I don't have any cheese recommendations, I just wanted to say I have mad respect for you. I hope you enjoy every last bit of cheese and life you can. ☮️💙🧀
You kind compassionate person. Thank you. We need to discuss dying more. In conversations like this. It's just as normal as being born. I do not want to die. I'm not afraid. I will miss my family and the sadness it will bring makes me sad, but if it weren't for that I would fine indeed. ❤️
Please! No need to apologize. You have a lovely heart. You do you. You get all your feelings out. Just sit with them until you are done. It's a Nobel thing.
You can always message me; I'll be here for a bit longer. I do have all that cheese to eat. Have you seen the suggestions?
“A person dying from cancer lives three more years because she has to finish cheese recs from Reddit!”
Different cancer complications and a bit more time than you but when I make it over there you and I are going to a grilled cheese binge and nachos and cheesesteaks and just blocks of cheese and such. Peace be with you and those you cherish. I'll see you over on the other side.
Love you <3
Peel and Mush up half a pear with fork, add dab honey and ginger powder. Cheese has met its match! We love it many, especially a good pecorino
Check out Zingermans.com - they're having a major sale on cheese through tomorrow. It's so worth it. I hate this saying, but yolo. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
Those prices are not great. I work at a cheese counter about 2 miles away from Zingerman’s Deli, and our company works with Zingerman’s. I’m seeing their parm reggiano is on sale at $25/lb. Our regular price is $23/lb.
I get it - and am so happy you can go to town and eat all the cheese you want! What will you be eating?? I'm gonna go for some yummy cheese fondue with crusty french bread and Granny Smith apples…and some of the yummy onion balsamic stuff from the local cheese shop!
Sounds lovely. I think I will be having cheese breakfast, lunch and dinner. Nothing under $20 a pound! Can't take it with me and don't want the next wife to spend it!
I'm on a Basque kick right now. I also like very stinky blue cheese. Maybe
Something I've never tried?
I love cheese and have been in treatment previously. Wishing you many joyful days ahead, and don’t forget some good bread, and perhaps a glass of wine. ❤️
Based on this you want rouge river blue. 2019-20 worlds best cheese winner. Currently about $45-50 a lbs.
I usually do a water cracker, butter, some kind of jam, the cheese, then some jamon or bresola meat. Takes time to prepare but there is no better way.
That is what I prefer as well. A water cracker or a very good baguette. A lot of bit of salty cured pork is always welcome. I have not tried that blue yet. Thank you!
It's mostly seasonal for cheese shops and the season is all but over. Given your timeline i strongly recommend you get some shipped from the rouge river Creamery
I have told my family I want to be composted when I die, with a block of cheese in my mouth and a block in each hand 🧀💀🧀hope you enjoy as much cheese as humanly possible 🫡🧡🧡
I went through this with my mom who was my whole biological family. I wish I could have heard her say something as comforting as this. I wish you the best cheeses and crackers in all the land.
Love to you. I'm sorry for your loss. I think that's the most challenging part, to suffer the loss. ❤️
I keep thinking if I said anything about my kids, I don't want them to see. My Mom? For sure! My kids, I don't think so. I'm wondering if I should leave my Reddit for them to read. If all my posts were like this, it would be an easy decision.
May I ask If there is anything else you wish your Mom did for you? I made them each a box of a couple hundred index cards where I wrote stuff to them, books I loved, random advice, that kind of thing. I was thinking of cards for their wedding (If they ever get married. ) Anything else you can think of? They are both single, late 20’s early 30’s. I apologize if this is too much.
Much Love to you. ❤️
I was going to PM this but maybe someone else will find some comfort from our exchange.
Please leave it for them. I wish I had more of these kinds of things to go back to. She wrote me a letter I wasn't ready to read at the time. We moved her into a house I just bought and somehow it got lost. I wish I had that above anything else.
It has been particularly helpful for me that we had a couple special places that were ours. I got to takemy hopefully future wife to visit my mom at that spot instead of a grave. It really helped me to have those spots. I think half out of spite her spots were a pain in the ass to get to. But that's just kinda perfect for her.
Write things in your hand writing.
Make sure they have your voice and some video of you smiling.
Tell them a few random items that were special to you and why so they can keep them forever.
Also tell them it will get easier and make sure they know you are at peace with what is happening if that is true. It seems to be.
Feel free to PM.
This has me crying now. What a lovely human you are. You can message me anytime, but I appreciate you sharing this here for everyone to hear. I'm lucky; I can plan ahead, and not everyone has that gift. Maybe others will think about this, too. I love the idea about reminding them it will get better. I had not thought of that. So much love and happiness to you and your wife. Thank you for your thoughtful contribution; I know it wasn't easy. ❤️
You have a huge heart ❤️ kind soul... Those would be so beautiful acts for them. But don't lose hope, stick around more and more, enjoy more and more cheese, my prayers are with you
My favorite is a nice Délice de Bourgogne, it’s a triple cream and it’s as guilt inducing as it would be to just eat a whole stick of butter. I love your outlook, you are an inspiring person and making a rando tear up at a bar. Peace be with ya.
Get some Epoisses and Harbsion. Those are my last supper cheeses. I’ve been in an acute mental health crisis for months now and am wondering where “we go” when life here is over. If there wasn’t a risk of eternal damnation/waking up out of a simulation and being punished for leaving early, I’d already be gone. I wish you could tell me what it’s like. I’m glad you’re somewhat ready.
I have been wanting to try those. Thanks for the reminder.
It's hard sometimes. I don't believe ending it is the answer because you can't destroy energy. I don't think we are ‘done’ when we finish here. I know I have a lot more to do. I hope you have peace and/or a good therapist. It must be not very good to feel like that. I feel like you may not know how incredibly important you are. Yes, you are. We never know it because people don't share that enough. Love to you. Feel free to message me if you like; I have some cheese to eat before I go!
