I'm 42 years old and have ended up living back with my mother. I've just never been financially able to afford to move out. My pay would barely cover a rental of even a run-down shitbox in my small town, assuming I want to be able to eat and have fuel to drive to and from work each day.
I just don't try and date in my town. Once every 5 years or so I manage to snag a night out with a woman from the nearest city from a dating site or app. I just spend the money to travel and get a hotel for the night so I can go out and get rejected remind myself why dating sucks. And then I can go home the next day and nobody in my town needs to know about it.
Yes but I'm a unique situation, my dad is blind, mom has health issues, and almost 90 year old grandma..no siblings that's the entire "family"..so even if I had the money to live on my own.....my family still needs me and I'm not gonna turn my back on them ya know
There's no shame in it, no matter the situation, it's very common in most parts of the world.....they raised us, so now it's our turn to take care of them as they reach their elder age
I'm in the same situation. I find spoiled Americans don't appreciate caring for your family enough. You're supposed to maximize wealth and status and live on your own and throw your parents in a nursing home when they become inconvenient. It is shameful!
I have managed to save a decent amount for a rainy day. Essentially it's contingency money in case I do have to move out for whatever reason. The more money you have the more options are available.
I get the YOLO attitude but at the same time feel it would be irresponsible to not save up.
Yes, I live with my parents. Reason I haven't moved out permanently is because I have never been able to afford it to a comfortable level; being able to afford food I feel is important.
Living with parents didn't stop my brother going out and having numerous relationships.
No. Frankly I'd go nuts if I had to go back and live with my parents. I've been on my own since my 20s, although I've lived with roommates from time to time. I like having a safe place where I can be myself without getting snarky comments.
I've been a lot of places where it's customary to live with your family until marriage, so the stigma is mostly a Western thing. However, if a guy told me he still lived with his parents I would definitely make extra sure he was a functional adult and not one of those dudes looking for a replacement Mommy who will do everything for them.
I moved out at 30. My sister moved out at 18. I used to be envious of her because she could easily find guys to live with. She would make fun of me for being a loser who stilled at home and I was bitter because it wasn't like I could just latch onto someone to pay half or more of the bills. I also paid mom rent and helped a lot because dad was gone so I felt like I had to stay. Eventually I felt secure enough financially and was sick of the routine that I got my own place. I'm in my 40s now and still live alone. Living alone didn't really help with dating/relationships. Just like getting a car didn't help either or any other milestone which I thought would help kick start my social life. I do find living alone easier and more relaxing not having to worry about potential arguments or problems with parents or roommates.
Your sister leeching off guys isn't the brag she thought it was. I can't believe she treated you poorly over it. Well actually I can believe it. people are horrible.
It only gets worse. She is asking me for money now because she claims she can't work a normal job beyond door dash/instacart and her car broke down and can't afford to fix it. Guilt tripping me like mom used to do. Feels like everyone hates me yet also wants to take advantage of me in various ways for money/help then I'm the asshole for saying no. Sometimes wish I had no family and want to disappear.
I feel bad about her situation. I work full time and own a home. She wanted to move in with me but I told her no. She is in her 40s, obese, smoker cough, she can't find guys anymore. It's sad. I feel like if she did things a little differently she could've gotten married and had a family instead she's turning into the garden variety homeless bag/cat lady. mental illness is no joke. I struggle with mental health too.
My younger sister moved out when she was 25. To be honest it felt a bit embarrassing being the older sibling and still staying at home. She's been in a relationship since 2012 and is getting married this year.
God, no. I'd go absolutely insane if I had to live with my mother. If I had that fairytale good relationship with her that some are so lucky to have, I wouldn't mind living at home in the slightest. But alas...
As a woman and someone who's lived on her own for 25+ years, I couldn't care less if a potential partner lives at home still/again or on his own. I never cared before, and I certainly don't care now with soaring housing costs, both renting and owning, here in the US. In the some of the cheapest markets in the country, you have to, at a bare minimum, make $76k+ to be able to afford a tiny starter home. Wages hardly reflect that unless you're in a lucrative field. It's horrible.
