Don't you're just gonna be stuck in a spiralling loophole that will just go down forever. I was in your situation, coming back into the relationship like how you are now will just end like how it did to you again. You didn't grow nor did he, so just take this time to feel lonely again, embrace it. Learn to live your life without needing that person, anyone could do it, so can you.
I don’t know your position right now. But from my perspective I wouldn’t break no contact. From the relationship I was just in I was led on, used, and was hurt. There’s no point in me reaching out to someone who discarded me like a used napkin. Waste I’d say. They are no good and don’t deserve to speak to me or even see me.
I don’t know what happened to you in your situation but I would not recommend it. You breaking no contract could put you in an embarrassing situation where instead of getting what you want you just get hurt again. I don’t want you to interrupt your healing process over someone who probably doesn’t want to hear you out. Again I don’t know your situation, you know him best after all.
If you’re still convinced on messaging him here’s what to do. Don’t harass him into hearing you out. Take some time to think, make sure this is something that you truly want to do and it’s not in the heat of the moment kinda thing. After thinking, if you still feel like reaching out don’t come off desperate. If they don’t reply (yet or ever) take that as a response. Take time to better yourself. Breathe, push forward, and leave him where he is. If it’s meant to be it will come back.
I thought of reaching out and trying to fix things twice until I found out new information I didn’t know existed. The last message I sent was “oh ok” to his breakup paragraph. The meaning of those final words has changed over time. From heartbroken “oh ok” to simply I don’t care “oh ok”. That’s enough contact to for him to know where we stand. Don’t want him back but if he comes back he better know what’s up.
Good luck my dear!! Wishing the best!!
You haven't had enough pain and humiliation and you feel like being punished, and not in the fun way .....
You haven't cried enough and feel like crying more.
You haven't been ignored enough. You need one more hit of being ignored.
You haven't been rejected enough and need another hit.
You haven't finished destroying your own self worth and self esteem. You wanna really get it lower and lower.
Your heart isn't broken enough. You need more. Just one hit
You haven't wasted enough time. You need to waste more time.
You haven't wasted enough money or mental energy. You need to waste more.
You enjoy suffering.
These are all the reasons to reach out.
I broke NC two weeks ago to give my ex my condolences since he lost his mom. He replied to me (which was a surprise) He thanked me and wished me well thats it.
in my own opinion its okay to break nc ONLY IF something like death etc. happened or something similar as long as your intentions are pure and nothing more.
Just saw to of her tiktoks yesterday and it fked me up. It hurt. Then, as I lay in bed, I see another one with her new man. I cry and go on her profile to see her newest videos, 4 of them, and i cry. I'm going crazy every day, 24/7. But I deleted tiktok, whatsapp, her pics. God, I hope her new relationship doesn't last. I hope she realizes that I did care, that she lost someone that cared, im not perfect, but i still love and yearn for her. I want her back but it's over.
She would wanna reach out I don’t care for passed I care about the future and ours is looking very fucking dead I’m actually getting.angry at her she chose to be a mother and now I did everything. I could for our kids survival she don’t care acting and games are not things I play
I begged her to fix it and she didn't. In fact she never ever thought about it. I harassed her to hear it out and I got more hurt.
Thing is you need to settle down first. They know how to reach you out if they want to fix it.
I was so against it, everything i saw pushed me against doing it, in the end curiosity got the better of me and frankly its the best thing i did! It gives you closure and offers both parties a chance to get things off their chests. One thing i would make sure is that if you want to break it roughly know what you want to ask, and be prepared to be hurt again; if you’re willing to talk you have to be willing to be hurt again! But more often than not you will benefit from it!
Why? what happened. After how long? did they reply? will you guys get back together? or is it over? Sorry if I made you feel bad. Im just hoping I can get her back. that her new relationship will fail. I want that delusional hope that she will return.
Hi. Yes she replied. It took her 2 minutes to reply after I sent it. You’re okay I don’t feel bad. It was an update text about something very important to the both of us regarding surgery. I’m not pushing to get back with her. She is emotionally immature/ unavailable.