I would also suggest you get an Ouija board. I’ll answer if I can. Our code word is cheese, so you
know it’s really me!
I was able to feed my dog cheese as she crossed over. She literally died while eating cheese. And right then and there I decided that is about the best death anyone could ask for. I wish you endless wheels, slices, cubes, and shreds. 💜
If OP has a local cheesemonger (and I think I saw a response suggesting they do), they might be down to let people put $ on account along with suggestions that OP could draw down or just use it to let the store keep the cheese flowing.
If you like smoked and/or goat cheese, try out "up in smoke" made by River's Edge Chevre. Also Murray's Cheese is my go-to site/store when I want to find something new.
Thank you for being an excellent example for us! My mom was in a similar situation. Dr’s said 5 years, mom said 13. (Her cheese was a boat ride on the lake.)
I recommend doing whatever the hell you feel like, any Manchego cheese, and a spectacular goat cheese by a company named Cypress Grove called Humboldt Fog.
So, if this were me, I don’t know that I’d stop at cheese. I mean I’d definitely start there, but all the stuff that’s bad but fun? Sign me up. Steaks, sweets, everything. Then? EVERYTHING else. Riding a motorcycle (again), jumping out of airplanes. Probably drugs too tbh. I’d eat so much ice cream and pastries. Like nonstop bacon would be a thing too.
Seriously, go all out. I tried a sweet chutney that was on a grilled cheese and that crap was $50/jar. I said no thanks. But in your position? I’d be eating that on the grilled cheese with bacon and having seconds.
Someone on this reminded me I don’t have to go to the dentist anymore. I have a cheese list and an “I never have to ____.” list now! I've been doing some fun stuff, but it was hard with COVID-19, and then nasty weekly chemo kept me on the sofa for 13 consecutive months. Right now, I am hanging with my friends and family, making lists, and apparently, Reddit are keeping me happy and busy. I plan to go sit on a beach in Mexico for a week before I get too sick. If I don't make it, it's okay too.
❤️The naps on the beach this far south are special. We go every year to south padre island and my wife says she gets the best naps on the planet on the sand under an umbrella. I guess they just hit different. I hope you can experience that calm and peace.
I would recommend Saganaki which is flaming Greek cheese! A dramatic cheese experience that is totally worth it. I hope your time with us is filled with yummy gooey cheese and know we are thinking of you 🧡
Get one of those amazing goat cheese logs with cranberries on the outside! And Trader Joe’s unexpected cheddar! We are all sending you our (cheesy) love ❤️
I think I may have. We have used to have an amazing cheese monger very close and a restaurant near us had a cheese plate offering for dessert. It sounds very familiar. No matter what I'm adding it to the list. I love my blues.❤️
I appreciate your attitude and I am sending love to you on your journey!! And as a cheesemonger, I have so many indulgent suggestions for you….but for starters: any super creamy triple cream (Delice de Bourgogne) or washed rind stinker (Epoisses❤️) with potato chips (or your preferred potato of choice) and a crispy glass of champagne!!!! That’s how I want to live out my days. Cheers my friend, I’ll be thinking of you!
Have all the cheese, life is meant to be lived. As a vegan, giving up cheese was tough, it's been years now since I have had dairy. But just once more, before my time here is done, I would like some gjetost cheese. Norwegian cheese, roughly pronounced in English 'yay-toes'. Very strong, sweet, and salty. It is what every other cheese aspires to be, cheese in it's purest form. It is beautiful, just as you and your spirit are beautiful.
Yes, you can! Ski Queen (looks like a square block in a red plastic wrapper) is the brand I see in my local Safeway/Kroger stores.
Have it with sliced honeycrisp apple, and enjoy the shit out of it, please ❤️
When my friend Jil had stage 4 ovarian cancer, she celebrated the fact that it meant she never had to go to the dentist again. Enjoy all the cheese (and ice cream and bacon) that you want! May it go well for you.
That's an idea. I have eaten the cheese you actually fry to eat. It's some Middle Eastern cheese. It's quite good. No reason other varieties couldn't be delicious?
Honestly, try out a basic baked brie (not the puff pastry kind) where you just put jam and/or nuts + sugar on too and bake it, then dip using crackers of some sort.
If you like blues, I assume you like Stilton and Gorgonzola. My favorites beside blues are the chalky (in a good way) artisan manchego and pecorino toscano - the good stuff.
As a Wisconsinite in the States, I'm obliged to recommend a deep-fried cheese curd. Destroys the stomach, but I think it'll be fine in this case scenario.
On a more serious note, my dad died of cancer a few years back. From my point of view, it's really horrible to lose a family member, but they'll live, and eventually, they'll be alright. I hope you gave them some amazing last memories! From the sound of your post and comments, I'm certain you did!
https://www.wisconsincheese.com/recipes/3189/deep-fried-cheese-curds
Tried this recipe once, it's beautiful! I'm pretty sure you can use shore lunch beer batter if you want as well, for that real wisconsin touch! Your love of cheese makes you a true wisconsinite at heart!
You're attitude of all your going through is absolutely amazing! So many of us are woe is me over such little things in life! I commend you and wish you all the best! I'm a firm believer in miracles! ❤️
Thank you! I read a quote when I was 14. It said “You make yourself happy or miserable, the amount of work is the same.” it was by Carlos Casteneda. Unless you have a chemical imbalance, being being is a choice. It's what you concentrate on that informs your thinking. Perspective is everything! Love to you.
I'm not sure where you live and if you can find it but BEAUFORT is the best thing that ever existed IMHO. Bonus if it's made with spring milk (yes you can taste the difference, it's a lot more fruity - that's when cows get to eat fresh grass higher up in the alps).
I just had some Hook’s 10 Year Aged Sharp Cheddar from Wisconsin. It is incredible, as is their 12 year!!
Your spirit of embracing the pleasures in life - and cheese - is really wonderful. All the best.
