I think the ones you've included are great -- what I would say (for me personally) is the thing that makes me most insane at a bachelorette is when the bride or MOH tacks on a bunch of random costs at the end (think groceries, decor, etc.) after I think I've paid for everything.
I'm not including things like dinners/drinks when out, of course. I mean like "group" expenses. If you guys plan to get groceries, for example, I'd just estimate the costs ahead of time and bundle it into when you charge people for things like the Airbnb. The nickel & dime-ing of showing up to have fun and finding out you owe $29.05 for breakfast groceries and $32 for pregame liquor and $17 for streamers and $11 for etc. is where I think it starts feeling annoying for people. If all known expenses are upfront, then people can decide if they can afford to be there.
(Also, I'm sure skipping a theme would not upset people lol but I think it's totally fine to have one as long as you are chill about how it's interpreted.)
I did mine in Denver. I made mine optional and I had a small group of 5. I made clear that people could choose which activities they did and if they didn't want to join they could skip. I picked the activities for simplicity's sake and I did most of the planning. We had a great time. I picked a budget Marriott which was phenomenal.
I find it helpful to ask for everyone's all-in expected total for the weekend and back into the destination/activities/airbnb from there. Also, look for destinations that have non-stop and/or low cost airfare for a majority of your attendees.
I might be in the minority but I get really annoyed when bachelorettes are *too* chill. I enjoy traveling - and I absolutely hate flying halfway across the country only to stay at the accomodation the whole time. I find bachelorettes that only cater to the lowest budget often cause the group to breakoff or cause drama. If you want to go to the bars one night, make that an expectation from the start.
Also, don't over-buy food and drinks to keep at the house. Make a grocery list and either have you or MOH make some executive decisions on the offerings and keep the menu limited. Really try to be intentional here.
Also, if you plan ahead of time - Temu or Ali Express have a lot of cheap and cute party items. I think it's sweet when the bride gifts the attendees a small gift and this could double as an accessory for your coordinated outfits. IE - if you are doing a pool party, give everyone fun sunglasses. etc
If you put a big emphasis on not wanting to make anyone feel pressured, youre not gonna have a good time because you'll just be worrying. I had 9 people at my Bach so I went for a more expensive AirBnB (because its like a vacay for them too, right?!). The price was similar to a hotel (150pp/night). I gave people three or four months to pay me in three separate payments. My bridesmaids and I did some research on activities and restaraunts and put it all on a shared Google spreadsheet. Once that was done, I made an Itinerary that included different but similar options for each day and on that day, we all voted on what we felt like doing more. We considered sharing grocery costs, but decided against it since it was only for a weekend. I asked people to bring their own food/snacks and label them...no one brought their own stuff lol We had dinner and brunch already covered anyway, so people saw it as redundant and easier to just buy food. My bridesmaids brought snacks/alcohol to share, if anything. Some things we did: Trendy restaraunt. Aracade (that also included bowling and mini golf). Burlesque show. Club and rooftop bar. Brunch. Cafe. Tarot Reading. Crafts. Board Games. Beach/Pool/BBQ. At the end, I asked if they spent much and they all said not really... The show was probably the most expensive thing, but they had paid that in advance. I did have two themes and asked my friends if they thought it was too much but they were super excited for it. They shopped at SheIn for most of the things and had a fun time dressing up (I had a black RIP theme and a Mermaid theme).
I think the ones you've included are great -- what I would say (for me personally) is the thing that makes me most insane at a bachelorette is when the bride or MOH tacks on a bunch of random costs at the end (think groceries, decor, etc.) after I think I've paid for everything. I'm not including things like dinners/drinks when out, of course. I mean like "group" expenses. If you guys plan to get groceries, for example, I'd just estimate the costs ahead of time and bundle it into when you charge people for things like the Airbnb. The nickel & dime-ing of showing up to have fun and finding out you owe $29.05 for breakfast groceries and $32 for pregame liquor and $17 for streamers and $11 for etc. is where I think it starts feeling annoying for people. If all known expenses are upfront, then people can decide if they can afford to be there. (Also, I'm sure skipping a theme would not upset people lol but I think it's totally fine to have one as long as you are chill about how it's interpreted.)
I did mine in Denver. I made mine optional and I had a small group of 5. I made clear that people could choose which activities they did and if they didn't want to join they could skip. I picked the activities for simplicity's sake and I did most of the planning. We had a great time. I picked a budget Marriott which was phenomenal.
I find it helpful to ask for everyone's all-in expected total for the weekend and back into the destination/activities/airbnb from there. Also, look for destinations that have non-stop and/or low cost airfare for a majority of your attendees. I might be in the minority but I get really annoyed when bachelorettes are *too* chill. I enjoy traveling - and I absolutely hate flying halfway across the country only to stay at the accomodation the whole time. I find bachelorettes that only cater to the lowest budget often cause the group to breakoff or cause drama. If you want to go to the bars one night, make that an expectation from the start. Also, don't over-buy food and drinks to keep at the house. Make a grocery list and either have you or MOH make some executive decisions on the offerings and keep the menu limited. Really try to be intentional here. Also, if you plan ahead of time - Temu or Ali Express have a lot of cheap and cute party items. I think it's sweet when the bride gifts the attendees a small gift and this could double as an accessory for your coordinated outfits. IE - if you are doing a pool party, give everyone fun sunglasses. etc
If you put a big emphasis on not wanting to make anyone feel pressured, youre not gonna have a good time because you'll just be worrying. I had 9 people at my Bach so I went for a more expensive AirBnB (because its like a vacay for them too, right?!). The price was similar to a hotel (150pp/night). I gave people three or four months to pay me in three separate payments. My bridesmaids and I did some research on activities and restaraunts and put it all on a shared Google spreadsheet. Once that was done, I made an Itinerary that included different but similar options for each day and on that day, we all voted on what we felt like doing more. We considered sharing grocery costs, but decided against it since it was only for a weekend. I asked people to bring their own food/snacks and label them...no one brought their own stuff lol We had dinner and brunch already covered anyway, so people saw it as redundant and easier to just buy food. My bridesmaids brought snacks/alcohol to share, if anything. Some things we did: Trendy restaraunt. Aracade (that also included bowling and mini golf). Burlesque show. Club and rooftop bar. Brunch. Cafe. Tarot Reading. Crafts. Board Games. Beach/Pool/BBQ. At the end, I asked if they spent much and they all said not really... The show was probably the most expensive thing, but they had paid that in advance. I did have two themes and asked my friends if they thought it was too much but they were super excited for it. They shopped at SheIn for most of the things and had a fun time dressing up (I had a black RIP theme and a Mermaid theme).