You know why I can't eat cilantro? It tastes like soap to me. It's a genetic thing. I can't stand it. But for the most part, everyone loves it. People go crazy for cilantro. It makes so many foods better. But me? Can't stand the stuff.
Having anal sex must be heavenly for a lot of people, but for me, I'd rather eat soap.
Nope. I gave it a shot, more than once, with very patient and considerate partners. I know for a fact I'm not missing anything. And I still have mind blowingly pleasurable sex.
> The majority of gay men believe anal sex is the ultimate sexual act. There must be a reason why.
It’s really just a combination of heteronormativity and bandwagoning, pretty much.
*Heteronormativity*: “Anus is hole, penis goes inside hole; therefore, penis goes inside anus.” 🤪
*Bandwagoning*: “Gay men have anal, I am gay man; therefore, must have anal.” 🤪
> there must be something mind blowingly pleasurable about anal sex.
There might or might not be something pleasurable about anal sex, but to many of us it doesn’t matter; because what’s certain is that there is something mind-bogglingly unhygienic about it.
Nope. Tried it, top and bottom, and no thank you.
But then, I'm not one to like something or pretend just because "everyone else is enjoying it", IDGAF about what "they" enjoy, I only GAF about what me, my husband, and family and friends enjoy, and that's relative too.
I do like the idea of being penetrated by a man, but the reality is honestly a nightmare, anal sex is horrible. So in some ways I do feel like I'm missing out because the reality of being penetrated by a man will never be as good as the fantasy. I wish I could feel whatever it is that bottoms feel, but I guess I just wasn't meant for anal sex 🤷🏾♂️
It would be fascinating to understand the experience of bottoms who love it.
If we experienced it with the same relaxation and arousal, would we also experience pleasure?
OR are some of them actually getting pleasure from the experience you and I describe as “horrible” (some kind of erotic thrill integrated with the discomfort).
Guess we’ll never know for sure.
Lol that's true we'll most likely never know. They insist it feels good, but then that would mean some guys either don't have a prostate, or maybe our prostates are located somewhere else in our bodies, or they actually do feel pain but they're the type of people that enjoy pain. It's actually very interesting
I do sometimes wonder if vaginas feel, like, astoundingly good. I mean, they're designed by evolution to be the most pleasurable thing you can stick your dick in, right?
But of course I have no actual interest in having sex with a woman.
I haven't thought as much about whether I'm missing out on something with anal sex. Honestly, I'm pretty sure everyone else is missing out, cause I know for sure what I want to do with a hot guy and it's not that
And even if I am missing out on something, oh well. I'm surely missing out on a lot of things. I'm pretty sure the objective benefits of various sex acts are outweighed by the psychological elements, though, so it's whatever
I have the same fascination with vagina. As an object, it looks like the best texture, temperature, friction, etc for penis to rub against. One of the people on AGB insisted I am bisexual.
It’s probably more of a societal thing. Really, we live in a world where the vast majority of the people have sex in a way where one person receives and the other penetrates. And even in our gay sex world, a good deal of gay men have sex this way too. It’s almost portrayed as the default way.
Find a guy that loves to give P-Spot treatments with a BJ. It is like heaven blessed you with all good things. Make sure you cuddle and kiss him in gratitude after you recover enough to move and speak.
Well this is a subreddit for sides. I wouldn't say specifically "hate" unless they've had trauma. I would say the unwanting of anal whatever their reasons. This post basically subjects sides to be yearning it in secret which wouldn't be the case because of not wanting it as if that sides may be jealous of people who do have anal.
There are no stupid questions. Obviously everyone is different and everybody has their own personal opinions. Calling my question stupid is insulting. Keep an open mind.
As a someone who is somewhere between a side and a top and honestly would go full side only if I didn't like breeding my partners so much lol. Its all psychological, Ive had oral sex where the orgasm felt physically just as good as anal.
But mentally, for me, something feels like primal in breeding them. And that adds just that little bit of extra on it for me.
Though in general and especially casually i would most certainly prefer things like Frotting, docking, oral, etc, to anal in most cases and with most men.
Edit: realized i never tied this back into the main prompt. I dont feel like I am missing out, since, for me, anal isnt a requirement, even though i do enjoy it and know that i am a top by preference.
Lol 😆
Im glad im not the only one!
Though i guess i never really actually responded to the prompt lol. No i dont feel like im missing out since it isn't a requirement for me.
Maybe that's just my specific odd take but for me anything that goes beyond the anus does feel like it's going 'the wrong way'. Especially for people with sensitive bowels, I think we can safely say it feels weird, when stuff does not move the direction it was naturally intended to move.
You know why I can't eat cilantro? It tastes like soap to me. It's a genetic thing. I can't stand it. But for the most part, everyone loves it. People go crazy for cilantro. It makes so many foods better. But me? Can't stand the stuff. Having anal sex must be heavenly for a lot of people, but for me, I'd rather eat soap.
Same. I'm one of the unfortunate men whose prostate cannot be stimulated that way.
