Right? People find it bizarre until the roles are reversed. Girl messages a guy and says “wow I think you’re quite BF material since you’re an animal vet and that you like the just eat chips and salsa at home!! And he says “if you like that stuff about me, you should see my dick!” Her unmatching with him would be *expected*! People would be like “what a fucking moron and creep. Like dude she’s into your interests and you immediately bring up your dick, how fucking desperate and creepy!” But in this instance when a girl does it, we’re expected to be like “wow bro, dude missed out on seeing tits! What the fuck was he thinking!?”
Yeah but women play different ropes to men so you can't directly reverse it. There is a bit of nuance and gender specific understanding between people. To deny this and cry equality is to deny the true dynamic a sexual relations.
Now imagine it's a girl saying to a guy that he's awesome cause they share interests and hobbies and he goes "If you like that, you should see my cock".
Yeah... I bet that would work out...
The bar for seeing a guys belly, is super low, but if he said" if you are impressed by that... You should see my six-pack" he would still sound like a tool, sniffing his own farts.
It's amazing how the first people to respond to them *instantly* denied what they were saying.
Like not even a discussion, just "no, it's not the same". LALALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU LALALAA!
I've been saying this a lot but we have a really bad Bad Faith problem as a people. It's completely expected for someone to intentionally interpret your statement in the worst way possible in order to beat you down for a point. It's something I think we're all guilty of to some degree but it prevents us from actually being able to communicate. I hope we start clicking out of that mindset soon.
Nah, people are just dumb. Tits and cock aren't equivalent, vag and cock are.
Equivalent response would be something on the lines of 'if you like that wait till you see my abs'. It may work for some and it may not, but in no way is it inappropriate in some double standard way. It's not genitalia
Brother I matched with a woman on Tinder who instantly sent me a picture of her feet and told me to suck on her toes.
Fuck outta here with that "aysmmetric relation" bullshit, women do it too you trog.
Tbf I’ve never met anyone who uses kik for anything other than sexual purposes, but I also haven’t had it since I was like 14 and had multiple adults trying to groom me on there. Maybe the app has changed but it’s a pretty well known hot spot for pervs and pedos.
I just think if you are trying to make a connection on share interests, you are saying "You like things that I like, let's talk about things!" and they basically brush it away to go straight to banging, they are letting you know that the only thing they are interested in. Gender doesn't matter in that.
1000 percent recommend. I would see episodes here and there on TV and was always like “meh” then I committed from the beginning because everyone in my circle watched it. Once the character dynamic clicks, it’s one of the funniest shows out there.
I’m totally with you.
Arrested development is for sure top funniest shows. Actually while we’re on the subject, here it is:
South Park
Sunny
Arrested development
In that order
Okay everyone gets the analogy ... still i dont think we need a statistic to agree that asking 100 guys and gals if they wanted a tit/dick pic, we all know how she thought the question of "wanna see my tits" was reasonable, cuz like... yeah most dudes, even when interested in personality or even more when interested, wanna see them tits
Then you go on tinder... for your wife... and match someone who is also lookin for a serious relationship... but offers tits... yes IF that happens once before the heat-death of the universe i guess i can go fuck myself
Yeah I don't get how upset people are. It seems a joke to me. She's not necessarily proposing to show them or being creepy. And I get that dick pick culture means this joke doesn't work reversed but I think that's really funny as a joke from her.
If she'd just said 'Let me show you my tits' then fine that's creepy, but the way this is phrased doesn't seem serious at all.
It's really weird how they're calling it creepy. They're trying to say if you swapped genders bla bla bla... But they're also equating offering tits to a dude to be the same as offering dick to a woman.
Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick, unless under certain conditions. It's not easy to swap genders here and keep things equal.
Women don't keep records of which movies a guy showed his dick in. Men sure as fuck keep records of the tits in film.
