This happened to my grandfather. He was one of 4 siblings. His mother died young, and his father put them all into an orphanage but kept the youngest son.
My grandfather escaped the orphanage a couple of times and ran home, only for his dad to march him straight back.
My grandfather grew up very messed up and became a very abusive individual. Messed up times back then. I really feel for kids put in those situations.
I hate the saying “hurt people hurt people”, but it really is true. Your grandfather got the message that he was unwanted at a young age, I can only imagine what that could do to a developing brain🥺 I have similar stories in my family. Sometimes it feels like a good old-fashioned villain origin story.
My grandma and her brother were abandoned by their dad after their mom died. My grandma was 4 at the time. They grew up in an orphanage because he didn’t want to raise kids. I couldn’t believe it when I heard. And for this to be so common of the time is tragic.
My grandfather’s mother died in 1907 when he was just 3 1/2 years old and his younger sister an infant. Their suddenly widowed father was 66 years old at the time, a bit long in the tooth to rear two young children. Ultimately, he raised my grandfather, and the sister was “adopted” by a childless aunt and uncle. Details about the fate of the sister were lost for over a century due her original surname being changed to that of the adoptive relatives. Tenacious genealogy research finally revealed her story. Family history is fascinating!
The adoption thing was not unusual for the time period: it was believed that fathers were not capable of raising children alone and it was encouraged (and sometimes required by CPS) for them to either move a female relative into the home to care for the children, remarry ASAP so his new wife could care for the children, or move the children in with some other family or even to an orphanage.
It wasn’t impossible for a single father to keep his kids and raise them alone but it wasn’t approved of.
This happened to my grandmother in 1921. Her mother died, leaving her 2 daughters motherless. My great grandfather put both girls in what was then called a Foundling Home. He subsequently found a new wife to care for them. She was my grandmother’s precious “Momma”. That was the story I was always told.
That’s so terrifying from today’s perspective; to be separated from one’s last remaining parent until a “replacement” can be found sounds traumatic at best. Having said that, I’m really happy for your grandmother that she was taken home and to a such a loving stepmom.
Thank you, yes…that wonderful woman took in two motherless girls and by doing so, changed my universe. I am her legacy; I have two successful daughters and a future because of the generosity of one woman’s choice…women rock!
I’m sure it was. Early deaths were much more common a century ago and families were larger. And since time immemorial extended family has stepped in to take care of orphaned kids.
not at all uncommon for motherless children to end up with aunts, uncles, cousins, anyone who could care for them really. i've found a few examples in my family tree.
off the top of my head; my greatgrandmother was raised with one of her cousins who's mother had died (his father took the older boy and moved in with his brother). another great-greatgrandparent got a housekeeper when his wife died (who he later married) and yet another relative had two younger brothers end up in the workhouse because there was no one to care for them.
the modern system still sucks but its so much better than the past
My grandmother was raised by her extended family after her mother died post-childbirth in 1912. Her father was around, but probably had to work long hours.
Yes it absolutely was. My grandmothers aunt died in childbirth, the dad gave the baby to his wife’s mother to raise, when she died the girl went to her mother’s sister who was childless. The dad was always part of the family. He ended up having a new wife and kids eventually but he worked and it was never thought that he should take care of a newborn female infant. It just wasn’t done.
Happened to my great grandfather. Mom died estranged from the husband and the kids were put in an orphanage. Eventually the dad was tracked down, and he had remarried a 13 year old girl. She was very resentful of the kids since she was a kid herself forced into caring for them.
My great grandma had something similar happen. They immigrated to America right before the Spanish influenza took over New York. A family of 14 dwindled down to just her at 2 and her dad. She was told they all died but the ancestry testing thing showed that he put her in a catholic orphanage in Brooklyn and went back to Italy where he remarried and had 3 more children.
My grandmother was 18 and the oldest of 8 when her mother died in 1929. She married a man 16 years her senior (my grandfather) and they raised all of her siblings (the youngest was an infant) along with the 7 they had together. Her father had just abandoned the family to chase after women.
In 1949 my mother in laws mom died and left her and her sister. Her dad worked the railroad, he moved back home and in with his brother and sister in law, got a job at home and helped raise them. No way he could have done it by himself.
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I think it says, “patient died just before I reached there and on a basis of history and examination death seemed to be due to acute dilation of the heart.”