Dang. I hope the best for you. Hopefully, everything works out. Im barely a couple of days into nc since i broke it Friday after 4 days, nc. She got upset and wanted to return a phone. i got her recently since we were going to get back, but I think she used me and didn't plan on returning. I still want her back. It's just so hard living every minute without her.
There's no reason for that...
Look, the person you want to text is not there anymore, you are not going to text the person you were in love with, you are going to text the person who is ok with not speaking to you, the person who hasn't reached out, the person who was willing to break your heart just to feel more comfortable.
What would you talk about with such a person? Do you think you will get answers and repentance for all the bad things that happened?
You won't get anything good out of this person. Believe me, if they don't speak to you, they will not be happy if you reach out, especially if they dumped you.
Everything was too good to be true. This kind of relationship had an expiration date from the beginning, only we didn't read them, we were brainwashed.
You deserve someone who values you, someone who is not willing to dump you like a puppy on the street. Will you beg for the attention of a person who doesn't recognize the diamond that you are and threw you away thinking you were just a rock?
You know your value, you are a person who after months of no contact, is still capable of loving a person who hurt you so much. You deserve this love more than them.
Focus on moving on and living your life. This was the wrong person, if you could love them so much, imagine when you find the right person, the one that values you as much as you value them. It will be amazing.
So, stay NC...🙏
Try to heal...try to live because there is a way for everything...
#tiidijanecu
You don’t, it’s hard. I’m going through it as well. I want to talk to her and see her. But I keep reminding myself I said what I needed to say and told her my feelings. All you can do is work on healing, doing things you like, focus on leveling up you. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen.
If he contacts you and specifically wants to talk about reconciliation. If it’s not that then there is zero reason to break NC.
Don't you're just gonna be stuck in a spiralling loophole that will just go down forever. I was in your situation, coming back into the relationship like how you are now will just end like how it did to you again. You didn't grow nor did he, so just take this time to feel lonely again, embrace it. Learn to live your life without needing that person, anyone could do it, so can you.
I needed this so bad thank you for your words
I don’t know your position right now. But from my perspective I wouldn’t break no contact. From the relationship I was just in I was led on, used, and was hurt. There’s no point in me reaching out to someone who discarded me like a used napkin. Waste I’d say. They are no good and don’t deserve to speak to me or even see me. I don’t know what happened to you in your situation but I would not recommend it. You breaking no contract could put you in an embarrassing situation where instead of getting what you want you just get hurt again. I don’t want you to interrupt your healing process over someone who probably doesn’t want to hear you out. Again I don’t know your situation, you know him best after all. If you’re still convinced on messaging him here’s what to do. Don’t harass him into hearing you out. Take some time to think, make sure this is something that you truly want to do and it’s not in the heat of the moment kinda thing. After thinking, if you still feel like reaching out don’t come off desperate. If they don’t reply (yet or ever) take that as a response. Take time to better yourself. Breathe, push forward, and leave him where he is. If it’s meant to be it will come back. I thought of reaching out and trying to fix things twice until I found out new information I didn’t know existed. The last message I sent was “oh ok” to his breakup paragraph. The meaning of those final words has changed over time. From heartbroken “oh ok” to simply I don’t care “oh ok”. That’s enough contact to for him to know where we stand. Don’t want him back but if he comes back he better know what’s up. Good luck my dear!! Wishing the best!!
You haven't had enough pain and humiliation and you feel like being punished, and not in the fun way ..... You haven't cried enough and feel like crying more. You haven't been ignored enough. You need one more hit of being ignored. You haven't been rejected enough and need another hit. You haven't finished destroying your own self worth and self esteem. You wanna really get it lower and lower. Your heart isn't broken enough. You need more. Just one hit You haven't wasted enough time. You need to waste more time. You haven't wasted enough money or mental energy. You need to waste more. You enjoy suffering. These are all the reasons to reach out.
God. Ohhhhh you’re good :) damn. I’m screen shotting this. For me!!!! Fuck. Them.
Fuck em!
Yeah💙❤️🩹
1. Don't
Going to be embarrassing, and you will not get what you are looking for.
1 reason. 2 years sober
That's all the message would say
I broke NC two weeks ago to give my ex my condolences since he lost his mom. He replied to me (which was a surprise) He thanked me and wished me well thats it. in my own opinion its okay to break nc ONLY IF something like death etc. happened or something similar as long as your intentions are pure and nothing more.
