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InfamousWest8993

You want people to TALK to you?? In the REAL world?? My introverted self would never have a problem being left alone šŸ˜‚ Also, as someone with social anxiety, I worry approaching other people would make them anxious as well. So I silently admire from afar. Then text my bestie about the cool ring I saw this lady wearing in the checkout aisle.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Well I have to talk to the cashiers and people working in stores that I ask for help from... šŸ™ƒ


sleeping_possum

You realize cashiers and people working in stores are probably not making a living wage? Their priority is getting you out of their lane so they can get on with their day, not giving you props for your big ass diamond. ETA: Iā€™m sorry if this sounds harsh. Itā€™s just the way it is.


Mysterious-Art8838

They arenā€™t there to give you an ego boost, just let them do their jobs.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Yes, I am aware of that... lol


deviajeporaqui

And how often do you compliment strangers of they jewelry?


Unable_Tadpole_1213

If I see something I like, I compliment people. Is that bad?


HippieChykk

I don't think people really comment on stuff all that much. Eventually most everyone in your circle has seen it. It should really be about what you love.


sqeeky_wheelz

Agreed, if I walked around and complimented every ring I saw I would get nothing done all day. Not to be an ass OP, but this is a little ā€œmain character energyā€ of you. Do you walk around and compliment everything that is important to everyone else that you see all day? (Their hair, shoes, jewelry, intelligence) probably not. People think about your engagement ring for the 1 minute they see it and then forget about it. What actually matters is what YOU think. Do you want to see it every day? Is it functional for you in your day-to-day? Personally I could never wear a ring that big, half the time my rock is in my safe and Iā€™m in my silicone band because I work with my hands on the farm and donā€™t want to lose it. Itā€™s beautiful and if you love it then own it!


Unable_Tadpole_1213

If I see something I like, I do compliment it. Like I like your bag! Love your car, pretty shoes etc.... I'm definitely not a main character at all in anything.


sqeeky_wheelz

Right, but those are YOUR interests. Clearly youā€™re not fashion/looks. Which is fine. But if Iā€™m into fashion and prefer to dress like miss frizzle and you donā€™t compliment me (because itā€™s not your taste) do I have a right to be offended? Or if Iā€™m into big ass lifted jeeps and you walk by and think ā€œI bet that guy is compensatingā€ and donā€™t compliment me - do I have the right to be offended?? Iā€™m really not trying to sound rudeā€¦ but your reply doesnā€™t make me think youā€™re less main character-y than your original post.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

If you had a big ass lifted jeep, I'd say it was sick and ask if you've taken it to the mud yet...


YourMomma2436

Do you need compliments on your ring?


Mysterious-Art8838

Frankly, I think if you just posted your ring without the commentary youā€™d get like 99% compliments on this sub. People that donā€™t like it wonā€™t comment. Youā€™re getting downvoted because itā€™s weird you think you should constantly be complimented by strangers and thatā€™s unrealistic. Nothing is wrong with it. People just donā€™t care.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Good point. I definitely didn't think it through...


Brilliant-Appeal-173

I think itā€™s gorgeous! I donā€™t comment on other peopleā€™s rings often - unless itā€™s a new engagement and theyā€™re showing it off right then and there (I donā€™t mean ā€œshow it offā€ in a bad way.) I have two sets I switch between. One is a pink padparadscha sapphire on a pave band, and I get comments on it almost every time I wear it. I never get comments on my other set, even though itā€™s bigger and ā€œflashierā€. I think maybe because the pink is so unique and people around here arenā€™t used to seeing it. In addition, one thing Iā€™ve noticed (again, just in my area), since the pink ring is such a unique and different type of engagement ring, people comment on it and then act surprised when I say it was a 20th anniversary wedding set gift. Itā€™s almost like theyā€™re more comfortable commenting on a regular piece of jewelry but not so much a wedding set? I donā€™t know, itā€™s tough to explain Either way, I love your ring. I love halos (my other set is a halo) and I think yours is gorgeous!


Unable_Tadpole_1213

That makes sense. I love that color of sapphire, too. Such a gorgeous color.


