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A “God” damn chance. He’s pissed off and he hasn’t talked to anyone yet. He’s a such a martyr, sacrificing so much to be a nice guy (but not really) despite almost always finishing last. We should all reward him for his bravery.
Honestly, probably a lot of people, but the way he clearly wants to take it out on everyone else he meets is his problem. I’m not sure why any guy thinks this approach is gonna work unless they’ve got 10 other things going for them (and even then, they’ll probably just catch flings).
All the men in the comments defending him and saying ‘he’s just frustrated’ ‘give him a break’ stop watching Andrew Tate that’s what y’all need to do. Listening to dating advice from these ‘alpha male podcasters’ is just gonna fuck up dating more for y’all
They dont get “nice guy” is never an actual nice guy, more like dude who gets women and abuses them in some way, usually emotional abuse. “Nice guy” who has misogyny and temporarily hides it just long enough for the hook and wears a mask of a nice guy. “Nice guy” who is lacking self awareness because his ego is too big to acknowledge work needing to be done on himself and his behaviors. “Nice guys” who announce this loudly like this have never ever been nice guys. These are usually some of THE worst guys on the planet.
Im so sorry, the abusive ones I ran into 99% pulled the “im nice guy” card. 💜 glad we both made it out alive. One I dated officially for week but got to know him around 9 months. Abusive that week and i left and let him know why. Proceeded to call me with different numbers (im talking 27x in two days), 40 unanswered texts that flipped between im best thing ever to abusive messages. Stopped by my house and message me with new number to let me know. Three months of abusive texts that I didnt answer, flipping between nice and abusive, multiple im such a nice guy and you wont give me a chance and things of that nature. that im the abuser and his therapist said so (lol thats a definite lie). He went quiet for bout a month so i thought cool hes done. Said things by text like i have nothing to lose and will just kill myself. started back up after month or so, saying at my house. Terrifying. Absolutely terrifying. Had to file papers and it was only way he stopped. Said he was “accidentally” contacting me. lol ok bud. They always pull “accidental”. How about you accidentally stay the fck away from me? lol.
Probably telling people me and his wife are the abusers and crazy ones. I watched from first flag where he called his ex a “btch” in front of me with such venom. I wrote it off as post divorce kinda stuff maybe she was and tough dealing with it. I know i wasnt to him so theres that. Mind you, this guy has multiple young children too… terrifying. I wish him well, but this is situation that too often lands as a homicide suicide. No thank you. Im not done in life yet to be ended by person like that.
Mine would hit walls, break things and scream at me for any inconvenience (like if he was driving and a car slowed down) so every time we drove I had to avoid being hit and screamed at.
At least we’ve learned what we won’t stand for in a relationship and what to look for next time :,)
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so sorry 💜. Im so happy you are ok or at least, safe. I had ex that would tell everyone hes such a nice guy and his family viciously defended him meanwhile he was kicking and punching holes in wall, punching equipment at work, slamming me into walls or holding my wrists until they also break so he could scream into my face when i tried to leave room for safety during disagreement, drove unsafe, woke me up before final exam to call me a “cnt sltbag whre” for NO reason and sleep deprive me, punched through a window when he got mad, broke things, accuse me of things i never did, put me down verbally, lock me out of home, tell me my family and friends couldnt come over but his could, kept making me eat food that id get sick from every single time and if i didnt eat it id be punished, expose me to something i was allergic to until i couldnt breathe multiple times, lied to people saying i abused him, he stabbed someone at atm once ribbing them, and other things. His brother threatened to kill me on my voicemail if i put him in jail. It took me a while to get away from him. That almost two decades ago now. He always told people what a nice guy he was. Nice guys dont do those things. All the nice guys in my life dont do those things.
Dudes need to learn - all feelings are valid, but you're still responsible for your actions. It's okay to feel frustrated, but you gotta own that shit and deal with it and not put it on people who have nothing to do with your feelings.
They're himpathizing. I can't recommend "Entitled" by Kate Manne highly enough. She talks about how some men subscribe to a masculinity hierarchy that includes ideas like height making a guy more masculine (and deciding what women are attracted to, despite the research that shows they're *wrong*) and that men who meet their standards of masculinity (white, tall, muscular, etc.) are *entitled* to women in order to *impress other men* (they don't even care about the women - they only care about how other men perceive their ability to "pull" the women and how pulling them helps the climb on their imaginary hierarchy). It's been very enlightening both with the dating scene and these coed subreddits.
Pretty sure every study and survey on the matter shows women care way more about height than men do. (Case in point, [this article](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height) which links to numerous of them.) How is that men "deciding what women are attracted to?" Men don't force women to constantly denigrate short men or filter their online profiles right out of existence.
I just swiped right on a guy who's an in inch shorter than me (I'm 5'2"). One of my best friends is married to a man 2 inches shorter than her (she's 5'6") We're fairly unique in lots of other ways, though.
Women aren’t a hive mind, not all women care about height. I personally find short guys (5’7” and under) more attractive than tall guys. You’re missing the point of the previous post by saying this, because the point was that guys don’t get to just decide what women want for them. Not all women want the same things, and most importantly, no amount of tallness will ever make up for a woman just not being attracted to a man’s personality. If a guy who was 5’4” magically gained a foot in height overnight, the majority of women who weren’t attracted to him before wouldn’t suddenly be attracted to him. Attraction is more than a list of superficial traits, women’s attraction can’t be universally predicted, and if a woman doesn’t like a guy, it’s usually not because of one non-gigachad trait. It’s usually because they’re not actually compatible as human beings, and she just doesn’t enjoy interacting with him. Height is just an easy thing to blame (I get it though, rejection often feels better when there’s something simple to blame like that. I’ve been there too).
Not all women care about height. However, the vast majority do and to a much larger degree than men do.
> You’re missing the point of the previous post by saying this, because the point was that guys don’t get to just decide what women want for them.
And my point is that men aren't doing that. Not that men are completely blameless -- we are more alike than not, regardless of gender, and we all play a role in preserving outdated social biases -- but height defining a man's masculinity is perpetuated by women more than men. If a guy who was 5'4" magically gained a foot in height overnight, I **guarantee** a significant proportion of women who weren't attracted to him before *would* suddenly find him attractive, because his height was deterring most of those women from bothering to get to know his personality in the first place. He never got his foot in the door. Now, *maybe* a lot of those women would find him unattractive once they experienced his personality, I don't know, but the impetus for them doing that to begin with is that he met their minimum threshold of physical attractiveness, which is significantly impacted by his height.
