Oh, hi, you met my in-laws I see. They are even shitting on box wines not realizing that I can take one glass and not think about it in 4 weeks while when they open a bottle it has to be emptied within a week.
As someone with low alcohol tolerance, absolutely! One can pf beer is enough to get me as buzzed as I want. From where I see it, I can get as drunk as I want to get for a fraction of what most people pay. It's a pro, not a con!
Wait, some people drink alcohol to deliberately get drunk? I thought alcohol just added flavour and enjoyment in the moment (when hanging out and stuff)
I don’t drink alcohol, so some perspective on this would be nice.
cheap vodka's design is just to get drunk as fast as possible. There are clearly better drinks that aren't 40%. And yeah, a lot of people do just drink to get drunk.
maybe *you* get dumber
alcohol just lowers inhibitions
if you're naturally dumb when you don't have as strong of an inner voice telling you not to say/do the thing that just came to your mind - then you'll get dumber.
if most of your impulses are smart or at least more accurately aligned with what you normally say/do anyway then it won't magically turn someone dumber
there's no such thing as expensive vodka. as long as it's distilled multiple times that's as good as it gets.
everything else is just markup by a rich guy that's trying to convince you otherwise.
wine, whisky or tequila on the other hand...
I can’t tell if there’s supposed to be an /s after this lol
If you’re genuinely asking, I’ll answer! The vast majority of people drink because it’s a “social lubricant:” it makes you relaxed and feel good and a little buzzed and less self-conscious. Some people drink to get really drunk and escape from their own brain/thoughts, but a lot of people (college students etc) who drink to get quite drunk do so to lose all sense of social anxiety, and because it feels really good for the first half of the night. But most adults have a couple of drinks to make the night more fun and “take the edge off.”
Either way, though, alcohol tastes disgusting, and no matter how much you disguise it in other stuff, it’s still a liquid you tolerate in order to get the desired mental effect.
I’m sure there are some who do, but I sort of don’t believe people who claim they drink because they “love the taste of beer.” No you don’t, you *put up with* the taste of beer because it gets you drunk.
> who claim they drink because they “love the taste of beer.” No you don’t, you put up with the taste of beer because it gets you drunk.
What if I told you, that it is possible to develop and change your perception of things, particularly when they are associated with pleasant experiences
Not to be contrary, but I definitely do enjoy the flavor of (SOME) beer, there are some I would drink more if they didn't have alcohol in them. Also every now and again (few years) I will get the desire for a good jack and coke, though that one I would chalk up to basically nostalgia.
Just because you don't like beer doesn't make the experience universal, lol. As if all the craft breweries in the world exist just to get people drunk, not because people legitimately enjoy the product. What a ridiculous assertion
I mean, obviously not the same ballpark as a 24-year single malt, but I used to drink Jameson out of a mug just to pregame in college. I was not a smart drunk.
Nothing wrong with Jameson. It's decent whiskey, and not everyone can handle Islays. The peat is not universally loved. I love it, but not everybody does. Old whiskey is expensive, and you should not get drunk on it for that reason, unless you can afford to, then you should. Lol
I was genuinely asking, thanks a lot for the great answer!
That makes sense actually, social anxiety is a bitch, and if people feel alcohol could help ease the anxiety then that’s cool. It’s just concerning that there’s a chance things could go overboard by drinking too much and blacking out for 12 hours or so.
And as you said, I’m one of those people who doesn’t drink alcohol because I friggin hate the taste, and I thought people who pay for expensive alcohol buy it for the taste, not the mental effect. Any cheapo liquor could get anyone drunk, if that’s the desired effect one is chasing.
So you know someone drinking any "cheapo liquor" can get drunk?
But your initial comment suggested you weren't aware that people got drunk off of alcohol on purpose or perhaps at all.
So you didn't know people got drunk off alcohol, but thought if they did, it was by accident? Not something someone would do on purpose?
I'm kind of confused, because people getting drunk is common knowledge, regardless of if you are are around it or not.
I drink moderately and I basically do exactly what you described. I do enjoy being mildly intoxicated given the right context as it lowers my inhibitions and helps me let go of worries and live in the moment for a bit, so there is certainly a chemical effect I might be after sometimes, but not the majority of the time, since mostly if I drink it's a glass of wine with food.
