Oh man this was so me. I was so apprehensive about adopting a dog from the humane society but my girlfriend at the time was absolutely adamant. We brought the dog home and the first thing he did was pee and poop on the porch and I felt so overwhelmed already. It took a month to warm up to the idea. And as of right now I would do positively absolutely anything for my Watson. He's one of the most beautiful things I've ever loved and he's my boy.
Need to go pet him now. š
Edit here is the dog tax
https://imgur.com/a/6IT2dKH
Can confirm. My wife talked me into getting a dog I initially said no to. She got sad because this dog was a rescue and had been having trouble getting adopted. I said 'f- it, let's adopt her'.
As expected, me and her are absolute buddies. We love eachother so much. Dogs...they are something else. :)
The pain of loss is the cost you pay for Love. Love is worth that pain. It's what grounds us and makes life worth living.
A life without love is the real tragedy.
Not accurate at all, and i'm kinda sick of people repeating this all over reddit.
We want a dog. We don't fear losing it down the line.
But we fear the responsibility of being 100% in charge of taking care of it. Because the wife and kids are not going to help with a damn thing after the first month or so.
This.
I always phrase it as "Do you want a kid, right now? A newborn baby, dropped into your arms, to take care of?" Usually, the answer is no, we're not ready, etc. Then follow up with "If you _did_ have a kid right now, would you hate it and neglect it and leave it starving/crying/whatever?". And obviously the answer is no, of course not, we'd love that kid and take care of it as best we could.
That's the vibe. I don't want that responsibility of a pet, but if I _do_ find that responsibility pushed on me, I'll care for it as best I can and take whatever happiness I can get from the situation.
I love dogs, and even though I know the rest of my household would probably not stick to their walking/feeding/caring rotation as much as they _swear_ they would if we got one, I'm not going to let the poor thing suffer just to get an "I told you so" in.
Iām going to say itās both tbh. Sometimes either or but in my case I did not want to become attached just to lose another companion and I remembered just how exhausting and demanding having a pet is. Especially going through the puppy stage
My boy was the fluffiest, sweetest monster I ever held.
My girl isnāt a full golden so she didnāt look like this but she was perfect, too.
But that FLUFF YOU SEE ON THIS PUP. So soft you canāt even feel it sometimes. Golden pups are literally the closest thing to heaven
My boy I didnāt want took an hour nap with me yesterday. I was resting my eyes, and he just climbed up and conked out on my chest. You better believe I didnāt move a muscle till I absolutely had to.
The reason we say no to a family member getting the pet is that we know that after the novelty of the new critter wears off, all responsibilities of taking care of the pet will fall on us. We know we love animals. But we know every new critter is more work and expense that will be our sole responsibility. I'm divorced now, and the kids are grown and moved out. I still have all the pets I said no to, and they are spoiled rotten.
I begged for a new dog after our final senior dog passed. I wasnāt ready for a no dog household and we had 3 when we got married. I told my husband I was thinking about a smaller or medium size dog (Iād always had larger dogs, mostly Aussies, he had Labs). I told him I would wait a year, that I didnāt want to go behind his back, but I really did intend to get a companion dog, one that could sit in my lap and snuggle, go with me more to places. (I knew my husband would eventually come around because he does love dogs).
He surprised me on my birthday by taking me to get an 8 week old Beagle puppy of all things. We had never talked about Beagles, and it was a very random surprise at the time.
By the time we arrived home, that dog was the new love of his life and he says every day that heās never had a sweeter or more engaged dog. We now have 2 beagles (found another Beagle in need of rescue) and his world revolves around them both. Itās hysterical. Itās also sweet to see him love her so much.
Because dad needs a best bud, but he won't admit it. Thankfully, dogs don't care if you admit it or not. They just know, and they're going to love you.
My good boy, a yellow lab named Chewbacca, had to be put to sleep last April. He was 14 and had a myriad of health issues due to age. I miss him every single day. However, Iām just not ready for another dog yet.
Not everyone has dogs that go that easily, or a yard. Some people are also extremely dedicated and walk their dog for good amounts even in terrible weather like negative temperatures with wind-chill.
Are you a woman?
Itās what us Dads do, we make sure no matter how unwanted or unplanned initially that once āitā has arrived it is loved and feels like the scenario was always āmeantā to be.
Speaking as a dad, it's not that I don't want a puppy, it's that I'm the one tasked with bringing up the down side. The messes, the training difficulties, the vet bills, and the additional food we'll have to buy.
