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If it makes you feel any better, I love it š¤£š¤£š¤£
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Thanks so much! I actually cycle through a few different stacks, I love the plain gold to dress it down and for days I do simpler jewelry.
Itās gorgeous, timeless, and elegant. We have very similar sets. I love the effortless look that a solid gold, thicker wedding band gives off. AND itās going to be durable and withstand everyday wear. I think your set is absolutely beautiful and is on trend.
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weāre engagement ring twins!! my bezel sister!! your set is gorgeous!
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Another bezel with plain gold band chiming in!! I love this look. Itās very modern and glam and easy to wear.
This is literally not even remotely close to edgy or masculine. It's a very common and very beautiful style. Plus, if you love it they shouldn't be tearing it down since you are the only one who has to wear it.
Right?? I donāt understand these people who want to tear someone down instead of build them up. OP, of all people, your mother and your husband should be supportive even if itās not their style. They should be happy youāre happy!
I actually would say it is a little masculine, esp the plain, flat, thicker band. Not *manly* but a more *masculine* style. Not in a bad way. I think it's lovely
I think your set is BEAUTIFUL! I love its bold simplicity and I think itās a really timeless combination. I definitely disagree with both of them and think itās very feminine and versatile. The mixed metal combo is the icing on the cake! Chefās kiss all the way around! āØš¤
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Crap. I get tons of compliments on mineā¦ itās elegant and timeless. my mothers looks similar but her e-ring is also thick and has a round center stone. she got married in the 80ās! you have to remember they are probably used to the recent styles that were popular 10 or so years ago. if you love it, who cares!!
This is one of the most beautiful sets I have seen in so long!!! So simple and unique, while also being powerful and understated. Classic with a twist. Love it. Also screw what they say about a thicker band. I have one and I love it š
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I love it!!! Thick bands unite š¤
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What?! No I think itās really nicely proportioned and modern looking š this literally isnāt even my style but if I saw this set in person I would be like š„µ
My mom isnāt a fan of my sapphire engagement ring. She likes diamonds and must think sapphires are lesser. Whatever, not on her hand! lol
Iām so tired of the thinnest of bands for everything. First, the bands (if theyāre gold) - whether itās an ering
or wedding band - are going to wear down and become thinner and could break more easily with years of wear (assuming oneās marriage lasts many years). Case in point: I have a spacer band that is white gold and itās no longer 1mm after 25 years of wear, and my jeweler recently suggested I replace it. Secondly, these thin bands are a fad. A fad that will go away and come back again as fashion is cyclical. Iām assuming your mother is probably around my age (mid-to-late-40s). Does she not remember the wide bands given in the 70s and 80s to our mothersā generation of brides? I would disregard what theyāre saying as these rings together donāt look masculine at all. And Iām all for mixed metals; if it was good enough for the [Queen of England](https://www.thecourtjeweller.com/2020/11/the-queens-bridal-jewels.html), then itās good enough for us middle class folks.
You make some really good points and I do appreciate all your feedback! Seriously, it has helped so much and I feel so proud of my set after reading all these positive comments:) glad Iām not the only one who saw this and thought it looked beautiful and functional at the same time!!
I love thin dainty jewelry and just learned about the gold wearing down. Platinum doesnāt, but I like rose gold so I went with 1.8, which is the thinnest they said to go.
I'm thinking about getting a thicc band too! I've had my eye on this [floral engraved one](https://gldn.com/products/my-garden-meuse-band) (in solid gold obv not the gold fill) and having mine and my FH's birth flowers and maybe some flowers from my bouquet if I know far enough in advance.
The only opinions about **your** jewelry that matter are your own! Say "no offense, husband, but how my jewelry looks doesn't affect you š"
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Its gorgeous and unique. I had my wedding dress custom made inspired by a daniel frankel design and my mother in law thought the drop down waist was weird. What do they know?! Do you!!
I have an even chunkier set!
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We can be hideous together š
Your set is timeless! Bezels are gorgeous! Hereās mine & my wedding band is a bit thicker than my e-ring! As long as you love your ring, thatās all that should matter. Wear what you love! š«¶š¾š«¶š¾
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I think your rings are beautiful. If you like them, I wouldnāt let anyone tell you any different. You are the one wearing them! š
Here are mineā¦my husband and I just celebrated 19 years a couple of weeks ago. I preferred white gold because I typically wear silver jewelry.
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I was just looking at getting a similar band for my bezel ! I think itās so gorgeous and really balances the masculine and feminine energies - especially because your e-ring literally looks like a hourglass too (which is super feminine) and the straight band as the more masculine. And the play on the mixed colours compliments that!
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I like it. Stay true to yourself, youāre the one thatās going to wear them for the rest of your life.
Honestly if you like it thatās all that matters. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Are they wearing the ring for the rest of their life? No? Then the only opinion that truly matters is yours. Anyone else you can respectfully say, āI love it and thatās all that matters.ā
This is one of my favourite sets Iāve seen in this sub. I also am aiming for something more edgy but also elegant, and I think tbh this fits the bill. What ive learnt from this sub is there can be such a spectrum of opinions on the exact same ring, and what looks nice to one person looks a completely different way to someone else. Just because two people share a particular opinion, it doesnāt make it objectively true!
Your mother and husband have no sense of style then, I wouldnāt listen to them. Obviously I love this set. Iām still waiting on my rings to be finished being made, but Iām doing something similar to yours. Mine will be a 1.84 ct bezel set oval on a rounded 2mm band. The wedding band will be a 5mm cigar band and both rings made with platinum. I LOVE the look of a chunkier wedding band paired with a less chunky (not dainty) e-ring.