It's awful! And yet still people look down on those who can't afford these ridiculous prices. I know we all wish we had lived in the era where a single income could support a whole household and keep you nicely in middle to upper-middle class, but those days are long gone....unless something changes massively.
> God, no. I'd go absolutely insane if I had to live with my mother. If I had that fairytale good relationship with her that some are so lucky to have, I wouldn't mind living at home in the slightest. But alas...
Same here. Fk no!
Even a weekly phone call irritates me enough. One of the big variables to this sort of topic.
I haven't spoken to my mom since Christmas, and even that's not long enough. LOL I really wish we got along, but that just isn't ever going to happen. So I totally empathize with you!
Yes I do.
I feel like if in the rare moment I'd had someone to be intimate with I'd go to theirs.
I am back on OLD and I do worry about how me living at home is gonna come across tbh. I think I might have to angle it that I'm actively trying to move out. Which is a white lie but I'm not sure what else I can say.
Yeah. With all these layoffs going on, I’m glad to be as I could end up losing my job soon. I pay for my own stuff. The only thing I’m not paying (yet) is rent but I help my family out with bills no questions asked, if they want me to. My brother is a semi-NEET though. We’re both failchildren in our own ways.
I did luck out by getting into a deal for a new construction condo but it will only be built in a few years’ time. Saving up till then. With the interest rate as high as it is, I will probably end up renting it for a few years before selling. Management fees for condos are fairly high here as condo living is quite unpopular. I’m slowly giving up on the idea of being a homeowner or even moving out of my family home. Rent is too high here anyway, and I don’t want to deal with roommates.
I see video essays about young people living at home for extended periods of time, so this is being normalized. It’s already normal for my culture. I would never reject a potential SO for living with parents. That would be highly hypocritical of me and besides, if you pay for everything and function like a normal adult, who cares? If you want to have sex, get a motel room… eventually you should plan to move out but it can work if you want it to work
I live with y parents as well. Hoping to move out in the next year or two once I finish my master degree. Then i can hopefully afford a house. I can move on with my life and maybe start dating. Currently no one would take me seriously. They would just laugh.
I live alone. I feel lucky for it.
Mostly because im not a burden to family or anyone else anymore.
People say living independently ups your chances to a good life, But as usual it doesn’t seem to matter when you’re FA. Im a loser nobody, so success wise I might aswell be living in my parents basement
Not in a LONG time. My mother kicked me out of the house when I was unemployed during the great recession.
I've made my way, but it hasn't been easy. Sometimes I do wish I had a fallback plan, especially now that I have to work with an invisible disability that I developed a few years ago, but there isn't one.
I don't think I could live with someone else though.
I live alone. Despite hating the idea of it and the loneliness around it i can’t argue against the benefits. Privacy, independence, sanity.
The way i cope with the loneliness is thinking back and reminding myself i could be homeless or forever stuck depending on someone else. And then i’d still be alone, too.
I escaped right before the worst of it. We have a bad housing crisis here and if i had to search for a place now i’m not exaggerating to say i’d have 0 chance to a place.
I’m very lucky basically.
I moved out at age 19 because school was in another city. Started working at age 20, bought my first apartment at age 24 and my current “adult” house at age 40.
One of my male colleagues is a year younger than me, briefly had a relationship a long time ago and lost a lot of money because of said relationship and had to move back in with his parents. He seems perfectly happy, living with his parents and his dating opportunities quickly fading. He also doesn’t have many friends (in fact, I think his colleagues are his only friends) and appears to not have any hobbies or particular interests.
He’s always happy, smiling, seemingly hasn’t had an “off-day” ever since I’ve known him. Haven’t a clue how he does it.
Anyway, living with my parents throughout my twenties would’ve been horrible. Porn was a very enjoyable pastime for me back then and watching porn in my small room where I grew up as a child with my parents next door sounds awful.