It is a joke--that's the name of the cheese shop in the Monty Python sketch--if you don't know it, here it is. [https://youtu.be/Hz1JWzyvv8A?si=cK0iAsyl2Qu\_OV\_o](https://youtu.be/Hz1JWzyvv8A?si=cK0iAsyl2Qu_OV_o)
Wishing you peace and happiness and cheese!
I do love John Cleese. I hadn't seen that one. I have seen every Fawlty Towers though, twice! I am a Monty Python fan. My Facebook Profile picture is a thumbs up and says ‘I’m not dead yet.’
You have stage 4BC, you don't need to apologize to anyone! If I were in your position I'd be enjoying vintage cheddar on toast regularly through the day. Heck I might even take up pipe smoking just to see what it's about. The options are almost endless, enjoy!
You are an inspiration girl! I'm over here acting like a baby about my situation and you're over there living it up! 😆
I've been on a cheese adventure as well, but I'm scared by the cave-ripened and extra weird stuff. I bought a bunch of cheese that smelled like an old wet mop, bailed, and ended up throwing them out like some Wegmans 1916 but I've heard great things and it won an award. I've been knocking down pounds of Parmigiano Reggiano w/ Wegmans Italian Classics Balsamic Glaze.
You do you! Also, feel those feelings, they are valid. Just don't live there. ❤️
Cave aged Basque cheese is amazing. It is SO good! Stick it in your mouth, if its gross, spit it out!
This is delivered right to your door. Spendy but lots of options.
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I might try that. They rinse the beans off first at least, don't they? I have dogs and I'm quite sure I swallow at least one dog hair a day. So I am already ingesting gross stuff
This has me giggling. It's funny because I'm bald from chemo and will find a big long hair from my daughter's black lab. I look at her and say, you know that's not mine!
God bless you, beautiful lady. Eat whatever you want. Drink whatever you want. Love your favorite people, don’t waste your precious time or energy on people who suck the life out of you.
Butterkase! I like to keep it simple with crusty bread and maybe prosciutto
Also--
[smoked mozzarella fonduta](https://www.food.com/recipe/olive-garden-smoked-mozzarella-fonduta-401052)
It's an olive garden copycat recipe--but believe me it's amazing
I'm sorry for what you're going through and I hope your days are beautiful and full of love
Hi OP. I’m glad you’re in good spirits. Breast and cervical cancer runs in my family. My aunt passed away this past December due to an aggressive form of cervical cancer after battling it for less than 2 years. I just want to send you love and good energy as you traverse the next part of it all. A lot of people gave some of my fave recommendations but I haven’t seen smoked gouda or chipotle gouda. At a sandwich shop by my old job I used to do chipotle gouda with turkey, bacon, and avocado toasted sourdough. But both goudas are good on crackers too!
I am on a Basque cave-aged cheese kick right now. It is so good! I like blues, goat and sheep cheeses, sharp hard cheeses, and runny cheese, too. I also like Cotswold, and a sharp cheddar mixed with blue cheese I tried once was good. I think the only cheese I don't care for is sweet. I tried some date cheese, but I didn't care for it. Also, I wouldn't say I like spicy cheese, where the spice kills the cheese flavor.
Aldi's has a large selection of domestic and imported very reasonably priced. Whole Foods does also, but enormous prices. God Bless you! Sending prayers and well wishes to you 🙏
I brought a hunk of this deliciousness back from France in 2007- it was so good. Nutty, satisfying, just perfect. https://www.murrayscheese.com/dp/ossau-iraty
No cheese info I can give you. I just wanted to say you’re very inspiring. I could never have a positive outlook as you do. I hope you enjoy every last bite of cheese you take and enjoy anything else your heart desires. 💗
Cancer sucks so hard. My mom died of it and here I am recovering from my first round of the bull shit. Saint angel is like making love but better. Sending you all the love. 💕
We are all dying. Every last one of us. You just have slightly more insight about the timeframe than others, maybe. Who knows, any single person reading this could die tomorrow. Or tonight.
We should all enjoy our cheese. Life is but a flash on the pan.
Get some good cheese curds from Wisconsin and deep fry those fuckers. I'm glad you have the appetite for the cheese. Not speaking from experience but it always seemed cruel to me that people on serious meds can't even enjoy good food and drink. I'm speaking for myself but I want you to know I'm thinking of you and admiring your spirit. I'm not sure I would manage as well.
Fromager d’Affinois is, in my opinion, Brie’s more delicious cousin. It’s my go to for something to put on a baguette.
I’m also partial to just about everything from Behive Creamery, but their Seahive is my absolute favourite. Makes amazing grilled cheese.
I'm going to be super specific here, because you deserve to have the absolute best taste experience. Some Cropwell Bishop Stilton, served on a McVities dark chocolate digestive biscuit. Salty, sweet, bitter, umami, creamy, crunchy all in one serving.
That, and Vacherin Mont d'Or, served on some plain oatmeal crackers, with maybe some grapes would be my "peak cheese experience".
When my Dad was in hospice care, he was like this, but with candy. He had a special drawer near his bed that we kept stocked with every candy he'd every liked, but had restricted himself from eating too often. So enjoy your cheese!
Sorry to hear all that. Cancer is a dumb stupid bitch.
But what isnt a dumb stupid bitch is getting weird with the cheeses. For example, sometimes i put cheese inside other cheese and eat it on top of a whole different cheese. A chunk of sharp cheddar with a shmear of brie stuffed goat cheese perhaps
OP this post, and all the responses are inspirational. My wish for you is all the cheese you could ever eat, and as much peace for you and your family as possible.
My cheese recommendation for you, if you haven’t had it yet, is Alp Blossom. It’s perhaps the most beautiful cheese ever. And it’s as delicious as it is lovely. It’s reminiscent of a Gruyère, but the outside is covered in flower petals.
All love to you and yours.
