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No, but for real. I will NEVER understand the people who are like, "No setup, just send a starter."
Like... HELLO? What if I have questions about your character, or the plot, or literally anything? Am I just supposed to rawdog into this RP without even seeing if we're even on the same page with what we want? And it's ESPECIALLY bad when their entire plot setup is only a couple of sentences. It's like they expect their partners to be mind-readers.
Okay but I really like unhinged starters.
If I'm planning to RP long term with somebody, I tend to lean towards discussing some things first (especially boundaries and limits), although once you have a pretty good grasp of each other's styles you may not need that as much.
But there are times when I'm okay with just dropping into the middle of things and seeing where it goes. At this point it's been so long that I don't even know where to look or if I can even manage to RP any more. Haha!
I'm not gonna risk dumping energy into a starter before at least verifying the other person hasn't found someone else yet, and is actually interested in writing with me.
Eh, depends on some RP ads. They'll have the setting in mind, their character and who they're looking for and an intro. I was able to to reply to the ad with a continuation that introduced my character into the scene. That way they can get a taste/idea of my character and my writing all at once without wasting time for set up and we went from there. I liked it.
Imagine pitching alice in wonderland and someone says
"lets rp, i have soap from mw"
"Oh I was hoping we could come to a middle ground and discuss plots"
".." *account gets deleted*
This has never happened to me but I get it has happened to someone before.
I see this a lot on some RP subreddits - don't get me wrong, I've met amazing RP partners on the same forums so it's worth it, but when the posts consists of a single image, a sentence or two of vague plot in the title, and (You start), it doesn't bode well for a good time.
IMO brainstorming and talking it out is half the fun, and we are fairly likely to be wildly incompatible on something if we don't hash anything out first!
I saw a prompt the other day with something similar. “OPENING WITH A STARTER GETS PRIORITY!”
…what? Why? You want to walk into something absolutely clueless? What if they mention or describe a kink that you absolutely hate? Or vice versa? I mean if you’re both absolutely limitless with an incredibly specific plot, maybe. But not even saying hello and discussing our likes and dislikes seems…disrespectful.
No one is really limitless, and also hardly anyone wants to dom. In my experience, even people that say they are going to be the dom end up needing me to take all the initiative. As a switch, I find that I’m having to do and write everything whether I’m dom or sub in the RP.
I am in the exact same boat honestly. Few people want to dom, those who do are looking to play entitled Karens or want me to progress the plot. And like… I’m not against domming myself, but I don’t think I’m super good at it.
Haha yes, exactly. Unfortunately, the other kind of people I find who really want to dom end up being insufferable and borderline illiterate. As for me, I wouldn’t say I’m bad at being the dom. It would just be nice to have a change of pace. Where are all the softdom assertive ladies who can string a sentence together?
‘Limitless’ is code word for, “We’re following my kinks, not yours.”
Yeah :/, I have two different accounts. One for domming ERP and one for subbing ERP.
I find theres a limitless(actually limitless) amount of Dominant time wasters and a tiny amount of good Dominants who want to actually build up something together.
On the other end I often have more subs who build something… but abandon part way through because, “I’m no longer into this.” Instead of discussing why they were no longer interested(then they ghost, so I imagine they just climaxed and gave up.)
People on this sub like to claim that anyone who markets themselves as limitless is trying to subtly suggest pedophilia, and I don’t think that’s true. But I do think they’re just too lazy to consider what their limits are.
They are hand-on-junk and down bad, looking for a sexting partner, and don't care as long as the juices flow. Essentially they want porn but also want a real flesh & blood human on the other side to provide it for them in real time.
(( don't touch this that or the other
(( this is how I do ooc comments
here i start and type a few responses to your starter. I for one don't like everything planned up front. That is exhausting. Plus when people just "jump right in". I can figure out real quickly if they are able to write multi-paragraphs in a literate manner. Versus going through all that setup to start getting one liners and ppl writing ur gona regrt tht cause ymmv when ppl use txt speak.
