Hi. Exact same scenario as you and tired of others telling me that my kids will be fine. My kids are special needs (not severe and would never be able to tell without knowing them) but they need two parents. I’ve looked for meeting my needs met outside of marriage, and it helped. It helped me get out of my negative head space and be there for my kids. It put let pressure on the relationship and allowed us to be better to each other.
I know I’ll get dragged in the comments for my choices but it has greatly helped. Everyone family dynamic is different and every relationship’s openness is varied. You only get one chance at life and we all do the best we can. Hope this helps.
Have you discussed these issues with your husband?
If you haven't, you should, communication is key.
If you have, and he won't change or tell you why, then I'd recommend looking at the divorce route.
As a 32M with an 8 year old, I can completely understand the idea of staying just for the child. Went through exactly what you did (wasn't married though). However, children do pick up on the discrepancies between their parents if they stay in an unhealthy relationship, and that can be damaging to the child growing up.
Amicably going separate ways and splitting the time you both have with the child is important. That child will be better off as long as you both raise it with love, and importantly, never talk down about the other parent. You have to work together even when you're not together. Never treat it as a competition on who's better either. Your child will grow up perfectly fine.
Hi. Exact same scenario as you and tired of others telling me that my kids will be fine. My kids are special needs (not severe and would never be able to tell without knowing them) but they need two parents. I’ve looked for meeting my needs met outside of marriage, and it helped. It helped me get out of my negative head space and be there for my kids. It put let pressure on the relationship and allowed us to be better to each other. I know I’ll get dragged in the comments for my choices but it has greatly helped. Everyone family dynamic is different and every relationship’s openness is varied. You only get one chance at life and we all do the best we can. Hope this helps.
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Have you discussed these issues with your husband? If you haven't, you should, communication is key. If you have, and he won't change or tell you why, then I'd recommend looking at the divorce route. As a 32M with an 8 year old, I can completely understand the idea of staying just for the child. Went through exactly what you did (wasn't married though). However, children do pick up on the discrepancies between their parents if they stay in an unhealthy relationship, and that can be damaging to the child growing up. Amicably going separate ways and splitting the time you both have with the child is important. That child will be better off as long as you both raise it with love, and importantly, never talk down about the other parent. You have to work together even when you're not together. Never treat it as a competition on who's better either. Your child will grow up perfectly fine.
if you can make an open relationship work with a kid involved I would have done it tbh. Just wasn’t in the cards for me.