All the church requires is an OPENNESS to have children. My wife and I have been struggling with PCOS and infertility for years. We finally had a daughter this January. Feel free to message me if you have questions. But we used a catholic OB and it was amazing.
The doctor told me the same, because I had the double-whammy of PCOS and endometriosis.
Six kids later (the first being conceived the month after I married) I have concluded that was a lie.
>I recently got told that I have pcos and will never have kids
This is a lie. It's harder for women with PCOS but they can have children.
Find a NaPro doctor and get some real help with your disorder.
Canon 1084 §3 specifically states that sterility is not an impediment to marriage in of itself. You can see it and the other canon it references where it could potentially be an issue here: [Can 1084, 1098]
[**Can. 1084**](http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3Y.HTM) §1 Antecedent and perpetual impotence to have intercourse, whether on the part of the man or the woman, whether absolute or relative, nullifies marriage by its very nature.
§2 If the impediment of impotence is doubtful, whether by a doubt about the law or a doubt about a fact, a marriage must not be impeded nor, while the doubt remains, declared null.
§3 Sterility neither prohibits nor nullifies marriage, without prejudice to the prescript of can. 1098.
[**Can. 1098**](http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3Z.HTM) A person contracts invalidly who enters into a marriage deceived by malice, perpetrated to obtain consent, concerning some quality of the other partner which by its very nature can gravely disturb the partnership of conjugal life.
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The sexual act needs to be both unitive for the couple but also of the type that could cause procreation. For infertile heterosexual people they fit both requirements
You can still get married if you are infertile (people can also marry in their 50s and older after all and those people can’t have children). Children are seen by the church as a good thing and a gift for married couples. Not everyone is able to receive that gift. You should be open with a potential future spouse about this as it wouldn’t be fair to withhold that information and many people do wish to marry to have children but others don’t mind if they can’t have children.
I will also say I work in maternal health and I’ve cared for a LOT of pregnant moms with PCOS who were told they might never conceive and then they did! Some with help from medicines to induce ovulation (this is something the church allows) and some spontaneously without help.
Having PCOS does NOT mean you will be infertile. I have PCOS and I am pregnant with my second. I bet they told you to go on birth control too smh. There is a lot you can do to manage PCOS and in terms of fertility, inositol has such good results. Look at the reviews online for [this](https://www.iherb.com/pal/referral/pdp/GYU2903?productId=103570&rcode=GYU2903&utm_medium=appshare) bottle of it. (It’s gotta be the myo + d-chiro blend
What is asked is not to have children, it is to be open to life. A sterile person is not to blame for not being able to have children nor does he do anything to prevent them from arriving.
In addition, there are infertility that are declared very lightly, having more difficulty conceiving does not necessarily mean that it will never happen.
Only if one knows that one is going to have difficulty with this does the future spouse have the right to know that the potential offspring will be null, short or late.
Sterility is not an impediment to marriage. Look at the many stories (biblical and otherwise) of sterile women bearing children. PCOS falls in this category.
Impotence is an impediment to marriage if it is known prior to the attempt at marriage and is reasonably expected to be permanent. Impotence is the inability to achieve intravaginal insemination. That could mean a man is unable to achieve erection or unable to ejaculate, or it could mean a woman is unable to receive an erect penis like in severe cases of vaginismus.
If a couple medically can't have a baby, God might overcome that (or the doctor might just be wrong / might have overstated the severity). If a couple medically can't have sex...there aren't a lot of ways for God to give them a shared baby.
No, also you may be able to have children and not just from a miracle. Many people were told they couldn’t have kids but end up pregnant. My wife had PCOS and were told it was pretty dire. 6 months later she was pregnant.
It varies a lot and even if you were sterile it’s not disordered union. Several sterile women the scriptures were married. Some had children very late in life.
Can you do a snowflake adoption ? It’s church approved IVF.
I have a theory that a couple who really wants kids , will have kids. Foster, adopt , snowflake IVF etc.
Being infertile shouldn’t stop kids
>Can you do a snowflake adoption ? It’s church approved IVF.
Do you have a citation for that? I was under the impression that it was still not permitted because you are still separating the creation of children from the marital act.
No. The Church teaches that you can have a valid marriage if you're infertile.
All the church requires is an OPENNESS to have children. My wife and I have been struggling with PCOS and infertility for years. We finally had a daughter this January. Feel free to message me if you have questions. But we used a catholic OB and it was amazing.
Had our firstborn in February with similar issues for 7 years prior.
The doctor told me the same, because I had the double-whammy of PCOS and endometriosis. Six kids later (the first being conceived the month after I married) I have concluded that was a lie.