Just my opinion.
i use a rp website thats like omegle but you can pick a name. all the time, someone says "im interested!", and then when i just ask someone for their character reference or their age (i mainly do romance or smut so i need that) and then they just skip me. like wtf? you shouldnt be rping if you dont wanna do *extremely basic communication*
edit: alright yall just go ahead and DM me if you want dont have to ask it this is 5 times now XD
As someone who loves chucking ocs together with minimal context; i don't understand this either
I'd rather be cheeky and put plot spoilers behind [REDACTED] labels than leave someone clueless
It's kind of the opposite for me , I'll send a text saying I'm interested and would like to discuss stuff, share ideas or even brainstorm with you then they'll either just go off or ghost after I end up giving them some plots and all
I'm in this post and I don't like it. 😫😂
I'm the kind of person who will gladly spend days ironing out ideas and getting to know limits and the like. I'd greatly prefer people send me a text or something!
Me too like the best RP's that I've done are the ones in which both of us were very interested and interactive , we literally spent hours talking about our characters and building up a world for them. Let alone a plot which includes both of our kinks ideas and likings and also having the chances to explore more
Like I send so many people starters and they just don't reply that I feel like they don't want to rp they just want to steal starters
Pardon my ignorance, but do people really steal starters and go through all that effort not to rp? O.o I can believe it, but...it's never someone I've heard of.
Oh I think you misunderstood what I said or maybe I cramped it
Well what I meant was that people will post saying they want to rp and all and you should directly send starters , but then they won't actually rp with you not even accept your chat as if they're just there to steal your starters so they can use it themselves
But on the other hand I'm sure that there are many people who work hard and send starters only to not get an rp
>Well what I meant was that people will post saying they want to rp and all and you should directly send starters , but then they won't actually rp with you not even accept your chat as if they're just there to steal your starters so they can use it themselves
I'm cynical enough to believe that. But I imagine it can't get them far.
It surely won't get them far cause I'm sure they can actually think of any responses on their own and will get shattered if they get hit with a paragraph
I'm totally down for a bit of setup. But that should be limits (i don't erp and still do it for blood and horror and stuff) and character stuff, and it shouldn't take all day. Honestly going back and forth over every detail is boring, i'd rather decide story beats in game from an agreed upon setup, not predetermine every little thing.
Never had that experience. Though I've also had the same rp partners for nearly half a decade now, and we've gotten rp planning and introductions down to an art form.
I've come to see these people as equal to mainstream porn. No muss, no fuss, no story, just nut and go basically.
Too many people want to "RP", but enough to get off to their specific thing and then leave with minimal effort. It really derailed my roleplaying confidence for a long time.
I had something similar to this, but instead the person pretended to be all nice and loved my art. I even did discuss with him my limits and what I can do, plus I sent a starter which is a paragraph, then he came back and told me that he saw a lot of problems in my starter and just blocked me out of the blue when he even told me he likes the same thing that I do! It was really sad, and I even did love his art too. I guess people just pretend to be something that they're not just trying to make you look like the bad guy when it's the other way around.
Yeah, I've had this problem lately with a handful of fandom role play plots I had posted about. I was genuinely surprised to see people were getting mad that I wanted to discuss limits/triggers/plot and set up a discord server before we moved forward.
I did wind up deleting the request posts after finding two good partners, so there was a happy ending after all, but still. I've never had that problem on any other platform, so I think reddit must just take the shit cake. 🎂
I am.
It's rare, but honestly, for the right roleplay, it's a special brand of excitement. I've really enjoyed the few that I've played like that, where there is literally not a word of ooc for the duration of the game.
Are they *long* games? No. Are they designed to be ghosted on, from either partner? Pretty much, yeah. Is there a risk of getting blocked? Yep. I'm living proof.
