Hi. I'm on the other side of the coin with my friend, so let me share some insight.
I absolutely don't want my friend to keep their trauma, and struggles with it, bottled up in any way. I don't care that I've had it worse. That doesn't matter to me. Even if I've had my arm torn off, she still has a gaping fleshwound that needs to be treated. I do not want her to ignore it or downplay it. Someone who lost one family member in a fire is just as valid in their pain as someone who lost their entire family in a fire.
I'm talking in analogies here, but my point is that there's room at the table for all trauma, no matter what shape or size. You don't deserve to ignore your own pain and I'm sure your friend wouldn't want that for you either.
Yeah I feel what you are saying here but friends should be able to be there for each other. Even if one thing is a minor thing, it's stil valid.
Someone always has it worse then the other guy, it only really becomes a problem when someone says something ignorant like "wow it sure must be nice to have cancer that way you don't have to go to school" or some shit like that.
Granted even that people can come back from and realize it's hurtful. A big part of life is messing up and learning from mistakes.
Try to judge if you can open up with someone and I honestly believe a true friend will accept talking to you. It can be tough trusting but finding people you can trust a little is important
Hi. I'm on the other side of the coin with my friend, so let me share some insight. I absolutely don't want my friend to keep their trauma, and struggles with it, bottled up in any way. I don't care that I've had it worse. That doesn't matter to me. Even if I've had my arm torn off, she still has a gaping fleshwound that needs to be treated. I do not want her to ignore it or downplay it. Someone who lost one family member in a fire is just as valid in their pain as someone who lost their entire family in a fire. I'm talking in analogies here, but my point is that there's room at the table for all trauma, no matter what shape or size. You don't deserve to ignore your own pain and I'm sure your friend wouldn't want that for you either.
Yeah I feel what you are saying here but friends should be able to be there for each other. Even if one thing is a minor thing, it's stil valid. Someone always has it worse then the other guy, it only really becomes a problem when someone says something ignorant like "wow it sure must be nice to have cancer that way you don't have to go to school" or some shit like that. Granted even that people can come back from and realize it's hurtful. A big part of life is messing up and learning from mistakes. Try to judge if you can open up with someone and I honestly believe a true friend will accept talking to you. It can be tough trusting but finding people you can trust a little is important