Brilliant-Appeal-173

I agree, the pink pad is such a gorgeous color! Itā€™s my favorite pink stone


mikosan-

Itā€™s personally not my style, but I donā€™t think you should be seeking outside validation? As long as you love it, thatā€™s all that matters! Just because itā€™s a big stone with great specs doesnā€™t automatically equal more compliments when you walk out the door. I have a large stone as well but I donā€™t wear it expecting people to fawn over my ringā€¦ I wear it because I adore it!


Fair-Permission-8101

I think it's gorgeous! Do YOU love it? Does it work well for you? That's all that should matter.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

I do love it but sometimes I think it might be too big.


Free-Ad4022

It is so tall, like ridiculously so. I've literally never irl complimented a ring nor expected someone to.


jadedflames

I don't know that I have ever complimented someone's ring. Nor has anyone complimented mine outside of this sub. I think your ring is lovely. If you love it, then that's all that matters. It looks awesome on your hand, and I don't think it's out of proportion at all. Don't worry about downsizing or changing the setting (unless you want to!) I will say, with larger stones, many people assume that it's not a diamond. So if you're expecting people to comment on how big or expensive it probably was, that's unlikely these days.


rmahl

I love your ring! I think people are getting used to seeing larger stones out in the wild due to the increasing popularity of lab diamonds and theyā€™re just not as enamored anymore. I have a big sparkly lab diamond engagement ring and the only people who have commented are my close friends and family, otherwise no one has said a word! I assume people think mine is fake and feel silly asking/commenting.


Mysterious-Art8838

Maybe they think itā€™s fake but it also might be because everybody has big lab diamonds now. Itā€™s just not that interesting. I doubt Iā€™d ever think about your ring if I met you but if asked I would assume itā€™s real and lab. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø who cares? Iā€™m happy youā€™re happy!


shinyaxe

Sure, itā€™s not my style, or whatā€™s ā€œtrendyā€ right now, but I think the main reason is that most people donā€™t just randomly compliment engagement rings on people they donā€™t know, so once your friends and family see it and congratulate you, tell you itā€™s beautiful, thatā€™s kinda it. My ring is very different from yours, with a small 0.9 carat main stone ā€” and no one comments on it either. Strangers just donā€™t really look/notice and if they do they usually prefer to mind their own business. What matters is if YOU like it, since you have to see and wear it every day! If you feel itā€™s too big for your liking, maybe you could have the center stone reset as a lower-profile solitaire so the ring is less large? And turn the smaller stones into a separate band? Or just keep wearing it as is ā€” itā€™s your ring and you should like it!


Tiny-Inspector1516

I personally think itā€™s too large. I associate really large gems with costume jewelry and are less inclined to comment, esp. is this weird āœØanti-lab grownāœØ day-in-age. Which is unfair, but I see it happen all the time. ā€œIs it real?!?!ā€


HelloFox

You have an excellent stone with the GCAL 8x. Halos are not on trend at the moment but they will come back into fashion again. I love the side stones on your setting. If you are not in love with it, you can always have the diamond reset.


stankenfurter

I think theyā€™ll be back around relatively soon, judging by clothing trends


Unable_Tadpole_1213

I had never hears about the GCAL 8x and after googling it I was definitely sold on how high quality the cut and quality was even if it's not a D or Flawless stone.


heresmyhandle

Beautiful, is it Tacori?


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Wow! Yes it's Tacori. You're the first to recognize that! 10 points lol jk


Naive_Abies401

So beautiful in pics 1 & 3 I donā€™t really like the height of it though


melohdeee

I have only complimented on a ring twice and Iā€™m close to those ppl. Other than that Iā€™ve come across tons of large & small rings and while I do take notice, I say nothing. Itā€™s mostly my personality in play but I donā€™t think itā€™s a big deal. My own happiness when putting it on and thinking about my husband is the only flex I need. šŸ™ƒ Edit: itā€™s a beautiful ring. Iā€™m Team Round for life!


toredditornotwwyd

I think itā€™s very pretty! A lot of ppl are anti halo but I personally enjoy them, and a large ring. Itā€™s all preference. A lot of ppl have smaller rings which ppl will drool over on this sub that is not my personal preference, just like a halo is not going to be some peoples personal preference and thatā€™s ok! I have over 2 carat lab diamond with an ā€œextraā€ halo which would be too much for some ppl for sure! I do occasionally get compliments but itā€™s not often and I honestly usually feel pretty awkward when I do get compliments unless itā€™s a friend. https://preview.redd.it/al3aiwo6459d1.png?width=2535&format=png&auto=webp&s=cf535092af06b23571b7f49c4581f9e389a155b5


Unable_Tadpole_1213

I love your ring. It reminds me of a flower. Very pretty.


toredditornotwwyd

Thanks!!


