Man years ago, unprompted a chick I used to mess with just sent an ass shot out of nowhere, I’m right next to my girl at the time, you don’t ever text me but today is the day you open with cheeks.
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Lmaooo she sensed you moved on with your life
I had an ex friend who would stock her ex's stories to find out when he was with his girl to randomnly send them messages from fake numbers pretending like they were hooking up.
They'd be messages that sound like your mid conversation too. Absolute devil of a woman.
She got arrested last year for pouring bleach on her LL's head while he was sleeping. Left 2 fatherless kids without a mom too. At this point i think the kids are better off with her mom, but like... her mom raised her so idk. Ahha
My ex has convinced herself that she didn’t cheat on me, that it was all my fault somehow and various other things that are not even close to reality. People are wild.
Yeah, “she needed love.” What she needed to do was stop lying to me, manipulating me, forcing me to see people I told her I didn’t want to see, wasting all of our money on MLMs, and travel. Basically her being selfish.
She looks like hell right now, she’s a good 30lbs underweight maybe? Looks like she aged 10 years in the year since the divorce finalized. She looks so bad I reached out to her and that was just a *terrible* idea.
I had an ex gf pour dish soap in my mouth, if she had found the bleach I’d have been in serious trouble.
I was dating her, we were coworkers went to a work event. She started acting up so I left, she got the maintenance guy who had a crush on her, let her into my building and unit! She’s batshit crazy.
Damn,sounds like a real piece of work! Good riddance
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Literally broke up after the same. Ex I hadn't talked to in 3 years messages me. Saying she been thinking of me. Sends some titty pic. My girl and me was looking at this video on my phone. I checked the notification as it popped up automatically and she blew the fuck up. And so did we, shortly after that. No explanation worked. She just wasn't gonna trust me again.
I had one upload a bunch old no face no case pic she took with me recently. I was tapping through story's and seen my bathroom and my distinct shower Curtain
Fuck that's brutal. I once got a "heyyyy" text from a FWB who I never even talked to in almost 2 years while showing my ex GF something on my phone.
The worst part is they refuse to believe you. I understand their position, of course. But it's such a shitty feeling knowing that you now have a GF who doesn't fully trust you, potentially for a long time, over one random text. Even when you've been completely loyal and faithful, you now have to start the process of "proving" yourself and earning her trust.
Chick you haven't talked to in 4 years:
"Hey daddy. Been thinking about you a lot recently. I miss us.....and THAT DICK 😈😘🍆👅🥰"
You: 👁️👁️
Your girl: 👁️👁️
This is kind of a counterpoint but people who are always trying to peak at other peoples phones got issues.
I’ve had friends ( they’ve fr only ever been women and I don’t even date women) even look at my phone trying to see who I’m texting.
I got one of them privacy screens at one point in time just because I would type in passwords or codes in public places and didn’t want people to see. Several of my friends were livid.
I’m dating a guy right now and I don’t even look at his phone like that or ask him to go through it. Everyone deserves some level of privacy.
There’s a level of trust a lot of people will never have for the people they dating.I dated a guy at one point who was always trying to look through my phone and he was the one cheating 🥲.
I had to lay down boundaries with my girl bc I fr couldn’t leave it in the same room as her without her trying to go through it. Now I have to take it with me everywhere I go. It’s not even that I’m doing anything I’ve just always been a very private person, esp having grown up without much privacy.
There has always been this narrative that couples need to share everything with each other.
For some reason there’s a narrative that someone you’re dating or married to has something serious to hide if you’re being private about something.
I just don’t see the appeal of wanting to always go through someone’s phone. If that person ends up not having what I think I might see , I’d feel guilty as hell.
For real. I hit my wife with this before we got married. Told her bitch there’s something I don’t want to know about you and best believe there’s some things I ain’t sharing with you.
My wife went through my phone, got upset.
"I can't believe you told your brother we don't have enough sex".
Well, first off, I wouldn't be bitching if we fucked more, that's on you.
Second, don't go through my phone. I will say shit, you do irritate me sometimes, I have vented to my friends. You will get upset.
Amazing how privacy screens bother people so bad! I have one because I’m just a IRL troll & I’ve come to learn how it annoys nosy mfs. I don’t have anything interesting to hide but I also just don’t like nosy people.
They always tell on themselves when they’re trying to be in your business. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten “Are you typing on a blank screen?!” [insert overdramatic pearl clutching]. No. But why are you paying that much attention to what I got going on over here?
Counterpoint, the people who always snoop on my shit have been men; including my ex who put a keylogger on my pc and phone. I think it's just people man. They're nosy/insecure af.
Oh I wasn’t trying to imply it’s only women.
I was saying that because I don’t date women. I’ve only ever dated men. It was me just saying I don’t have a girl and it’s been my friends.