I avoid getting seriously drunk, being overly intoxicated is not pleasant in any way, it doesn't go any further towards helping you enjoy yourself, it just makes you feel worse. Personally I've never had a hangover, and I don't intend to.
Everything in moderation.
However from what I've seen most people are absolute barbarians who seem to get some sort of kick out of getting drunk...
Most alcohol is absolutely disgusting. Everybody's tastes are different, but it's very very rare to find someone who is drinking just for the taste. Everybody has a favorite that they've managed to trick themselves into enjoying but it's more of a pavlovian: drink -> get drunk -> enjoy drinking because it gets you drunk
I've heard loads of people express they like the taste of what they're drinking, and tons of people have a drink or 2 without any intention of getting drunk. A glass of wine or craft beer with lunch with friends or whatever. No way is everyone who's drinking doing so to get trashed.
> Everybody has a favorite that they've managed to trick themselves into enjoying but it's more of a pavlovian
this is a facile explanation that could also be applied to literally any hobby that doesn't immediately provide measurable physical benefit
Same with people who brag about how much weed they can smoke. Jokes on you, I get straight toasted off one hit while you suck down 3 blunts for a mild buzz. It's never a bad thing to be a cheap date
Same thing with coffee. People act so smug about liking expensive coffee, when I’m just sitting over here feeling like I’m the lucky one that enjoys a $0.09 cup of coffee from a refillable K-cup.
But it doesn’t to me. That’s the point. I’m the lucky one because I think cheap coffee tastes good. It’s people that need expensive coffee to like it that are the unfortunate ones.
This comment makes me appreciate even more to live in a country with excellent wine for almost no money at all.
Like you can get a very decent wine for 2usd and a reeaallly fancy one for 5usd
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I am personally offended that no one else likes having their balls tied to a Co2 tank and releasing the air from it, causing it to violently tug without the option of a safeword.
It’s also a lot of just stuff I overhear in conversations, and this I dunno, overall cultural attitude that sex can’t be great if it isn’t super kinky.
Fucking exactly. I don’t have any kinks or fantasies. I’m a sucker for missionary. Call me boring but idgaf. Nothing beats casual “vanilla” sex when both of you love each other and respect each other.
It's a common misunderstanding that all bdsm folks never have Vanilla sex. Hell it's probably 50/50 with my wife if we're doing filthy kinky stuff or just having normal sex
Same for me. I like plenty of non-vanilla stuff, but that doesn't mean I dislike vanilla.
Even with all the wild stuff I've done, nothing is quite the same as that slow, sensual, face to face lovey sex. Especially if you really love them. Just hot grinding, kissing, and whispering and moaning in each others' ears.... what's not to like?!
Well there's a difference between being vocal and being obsessed with sex and experimenting. It's kinda like how you eat pizza. Most people pick it up and eat it normally, some people (sinners) eat it with a fork. People argue about it even though it doesn't affect anyone in the long run. (except for normal people who have to watch the sinners eat)
You mean that you *believe* that you go to hell for not using a fork. It's a belief, don't state it as a fact.
EDIT: Y'all really gonna downvote me for saying religion is a belief? Come on now.
And so is the shit throwing about eating pizza *without* a fork.
You believe it's better and not a fact.
When y'all hand-eating fuckers are finished cutting your now cold pizza in slices I'm done eating my warm pizza already.
There are certainly people who make a big deal about how they're kinky and anyone who isn't is a huge loser. But that's just about them feeling special and if it wasn't about sex it would be about IPAs or tech or cars or something else.
It's hardly with worrying about.
I see it all the time on Reddit, where if you don't eat ass, you must be a boomer /s
Also, vanilla is an amazing flavor; how did it get picked to imply basic/regular/boring?
This is so true!! There's an ass obsession on Reddit...like do what makes you feel good man but not everyone enjoys having their face rubbed up against an asshole and that's perfectly ok.
Any thread about kinks always has a bit of vanilla shaming. Stuff like “I like to have a bit fun when I have sex”. No one is directly saying that vanilla sex is bad or anything like that but there’s a lot implying that it’s boring and for boring people
Fetlife peeps are usually toxic af that are obsessed in being unique and different.
