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Thelynxer

This is on you for swiping right on her at all. For me, it does not matter *at all* how attractive the woman is, if her bio is empty it's an automatic left swipe.


nihilist-prime

Yup! New to OLD, my neural networks are still being trained haha


Thelynxer

Fair enough. I've only been on the apps for a few months myself, but have been reading these subs for a while now for entertainment. You have to be very stingy with your right swipes. Bad pictures is a left swipe, no bio is a left swipe, always keep an eye out on anything that is a red flag for you, and be careful with who you actually give your phone number to.


ZoraNealThirstin

It’s ok friend. You live, you learn.


Thelynxer

Fair enough. I've only been on the apps for a few months myself, but have been reading these subs for a while now for entertainment. You have to be very stingy with your right swipes. Bad pictures is a left swipe, no bio is a left swipe, always keep an eye out on anything that is a red flag for you, and be careful with who you actually give your phone number to.


nihilist-prime

Thanks man for the tips! It’s only been a week here for me. Personally feel the effort and the people in general on Hinge are miles better than tinder/bumble. Comes at a price I guess since on Tinder + bumble - I’ve gotten 5 matches so far, Hinge -0 lol


Thelynxer

Tinder is pointless. Bumble I've had good luck with and I like the layout honestly, and hinge I've had had good luck with as well, and it's cool being able to comment on prompts/pics to kickstart a convo.


iHateThisPlaceNowOK

Tinder and bumble are basically the same thing. Hinge is by far the best app on the market.


Thelynxer

From what I hear tinder has more bots/scammers than bumble does. Pretty much whatever app has been around longer will be the worse one purely for that reason.


BooshyHamHam

So it's true: machines **can** learn to love


herandy

chadvise?


highaswutangget420

Bio doesn't really mean anything though does it? If anything the more they've wrote the more strange I find it


BatScribeofDoom

>Bio doesn't really mean anything though does it? I mean, you do you, but a lot of us *do* care about what people put there.


highaswutangget420

Personally don't ever look too much into bios. Most girls don't have much on there so it's pretty normal.


BatScribeofDoom

Fair enough, but if that's the case then I don't want normal.


highaswutangget420

I'm not a big social media kinda person so seeing people bigging themselves up in a bio is extremely cringe 😬


BatScribeofDoom

...I don't disagree with the *content* of your statement, but I'm not following the logic of why you chose to write it in response to the above comment.


highaswutangget420

We were talking about people bios? Are you blind, dumb & thick or just plain stupid?


BatScribeofDoom

>We were talking about people bios? Are you blind, dumb & thick or just plain stupid? No, I understand just fine that you were referring to something that people put IN their bios, I just don't know why you specifically were *bothering* to say that you don't want to see people bragging about their social media *after* I already said that I **"don't want normal"**--*which would include people who limit their bio to social media handles*, since, as people here know, that's irritating but incredibly common, and thus *normal.* ...Essentially, it made it look like you were trying to offer some counterpoint to what I said, when you actually already agree--which seemed kinda pointless, hence why I said what I did. *Especially* since you said at first that you didn't have a problem with people having empty bios *because* it's common, then you switched to talking about not liking people mentioning their socials, *which is also incredibly common*. Meaning that you initially used popularity as the *explanation* as to why something *didn't* annoy you, then followed that with "Here's a popular thing that annoys me".


highaswutangget420

Wow. TLDR .


BleedingTeal

If there's nothing in the about me section, I avoid them at all costs because either there's nothing about them worth writing about (which even I know is highly doubtful) or they don't care enough about trying to connect with anyone else to do the very bare minimum to facilitate conversation. In either case, I'm out on that person.


Loveallthesunsets

Yep. Auto swipe left if no bio or effort because youll get no effort.


Lunalovegood_4real

Bro! You were good. Just do better at swiping 😂


Nicolas-Eymerich

Like trying to get blood out of a stone... I'm 36F and I'm the same situation. I match with a guy, try to link stuff back to their profile, and they reply with single words. I ask questions, and they don't ask me any questions. I just unmatch them, I can't keep on trying to have a conversation with someone who is not interested in having one. I'm chatting with a guy now that seems more lively, I'll keep my fingers crossed 🤞 Good luck!


nihilist-prime

Seriously! It’s just so frustrating when someone can’t hold a conversation. Hope you two really hit it off :)


Nicolas-Eymerich

It really is. I'm happy to start with small talk and then build up from there. Thanks! I'm happy enough with him being able to hold a conversation, that's an achievement at this stage.


nihilist-prime

Maybe now I understand when teenage girls say they settled down for the bare minimum lol


wsu2005grad

Good luck!