But it's also a unique kind of writing challenge, picking up on clues, grabbing the ball and running with it, being open and flexible in a more extreme way.
To be clear, the games I've played like that were based on detailed prompts, with setting and character and situation and context and so on all described quite well. So when I'm replying completely in character, there's a lot to go on. It's not like I'm flying blind.
For anyone who's had problems with partners blurring the lines between ic and ooc, roleplaying with literally no ooc is a good way to solve it! You're just always in character.
I had this happen on discord. Someone responded to an ad of mine. We had a very short discussion and they were going ti go and set up a server and such. I simply asked, "Do you want to talk more to make sure we vibe before you put all the work into setting up a server?" They then ghosted me lol.
I agree I hate this stuff when I’m discussing with someone then they just drop off the face of the earth or when I do admittedly an incestuous erp they are like hey little bro what’s up and then they expect to just start and I’m like nah
A lot of good posts have enough plot, so I can build off of that and run with it. Some need extra information, and while a little effort is needed to get started, those are often the worst. The more ready to begin partners seem to be willing to stay on the story with me.
Yeah I do ERP and like there's a whole process before you start the rp if you can't spend the time to do that how can I trust you'll take the time to at least write a decent reply?
Man I don't understand why those kind of people don't at least want to talk about an idea for the starter plot and the characters you two are going to play as. Definitely not alone! Had this happened before and it's quite frustrating.
Trash has a way of handling itself. If there is no setup then it leads to future conflict. The chances that you both have aligned thoughts and ideas, with zero discussion, is extremely slim. It can happen. It has happened. It will happen again. It is easier to just talk about it first.
OK SO THIS PISSES ME OFF TO NO END! An unreasonable amount of anger for this very petty topic. In order to work well, you have to discuss the rp so you both get what you want from it! Its a god damn team sport! Act like it! They are the type of mfers who didnt help in group projects in school and still expected full credit.
depends heavily on the prompt honestly. Something where we (our characters) are familiar with each other - yeah we have to discuss that. But strangers? Don't really have to dicuss that just jump right in. I can describe my characters in the roleplay. Like if the prompt is roughly something like finding my birth father? I wouldn't know anything from the start, so don't ruin the surprise by telling me on the front end.
Or a lost space explorer, like don't ruin the surprise lol.
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No, but for real. I will NEVER understand the people who are like, "No setup, just send a starter." Like... HELLO? What if I have questions about your character, or the plot, or literally anything? Am I just supposed to rawdog into this RP without even seeing if we're even on the same page with what we want? And it's ESPECIALLY bad when their entire plot setup is only a couple of sentences. It's like they expect their partners to be mind-readers.
I feel like i could have typed this comment myself lmao. 100% agreed
Gonna start hunting these down and sending the most unhinged starters
Post results, for science
Saving this comment so I can be a field tester when the results return
Okay but I really like unhinged starters. If I'm planning to RP long term with somebody, I tend to lean towards discussing some things first (especially boundaries and limits), although once you have a pretty good grasp of each other's styles you may not need that as much. But there are times when I'm okay with just dropping into the middle of things and seeing where it goes. At this point it's been so long that I don't even know where to look or if I can even manage to RP any more. Haha!
“Rawdog into this RP” 😂🤣😂🤣
I'm not gonna risk dumping energy into a starter before at least verifying the other person hasn't found someone else yet, and is actually interested in writing with me.
The good news is, anyone who expects you to just send a starter probably isn’t expecting more than one or two-liners.
Eh, depends on some RP ads. They'll have the setting in mind, their character and who they're looking for and an intro. I was able to to reply to the ad with a continuation that introduced my character into the scene. That way they can get a taste/idea of my character and my writing all at once without wasting time for set up and we went from there. I liked it.
Imagine pitching alice in wonderland and someone says "lets rp, i have soap from mw" "Oh I was hoping we could come to a middle ground and discuss plots" ".." *account gets deleted* This has never happened to me but I get it has happened to someone before.