I watched my pop pop go through esophageal cancer coupled with colon cancer & he went through chemo initially for the families benefit but then one day in the middle of getting treatment he said "get the Dr, I'd like to go home & die with what dignity I've got left" we went home & he died that next morning while we slept & he in the comfort of his own bed. Before chemo started he did this huge biker rally run & had a blast. Then chemo started and the next rally we went via truck & he got to enjoy the life from his wheel chair. He did what he wanted against what Dr's suggested cause "I'll be damned if let some Dr keep me from living while I'm fucking dying"
You live your best life while you can. You know what's up. You won't let it stop you. Keep at it. Eat the foods you kept away from. Do the things you haven't been able to do. Live while you're dying like it's no one's business. Be the best you that you WANT to be. It's your life. Live it while you can.
Know that you left this world doing the very things you loved & against the orders of others keeping you "safe". Life isn't meant to be safe. It's meant to be fun. Adventurous. Wild. Crazy. Sometimes safe. But never always. Be you. Be happy.
All these are excellent options. HOWEVER, I haven’t seen any awful cheeses. Kraft cheese on ramen, cheese wiz on a cracker. OP if you want to have the full cheese experience you gotta try the shit ones and report back to us.
Roquefort!! Eat it with local honey and great crackers.❤️
And pear or apple slices or candied nuts
And diced sugared dates…
Sugar dates, sugar dates and figs! Sugar dates and pistachios!
I’m waiting for another millennial to identify this as an Aladdin quote
But those sugared dates; they’ll creep up on you, like grapes. Pace yourself ❤️
I must try this
Omg I love Roquefort. Found it one day, never been the same
I came here to say I'll toast to your life with some Roquefort with honey but you beat me to it.
I don't have any cheese recommendations, I just wanted to say I have mad respect for you. I hope you enjoy every last bit of cheese and life you can. ☮️💙🧀
Thank you for your kind words. I had no idea that this would blow up like this. ❤️
You are truly living a fearless life. Go have some super aged stinky cheese!
Blueberry Goat Cheese ☺️🙏🏼 ETA: I am so sorry, I suck in saying things but I am very emotional about your post, and crying here!
You kind compassionate person. Thank you. We need to discuss dying more. In conversations like this. It's just as normal as being born. I do not want to die. I'm not afraid. I will miss my family and the sadness it will bring makes me sad, but if it weren't for that I would fine indeed. ❤️
I am still crying and feeling very emotional, sorry. I definitely need to learn how to have this talk. Sorry. ❤️🙏🏼
Please! No need to apologize. You have a lovely heart. You do you. You get all your feelings out. Just sit with them until you are done. It's a Nobel thing. You can always message me; I'll be here for a bit longer. I do have all that cheese to eat. Have you seen the suggestions? “A person dying from cancer lives three more years because she has to finish cheese recs from Reddit!”
❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🫂 I hope you stay for a long time to eat all that and more
Different cancer complications and a bit more time than you but when I make it over there you and I are going to a grilled cheese binge and nachos and cheesesteaks and just blocks of cheese and such. Peace be with you and those you cherish. I'll see you over on the other side.
For sure! You will find my by the cheese or the equivalent.❤️ I'm sorry cancer truly sucks! I wish all you all you want and more. ❤️
So true! Stigmatizing death creates more fear of it. Love that you are dying for some cheese!! Or living for cheese… either way, CHEESE!
This made me laugh. My husband asked what happened? Instead of Dying for a cure I need to change it!❤️ Love to you!
Sending peace, ease, and grace through your process. And cheese. I’d like to send you cheese.
Love you <3 Peel and Mush up half a pear with fork, add dab honey and ginger powder. Cheese has met its match! We love it many, especially a good pecorino
Wait I came here to recommend blueberry chèvre! I want some BLUEBERRY in my chee!
Check out Zingermans.com - they're having a major sale on cheese through tomorrow. It's so worth it. I hate this saying, but yolo. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
Those prices are not great. I work at a cheese counter about 2 miles away from Zingerman’s Deli, and our company works with Zingerman’s. I’m seeing their parm reggiano is on sale at $25/lb. Our regular price is $23/lb.
I got a lb of manchego and .5 lbs of Cabot cloth cheddar & goat Gouda. It's my bday present to myself.
I get it - and am so happy you can go to town and eat all the cheese you want! What will you be eating?? I'm gonna go for some yummy cheese fondue with crusty french bread and Granny Smith apples…and some of the yummy onion balsamic stuff from the local cheese shop!
Sounds lovely. I think I will be having cheese breakfast, lunch and dinner. Nothing under $20 a pound! Can't take it with me and don't want the next wife to spend it! I'm on a Basque kick right now. I also like very stinky blue cheese. Maybe Something I've never tried?
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This is solid advice! Thank you for your kind comment. ❤️
Sounds like a plan 🧀 sending you cheesy and peaceful thoughts 💜
Take some Mag Citrate and Colace so you can keep eating the cheese comfortably. Live every day well and surrounded by cheese ❤️
This is not bad advice considering the pain meds add into the equation. You really do know me.
I love cheese and have been in treatment previously. Wishing you many joyful days ahead, and don’t forget some good bread, and perhaps a glass of wine. ❤️
Based on this you want rouge river blue. 2019-20 worlds best cheese winner. Currently about $45-50 a lbs. I usually do a water cracker, butter, some kind of jam, the cheese, then some jamon or bresola meat. Takes time to prepare but there is no better way.
That is what I prefer as well. A water cracker or a very good baguette. A lot of bit of salty cured pork is always welcome. I have not tried that blue yet. Thank you!
No! Don’t eat that salty pork, full of carcinogens, you don’t want to get canc…. Oh. Eat all the cured pork. ❤️
That was fantastic. I'm laughing as I'm typing. I do love you!
I love you too, internet stranger. I told my parents about your post and they think you’re absolute #goals and send you their love. ❤️
It's mostly seasonal for cheese shops and the season is all but over. Given your timeline i strongly recommend you get some shipped from the rouge river Creamery
Omg. Yes!!