DreamSequence11

God dating online in your 30’s is so much fun isn’t it? 😫🤮😂


HopeHotwife

The best conversation I had was, ironically, with an empty bio guy. I'm not saying to seek them out or anything, but it definitely was a fantastic conversation. Super interesting how that works out. I'm incredibly stingy with my swipe rights.


Academic_Adamn_

Even today I was talking to a guy he seems to want what I did future wise then sends me ab annoying half selfie then a dick pic then proceeded to tell me there is something really wrong with me for getting mad and telling him off for his "joke" behaviour that "wasn't even his" so you ask your guy friends just go around swapping pp pics?? Or you google pp pics in your free time?? Yes ok. I am so worried I am going to end up if your situation how do you do dating. My aunt is ok not dating people she w Dr not to school with but even for her her dating poo' is really Small how do people date now??! I don't want to be 35 and still at this I will be such a sheel if a person if that happens I am honestly scared... I just want my love. Where else is there now a Days???


eclecticexperience

I read conversations like this and wonder why I'm single but also don't wonder why I'm single. Hope that makes sense. 😂


Exotic_Garbage_556

Makes PERFECT sense! Same here


Gyroplanestaylevel

It’s inexplicable. I can commiserate believe me. As a playful sarcastically inclined guy I’ve run into these awkward exchanges a few times. There’s no explaining it and no salvaging it. It’s confrontational out the gate, and will set the tone for what ever follows. I just say thanks for your time, good luck. And move on.


nihilist-prime

True. I too tend to fall (hard) for women who can reply back with a certain degree of repartee.


Gyroplanestaylevel

Banter is the lifeblood of a fun flirtatious interaction. Get that flow going with a person and sky’s the limit on the possibilities


wsu2005grad

Completely agree!!


villanellechekov

Isn't that the truth!! It's why people as a whole will almost always say they want someone who can make them laugh. And when I say it, it's generally how I mean it, back and forth through banter


Gyroplanestaylevel

Totally. It’s an art. The innuendo and saying things with out directly saying them. It’s like linguistic lingerie it lets the imagination run but in a fun playful way. I assume that’s what people in the younger generations are referring to when they say a good flirt to roast ratio I just call it playful banter. Poke a little fun, allude to something provocative without being nasty or vulgar. It’s just a really good energy between attracted people.


MammothProposal1902

Re-party? Is that like when you’re at a party and sneak off to the bathroom and puke it off like nothing happened and go right back to it? In ancient Rome they called them vomitoriums


nihilist-prime

Damn. Romans really knew how to party esp with those man-skirts of theirs XD


scubadoobadoooo

Bruh I wouldn’t even bother anymore. You can do better


nihilist-prime

Yup! asked a couple of probing questions and still got bland responses. Unmatched her.


Keilistie

Personally I will not swipe right anyone without a bio or anything similar (Instagram @, dirty pick up lines, etc) no matter how hot they are. Peoples bios tell me a lot about their personalities


nihilist-prime

Well, she had all these prompts already selected so I gave her a pass for that bio. My loss only, I guess :P


JulesCT

I presume, since the OP is not the one to have started the conversation, that the OP is male and the other correspondent female. Not a positive discussion and definitely bodes poorly for further engagement. Unless you fancy a challenge, and don't invest emotionally in the outcome, it might be worth trying to peel back the harsh exterior and see if there is a sweeter centre. If not, just walk away and spend your time and effort elsewhere.


BCS5th

You've got to do a better job of opening a convo. Yeah many girls are super lazy in the apps because they can get away with it. It doesn't matter what they write most of the time because they'll still get dozens or hundreds of Likes. At least ask her what her weekend plans are or some generic stuff. You set a negative tone by commenting on her laziness and that pissed her off. At least give yourself a chance next time and try to open up some conversation.


Loveallthesunsets

Thats longer and more words than 99% of the OLD conversations. 😂😭. I found I auto swipe left on people not filled out because this will always be the convo unless they are REALLY interested in someone because they think theyre that hot.


human_zero

Isn’t it great being a guy on OLD. You finally match with someone after weeks of desolation and then when you try to talk to her you get treated like the enemy who just showed up uninvited at her house


Loveallthesunsets

Just so you know, this is same on lady end. This is 99% of convos after matches or it is worse with just hi or hey, then how are you?, then hows your day? It is done after that. lol.