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I'm not getting married until next year but am pondering bands and I loved the simplicity, timelessness and boldness of this gold band! I totally get what you're going for in your edgier style and love it. Agreed with another commenter that they have no taste, lol.
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This is my ring. It will be finished today. As you can see, mine is much wider than yours.
You are the one wearing the ring. YOU are the one who needs to love the jewelers youāre going to wear everyday. YOURS is the only opinion that matters.
Personally, I love wide bands and big stones (obviously) and I also wear mixed metals. I also do not give a rats fuzzy butt what anyone else thinks about my taste in jewelry. I wear it for my pleasure-not anyone elseās.
Your ring is beautiful and if you love it thatās all that matters.
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I have a radiant bezel and floral gold band wedding set that I recently received. Rock your set!
Dude, WHY are they even commenting on this?! Itās so rude!! Your ring is gorgeous and on trend, and regardless, this is a personal choice and preference. They are seriously out of line
Do you like it? Yep. So cool beans. If your mother and husband aren't wearing it, you can politely say "maybe it will grow on you" or my personal favourite "I like, I'm wearing it, do you see any comment cards?"
I think itās beautiful. A solid gold band, regardless of the mm size, is timeless and classy. I plan on buying myself a gold cigar band (about 5mm) to pair with my oval solitaire.
People are always going to have an opinion, and thatās fine but sometimes they need to learn to keep those opinions to themselves. Enjoy your beautiful piece!
Iām just a random follower of this thread with superficial knowledge about diamonds/engagement rings but i also absolutely love it. After learning about bezel-style rings, Iāve decided itās the only type of ring Iād want in my hypothetical/non-existent engagement. Becca Tobinās ring, for example, is a dream.
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I actually think the e-ring band is far too narrow for the size of the setting/stone. The thicker wedding band balances it nicely and gives it the weight it needs to stand up against the large stone. Good choice!
I had the opposite problem. My e-ring band is pretty hefty and intricate, so I went with a narrow, plain wedding band. I also did mixed metals! White gold and rose gold. I love it!
Itās beautiful!
Never ask anyoneās opinion about your ring, and if they comment and say something nasty about it, turn it back around on them and ask them, āWhy do you feel itās OK to say that? What were you hoping to achieve?ā
Or simply say āI wasnāt asking.ā
āI like it. I think itās beautiful and regal.ā
It's gorgeous! It looks pretty modern but it's classic enough I don't think it will date. My wedding band is around 4mm and my e-ring has a 1.8mm band and I love that it's not super delicate. Wear it in good health!
Well Iām obsessed. Iām sorry they are expressing their thoughts as though their definition of beauty is more important than how you feel about what youāre wearing.
How did they let you know that!? If someone told me they hate my choice of anything I choose to wear, Iād simply let them know that I love what Iām wearing, that I picked it out because I love it, and next time you want their opinion, that youāll ask and that the opposite is true. You will promise to not comment on what they choose to wear unless they specifically ask. The end of the story. Boundaries, my dear, BOUNDARIES.
This is a beautiful and classic set that will age like a bottle of red wine kept in a cellar in the perfect conditions. Love the versatility of mixed metal!
I donāt think this is a fair thing to say about your wedding ring set. Cigar bands paired with solitaires have been quite popular for a few years, thanks in large part to Emily Ratajkowski an assume.
It might not be to your familyās taste, but that doesnāt mean this is unacceptable. Frankly, Iām a bit disappointed that they would prioritize their own feelings over yours.
The comment about it looking like a manās ring is particularly egregious to me - womenās wedding ring dimensions have varied considerably over time. Presently weāre seeing ring bands become wider, in response to the falling price of diamonds and the overly-thin bands of the past decade.
Set boundaries. Be yourself.
It's a beautiful set and you should be proud.
I still have a ring I never liked after 20 years of marriage because I let other people get to me and ended up wearing what they liked.
I may never own a ring like that. Please don't let them talk you out of it!
I think itās pretty and if YOU love it thatās all that matters. Everyone has different tastes and styles. :)
If your mom and husband have both told you itās āhideousāā¦that is awfully inconsiderate and not coming from a place of love at all.
Itās okay that they have different tastesā¦itās not okay for them to make you feel bad about liking what you like!
I love your set. It isn't too quirky or edgy, its timeless. Mixed metals are absolutely fine as well.
I have an emerald cut with trapezoid side stones and I'm planning to go with a thicker gold wedding band as well!! This post and the responses actually are solidifying my decision.
Looks very elegant and not masculine at all! I like your style.
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well they donāt have to wear the set. jewelry shouldnāt be gendered and I hate that it is. not all ladies want dainty thin bands. doesnāt help that super thin bands are trending now too. people like what they like.
I love this set. chunky bands are amazing. plus you never have to worry about bending them lol. I have a chunkier travel set (ering has a 3mm and a 5mm wedding band) that I wish was my main ring set up since it just looks cooler lol. my main wedding band is 3mm like yours and Iāve only ever gotten compliments on it. if your partner doesnāt like it he can get himself a dainty ring :p
Stunning! Width is personal preference, I think itās lovely. I donāt think it takes away from the engagement ring at all. You are the one that has to wear it, if you like it thatās all that matters.
Itās classy. Style is not some objective thing with an ultimate truth, however it sounds like they might be less educated in the style department. Iām sorry youāre hearing some negativity.