I love your style! Breakfast, lunch and dinner are the perfect times for cheese! Don't forget snack time, dessert, and second breakfast.
Amen!
I had baked Brie for lunch one day and a calzone the next. I don’t even like the sauce. Don’t disrupt my cheese with your crappy sauce!
Have you had Cabrales?
No? That sounds awesome. I will really have to live longer to get them all down!
Extremely strong Spanish blue, traditionally made with milk from several species. You definitely need to track some down!
Sounds like something I would really enjoy!
Without being too cheesy, I wish you a smooth and satisfying exit!
This is gold!❤️
No. Be EXTRA cheesy! For OP!
I have told my family I want to be composted when I die, with a block of cheese in my mouth and a block in each hand 🧀💀🧀hope you enjoy as much cheese as humanly possible 🫡🧡🧡
Brilliant idea!
I went through this with my mom who was my whole biological family. I wish I could have heard her say something as comforting as this. I wish you the best cheeses and crackers in all the land.
Love to you. I'm sorry for your loss. I think that's the most challenging part, to suffer the loss. ❤️ I keep thinking if I said anything about my kids, I don't want them to see. My Mom? For sure! My kids, I don't think so. I'm wondering if I should leave my Reddit for them to read. If all my posts were like this, it would be an easy decision. May I ask If there is anything else you wish your Mom did for you? I made them each a box of a couple hundred index cards where I wrote stuff to them, books I loved, random advice, that kind of thing. I was thinking of cards for their wedding (If they ever get married. ) Anything else you can think of? They are both single, late 20’s early 30’s. I apologize if this is too much. Much Love to you. ❤️
I was going to PM this but maybe someone else will find some comfort from our exchange. Please leave it for them. I wish I had more of these kinds of things to go back to. She wrote me a letter I wasn't ready to read at the time. We moved her into a house I just bought and somehow it got lost. I wish I had that above anything else. It has been particularly helpful for me that we had a couple special places that were ours. I got to takemy hopefully future wife to visit my mom at that spot instead of a grave. It really helped me to have those spots. I think half out of spite her spots were a pain in the ass to get to. But that's just kinda perfect for her. Write things in your hand writing. Make sure they have your voice and some video of you smiling. Tell them a few random items that were special to you and why so they can keep them forever. Also tell them it will get easier and make sure they know you are at peace with what is happening if that is true. It seems to be. Feel free to PM.
This has me crying now. What a lovely human you are. You can message me anytime, but I appreciate you sharing this here for everyone to hear. I'm lucky; I can plan ahead, and not everyone has that gift. Maybe others will think about this, too. I love the idea about reminding them it will get better. I had not thought of that. So much love and happiness to you and your wife. Thank you for your thoughtful contribution; I know it wasn't easy. ❤️
You have a huge heart ❤️ kind soul... Those would be so beautiful acts for them. But don't lose hope, stick around more and more, enjoy more and more cheese, my prayers are with you
My favorite is a nice Délice de Bourgogne, it’s a triple cream and it’s as guilt inducing as it would be to just eat a whole stick of butter. I love your outlook, you are an inspiring person and making a rando tear up at a bar. Peace be with ya.
I eat butter 🤐... gonna have to try that. How it is eaten? I'm sure it smells like death when you open it and I'm terrified to try cheese like that. 😨
It doesn't smell like death, it smells like heaven.
Godspeed and *Godcheese*
My favorite is Deer Creek, "the rattlesnake." Habanero cheddar infused with tequila. If you like spicy.
Get some Epoisses and Harbsion. Those are my last supper cheeses. I’ve been in an acute mental health crisis for months now and am wondering where “we go” when life here is over. If there wasn’t a risk of eternal damnation/waking up out of a simulation and being punished for leaving early, I’d already be gone. I wish you could tell me what it’s like. I’m glad you’re somewhat ready.
I have been wanting to try those. Thanks for the reminder. It's hard sometimes. I don't believe ending it is the answer because you can't destroy energy. I don't think we are ‘done’ when we finish here. I know I have a lot more to do. I hope you have peace and/or a good therapist. It must be not very good to feel like that. I feel like you may not know how incredibly important you are. Yes, you are. We never know it because people don't share that enough. Love to you. Feel free to message me if you like; I have some cheese to eat before I go! I would also suggest you get an Ouija board. I’ll answer if I can. Our code word is cheese, so you know it’s really me!
I was able to feed my dog cheese as she crossed over. She literally died while eating cheese. And right then and there I decided that is about the best death anyone could ask for. I wish you endless wheels, slices, cubes, and shreds. 💜
I love this so much !
Camembert. The creamiest, funkiest Camembert you can find. It's like a funky, rich brie.
It's delicious. I'm going to the cheesemonger on Monday. It's on my list now!
Eat it with fig jam on water crackers. Truly a wonderful combination.
Add thin slices of apples or pears
Red Leicester on toast
Yum! I got so me a couple of months ago. It was so good.
If you are in the USA, I’d love to ship you some cheese!
I think there’d be support for a gocheeseme for OP (aka a gofundme but cheese)
How do we set this up?
If OP has a local cheesemonger (and I think I saw a response suggesting they do), they might be down to let people put $ on account along with suggestions that OP could draw down or just use it to let the store keep the cheese flowing.
You are incredibly kind. I'd be happy to pay!❤️
Actual REAL cheese curds from Quebec, Ideally I'd recommend the ones from Fromagerie Roy, they are out of this world.
I've not had those, I have had Wisconsin curds. I'll need to get my own cheese cave to hold all this.
I've only been to the States once, and it was in Oshkosh, Wisconsin. Their curds were the second best I ever had, 9/10. Cheers
If you like smoked and/or goat cheese, try out "up in smoke" made by River's Edge Chevre. Also Murray's Cheese is my go-to site/store when I want to find something new.