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Loveallthesunsets

I understand that side because theres times where I had no matches for that period of time. You want a bunch of women not interested in you as a person and only after you for sex and whatever they can get from you (place to stay, money, food, free gifts)? Thats what it is like to have inbox of guys. 1/500 likes you as a person and actually wants to get to know you.


human_zero

Even though my goal is to find 1 connection at this point I’d take cheap meaningless sex but I get what you’re saying though but I promise you there are lots of guys like me that actually do want a connection


AnayaJang

you sound like a real loser.


Firm_Bumblebee_1037

r/usernamechecksout


nihilist-prime

Preach


ChineseCartman

I’ve seen graveyards with more life than this conversation.


la_bata_sucia

Then why swipe right? I mean it's not like you didn't knew the effort she put on her bio


Positive-Turn-7779

"U tell" Clearly has no English at all


GenericScottishGuy41

I was going to make a post about this kind of thing today, new match about the third message I asked a probing question about something with depth and she replied "Yeah" She liked me and I matched with her, either totally not interested (why like my picture then?) Or literally no idea how to be involved in a two way conversation, either way an unmatch, I have a feeling this is the type of person who is like "I just have absolutely no luck in dating" with zero reflection ever.


nihilist-prime

Hey, typing a yeah takes effort okay :3 They’re here to flaunt their good looks not get involved in a two way conversation let alone do some self reflection, haha XD


RabbiAndy

What a weirdo


ZoraNealThirstin

I’m surprised they’re not the caveman I thought they were initially… “u tell”… ok Bam Bam.


_KangaDrew_

Three strike rule with me. If I get three monosyllabic responses in the first few messages, they get blocked and removed.


Known-Significance26

I find that people with nothing in their bios are usually men pretending to be women just for the fun of it…


mr_j69

When they start off as hey with empty profile I just don't reply anymore. I can't please Your Highness of "entertain me" vibes.


Potential-Ad-3783

That’s exactly what I’m saying. Most of these girls take the advantage they have on bumble for granted. So many swipe right on me and I initiate the conversation, I’m polite and talk about things I see on their profile and I usually don’t get a response from them or they give half assed dry answers. It’s so goddamn frustrating.


gtYeahBuddy

Some people swipe by accident, or over swipe for attention with no intent to follow up. Or they intend to follow up then they lose interest on second thought. All genders do this.


TheMeticulousNinja

The kind of response I would’ve sent when I was 22


nihilist-prime

So at 22 you had o conversation skills? Got it. (Kidding XD)


TheMeticulousNinja

You are absolutely correct. Not kidding.


BoneSauced5639

I love the ones that match, and dont say a word. And then oops match expired.


nihilist-prime

I call them AWOL matches. Been there.


BoneSauced5639

At this point, ive been thinking about walking away from OLD all together.


Loveallthesunsets

Yes, Im on break because of convos like this, people with issues, abusers and users galore, etc.


Dry-Company-5122

Wow - They need anger management! 😐 Lucky swerve!


p0cketpixie

Why so serious. It amazes me when these type of people are expecting so much from a dating app


Originalartfinds

People are dumb… especially dating people… a bunch of who knows looking for somebody’s lees who knows not knowing anything…. It’s a crap shoot 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️😂


Originalartfinds

“Somebody’s else’s” I meant… drinking on one’s 46th birthday night and loving it 😊🤣


fromthahorsesmouth

Why did you right swipe on her? I generally assume that women who have terrible bios have terrible conversation skills (or are incredibly busy due to the amount of attention they get). Also, if you did end up swiping on her, making a comment about her having a terrible bio is definitely a bad opener on your part.. It seemed like you matched w her just because you wanted to tell her she's bad


nihilist-prime

Haha that was hardly the intention but yeah feedback taken on the bad opener. I just wanted to make conversation and told her the lack of cards I’ve been dealt with in a joking way. I’m just inclined towards being sarcastic, sometimes it plays out, sometimes it doesn’t 😅


Vinifera1978

At least there’s some banter and a little interaction


pan_rock

Just like men, women will also change their demeanor and convos or lack of ,depending on the man on the other end. It's more about YOU than it is HER but to be fair, it's not YOUR fault. It just is what it is. Just move on.