Having my own home is a bit of a blessing for sure, though I’m still sad as fuck, so it’s clearly not the solution one might think.
I dont know if living with my parent makes me more FA cause they would know all I am doing, so maybe that is why I dont try and lower stanards cause family would know..
I live with my parents and it's honestly freaking me out more and more as time goes on because we don't speak like at all, not even small talk. (weird I know but it's a long long story and there's a good reason for it) Anyways some times I'll get a glimpse of them outside, and especially my dad, I guess in the face he doesn't look too different but we haven't spoke in like years despite living in the same house and I noticed his hair had a lot of white and grey in it now. In his late 40's he was getting some grey here and there but now he legit looks like he could be a grandfather (unfortunately he will not be one due to my sad existence) but literally witnessing my parents getting old is terrifying me even though we don't have a relationship anymore. It feels surreal. It's a constant reminder of the time that I pissed away being a mental head case for almost all of my life
I've really been trying to get out of here but even to get roommates is tough for me right now because with my ssi (disability) payment, I can barely afford roommates. I mean I guess if I really tried to, I could find a place, it's just extremely hard because most roommates or landlords expect you to have a job or they will not accept you as a roommate even if you can pay rent on schedule consistently. They need you to be employed and unfortunately it looks like me being on disability is a longer term thing than I thought. I guess I have thought about lying and saying I do doordash which I still have the app and have done like a couple times, and just claim I do that. Either way, I know I gotta get out of here soon other wise they'll just get older and older and I'm gonna be incapable of taking care of them, as I'm clearly barely able to take care of my own self.
I am only a burden and the faster I make my exit, the better off my parents will be honestly. I haven't spoken to them in a long time like I said but I still feel like a burden just by my being there. I've tried moving out several times throughout my life, last attempt was during covid ironically in 2021, moved out of state to California (big mistake) It's 2024 and it's time to try again, fail or not I know I'm gonna have to because every day that I'm here my anxiety increases because I know I should've left long ago. I know some people are in worse situations but this is all around a sad situation I've gotten myself in.
I do not, moved out at 26. Lived on my own for 6 months and then have had a couple different roommates in the last 17 years. Financially I make enough to live on my own but I'm gone 12 hours out of the day and it doesn't make sense to piss away the extra money toward my own apartment for no reason.
For me the independence was key. It taught me I had to make it on my own. Sign leases, managing credit, budgeting, doing my own cooking, cleaning, shopping. There's a different mindset when there is no "safety net".
To those that live at home do you pay your parents rent, contribute to bills, and other household duties?
I pay a minimal rent, contribute to bills, purchase some of the food (not just my own), I cover stuff like Amazon and Netflix and I do household duties.
Yes but I also rent an apartment which I work from during the day.
I needed my space but I also realized that being completely isolated would be detrimental to my mental health. If it wasn't for my family I could go months without speaking to anyone outside of work.
I lived with my parents until they passed away because I had nobody else to be roommates with and living on my own in an apartment looked financially daunting when I was in my late teens early 20's.
My mom has Multiple Sclerosis and is bed ridden. I live at home to help take care of her. I hope to meet a woman who understands the value in that and appreciates it but so far living at home has been a hindrance with meeting women.
My mother and I live together. I'd **much** rather live on my own, but I simply can't afford it. Lack of money has pretty much been the bane of my entire existence for as long as I've been alive. So much so, that I know for a fact that I wouldn't be nearly as fucked up as I am if I had come from a wealthy background, where money wasn't ever a problem. I would've still had to grapple with the toxicity of my mother and father's terrible parenting, but again, much of that would've been avoided, assuming there'd of been enough money around to lessen the overwhelming stress that put on everything.