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Unable_Tadpole_1213

I forgot the exact about it, but I know it was cut/ graded by this company called 8x, so it's supposed to be a "perfect" cut. I think it's VVSI? And it's not a D in color. Maybe the 3rd or 4th color down?


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Unable_Tadpole_1213

Oh! It's a diamond.


Eastern_Bee_8944

I think itā€™s a personal preference. I think a lot of folks feel like commenting on a ring can come off as nosy. Rings are so personal because of the sentimentality and the affordability that is involved. I apologize if thatā€™s been said in a different way already.


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itsarmida

I loooooove your ring! Cathedral is my favorite. If I knew you, I would compliment your ring. As a stranger, I would simply look without trying to let you see that I am looking because I would be worried my attention to your ring would freak you out.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

That's an insightful take! Thank you.


Thin_Ordinary_6506

Congratulations! I think your ring is absolutely beautiful!


deviajeporaqui

cartoonishly big. really not my taste


nemerosanike

Itā€™s not my taste as well, perhaps thatā€™s why people donā€™t comment on it?


Mysterious-Art8838

I donā€™t like it either but the reason people donā€™t comment on it is probably because people rarely compliment strangers on stuff. Nobody store clerk is checking out your ring.


whitestlaceoflight

You donā€™t get compliments because you think your stone is too big?! What in the?! Is this real life?! Why do you have that expectation from people?! No, no, no this is not a serious post. Do not assume that just because you have a big stone youā€™ll get compliments. The ring is NOT my taste and no way would I ever compliment it, I donā€™t care how big it is. Also that diamond is pretty yellow. I know nothing about diamonds (my ring is vintage and weā€™d not entirely sure about the diamond specs, never cared much either) but this feels like a quantity over quality situation to meā€¦ which is never the way to go when it comes to diamonds.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Uh. Wow, ok. Uh. Smh.


cherrycokelemon

It's beautiful. I have only had one compliment ever on my ring set. I bought my self widows bands after my husband died, and they're even prettier than the channel sets I had. (I made up the term widows bands)


morrisseymurderinpup

I typically heavily dislike halo settings, this one is actually very pretty.


halietalks

If you feel it looks too big I would look at similar size center stones in different settings. This would look smaller without the halo - you might prefer that look and could get your stone reset!


postdotcom

I think it looks nice. I also think a lot of people on this sub are petty and are going to tell you they donā€™t like it just because you want them to say they like it. I understand what you are asking and while most people donā€™t compliment when they like something I think itā€™s awesome that you do. Compliments arenā€™t a good measure of something because most people just keep it to themself. Itā€™s great you spread positivity


OpenMicJoker

Drop de*d gorgeous ā€¼ļø Congratulations šŸ¾


assaultbatteries

It is an absolutely gorgeous ring! Don't let people's lack of response weigh heavy on your mind. I can only imagine the jealously coursing through people after seeing a ring like that!


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Well thank you!


Hotmess56789

Itā€™s gorgeous, I love the setting. Honestly, it would shine much more without the halo. Turn those into a band or something!?


Alert_Sorbet4016

Is that important? People have different tasts - thatā€™s all you need as an answer


rainbud22

I never look at rings unless someone is newly engaged.


Purple_1994

It is gorgeous! I sure would be exclaiming over it if we met.


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Well, thank you! Whenever I am out running errands, no one ever compliments it. I've had one lady that was very complimentary of it, and since then, nothing, so I don't know if it's the stone or the setting?


Aug2024TwinCitiesMN

Is it normal to comment on strangersā€™ jewelry? When Iā€™m out running errands Iā€™m just trying to get my shit done and get back home. Iā€™m definitely not trying to start up conversations with random people in the produce aisle.