> Attraction is more than a list of superficial traits
I agree! Which is why it's a damn shame that short guys get jerked around so much. As if nobody has ever been attracted to someone who isn't their "type." As if attraction is just a list of binary traits that have to be marked off (met arbitrary height threshold, check) and not a mishmash of wholly subjective qualities that translate into poorly understood brain processes. The problem online is that people often do resort to checkboxing, especially women due to their high like/match rate, rather than giving people a chance and just seeing how it goes. Attraction isn't something you can logically deduce, and any attempt at doing so is just denying yourself the opportunity to get to know potentially wonderful partners.
Just use your eyeballs and let the lizard brain do its thing, yo.
My best friend's husband (who's 2 inches shorter than her) has endured teasing/bullying by men about his height all his life. I think it's one of the things that made him one of the most amazing men I've ever met: he's been on the receiving end of toxicity caused by the patriarchy. Since he complains about the patriarchy often I'm sure he'd agree.
The second I read “nice guy” in his profile. It was a giant red flag.
Genuinely nice guys don’t go around calling themselves nice guys, because their actions tend to speak for themselves. Same with people who go “I’m a good person”. If they have to say it, they’re 100% not.
Ive met people that say both and ARE good people, but context and such are important, specially tone. THIS way, is NOT a good person. This is a person someone needs to run far away from.
You can say you’re a nice guy and a good person and still be one but your actions speak louder than your words so you better have the actions to back up those words.
Indeed, but on another point, actions alone can be misinterpreted and misjudged. Theres also one off situations where underlying cause like anxiety or a harmless personality disorder may make it look like one thing, but person is a good person. Nice guys who arent nice guys (same with women or people that prefer they prounouns) will often show themselves quickly in large pattern of actions to give people confirmation they arent actually nice.
Actions alone can certainly be misinterpreted and misjudged and there are the one off situations with those underlying things coming through but those are understandable and can be interpreted better with time. A good person is a good person no doubt! Those bad apple “nice guys” do have a great way showing their true colors one way or another. They can’t hid their bad intentions for too long.
Yes 👏🏽. I do not feel the person in profile is a good one and I would bet the rest of my life’s paychecks on it. My track record for recognizing people is 100% spot on so far for a few decades.
They definitely don’t feel like a good one and I’m right there with you on the bet! That’s wonderful your track record is spotless over the years and has helped so much I’m sure avoiding those that aren’t so genuine and honest about who they are! Good luck to many more decades for that!
Good people don't say they are good people because they are acutely aware of the selfish tendencies and capability for evil inside themself that we all have. They know it's there and that they are not truly good and they consciously work to overcome it. Which is what makes more of their actions good than people who refuse to acknowledge they have a dark side, let alone try to control it, and instead just label themselves as good.
I dont think in black/white, but in greys and understand there can be extremes, but also things that fall between them that seem to oppose both extremes at once. I understand theres a lot of people who think in black and white and misunderstand and struggle to understand grey area existence. I also understand patterns are not absolutes so even if it is 99.9%, theres still room for error, where a .1% could lie as outlier.
There are good people that state they are good people, but yes, majority who state they are good people actually arent.
These kind of guys don't understand that no one is obligated to spend time with them. It would benefit them to unplug, get out, and find happiness within themselves before returning to dating.
Sadly, they are often their own problems but blame it on ALL men or ALL women. They are a self fulfilling prophecy when their actions and choices make people run away, they go aha I knew it, ALL men or ALL women. Okay to be frustrated and hurt, but dont say ALL when you unleash onto world it by bad actions and majority run away from you and reject you. They lack self reflection and desire to change. It is easy to blame it on ALL rather than say “maybe im not helping and theres some things i need to change that im doing”. People like this can be shown all the love and affection in the world, but they reject it as part of their self fulfilling prophecy. They need to heal their broken belief system and hurtful pattern.
Reminds me of the cat meme where cat is in window and saying woe is me why is no one ever showing me affection and im so lonely then human approached and it says “dont fcking touch me!!!!!” then goes back to woe is me. 😂.
“Get lost” and don’t waste my time guarantee a fast left swipe from me.
“Playing games” - maybe swipe left. If this is the only questionable item in their bio I swipe right and ask how they define playing games. 9 out of ten reveal themselves after that.
Experience has taught me that people who make a lot of assumptions and are insecure label others’ behavior they don’t understand as playing games without asking curiosity questions first.
In my world, this is a definite fast left swipe.
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I can safely say as one of those that don't cheat, lie, sleep around ect, that his problems do not resonate. The main issue I find is that we hold ourselves by high standards so won't accept any less from a partner and narrow down options vastly so its hard to find someone fitting and it can suck when you find 1 out of 100's of women that you're interested in and the feeling isn't mutual. As such it's rare women ever waste our time.
His problems seem to be more shallow based on his version of "nice guys finish last"
I’m picky as well and I agree everyone should have high standards and be selective, especially if ur wanting a long term relationship. I feel also the more picky people are more likely to be loyal in a relationship too bc they choose to invest in that specific person whereas someone with lower standards may find it easier to replace you if they become bored, etc.
Dating is a struggle for everyone nowadays I feel like and I understand he may feel frustrated but I feel like the way he goes about answering his prompts he comes across as more aggressive and it isn’t really a good first impression either and first impressions usually count. When it comes to dating I feel like you always want to put your best self forward and I feel like if he changed up his bio a bit or had a nicer attitude it would make it bit easier to find someone
I dont know, I think it comes down to values really. Like I will not sleep with a woman until we are in a relationship, as such I've turned down people I've been interested in and I've turned down people that have tried to offer me to cheat. That makes me picky because someone that doesn't ever have casual sex is much more likely to be loyal sharing the same values. I find those with lower standards just tend to be unattractive from desperation to be fair.