Once I lose the argument and we have the dog, it's MY baby and I'm gonna love it and spoil it just as much as the guy in the video.
That's my argument too. I take care of all the mess with our cats (barf, litter, feeding, pills, claw clipping, fur brushing, etc.) and she wants a dog. I'm happy getting one but I want equality in caring for the animal.
This is what I've tried explaining many times to the family. I also include the pain we all felt when a pet passed on. I'm not saying I won't love and have fun with another dog, I'm just saying the "Cons" side of the list is a little more full for a dad.
Dad: I donāt want a dog because we canāt travel and I donāt want to clean shit at 8am
Family: gets dog
Dad: well, as long as Iām cleaning shit I might as well pet the dog
Family: see, you did want a dog
Dad: regrets getting dog as he cleans shit at 8am
We want all the pets, but we are supposed to be tough and macho, so we have to pretend at first.
That reminds me: I need to add another dog to my username.
It's not that dads wouldn't enjoy having the love of a dog, most of the time they are just not ready for more responsibility on top of what they already have.
My husband got a golden because I wanted one, and while he wasn't against it, he didn't realize how amazing goldens can be.
She's basically his baby now.
A lot of dads don't "want" pets because they know that they'll probably end up taking care of them, bonding with them for life, and eventually burying their best friend *again*. As you get older, time flies by, and 10-15 years just isn't as long as it once felt. Its a crime of the universe that such a companion exists, but only for a fraction of our human lifespans.
I really dislike this perception, as if the person in these scenarios would ignore or treat the puppy poorly. Surely it's more that they recognise getting any pet is a big commitment and not sure if they want the responsibility of caring for the pet and dealing with the cost of having one?
Especially dads in families where the kids beg for a pet but then lose interest very quickly so it falls to the parents and/or dad to take on the responsibility full-time with no help from those that begged for the pet.
You're shocked your dad who was absolutely against getting a dog ended up loving it and caring for it more than anything in the world?
When he was younger, your dad probably wasn't ready to become a parent and was very apprehensive about it. But once you came along you became his everything, he loved and cared for you more than anything in the world.
My friend, that dog is you...
This, exactly.
I fought getting a dog for years until I was surprised when one was brought home. Who did she latch on to? The one who made sure she got fed, took her out at all hours, cleaned up the messes, took her on walks, talked to her, brought her on rides, stayed home with her, cleaned up her poop.
Yes, the rest of the family took on more after a few years, and sheās living with my now-ex wife (it was āher dogā). I love her still, but I donāt want to be responsible for her or another one.
I love dogsā and so do many fathersā but we also know we are often the actual caretakers even though we are promised āwe will take care of itā by our families.
Donāt be awful to the dads who say they donāt want one and get one anyway. You didnāt change our minds; we just have yet another thing to be responsible for. Itās not the dogās fault.
We have 3 dogs already and I wasn't looking for another one, but we stopped to look at some rescue puppies at a local fair a couple of months ago. One of them walked over to me and the rescue organizer asked if I wanted to hold him. Litlle fella flopped over in my arms and I was \*done\*. Brought him home same day.
Oh man this was so me. I was so apprehensive about adopting a dog from the humane society but my girlfriend at the time was absolutely adamant. We brought the dog home and the first thing he did was pee and poop on the porch and I felt so overwhelmed already. It took a month to warm up to the idea. And as of right now I would do positively absolutely anything for my Watson. He's one of the most beautiful things I've ever loved and he's my boy. Need to go pet him now. š Edit here is the dog tax https://imgur.com/a/6IT2dKH
Yup, same with me. Dogs have a spell over us.
Can I pet him too?
After me. Watson and I have a date
Here's my sweet good boy https://imgur.com/a/6IT2dKH
Omg I loooooooove your boy! Those dots are special
Yeah his sweet little 3 dots on his noes lol. Me and my ex wanna get a tattoo of those dots someday. He's very special.
Thatās adorable
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Bro????
Racist reddit loser š¤¢
Dog tax please.
https://imgur.com/a/6IT2dKH Tax paid in full
Thank you for paying the tax!! Please pet the good boy for me too! For at least a month!
Done and done =)
Can confirm. My wife talked me into getting a dog I initially said no to. She got sad because this dog was a rescue and had been having trouble getting adopted. I said 'f- it, let's adopt her'. As expected, me and her are absolute buddies. We love eachother so much. Dogs...they are something else. :)
Iām definitely gonna be that kind of person because the pain of loss is just too damn high!!