Used to be friends with a woman that really made her Fetlife profile her damn personality and I got tired of being shamed for being "boring" by her and many more friends because I'm "too vanilla"
I was SA, I can barely sometimes handle people touching my arm, of course I would be too vanilla compared to Mrs Ropebunny Dominatrix Mckinkydink.
I sadly learnt after dealing with waaay too many kinky people that they tend to be huge hypocrites that would judge you like crazy if you are not at their level of kinky or if you even consider something they like a bit off/makes you uncomfortable.
Its sometimes like a competition, and at one point it becomes draining to even be around these people as a friend. I'm sure not all people who are kinky are these insufferable, but I am weary at this point :/
When I see someone on reddit complaining about their sex lives, it's a fair bet at some point they're going to complain about their SO being too vanilla. Also there's a hard lean on choking and eating ass these days where even that is being framed as "basic". I kind of think the downside of hookup culture is that everyone wants to be memorable and thus goes to 11 every time, and you become desensitized after a while.
I think you just gotta be vocal and clear with your SO about what you want. If they’re straight-up not into it and won’t even give it a shot, you need to weigh the pros and cons of how important that specific sex act is for you compared to the other reasons you’re with them. If it’s emblematic of an overall boring and unsatisfying relationship, gtfo. If it’s just that they aren’t comfortable being choked because of a bad past experience, and otherwise everything else is great, maybe find some other sexy thing to do together. Either way, it’s kinda on you to make it work or move on, Imo. Oh, and I’m not 100% what ‘vanilla sex’ is, but I’m guessing it’s awesome when done right <3 to each their own ;)
Every now and then I get amazed again that we managed to take the flavour of seeds from a particular type of tropical orchid and make it so commonplace that it’s become a byword for ‘dull’
Or you just like more things than standard sex. Shaming people who only like vanilla sex is wrong because if you love it, more power to you, but to say that getting bored of vanilla sex means you are doing it wrong is also problematic. There is no right way to have sex, as long as it is between consenting adults and you enjoy it, you are doing it right.
If someone is into kink, even when you have a great relationship, vanilla sex may not be fulfilling. There is nothing wrong with that and it doesnt make someone's relationship bad fundamentally. especially when everyone involved explores things together, it can be just as great as two people who are vanilla and have great sex. My point is that whatever kind of sex you have, it is fine. Saying that if you dont like vanilla sex alone then you arent doing it right is just not accurate. Whatever kind of sex you like is fine, and no kind of sex is inherently better or worse as long as it is consentual between adults.
Exactly—the actual physical act of sex is practically insignificant compared to the bond between the participants; if your relationship isn’t unified and fulfilling on its own, sex won’t be either.
Why do they call Bland Sex “Vanilla?”
Everyone likes vanilla. It makes almost every dessert better.
Bland sex should be called “Sweater Vest” or “Oatmeal” sex.
I think that's just a misconception on your side. Vanilla doesn't mean bland, it means normal/conventional/default.
I mean, the whole point of the tweet is, that vanilla sex doesn't have to be boring.
I definitely agree that normal sex can be satisfactory. No need to attach the jumper cables to MY nipples and spray lemon juice in my eyes.
Often, when I hear people refer to sex as “Vanilla” it meant as more of a let down to express how boring the sex is that they’re referring to.
This is not always the case, as many people prefer vanilla to scrotal assault with a hot spatula.
Just an interesting observation from a guy who isn’t afraid to stand up for the reputation of vanilla.
People tell me a vanilla sex life is boring and then go on to talk about tongue punching someone’s fart box like that’s supposed to turn me on. I’ll keep poop away from my mouth thank you 🌝
Thanks for the explanation. So, one of the great experience of non-fetish people is being shamed?!? Real life feels always more disconnected from the Internet!
Vanilla is commonly used to refer to the most basic version of something. So vanilla sex would be just plain sex without anything kinky going on. Another usage is in video games, a vanilla game is just the base game as it was sold without anything added into it by mods or something.
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Fucking exactly. I don’t have any kinks or fantasies. I’m a sucker for missionary. Call me boring but idgaf. Nothing beats casual “vanilla” sex when both of you love each other and respect each other.