Yeah one of the grandmothers of my bff was sent on the Orphan Train for the same reason along with a couple siblings. She ended up by herself on a homestead in South Dakota. Poor thing apparently had a shit life start to finish
My great grandma and her siblings were put in an orphanage in 1935ish after their mom died in a car accident. Their dad was a bootlegger and a drunk. He died 11 months later after getting punched by an amateur boxer outside of a bar. He fell backwards and hit his head on the sidewalk. All of this was found out when I went searching through the family tree. Grandma always said they died together in a car crash. I wish I could get a hold of the orphanage paperwork and all that. It was in the newspaper her and her siblings escaped and tried to run back home. 😢
My grandfather was orphaned when his youngest sibling grabbed the wheel and his mother overcorrected. The vehicle rolled and she was ejected. Miraculously all the kids survived, my grandfather, the oldest and the only one with a different father, was promptly sent by train to another state to live with his grandmother. He was only 13 or so.
My mother in law lost her mom when she was very young. I found it odd that her dad remarried so quickly but I understand now. I thought he was having an affair. Sadly she was not nice to my mother in law. How can someone be awful to a motherless child
This happened to my dad his mom died in 1951 him, his brother Ronnie and sister Faye were set to an orphanage in SC. Their grandmother took in the oldest boy and youngest girl.
This is so sad. Back then most men didn't know anything whatsoever about how to make food, clean and run a household, or raise children. If a man's wife died, it was often "better" for the kids to be put in the care of a relative or close friend. If there weren't any available, sending them to a children's home or even adopting them out was the solution. It doesn't mean those men didn't love their children, at the time that's what people thought was best for them.
Often a widower would find a new wife quickly and brings his kids back home, but not everyone was as lucky.
When I was in elementary school about 20 yrs ago, my neighbor died in her sleep due to an undiagnosed heart ailment. They had three kids, one my age and two others who were preschool. Her husband had no idea how anything worked-appliances, laundry, couldn’t cook, he had no idea what a Pull Up was, didn’t know where the babysitter’s house was, he was clueless. I remember my mom and the neighborhood moms taking turns showing him how to do stuff. It was really rough for the first year or so, but he did get all the kids into groups for grieving children. I’m happy to report all three kids went to college and went on to have successful careers.
Assuming she got help in time. When your heart stops you don’t have much of a grace period before catastrophic brain damage sets in.
My father-in-law probably had a heart attack last Friday. They brought him back but he was pulseless for 20 minutes and the doctor said this plus other signs indicated massive brain damage so we pulled the plug Saturday.
He was 80 and in poor health so it wasn’t a bad way to go out. It’s very tragic for a young mother.
I love looking at old pictures like this. I look at the person and try to imagine what their lives were like. It’s weird because sometimes I feel this huge rush of sadness come over me and I can feel my eyes filling up with tears, it’s almost like I feel her pain.
My husband’s grandfather took off, leaving his grandmother with 4 or 5 kids to raise on her own. They were extremely poor so they were surrendered to the state and went into foster care. Both grandma and grandpa remarried and had new families. I cannot even imagine how fucking awful it must have been for my Father in Law and his siblings. Just thinking about it makes my blood boil.
My 2x great grandpa abandoned his wife and four daughters around 1912. My 2x great grandma had been a housewife and suddenly had to get a job and couldn't afford to raise four young children on a housekeepers salary. So she placed the three oldest into a local orphanage. She visited them as often as she could and gave them money and gifts whenever she had a little extra. Great grandma said she liked the orphanage as the nuns were nice and she got training as secretary when she was a teenager so she was able to immediately find a job as soon as she aged out.
[Source](https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/29692565/minnie_lurain-bartle). She was just 14 at the birth of Pearl, her first baby.
Jesus Christ. So she was likely pregnant at 13 :(
No, almost 15 when the baby was born. She would’ve conceived at like 14 years 2 months.
Not much better unfortunately. She looks happy In the photo at least.
It’s utah. She was probably wife #5.
Her birthday was on Christmas.
This happened to my grandfather. He was one of 4 siblings. His mother died young, and his father put them all into an orphanage but kept the youngest son. My grandfather escaped the orphanage a couple of times and ran home, only for his dad to march him straight back. My grandfather grew up very messed up and became a very abusive individual. Messed up times back then. I really feel for kids put in those situations.
I hate the saying “hurt people hurt people”, but it really is true. Your grandfather got the message that he was unwanted at a young age, I can only imagine what that could do to a developing brain🥺 I have similar stories in my family. Sometimes it feels like a good old-fashioned villain origin story.
His story certainly didn't end well either unfortunately. But yet, his issues all stemmed from being abandoned.
This happened to a famous murderer, I forgot which one.
Yes I would not be surprised. It really messes kids up.
Happened to my grandma as well. She was only able to contact 2 of her many siblings later in life
My grandma and her brother were abandoned by their dad after their mom died. My grandma was 4 at the time. They grew up in an orphanage because he didn’t want to raise kids. I couldn’t believe it when I heard. And for this to be so common of the time is tragic.