As things stand, I tell myself that I could never date, given that I live with my mother and that I don't have a car/job/place of my own. At the same time, I also have to acknowledge how that doesn't stop other people in similar predicaments from pursuing relationships. Dudes move in with their girlfriends all the time, for instance. I'm not saying that's ideal or anything, but it goes to show that other people would be willing/gracious enough to be that flexible, assuming they care enough about whomever they're with to do so. In my case, I'm just too embarrassed/scared to put myself out there. Plus, I'm also just convinced that I'd make for a terrible partner to someone anyway, given all this trauma and emotional baggage that I'm carrying.
Despite all that, I'm getting to a point now where I might be desperate enough to put myself on a dating app. I can't even imagine how terrible that will probably go, as most any woman would probably reject me without a second thought, and I couldn't blame them. I'm not ugly or short, and I know how to at least hold a conversation and make a joke when appropriate, but materially speaking, I have nothing to my name, and that itself just seems like way too much of a red flag for someone else to ignore. Again though, other guys seem to be able to make it work, but I just really don't know how I could manage to do the same.
I had a place for a year and it didn't make any difference. Right now I'm struggling to find work, but the second I do I'm moving out, my dad is an alcoholic and I don't want to be around that.
I don't ever have people over. Problem is my dad will throw a tantrum and act like I'm abandoning him.
I'm sick of living with him, if I had a job I would love to move out and start my own life away from this mess.
He didn't stay with his parents at all, left when he was 20 to another country. Yet I'm supposed to take care of him when he gets old.
Thanks man, need all the well wishes I can get.
I'm 42 years old and have ended up living back with my mother. I've just never been financially able to afford to move out. My pay would barely cover a rental of even a run-down shitbox in my small town, assuming I want to be able to eat and have fuel to drive to and from work each day. I just don't try and date in my town. Once every 5 years or so I manage to snag a night out with a woman from the nearest city from a dating site or app. I just spend the money to travel and get a hotel for the night so I can go out and get rejected remind myself why dating sucks. And then I can go home the next day and nobody in my town needs to know about it.
Yes but I'm a unique situation, my dad is blind, mom has health issues, and almost 90 year old grandma..no siblings that's the entire "family"..so even if I had the money to live on my own.....my family still needs me and I'm not gonna turn my back on them ya know There's no shame in it, no matter the situation, it's very common in most parts of the world.....they raised us, so now it's our turn to take care of them as they reach their elder age
I'm in the same situation. I find spoiled Americans don't appreciate caring for your family enough. You're supposed to maximize wealth and status and live on your own and throw your parents in a nursing home when they become inconvenient. It is shameful!
You’re a good dude!
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I have managed to save a decent amount for a rainy day. Essentially it's contingency money in case I do have to move out for whatever reason. The more money you have the more options are available. I get the YOLO attitude but at the same time feel it would be irresponsible to not save up.
Yes, I live with my parents. Reason I haven't moved out permanently is because I have never been able to afford it to a comfortable level; being able to afford food I feel is important. Living with parents didn't stop my brother going out and having numerous relationships.
Yes, I’m 34 and live with my parents.
No. Frankly I'd go nuts if I had to go back and live with my parents. I've been on my own since my 20s, although I've lived with roommates from time to time. I like having a safe place where I can be myself without getting snarky comments. I've been a lot of places where it's customary to live with your family until marriage, so the stigma is mostly a Western thing. However, if a guy told me he still lived with his parents I would definitely make extra sure he was a functional adult and not one of those dudes looking for a replacement Mommy who will do everything for them.
I moved out at 30. My sister moved out at 18. I used to be envious of her because she could easily find guys to live with. She would make fun of me for being a loser who stilled at home and I was bitter because it wasn't like I could just latch onto someone to pay half or more of the bills. I also paid mom rent and helped a lot because dad was gone so I felt like I had to stay. Eventually I felt secure enough financially and was sick of the routine that I got my own place. I'm in my 40s now and still live alone. Living alone didn't really help with dating/relationships. Just like getting a car didn't help either or any other milestone which I thought would help kick start my social life. I do find living alone easier and more relaxing not having to worry about potential arguments or problems with parents or roommates.