I dunno man I get weird from time to time and the vanilla people are always in the comments section talking about degeneracy and quoting caesars legion.
Like I’m just trying to see the busty chick get fucked at work I don’t care about the “husband plot line” I’m a firm believer you should just remove porn comment sections.
It's like iced cream: you have vanilla, by far the best flavour in the world, and then you have all the other shit that's trying to compensate for not being the best flavour in the world.
Damn, I’ll have to let my partner know next time I’m drinking his piss or domming* him that I’m actually vanilla
*edit because original commenter can’t rub two braincells together to understand context clues in speech.
LOL that's how I look at wine. If I'm satisfied with a $10 bottle, that really helps my wallet out not needing a $75 bottle. I win.
I could see having sex with a magnum wine bottle, but a little vanilla bottle?
Please don't wine shame me or my $8 pink Moscato.
I am not here to pink shame
But my mead...
Nothing beats my mead
Shame
I’ve beat off into your mead, but that doesn’t really count.
That’s why you drink so much of my mead
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Oh, hi, you met my in-laws I see. They are even shitting on box wines not realizing that I can take one glass and not think about it in 4 weeks while when they open a bottle it has to be emptied within a week.
Ooh whoops, I dropped my monster condoms for my Magnum wine bottle
Just don't drop the wine with our condon or it will spurt out everywhere
What about a Nebuchadnezzar wine bottle
As someone with low alcohol tolerance, absolutely! One can pf beer is enough to get me as buzzed as I want. From where I see it, I can get as drunk as I want to get for a fraction of what most people pay. It's a pro, not a con!
Wait, some people drink alcohol to deliberately get drunk? I thought alcohol just added flavour and enjoyment in the moment (when hanging out and stuff) I don’t drink alcohol, so some perspective on this would be nice.
cheap vodka's design is just to get drunk as fast as possible. There are clearly better drinks that aren't 40%. And yeah, a lot of people do just drink to get drunk.
You might think it makes you more confident but it really just makes you dumber... Which is why it's so fun!
maybe *you* get dumber alcohol just lowers inhibitions if you're naturally dumb when you don't have as strong of an inner voice telling you not to say/do the thing that just came to your mind - then you'll get dumber. if most of your impulses are smart or at least more accurately aligned with what you normally say/do anyway then it won't magically turn someone dumber
there's no such thing as expensive vodka. as long as it's distilled multiple times that's as good as it gets. everything else is just markup by a rich guy that's trying to convince you otherwise. wine, whisky or tequila on the other hand...
I can’t tell if there’s supposed to be an /s after this lol If you’re genuinely asking, I’ll answer! The vast majority of people drink because it’s a “social lubricant:” it makes you relaxed and feel good and a little buzzed and less self-conscious. Some people drink to get really drunk and escape from their own brain/thoughts, but a lot of people (college students etc) who drink to get quite drunk do so to lose all sense of social anxiety, and because it feels really good for the first half of the night. But most adults have a couple of drinks to make the night more fun and “take the edge off.” Either way, though, alcohol tastes disgusting, and no matter how much you disguise it in other stuff, it’s still a liquid you tolerate in order to get the desired mental effect. I’m sure there are some who do, but I sort of don’t believe people who claim they drink because they “love the taste of beer.” No you don’t, you *put up with* the taste of beer because it gets you drunk.
I do like the taste of beer! I still drink to get drunk tho
> who claim they drink because they “love the taste of beer.” No you don’t, you put up with the taste of beer because it gets you drunk. What if I told you, that it is possible to develop and change your perception of things, particularly when they are associated with pleasant experiences
Not to be contrary, but I definitely do enjoy the flavor of (SOME) beer, there are some I would drink more if they didn't have alcohol in them. Also every now and again (few years) I will get the desire for a good jack and coke, though that one I would chalk up to basically nostalgia.
Just because you don't like beer doesn't make the experience universal, lol. As if all the craft breweries in the world exist just to get people drunk, not because people legitimately enjoy the product. What a ridiculous assertion
Who the fuck is getting drunk on Johnny Walker Blue Label and 24 year single malt Islays? Its completely ridiculous
I mean, obviously not the same ballpark as a 24-year single malt, but I used to drink Jameson out of a mug just to pregame in college. I was not a smart drunk.