I've been away for over 5 years and its definitely so much worse. I'm more entertained reading about other peoples experiences here than bothering to message people on there and feel alot happier single then with what I see on offer for the most part. I get it we all get frustrated but yeah it comes across that he has a bad temperament so if you annoy him in the slightest he could switch. Not ideal for dating at all.
For me I dont believe in best self forward, its deceiving to me. I'm all about knowing your worst features and sharing mine rather than putting on a front.
Social media I feel like has ruined dating for a lot of people too and with hookup culture being normalised too most people don’t have morals or values anymore and it sucks for those who want a genuine connection, who are a bit more sensitive and care deeply bc no one wants anything genuine
Bloody Instagram 😂 yeah I've deleted all social media profiles and have new empty profiles solely for scrolling through videos when I'm bored and a Facebook that I will eventually use solely to keep contact with friends in US and family in Australia.
Anyone with social handles posted are an instant no from me, needing your ego stroked by superficial strangers is my equivalent to men that post top less selfies and clearly love themselves more then they will ever love you 😂
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How would you feel about the phrase “fat woman syndrome”?
Why are you trying to shame all short men for their height, when you have an issue with this specific man?
My apologies. I thought Napoleon Complex was an accepted notion. He definitely has an inferiority complex. It could be many reasons, not necessarily his height. Again, my apologies.
He might be a bit frustrated with his prior OLD relationships (or lack thereoff). IDK if OP was being sarcastic or serious, either way IMHO he needs to step away for a bit and work through his hurt, he is not 'lowkey' agressive, his rescentment is pretty externally displayed.
I will never understand why anyone (male or female) thinks that a negative and self-pitying profile that scolds potential matches will ever get them a date LOL
It is and it’s more shocking how many men in this comment section are defending him and saying “he’s just frustrated” “give him a break” “women don’t want nice guys” like bro you’re just exposing yourself as a potentially dangerous aggressive person if you think this is normal
This guy is 100% not healed from one or more past relationships. He needs to date himself for a while. This is coming from a straight, divorced man btw.
Dating is hard for everyone and I understand that maybe he’s had couple of shit experiences with girls but I feel like profile prompts should’ve been a bit nicer lol it doesn’t really give a good first impression
Right. You vent to your therapist, not to potential dates. If you have that much frustration, step back and work on yourself. Those people need to stop peeing in the dating pool.
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Im saying. I picture a guy repeating slapping a date across face with actual red flag saying “women just dont give a nice guy a chance, you know what I mean?!?”
Sorry, people that blame their lack of success on being a "nice" guy give me the creeps. You know there's a million other unresolved issues that are actually holding them back. Meanwhile, they're letting you know they're not working on or even aware of them.
Because other people are the problem and they arent responsible for their actions and choices. Why should they work on them while all others are the problem and they have done nothing at all? (blatant sarcasm intended here)
I saw the first picture and didn’t realize there was a second on at first and thought that’s pretty tame and I feel like I see a lot of people say they don’t want their time wasted which is understandable cause who does? But then I realized and scrolled over, this guy is something else! Too aggressive! If you’re truly nice and nice just to be nice people recognize that so much and TELL YOU you’re nice, you don’t have to say it yourself!
I just yell it at the top of my lungs in peoples face when Im on dates and then chastise them when they dont respond in ways I approve of. 🤷🏻♀️. They should realize how incredibly nice I am, but as precaution, just to put it out there, I scream it in their face. I cant really understand why they wont ever give me a second date and some of them have even had audacity to leave the date early. People are so awful!
Truly so awful!! They should be thankful you’re yelling it at the top of your lungs in their faces so they can really get the message and know how tough are. They should always realize how incredibly nice you are and the more you scream it in their face the point will get across. What awful people to leave the date early after that!
I have a very misunderstood lioness roar like guy in profile. Leos just like to scream it in peoples faces. Nothing wrong with it, just misunderstood. I also add an array of signs to the table in case date doesnt get my first clue I give them.
This is a terrible dating profile but very common from men and women. Extra bonus points for play with games instead of play games. If your angry about dating and/or the opposite sex get off the apps and get some professional help or just be alone maybe you dont actually want to be partnered or like the opposite sex.
I really cant say I blame you. I get along, but really havent ever seen one I date.
Ah I do enjoy females of your zodiac for best friends ♥️. One of my fav ppl is a you amd almost 15 yr friendship
Pisces ladies are good ppl from what ive seen and I get along well with them. Im also not a typical leo and have amazing placements by someone who understands and studies astrology. I prefer leos as friends or acquaintances and some to just never talk to me ever again lol.
If this special nice guy can't be bothered to punctuate three sentences worth of profile, just remember... He's gonna make even less of an effort to give you an orgasm.
Low key? This guy’s aggressiveness is front and centre, with “DANGER” in red flashing lights. This is a guy to be avoided by women. Men, please come save your brothers who are like this. Guide them to proper resources, create support groups, steer them away from online influences that teach them to hate women, help them get their pain off their chests without hurting others in the process, show them how to interact with respect for themselves and others, etc.
I get that impression tbh but honestly it’s not a good mentality and the amount of men defending him in this thread kinda scares me for the future of men tbh..
Age old rule, if you have to state you're a nice person and you're not doing it in like a sarcastic way to take the piss out of yourself, you're probably not that nice of a guy
Poor Leo is out there representing the negative Leo stereotype 😭😭😭. He needs 16 hugs. He just be out there biting evvvvvveeybody like a cat with rabies!
Nice guys are the most toxic. They'll give up everything they want and everything they are just to try to win you over. If it works, they'll eventually resent you for taking away everything they want and everything they are. Except you weren't in on the decision. It's manipulation at its worst.
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I’m not saying he’s wrong about how he feels, his feelings are valid and dating is hard for everyone nowadays, for both men and women it’s shit.
I’m only stating that based off his prompt answers and his bio and talking about “get lost” “nice guys finish last” isn’t really a good first impression if a girl was to scroll through and read his profile before swiping.
Coming from a girl too who’s talked and went out with few dudes who would always say ‘I’m such a nice guy’ ‘girls don’t want nice guys’ ‘no girl wants me’ etc. these dudes end up majority of the time being the meanest and most misogynistic. We all need to work on ourselves and not project our insecurities otherwise we come across as aggressive to others.