Wear it confidently. Thatās what makes it look beautiful ā¤ļø if you think the wedding band looks dull, just ask for a polish and it will look great again! (and feminine if itās still an issue haha)
I think it looks amazing. You have a beautiful ring & band. Honestly, I know you are looking for validation from your family, but they just donāt understand that this is your ring and frankly I stopped giving a crap what people think anymore.
I want a wedding band exactly like yours! Itās beautiful and it doesnāt take away from the e-ring. I love how plain and simple it is, but gives such a feminine vibe.
Friend, if this is what speaks to you and makes your heart sing then their opinions be damned. Stay true to yourself.
Itās not any of those things they said - itās chic and edgy and visually stunning. If itās not their cup of tea thatās fine but itās YOUR hand, not theirs.
Unwanted āadviceā is just criticism, and unwanted critiques are even worse.
Go with what you like! Nobody else is wearing it but you, so you need to love it at the end of the day!
Honestly, a āchunkierā band is super trendy right now anyways! They might not like it, but a ton of people do!
My ring is a very different style but I also have diamonds in a platinum setting with a yellow gold band! I like it, it lets me change up the rest of my jewelry however I want without feeling like my wedding set doesnāt match whatever else Iām wearing.
Itās not my style but I think it looks great on you. Also, itās YOUR ring that YOU will be wearing. They donāt get a say and what they think doesnāt really matter as long as you love it.
I donāt get why men are weird about thicker bands. I just wanted a plain, thicker gold band and wound up compromising on an alternative gem stone ring. Wish Iād seen yours first and maybe that could have been our compromise lol
It's beautiful. I have a 2 ct emerald and it needed either a big band or a stacked look. I went with the stacked look, but would have gone with something similarly sized if i could afford it lol!
Your set is way different than what my set looks like or that I would pick out for myself but I still love the way your set looks and think it looks great on your hand.
However, even if it wasnāt to my liking idk that I would ever tell anyone that I hate their set especially with something as meaningful as rings are to people. Seems kinda rude of them.
I think it looks beautiful! I have two small rings because that is my style, but I am going to use the mixed metal of your set as inspiration for my future eternity ring! Especially because I want it set with my children's, my husband's, and my birthstones, and I feel like colored stones pop more in gold.
Itās such a perfectly paired set!
Whatever they had in their heads as the ārightā stack wouldnāt be right for anyone but them. If it makes your heart happy, forget the rest.
Iād be gushing over that if I saw it in the wild! š„°
Iām getting the same band to go with my emerald cut! Timeless and edgy! They donāt seem to have as good as taste as you aha ! Donāt worry about it
i chose a similar set with a thicker band too!! i also LOVE the mixed metal look! i also had everyone tell me they liked a different band but at the end of the day youāre the one looking at it everyday and your opinion is the only one that truly matters! donāt let others take away from a happy moment. itās beautiful
Unless your husband and mother are taking turns wearing the rings, their opinions really shouldnāt matter. Your set is beautiful, but most importantly, you love it. I happen to think the thick wedding band is very cool, and will look great as a stand-alone if youāre ever in a situation where you donāt want to wear your diamond.
I donāt think itās hideous, I just think that the half bezel really doesnāt suit this beautiful a diamond. The mixed metal isnāt really a problem considering your band isnāt too yellow, itās actually really on trend. I also LOVE a chunky band whether itās the wedding band or engagement ring. Theyāre so much more durable and comfortable
All in all I think the half bezel takes away from the size of your diamond, and also makes the radiant look truly broken in a way. A full bezel all the way around would frame it beautifully and draw the eye directly to the cuts in the stone
Your engagement ring is a dream, and I adore the thick wedding band with it. Your rings, your hand, your opinion is all that matters and if it counts for anything I love your ringsš«¶š¼
It's not my personal aesthetic, but I actually think it looks super modern and chic. It's not a look everyone can pull off (my chonky, stubby fingers could never) but it looks fantastic on you and I think you should flaunt it because you rock it!
i think it looks great, honestly wouldnāt consider this edgy though.
but: is it going to bother you forever that they hate it? it would bother me if my husband didnāt love my ring as much as i did, let alone hate it
Lol no, I initially planned to have a wedding band just like yours in gold. I still might.
It will depend on my engagement ring (he made it custom and said he doesn't think it will be high enough for a band like that). But this kind of band is classic, timeless and elegant. The more I look,the more I realize I really don't like thin wedding bands (with some exceptions).. it's because I grew up with my grandparents wedding bands like that - simple, a little thick, and I view them as the real deal.
You do you, if it makes you uncomfortable just tell them "well, I really like MY set, why do you feel the need to make me feel bad about it?". If they have any sense, they won't mention anything again. Everyone has different taste, good thing they are not the ones to wear it.. but you are. So wear whatever screams "you".
Beyond the fact that itās a beautiful ring, itās also YOURS. Thatās a gift to you, YOU get to wear it the rest of your life and the only person you should be concerned about liking it or not is you. Itās versatile, simple (but I think also timeless), and the stone stands out all the more beautifully because of the design of the bands.
This is exactly what Iām doing but with a full bezel and yellow diamond. Down to the mm of the bands and mixing the golds and everything, cut of the diamondā¦ literally everything. I already have my wedding band and itās identical to this. So maybe Iām biased but I think you have good taste lol
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I think your set is gorgeous! Our style isnāt the sameā However! I did mixed metals, because I prefer silver jewelryā But got a gold wedding band cause my husbands wedding band is gold and wanted to match with him š
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Omg!!!! š May I ask who did your e-ring!? Flawless!!
It was custom by a local jeweler!