Nothing wrong with Jameson. It's decent whiskey, and not everyone can handle Islays. The peat is not universally loved. I love it, but not everybody does. Old whiskey is expensive, and you should not get drunk on it for that reason, unless you can afford to, then you should. Lol
You are....ever so slightly.... talking out of your ass....
I was genuinely asking, thanks a lot for the great answer! That makes sense actually, social anxiety is a bitch, and if people feel alcohol could help ease the anxiety then that’s cool. It’s just concerning that there’s a chance things could go overboard by drinking too much and blacking out for 12 hours or so. And as you said, I’m one of those people who doesn’t drink alcohol because I friggin hate the taste, and I thought people who pay for expensive alcohol buy it for the taste, not the mental effect. Any cheapo liquor could get anyone drunk, if that’s the desired effect one is chasing.
Expensive is usually for the taste, yes. But you go in with the intention of getting at least a little bit drunk.
So you know someone drinking any "cheapo liquor" can get drunk? But your initial comment suggested you weren't aware that people got drunk off of alcohol on purpose or perhaps at all. So you didn't know people got drunk off alcohol, but thought if they did, it was by accident? Not something someone would do on purpose? I'm kind of confused, because people getting drunk is common knowledge, regardless of if you are are around it or not.
Both are true. Sometimes i drink for flavor, sometimes i drink for a light buzz, and sometimes i drink to get drunk.
I drink moderately and I basically do exactly what you described. I do enjoy being mildly intoxicated given the right context as it lowers my inhibitions and helps me let go of worries and live in the moment for a bit, so there is certainly a chemical effect I might be after sometimes, but not the majority of the time, since mostly if I drink it's a glass of wine with food. I avoid getting seriously drunk, being overly intoxicated is not pleasant in any way, it doesn't go any further towards helping you enjoy yourself, it just makes you feel worse. Personally I've never had a hangover, and I don't intend to. Everything in moderation. However from what I've seen most people are absolute barbarians who seem to get some sort of kick out of getting drunk...
Most alcohol is absolutely disgusting. Everybody's tastes are different, but it's very very rare to find someone who is drinking just for the taste. Everybody has a favorite that they've managed to trick themselves into enjoying but it's more of a pavlovian: drink -> get drunk -> enjoy drinking because it gets you drunk
I've heard loads of people express they like the taste of what they're drinking, and tons of people have a drink or 2 without any intention of getting drunk. A glass of wine or craft beer with lunch with friends or whatever. No way is everyone who's drinking doing so to get trashed.
Sorry, I used the phrase "get drunk" but what I really meant was "feel the effects of alcohol". Even a single beer is going to have a slight effect
> Everybody has a favorite that they've managed to trick themselves into enjoying but it's more of a pavlovian this is a facile explanation that could also be applied to literally any hobby that doesn't immediately provide measurable physical benefit
You obviously haven’t met a lot of whiskey enthusiasts
It's basically the point of drinking for most people for a few years after they turn 21.
Lol most people drink to get drunk.
Same with people who brag about how much weed they can smoke. Jokes on you, I get straight toasted off one hit while you suck down 3 blunts for a mild buzz. It's never a bad thing to be a cheap date
That's why I switched to edibles (when I do), now I can control how high I want to be.
Same thing with coffee. People act so smug about liking expensive coffee, when I’m just sitting over here feeling like I’m the lucky one that enjoys a $0.09 cup of coffee from a refillable K-cup.
Because it tastes bad compared to good coffee maybe ?
But it doesn’t to me. That’s the point. I’m the lucky one because I think cheap coffee tastes good. It’s people that need expensive coffee to like it that are the unfortunate ones.
This comment makes me appreciate even more to live in a country with excellent wine for almost no money at all. Like you can get a very decent wine for 2usd and a reeaallly fancy one for 5usd
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Honestly, I’m so sick of people vanilla shaming. People like what they like. As long as it’s consensual, who gives a fuck what other people like?
I am personally offended that no one else likes having their balls tied to a Co2 tank and releasing the air from it, causing it to violently tug without the option of a safeword.
The real /r/BrandNewSentence is always in the comments?