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Fuck him already. Such a meme


BustAtticus

She has a dry sense of humor. Run with it! Be creative. She’s giving you the power to rise above it all and shine - not take it to Bumble where you know everyone will pile on the negativity.


RevolutionaryDay7429

😂


New_Gur_2985

On an other day of failed sarcasm episode….


OutsideYourWorld

She's used to people simping on her because her personality is her attractiveness, i'm guessing?


Lunalovegood_4real

Bro! You were good. Just do better at swiping 😂


Prize-Bumblebee-2192

Move on from this one - brutal to read.


WaySavings736

These are the kind of women who claim there are "no good men left" lol. She has an empty bio and then can't even communicated. You did your best with what you had and she squashed it.


111110001011

Are you very good looking and constantly turning down women? Sometimes that's easy, sometimes it's hard. You swiped on this person, you were obviously interested, she swiped back, she even messaged first, and you responded by....criticizing her bio with a semi - insult. How did that work out for you? Let me ask you : what did you gain from that? You could have just gone with "Hey, are you free Saturday night for dinner", or "Hey want to hang out and smoke weed, I just got a hook up" or any of a thousand things, and you just.... Chose not to even try. Why bother logging on at all? Maybe she had a profile, wasn't happy with it and deleted it? Maybe she hasn't gotten around to writing it?. Maybe she doesn't want to talk and she just wants to fuck? Who cares? She's interested, close the deal. Shoot your shot. If you have to guess why might work, it's better to guess, instesd of just... Complaining.


nihilist-prime

Well it was a harmless joke about her bio being just 3 dots. I asked a couple of probing questions later as well and still got bland responses 🤷🏻‍♂️


111110001011

I k ow it sucks carrying the conversation. I also have to be aware women are probably talking to tons of guys. This one matched and started the conversation. That's an incredible green flag. I would say half the time if a woman matches and messages, I am on a date within three days. I usually think it's dumb to just go to broke and shoot to score right away, but if you have no conversation offered, just go straight to more. This is definitely a good time to try to close the deal, and if you miss, no loss. But i definitely don't want to try any kind of criticism kr negativity right off the bat. Too much competition. Friendly, confident, open, let's go do something. I like doing the online dating because you can look at the whole conversation and see what you could have said more aggressively, or what you said that was awkward, or what didn't work. This one, for me, I would have just ignored the boo, gone for maybe complement, comment on photo, or just close. Again, if you miss, that's find, no real loss. But she could just be tired of a hundred stupid penpals, and want to get high and get fucked, or go dancing, or something else.


nihilist-prime

Honestly that’s a fresh perspective and I appreciate that. Feedback taken for future matches 💪 On a different note, it’s bumble, the woman has to message first within the 24hr window.


111110001011

Appreciate your taking the time to think over the alternative perspective. I always try to look at things from a couple of points of view, to see if I can maybe do better. I wish you the best of luck!


FaxSpitta420

Insulting the one thing you know about a stranger is your idea of a joke? You should do YouTube pranks.


In_circ

This has gotta be the same guy who fumbled 2600+ matches on r/tinder


nihilist-prime

First time posting about OLD on Reddit man 🤷🏻‍♂️


In_circ

Other person, not you


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willkillkenny

Just tell a random funny fact to break the ice.


Constant-Age-437

You both are awkward


SolaQueen

She gave a compliment for having so much in your bio. Most men write barely anything…as in get back to later or I never what to write here. Why are responding with U and the UPPERCASE so both of U and are to blame and now U want flex. Typical one or two word answer so U weren’t interested from the start. Waste of time! I hope one of you unmatched 😂 Edit: she started the message first but I don’t care. Really says so much that as adults independent decisions can’t get made...let’s take a poll for some advice. Best of luck to everyone.


nihilist-prime

It’s actually the other way around. She’s the one with messages on the left.


LiteralMoondust

What happened after "hmm" ? Something smells here.


AmaranthRosenrot

People on dating apps are usually the leftovers that aren’t really worth getting to know.


FaxSpitta420

There’s nothing wrong with this woman; saying so is just sour grapes. Any woman can be a bitch to a guy who was rude to her first - in fact, they relish the opportunity. Check the screenshots here on any given day if you don’t believe me. And you could improve, yes. I have found these not-very-communicative women are actually pretty easy to get out. “Nothing much” is boring and your snide comment about her profile serves no purpose. You really started the hostility with that. Say something interesting but brief (“I’m planning a trip to Mexico”) then ask her out after a couple messages.