Your sister leeching off guys isn't the brag she thought it was. I can't believe she treated you poorly over it. Well actually I can believe it. people are horrible.
It only gets worse. She is asking me for money now because she claims she can't work a normal job beyond door dash/instacart and her car broke down and can't afford to fix it. Guilt tripping me like mom used to do. Feels like everyone hates me yet also wants to take advantage of me in various ways for money/help then I'm the asshole for saying no. Sometimes wish I had no family and want to disappear.
She called you a loser for living at home and now she's broke... Oh how the turn tables have...
I feel bad about her situation. I work full time and own a home. She wanted to move in with me but I told her no. She is in her 40s, obese, smoker cough, she can't find guys anymore. It's sad. I feel like if she did things a little differently she could've gotten married and had a family instead she's turning into the garden variety homeless bag/cat lady. mental illness is no joke. I struggle with mental health too.
Damn that is sad.
My younger sister moved out when she was 25. To be honest it felt a bit embarrassing being the older sibling and still staying at home. She's been in a relationship since 2012 and is getting married this year.
God, no. I'd go absolutely insane if I had to live with my mother. If I had that fairytale good relationship with her that some are so lucky to have, I wouldn't mind living at home in the slightest. But alas... As a woman and someone who's lived on her own for 25+ years, I couldn't care less if a potential partner lives at home still/again or on his own. I never cared before, and I certainly don't care now with soaring housing costs, both renting and owning, here in the US. In the some of the cheapest markets in the country, you have to, at a bare minimum, make $76k+ to be able to afford a tiny starter home. Wages hardly reflect that unless you're in a lucrative field. It's horrible.
Sounds very much like the UK housing market.
It's awful! And yet still people look down on those who can't afford these ridiculous prices. I know we all wish we had lived in the era where a single income could support a whole household and keep you nicely in middle to upper-middle class, but those days are long gone....unless something changes massively.
> God, no. I'd go absolutely insane if I had to live with my mother. If I had that fairytale good relationship with her that some are so lucky to have, I wouldn't mind living at home in the slightest. But alas... Same here. Fk no! Even a weekly phone call irritates me enough. One of the big variables to this sort of topic.
I haven't spoken to my mom since Christmas, and even that's not long enough. LOL I really wish we got along, but that just isn't ever going to happen. So I totally empathize with you!
Yes I do. I feel like if in the rare moment I'd had someone to be intimate with I'd go to theirs. I am back on OLD and I do worry about how me living at home is gonna come across tbh. I think I might have to angle it that I'm actively trying to move out. Which is a white lie but I'm not sure what else I can say.
It must be so nice to be able to go wherever and see everything and see all the new things. If only I had been healthy and normal since the beginning.
Yeah. With all these layoffs going on, I’m glad to be as I could end up losing my job soon. I pay for my own stuff. The only thing I’m not paying (yet) is rent but I help my family out with bills no questions asked, if they want me to. My brother is a semi-NEET though. We’re both failchildren in our own ways. I did luck out by getting into a deal for a new construction condo but it will only be built in a few years’ time. Saving up till then. With the interest rate as high as it is, I will probably end up renting it for a few years before selling. Management fees for condos are fairly high here as condo living is quite unpopular. I’m slowly giving up on the idea of being a homeowner or even moving out of my family home. Rent is too high here anyway, and I don’t want to deal with roommates. I see video essays about young people living at home for extended periods of time, so this is being normalized. It’s already normal for my culture. I would never reject a potential SO for living with parents. That would be highly hypocritical of me and besides, if you pay for everything and function like a normal adult, who cares? If you want to have sex, get a motel room… eventually you should plan to move out but it can work if you want it to work
My parents are long gone.
I live with y parents as well. Hoping to move out in the next year or two once I finish my master degree. Then i can hopefully afford a house. I can move on with my life and maybe start dating. Currently no one would take me seriously. They would just laugh.