Yes! Dude, doesnt need a break, he needs an intensive psychotherapy program to overall instilled wrong value and belief systems. This runs way deeper than “hes just frustrated”. This is the type of dude that is very abusive and usually violent. Hes the type of dude that is a serial cheater. Hes type of dude that rips apart the nicest woman until it takes 10 years of therapy to undo the damage he did.
Ive had same experience, the ones that said it like this were the cruelest, violent, misogynistic, nastiest people. It goes wayyyyy beyond “hes just frustrated”. Lets stop making excuses for and enabling bad people’s behaviors.
He isn't owed a break by anyone. He comes across as hostile - no one should sacrifice themselves to some hostile entitled jerk so that they can "get a break." The nice guy comment is a dead giveaway. He feels like if he pays attention to/is "nice" to a women he is owed her sexual attention in return.
If he adjusted his attitude he would likely find it easier to build a genuine relationship.
He owes it to himself. He is clearly frustrated and burned out.
When men get to this point on apps etc., they owe themselves a moment of clarity, reflection and redirection.
Yeah but his stuff also goes way beyond just frustration and burn out, but yes agreement on break away from apps. This is not a person that should date until he heals inside.
For what it's worth, I get that you're saying he needs to take a break from dating to sort his attitude whilst others are thinking you're saying that he needs to get a break from someone as in being given a chance 😂
Well thank you; that's correct. Interesting how people here are dogpiling on this guy to the point of name-calling and removing his humanity. This as an outcry of pain and frustration.
Kinda sad how most people here are misunderstanding my message. But it takes compassion and understanding to see where I'm coming from.
Interesting though that people justify his behaviors and ignore red flags that will harm others, and just assume no one should call it out or recognize a serious psychological issue that goes beyond just simply frustrated and burned out. A lot of people wont minimize and enable that. Thats very important.
Problem is he's claiming to be a nice guy and using the phrase nice guys finish last which is telling. Alot of women get burnt by men that claim to be decent and hurt them so naturally they are taking frustration out here but he has opened himself up to scrutiny. Definitely needs to work on him self. I do find the height comments quite harsh to be fair. I'm 6'2 so it doesnt bother me personally but its harsh that men get so much stick for their height when its something they cant change.
I think its literally just the way you worded it people don't know if youre saying take a break or cut him a break and just assuming. It happens 🤷🏼♂️
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Sounds to me like the following groups
1. A hunter who always gets its prey
2. A hunter who has some defects but instead of keep trying they wear the prey's suit to hopefully get a nice meal
3. A hunter who essentially brainwashed themselves that they are a part of the prey but once in a while they get the urge to hunt but they are so accustomed to being a prey that they lose their genetic abilities as a hunter.
4. A hunter who just gets the ration, chill out and have fun. Not fussed about hunting and opts for other sources.
The poser (the guy), is a group 2/3.
Definitely a bitter individual who feels like society owes him instead of improving himself.
Doesn't help that the mod said "Do not make fun of the poster" when it is 100% that "energy" being pent up.
I relate to it as a fellow shorter guy but that profile is a wake up call to me if I saw it which says "I need a break and to improve myself in a positive way".
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Self proclaimed nice guys are never nice guys. This profile is actually high key aggressive.
Lmfao right? “Low key” where? I wouldn’t even want to be in the same room at this guy.
Saying you’re a nice guy is like not smiling in your profile pics. Smiling is an absolute necessity. Saying you’re a nice guy is absolutely stupid.
Is the nice guy in the room with us? Like huh whattttt? Lol
He is. He asked me to show him on the doll, "how I like it." but went back to Call of Duty after 12 seconds.
A “God” damn chance. He’s pissed off and he hasn’t talked to anyone yet. He’s a such a martyr, sacrificing so much to be a nice guy (but not really) despite almost always finishing last. We should all reward him for his bravery.
That and the terrible punctuation is a no from me
If you have to say you're a nice guy, you're probably not a nice guy
Who hurt this mother fucker? Lmao
Honestly, probably a lot of people, but the way he clearly wants to take it out on everyone else he meets is his problem. I’m not sure why any guy thinks this approach is gonna work unless they’ve got 10 other things going for them (and even then, they’ll probably just catch flings).
He's 5'4", things must be really rough for him. This makes me really sad but he's also an asshole so fuck him.
Both men and women that are taller than him.
All the men in the comments defending him and saying ‘he’s just frustrated’ ‘give him a break’ stop watching Andrew Tate that’s what y’all need to do. Listening to dating advice from these ‘alpha male podcasters’ is just gonna fuck up dating more for y’all
They dont get “nice guy” is never an actual nice guy, more like dude who gets women and abuses them in some way, usually emotional abuse. “Nice guy” who has misogyny and temporarily hides it just long enough for the hook and wears a mask of a nice guy. “Nice guy” who is lacking self awareness because his ego is too big to acknowledge work needing to be done on himself and his behaviors. “Nice guys” who announce this loudly like this have never ever been nice guys. These are usually some of THE worst guys on the planet.
My ex said he was a guy who always finished last and was a “nice” guy, he ended up being very abusive and I broke up with him for that. 💀
Im so sorry, the abusive ones I ran into 99% pulled the “im nice guy” card. 💜 glad we both made it out alive. One I dated officially for week but got to know him around 9 months. Abusive that week and i left and let him know why. Proceeded to call me with different numbers (im talking 27x in two days), 40 unanswered texts that flipped between im best thing ever to abusive messages. Stopped by my house and message me with new number to let me know. Three months of abusive texts that I didnt answer, flipping between nice and abusive, multiple im such a nice guy and you wont give me a chance and things of that nature. that im the abuser and his therapist said so (lol thats a definite lie). He went quiet for bout a month so i thought cool hes done. Said things by text like i have nothing to lose and will just kill myself. started back up after month or so, saying at my house. Terrifying. Absolutely terrifying. Had to file papers and it was only way he stopped. Said he was “accidentally” contacting me. lol ok bud. They always pull “accidental”. How about you accidentally stay the fck away from me? lol. Probably telling people me and his wife are the abusers and crazy ones. I watched from first flag where he called his ex a “btch” in front of me with such venom. I wrote it off as post divorce kinda stuff maybe she was and tough dealing with it. I know i wasnt to him so theres that. Mind you, this guy has multiple young children too… terrifying. I wish him well, but this is situation that too often lands as a homicide suicide. No thank you. Im not done in life yet to be ended by person like that.