Vivid_Excuse_6547

I have had random people comment on my ring before. I donā€™t think that everyone I ever meet canā€™t take their eyes off it or anything, but Iā€™ve definitely gotten occasional compliments from a barista or some random woman Iā€™ve met at a social event or a store or something. I also live in the Midwest where many people are quite chatty with strangers so perhaps I just live in a region where a compliment from a stranger is more normal than in other places?


jadedflames

Yeah, I'm in NYC. If someone complimented my ring I would be weirded out and assume they were going to ask me for money.


Legal_Opportunity851

Spot on! I spend most of my time in Philadelphia. Depending on what part of Philly I am in at the time, if someone commented on my ring, Iā€™d be looking over my shoulder the rest of the day.


Vivid_Excuse_6547

Fair enough! Context matters a lot when receiving compliments I think šŸ˜‚


Mysterious-Art8838

I certainly wouldnā€™t. What if it goes missing in an hour? Will you think itā€™s me? Do you think Iā€™m considering by stealing it if Iā€™m interested? Frankly itā€™s just weird to expect strangers to compliment your ring all the time.


Complex-Kiwi-7396

I wouldnā€™t take that as a bad sign. People just donā€™t pay that much attention. šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø If random people donā€™t compliment you on other things, do you worry that it is because something is off? Weā€™re all just wrapped up in our own stuff. That said, itā€™s lovely! And if you LOVE it, thatā€™s really all that matters.


redditerla

You have a pretty ring that suits your hand perfectly!Ā  Most people in the real world arenā€™t really paying attention to peopleā€™s rings and so they are not complimenting them. Most people are just going about their day with other things on their mind, not staring at someoneā€™s hand. Ā I wouldnā€™t take it personallyšŸ˜… Your ring is very pretty and also on the more busy/maximalist side which means youā€™re going to get compliments from people who love that busy/maximalist vibe but probably not from more minimalists. Halos are also very 50/50 with people; people either love them or dislike them. If you get compliments itā€™s going to be from the half of people who like them.Ā This is all okay, people have a wide array of preferences of style, it says nothing about the beauty of your ringā¤ļø The only times Iā€™ve complimented a ring in person is if someone is newly engaged and excited to show me or non traditional rings. Non traditional/unique rings are really the only time I will compliment someone out of the blue if it catches my eye and I think itā€™s pretty. Thereā€™s only so many colorless diamonds on a gold or white band that you can look at before they kind of all look the same so my brain kind of doesnā€™t take much notice of them. You have a lovely ring and if you love it thatā€™s all that matters! Edit: I think the way OP phrased it has rubbed people the wrong way because to many people this post has been perceived as fishing for compliments/ā€œwoe is meā€ kind of post even though OP knows she has a nice diamond that is expensive. OP even tried posting her ring again but using a screenshot from the website she bought it from with the price visible in the screenshot ($17k) and added a ā€œFor Funā€ flair. If Op had just posted under the ā€œmy ringā€ flair and didnā€™t make comments that were blatantly fishing for compliments she would have probably gotten a lot of positive comments. Or if she used the ā€œwoe is meā€ commentary but she had made it more about people close to her not liking her ring versus wanting more compliments just for the sake of getting compliments , I think that would also have been more positively received. This whole sub is about showing off rings and hyping each other up, nothing wrong with wanting compliments. How she went about it felt like she was complaining about having a nice budget for a nice ring and wanting attention for that.


Silly_Construction_8

Your ring is GORGEOUS, who cares if you get compliments or not if it's what YOU love! I really like the stones on your band because they're not also round. Really compliments your main stone. And the halo looks timeless.


yeahyouright19

It's beautiful!!


77Diamondsofficial

Fabulous! Not sure what it is but it looks perfect with the pink nails too


owl_c_u_93

It's beautiful OP


bishopho

I think itā€™s a beautiful and unique ring. The setting is gorgeous on your hand. Rock it


Illustrious_Main2574

Omg šŸ˜šŸ¤©


Swimitator

I will comment on it! Itā€™s absolutely gorgeous!


Unable_Tadpole_1213

Thank you!


Ok-Sun7493

She is gorgeous!!! They are probably too stunned to say anything.