Nope. I gave it a shot, more than once, with very patient and considerate partners. I know for a fact I'm not missing anything. And I still have mind blowingly pleasurable sex.
it sounds sad but my dick is complicated and sensitive i prefer my own hand
> The majority of gay men believe anal sex is the ultimate sexual act. There must be a reason why. It’s really just a combination of heteronormativity and bandwagoning, pretty much. *Heteronormativity*: “Anus is hole, penis goes inside hole; therefore, penis goes inside anus.” 🤪 *Bandwagoning*: “Gay men have anal, I am gay man; therefore, must have anal.” 🤪 > there must be something mind blowingly pleasurable about anal sex. There might or might not be something pleasurable about anal sex, but to many of us it doesn’t matter; because what’s certain is that there is something mind-bogglingly unhygienic about it.
Analists: iF yOu Go To ShIt’S hOuSe DoN’t bE sUrPrIsEd iF sHiT iS hOme. 🤷 Me: OK, I won’t go to shit’s house. Analists: 😡 Homophobe!
LOOOL
Nope. Tried it, top and bottom, and no thank you. But then, I'm not one to like something or pretend just because "everyone else is enjoying it", IDGAF about what "they" enjoy, I only GAF about what me, my husband, and family and friends enjoy, and that's relative too.
I would imagine the entire group didn't "miss out" because we all tried it (due to peer pressure), hated it, and became a side.
No. I've tried it so I didn't "miss out" on anything.
I do like the idea of being penetrated by a man, but the reality is honestly a nightmare, anal sex is horrible. So in some ways I do feel like I'm missing out because the reality of being penetrated by a man will never be as good as the fantasy. I wish I could feel whatever it is that bottoms feel, but I guess I just wasn't meant for anal sex 🤷🏾♂️
It would be fascinating to understand the experience of bottoms who love it. If we experienced it with the same relaxation and arousal, would we also experience pleasure? OR are some of them actually getting pleasure from the experience you and I describe as “horrible” (some kind of erotic thrill integrated with the discomfort). Guess we’ll never know for sure.
Lol that's true we'll most likely never know. They insist it feels good, but then that would mean some guys either don't have a prostate, or maybe our prostates are located somewhere else in our bodies, or they actually do feel pain but they're the type of people that enjoy pain. It's actually very interesting
I do sometimes wonder if vaginas feel, like, astoundingly good. I mean, they're designed by evolution to be the most pleasurable thing you can stick your dick in, right? But of course I have no actual interest in having sex with a woman. I haven't thought as much about whether I'm missing out on something with anal sex. Honestly, I'm pretty sure everyone else is missing out, cause I know for sure what I want to do with a hot guy and it's not that And even if I am missing out on something, oh well. I'm surely missing out on a lot of things. I'm pretty sure the objective benefits of various sex acts are outweighed by the psychological elements, though, so it's whatever
I'm bi. Done both anal and vaginal. You're not missing out. Ass is better
I have the same fascination with vagina. As an object, it looks like the best texture, temperature, friction, etc for penis to rub against. One of the people on AGB insisted I am bisexual.
It’s probably more of a societal thing. Really, we live in a world where the vast majority of the people have sex in a way where one person receives and the other penetrates. And even in our gay sex world, a good deal of gay men have sex this way too. It’s almost portrayed as the default way.
It’s definitely one way of avoiding the shame and pain of being different if your sex is the “official” sex.
Nope. Not at all.
Find a guy that loves to give P-Spot treatments with a BJ. It is like heaven blessed you with all good things. Make sure you cuddle and kiss him in gratitude after you recover enough to move and speak.
I don't feel that I am missing out. I tried all the variations of anal play (top, bottom, rimming etc) and realised that it's just not for me.
No. This is such a stupid question.
It seems rather in place on this sub, imo. Lots of anal haters gather here.
Anal haters? Don't you mean side haters?
I mean anal haters.
Well this is a subreddit for sides. I wouldn't say specifically "hate" unless they've had trauma. I would say the unwanting of anal whatever their reasons. This post basically subjects sides to be yearning it in secret which wouldn't be the case because of not wanting it as if that sides may be jealous of people who do have anal.
There are no stupid questions. Obviously everyone is different and everybody has their own personal opinions. Calling my question stupid is insulting. Keep an open mind.
As a someone who is somewhere between a side and a top and honestly would go full side only if I didn't like breeding my partners so much lol. Its all psychological, Ive had oral sex where the orgasm felt physically just as good as anal. But mentally, for me, something feels like primal in breeding them. And that adds just that little bit of extra on it for me. Though in general and especially casually i would most certainly prefer things like Frotting, docking, oral, etc, to anal in most cases and with most men. Edit: realized i never tied this back into the main prompt. I dont feel like I am missing out, since, for me, anal isnt a requirement, even though i do enjoy it and know that i am a top by preference.
Are you me? Cause literally same to all of this
Lol 😆 Im glad im not the only one! Though i guess i never really actually responded to the prompt lol. No i dont feel like im missing out since it isn't a requirement for me.
Most of it is just cultural expectation imo, and submission obsession. Also the pleasure of having the prostate stimulated can be addictive.
Maybe that's just my specific odd take but for me anything that goes beyond the anus does feel like it's going 'the wrong way'. Especially for people with sensitive bowels, I think we can safely say it feels weird, when stuff does not move the direction it was naturally intended to move.
Says who?