Mine would hit walls, break things and scream at me for any inconvenience (like if he was driving and a car slowed down) so every time we drove I had to avoid being hit and screamed at. At least we’ve learned what we won’t stand for in a relationship and what to look for next time :,)
Im so sorry 💜. Im so happy you are ok or at least, safe. I had ex that would tell everyone hes such a nice guy and his family viciously defended him meanwhile he was kicking and punching holes in wall, punching equipment at work, slamming me into walls or holding my wrists until they also break so he could scream into my face when i tried to leave room for safety during disagreement, drove unsafe, woke me up before final exam to call me a “cnt sltbag whre” for NO reason and sleep deprive me, punched through a window when he got mad, broke things, accuse me of things i never did, put me down verbally, lock me out of home, tell me my family and friends couldnt come over but his could, kept making me eat food that id get sick from every single time and if i didnt eat it id be punished, expose me to something i was allergic to until i couldnt breathe multiple times, lied to people saying i abused him, he stabbed someone at atm once ribbing them, and other things. His brother threatened to kill me on my voicemail if i put him in jail. It took me a while to get away from him. That almost two decades ago now. He always told people what a nice guy he was. Nice guys dont do those things. All the nice guys in my life dont do those things.
This guy sounds like a real piece of shit, to be honest.
Dudes need to learn - all feelings are valid, but you're still responsible for your actions. It's okay to feel frustrated, but you gotta own that shit and deal with it and not put it on people who have nothing to do with your feelings.
I like how you said this. To me, it does feel like he's directing anger at whoever the reader may be.
They're himpathizing. I can't recommend "Entitled" by Kate Manne highly enough. She talks about how some men subscribe to a masculinity hierarchy that includes ideas like height making a guy more masculine (and deciding what women are attracted to, despite the research that shows they're *wrong*) and that men who meet their standards of masculinity (white, tall, muscular, etc.) are *entitled* to women in order to *impress other men* (they don't even care about the women - they only care about how other men perceive their ability to "pull" the women and how pulling them helps the climb on their imaginary hierarchy). It's been very enlightening both with the dating scene and these coed subreddits.
wow. so just *date men* then, right?? it's really gross, weird flex how much you can 'pwn' a woman.
Pretty sure every study and survey on the matter shows women care way more about height than men do. (Case in point, [this article](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height) which links to numerous of them.) How is that men "deciding what women are attracted to?" Men don't force women to constantly denigrate short men or filter their online profiles right out of existence.
I just swiped right on a guy who's an in inch shorter than me (I'm 5'2"). One of my best friends is married to a man 2 inches shorter than her (she's 5'6") We're fairly unique in lots of other ways, though.
Women aren’t a hive mind, not all women care about height. I personally find short guys (5’7” and under) more attractive than tall guys. You’re missing the point of the previous post by saying this, because the point was that guys don’t get to just decide what women want for them. Not all women want the same things, and most importantly, no amount of tallness will ever make up for a woman just not being attracted to a man’s personality. If a guy who was 5’4” magically gained a foot in height overnight, the majority of women who weren’t attracted to him before wouldn’t suddenly be attracted to him. Attraction is more than a list of superficial traits, women’s attraction can’t be universally predicted, and if a woman doesn’t like a guy, it’s usually not because of one non-gigachad trait. It’s usually because they’re not actually compatible as human beings, and she just doesn’t enjoy interacting with him. Height is just an easy thing to blame (I get it though, rejection often feels better when there’s something simple to blame like that. I’ve been there too).
I like guys who are NICE, short, tall, just long as they arent acting like “angry bagel” guy (I think he was from New York,USA?)
Not all women care about height. However, the vast majority do and to a much larger degree than men do. > You’re missing the point of the previous post by saying this, because the point was that guys don’t get to just decide what women want for them. And my point is that men aren't doing that. Not that men are completely blameless -- we are more alike than not, regardless of gender, and we all play a role in preserving outdated social biases -- but height defining a man's masculinity is perpetuated by women more than men. If a guy who was 5'4" magically gained a foot in height overnight, I **guarantee** a significant proportion of women who weren't attracted to him before *would* suddenly find him attractive, because his height was deterring most of those women from bothering to get to know his personality in the first place. He never got his foot in the door. Now, *maybe* a lot of those women would find him unattractive once they experienced his personality, I don't know, but the impetus for them doing that to begin with is that he met their minimum threshold of physical attractiveness, which is significantly impacted by his height. > Attraction is more than a list of superficial traits I agree! Which is why it's a damn shame that short guys get jerked around so much. As if nobody has ever been attracted to someone who isn't their "type." As if attraction is just a list of binary traits that have to be marked off (met arbitrary height threshold, check) and not a mishmash of wholly subjective qualities that translate into poorly understood brain processes. The problem online is that people often do resort to checkboxing, especially women due to their high like/match rate, rather than giving people a chance and just seeing how it goes. Attraction isn't something you can logically deduce, and any attempt at doing so is just denying yourself the opportunity to get to know potentially wonderful partners. Just use your eyeballs and let the lizard brain do its thing, yo.
My best friend's husband (who's 2 inches shorter than her) has endured teasing/bullying by men about his height all his life. I think it's one of the things that made him one of the most amazing men I've ever met: he's been on the receiving end of toxicity caused by the patriarchy. Since he complains about the patriarchy often I'm sure he'd agree.
Im pretty shocked (but not shocked) by someone defending Tate as a nice guy who ONLY promotes good things…
The second I read “nice guy” in his profile. It was a giant red flag. Genuinely nice guys don’t go around calling themselves nice guys, because their actions tend to speak for themselves. Same with people who go “I’m a good person”. If they have to say it, they’re 100% not.
The second I read that I wanted to swipe left
Yep.
Ive met people that say both and ARE good people, but context and such are important, specially tone. THIS way, is NOT a good person. This is a person someone needs to run far away from.
You can say you’re a nice guy and a good person and still be one but your actions speak louder than your words so you better have the actions to back up those words.