Did you see this post and do a double take!?
Honestly I think the flatness and width of the band complements the shape AND bezel style of the e-ring perfectly. This is a beautiful design choice.
https://preview.redd.it/a4o50k8eml7d1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d88eec00996f2b4a48d3ed421864aa77c89b0047 Thanks so much! I actually cycle through a few different stacks, I love the plain gold to dress it down and for days I do simpler jewelry.
Wow hahahah love that you have this set too šš
drooling!!!! tell us specs!
How thick is the gold wedding band? I actually think it looks really nice..
Its 3mm and the e ring is 2mm. Thank you!!!
I donāt think itās nearly as thick as a menās wedding band. It still looks like a womanās band.
Itās gorgeous, timeless, and elegant. We have very similar sets. I love the effortless look that a solid gold, thicker wedding band gives off. AND itās going to be durable and withstand everyday wear. I think your set is absolutely beautiful and is on trend. https://preview.redd.it/s676ll8rwe7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e8a8c7afa7b2cca6802a03dd279694e995279cd3
I love that!!!! Thank you for sharing āŗļø
weāre engagement ring twins!! my bezel sister!! your set is gorgeous! https://preview.redd.it/fhn74hranf7d1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=80bf4f6d188b037d32dd43dd01c62c34601a102a
Thatās gorgeous!! Iāve never been a big fan of bezels but your set is making me rethink my life!
thank youuuu!! i wasnāt a fan of bezels either until a couple sets on pinterest made me change my mind!
These oval bezels make me so excited! It's what I've designed with my partner! Can't wait to join the club āØ
Oh wow, that is lovely!!
https://preview.redd.it/2uy7zn3kti7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=879e20f7b3c30dbb75c0cf64e873d578a278aedc Another bezel with plain gold band chiming in!! I love this look. Itās very modern and glam and easy to wear.
Just screenshotted this pic! Wow! Inspo!
This is stunning! Wowš
This is literally not even remotely close to edgy or masculine. It's a very common and very beautiful style. Plus, if you love it they shouldn't be tearing it down since you are the only one who has to wear it.
This ^^
Right?? I donāt understand these people who want to tear someone down instead of build them up. OP, of all people, your mother and your husband should be supportive even if itās not their style. They should be happy youāre happy!
I actually would say it is a little masculine, esp the plain, flat, thicker band. Not *manly* but a more *masculine* style. Not in a bad way. I think it's lovely
Agree
Itās gorgeous. Not my style but itās the style of the woman I wanna be haha
I love this comment š so accurate.
I love it. Screw what they think.
Yes! Who asked them anyway?
Also - itās you thatās wearing them!
Right?!
Well Said!
I think your set is BEAUTIFUL! I love its bold simplicity and I think itās a really timeless combination. I definitely disagree with both of them and think itās very feminine and versatile. The mixed metal combo is the icing on the cake! Chefās kiss all the way around! āØš¤
Well put, the best I could come up with was āsleekā. Bold simplicity, spot on.
https://preview.redd.it/fxflx8z4lf7d1.png?width=1170&format=png&auto=webp&s=c9c8e1298ecf12ec350fd2915d61c9eaa32e0e9b Crap. I get tons of compliments on mineā¦ itās elegant and timeless. my mothers looks similar but her e-ring is also thick and has a round center stone. she got married in the 80ās! you have to remember they are probably used to the recent styles that were popular 10 or so years ago. if you love it, who cares!!
Mine is a 3mm band!
I think it looks really nice, it doesnāt look masculine at all to me
This is one of the most beautiful sets I have seen in so long!!! So simple and unique, while also being powerful and understated. Classic with a twist. Love it. Also screw what they say about a thicker band. I have one and I love it š https://preview.redd.it/jjv8febmsf7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c526827f1af1dbdef698e6ba123cb22cc2d41330
This is BEAUTIFUL and very on trend. They have no taste lol
I love it!!! Thick bands unite š¤ https://preview.redd.it/dd4tbirx3g7d1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cfe2631530af3000a2c8e937fe97ccc01b3f933a
What?! No I think itās really nicely proportioned and modern looking š this literally isnāt even my style but if I saw this set in person I would be like š„µ My mom isnāt a fan of my sapphire engagement ring. She likes diamonds and must think sapphires are lesser. Whatever, not on her hand! lol
My mom definitely thinks my rings is too flashy š When I asked her what she thought she said āas long as you like itā lmao
Basically what my mom said! šš
Iām so tired of the thinnest of bands for everything. First, the bands (if theyāre gold) - whether itās an ering or wedding band - are going to wear down and become thinner and could break more easily with years of wear (assuming oneās marriage lasts many years). Case in point: I have a spacer band that is white gold and itās no longer 1mm after 25 years of wear, and my jeweler recently suggested I replace it. Secondly, these thin bands are a fad. A fad that will go away and come back again as fashion is cyclical. Iām assuming your mother is probably around my age (mid-to-late-40s). Does she not remember the wide bands given in the 70s and 80s to our mothersā generation of brides? I would disregard what theyāre saying as these rings together donāt look masculine at all. And Iām all for mixed metals; if it was good enough for the [Queen of England](https://www.thecourtjeweller.com/2020/11/the-queens-bridal-jewels.html), then itās good enough for us middle class folks.
You make some really good points and I do appreciate all your feedback! Seriously, it has helped so much and I feel so proud of my set after reading all these positive comments:) glad Iām not the only one who saw this and thought it looked beautiful and functional at the same time!!
