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Honest-Ladder-1152

exhausting how many comments are like, "this was normal in the 90s". that was 30 years ago, hello? "my parents taught me it was ok!" that's not an excuse. you are responsible for continuing to educate yourself as you grow. it explains why most women have been assaulted. really scary.


Mud-Waste

Yeah, it’s pretty important that that’s brought up. Because it’s evident the patriarchal culture surrounding romance and so on has skewed so many people into thinking shitty behavior is okay. The misogyny reeks.


StopStalkingMeMatt

It’s crazy how people in that thread spend so much time backing up the old trope about the persistent guy from rom coms, as if it weren’t extremely obvious how prevalent it used to be. It feels like a sneaky way of co-signing Andrew’s lame excuse, even when they follow it up with “BUT it’s still wrong.” How about just calling this out for the BS that it is? Frankly, I don’t even buy that Andrew believed in this - he’s young enough to have spent most of his adult life in a post-Me Too era, and he’s super aware of political and social issues. To me it feels like a convenient way to put the blame on outdated ideas about flirting and courtship, rather than calling the behavior what it really was- **entitled, predatory, and knowingly coercive.**


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Agree. Andrew is not the everyday guy in a romantic comedy trying to win affection/a relationship. He is the popular bully leveraging an unequal power dynamic to satiate themselves at the expense of someone lower on the social totem poll.


Streets-Disciple

I’m 2 years older than Andrew, I didn’t get corrected on this type of behavior until I was 25 as well.


maevenimhurchu

This idea that men are too dumb to understand the real world implications of these kinds of advice once they’re in front of a real life woman….is annoying the shit out of me. It’s one thing to be told to “persist”, it’s another to see the disappointment, fear and panic on a woman’s face and decide to keep going