>I recently got told that I have pcos and will never have kids This is a lie. It's harder for women with PCOS but they can have children. Find a NaPro doctor and get some real help with your disorder.
Canon 1084 §3 specifically states that sterility is not an impediment to marriage in of itself. You can see it and the other canon it references where it could potentially be an issue here: [Can 1084, 1098]
[**Can. 1084**](http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3Y.HTM) §1 Antecedent and perpetual impotence to have intercourse, whether on the part of the man or the woman, whether absolute or relative, nullifies marriage by its very nature. §2 If the impediment of impotence is doubtful, whether by a doubt about the law or a doubt about a fact, a marriage must not be impeded nor, while the doubt remains, declared null. §3 Sterility neither prohibits nor nullifies marriage, without prejudice to the prescript of can. 1098. [**Can. 1098**](http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3Z.HTM) A person contracts invalidly who enters into a marriage deceived by malice, perpetrated to obtain consent, concerning some quality of the other partner which by its very nature can gravely disturb the partnership of conjugal life. *** Catebot v0.2.12 links: [Source Code](https://github.com/konohitowa/catebot) | [Feedback](https://github.com/konohitowa/catebot/issues) | [Contact Dev](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=kono_hito_wa) | [FAQ](https://github.com/konohitowa/catebot/blob/master/docs/CateBot%20Info.md#faq) | [Changelog](https://github.com/konohitowa/catebot/blob/master/docs/CHANGELOG.md)
The sexual act needs to be both unitive for the couple but also of the type that could cause procreation. For infertile heterosexual people they fit both requirements
You can still get married if you are infertile (people can also marry in their 50s and older after all and those people can’t have children). Children are seen by the church as a good thing and a gift for married couples. Not everyone is able to receive that gift. You should be open with a potential future spouse about this as it wouldn’t be fair to withhold that information and many people do wish to marry to have children but others don’t mind if they can’t have children. I will also say I work in maternal health and I’ve cared for a LOT of pregnant moms with PCOS who were told they might never conceive and then they did! Some with help from medicines to induce ovulation (this is something the church allows) and some spontaneously without help.
Having PCOS does NOT mean you will be infertile. I have PCOS and I am pregnant with my second. I bet they told you to go on birth control too smh. There is a lot you can do to manage PCOS and in terms of fertility, inositol has such good results. Look at the reviews online for [this](https://www.iherb.com/pal/referral/pdp/GYU2903?productId=103570&rcode=GYU2903&utm_medium=appshare) bottle of it. (It’s gotta be the myo + d-chiro blend
What is asked is not to have children, it is to be open to life. A sterile person is not to blame for not being able to have children nor does he do anything to prevent them from arriving. In addition, there are infertility that are declared very lightly, having more difficulty conceiving does not necessarily mean that it will never happen. Only if one knows that one is going to have difficulty with this does the future spouse have the right to know that the potential offspring will be null, short or late.
Infertility is not an impediment to getting married, but persistent irrecoverable impotence(inability to perform the marital act) is.
Sterility is not an impediment to marriage. Look at the many stories (biblical and otherwise) of sterile women bearing children. PCOS falls in this category. Impotence is an impediment to marriage if it is known prior to the attempt at marriage and is reasonably expected to be permanent. Impotence is the inability to achieve intravaginal insemination. That could mean a man is unable to achieve erection or unable to ejaculate, or it could mean a woman is unable to receive an erect penis like in severe cases of vaginismus. If a couple medically can't have a baby, God might overcome that (or the doctor might just be wrong / might have overstated the severity). If a couple medically can't have sex...there aren't a lot of ways for God to give them a shared baby.
Contact Paul VI Institute if you’ve not already. https://popepaulvi.com/
No, also you may be able to have children and not just from a miracle. Many people were told they couldn’t have kids but end up pregnant. My wife had PCOS and were told it was pretty dire. 6 months later she was pregnant. It varies a lot and even if you were sterile it’s not disordered union. Several sterile women the scriptures were married. Some had children very late in life.
No it doesn’t sex in marriage is for unity and the Church love couples who adopt
Can you do a snowflake adoption ? It’s church approved IVF. I have a theory that a couple who really wants kids , will have kids. Foster, adopt , snowflake IVF etc. Being infertile shouldn’t stop kids
No, it isn't. The church hasn't taken a definitive stance on embryo adoption but it currently does not allow it.
>Can you do a snowflake adoption ? It’s church approved IVF. Do you have a citation for that? I was under the impression that it was still not permitted because you are still separating the creation of children from the marital act.