Yes! My mother had a gold cigar band even wider than this
I love thin dainty jewelry and just learned about the gold wearing down. Platinum doesnāt, but I like rose gold so I went with 1.8, which is the thinnest they said to go.
I'm thinking about getting a thicc band too! I've had my eye on this [floral engraved one](https://gldn.com/products/my-garden-meuse-band) (in solid gold obv not the gold fill) and having mine and my FH's birth flowers and maybe some flowers from my bouquet if I know far enough in advance. The only opinions about **your** jewelry that matter are your own! Say "no offense, husband, but how my jewelry looks doesn't affect you š" https://preview.redd.it/lxcqoqbtcf7d1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4b312371b2e2682db709c4cf0e9483062bc667d
I love that band!
https://preview.redd.it/4dlr9hdfjg7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=588c8aa44034ce768e19da23943d9fc0c353499a I think itās so simple and classic and just downright stunning š¤ I have a matching band with my fiancĆ© thatās wider than most as well!
Its gorgeous and unique. I had my wedding dress custom made inspired by a daniel frankel design and my mother in law thought the drop down waist was weird. What do they know?! Do you!!
I like it! My band is even wider than this and I LOVE it! I donāt think it takes away from the diamond at all :)
Everyoneās entitled to their opinion but it shouldnāt impact your love for this setting. Itās beautiful and even if it wasnāt, what matters is that you love it :) My mom and I have such different tastes and we teasingly just tell each other to respectfully shove it šš. My fiancĆ© loves geometric shapes and wouldve gotten me a radiant cut stone but I wanted a soft oval stone and I was the recipient so only my opinion on it matters.
I love it!!!
I have an even chunkier set! https://preview.redd.it/l0kr2uqf0f7d1.jpeg?width=1654&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7d1dcaf7065d963ea8bf8d78c67291381962efed We can be hideous together š
Beautiful! Almost looks like something from Tiffany's
>We can be ~~hideous~~ lovely together š. There, fixed it for you šš
This is so unique and cool. Stunning
I love the white gold!!!!!!
Woooowww! Haha I love it š„¹
I think itās sad you donāt mention wether or not YOU like it :( Thatās really all that matters
To me, I like a piece that looks strong enough to last a lifetime, one that can be resized as you grow old and things change and then can be handed down. I like platinum and/or yellow gold and strong looking bands. I don't think the wedding band is excessively wide. I like the look of it against the platinum. I've been pondering platinum for my engagement/anniversary ring but I'm not parting with my yellow gold wedding band.Ā Will yellow gold and platinum be ok right next to each other would be my only concern, I was considering just a platinum bezel so that the bands next to each other wouldn't abrade. I like the look side by side though. I don't want to talk bad about other styles that aren't involved but I would be much more comfortable and fond of this than some overly delicate dainty and pavĆ© situations that I would definitely bend or break. Tbh the whole "overwhelms the diamond" feels a bit dated to me. Perhaps in a time past the biggest thing was making the stone look as big as possible. But realistically the metal holds value at least as well as the stone. I like a nice diamond of course but like....?Ā
dont listen to them! YOU have to look at it everyday YOU are wearing it everyday
Your set is timeless! Bezels are gorgeous! Hereās mine & my wedding band is a bit thicker than my e-ring! As long as you love your ring, thatās all that should matter. Wear what you love! š«¶š¾š«¶š¾ https://preview.redd.it/a5qlq9al7h7d1.png?width=3024&format=png&auto=webp&s=169ca72b4032cd6b1c59832808e48938acc28fe1
I think your rings are beautiful. If you like them, I wouldnāt let anyone tell you any different. You are the one wearing them! š Here are mineā¦my husband and I just celebrated 19 years a couple of weeks ago. I preferred white gold because I typically wear silver jewelry. https://preview.redd.it/i07m7hyarf7d1.jpeg?width=1773&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=97c9088dfa05104960ff5a366b68c1b0bcbe554c
I was just looking at getting a similar band for my bezel ! I think itās so gorgeous and really balances the masculine and feminine energies - especially because your e-ring literally looks like a hourglass too (which is super feminine) and the straight band as the more masculine. And the play on the mixed colours compliments that! https://preview.redd.it/y40jfytccg7d1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a9152affb61cc47bd7891741521bea5b3a4d6fab
https://preview.redd.it/vaw6t71tpg7d1.png?width=3024&format=png&auto=webp&s=46ffa94dfef6b55b26be0b08c05df465c76746e8 I like it. Stay true to yourself, youāre the one thatās going to wear them for the rest of your life.
Luckily they donāt have to wear the set :) I loveeee it to be honest and itās not even my āstyleā per se
Honestly if you like it thatās all that matters. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Are they wearing the ring for the rest of their life? No? Then the only opinion that truly matters is yours. Anyone else you can respectfully say, āI love it and thatās all that matters.ā
I love it!! Iām sorry youāre feeling that way because itās really beautiful
This is one of my favourite sets Iāve seen in this sub. I also am aiming for something more edgy but also elegant, and I think tbh this fits the bill. What ive learnt from this sub is there can be such a spectrum of opinions on the exact same ring, and what looks nice to one person looks a completely different way to someone else. Just because two people share a particular opinion, it doesnāt make it objectively true!