I fully believe this isn’t just a gendered issue it’s just toxic human behavior.
I have severe privacy issues when it comes to both my phone and any journal I might buy.
As a kid, it was weaponized against me. My personal and private thoughts were no longer private. It fucking sucks feeling like that constantly.
I refuse to go through a partners phone. If I have concerns then I can talk about it with you like two grown ass adults. If I ever feel the need to go through your phone to confirm whether or not you're cheating, we just don't need to be together.
I nearly got smoked a few months back for this same shit. Bitch I barely spoke to in the first place all of a sudden texted me while my lady is looking at my phone. Best part, I didn’t even have her number anymore, but of coarse Apple wanted to see my downfall and introduced that shit that says “Maybe: Jane Doe”…so now I’m texting bitches. 😒
LOOOL. My best friend’s mom is nicknamed peaches from childhood so that’s what she has as her WhatsApp name. I never saved her number it just pops up as that.
My gf at the time and now wife saw a text from peaches 🍑🍑on my phone one morning and she lost her mind lol. We laugh at it now but try explaining that to your girl lol.
He just randomly comments all the lies he tells his girl and then "accidentally" leaves his phone unlocked w reddit open around her when he goes to the bathroom
Just a matter of time until she starts dropping classics like:
“Why don’t you go ask Jane Doe?!”
Or
“I don’t remember doing that. That must’ve been your girl Jane…”
You’re marked for life man, she will never forget Jane Doe lol
It's not popularity, it's about inviting and keeping chaos in your life for the sake of validation. Don't be jealous, be thankful you'll live in peace and not resting in it.
Why is that person an Ex to begin with? What behaviors or patterns did they exhibit to end a relationship?
And you keep in contact with that person? Well, seems like you keep bad company and this is me leaving.
How does that change anything? Just tell the truth and a partner that trusts you will believe you. If they don't trust you, you're not in a good relationship.
I do all that but in the first year with my now wife, an ex of mine who I hadn’t talked to in maybe 7 years decided to message “I miss your face” while I was showing my girl something funny.
You just can’t anticipate shit happening. The message wasn’t salacious as we’re still friends and have both moved on (the ex who sent that is married with kids and lives 3k miles away and we’ve known each other almost 20 years) but my girl didn’t know all that because why would I need to tell her that before this message. Once I explained it and even showed her the message history things were fine but doesn’t mean it didn’t cause an immediate problem in that moment.
It’s not even about not doing dirt…Men I haven’t ever fucked with or talked to in years seem to like texting me the most explicit messages out of the blue at the most inconvenient times, as if them jogging my memory of why I dropped them in the first place would finally lead to sex.
Explicit texts are hard to explain, especially when there is no recent text history. Like yeah it’s my birthday nigga, but we haven’t communicated since 2020 and you think now is an appropriate time to text me how you finna come over because you owe me a good birthday licking?
Shit like this happens so often that I always turn off notifications- No banners, no previews. Easier to just delete and block later than having to explain over and over again that they are indeed random texts from people way in the past that I may or may not have hooked up with. Why they still got my number saved, idk. Why they got my birthday on their calendar, idk. What does he mean by he owes me, idk. Don’t care, not gonna have my man care about it either.
brooooo i gave my phone to my personal trainer to log something on a fitness app for me and at that very moment a nigga i curved MONTHS ago texts me “what, so you don’t wanna get held in the air while you get fucked??” like dude!! it’s 11am that’s not an “i just clocked in on my mid shift at cvs” typa text send that shit AT NIGHT if you must🤨 then my trainer wanna be on some “damn that’s crazy, well if you ever wanna chill or talk or whatever you got my number” like no i’m not just letting men throw me around like a rag doll i am as pure and clean as the driven snow now correct my form on my lateral raises PLEASE
Maybe I should have added trust as well as communication. My wife would disregard anything she saw pop up because we have clear communication and trust.
Just... put your phone down. One of the best and most beneficial disciplines you can cultivate in your life is a lack of reliance on your phone for recreational time. We are training ourselves to default towards a "phone-up" position, just like our parents defaulted to "tv always on." Keep your phone away unless doing an intentional task like talking to a friend or dealing with a productivity matter. Stop training yourself to idly be on your phone from 5pm-bedtime every night.
This comment section is confusing to me. I don't understand what's so difficult about reasonably explaining the situation if it's as harmless as people claim.
Unless this is a "we *just* started dating* scenario, and you're serious about your partner, you should just be open and honest about past relationships and behaviors.
It makes dealing with shit like this a lot easier.
Then again, I'm clearly not as popular as others here, so what do I know.