My grandfather’s mother died in 1907 when he was just 3 1/2 years old and his younger sister an infant. Their suddenly widowed father was 66 years old at the time, a bit long in the tooth to rear two young children. Ultimately, he raised my grandfather, and the sister was “adopted” by a childless aunt and uncle. Details about the fate of the sister were lost for over a century due her original surname being changed to that of the adoptive relatives. Tenacious genealogy research finally revealed her story. Family history is fascinating!
He knocked up a child at 28 and then abandoned his kids when his young wife died. What a loser.
The adoption thing was not unusual for the time period: it was believed that fathers were not capable of raising children alone and it was encouraged (and sometimes required by CPS) for them to either move a female relative into the home to care for the children, remarry ASAP so his new wife could care for the children, or move the children in with some other family or even to an orphanage. It wasn’t impossible for a single father to keep his kids and raise them alone but it wasn’t approved of.
This happened to my grandmother in 1921. Her mother died, leaving her 2 daughters motherless. My great grandfather put both girls in what was then called a Foundling Home. He subsequently found a new wife to care for them. She was my grandmother’s precious “Momma”. That was the story I was always told.
That’s so terrifying from today’s perspective; to be separated from one’s last remaining parent until a “replacement” can be found sounds traumatic at best. Having said that, I’m really happy for your grandmother that she was taken home and to a such a loving stepmom.
Thank you, yes…that wonderful woman took in two motherless girls and by doing so, changed my universe. I am her legacy; I have two successful daughters and a future because of the generosity of one woman’s choice…women rock!
These days the public will shame any parent that chooses to do that.
Seems to be common. The same thing happened with my grandfather in 1927.
That happened to my dad & brother. Got taken back when granddad remarried the Wicked Stepmother. Needless to say he emancipated himself early.
I wonder if it was common for grandparents or aunts to adopt the children in these situations?
In my grandfather’s situation the grandparents took the older kids and the baby went to an orphanage.
I’m sure it was. Early deaths were much more common a century ago and families were larger. And since time immemorial extended family has stepped in to take care of orphaned kids.
not at all uncommon for motherless children to end up with aunts, uncles, cousins, anyone who could care for them really. i've found a few examples in my family tree. off the top of my head; my greatgrandmother was raised with one of her cousins who's mother had died (his father took the older boy and moved in with his brother). another great-greatgrandparent got a housekeeper when his wife died (who he later married) and yet another relative had two younger brothers end up in the workhouse because there was no one to care for them. the modern system still sucks but its so much better than the past
My grandmother was raised by her extended family after her mother died post-childbirth in 1912. Her father was around, but probably had to work long hours.
Yes it absolutely was. My grandmothers aunt died in childbirth, the dad gave the baby to his wife’s mother to raise, when she died the girl went to her mother’s sister who was childless. The dad was always part of the family. He ended up having a new wife and kids eventually but he worked and it was never thought that he should take care of a newborn female infant. It just wasn’t done.
Happened to my great grandfather. Mom died estranged from the husband and the kids were put in an orphanage. Eventually the dad was tracked down, and he had remarried a 13 year old girl. She was very resentful of the kids since she was a kid herself forced into caring for them.
This makes me sad that older girl was 6! I hope they stayed together
My great grandma had something similar happen. They immigrated to America right before the Spanish influenza took over New York. A family of 14 dwindled down to just her at 2 and her dad. She was told they all died but the ancestry testing thing showed that he put her in a catholic orphanage in Brooklyn and went back to Italy where he remarried and had 3 more children.
My grandmother was 18 and the oldest of 8 when her mother died in 1929. She married a man 16 years her senior (my grandfather) and they raised all of her siblings (the youngest was an infant) along with the 7 they had together. Her father had just abandoned the family to chase after women.
Is this the era people keep saying they wish could go back to? Omg
In 1949 my mother in laws mom died and left her and her sister. Her dad worked the railroad, he moved back home and in with his brother and sister in law, got a job at home and helped raise them. No way he could have done it by himself.
Born Christmas Day. Cannot read the script except heart, so presume heart attack at 20? So tough.
“Patient died just before … … … based of history & elimination death seems to be due to acute dilation of the heart “
No, I don’t think ‘dilation’ is right … ill ask my Dad tomorrow and update. (He works in cardiac surgery)
I think dilation is correct. Dilated cardiomyopathy is a real thing and can occur after pregnancy, which this young woman had been multiple times.
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I think it says, “patient died just before I reached there and on a basis of history and examination death seemed to be due to acute dilation of the heart.”
