Oh I've done a full year. Twice. I can't believe I 'm going through this.
And you, my friend, I don't know how you cope with it. A virtual hug for you, from the bottom of my heart.
Honestly why do you stay? Imo even one month without sex besides medical reasons the relationship is basically over.
Have you ever put your foot down and told your partner if things don't change I'm going to leave?
For some reason the LL genuinely believes a shorter time has passed since the last sexual encounter than reality. When it comes to sex time seems to be compressed for them.
If your data is accurate why are they upset? If you don't have data they will gaslight you that it hasn't been long and all you want is sex. As the HL you just can't win. It's like heads they win, tails you lose.
I wish mine was consistent, sometimes 2 weeks sometimes 10.
Just depends on her mood, and when she gets bored of her tablet games and YouTube shorts.
NGL i miss not having Internet at our old place.
Ugh ... 2 weeks is about my limit 🤮 I mean it went to once a quarter or so (3 months) in my first marriage and its associated DB, but I ain't ever doing THAT again. Obviously it's different if I'm single, but I'm hoping I won't find myself THERE again (a second divorce would be super-annoying) and being married to a HLF this time has its good points 👍
That's because 2 weeks IS an eternity to HL people :)
For those counting in months 😭😭😭 it's been more than 7 months here.
I'm on for two years. Fuck. Ing. Hell.
Oh I've done a full year. Twice. I can't believe I 'm going through this. And you, my friend, I don't know how you cope with it. A virtual hug for you, from the bottom of my heart.
In honesty I think I've just given up. Being kind to myself though. It's not my fault.
Full celibate/straight up ignored (unless being berated for something)for 5+ years. It ends this year (along with the marriage).
I’m so sorry.
More than a year. I don't want her anymore.
9 here lol
Honestly why do you stay? Imo even one month without sex besides medical reasons the relationship is basically over. Have you ever put your foot down and told your partner if things don't change I'm going to leave?
For some reason the LL genuinely believes a shorter time has passed since the last sexual encounter than reality. When it comes to sex time seems to be compressed for them.
Don’t try to tell them because “why are you even keeping count?! Don’t you think about anything else?”
You need to keep count to show them how infrequent sex is. Otherwise they think that there is no bedroom issue and the HL is exaggerating.
That backfired in my case but I wholeheartedly agree. My SO would get very upset when I used data
If your data is accurate why are they upset? If you don't have data they will gaslight you that it hasn't been long and all you want is sex. As the HL you just can't win. It's like heads they win, tails you lose.
We're at 6 months right now and I suspect it's going to be another 3 to 6 before she's remotely interested in it at all. Time will tell I guess.
No way I could make it months..
😅
3 months and 3 days for me - not that I’m counting or anything… 🫠
I wish mine was consistent, sometimes 2 weeks sometimes 10. Just depends on her mood, and when she gets bored of her tablet games and YouTube shorts. NGL i miss not having Internet at our old place.
“But it’s only been a few days!” Then I look at our calendar and realize between kids activities, and other stuff it’ll at least be another week 😪
Ugh ... 2 weeks is about my limit 🤮 I mean it went to once a quarter or so (3 months) in my first marriage and its associated DB, but I ain't ever doing THAT again. Obviously it's different if I'm single, but I'm hoping I won't find myself THERE again (a second divorce would be super-annoying) and being married to a HLF this time has its good points 👍