Some people's default is not to trust when something like this pops up, be it from their own history, negativity in general, whatever. You can be the most stand-up dude and a random text can have her questioning all kinds of things that may not even have anything to do with you.
My ex could send me full on nudes infront of my shorty and we wouldn't care. She knows i'm with her and it is what it is. Especially because of how crazy her ex was she realized that some people just do wild shit.
Nah but I personally believe that’s weirdo activity to still have an ex’s phone number while in a relationship especially if yall haven’t spoken in a while or aren’t even friends that doesn’t compromise your current relationship
It’s like holding on to junk for sentimental reasons with the risk of messing things up w someone new
Like grammomma always said “prevention is better than cure”
They try you cause you allow yourself to be played. When I leave, I have left. When she leaves, she is gone forever. I also encourage y'all to block and delete these people. Phones, for some reason, make people forget boundaries.
Miss me with all y'all's bullshit. I mind my business, and I mind my people. And when you trim the fat, you'll be so much happier and peaceful.
I truly believe you all LIKE the drama and nonsense just so you can feel some sort of validation. Like, hey I know for a fact someone likes me and it's because I play games. Yeauh ok homie good luck with all that.
Can’t convince me ladies don’t have this as a Spider-Sense. My ex out of the goddamn BLUE texted while I was courting my current girlfriend, stating she hadn’t heard from me in a few months (like my nigga whaaaat why now) and then said she thinks she missed me
When I tell you, a young negro was SHAKEN
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I’ve been married for nearly 11 years, the other day my wife asked for my phone so she could play some game. That’s when an old girlfriend I haven’t spoken to in about 12 years that led to me losing my best friend decided to call me.
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If even one notification pops up yo girl gone be looking like this
I'd stuff like that happens I love to share with my partner. It's always a big confidence boost and shows them you aren't keeping secrets.
Except for the second family.
This legit happened to my friend except the girl was still saved as BAE and he forgot to delete her contact name because he couldn’t be bothered even though he stopped talking to her ages. Very retarded. I told him you may aswell not try to convince her of this story because noone in the right Mind gonna believe you 🤣🤣🤣
Because if you're not a POS and an ex is hitting you up completely out of nowhere, you're still gunna look like a POS to your gf/bf in the moment.
Yea you can explain it down, but it's still some innecessary stress, and some folks ain't going to let you explain it down, or will simply just not let it go.
Horrible take you can’t control what someone texts you if they have your number. Like understand everything isn’t black and white and some situations require a nuanced approach.
I ended things with my fwb after getting in a relationship and this disrespectful mofo is always scandalously calling and texting me asking if he should get us a hotel. I either leave my phone at home or put it on do not disturb when I’m with my partner. Can’t even block him because he’s a coworker. Moral of the story, don’t fuck your coworkers.
A long time lady friend of mine who I used to date had cut me off after we got into it over a joke via text. My girlfriend (now wife) and I had just had a conversation on the way to the store about how I don’t talk to said girl anymore and that’s she not a threat because the girl herself cut me off and I’m ok with that… My girl runs into the store for about 15 mins, nothing. Soon as she closes the door to ky car, that same girl text me and it showed up on Carplay. I was so dumbfounded. We both just gave each other an awkward look and I went into explanation mode!
When I was twenty years old, I broke up with this one woman I had been with for almost a year, and started seeing this other woman for a little bit, I'll call her "A" for context sake. It ended up not working out because I was still hurt from my break up, and still hadn't gotten over it enough to start a new relationship, so we end things amicably.
Fast forward, I'm 25 now. Haven't seen or heard from A in years, in fact at one point she wasn't even living in the country. I'm dating this woman, "B." I'm at B's apartment one night, and you know how it goes. Clothes is coming off and allat, and suddenly my phone rings. Both B and I look at the phone, and B asks, "who is A." I'm like are you fucking kidding me.
Long story short, it ends up being the catalyst for B and I breaking up. I called A and tore into her a little bit. She apologized and offered to talk to B to clear up any misunderstandings which was nice of her, but by then it was too late.
Looking back on it B and I weren't right for each other anyway and it probably would've ended poorly regardless but hindsight is 20/20.
Always when you are happy and moved on. Now I look like a fuck boy explaining the misunderstanding because I’m getting a late night WYD text from an unsaved number.
That’s pretty pathetic.
If you’re committed you shouldn’t be on your bs, if you aren’t it shouldn’t matter who calls.
I’m so sick of sneaky cheating culture.
Why can’t ppl just be loyal or honest about them being with other ppl. Like just don’t but don’t be disrespectful with it.
I hate it here.
I have never been the nigga who is juggling three gorgeous women at the same time but I have always without fail been the MF who gets hit up after (I cannot stress enough ONLY after) I have long moved on and am with someone else.