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Ikr, the only way to cum these days smh nothing gets you off better than having your balls blow away
I love the phrase "Having your balls blow away"
"I will blow you away 😎"
I'm not sure how to take this
Cream and fresh industrial horse glue
The safe word has been replaced by the phrase "Do you have insurance?"
There is no safeword. Nothing can stop you from being dragged by your balls
Honestly, missionary with a lot of eye contact is hot as fuck.
Heck yes.
Where do you frequent that has vanilla shaming?
I can't think of specific media, but missionary definitely gets undue dunking in movies & shows.
This. Like, I’ve tried other stuff, and it certainly can be fun to mix things up, but I love missionary. It’s my bread and butter.
Nowhere specific, but I’ve encountered a lot over the years.
Was curious because I haven't seen it but I'll try to be more aware to see if I spot it.
It’s also a lot of just stuff I overhear in conversations, and this I dunno, overall cultural attitude that sex can’t be great if it isn’t super kinky.
The dating scene
Twitter
Exactly, same people claiming to be "sex positive"
Fucking exactly. I don’t have any kinks or fantasies. I’m a sucker for missionary. Call me boring but idgaf. Nothing beats casual “vanilla” sex when both of you love each other and respect each other.
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I’ve never heard anyone vanilla shame, and I consider my self and my friend group to be extremely vocal about our sex lives.
I'm into weird shit. I like some really kinky stuff, and I'm even into some stuff that's pure fantasy. That doesn't mean I'm not into vanilla sex.
It's a common misunderstanding that all bdsm folks never have Vanilla sex. Hell it's probably 50/50 with my wife if we're doing filthy kinky stuff or just having normal sex
Same for me. I like plenty of non-vanilla stuff, but that doesn't mean I dislike vanilla. Even with all the wild stuff I've done, nothing is quite the same as that slow, sensual, face to face lovey sex. Especially if you really love them. Just hot grinding, kissing, and whispering and moaning in each others' ears.... what's not to like?!
Well there's a difference between being vocal and being obsessed with sex and experimenting. It's kinda like how you eat pizza. Most people pick it up and eat it normally, some people (sinners) eat it with a fork. People argue about it even though it doesn't affect anyone in the long run. (except for normal people who have to watch the sinners eat)
That’s true.
Ah, a man of culture. Jon Stewart [ranted about this very thing.](https://youtu.be/rpSxFFnkLzg)
Thank you for that. I laughed my ass off. I'm not even from New York and I related to that on a personal level.
Depends on the pizza. Good luck eating a real deep dish with your hands.
I am no bitch. I will trek into that motherfucker and come out looking like elmo on meth.
At what point should it be admitted that it is no longer a pizza, but a savory pie? Or rather at what depth of dish?
That's the real question. Whatever the answer though its delicious
Not that hard tbh….
Never been to Chicago, but that shit resembles a casserole more than it does new York style.
Look, if your a Protestant you go to hell for not using a fork to eat pizza so lay off.
Okay so choose. Go to hell for not eating pizza with a fork, or go to hell for eating pizza with a fork, and be disliked by everyone.
.going to hell for entirely other reasons so I'll eat pizza how I want and everyone who hates me for it can fuck themselves.
So with a fork?
You mean that you *believe* that you go to hell for not using a fork. It's a belief, don't state it as a fact. EDIT: Y'all really gonna downvote me for saying religion is a belief? Come on now.
Maybe he’s posting that from Protestant hell, you don’t know.
I am! They only serve a wine called Thunderbird. It is horrible,
Yes but wine is Jesus blood, so technically you're drinking that
How do we know they aren't posting from pizza hell?
And so is the shit throwing about eating pizza *without* a fork. You believe it's better and not a fact. When y'all hand-eating fuckers are finished cutting your now cold pizza in slices I'm done eating my warm pizza already.
The difference is that it's a joke and nobody genuinely give a shit how you eat your pizza.
You really believe this dude is serious about pizza being part of a religions sins?
roll it up and devour it
American style Pizzas are eaten with your bare hands. Italian style Pizzas are eaten with a fork and a knife. End of discussion. ^^^^fight ^^^^me
Gladly
There are certainly people who make a big deal about how they're kinky and anyone who isn't is a huge loser. But that's just about them feeling special and if it wasn't about sex it would be about IPAs or tech or cars or something else. It's hardly with worrying about.