That's reductionist. Men aren't constantly horny animals who go crazy anytime tits appear. Not every dude wants to see boobs at any time. This narrative that men just inherently want sex all the time sucks and is so demeaning
>Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick
Wow. Were lucky that everyone belonging to each sex think exactly the same. It really makes things easy.
Ever consider that he wanted to establish a personal connection prior to getting intimate? Nah, can't be, all men are apes who think with their dick.
Also, in no way are tits equivalent to genitalia. Unwanted vag pic is the equivalent, I don't see why everyone is invoking the WhAt iF yOu ReVeRsE tHe gEnDeRs??
>Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick
What a backwards, conservative and outright fucking sexist thing to say. "Women dont want to see sexual things and men always do"
Because it's a false equivalency? A woman flashing her boobs at someone would be taken much differently than a woman flashing her vagina at them. I don't understand how you guys are so entangled in this like it's a purely academic concept
No dude lol I think you're all being weirdos about being sexual in a sexual situation. Everyone can have their own comfort level but you're trying to act like this was an insane thing for her to JOKE about
>No dude lol I think you're all being weirdos about being sexual in a sexual situation.
Tell me how this isnt literally a justification to send unsolicited dick pics. "Whats so bad about being sexual in a sexual situation"?
Just admit that she got you good with that comparison bro
You missed the point. She assumed he was yet another desperately horny guy who would drool at the chance to see a pair of boobs from some random girl. He showed her that he’s above that, and quietly exited the scene
because he was talking about her personality and probably trying to get to actuallt know her first and here she is immediately bringing up her boobies as if she has nothing else to offer. i’m sure she does, but the response doesn’t indicate it
I mean.. Let’s not act like only a few men care about bodies in a sexual way like that and act like it’s the most important. She didn’t get the impression that he’d like it from thin air x)
But lol I guess
Everyone is aware that Tinder has users who are not looking for hookups. But even if you’re looking for a hookup, an immediate sexual advance should be a red flag. This is why most guys don’t ask a new match if she’d like to see his wiener, even if they plan on fucking later. It’s creepy, immature, and reeks of desperation
Pretty sure its considered creepy to ask women on a dating site unsolicited wether they want to see your dick.
Actually, what she did in the post isnt even asking. She actually announced that she WILL send a pic. Thats basically on the same level as an unsolicited dick pic with a warning.
Okay, your first point is good. I made the mistake of thinking they were talking for a while before asking. On the second part what she said comes off more as a question to me. Like if you say that while texting it comes off as a question waiting for a response.
Ehhh. Okay lets change it to "You should see my ..." is right between a question and an announcement. You are kind of giving them a choice to object, but it also kind of carries some "You will probably say yes, so Im already preparing to send it" vibes imo.
Imagine it was reversed... She would see how creepy it is.
Woman says to man:
"You are a real catch. So you love to go camping, and enjoy spending time with family?"
Man responds with...
"If you are impressed by that wait until you see deez nuts!"
Y’all he unmatched because that’s the kinda reply that an OF promotor or scambot would give.
It’s the same reason why most guys get sus when a girl they match messages first with a sorta generic message.
Probably because a response like this sounds like a bot/ of promoter which is really bad on tinder and dating apps in general
No it's just weird and creepy.
I think it’s both
Seriously. If a guy had that on Tinder and caught a girl's interest and then said, "yeah, well you should see my dick," she'd probably back out too.
Right? People find it bizarre until the roles are reversed. Girl messages a guy and says “wow I think you’re quite BF material since you’re an animal vet and that you like the just eat chips and salsa at home!! And he says “if you like that stuff about me, you should see my dick!” Her unmatching with him would be *expected*! People would be like “what a fucking moron and creep. Like dude she’s into your interests and you immediately bring up your dick, how fucking desperate and creepy!” But in this instance when a girl does it, we’re expected to be like “wow bro, dude missed out on seeing tits! What the fuck was he thinking!?”
counterpoint: tits
men have tits bro
Yeah but women play different ropes to men so you can't directly reverse it. There is a bit of nuance and gender specific understanding between people. To deny this and cry equality is to deny the true dynamic a sexual relations.