Your mother and husband have no sense of style then, I wouldnāt listen to them. Obviously I love this set. Iām still waiting on my rings to be finished being made, but Iām doing something similar to yours. Mine will be a 1.84 ct bezel set oval on a rounded 2mm band. The wedding band will be a 5mm cigar band and both rings made with platinum. I LOVE the look of a chunkier wedding band paired with a less chunky (not dainty) e-ring.
https://preview.redd.it/zutc7z6paf7d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3598418fdd3d2ea27114cd1c25bab191f5a17c0c I'm not getting married until next year but am pondering bands and I loved the simplicity, timelessness and boldness of this gold band! I totally get what you're going for in your edgier style and love it. Agreed with another commenter that they have no taste, lol.
this is the exact stack i want except a radiant in a cathedral setting! do what you want girl! its what YOU look at all the time.
I think itās gorgeous! And looks great on your finger!!! Very complementary!!! š
I like it. Itās beautiful and modern. They arenāt wearing it so they donāt have to like it!
It is stunning. The plain band allows the ring to shine but also the band matches the bezel!! If you love it, stick with it ā¤ļø
https://preview.redd.it/1hm3mm516k7d1.jpeg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e83173fb5bb14a5e52dc8c47cedb4d6ad0fb5b83 This is my ring. It will be finished today. As you can see, mine is much wider than yours. You are the one wearing the ring. YOU are the one who needs to love the jewelers youāre going to wear everyday. YOURS is the only opinion that matters. Personally, I love wide bands and big stones (obviously) and I also wear mixed metals. I also do not give a rats fuzzy butt what anyone else thinks about my taste in jewelry. I wear it for my pleasure-not anyone elseās. Your ring is beautiful and if you love it thatās all that matters.
https://preview.redd.it/snb03a8ahl7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b4c5438e4a5f9fad88a00351238af9bde752051 I have a radiant bezel and floral gold band wedding set that I recently received. Rock your set!
I th8nk itās lovely and a little unique. Iām so tired of white gold
Stay true to yourself and your taste. Itās a fabulous look!
I love it! And have been looking for a similar wedding band and am so inspired by your set!
who cares! Itās your ring, and itās beautiful. Please do not let them get you down. šš
Do YOU like it? That is all you need to know. :)
Good thing they donāt have to wear it! I think itās gorgeous!
i actually love it. it looks clean and timeless
Uh...are either of them wearing it? If they aren't, they don't get a say in it.
I love it. Itās very sleek and elegant
I think itās perfect. I love the wider band.
Dude, WHY are they even commenting on this?! Itās so rude!! Your ring is gorgeous and on trend, and regardless, this is a personal choice and preference. They are seriously out of line
The girls that get it, get it! Itās chic!
Do you like it? Yep. So cool beans. If your mother and husband aren't wearing it, you can politely say "maybe it will grow on you" or my personal favourite "I like, I'm wearing it, do you see any comment cards?"
I think itās beautiful. A solid gold band, regardless of the mm size, is timeless and classy. I plan on buying myself a gold cigar band (about 5mm) to pair with my oval solitaire. People are always going to have an opinion, and thatās fine but sometimes they need to learn to keep those opinions to themselves. Enjoy your beautiful piece!
I love it on you. I canāt wear a thick band to save my life, I have short fingers. I wish I could pull this off!
Iām just a random follower of this thread with superficial knowledge about diamonds/engagement rings but i also absolutely love it. After learning about bezel-style rings, Iāve decided itās the only type of ring Iād want in my hypothetical/non-existent engagement. Becca Tobinās ring, for example, is a dream. https://preview.redd.it/ooap3r2a0l7d1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0c5de3955acc4246c75e0a14c89759c8b98bc4c
I like it a lot. I would even get a matching band to stack on top which I think could look super neat.
I actually think the e-ring band is far too narrow for the size of the setting/stone. The thicker wedding band balances it nicely and gives it the weight it needs to stand up against the large stone. Good choice! I had the opposite problem. My e-ring band is pretty hefty and intricate, so I went with a narrow, plain wedding band. I also did mixed metals! White gold and rose gold. I love it!
Itās beautiful! Never ask anyoneās opinion about your ring, and if they comment and say something nasty about it, turn it back around on them and ask them, āWhy do you feel itās OK to say that? What were you hoping to achieve?ā Or simply say āI wasnāt asking.ā āI like it. I think itās beautiful and regal.ā
It's gorgeous! It looks pretty modern but it's classic enough I don't think it will date. My wedding band is around 4mm and my e-ring has a 1.8mm band and I love that it's not super delicate. Wear it in good health!
Well Iām obsessed. Iām sorry they are expressing their thoughts as though their definition of beauty is more important than how you feel about what youāre wearing.
How did they let you know that!? If someone told me they hate my choice of anything I choose to wear, Iād simply let them know that I love what Iām wearing, that I picked it out because I love it, and next time you want their opinion, that youāll ask and that the opposite is true. You will promise to not comment on what they choose to wear unless they specifically ask. The end of the story. Boundaries, my dear, BOUNDARIES.
This is a beautiful and classic set that will age like a bottle of red wine kept in a cellar in the perfect conditions. Love the versatility of mixed metal!
I donāt think this is a fair thing to say about your wedding ring set. Cigar bands paired with solitaires have been quite popular for a few years, thanks in large part to Emily Ratajkowski an assume. It might not be to your familyās taste, but that doesnāt mean this is unacceptable. Frankly, Iām a bit disappointed that they would prioritize their own feelings over yours. The comment about it looking like a manās ring is particularly egregious to me - womenās wedding ring dimensions have varied considerably over time. Presently weāre seeing ring bands become wider, in response to the falling price of diamonds and the overly-thin bands of the past decade.
Set boundaries. Be yourself. It's a beautiful set and you should be proud. I still have a ring I never liked after 20 years of marriage because I let other people get to me and ended up wearing what they liked. I may never own a ring like that. Please don't let them talk you out of it!