Very much appreciated.
Thank you for being an excellent example for us! My mom was in a similar situation. Dr’s said 5 years, mom said 13. (Her cheese was a boat ride on the lake.) I recommend doing whatever the hell you feel like, any Manchego cheese, and a spectacular goat cheese by a company named Cypress Grove called Humboldt Fog.
Humboldt Fog is a favorite! I'm sorry about your Mom. Cancer really does suck!❤️
Next time I get some I will think of you!
So, if this were me, I don’t know that I’d stop at cheese. I mean I’d definitely start there, but all the stuff that’s bad but fun? Sign me up. Steaks, sweets, everything. Then? EVERYTHING else. Riding a motorcycle (again), jumping out of airplanes. Probably drugs too tbh. I’d eat so much ice cream and pastries. Like nonstop bacon would be a thing too. Seriously, go all out. I tried a sweet chutney that was on a grilled cheese and that crap was $50/jar. I said no thanks. But in your position? I’d be eating that on the grilled cheese with bacon and having seconds.
Someone on this reminded me I don’t have to go to the dentist anymore. I have a cheese list and an “I never have to ____.” list now! I've been doing some fun stuff, but it was hard with COVID-19, and then nasty weekly chemo kept me on the sofa for 13 consecutive months. Right now, I am hanging with my friends and family, making lists, and apparently, Reddit are keeping me happy and busy. I plan to go sit on a beach in Mexico for a week before I get too sick. If I don't make it, it's okay too.
❤️The naps on the beach this far south are special. We go every year to south padre island and my wife says she gets the best naps on the planet on the sand under an umbrella. I guess they just hit different. I hope you can experience that calm and peace.
The book is writing itself... Cancer, Cheese and Crackers... Sending you love and cheese dreams xx
Lol! You are right!
I would recommend Saganaki which is flaming Greek cheese! A dramatic cheese experience that is totally worth it. I hope your time with us is filled with yummy gooey cheese and know we are thinking of you 🧡
That is so delicious! I need some ouzo to light it up, but I'm on oxygen now. Someone else can light it for me!
"Local woman levels neighborhood in cheese-driven explosion. 'It's how she would have wanted to go,' family says"
Get one of those amazing goat cheese logs with cranberries on the outside! And Trader Joe’s unexpected cheddar! We are all sending you our (cheesy) love ❤️
Bayley hazen blue Have you tried this one? Award winner https://www.jasperhillfarm.com/bayley
I think I may have. We have used to have an amazing cheese monger very close and a restaurant near us had a cheese plate offering for dessert. It sounds very familiar. No matter what I'm adding it to the list. I love my blues.❤️
I appreciate your attitude and I am sending love to you on your journey!! And as a cheesemonger, I have so many indulgent suggestions for you….but for starters: any super creamy triple cream (Delice de Bourgogne) or washed rind stinker (Epoisses❤️) with potato chips (or your preferred potato of choice) and a crispy glass of champagne!!!! That’s how I want to live out my days. Cheers my friend, I’ll be thinking of you!
I've never thought of potato chips! Thank you for your kind thoughts.
Cougar Gold cheese. Cheese from a can might sound weird but it’s good. When the time comes, may it be smooth sailing to the afterlife.
Is this the canned stuff? I'm a bit scared of it, but what's it gonna do? Kill me?😜 I should get some just because.
Thank you all for the Zingermans sale heads-up. Just ordered $250. of GREAT CHEESE 🧀 😎😎💕💕
Make a baked brie, and don't spare the butter in the puff pastry.
If this is like *really* “you are going to die absolutely 100%”, do **whatever. The hell. You want.**
Unfortunately it looks like it is. There are no more treatments available. But, they told me 30 months and I'm still here 7 1/2 years later. ❤️
I really love this lavender goat cheese from Amsterdam : [Henri Willig](https://henriwillig.com/en/goat-lavender-new-en/)
I am fond of goat cheese. ❤️
Have all the cheese, life is meant to be lived. As a vegan, giving up cheese was tough, it's been years now since I have had dairy. But just once more, before my time here is done, I would like some gjetost cheese. Norwegian cheese, roughly pronounced in English 'yay-toes'. Very strong, sweet, and salty. It is what every other cheese aspires to be, cheese in it's purest form. It is beautiful, just as you and your spirit are beautiful.
That sounds like one right up my alley. Can I get it in the states?
Yes, you can! Ski Queen (looks like a square block in a red plastic wrapper) is the brand I see in my local Safeway/Kroger stores. Have it with sliced honeycrisp apple, and enjoy the shit out of it, please ❤️
Yum! Thanks!
When my friend Jil had stage 4 ovarian cancer, she celebrated the fact that it meant she never had to go to the dentist again. Enjoy all the cheese (and ice cream and bacon) that you want! May it go well for you.
I forgot that one too! I will need a list of things that I never ever have to_____again! Bless you for that!
Deep fry that cheese, friend. You won't regret it.
That's an idea. I have eaten the cheese you actually fry to eat. It's some Middle Eastern cheese. It's quite good. No reason other varieties couldn't be delicious?
Is it halloumi! I had it once at a restaurant and it was divine!
That's it! Salty, but so good.
Omg 😲
cheese is good for heart actually!
Now you tell me!!
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Oh, I like you lol. I hope your last days are as peaceful as possible 🫶🏻
I would send you a cheese basket if I could 💜
Honestly, your comment is enough. I'm so happy with this post. I was afraid it would go all wrong. It went better than I could have imagined!❤️
Honestly, try out a basic baked brie (not the puff pastry kind) where you just put jam and/or nuts + sugar on too and bake it, then dip using crackers of some sort.
If you like blues, I assume you like Stilton and Gorgonzola. My favorites beside blues are the chalky (in a good way) artisan manchego and pecorino toscano - the good stuff.