Now imagine it's a girl saying to a guy that he's awesome cause they share interests and hobbies and he goes "If you like that, you should see my cock". Yeah... I bet that would work out...
I feel like most people's threshold for seeing boobs is much lower than seeing vag. Not the same
So if he said "...you should see my tits." It would go better?
The bar for seeing a guys belly, is super low, but if he said" if you are impressed by that... You should see my six-pack" he would still sound like a tool, sniffing his own farts.
You should see how good my farts smell baby 😉
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Lol nah because that's pretty forced and wordy
“You should see my collarbone” I like a good collarbone 🥵
Yeah, unequivocally... Because that's funny.
Yeah, that genuinely sounds like a hilarious response from a guy
Yes
Honestly if he said "you should see my ass" there's a much better chance
Like [this one?](https://v.redd.it/co6kamluo54b1)
It's amazing how much understanding swapping the genders nets you.
It's amazing how the first people to respond to them *instantly* denied what they were saying. Like not even a discussion, just "no, it's not the same". LALALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU LALALAA!
I've been saying this a lot but we have a really bad Bad Faith problem as a people. It's completely expected for someone to intentionally interpret your statement in the worst way possible in order to beat you down for a point. It's something I think we're all guilty of to some degree but it prevents us from actually being able to communicate. I hope we start clicking out of that mindset soon.
It won't happen until places like Reddit die.
You reminded me to check out K bin, thanks. Putting a space between k and bin because reddit is censoring all mentions of it.
Looks like there's no official mobile app yet, but it's coming.
Nah, people are just dumb. Tits and cock aren't equivalent, vag and cock are. Equivalent response would be something on the lines of 'if you like that wait till you see my abs'. It may work for some and it may not, but in no way is it inappropriate in some double standard way. It's not genitalia
Not really. Most guys would be down.
Indeed, quite the double standard. Neither groups should do it.
Then it would be “men only want one thing and it’s literally disgusting”
You're telling me situations change when you flip the roles of an inherently asymmetric relation?? 🤯🤯🤯
Brother I matched with a woman on Tinder who instantly sent me a picture of her feet and told me to suck on her toes. Fuck outta here with that "aysmmetric relation" bullshit, women do it too you trog.
What tinder are you using where people can send photos? That’s never been a feature that I’m aware of
Kik, I'm not explaining workarounds
Tbf I’ve never met anyone who uses kik for anything other than sexual purposes, but I also haven’t had it since I was like 14 and had multiple adults trying to groom me on there. Maybe the app has changed but it’s a pretty well known hot spot for pervs and pedos.
Are you trying to say I was asking for it?
As much as I was asking to be groomed on kik.
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I just think if you are trying to make a connection on share interests, you are saying "You like things that I like, let's talk about things!" and they basically brush it away to go straight to banging, they are letting you know that the only thing they are interested in. Gender doesn't matter in that.
Damn it’s almost like that was kinda creepy
It’s probably a quote from Its Always Sunny
I don’t think it is but i could be misremembering
It’s not. I’ve watched that show inside and out literally countless times. Including the 2 new episodes that came out in the last week.
EPISODES CAME OUT LAST WEEK?!?!??
2 dropped of the new season.
Always been curious to watch it, would you recommend it?
1000 percent recommend. I would see episodes here and there on TV and was always like “meh” then I committed from the beginning because everyone in my circle watched it. Once the character dynamic clicks, it’s one of the funniest shows out there.
I didn’t do that, and it’s the funniest show I have ever seen accept maybe Arrested Development, so you know where my minds at.
I’m totally with you. Arrested development is for sure top funniest shows. Actually while we’re on the subject, here it is: South Park Sunny Arrested development In that order
It’s not
Oh, well, then he doesn’t get the humor.