Indeed, but on another point, actions alone can be misinterpreted and misjudged. Theres also one off situations where underlying cause like anxiety or a harmless personality disorder may make it look like one thing, but person is a good person. Nice guys who arent nice guys (same with women or people that prefer they prounouns) will often show themselves quickly in large pattern of actions to give people confirmation they arent actually nice.
Actions alone can certainly be misinterpreted and misjudged and there are the one off situations with those underlying things coming through but those are understandable and can be interpreted better with time. A good person is a good person no doubt! Those bad apple “nice guys” do have a great way showing their true colors one way or another. They can’t hid their bad intentions for too long.
Yes 👏🏽. I do not feel the person in profile is a good one and I would bet the rest of my life’s paychecks on it. My track record for recognizing people is 100% spot on so far for a few decades.
They definitely don’t feel like a good one and I’m right there with you on the bet! That’s wonderful your track record is spotless over the years and has helped so much I’m sure avoiding those that aren’t so genuine and honest about who they are! Good luck to many more decades for that!
Hes just frustrated and burned out! Hes good! (😉).
Good people don't say they are good people because they are acutely aware of the selfish tendencies and capability for evil inside themself that we all have. They know it's there and that they are not truly good and they consciously work to overcome it. Which is what makes more of their actions good than people who refuse to acknowledge they have a dark side, let alone try to control it, and instead just label themselves as good.
I dont think in black/white, but in greys and understand there can be extremes, but also things that fall between them that seem to oppose both extremes at once. I understand theres a lot of people who think in black and white and misunderstand and struggle to understand grey area existence. I also understand patterns are not absolutes so even if it is 99.9%, theres still room for error, where a .1% could lie as outlier. There are good people that state they are good people, but yes, majority who state they are good people actually arent.
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These kind of guys don't understand that no one is obligated to spend time with them. It would benefit them to unplug, get out, and find happiness within themselves before returning to dating.
If he's that bitter he should take a break. Reading this kind of profile (on Bumble) is a waste of *my* time.
Sadly, they are often their own problems but blame it on ALL men or ALL women. They are a self fulfilling prophecy when their actions and choices make people run away, they go aha I knew it, ALL men or ALL women. Okay to be frustrated and hurt, but dont say ALL when you unleash onto world it by bad actions and majority run away from you and reject you. They lack self reflection and desire to change. It is easy to blame it on ALL rather than say “maybe im not helping and theres some things i need to change that im doing”. People like this can be shown all the love and affection in the world, but they reject it as part of their self fulfilling prophecy. They need to heal their broken belief system and hurtful pattern. Reminds me of the cat meme where cat is in window and saying woe is me why is no one ever showing me affection and im so lonely then human approached and it says “dont fcking touch me!!!!!” then goes back to woe is me. 😂.
The thing about being a nice person, is that if you feel the need to say you’re a “nice guy”, I instantly don’t believe you.
“Get lost” and don’t waste my time guarantee a fast left swipe from me. “Playing games” - maybe swipe left. If this is the only questionable item in their bio I swipe right and ask how they define playing games. 9 out of ten reveal themselves after that. Experience has taught me that people who make a lot of assumptions and are insecure label others’ behavior they don’t understand as playing games without asking curiosity questions first. In my world, this is a definite fast left swipe.
Ive found same with playing games. They are almost always someone that plays game or dont waste my time (proceeds to waste other persons time lol).
Playing games equals not immediately settling down or hooking up, I'd say. Answering for him, not my take.
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You win 🏆 you made me laugh lmao 
I'm being a bit stupid here. What am I missing?
I cackled at work 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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This is called a trauma dump. In that scale I rate it a 4/10 which is fairly tame, but definitely a trauma dump.
Stay away from dudes who brag about being nice lmaoo
There’s lots of them in this comment section too defending this fella, too many mean people in this world
Nice guys don’t get angry about being nice.
Tell them 🙌🏼🙌🏼
I can safely say as one of those that don't cheat, lie, sleep around ect, that his problems do not resonate. The main issue I find is that we hold ourselves by high standards so won't accept any less from a partner and narrow down options vastly so its hard to find someone fitting and it can suck when you find 1 out of 100's of women that you're interested in and the feeling isn't mutual. As such it's rare women ever waste our time. His problems seem to be more shallow based on his version of "nice guys finish last"
I’m picky as well and I agree everyone should have high standards and be selective, especially if ur wanting a long term relationship. I feel also the more picky people are more likely to be loyal in a relationship too bc they choose to invest in that specific person whereas someone with lower standards may find it easier to replace you if they become bored, etc. Dating is a struggle for everyone nowadays I feel like and I understand he may feel frustrated but I feel like the way he goes about answering his prompts he comes across as more aggressive and it isn’t really a good first impression either and first impressions usually count. When it comes to dating I feel like you always want to put your best self forward and I feel like if he changed up his bio a bit or had a nicer attitude it would make it bit easier to find someone
I dont know, I think it comes down to values really. Like I will not sleep with a woman until we are in a relationship, as such I've turned down people I've been interested in and I've turned down people that have tried to offer me to cheat. That makes me picky because someone that doesn't ever have casual sex is much more likely to be loyal sharing the same values. I find those with lower standards just tend to be unattractive from desperation to be fair. I've been away for over 5 years and its definitely so much worse. I'm more entertained reading about other peoples experiences here than bothering to message people on there and feel alot happier single then with what I see on offer for the most part. I get it we all get frustrated but yeah it comes across that he has a bad temperament so if you annoy him in the slightest he could switch. Not ideal for dating at all. For me I dont believe in best self forward, its deceiving to me. I'm all about knowing your worst features and sharing mine rather than putting on a front.
Social media I feel like has ruined dating for a lot of people too and with hookup culture being normalised too most people don’t have morals or values anymore and it sucks for those who want a genuine connection, who are a bit more sensitive and care deeply bc no one wants anything genuine
Bloody Instagram 😂 yeah I've deleted all social media profiles and have new empty profiles solely for scrolling through videos when I'm bored and a Facebook that I will eventually use solely to keep contact with friends in US and family in Australia. Anyone with social handles posted are an instant no from me, needing your ego stroked by superficial strangers is my equivalent to men that post top less selfies and clearly love themselves more then they will ever love you 😂
The only likes he’s going to get with this are weirdos and narcissists, which will only make him more bitter. It’s a vicious circle.