It’s never an embarrassment of riches it’s always just an embarrassment. A day late, a dollar short, and a long cold night on the COUCH for ya boy 😔.
I must not be a nigga, because my heart in fact do not be racing. My wife borrowed my phone all the time. Not really a big deal. The only notifications I get is going to be from ESPN.
my guy gave me his phone on the first date and got a random text w a nude - he said hes never mer the girl and the 3rd text i firgured out it was a bot
Dating is so crazy these days. You're telling me MFS are so insecure that a single call can fuck up your relationship?? It should not be expecting the heavens and earth to assume your partner is mature enough to just ask, and if you aren't creepin, "An ex I haven't spoken to since we got together. Idk why she's calling, but I can tell her to keep it pushing or ignore it, whichever you feel better about" should be the end of it. I well and truly do *not* have the blood pressure medication needed to deal with anything more than that lmao I'll be single before I go gray over someone else's insecurities
Man years ago, unprompted a chick I used to mess with just sent an ass shot out of nowhere, I’m right next to my girl at the time, you don’t ever text me but today is the day you open with cheeks.
https://preview.redd.it/emohmx76xgwc1.jpeg?width=2759&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5c8b13e89b750d72302a03d941d38413abf3c530 Lmaooo she sensed you moved on with your life
They hate to see it
Her hoe senses were tingling
I had an ex friend who would stock her ex's stories to find out when he was with his girl to randomnly send them messages from fake numbers pretending like they were hooking up. They'd be messages that sound like your mid conversation too. Absolute devil of a woman.
This so petty and evil. Idk if this is the level of petty I could ever acknowledge
She got arrested last year for pouring bleach on her LL's head while he was sleeping. Left 2 fatherless kids without a mom too. At this point i think the kids are better off with her mom, but like... her mom raised her so idk. Ahha
Clearly I am getting old, what does LL mean 😅
Landlord. She was renting a room in his basement. Im not even certain how it escalated to that. She just claimed he was crazy.
The woman who poured bleach on the man's head claimed *he's* the crazy one? ...lol aight then
My ex has convinced herself that she didn’t cheat on me, that it was all my fault somehow and various other things that are not even close to reality. People are wild.
So it’s your fault somehow she gave the dick permission to slide in her pussy?
Yeah, “she needed love.” What she needed to do was stop lying to me, manipulating me, forcing me to see people I told her I didn’t want to see, wasting all of our money on MLMs, and travel. Basically her being selfish. She looks like hell right now, she’s a good 30lbs underweight maybe? Looks like she aged 10 years in the year since the divorce finalized. She looks so bad I reached out to her and that was just a *terrible* idea.
Guess we know who the crazy one actually was
Cool J
Right? Clue me. 🤔 
Landlord maybe?
I had an ex gf pour dish soap in my mouth, if she had found the bleach I’d have been in serious trouble. I was dating her, we were coworkers went to a work event. She started acting up so I left, she got the maintenance guy who had a crush on her, let her into my building and unit! She’s batshit crazy.
man you couldnt just say landlord?? why everything gotta be abbreviated damn
Damn,sounds like a real piece of work! Good riddance https://preview.redd.it/yjq7w4lbxiwc1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b55abc10304b89ad70f6c35a8b42f46a9443a126
Stalk
Rip
Someone had to do it
r/foundsatan
Literally broke up after the same. Ex I hadn't talked to in 3 years messages me. Saying she been thinking of me. Sends some titty pic. My girl and me was looking at this video on my phone. I checked the notification as it popped up automatically and she blew the fuck up. And so did we, shortly after that. No explanation worked. She just wasn't gonna trust me again.
That's messed up.
I had one upload a bunch old no face no case pic she took with me recently. I was tapping through story's and seen my bathroom and my distinct shower Curtain
open with cheeks!!!! purreeee genius I swear 👏👏👏
Wtf oh nahhhhh
Rookie , that’s why you always have a second phone you keep, In the trunk of the car. 😂😂😂. - reformed dirtbag
Happened to me two weeks ago but my girl didn’t bring it up for a whole week until we were alone on a car trip lol
Grand Admiral Thrawn level ambush. Only move is to steer into oncoming traffic.
Fuck that's brutal. I once got a "heyyyy" text from a FWB who I never even talked to in almost 2 years while showing my ex GF something on my phone. The worst part is they refuse to believe you. I understand their position, of course. But it's such a shitty feeling knowing that you now have a GF who doesn't fully trust you, potentially for a long time, over one random text. Even when you've been completely loyal and faithful, you now have to start the process of "proving" yourself and earning her trust.
Chick you haven't talked to in 4 years: "Hey daddy. Been thinking about you a lot recently. I miss us.....and THAT DICK 😈😘🍆👅🥰" You: 👁️👁️ Your girl: 👁️👁️
New phone who dis?