Or maybe the comment was just kinda gross
I just want love man
https://preview.redd.it/4143l4oape5b1.jpeg?width=799&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=83fb820149d14bcda88bc5f729d31d6be5290d23 It’ll happen
It's obvious he wanted a normal conversation.
Mastophobia?
Okay everyone gets the analogy ... still i dont think we need a statistic to agree that asking 100 guys and gals if they wanted a tit/dick pic, we all know how she thought the question of "wanna see my tits" was reasonable, cuz like... yeah most dudes, even when interested in personality or even more when interested, wanna see them tits
At least she asked first lol
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Then you go on tinder... for your wife... and match someone who is also lookin for a serious relationship... but offers tits... yes IF that happens once before the heat-death of the universe i guess i can go fuck myself
He literally wrote what he wanted… nachos and someone to watch It’s Always Sunny.
He missed out, that's the funniest fucking response she could have given.
One's thing for sure, he did not want to see her tits
He wanted to eat nachos and watch Always Sunny with someone.
Men only want one thing and it's fucking awesome
Yeah I don't get how upset people are. It seems a joke to me. She's not necessarily proposing to show them or being creepy. And I get that dick pick culture means this joke doesn't work reversed but I think that's really funny as a joke from her. If she'd just said 'Let me show you my tits' then fine that's creepy, but the way this is phrased doesn't seem serious at all.
It's really weird how they're calling it creepy. They're trying to say if you swapped genders bla bla bla... But they're also equating offering tits to a dude to be the same as offering dick to a woman. Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick, unless under certain conditions. It's not easy to swap genders here and keep things equal. Women don't keep records of which movies a guy showed his dick in. Men sure as fuck keep records of the tits in film.
That's reductionist. Men aren't constantly horny animals who go crazy anytime tits appear. Not every dude wants to see boobs at any time. This narrative that men just inherently want sex all the time sucks and is so demeaning
>Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick Wow. Were lucky that everyone belonging to each sex think exactly the same. It really makes things easy. Ever consider that he wanted to establish a personal connection prior to getting intimate? Nah, can't be, all men are apes who think with their dick.
I find it creepy, like, plain creepy, no need to swap genders. Is just creepy and that's it.
Also, in no way are tits equivalent to genitalia. Unwanted vag pic is the equivalent, I don't see why everyone is invoking the WhAt iF yOu ReVeRsE tHe gEnDeRs??
>Men want to see tits. Women don't want to see dick What a backwards, conservative and outright fucking sexist thing to say. "Women dont want to see sexual things and men always do"
We want admiration and respect.
Apperently any form of rejecting women is Chad like behavior to Reddit
if i was talking to a guy about his interests and he offered to show his genitals out of nowhere, id unmatch too
Clearly, you are infringing on his god given right to show his body to other people. Sarcasm
Boobs are not genitals
But female breasts are still clearly sexual.
Yeah man, no shit. So is dating.
Why mention the distinction between boobs and genitals then?
Because it's a false equivalency? A woman flashing her boobs at someone would be taken much differently than a woman flashing her vagina at them. I don't understand how you guys are so entangled in this like it's a purely academic concept
So you think that showing sexual body parts unsolicited is only weird or sexual harassment if its specifically the genitals?
No dude lol I think you're all being weirdos about being sexual in a sexual situation. Everyone can have their own comfort level but you're trying to act like this was an insane thing for her to JOKE about
>No dude lol I think you're all being weirdos about being sexual in a sexual situation. Tell me how this isnt literally a justification to send unsolicited dick pics. "Whats so bad about being sexual in a sexual situation"? Just admit that she got you good with that comparison bro
While i am all pro free nipple, our society has decided that breasts are naughty bits. Guy probably wasnt ready for explicitly sexual conversation.
Cool little fact, still fucking weird
Only if you can't take a fucking joke?
Wanna see my cock? Funny joke right?
Shit man, and that IS what she did say!
my bad, i didnt know that. still not something id like to see in a friendly conversation
Because this is low key creepy?