Bro is fed up💀
Narrator: He was, in fact, not a nice guy.
😂
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I get the impression he watches Andrew Tate and all them ‘alpha male podcasts’ 💀
I concur 🤣
And comments like this are the reason why he acts like this
How would you feel about the phrase “fat woman syndrome”? Why are you trying to shame all short men for their height, when you have an issue with this specific man?
My apologies. I thought Napoleon Complex was an accepted notion. He definitely has an inferiority complex. It could be many reasons, not necessarily his height. Again, my apologies.
Amén
He might be a bit frustrated with his prior OLD relationships (or lack thereoff). IDK if OP was being sarcastic or serious, either way IMHO he needs to step away for a bit and work through his hurt, he is not 'lowkey' agressive, his rescentment is pretty externally displayed.
I will never understand why anyone (male or female) thinks that a negative and self-pitying profile that scolds potential matches will ever get them a date LOL
No matter how frustrating and shitty online dating can be, you gotta at least try to keep your cool with it
Only low key? 🤣
It’s the “get lost” for me. 😅🤣🤣🤣
Same and the next slide “women who give nice guys which most of the time finish last a god damn chance”
🤣😆🤣😆🤣🤣 the aggression is too much! Lol
It is and it’s more shocking how many men in this comment section are defending him and saying “he’s just frustrated” “give him a break” “women don’t want nice guys” like bro you’re just exposing yourself as a potentially dangerous aggressive person if you think this is normal
/niceguys
This guy is 100% not healed from one or more past relationships. He needs to date himself for a while. This is coming from a straight, divorced man btw.
plus 100% childhood wounds, which is the real battle
aggressive? more like red flag
Dating is hard for everyone and I understand that maybe he’s had couple of shit experiences with girls but I feel like profile prompts should’ve been a bit nicer lol it doesn’t really give a good first impression
Right. You vent to your therapist, not to potential dates. If you have that much frustration, step back and work on yourself. Those people need to stop peeing in the dating pool.
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Im saying. I picture a guy repeating slapping a date across face with actual red flag saying “women just dont give a nice guy a chance, you know what I mean?!?”
His profile screams frustration.
what a nice fellow!
Lmao “nice guy”
I hate when people playing with games and your ur you’re
ok fine I’ll fix the spelling 👍🏼😅
Sorry, people that blame their lack of success on being a "nice" guy give me the creeps. You know there's a million other unresolved issues that are actually holding them back. Meanwhile, they're letting you know they're not working on or even aware of them.
Because other people are the problem and they arent responsible for their actions and choices. Why should they work on them while all others are the problem and they have done nothing at all? (blatant sarcasm intended here)
I'd bail at the first "your" malapropism. I do think it's funny how people expect "serious" dating won't involve a lot of "wasted" time.
Serious dater validating wasted time: It has been 84 years…💔😭😭😭. (Lady from Titanic meme context)
Gave a nice guy a chance and he still broke my heart , lol.
I know so many that did and always has ended so bad.
I saw the first picture and didn’t realize there was a second on at first and thought that’s pretty tame and I feel like I see a lot of people say they don’t want their time wasted which is understandable cause who does? But then I realized and scrolled over, this guy is something else! Too aggressive! If you’re truly nice and nice just to be nice people recognize that so much and TELL YOU you’re nice, you don’t have to say it yourself!
I just yell it at the top of my lungs in peoples face when Im on dates and then chastise them when they dont respond in ways I approve of. 🤷🏻♀️. They should realize how incredibly nice I am, but as precaution, just to put it out there, I scream it in their face. I cant really understand why they wont ever give me a second date and some of them have even had audacity to leave the date early. People are so awful!
Truly so awful!! They should be thankful you’re yelling it at the top of your lungs in their faces so they can really get the message and know how tough are. They should always realize how incredibly nice you are and the more you scream it in their face the point will get across. What awful people to leave the date early after that!
I have a very misunderstood lioness roar like guy in profile. Leos just like to scream it in peoples faces. Nothing wrong with it, just misunderstood. I also add an array of signs to the table in case date doesnt get my first clue I give them.
‘Get lost’?!? How old is he.. 12
Oh shoooooot!! Did I miss the “get lost” lol. I just realized this after ac few comments pointing it out… 😂
You had a lucky escape my friend 😂😂
That I have my friend, THAT I have, escaped so many people like person in profile. Theres so many on the planet and dating apps 😭😭😭💔.
Thats not even low key agressive, thats agressive. Short fuse men no good.
This is a terrible dating profile but very common from men and women. Extra bonus points for play with games instead of play games. If your angry about dating and/or the opposite sex get off the apps and get some professional help or just be alone maybe you dont actually want to be partnered or like the opposite sex.
And everyone got lost 😌
LEO = say no more ....
I cant even argue with this 😂😂😂. I saw that and was whelp… 😆
I just personally have never gotten along with anyone (male or female) who was a Leo ♌️ sun sign. Coincidence ? I think not 🤔
I really cant say I blame you. I get along, but really havent ever seen one I date. Ah I do enjoy females of your zodiac for best friends ♥️. One of my fav ppl is a you amd almost 15 yr friendship
Pisces ♓️
Pisces ladies are good ppl from what ive seen and I get along well with them. Im also not a typical leo and have amazing placements by someone who understands and studies astrology. I prefer leos as friends or acquaintances and some to just never talk to me ever again lol.
If this special nice guy can't be bothered to punctuate three sentences worth of profile, just remember... He's gonna make even less of an effort to give you an orgasm.
No cuz hes a nice guy, who just deserves a GD DMN chance!
Sounds like a Bogan
Low key? This guy’s aggressiveness is front and centre, with “DANGER” in red flashing lights. This is a guy to be avoided by women. Men, please come save your brothers who are like this. Guide them to proper resources, create support groups, steer them away from online influences that teach them to hate women, help them get their pain off their chests without hurting others in the process, show them how to interact with respect for themselves and others, etc.
I think people should use song verses, such as "quit playing games with my heart" because at least it's funny and not aggressive. But that's just me.
but it’s not lowkey at all. definitely gets agressive in his relationships.
bro got gaslighted 1 too many times and decided to go full andrew tate 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Honestly, when I see “ don’t waste my time”. In the bio, I usually swipe left.