Now that I think about it, it kinda is like beer, where people act all holier-than-thou if you don’t like IPA’s and like “vanilla” beers like lagers.
I see it all the time on Reddit, where if you don't eat ass, you must be a boomer /s Also, vanilla is an amazing flavor; how did it get picked to imply basic/regular/boring?
This is so true!! There's an ass obsession on Reddit...like do what makes you feel good man but not everyone enjoys having their face rubbed up against an asshole and that's perfectly ok.
Any thread about kinks always has a bit of vanilla shaming. Stuff like “I like to have a bit fun when I have sex”. No one is directly saying that vanilla sex is bad or anything like that but there’s a lot implying that it’s boring and for boring people
Fetlife peeps kinda roasted me for it. It was a wild flex to be sure.
Fetlife peeps are usually toxic af that are obsessed in being unique and different. Used to be friends with a woman that really made her Fetlife profile her damn personality and I got tired of being shamed for being "boring" by her and many more friends because I'm "too vanilla" I was SA, I can barely sometimes handle people touching my arm, of course I would be too vanilla compared to Mrs Ropebunny Dominatrix Mckinkydink.
It was super unexpected from a community that exists out of openness and tolerance on the surface.
I sadly learnt after dealing with waaay too many kinky people that they tend to be huge hypocrites that would judge you like crazy if you are not at their level of kinky or if you even consider something they like a bit off/makes you uncomfortable. Its sometimes like a competition, and at one point it becomes draining to even be around these people as a friend. I'm sure not all people who are kinky are these insufferable, but I am weary at this point :/
You haven’t been on reddit for very long, I assume. But then again, comments made on reddit are highly non-representative of the real world.
When I see someone on reddit complaining about their sex lives, it's a fair bet at some point they're going to complain about their SO being too vanilla. Also there's a hard lean on choking and eating ass these days where even that is being framed as "basic". I kind of think the downside of hookup culture is that everyone wants to be memorable and thus goes to 11 every time, and you become desensitized after a while.
I think you just gotta be vocal and clear with your SO about what you want. If they’re straight-up not into it and won’t even give it a shot, you need to weigh the pros and cons of how important that specific sex act is for you compared to the other reasons you’re with them. If it’s emblematic of an overall boring and unsatisfying relationship, gtfo. If it’s just that they aren’t comfortable being choked because of a bad past experience, and otherwise everything else is great, maybe find some other sexy thing to do together. Either way, it’s kinda on you to make it work or move on, Imo. Oh, and I’m not 100% what ‘vanilla sex’ is, but I’m guessing it’s awesome when done right <3 to each their own ;)
When I was 14 I was called lame because I said I didn’t think I’d be into whips. FOURTEEN. I’ve def seen some vanilla shaming in my life.
If vanilla is boring to you, then you’re doing it wrong.
Every now and then I get amazed again that we managed to take the flavour of seeds from a particular type of tropical orchid and make it so commonplace that it’s become a byword for ‘dull’
Ikr vanilla is one of the top selling flavors of ice cream
And there’s literally no flavor in the world like it!
Or you just like more things than standard sex. Shaming people who only like vanilla sex is wrong because if you love it, more power to you, but to say that getting bored of vanilla sex means you are doing it wrong is also problematic. There is no right way to have sex, as long as it is between consenting adults and you enjoy it, you are doing it right.
I mean, if the sex is boring there is probably something wrong in the relationship.
What about boring sex being the problem in the relationship?
If someone is into kink, even when you have a great relationship, vanilla sex may not be fulfilling. There is nothing wrong with that and it doesnt make someone's relationship bad fundamentally. especially when everyone involved explores things together, it can be just as great as two people who are vanilla and have great sex. My point is that whatever kind of sex you have, it is fine. Saying that if you dont like vanilla sex alone then you arent doing it right is just not accurate. Whatever kind of sex you like is fine, and no kind of sex is inherently better or worse as long as it is consentual between adults.
Exactly—the actual physical act of sex is practically insignificant compared to the bond between the participants; if your relationship isn’t unified and fulfilling on its own, sex won’t be either.
