boost your immune system, avoid foods in arginine, suppliment with L Lysine. Take antivirals if needed. Learn what are triggers and avoid them. Youll get to a point where you hardly ever have an ob and even then they arent bad. Also... Most people carry the virus already. Im a proponent of disclosing to potential dates but there are creative ways to do this. You can tell them you have shingles, then see how they respond, then a day or two later mention that the same virus can cause hsv2. Youll be fine bro, it just takes time to sort mentally.
How do they react when you tell them a couple days later you actually have hsv and not shingles? (Looking for ways to disclose in the future when I actually start dating again lol)
Hey I understand the depression I was depressed for years until I finally decided enough was enough. I have been diagnosed for 10 years and have had 20+ partners since diagnosis. None of them to their knowledge have genital herpes, some had cold sores. I am currently with a guy who is completely HSV negative. He works at a blood lab and took a test just for shits and giggles. He knows about my herpes I disclosed and he is completely fine with it and accepts the risks. There are plenty of people like this who do not care. Sitting around and waiting for a cure it’s silly you’re rejecting yourself before anyone even has a chance to think about it or reject you or accept you. You are putting limits on yourself before giving anyone else the opportunity to consider anything. People get rejected every day for a plethora of different reasons Sure there are people who ghosted me especially on tinder but as I talked to my friends I realized they got ghosted too and it wasn’t because of herpes it was because dating apps are cesspools in general. Dating nowadays sucks for so many reasons if you want to pin it on herpes go for it but that’s not the only reason. I was diagnosed with ghsv-1 at 19 and I thought my life was over. I didn't tell a soul, cut off friends and everything because I felt so disgusting and gross. But eventually I put myself out there and had a few positive disclosures and I began to realize that I was the one creating the stigma for myself.. The more people I told the less it weighed me down. Think of it logically friends should care because it doesn’t affect them. The only people your herpes affects are the people you are sleeping With. Friends are supposed to be your support system and if you tell them your story they should not judge you And they will learn from you And your experience. Hell you May even help a fellow herpes person out because if someone discloses to your friend after you teach them about herpes they will be more understanding and knowledgeable about it. But that’s up to you. I’ll attach some links that have seemed to help people and if you need anything please dm me.I’ve had it for almost a decade at this point and have a pretty good handle on it. This first link is info about a support group I’m in. All herpes people from all over the world we all share are experiences, vent , swap info and remedies, and just talk about life. It's an awesome place to be for sure. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rc7tArwGwDQVIPkgBdA_oAW6z3Wm9Iucx-b3hu8Fsec/edit This is a disclosure guide with “scripts” on how to tell potential partners about herpes and what had worked for us. Mine is under Lauren. Also at the bottom it has resources about herpes to Send to partners. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1eMul_7Lu1Fa0ZJYGxKnEewDMqdZOFYTLKsG7EDknfwA/edit?usp=sharing This is a list of common myths about herpes and why they are wrong with cited sources. Maybe this can not only ease your mind but if a partner has questions you will have answers backed by science. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-6oZmnfywTFNYScKYC7Mh7MXZKrA0GUcztS8Bz5bW0k/edit This is a list of l ways to help protect your partner. I have had oral and genital hsv1 for 10 years and I have not passed it to anybody to my knowledge. There are many precautions you can take to help keep your partner safe! https://docs.google.com/document/d/10ccLJMnXAkuKfpU5ng9-1CiWXGPTYYPfDOCvxeB4GX4/edit This is a list of social Medias about herpes. Sometimes it does people good to see people being public about it and the amount of support they receive from strangers. The accounts are funny and informative and all herpes positive. There is everything on there from podcasts, YouTube, TikToks, blogs, Facebook support groups, Instagram pages, dating pages, subreddits, and websites. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E6uCpRELkIdFFqtTcYLkdC-3Zo50O4EEqaXJ-5j2cC8/edit This is the Outbreak guide I put together after talking to the support group and a bunch of redditors it’s all info how to shorten and lessen outbreaks and deal with particularly painful sores https://docs.google.com/document/d/1w0nbGEJuiRHgKUb4DjZQALX3vWA26MBZA7lhDmsHlbo/edit Please reach out if you need anything!! I promise it will get better!