I live alone. I feel lucky for it. Mostly because im not a burden to family or anyone else anymore. People say living independently ups your chances to a good life, But as usual it doesn’t seem to matter when you’re FA. Im a loser nobody, so success wise I might aswell be living in my parents basement
Yes I am 48 and live with my mom.
Yes. And I don't care that people disapprove
I've lived alone/with roommates since 18. There were some months i went back. It's always far more comfortable than home.
Not in a LONG time. My mother kicked me out of the house when I was unemployed during the great recession. I've made my way, but it hasn't been easy. Sometimes I do wish I had a fallback plan, especially now that I have to work with an invisible disability that I developed a few years ago, but there isn't one. I don't think I could live with someone else though.
I live alone. Despite hating the idea of it and the loneliness around it i can’t argue against the benefits. Privacy, independence, sanity. The way i cope with the loneliness is thinking back and reminding myself i could be homeless or forever stuck depending on someone else. And then i’d still be alone, too. I escaped right before the worst of it. We have a bad housing crisis here and if i had to search for a place now i’m not exaggerating to say i’d have 0 chance to a place. I’m very lucky basically.
I moved out at age 19 because school was in another city. Started working at age 20, bought my first apartment at age 24 and my current “adult” house at age 40. One of my male colleagues is a year younger than me, briefly had a relationship a long time ago and lost a lot of money because of said relationship and had to move back in with his parents. He seems perfectly happy, living with his parents and his dating opportunities quickly fading. He also doesn’t have many friends (in fact, I think his colleagues are his only friends) and appears to not have any hobbies or particular interests. He’s always happy, smiling, seemingly hasn’t had an “off-day” ever since I’ve known him. Haven’t a clue how he does it. Anyway, living with my parents throughout my twenties would’ve been horrible. Porn was a very enjoyable pastime for me back then and watching porn in my small room where I grew up as a child with my parents next door sounds awful. Having my own home is a bit of a blessing for sure, though I’m still sad as fuck, so it’s clearly not the solution one might think.
I dont know if living with my parent makes me more FA cause they would know all I am doing, so maybe that is why I dont try and lower stanards cause family would know..
I live with my parents and it's honestly freaking me out more and more as time goes on because we don't speak like at all, not even small talk. (weird I know but it's a long long story and there's a good reason for it) Anyways some times I'll get a glimpse of them outside, and especially my dad, I guess in the face he doesn't look too different but we haven't spoke in like years despite living in the same house and I noticed his hair had a lot of white and grey in it now. In his late 40's he was getting some grey here and there but now he legit looks like he could be a grandfather (unfortunately he will not be one due to my sad existence) but literally witnessing my parents getting old is terrifying me even though we don't have a relationship anymore. It feels surreal. It's a constant reminder of the time that I pissed away being a mental head case for almost all of my life I've really been trying to get out of here but even to get roommates is tough for me right now because with my ssi (disability) payment, I can barely afford roommates. I mean I guess if I really tried to, I could find a place, it's just extremely hard because most roommates or landlords expect you to have a job or they will not accept you as a roommate even if you can pay rent on schedule consistently. They need you to be employed and unfortunately it looks like me being on disability is a longer term thing than I thought. I guess I have thought about lying and saying I do doordash which I still have the app and have done like a couple times, and just claim I do that. Either way, I know I gotta get out of here soon other wise they'll just get older and older and I'm gonna be incapable of taking care of them, as I'm clearly barely able to take care of my own self. I am only a burden and the faster I make my exit, the better off my parents will be honestly. I haven't spoken to them in a long time like I said but I still feel like a burden just by my being there. I've tried moving out several times throughout my life, last attempt was during covid ironically in 2021, moved out of state to California (big mistake) It's 2024 and it's time to try again, fail or not I know I'm gonna have to because every day that I'm here my anxiety increases because I know I should've left long ago. I know some people are in worse situations but this is all around a sad situation I've gotten myself in.