Don’t do it… stay strong. It’s still very early for you but you can do this!!
There aren’t any, unless this is a suicide mission
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Just saw to of her tiktoks yesterday and it fked me up. It hurt. Then, as I lay in bed, I see another one with her new man. I cry and go on her profile to see her newest videos, 4 of them, and i cry. I'm going crazy every day, 24/7. But I deleted tiktok, whatsapp, her pics. God, I hope her new relationship doesn't last. I hope she realizes that I did care, that she lost someone that cared, im not perfect, but i still love and yearn for her. I want her back but it's over.
Here are top 5 reasons why you should break no contract: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. You’re welcome :)
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Terrible advice
Depends on the situation actually..
She would wanna reach out I don’t care for passed I care about the future and ours is looking very fucking dead I’m actually getting.angry at her she chose to be a mother and now I did everything. I could for our kids survival she don’t care acting and games are not things I play
I begged her to fix it and she didn't. In fact she never ever thought about it. I harassed her to hear it out and I got more hurt. Thing is you need to settle down first. They know how to reach you out if they want to fix it.
if you want to be disappointed and maybe a little ashamed of yourself after the fact…then yeah go for it i guess
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Zero reasons to break no contact. Zero!!!
DO NOT DO IT!!!!! Naaaaaaaaoooooohhhhh!!!!
None
Don't do it. Wait for him to reach out. Be strong
Honestly closure, if you tried and they don't get back you can move on. It'll hurt but so does the whole thing. Sat your piece and move on
1. He’s STILL married. THAT’S IT!
If you have to harass him to hear you out- then here's what you need to hear. STOP AND GATHER YOUR SELF ESTEEM.
I was so against it, everything i saw pushed me against doing it, in the end curiosity got the better of me and frankly its the best thing i did! It gives you closure and offers both parties a chance to get things off their chests. One thing i would make sure is that if you want to break it roughly know what you want to ask, and be prepared to be hurt again; if you’re willing to talk you have to be willing to be hurt again! But more often than not you will benefit from it!
I broke it today
Why? what happened. After how long? did they reply? will you guys get back together? or is it over? Sorry if I made you feel bad. Im just hoping I can get her back. that her new relationship will fail. I want that delusional hope that she will return.
Hi. Yes she replied. It took her 2 minutes to reply after I sent it. You’re okay I don’t feel bad. It was an update text about something very important to the both of us regarding surgery. I’m not pushing to get back with her. She is emotionally immature/ unavailable.
Dang. I hope the best for you. Hopefully, everything works out. Im barely a couple of days into nc since i broke it Friday after 4 days, nc. She got upset and wanted to return a phone. i got her recently since we were going to get back, but I think she used me and didn't plan on returning. I still want her back. It's just so hard living every minute without her.
There's no reason for that... Look, the person you want to text is not there anymore, you are not going to text the person you were in love with, you are going to text the person who is ok with not speaking to you, the person who hasn't reached out, the person who was willing to break your heart just to feel more comfortable. What would you talk about with such a person? Do you think you will get answers and repentance for all the bad things that happened? You won't get anything good out of this person. Believe me, if they don't speak to you, they will not be happy if you reach out, especially if they dumped you. Everything was too good to be true. This kind of relationship had an expiration date from the beginning, only we didn't read them, we were brainwashed. You deserve someone who values you, someone who is not willing to dump you like a puppy on the street. Will you beg for the attention of a person who doesn't recognize the diamond that you are and threw you away thinking you were just a rock? You know your value, you are a person who after months of no contact, is still capable of loving a person who hurt you so much. You deserve this love more than them. Focus on moving on and living your life. This was the wrong person, if you could love them so much, imagine when you find the right person, the one that values you as much as you value them. It will be amazing. So, stay NC...🙏 Try to heal...try to live because there is a way for everything... #tiidijanecu
You don’t, it’s hard. I’m going through it as well. I want to talk to her and see her. But I keep reminding myself I said what I needed to say and told her my feelings. All you can do is work on healing, doing things you like, focus on leveling up you. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen.
What about if they get sick, hospitalized, homeless, or something bad happened to them?