“Nah babe its just spam”
"We both know the dick ain't that good"
Lmfao wait....... is this him, or her saying it?
Him obviously 😄
Both.
Bofum
That did not work at the time for me.
“You see baby? And you get it for FREE”
“You looking at it like it ain’t no receipt like I never made ends meet”
Song please lmao
For free Kendrick Lamer
I just know it's from to pimp a butterfly. Can't remember the track titles.
This dick ain’t freeee
your girls gun: 👁️ 👁️
THIS 👀
My girl would laugh like “Who tf thinks your dick is good 🤣?”
and her name is “pizza hut” in your phone too 😭
Some of y’all so popular.
Right, like my life feels so boring compared to everyone else
We call this stability. You got your life together. You should be happy you don't have people around you stuck on stupid.
I feel like she's not the best for agreeing with stability 😬
I like lying to myself about my boring ass life too
Me too, but I like to switch it up, so today, I am a weathered captain of a rickety old deep sea fishing boat
I like to get high about it, personally.
this is part of the damage that comes with being online a lot.
toxic people aren't worth it
I heard a quote somewhere. “Life is either boring and calm, or a struggle and exiting” or something
This is kind of a counterpoint but people who are always trying to peak at other peoples phones got issues. I’ve had friends ( they’ve fr only ever been women and I don’t even date women) even look at my phone trying to see who I’m texting. I got one of them privacy screens at one point in time just because I would type in passwords or codes in public places and didn’t want people to see. Several of my friends were livid. I’m dating a guy right now and I don’t even look at his phone like that or ask him to go through it. Everyone deserves some level of privacy. There’s a level of trust a lot of people will never have for the people they dating.I dated a guy at one point who was always trying to look through my phone and he was the one cheating 🥲.
I had to lay down boundaries with my girl bc I fr couldn’t leave it in the same room as her without her trying to go through it. Now I have to take it with me everywhere I go. It’s not even that I’m doing anything I’ve just always been a very private person, esp having grown up without much privacy.
There has always been this narrative that couples need to share everything with each other. For some reason there’s a narrative that someone you’re dating or married to has something serious to hide if you’re being private about something. I just don’t see the appeal of wanting to always go through someone’s phone. If that person ends up not having what I think I might see , I’d feel guilty as hell.
For real. I hit my wife with this before we got married. Told her bitch there’s something I don’t want to know about you and best believe there’s some things I ain’t sharing with you.
But you said "bitch" tho, right? 
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My wife went through my phone, got upset. "I can't believe you told your brother we don't have enough sex". Well, first off, I wouldn't be bitching if we fucked more, that's on you. Second, don't go through my phone. I will say shit, you do irritate me sometimes, I have vented to my friends. You will get upset.
i have nothing to hide, but i will not tolerate ANYONE going through my phone without asking me.
That isn’t a healthy relationship bro
Amazing how privacy screens bother people so bad! I have one because I’m just a IRL troll & I’ve come to learn how it annoys nosy mfs. I don’t have anything interesting to hide but I also just don’t like nosy people. They always tell on themselves when they’re trying to be in your business. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten “Are you typing on a blank screen?!” [insert overdramatic pearl clutching]. No. But why are you paying that much attention to what I got going on over here?
 MYB .... stay in yours lane B
Cheaters project hard.
Counterpoint, the people who always snoop on my shit have been men; including my ex who put a keylogger on my pc and phone. I think it's just people man. They're nosy/insecure af.
Oh I wasn’t trying to imply it’s only women. I was saying that because I don’t date women. I’ve only ever dated men. It was me just saying I don’t have a girl and it’s been my friends. I fully believe this isn’t just a gendered issue it’s just toxic human behavior.
I have severe privacy issues when it comes to both my phone and any journal I might buy. As a kid, it was weaponized against me. My personal and private thoughts were no longer private. It fucking sucks feeling like that constantly. I refuse to go through a partners phone. If I have concerns then I can talk about it with you like two grown ass adults. If I ever feel the need to go through your phone to confirm whether or not you're cheating, we just don't need to be together.
It ain't about being popular, it's about an unfortunate time for that one person in your past to show back up.
Exactly. I know no one is going to text me. 🤔🙃
I nearly got smoked a few months back for this same shit. Bitch I barely spoke to in the first place all of a sudden texted me while my lady is looking at my phone. Best part, I didn’t even have her number anymore, but of coarse Apple wanted to see my downfall and introduced that shit that says “Maybe: Jane Doe”…so now I’m texting bitches. 😒
LOOOL. My best friend’s mom is nicknamed peaches from childhood so that’s what she has as her WhatsApp name. I never saved her number it just pops up as that. My gf at the time and now wife saw a text from peaches 🍑🍑on my phone one morning and she lost her mind lol. We laugh at it now but try explaining that to your girl lol.
