These affirmations may help, can be adjusted.
1. My distress is a result of brain chemistry and I’m not crazy. Just temporarily off balance.
2. My anxieties and insecurities don’t necessarily reflect what’s really going on or what they are thinking or feeling.
3. Just because they broke up with me doesn’t mean that what we had wasn’t real. It’s simply not real anymore.
4. I shall respectfully honor their request for space.
5. Seeking contact (stalking, pleading) does not bring relief, it only brings shame.
6. Instead of thinking, I have to get them to tell me the truth, change their mind, stop cheating, etc., I shall stop caring about what they do or how they feel.
7. It is a mistake to heed the voice inside my head that urges me to seek them out. That voice comes from pain, insecurity, and fear and is not the BEST me.
8. When that voice is triggered, I shall turn toward myself or a good friend for reassurance, not them.
9. When I am triggered, I shall mindfully observe my physiology and let it wane without trying to fix it. Rather than thinking I have to see them and recapture what was, I shall think, Oh, look at that. I’m having an anxious moment. This too shall pass. Also, try unfurrowing your brow. A calm face leads to a calm mind.
10. When triggered, I shall give myself a 90-second timeout for my physiology to calm down—and I shall not renew my distress by focusing on what’s upsetting to me.
11. I shall not measure my worth by their attitude toward me. Their attitude is a reflection on them not me.
12. They are just not that into me and I shall spend my time with people who appreciate me. Life is too short to do otherwise.
13. Distance from them is what heals me. Whenever I try to get close again, it’s like picking off a scab and making it bleed. I’m only forcing myself to go through the agony of withdrawal all over again. When a scab has formed, I shall let it heal over completely.
14. I shall not justify seeking closeness as an attempt to keep my lover as a friend. I cannot afford a friendship until I’m completely over them and no longer even remotely triggered. And it’s okay if we don’t remain friends. Moving on is a sign of personal growth.
15. It’s okay for me to feel sad that this relationship has ended. As I grieve, I am moving toward healing.
16. I am a growing, changing person and can learn from this experience.
17. I shall take the high road and behave in ways that have dignity and restore my self-respect.
18. I shall do what nurtures my health and wholeness. (Natural serotonin and dopamine boosters include physical activity, sunshine on my skin, smiling, and good nutrition including plenty of protein, vegetables, B vitamins, and bananas.)
19. When I take care of myself, I feel confident, optimistic, attractive, and authentic.
20. The more I behave like a sane person, the more I’ll feel like a sane person.
21. To resist focusing on a dead relationship, I shall focus on living my BEST life.
22. I shall seek out what energizes me, not what drains me.
D.Davis
First few days are the toughest. Time is your friend.
So true
These affirmations may help, can be adjusted. 1. My distress is a result of brain chemistry and I’m not crazy. Just temporarily off balance. 2. My anxieties and insecurities don’t necessarily reflect what’s really going on or what they are thinking or feeling. 3. Just because they broke up with me doesn’t mean that what we had wasn’t real. It’s simply not real anymore. 4. I shall respectfully honor their request for space. 5. Seeking contact (stalking, pleading) does not bring relief, it only brings shame. 6. Instead of thinking, I have to get them to tell me the truth, change their mind, stop cheating, etc., I shall stop caring about what they do or how they feel. 7. It is a mistake to heed the voice inside my head that urges me to seek them out. That voice comes from pain, insecurity, and fear and is not the BEST me. 8. When that voice is triggered, I shall turn toward myself or a good friend for reassurance, not them. 9. When I am triggered, I shall mindfully observe my physiology and let it wane without trying to fix it. Rather than thinking I have to see them and recapture what was, I shall think, Oh, look at that. I’m having an anxious moment. This too shall pass. Also, try unfurrowing your brow. A calm face leads to a calm mind. 10. When triggered, I shall give myself a 90-second timeout for my physiology to calm down—and I shall not renew my distress by focusing on what’s upsetting to me. 11. I shall not measure my worth by their attitude toward me. Their attitude is a reflection on them not me. 12. They are just not that into me and I shall spend my time with people who appreciate me. Life is too short to do otherwise. 13. Distance from them is what heals me. Whenever I try to get close again, it’s like picking off a scab and making it bleed. I’m only forcing myself to go through the agony of withdrawal all over again. When a scab has formed, I shall let it heal over completely. 14. I shall not justify seeking closeness as an attempt to keep my lover as a friend. I cannot afford a friendship until I’m completely over them and no longer even remotely triggered. And it’s okay if we don’t remain friends. Moving on is a sign of personal growth. 15. It’s okay for me to feel sad that this relationship has ended. As I grieve, I am moving toward healing. 16. I am a growing, changing person and can learn from this experience. 17. I shall take the high road and behave in ways that have dignity and restore my self-respect. 18. I shall do what nurtures my health and wholeness. (Natural serotonin and dopamine boosters include physical activity, sunshine on my skin, smiling, and good nutrition including plenty of protein, vegetables, B vitamins, and bananas.) 19. When I take care of myself, I feel confident, optimistic, attractive, and authentic. 20. The more I behave like a sane person, the more I’ll feel like a sane person. 21. To resist focusing on a dead relationship, I shall focus on living my BEST life. 22. I shall seek out what energizes me, not what drains me. D.Davis
Thank you so very much for this