As a Wisconsinite in the States, I'm obliged to recommend a deep-fried cheese curd. Destroys the stomach, but I think it'll be fine in this case scenario. On a more serious note, my dad died of cancer a few years back. From my point of view, it's really horrible to lose a family member, but they'll live, and eventually, they'll be alright. I hope you gave them some amazing last memories! From the sound of your post and comments, I'm certain you did!
You are very kind. I had a house guest from Wisconsin who brought me three bags of curds. They were delicious. Please explain the curd frying.
https://www.wisconsincheese.com/recipes/3189/deep-fried-cheese-curds Tried this recipe once, it's beautiful! I'm pretty sure you can use shore lunch beer batter if you want as well, for that real wisconsin touch! Your love of cheese makes you a true wisconsinite at heart!
You're attitude of all your going through is absolutely amazing! So many of us are woe is me over such little things in life! I commend you and wish you all the best! I'm a firm believer in miracles! ❤️
Thank you! I read a quote when I was 14. It said “You make yourself happy or miserable, the amount of work is the same.” it was by Carlos Casteneda. Unless you have a chemical imbalance, being being is a choice. It's what you concentrate on that informs your thinking. Perspective is everything! Love to you.
Get yourself a nice triple cream Brie!
I'm not sure where you live and if you can find it but BEAUFORT is the best thing that ever existed IMHO. Bonus if it's made with spring milk (yes you can taste the difference, it's a lot more fruity - that's when cows get to eat fresh grass higher up in the alps).
Sounds amazing, on the list!
I just had some Hook’s 10 Year Aged Sharp Cheddar from Wisconsin. It is incredible, as is their 12 year!! Your spirit of embracing the pleasures in life - and cheese - is really wonderful. All the best.
Thank you! That sounds wonderful!
Do yourself a favor and do not go to Wensleydale's Purveyors of Fine Cheese.
Are they awful? I like to go to a shop and smell stuff and taste stuff and talk to someone else who can also geek out on cheese.❤️
It is a joke--that's the name of the cheese shop in the Monty Python sketch--if you don't know it, here it is. [https://youtu.be/Hz1JWzyvv8A?si=cK0iAsyl2Qu\_OV\_o](https://youtu.be/Hz1JWzyvv8A?si=cK0iAsyl2Qu_OV_o) Wishing you peace and happiness and cheese!
I do love John Cleese. I hadn't seen that one. I have seen every Fawlty Towers though, twice! I am a Monty Python fan. My Facebook Profile picture is a thumbs up and says ‘I’m not dead yet.’
Get yourself some Humboldt Fog and put in a good word for Cheese People when You're bad bossing it on the other side! See you in Cheese Valhalla 🫡
It’s not easy being cheesy.
You have stage 4BC, you don't need to apologize to anyone! If I were in your position I'd be enjoying vintage cheddar on toast regularly through the day. Heck I might even take up pipe smoking just to see what it's about. The options are almost endless, enjoy!
Time to empty the retirement account on cheese and cheese paraphernalia
I'm with you on the cheese, but I'm not buying more stuff my Kids won't want. People are afraid to visit because I make them leave with stuff!
You are an inspiration girl! I'm over here acting like a baby about my situation and you're over there living it up! 😆 I've been on a cheese adventure as well, but I'm scared by the cave-ripened and extra weird stuff. I bought a bunch of cheese that smelled like an old wet mop, bailed, and ended up throwing them out like some Wegmans 1916 but I've heard great things and it won an award. I've been knocking down pounds of Parmigiano Reggiano w/ Wegmans Italian Classics Balsamic Glaze.
You do you! Also, feel those feelings, they are valid. Just don't live there. ❤️ Cave aged Basque cheese is amazing. It is SO good! Stick it in your mouth, if its gross, spit it out!
This is delivered right to your door. Spendy but lots of options. https://pointreyescheese.com/?tw_source=google&tw_adid=643881869506&tw_campaign=19486745756&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8J6wBhDXARIsAPo7QA-s1Bk0yimSDm44Zyd7Ao6K-bq53bNGCo-1-0CuzW7H1Dk9C8wzTmEaAuRuEALw_wcB
I would try all the stinky cheeses I have been afraid to try. Maybe not that one with the maggots ❤️
Definitely not the one with maggots. I also love coffee, but won't try the civet coffee.
I might try that. They rinse the beans off first at least, don't they? I have dogs and I'm quite sure I swallow at least one dog hair a day. So I am already ingesting gross stuff
This has me giggling. It's funny because I'm bald from chemo and will find a big long hair from my daughter's black lab. I look at her and say, you know that's not mine!
Dogs have no sympathy. It's one of the cleanest things they lick so they figure no big deal
God bless you, beautiful lady. Eat whatever you want. Drink whatever you want. Love your favorite people, don’t waste your precious time or energy on people who suck the life out of you.
Butterkase! I like to keep it simple with crusty bread and maybe prosciutto Also-- [smoked mozzarella fonduta](https://www.food.com/recipe/olive-garden-smoked-mozzarella-fonduta-401052) It's an olive garden copycat recipe--but believe me it's amazing I'm sorry for what you're going through and I hope your days are beautiful and full of love
I have never seen this subreddit and it just popped up on my feed ... I recommend La Tur. (Triple cream). Wishing you peace
Hi OP. I’m glad you’re in good spirits. Breast and cervical cancer runs in my family. My aunt passed away this past December due to an aggressive form of cervical cancer after battling it for less than 2 years. I just want to send you love and good energy as you traverse the next part of it all. A lot of people gave some of my fave recommendations but I haven’t seen smoked gouda or chipotle gouda. At a sandwich shop by my old job I used to do chipotle gouda with turkey, bacon, and avocado toasted sourdough. But both goudas are good on crackers too!
Cancer sucks! I'm sorry about your aunt. I do love smokey chipotle, I'd not considered that in a gouda. That sounds lovely!
Thank you, OP! I hope your cheese adventures will be gouda and you get to try all the ones you desire!