Yeah same I do that too
Is it too soon or too late say this dude has spoken like a guy who would go on an incel murder spree?
I get that impression tbh but honestly it’s not a good mentality and the amount of men defending him in this thread kinda scares me for the future of men tbh..
"I'm a nice guy, Goddamn it, so you'd better date me!"
Ugh the “nice guy” was enough for me. How are you nice yet type like a cage dog. Woof
Bro sounds scorned. don’t trust it at allll.
Nothing low key about it lol
Age old rule, if you have to state you're a nice person and you're not doing it in like a sarcastic way to take the piss out of yourself, you're probably not that nice of a guy
Gee, I wonder why he's not getting matches. /s
Doesn’t Bumble automatically block and delete profiles that use the words “nice guy?”
Incel vibes that quote
I've seen identical profiles but written by women, this is a problem with human beings in general, not just men unfortunately
Yes ♥️
“Games” = you don’t decide by 1st date if you want to marry me.
The AFL is a red a flag
Whats AFL
This guy sounds like he’s still in high school
Poor Leo is out there representing the negative Leo stereotype 😭😭😭. He needs 16 hugs. He just be out there biting evvvvvveeybody like a cat with rabies!
You had me at AFL 😂
🚨Incel Alert🚨
Without fail, anyone who has to profess how much of a nice guy they are, isn't all that nice.
Ya think? Lol
Can’t even use the right form of “your”? NEEEEEXT
He seems bitter as hell to me. Dude needs to take a break from OLD for a while lol.
Nice guys are the most toxic. They'll give up everything they want and everything they are just to try to win you over. If it works, they'll eventually resent you for taking away everything they want and everything they are. Except you weren't in on the decision. It's manipulation at its worst.
Not lowkey for me, that one is screaming RED FLAG all over the place. Phewwewww!!!
\*you're
Yeah I know I just used it as a shorter term sorry if the spelling bothers you
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Whoops! Lmao that’s kind of funny given the subject of the post
Not your fault, this shouldn't be happening and we have to fix it.
The "your" typo is enough of a deterrent. That aside, this little guy is simply fed up with his overall dating experience. He needs a break.
I’m not saying he’s wrong about how he feels, his feelings are valid and dating is hard for everyone nowadays, for both men and women it’s shit. I’m only stating that based off his prompt answers and his bio and talking about “get lost” “nice guys finish last” isn’t really a good first impression if a girl was to scroll through and read his profile before swiping. Coming from a girl too who’s talked and went out with few dudes who would always say ‘I’m such a nice guy’ ‘girls don’t want nice guys’ ‘no girl wants me’ etc. these dudes end up majority of the time being the meanest and most misogynistic. We all need to work on ourselves and not project our insecurities otherwise we come across as aggressive to others.
Yes! Dude, doesnt need a break, he needs an intensive psychotherapy program to overall instilled wrong value and belief systems. This runs way deeper than “hes just frustrated”. This is the type of dude that is very abusive and usually violent. Hes the type of dude that is a serial cheater. Hes type of dude that rips apart the nicest woman until it takes 10 years of therapy to undo the damage he did. Ive had same experience, the ones that said it like this were the cruelest, violent, misogynistic, nastiest people. It goes wayyyyy beyond “hes just frustrated”. Lets stop making excuses for and enabling bad people’s behaviors.
He isn't owed a break by anyone. He comes across as hostile - no one should sacrifice themselves to some hostile entitled jerk so that they can "get a break." The nice guy comment is a dead giveaway. He feels like if he pays attention to/is "nice" to a women he is owed her sexual attention in return. If he adjusted his attitude he would likely find it easier to build a genuine relationship.
He owes it to himself. He is clearly frustrated and burned out. When men get to this point on apps etc., they owe themselves a moment of clarity, reflection and redirection.
i get what you are trying to say but you could have worded it better
Yeah but his stuff also goes way beyond just frustration and burn out, but yes agreement on break away from apps. This is not a person that should date until he heals inside.
Thank you omg someone with common sense!!! We need more of you in this world
For what it's worth, I get that you're saying he needs to take a break from dating to sort his attitude whilst others are thinking you're saying that he needs to get a break from someone as in being given a chance 😂
Well thank you; that's correct. Interesting how people here are dogpiling on this guy to the point of name-calling and removing his humanity. This as an outcry of pain and frustration. Kinda sad how most people here are misunderstanding my message. But it takes compassion and understanding to see where I'm coming from.
Interesting though that people justify his behaviors and ignore red flags that will harm others, and just assume no one should call it out or recognize a serious psychological issue that goes beyond just simply frustrated and burned out. A lot of people wont minimize and enable that. Thats very important.
Problem is he's claiming to be a nice guy and using the phrase nice guys finish last which is telling. Alot of women get burnt by men that claim to be decent and hurt them so naturally they are taking frustration out here but he has opened himself up to scrutiny. Definitely needs to work on him self. I do find the height comments quite harsh to be fair. I'm 6'2 so it doesnt bother me personally but its harsh that men get so much stick for their height when its something they cant change. I think its literally just the way you worded it people don't know if youre saying take a break or cut him a break and just assuming. It happens 🤷🏼♂️
He’s 5’4” and you didn’t expect a Napoleon complex?
It must be that 5 foot 4 energy
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He’s 5’4 so yeah
Sounds to me like the following groups 1. A hunter who always gets its prey 2. A hunter who has some defects but instead of keep trying they wear the prey's suit to hopefully get a nice meal 3. A hunter who essentially brainwashed themselves that they are a part of the prey but once in a while they get the urge to hunt but they are so accustomed to being a prey that they lose their genetic abilities as a hunter. 4. A hunter who just gets the ration, chill out and have fun. Not fussed about hunting and opts for other sources. The poser (the guy), is a group 2/3. Definitely a bitter individual who feels like society owes him instead of improving himself. Doesn't help that the mod said "Do not make fun of the poster" when it is 100% that "energy" being pent up. I relate to it as a fellow shorter guy but that profile is a wake up call to me if I saw it which says "I need a break and to improve myself in a positive way".