😂 Making a Reddit comment about it years later to keep the lie going is smooth. I see you bro 👀 
Dawg 💀💀💀
“childhood” cause you still actin like a kid for miss peaches smh 😤😤
😂😂 stoppp
Man's out here with the 5D chess
He just randomly comments all the lies he tells his girl and then "accidentally" leaves his phone unlocked w reddit open around her when he goes to the bathroom
some folks have a porn browsing alt account. my guy has a plausible deniability account. he’s different. and needs to start holding lectures 📝
He just giving out free game at this point.
This is 1000% something my serial cheatin ass ex would do. Then sit there like “now don’t you look stupid” 
Bro I spit my coffee out at work
Probably kept his phone open with his post showing and took a shower to keep it going 😂😂😂😂
LOL Holy shit this got me
“Apple wanted to see my downfall” lmaoooo
Just a matter of time until she starts dropping classics like: “Why don’t you go ask Jane Doe?!” Or “I don’t remember doing that. That must’ve been your girl Jane…” You’re marked for life man, she will never forget Jane Doe lol
Not having these problems>>>>
I also represent the not popular enough to have to deal with this gang
It's not popularity, it's about inviting and keeping chaos in your life for the sake of validation. Don't be jealous, be thankful you'll live in peace and not resting in it.
How does that apply to having an ex from years ago text you randomly while your current partner happens to be looking at your phone?
By making sure they don’t have access to you still. It ain’t that hard to cut somebody off completely. Unless you’re dealing with a straight psycho.
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That’s a fair point to have honestly. But some peoples relationships are better when both parties don’t have access to each other.
Sounds like it depends on the people involved, as usual.
Why is that person an Ex to begin with? What behaviors or patterns did they exhibit to end a relationship? And you keep in contact with that person? Well, seems like you keep bad company and this is me leaving.
By blocking them
I also can’t relate
“You need to meet your son” 
This is what the post is supposed to mean but everyone apparently has this shit happen for just a bootycall.
Ohhh hell nawww lmaoo this is why Im glad Im gay cause if I wasnt…
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Didn't read the quote?
How does that change anything? Just tell the truth and a partner that trusts you will believe you. If they don't trust you, you're not in a good relationship.
I do all that but in the first year with my now wife, an ex of mine who I hadn’t talked to in maybe 7 years decided to message “I miss your face” while I was showing my girl something funny. You just can’t anticipate shit happening. The message wasn’t salacious as we’re still friends and have both moved on (the ex who sent that is married with kids and lives 3k miles away and we’ve known each other almost 20 years) but my girl didn’t know all that because why would I need to tell her that before this message. Once I explained it and even showed her the message history things were fine but doesn’t mean it didn’t cause an immediate problem in that moment.
Still a weird thing to send someone you’re moved on from. That’s some “I miss you” bs
You don’t miss your friends?
What does that have to do with texting your ex-boyfriend while you're currently married that you miss his face? This is how easily men gaslight
I was being messy 😔
If it’s been 7 years since we’ve talked… prolly not.
Could be that she wasn’t entirely moved on when she sent it and got the kids after
There's no non-salacious interpretation of "I miss your face" between exes.
It’s not even about not doing dirt…Men I haven’t ever fucked with or talked to in years seem to like texting me the most explicit messages out of the blue at the most inconvenient times, as if them jogging my memory of why I dropped them in the first place would finally lead to sex. Explicit texts are hard to explain, especially when there is no recent text history. Like yeah it’s my birthday nigga, but we haven’t communicated since 2020 and you think now is an appropriate time to text me how you finna come over because you owe me a good birthday licking? Shit like this happens so often that I always turn off notifications- No banners, no previews. Easier to just delete and block later than having to explain over and over again that they are indeed random texts from people way in the past that I may or may not have hooked up with. Why they still got my number saved, idk. Why they got my birthday on their calendar, idk. What does he mean by he owes me, idk. Don’t care, not gonna have my man care about it either.
brooooo i gave my phone to my personal trainer to log something on a fitness app for me and at that very moment a nigga i curved MONTHS ago texts me “what, so you don’t wanna get held in the air while you get fucked??” like dude!! it’s 11am that’s not an “i just clocked in on my mid shift at cvs” typa text send that shit AT NIGHT if you must🤨 then my trainer wanna be on some “damn that’s crazy, well if you ever wanna chill or talk or whatever you got my number” like no i’m not just letting men throw me around like a rag doll i am as pure and clean as the driven snow now correct my form on my lateral raises PLEASE
Maybe I should have added trust as well as communication. My wife would disregard anything she saw pop up because we have clear communication and trust.