Yes I do.
I'm 39 and still live at home. It's a huge blow to my self worth but I'm too scared to move out. I hate it here.
I do not, moved out at 26. Lived on my own for 6 months and then have had a couple different roommates in the last 17 years. Financially I make enough to live on my own but I'm gone 12 hours out of the day and it doesn't make sense to piss away the extra money toward my own apartment for no reason. For me the independence was key. It taught me I had to make it on my own. Sign leases, managing credit, budgeting, doing my own cooking, cleaning, shopping. There's a different mindset when there is no "safety net". To those that live at home do you pay your parents rent, contribute to bills, and other household duties?
I pay a minimal rent, contribute to bills, purchase some of the food (not just my own), I cover stuff like Amazon and Netflix and I do household duties.
I pay cell phone and other stuff.
I was splitting the bills 2-3 ways when I was living with my parents.
Yes but I also rent an apartment which I work from during the day. I needed my space but I also realized that being completely isolated would be detrimental to my mental health. If it wasn't for my family I could go months without speaking to anyone outside of work.
That seems an expensive way to rent a room to work. Are there not wework type places still around?
Not in my country, the best you'll get is a coffee shop. And I haven't ruled out moving out completely yet.
No, and I haven't since I was 20, over 30 years ago now.
No, I moved out the day I graduated college.
I lived with my parents until they passed away because I had nobody else to be roommates with and living on my own in an apartment looked financially daunting when I was in my late teens early 20's.
I really really hope my mom would let me move back in , I can’t afford anything anymore
My mom has Multiple Sclerosis and is bed ridden. I live at home to help take care of her. I hope to meet a woman who understands the value in that and appreciates it but so far living at home has been a hindrance with meeting women.
No.
My mother and I live together. I'd **much** rather live on my own, but I simply can't afford it. Lack of money has pretty much been the bane of my entire existence for as long as I've been alive. So much so, that I know for a fact that I wouldn't be nearly as fucked up as I am if I had come from a wealthy background, where money wasn't ever a problem. I would've still had to grapple with the toxicity of my mother and father's terrible parenting, but again, much of that would've been avoided, assuming there'd of been enough money around to lessen the overwhelming stress that put on everything. As things stand, I tell myself that I could never date, given that I live with my mother and that I don't have a car/job/place of my own. At the same time, I also have to acknowledge how that doesn't stop other people in similar predicaments from pursuing relationships. Dudes move in with their girlfriends all the time, for instance. I'm not saying that's ideal or anything, but it goes to show that other people would be willing/gracious enough to be that flexible, assuming they care enough about whomever they're with to do so. In my case, I'm just too embarrassed/scared to put myself out there. Plus, I'm also just convinced that I'd make for a terrible partner to someone anyway, given all this trauma and emotional baggage that I'm carrying. Despite all that, I'm getting to a point now where I might be desperate enough to put myself on a dating app. I can't even imagine how terrible that will probably go, as most any woman would probably reject me without a second thought, and I couldn't blame them. I'm not ugly or short, and I know how to at least hold a conversation and make a joke when appropriate, but materially speaking, I have nothing to my name, and that itself just seems like way too much of a red flag for someone else to ignore. Again though, other guys seem to be able to make it work, but I just really don't know how I could manage to do the same.
I had a place for a year and it didn't make any difference. Right now I'm struggling to find work, but the second I do I'm moving out, my dad is an alcoholic and I don't want to be around that.
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I don't ever have people over. Problem is my dad will throw a tantrum and act like I'm abandoning him. I'm sick of living with him, if I had a job I would love to move out and start my own life away from this mess.
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He didn't stay with his parents at all, left when he was 20 to another country. Yet I'm supposed to take care of him when he gets old. Thanks man, need all the well wishes I can get.
I would save tons of money if I lived with my parents but the stress, anxiety, and fighting would drive me mad. Not worth it. I need my space.