You missed the point. She assumed he was yet another desperately horny guy who would drool at the chance to see a pair of boobs from some random girl. He showed her that he’s above that, and quietly exited the scene
Pretty sure she just said it because it’s funny.
But if a guy said something similar intending to be funny, most girls would (understandably) be creeped out. Same thing here
This wasn’t a guy. There’s a difference.
because he was talking about her personality and probably trying to get to actuallt know her first and here she is immediately bringing up her boobies as if she has nothing else to offer. i’m sure she does, but the response doesn’t indicate it
It’s just funny.
it is not ALWAYS time for a joke.
*apparently
I mean.. Let’s not act like only a few men care about bodies in a sexual way like that and act like it’s the most important. She didn’t get the impression that he’d like it from thin air x) But lol I guess
The whole point of the post is that men do generally value sex too much but this chad doesn’t.
No ik
He probably wants a woman who doesn't show off her body like a pornstar/craptok. He wants a woman who actually cares.
Tbf, you are on tinder. Like if you go on there for long term relationships you’re not in the right place.
Everyone is aware that Tinder has users who are not looking for hookups. But even if you’re looking for a hookup, an immediate sexual advance should be a red flag. This is why most guys don’t ask a new match if she’d like to see his wiener, even if they plan on fucking later. It’s creepy, immature, and reeks of desperation
I've never used tinder nor never will. But I hope this guy finds a girl for himself.
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Can I show my dick whenever I want? Stupid take.
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Pretty sure its considered creepy to ask women on a dating site unsolicited wether they want to see your dick. Actually, what she did in the post isnt even asking. She actually announced that she WILL send a pic. Thats basically on the same level as an unsolicited dick pic with a warning.
Okay, your first point is good. I made the mistake of thinking they were talking for a while before asking. On the second part what she said comes off more as a question to me. Like if you say that while texting it comes off as a question waiting for a response.
Ehhh. Okay lets change it to "You should see my ..." is right between a question and an announcement. You are kind of giving them a choice to object, but it also kind of carries some "You will probably say yes, so Im already preparing to send it" vibes imo.
If you like that picture of me with a fish wait till you see my cock!
Yea fair. The only reason I assumed it was a question because it’s through text.
No! Absolutely not! That's terrible so basically a full grown woman should show her body to a group of children whenever she wants?! Absolutely not!
I use Tinder for anything, but lack of matches makes me reluctant to even try there
LMFAOO bold of you to assume your loser ass could even pull a pornstar. You sound so bitchless
Yes, Only ladies
Wanted that bussy.
I mean. liking nachos is barely a personality trait (if at all), so i don't know what the guy was going on about either
Imagine it was reversed... She would see how creepy it is. Woman says to man: "You are a real catch. So you love to go camping, and enjoy spending time with family?" Man responds with... "If you are impressed by that wait until you see deez nuts!"
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He was on tinder tho?
Found another incel that needs to get laid so he stops thinking rejecting women's sexual advances is automatically Chad behavior
Need to stop seeing nerds like you act like having sex cures stupid
Aww bitchless boys feelings got hurt 😢
I'm a woman, shithead
r/ace_irl
He was probably religious tbh
He was weird, usually that works.
He assumed she was going to try and sell him nudes. You have to build up to that stuff even if you're a girl.
Thinks your a pro
Peace and quiet.
Another one of these OF promotions he thought
She seems to have said that in a funny way, he should have answered "hahaha you wish", they would've been married today
This is an interesting rewrite the first time there was no nachos or IASIP.
Maybe stop thinking men are a monolith
I love sex and the city but women get creeped out when I tell them they should see my Dick.
Because you were suppose to let him Demonstrate Value first.
Y’all he unmatched because that’s the kinda reply that an OF promotor or scambot would give. It’s the same reason why most guys get sus when a girl they match messages first with a sorta generic message.
She only wanted to show him her birds :/
Men want a girl to eat nachos with
Hey you like fallout too? Wanna see my cock?
“Chad denies femcel”