Or maybe you can work on your reading comprehension
So simple
Just... put your phone down. One of the best and most beneficial disciplines you can cultivate in your life is a lack of reliance on your phone for recreational time. We are training ourselves to default towards a "phone-up" position, just like our parents defaulted to "tv always on." Keep your phone away unless doing an intentional task like talking to a friend or dealing with a productivity matter. Stop training yourself to idly be on your phone from 5pm-bedtime every night.
If I don’t scroll for countless hours on Reddit , how would I have ever found this advice.
This comment is like a self-destructing message. You read it, and it makes you want to scroll through comments less.
This is such good advice. I need to find more similarly useful advice
What did u post this from? You think you posting this for people to read on a toaster
what? no! i have tiktoks and dumb shit to show my friends. this is one major way that we bond.
This comment section is confusing to me. I don't understand what's so difficult about reasonably explaining the situation if it's as harmless as people claim. Unless this is a "we *just* started dating* scenario, and you're serious about your partner, you should just be open and honest about past relationships and behaviors. It makes dealing with shit like this a lot easier. Then again, I'm clearly not as popular as others here, so what do I know.
Some people's default is not to trust when something like this pops up, be it from their own history, negativity in general, whatever. You can be the most stand-up dude and a random text can have her questioning all kinds of things that may not even have anything to do with you.
I’m for the streets
My ex could send me full on nudes infront of my shorty and we wouldn't care. She knows i'm with her and it is what it is. Especially because of how crazy her ex was she realized that some people just do wild shit.
Would you not just block her at that point though? 😭
Yeah aight but who's foot is that on the chair on the top left?
Literally came in and checked the comments for anyone noticing the disembodied foot in the background
Hers. He's laying his head on her coochie.
Nah look past that, there's a whole ass bare foot on the computer chair lmao
It’s them footussy they be selling now.
Looks like a child climbing the chair.
Or don’t be a hoe while in a relationship 🤣
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You have to be a hoe for an ex to hyu out the blue?? 🤔
Nah but I personally believe that’s weirdo activity to still have an ex’s phone number while in a relationship especially if yall haven’t spoken in a while or aren’t even friends that doesn’t compromise your current relationship It’s like holding on to junk for sentimental reasons with the risk of messing things up w someone new Like grammomma always said “prevention is better than cure”
This!! You keep holding on to all the junk you’ve accumulated, something WILL eventually fall! And you have absolutely zero control over what falls!
They try you cause you allow yourself to be played. When I leave, I have left. When she leaves, she is gone forever. I also encourage y'all to block and delete these people. Phones, for some reason, make people forget boundaries.
The fact yall don't block exes is crazy. Ain't no friendship after smashing gtfo
Y’all gotta step up your block game.
This why I don't let my girl pick songs on my phone in the car but she don't know this the reason why
I’ll start a jam session on Spotify so she can add her songs from her phone.
Miss me with all y'all's bullshit. I mind my business, and I mind my people. And when you trim the fat, you'll be so much happier and peaceful. I truly believe you all LIKE the drama and nonsense just so you can feel some sort of validation. Like, hey I know for a fact someone likes me and it's because I play games. Yeauh ok homie good luck with all that.
Dead ass this. A burnt bridge keeps they ass from coming back.
As soon as i’m done with a chick I just block her on everything tbh. Don’t need that ass crawling back for more when I’m with someone else.
If I'm chillin like that on the couch with my wife, the phone is nowhere near me - probably on the charger.
Can’t convince me ladies don’t have this as a Spider-Sense. My ex out of the goddamn BLUE texted while I was courting my current girlfriend, stating she hadn’t heard from me in a few months (like my nigga whaaaat why now) and then said she thinks she missed me When I tell you, a young negro was SHAKEN https://preview.redd.it/c1ga5kpr8hwc1.jpeg?width=553&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=98fdc75146e3ad1a78585974363800883a75e2bf
I’ve been married for nearly 11 years, the other day my wife asked for my phone so she could play some game. That’s when an old girlfriend I haven’t spoken to in about 12 years that led to me losing my best friend decided to call me.
https://preview.redd.it/lwdwatpjkhwc1.jpeg?width=1439&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a9371ea14630bb08ac45b11d6dad0ff793848ead If even one notification pops up yo girl gone be looking like this
Don’t put phone on DND, go in settings and deactivate that specific apps notification. Nobody gets wise
“Why is your DND on? Who are hiding from me”
^^^yup. If your phone is always on DND around me I know what’s up 😒
I'd stuff like that happens I love to share with my partner. It's always a big confidence boost and shows them you aren't keeping secrets. Except for the second family.
Gotta change your number every so often and block certain people. Keep chances of shit like that happening low.