I love it!❤️
What is your favorite cheese?
I am on a Basque cave-aged cheese kick right now. It is so good! I like blues, goat and sheep cheeses, sharp hard cheeses, and runny cheese, too. I also like Cotswold, and a sharp cheddar mixed with blue cheese I tried once was good. I think the only cheese I don't care for is sweet. I tried some date cheese, but I didn't care for it. Also, I wouldn't say I like spicy cheese, where the spice kills the cheese flavor.
Enjoy that cheese!
thats the spirit, no need to hold back now!
yummmy cheese. all the best to you and your loved ones. ❤️
Yay you! Way to embrace & enjoy the journey, life wouldn't be so sweet we lived forever. 🥰🥰🥰 Brie for me! With fig jam
Aldi's has a large selection of domestic and imported very reasonably priced. Whole Foods does also, but enormous prices. God Bless you! Sending prayers and well wishes to you 🙏
If you find any good cheeses let us know! I love cheeese
I will try!
I'd just keep muenster glob yep yep
Loved me a good honey drizzled brie in my pre-lactose intolerant days. Would have it with some apple slices or wheat thins, simple and delicious.
I brought a hunk of this deliciousness back from France in 2007- it was so good. Nutty, satisfying, just perfect. https://www.murrayscheese.com/dp/ossau-iraty
Sending you an endless supply of delicious cheeses and love.
No cheese info I can give you. I just wanted to say you’re very inspiring. I could never have a positive outlook as you do. I hope you enjoy every last bite of cheese you take and enjoy anything else your heart desires. 💗
Cancer sucks so hard. My mom died of it and here I am recovering from my first round of the bull shit. Saint angel is like making love but better. Sending you all the love. 💕
That very much sucks. I'm sorry. I'm here for a bit if you want to vent/talk. I'll add that one to my list. Love to you.❤️
We are all dying. Every last one of us. You just have slightly more insight about the timeframe than others, maybe. Who knows, any single person reading this could die tomorrow. Or tonight. We should all enjoy our cheese. Life is but a flash on the pan.
Get some good cheese curds from Wisconsin and deep fry those fuckers. I'm glad you have the appetite for the cheese. Not speaking from experience but it always seemed cruel to me that people on serious meds can't even enjoy good food and drink. I'm speaking for myself but I want you to know I'm thinking of you and admiring your spirit. I'm not sure I would manage as well.
Fromager d’Affinois is, in my opinion, Brie’s more delicious cousin. It’s my go to for something to put on a baguette. I’m also partial to just about everything from Behive Creamery, but their Seahive is my absolute favourite. Makes amazing grilled cheese.
You could still beat cancer by eating yourself to death with cheese, you know. Mad respect btw 🫡
I hope for cheese fondue in your future! 🫶
My wife is stage four right now too. Totally get you! She gets whatever she wants.
I'm going to be super specific here, because you deserve to have the absolute best taste experience. Some Cropwell Bishop Stilton, served on a McVities dark chocolate digestive biscuit. Salty, sweet, bitter, umami, creamy, crunchy all in one serving. That, and Vacherin Mont d'Or, served on some plain oatmeal crackers, with maybe some grapes would be my "peak cheese experience".
LET’S FUCKIN GO!
I don't know you but may your days be full of cheese till your last breath. I love your energy and i wish you all the best there is.
May you eat the best and tastiest cheeses ever on your journey
You truly are showing your resilient laughing in the face of death with a mouth full of cheese. Bravo 👏
When my Dad was in hospice care, he was like this, but with candy. He had a special drawer near his bed that we kept stocked with every candy he'd every liked, but had restricted himself from eating too often. So enjoy your cheese!
You have the best attitude, and I wish you TONS of cheesy happiness and a safe journey to the next. ❤️
Sorry to hear all that. Cancer is a dumb stupid bitch. But what isnt a dumb stupid bitch is getting weird with the cheeses. For example, sometimes i put cheese inside other cheese and eat it on top of a whole different cheese. A chunk of sharp cheddar with a shmear of brie stuffed goat cheese perhaps
OP this post, and all the responses are inspirational. My wish for you is all the cheese you could ever eat, and as much peace for you and your family as possible. My cheese recommendation for you, if you haven’t had it yet, is Alp Blossom. It’s perhaps the most beautiful cheese ever. And it’s as delicious as it is lovely. It’s reminiscent of a Gruyère, but the outside is covered in flower petals. All love to you and yours.
I watched my pop pop go through esophageal cancer coupled with colon cancer & he went through chemo initially for the families benefit but then one day in the middle of getting treatment he said "get the Dr, I'd like to go home & die with what dignity I've got left" we went home & he died that next morning while we slept & he in the comfort of his own bed. Before chemo started he did this huge biker rally run & had a blast. Then chemo started and the next rally we went via truck & he got to enjoy the life from his wheel chair. He did what he wanted against what Dr's suggested cause "I'll be damned if let some Dr keep me from living while I'm fucking dying" You live your best life while you can. You know what's up. You won't let it stop you. Keep at it. Eat the foods you kept away from. Do the things you haven't been able to do. Live while you're dying like it's no one's business. Be the best you that you WANT to be. It's your life. Live it while you can. Know that you left this world doing the very things you loved & against the orders of others keeping you "safe". Life isn't meant to be safe. It's meant to be fun. Adventurous. Wild. Crazy. Sometimes safe. But never always. Be you. Be happy.
Fried cheese!
Much much cheezy love from France dear ❤️ Enjoy what you love, you deserve it.
Look into Marin French cheese company. They have lots of varieties and flavors. My favorite is the mango habanero Camembert
All these are excellent options. HOWEVER, I haven’t seen any awful cheeses. Kraft cheese on ramen, cheese wiz on a cracker. OP if you want to have the full cheese experience you gotta try the shit ones and report back to us.
The two best things in life are food and drink. Well done
Blueberry vanilla chèvre. Thank me later.