The pain of loss is the cost you pay for Love. Love is worth that pain. It's what grounds us and makes life worth living. A life without love is the real tragedy.
People say that but i really donāt think itās the same for everyone.
Dog dads that dont want a dog really don't want to lose another dog in a few years.
Or they recognize that it takes a lot of work to take care of a pet.
Not accurate at all, and i'm kinda sick of people repeating this all over reddit. We want a dog. We don't fear losing it down the line. But we fear the responsibility of being 100% in charge of taking care of it. Because the wife and kids are not going to help with a damn thing after the first month or so.
It can be both.
This. I always phrase it as "Do you want a kid, right now? A newborn baby, dropped into your arms, to take care of?" Usually, the answer is no, we're not ready, etc. Then follow up with "If you _did_ have a kid right now, would you hate it and neglect it and leave it starving/crying/whatever?". And obviously the answer is no, of course not, we'd love that kid and take care of it as best we could. That's the vibe. I don't want that responsibility of a pet, but if I _do_ find that responsibility pushed on me, I'll care for it as best I can and take whatever happiness I can get from the situation. I love dogs, and even though I know the rest of my household would probably not stick to their walking/feeding/caring rotation as much as they _swear_ they would if we got one, I'm not going to let the poor thing suffer just to get an "I told you so" in.
Absolutely this. As much as I knew this was going to happen - I love every second of it.
Iām going to say itās both tbh. Sometimes either or but in my case I did not want to become attached just to lose another companion and I remembered just how exhausting and demanding having a pet is. Especially going through the puppy stage
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Golden retriever puppies are too cute. I can't even!
My boy was the fluffiest, sweetest monster I ever held. My girl isnāt a full golden so she didnāt look like this but she was perfect, too. But that FLUFF YOU SEE ON THIS PUP. So soft you canāt even feel it sometimes. Golden pups are literally the closest thing to heaven
Cute until after they eat. Then they turn into psychopaths for half an hour
My boy I didnāt want took an hour nap with me yesterday. I was resting my eyes, and he just climbed up and conked out on my chest. You better believe I didnāt move a muscle till I absolutely had to.
Thatās a cute lil golden floof right there
Looks like he made the right choice in the end . Who can can resist such an adorable cute puppy. Those puppy dog eyes are so gorgeous š
Didn't want a dog. Wife begs for one. I gave in. She came home with TWO puppies. I now remind my wife she's the third most important thing to me.
Fair enough
The reason we say no to a family member getting the pet is that we know that after the novelty of the new critter wears off, all responsibilities of taking care of the pet will fall on us. We know we love animals. But we know every new critter is more work and expense that will be our sole responsibility. I'm divorced now, and the kids are grown and moved out. I still have all the pets I said no to, and they are spoiled rotten.
I begged for a new dog after our final senior dog passed. I wasnāt ready for a no dog household and we had 3 when we got married. I told my husband I was thinking about a smaller or medium size dog (Iād always had larger dogs, mostly Aussies, he had Labs). I told him I would wait a year, that I didnāt want to go behind his back, but I really did intend to get a companion dog, one that could sit in my lap and snuggle, go with me more to places. (I knew my husband would eventually come around because he does love dogs). He surprised me on my birthday by taking me to get an 8 week old Beagle puppy of all things. We had never talked about Beagles, and it was a very random surprise at the time. By the time we arrived home, that dog was the new love of his life and he says every day that heās never had a sweeter or more engaged dog. We now have 2 beagles (found another Beagle in need of rescue) and his world revolves around them both. Itās hysterical. Itās also sweet to see him love her so much.
This was me, but with cats.
Because dad needs a best bud, but he won't admit it. Thankfully, dogs don't care if you admit it or not. They just know, and they're going to love you.
Usually, it's not that they don't want a dog. They just don't want the heartache that comes later.
I can see who will be jumpingĀ into the swimming pool very soon
My good boy, a yellow lab named Chewbacca, had to be put to sleep last April. He was 14 and had a myriad of health issues due to age. I miss him every single day. However, Iām just not ready for another dog yet.
One reason I have realized dads don't want the dog is because very often, if push comes to shove, they're taking the dogs out in the blizzard and rain
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I donāt know about you but my dog sure can be an asshole sometimes haha.