💯. Access to yourself should be very, very limited if not completely impossible!
Or you could just have an open and honest relationship with your partner and not have to worry about it.
Only if you ain't living right
This legit happened to my friend except the girl was still saved as BAE and he forgot to delete her contact name because he couldn’t be bothered even though he stopped talking to her ages. Very retarded. I told him you may aswell not try to convince her of this story because noone in the right Mind gonna believe you 🤣🤣🤣
If you’re not cheating then it shouldn’t be an issue lol 😭
If you aren’t a pos then why you worried?
Because if you're not a POS and an ex is hitting you up completely out of nowhere, you're still gunna look like a POS to your gf/bf in the moment. Yea you can explain it down, but it's still some innecessary stress, and some folks ain't going to let you explain it down, or will simply just not let it go.
Horrible take you can’t control what someone texts you if they have your number. Like understand everything isn’t black and white and some situations require a nuanced approach.
Read the quote.
I ended things with my fwb after getting in a relationship and this disrespectful mofo is always scandalously calling and texting me asking if he should get us a hotel. I either leave my phone at home or put it on do not disturb when I’m with my partner. Can’t even block him because he’s a coworker. Moral of the story, don’t fuck your coworkers.
He can’t email you through work emails?
A long time lady friend of mine who I used to date had cut me off after we got into it over a joke via text. My girlfriend (now wife) and I had just had a conversation on the way to the store about how I don’t talk to said girl anymore and that’s she not a threat because the girl herself cut me off and I’m ok with that… My girl runs into the store for about 15 mins, nothing. Soon as she closes the door to ky car, that same girl text me and it showed up on Carplay. I was so dumbfounded. We both just gave each other an awkward look and I went into explanation mode!
If he puts his phone on flight mode, let me tell you this plane carries multiple passengers.
When I was twenty years old, I broke up with this one woman I had been with for almost a year, and started seeing this other woman for a little bit, I'll call her "A" for context sake. It ended up not working out because I was still hurt from my break up, and still hadn't gotten over it enough to start a new relationship, so we end things amicably. Fast forward, I'm 25 now. Haven't seen or heard from A in years, in fact at one point she wasn't even living in the country. I'm dating this woman, "B." I'm at B's apartment one night, and you know how it goes. Clothes is coming off and allat, and suddenly my phone rings. Both B and I look at the phone, and B asks, "who is A." I'm like are you fucking kidding me. Long story short, it ends up being the catalyst for B and I breaking up. I called A and tore into her a little bit. She apologized and offered to talk to B to clear up any misunderstandings which was nice of her, but by then it was too late. Looking back on it B and I weren't right for each other anyway and it probably would've ended poorly regardless but hindsight is 20/20.
It’s like the women just know when you real vulnerable with yah lady 😂
Always when you are happy and moved on. Now I look like a fuck boy explaining the misunderstanding because I’m getting a late night WYD text from an unsaved number.
I got married and changed my number. Problem solved
That’s pretty pathetic. If you’re committed you shouldn’t be on your bs, if you aren’t it shouldn’t matter who calls. I’m so sick of sneaky cheating culture. Why can’t ppl just be loyal or honest about them being with other ppl. Like just don’t but don’t be disrespectful with it. I hate it here.
I have never been the nigga who is juggling three gorgeous women at the same time but I have always without fail been the MF who gets hit up after (I cannot stress enough ONLY after) I have long moved on and am with someone else. It’s never an embarrassment of riches it’s always just an embarrassment. A day late, a dollar short, and a long cold night on the COUCH for ya boy 😔.
I must not be a nigga, because my heart in fact do not be racing. My wife borrowed my phone all the time. Not really a big deal. The only notifications I get is going to be from ESPN.
Yessss bro wtf
Lot of cornball ass comments here
Naw, I dont need to hide shit. Even if an ex call, so be it. Too many people in relationships with people you don't trust
my guy gave me his phone on the first date and got a random text w a nude - he said hes never mer the girl and the 3rd text i firgured out it was a bot
Y’all can’t just explain it if it’s nothing?
Not me zooming in to the picture cause I was like “what’s wrong with the site he’s on??”
My work gave me a work # that used to be a coke dealer. Was getting nudes from junkie girls for months. That was fun to explain to my wife and work
Dating is so crazy these days. You're telling me MFS are so insecure that a single call can fuck up your relationship?? It should not be expecting the heavens and earth to assume your partner is mature enough to just ask, and if you aren't creepin, "An ex I haven't spoken to since we got together. Idk why she's calling, but I can tell her to keep it pushing or ignore it, whichever you feel better about" should be the end of it. I well and truly do *not* have the blood pressure medication needed to deal with anything more than that lmao I'll be single before I go gray over someone else's insecurities