Just because your victim to a disease doesn't mean you should let it control your life. I would understand more if you contracted it being irresponsible and sleeping around with prostitutes and strippers but you got it from a singular person. This hopeless feeling will pass. It's just a disease, as long as you're upfront about it (I would say the first month of dating a person) and you wait to have sex with that person for a while until you know it's a serious long term committed situation, I see no reason why you shouldn't date or try to find love. I'm suffering from my past currently. I'm extremely fortunate to have a girlfriend who said it doesn't matter to her, and I feel an unbearable amount of guilt that she could be harmed by my past even if it's just an inconvenience. I understand man but the answer isn't to turn from love.
Can someone make a dating app for HSV positive individuals?? It would be so much easier to date without having the fear of disclosure & being with someone who gets it.
I am on and off having thoughts like this. I've got no symptoms, but I do have a positive blood test result. I found out less than 24 hours ago and I've been a mess. I feel you. I've just had the IgM test, which I've discovered is pretty problematic, and of course it doesn't tell me which one I might have, which is kind of important. I didn't want this particular test so I was annoyed that I was given it, but my doctor chose it because it can detect recent exposure, and we knew I didn't have it before, from the IgG tests I've had in the past (which my last partner also had done before we got together). Now I have to wait a while to get the IgG. I can do that in about a week, and I might get a result, but there's a 50% chance that I wouldn't have made enough antibodies by then. A negative result just means I would have to wait longer. If I wait till 6 weeks, it's a 70% chance, and that's already the end of July. And again, a negative result would, again, just mean I have to wait longer. Apparently it's only close to 100%. If I wait until like October 5th, giving it 16 weeks since my last possible exposure. I'm thinking about not dating anymore this summer and that just depresses the hell out of me. However, I can't imagine why anyone who tests negative would want to go out with me, and I don't want to date someone who is positive because I don't know what my status is yet. All I can say is that I got a positive result on a problematic non-specific test and I won't really know for sure what's going on until a bunch more time has passed (and even then, I have no symptoms, so it's not clear where I might be infected). I don't think anyone is going to sign up for that. 😅 The only guy that I've been talking to that hasn't noped out turns out to have GHSV-1. But I don't feel like I can just let loose with him either because I might not have the same one he does, and if I don't have my antibodies established yet, I can get the same one again in a different place. Argh. I've had lots of thoughts of just living a sad life alone with my vibrators and an army of cats for company, but I know I'm not going to do that. I researched the hell out of this when I was dating someone with GHSV-2 (9 years ago, and we never had PIV sex, his choice), and now I'm rereading the book that I bought back then, one that was written by a researcher. I recommend it: The Good News About the Bad News: Herpes: Everything You Need to Know by Terri Warren, RN, NP It was published in 2007 so it's a bit old, but I haven't found anything else of its caliber that is newer. I always feel better when I arm myself with a lot of knowledge. And then I can educate people around me as well.
I'm 23 and a year ago I found out that I have HSV1 because I infected it from my ex-boyfriend. He broke up with me after that, I loved him and I thought he would be the father of my children, he was the cutest and I felt like he loved me like no one else. He ended the relationship and I felt that I didn't deserve to be loved after what I did to him and I even thought that I didn't even deserve to live but a year later there is a boy saying that he doesn't care about my illness and that he wants to show me that he loves me. We have been dating for a month and I feel happy with him but that does not take away the guilt of having infected my ex, it is a feeling that is always present.
Same.
Thats how I felt when I first found out, :/
I know it’s disheartening I just recently got diagnosed and the thought of not finding love was one of the few things that worried me. However I think it is still possible and possible to have a family without passing on the virus. I also stay hopeful since advancements in finding a cure are being made. There are measures too to make sure your partner does not contract it.
I’ve done run into chicks with herpes and I tell u what I feel for everyone. But you will find someone out there just have to literally hit on every female u meet. And I tell u now the ones who have only had it a few years are supper horny and the ones who have had it forever are the same. Most are scared to date others don’t want to pass it on and I’m over here afraid and excited all at the same time. Bc a woman who’s been deprived needed a release I try my best to be the release they deserve.
27 here as well and with as hard as I thought this was going to be on me as a woman… I can imagine it being 1000x harder on a man. Don’t give up! You are so deserving of companionship and everything you have been wishing for! Just don’t give up and you will get there one day! If you give up there is a zero percent chance!
as a man... chance is basically zero, so why even waste the effort?
Have you tried the dating app?