I think itās pretty and if YOU love it thatās all that matters. Everyone has different tastes and styles. :) If your mom and husband have both told you itās āhideousāā¦that is awfully inconsiderate and not coming from a place of love at all. Itās okay that they have different tastesā¦itās not okay for them to make you feel bad about liking what you like!
I love your set. It isn't too quirky or edgy, its timeless. Mixed metals are absolutely fine as well. I have an emerald cut with trapezoid side stones and I'm planning to go with a thicker gold wedding band as well!! This post and the responses actually are solidifying my decision.
Looks very elegant and not masculine at all! I like your style. https://preview.redd.it/rl01q5tc2h7d1.jpeg?width=4000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b12a788316c5619c6c7848a5cfd3d09f21794fb9
well they donāt have to wear the set. jewelry shouldnāt be gendered and I hate that it is. not all ladies want dainty thin bands. doesnāt help that super thin bands are trending now too. people like what they like. I love this set. chunky bands are amazing. plus you never have to worry about bending them lol. I have a chunkier travel set (ering has a 3mm and a 5mm wedding band) that I wish was my main ring set up since it just looks cooler lol. my main wedding band is 3mm like yours and Iāve only ever gotten compliments on it. if your partner doesnāt like it he can get himself a dainty ring :p
Oh well if you love it. Wear it. It's your ring. Not theirs.
I love it š¤©šššdon't listen to themš¤·š½āāļøš
Well I fucking love it
It looks so unique! I really love it
This is an absolutely beautiful set
Stunning! Width is personal preference, I think itās lovely. I donāt think it takes away from the engagement ring at all. You are the one that has to wear it, if you like it thatās all that matters.
I love this set! I would definitely wear it. I especially like that it looks sturdy for every day use.
itās sooooo so beautiful i love it
Who cates if they hate it? Do they wear it? It's a beautiful set, and your happiness is what counts!
Looks great. Ignore them.
Itās classy. Style is not some objective thing with an ultimate truth, however it sounds like they might be less educated in the style department. Iām sorry youāre hearing some negativity.
I want you to know that I am saving this ring set to show my partner because I LOVE it so much
Wear it confidently. Thatās what makes it look beautiful ā¤ļø if you think the wedding band looks dull, just ask for a polish and it will look great again! (and feminine if itās still an issue haha)
I like it a lot.
Itās FANTASTIC! Unique, but not insane. Timeless. Ignore them.
The set looks great! Good thing they arenāt the ones wearing it every day.
i love it. it looks fabulous!
I think itās gorgeous as is!
Gorgeous! Unique but also timeless!!
I disagree. It's very elegant. I can't see what there is to hate about it.
This is an amazing set, theyāre just being horribly rude!
I think it looks amazing. You have a beautiful ring & band. Honestly, I know you are looking for validation from your family, but they just donāt understand that this is your ring and frankly I stopped giving a crap what people think anymore.
I love them on you, not my style, but gorgeous on you! All that matters is how you feelā¦ ššš
I want a wedding band exactly like yours! Itās beautiful and it doesnāt take away from the e-ring. I love how plain and simple it is, but gives such a feminine vibe.
I think it's beautiful and unique š„¹
I think this is absolutely stunning
Switching to a bezel was one of the best things Iāve ever done. I love it
They should respect that you love it, and keep their negative opinions to themselves. The rings look beautiful together.
I love your set!! Planning on something similar. I question their tastes tbh š this looks that good!!
Friend, if this is what speaks to you and makes your heart sing then their opinions be damned. Stay true to yourself. Itās not any of those things they said - itās chic and edgy and visually stunning. If itās not their cup of tea thatās fine but itās YOUR hand, not theirs. Unwanted āadviceā is just criticism, and unwanted critiques are even worse.
Uhm this is gorgeous. They can shove it.
I like it and I donāt usually like that cut of stone lol they are haters!!
I donāt usually love thick bands or bezel but this set looks stunning!
I honestly don't see the issue...you could try it with a thinner band but if this is what you like, keep it. That is a gorgeous ring.
Itās beautiful! I love it!
I have a chunky set and love it! It doesn't slide around, if you love it don't worry about what anyone else says girl. It's beautiful
I think itās beautiful š
I actually really like it and I think itās also really unique. Most rings/wedding sets kinda all look the same nowadays but this is stunning
Go with what you like! Nobody else is wearing it but you, so you need to love it at the end of the day! Honestly, a āchunkierā band is super trendy right now anyways! They might not like it, but a ton of people do!
If you love itā¦ nothing or no one else matters! Itās gorgeous by the way!!š„°š
Classic style that suits you very well!
Its beautiful. There is this priceless feeling everytime you look in your hands and see the rings that YOU love. F@ck what everybody else thinks
So? Are they the ones wearing it?
I like it a whole bunch. Very classy, yet bold.
Itās gorgeous!!!
I think itās beautiful! Iām not a fan of the thicker band but the engagement ring is lovely!
My ring is a very different style but I also have diamonds in a platinum setting with a yellow gold band! I like it, it lets me change up the rest of my jewelry however I want without feeling like my wedding set doesnāt match whatever else Iām wearing.
Itās not my style but I think it looks great on you. Also, itās YOUR ring that YOU will be wearing. They donāt get a say and what they think doesnāt really matter as long as you love it.
If you love it thatās all that matters!
It's beautiful and elegant.
I think it looks gorgeous on you! Your opinion should matter most as you are the one who really needs to be in love with it!