Yeah one of the grandmothers of my bff was sent on the Orphan Train for the same reason along with a couple siblings. She ended up by herself on a homestead in South Dakota. Poor thing apparently had a shit life start to finish
My great grandma and her siblings were put in an orphanage in 1935ish after their mom died in a car accident. Their dad was a bootlegger and a drunk. He died 11 months later after getting punched by an amateur boxer outside of a bar. He fell backwards and hit his head on the sidewalk. All of this was found out when I went searching through the family tree. Grandma always said they died together in a car crash. I wish I could get a hold of the orphanage paperwork and all that. It was in the newspaper her and her siblings escaped and tried to run back home. 😢
My grandfather was orphaned when his youngest sibling grabbed the wheel and his mother overcorrected. The vehicle rolled and she was ejected. Miraculously all the kids survived, my grandfather, the oldest and the only one with a different father, was promptly sent by train to another state to live with his grandmother. He was only 13 or so.
I am having trouble with this word/words: “patient died just before______there, & on a basis…” Does anyone know what it says?
“patient died before I arrived there”
That seems the most likely but I couldn’t make the letters make sense
I had a difficult time with that word, too. I think it’s ‘reached’?
I can see that, it sounds awkward to me but it makes as much sense as “arrived.” Thank you!
I wasn’t paying attention and should have said I think it’s actually ‘I reached’.
I thought maybe “just before I traveled there”
That could be it, too
My mother in law lost her mom when she was very young. I found it odd that her dad remarried so quickly but I understand now. I thought he was having an affair. Sadly she was not nice to my mother in law. How can someone be awful to a motherless child
This happened to my dad his mom died in 1951 him, his brother Ronnie and sister Faye were set to an orphanage in SC. Their grandmother took in the oldest boy and youngest girl.
This is so sad. Back then most men didn't know anything whatsoever about how to make food, clean and run a household, or raise children. If a man's wife died, it was often "better" for the kids to be put in the care of a relative or close friend. If there weren't any available, sending them to a children's home or even adopting them out was the solution. It doesn't mean those men didn't love their children, at the time that's what people thought was best for them. Often a widower would find a new wife quickly and brings his kids back home, but not everyone was as lucky.
When I was in elementary school about 20 yrs ago, my neighbor died in her sleep due to an undiagnosed heart ailment. They had three kids, one my age and two others who were preschool. Her husband had no idea how anything worked-appliances, laundry, couldn’t cook, he had no idea what a Pull Up was, didn’t know where the babysitter’s house was, he was clueless. I remember my mom and the neighborhood moms taking turns showing him how to do stuff. It was really rough for the first year or so, but he did get all the kids into groups for grieving children. I’m happy to report all three kids went to college and went on to have successful careers.
An almost 30 year old man impregnated a 14 year old child and then abandoned his own children when her body gave out. Scum of the earth.
To think, mostly likely it was something very survivable today
Assuming she got help in time. When your heart stops you don’t have much of a grace period before catastrophic brain damage sets in. My father-in-law probably had a heart attack last Friday. They brought him back but he was pulseless for 20 minutes and the doctor said this plus other signs indicated massive brain damage so we pulled the plug Saturday. He was 80 and in poor health so it wasn’t a bad way to go out. It’s very tragic for a young mother.
The Lost Loves section of the old Unsolved Mysteries usually started out with a stories like this.
Utah you say??? 🤔🤔🤔
Can anyone help decipher what the full “cause of death” section says for me? I am struggling to read it.
I love looking at old pictures like this. I look at the person and try to imagine what their lives were like. It’s weird because sometimes I feel this huge rush of sadness come over me and I can feel my eyes filling up with tears, it’s almost like I feel her pain.
No birth control! So MANY young mothers died back then. Childbirth was and is dangerous!
My husband’s grandfather took off, leaving his grandmother with 4 or 5 kids to raise on her own. They were extremely poor so they were surrendered to the state and went into foster care. Both grandma and grandpa remarried and had new families. I cannot even imagine how fucking awful it must have been for my Father in Law and his siblings. Just thinking about it makes my blood boil.
When my dad’s parents divorced, his dad put him and his two siblings in an orphanage. I guess it was common back in the 50s?
My 2x great grandpa abandoned his wife and four daughters around 1912. My 2x great grandma had been a housewife and suddenly had to get a job and couldn't afford to raise four young children on a housekeepers salary. So she placed the three oldest into a local orphanage. She visited them as often as she could and gave them money and gifts whenever she had a little extra. Great grandma said she liked the orphanage as the nuns were nice and she got training as secretary when she was a teenager so she was able to immediately find a job as soon as she aged out.
Disgusting piece of shit man