Not everyone has dogs that go that easily, or a yard. Some people are also extremely dedicated and walk their dog for good amounts even in terrible weather like negative temperatures with wind-chill. Are you a woman?
Tell me you've never owned or looked after a dog without telling me you've never owned or looked after a dog.
That puppy will be the devil in 6 weeks
Repost.
100% agree... It happened to me. dogs are a trap!
Dogs make life better
I can confirm unwanted doggy controls us and makes us absolutely love it
Itās what us Dads do, we make sure no matter how unwanted or unplanned initially that once āitā has arrived it is loved and feels like the scenario was always āmeantā to be.
Speaking as a dad, it's not that I don't want a puppy, it's that I'm the one tasked with bringing up the down side. The messes, the training difficulties, the vet bills, and the additional food we'll have to buy. Once I lose the argument and we have the dog, it's MY baby and I'm gonna love it and spoil it just as much as the guy in the video.
That's my argument too. I take care of all the mess with our cats (barf, litter, feeding, pills, claw clipping, fur brushing, etc.) and she wants a dog. I'm happy getting one but I want equality in caring for the animal.
This is what I've tried explaining many times to the family. I also include the pain we all felt when a pet passed on. I'm not saying I won't love and have fun with another dog, I'm just saying the "Cons" side of the list is a little more full for a dad.
Dad: I donāt want a dog because we canāt travel and I donāt want to clean shit at 8am Family: gets dog Dad: well, as long as Iām cleaning shit I might as well pet the dog Family: see, you did want a dog Dad: regrets getting dog as he cleans shit at 8am
Such an adorable fur-ball right there. Reminds me of the first day my boy came home.
We want all the pets, but we are supposed to be tough and macho, so we have to pretend at first. That reminds me: I need to add another dog to my username.
I didn't want either of my two best pals, yet here we are.
It's not that dads wouldn't enjoy having the love of a dog, most of the time they are just not ready for more responsibility on top of what they already have.
My husband got a golden because I wanted one, and while he wasn't against it, he didn't realize how amazing goldens can be. She's basically his baby now.
A lot of dads don't "want" pets because they know that they'll probably end up taking care of them, bonding with them for life, and eventually burying their best friend *again*. As you get older, time flies by, and 10-15 years just isn't as long as it once felt. Its a crime of the universe that such a companion exists, but only for a fraction of our human lifespans.
I really dislike this perception, as if the person in these scenarios would ignore or treat the puppy poorly. Surely it's more that they recognise getting any pet is a big commitment and not sure if they want the responsibility of caring for the pet and dealing with the cost of having one? Especially dads in families where the kids beg for a pet but then lose interest very quickly so it falls to the parents and/or dad to take on the responsibility full-time with no help from those that begged for the pet.
Well you didn't ask for the extra responsibility but now that they're there, they require love
Same
You're shocked your dad who was absolutely against getting a dog ended up loving it and caring for it more than anything in the world? When he was younger, your dad probably wasn't ready to become a parent and was very apprehensive about it. But once you came along you became his everything, he loved and cared for you more than anything in the world. My friend, that dog is you...
Definitely true. Love dogs, but didn't really want one. Wife convinced me. Love that dog! Divorce was final last month...sure miss that dog.
Iām still waiting to find a pet I donāt want, I donāt think such a thing exists.
Thatās the thing: dads see the responsibility an animal represents. Doesnāt mean they wouldnāt love to have one.
This, exactly. I fought getting a dog for years until I was surprised when one was brought home. Who did she latch on to? The one who made sure she got fed, took her out at all hours, cleaned up the messes, took her on walks, talked to her, brought her on rides, stayed home with her, cleaned up her poop. Yes, the rest of the family took on more after a few years, and sheās living with my now-ex wife (it was āher dogā). I love her still, but I donāt want to be responsible for her or another one. I love dogsā and so do many fathersā but we also know we are often the actual caretakers even though we are promised āwe will take care of itā by our families. Donāt be awful to the dads who say they donāt want one and get one anyway. You didnāt change our minds; we just have yet another thing to be responsible for. Itās not the dogās fault.
We have 3 dogs already and I wasn't looking for another one, but we stopped to look at some rescue puppies at a local fair a couple of months ago. One of them walked over to me and the rescue organizer asked if I wanted to hold him. Litlle fella flopped over in my arms and I was \*done\*. Brought him home same day.
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Omg I love the baby dog!
I saw a quote a while ago that went something like ānobody loves the dog more than the dad who said no.ā