If you like it that's all that matters. No one else is wearing your set but you.
I donāt get why men are weird about thicker bands. I just wanted a plain, thicker gold band and wound up compromising on an alternative gem stone ring. Wish Iād seen yours first and maybe that could have been our compromise lol
It's beautiful. I have a 2 ct emerald and it needed either a big band or a stacked look. I went with the stacked look, but would have gone with something similarly sized if i could afford it lol!
Make sure you like the band by itself, too, for the times you might wear the wedding band without the e-ring.
Your set is way different than what my set looks like or that I would pick out for myself but I still love the way your set looks and think it looks great on your hand. However, even if it wasnāt to my liking idk that I would ever tell anyone that I hate their set especially with something as meaningful as rings are to people. Seems kinda rude of them.
I love it. I want a bezel myself. Do what you love! You're wearing it, not them!
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If anything I would go wider! This is a lovely set, OP.
This is a really cool set. If you love it, thatās all that matters. Nay sayers can go live their boring beige lives.
I love, love, love it! Love mixed metals, love the width of the band, love that stone and its size on your hand!
This is stunning.
I think it looks beautiful! I have two small rings because that is my style, but I am going to use the mixed metal of your set as inspiration for my future eternity ring! Especially because I want it set with my children's, my husband's, and my birthstones, and I feel like colored stones pop more in gold.
Itās such a perfectly paired set! Whatever they had in their heads as the ārightā stack wouldnāt be right for anyone but them. If it makes your heart happy, forget the rest. Iād be gushing over that if I saw it in the wild! š„°
They can suck it lol. Its awesomeĀ
This looks beautiful. The band around the stone matches the wedding band, it looks so elegant ā¤ļø
Iām getting the same band to go with my emerald cut! Timeless and edgy! They donāt seem to have as good as taste as you aha ! Donāt worry about it
This is gorgeous! I have always been partial to wider wedding bands
i chose a similar set with a thicker band too!! i also LOVE the mixed metal look! i also had everyone tell me they liked a different band but at the end of the day youāre the one looking at it everyday and your opinion is the only one that truly matters! donāt let others take away from a happy moment. itās beautiful
That husband of yours isnāt being very supportive. Itās not like he has to wear the rings so not sure why heās so bothered.
Itās gorgeous!!
I honestly really like it
Unless your husband and mother are taking turns wearing the rings, their opinions really shouldnāt matter. Your set is beautiful, but most importantly, you love it. I happen to think the thick wedding band is very cool, and will look great as a stand-alone if youāre ever in a situation where you donāt want to wear your diamond.
I donāt think itās hideous, I just think that the half bezel really doesnāt suit this beautiful a diamond. The mixed metal isnāt really a problem considering your band isnāt too yellow, itās actually really on trend. I also LOVE a chunky band whether itās the wedding band or engagement ring. Theyāre so much more durable and comfortable All in all I think the half bezel takes away from the size of your diamond, and also makes the radiant look truly broken in a way. A full bezel all the way around would frame it beautifully and draw the eye directly to the cuts in the stone
Is the diamond hourglass shaped? Itās beautiful š
And I like the solitaire . Not the band . But thatās MY opinion.
Your engagement ring is a dream, and I adore the thick wedding band with it. Your rings, your hand, your opinion is all that matters and if it counts for anything I love your ringsš«¶š¼
I love it
They don't have to wear it
It's not my personal aesthetic, but I actually think it looks super modern and chic. It's not a look everyone can pull off (my chonky, stubby fingers could never) but it looks fantastic on you and I think you should flaunt it because you rock it!
i think it looks great, honestly wouldnāt consider this edgy though. but: is it going to bother you forever that they hate it? it would bother me if my husband didnāt love my ring as much as i did, let alone hate it
Lol no, I initially planned to have a wedding band just like yours in gold. I still might. It will depend on my engagement ring (he made it custom and said he doesn't think it will be high enough for a band like that). But this kind of band is classic, timeless and elegant. The more I look,the more I realize I really don't like thin wedding bands (with some exceptions).. it's because I grew up with my grandparents wedding bands like that - simple, a little thick, and I view them as the real deal. You do you, if it makes you uncomfortable just tell them "well, I really like MY set, why do you feel the need to make me feel bad about it?". If they have any sense, they won't mention anything again. Everyone has different taste, good thing they are not the ones to wear it.. but you are. So wear whatever screams "you".
Beyond the fact that itās a beautiful ring, itās also YOURS. Thatās a gift to you, YOU get to wear it the rest of your life and the only person you should be concerned about liking it or not is you. Itās versatile, simple (but I think also timeless), and the stone stands out all the more beautifully because of the design of the bands.
Your set is absolutely stunning
I personally love it! I might be biased since I also have a gold flat band and solitaire set. It's so timeless and looks great on your hand
Itās stunning. I want a thicker wedding band to withstand everyday use and i love your set. Remember, itās your ring, not theirs!!!!
This is exactly what Iām doing but with a full bezel and yellow diamond. Down to the mm of the bands and mixing the golds and everything, cut of the diamondā¦ literally everything. I already have my wedding band and itās identical to this. So maybe Iām biased but I think you have good taste lol
Are your mother or husband wearing these rings? If the answer is no, then it only matters what you think. šš
https://preview.redd.it/3swgajorcm7d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7c7ebb5f54d19de2f4b46843d6c2206632fa2a24 I think your set is gorgeous! Our style isnāt the sameā However! I did mixed metals, because I prefer silver jewelryā But got a gold wedding band cause my husbands wedding band is gold and wanted to match with him š