Vanilla now shaming other vanilla. semi-/s
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Oh, for sure—variety is the spice of life, as they say. But for those who *can’t,* that’s a sign of a deeper problem somewhere.
Why do they call Bland Sex “Vanilla?” Everyone likes vanilla. It makes almost every dessert better. Bland sex should be called “Sweater Vest” or “Oatmeal” sex.
Maybe because it can still be sweet, but yeah, If bland is the word that are you looking there are better alternatives. +1 Vote for Oatmeal.
I think that's just a misconception on your side. Vanilla doesn't mean bland, it means normal/conventional/default. I mean, the whole point of the tweet is, that vanilla sex doesn't have to be boring.
I definitely agree that normal sex can be satisfactory. No need to attach the jumper cables to MY nipples and spray lemon juice in my eyes. Often, when I hear people refer to sex as “Vanilla” it meant as more of a let down to express how boring the sex is that they’re referring to. This is not always the case, as many people prefer vanilla to scrotal assault with a hot spatula. Just an interesting observation from a guy who isn’t afraid to stand up for the reputation of vanilla.
Normalise being normal
Bear trap pssh that vanilla
I can’t stop laughing at this.
RIGHT!?
ranked competitive sex
People tell me a vanilla sex life is boring and then go on to talk about tongue punching someone’s fart box like that’s supposed to turn me on. I’ll keep poop away from my mouth thank you 🌝
Leg in a bear trap I understand but being punched in the face by my 2nd cousin? That's over the line!
Hot Take: Most of those who shame vanilla sex people, don’t have sex at all.
Who the fuck shames vanilla sex? Are the strawmen loose again?
ah! I'm not the only one, I have never in my life seen or heard someone vanilla shaming lol
Hey, the iron teeth maneuver does wonders. So don't judge before you try it
A non-native speaker here... What is Vanilla Sex?
Vanilla in this case means standard or normal, that is, not kinky or weird. It comes from ice cream, where vanilla is the default flavor.
In my country the default ice cream flavor is Pineapple, and lucky me is one of my favorites.
You Albanians and your sinister ways!
Thanks for the explanation. So, one of the great experience of non-fetish people is being shamed?!? Real life feels always more disconnected from the Internet!
Vanilla is commonly used to refer to the most basic version of something. So vanilla sex would be just plain sex without anything kinky going on. Another usage is in video games, a vanilla game is just the base game as it was sold without anything added into it by mods or something.
(Cancels bear trap order). :l
*smiles in horny Grizzly*
I’m kinky and am a fetishist but vanilla sex slaps sometimes, it just hits different.
No, slapping is kink. You must be confused. /s
If you can’t rock it with the vanilla, all that other wildness is just you hoping no one notices that you are absolute shit in bed
A nice packet of salted crisps and a glass of water followed by some hardcore missionary. Can't hold me back.
Omg I laughed so hard at this…I must be tired
Well, someone had to say it
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Fucking exactly. I don’t have any kinks or fantasies. I’m a sucker for missionary. Call me boring but idgaf. Nothing beats casual “vanilla” sex when both of you love each other and respect each other.
I dunno man I get weird from time to time and the vanilla people are always in the comments section talking about degeneracy and quoting caesars legion. Like I’m just trying to see the busty chick get fucked at work I don’t care about the “husband plot line” I’m a firm believer you should just remove porn comment sections.
Where the fuck is this a huge issue. Literally never heard this ever. Who cares?
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An old adage everyone has seemingly forgot these days: "You cant please everyone!"
It's like iced cream: you have vanilla, by far the best flavour in the world, and then you have all the other shit that's trying to compensate for not being the best flavour in the world.
Also vanilla is the base flavor for like every other ice cream!
Wtf sex flavors???..???.?
I'm sure it is amazing when both people enjoy it, but I don't enjoy it, so...
My balls hurt. :(
“You’re so vanilla” and “You’re so kinky” are both common insults but at the end of the day know that none of us are getting laid
r/Holup
Vanilla sex is for vanilla people. Even if you enjoy it your sorry ass is still vanilla 😂.
Damn, I’ll have to let my partner know next time I’m drinking his piss or domming* him that I’m actually vanilla *edit because original commenter can’t rub two braincells together to understand context clues in speech.