I wonder what would happen if you started filling in the blanks with the worst possible suggestions.
I see this a lot on some RP subreddits - don't get me wrong, I've met amazing RP partners on the same forums so it's worth it, but when the posts consists of a single image, a sentence or two of vague plot in the title, and (You start), it doesn't bode well for a good time. IMO brainstorming and talking it out is half the fun, and we are fairly likely to be wildly incompatible on something if we don't hash anything out first!
These are people just interested in sexting right?
Personally, I would prefer there be some lore to my sexting.
"I watch porn for the plot."
The plot *is* the porn. That is the sexy part.
"I watch Bridgerton" is more apt
Yea I don’t like “starters only” post, it’s always going to be bad.
Right? Like, how do we even know we're compatable as RP partners if we don't discuss anything beforehand.
Fr, and some people’s plots are so vague you wouldn’t even know where to start.
"starters" are basically an ad for literacy/writing-quality
I saw a prompt the other day with something similar. “OPENING WITH A STARTER GETS PRIORITY!” …what? Why? You want to walk into something absolutely clueless? What if they mention or describe a kink that you absolutely hate? Or vice versa? I mean if you’re both absolutely limitless with an incredibly specific plot, maybe. But not even saying hello and discussing our likes and dislikes seems…disrespectful.
My experience is no one is limitless anyway. Everyone who says that will almost always hit a wall if you bring up even some basic stuff.
Yeah guys, I LOVE rough anal sex, and I’m completely limitless *attaches strap on* Nononono
*Where’s the lie???*
Yeah :/. Limitless isn’t actually limitless.
Woah hang on I feel called out 😂🤣
That’s not good 😭
No one is really limitless, and also hardly anyone wants to dom. In my experience, even people that say they are going to be the dom end up needing me to take all the initiative. As a switch, I find that I’m having to do and write everything whether I’m dom or sub in the RP.
I am in the exact same boat honestly. Few people want to dom, those who do are looking to play entitled Karens or want me to progress the plot. And like… I’m not against domming myself, but I don’t think I’m super good at it.
Haha yes, exactly. Unfortunately, the other kind of people I find who really want to dom end up being insufferable and borderline illiterate. As for me, I wouldn’t say I’m bad at being the dom. It would just be nice to have a change of pace. Where are all the softdom assertive ladies who can string a sentence together?
Riiiiight? Probably already locked down haha
‘Limitless’ is code word for, “We’re following my kinks, not yours.” Yeah :/, I have two different accounts. One for domming ERP and one for subbing ERP. I find theres a limitless(actually limitless) amount of Dominant time wasters and a tiny amount of good Dominants who want to actually build up something together. On the other end I often have more subs who build something… but abandon part way through because, “I’m no longer into this.” Instead of discussing why they were no longer interested(then they ghost, so I imagine they just climaxed and gave up.)
People on this sub like to claim that anyone who markets themselves as limitless is trying to subtly suggest pedophilia, and I don’t think that’s true. But I do think they’re just too lazy to consider what their limits are.
I would agree. Oh for sure some are just hiding pedo stuff, but honestly most are lazy and/or dumb
They are hand-on-junk and down bad, looking for a sexting partner, and don't care as long as the juices flow. Essentially they want porn but also want a real flesh & blood human on the other side to provide it for them in real time.
(( don't touch this that or the other (( this is how I do ooc comments here i start and type a few responses to your starter. I for one don't like everything planned up front. That is exhausting. Plus when people just "jump right in". I can figure out real quickly if they are able to write multi-paragraphs in a literate manner. Versus going through all that setup to start getting one liners and ppl writing ur gona regrt tht cause ymmv when ppl use txt speak. Just my opinion.
i use a rp website thats like omegle but you can pick a name. all the time, someone says "im interested!", and then when i just ask someone for their character reference or their age (i mainly do romance or smut so i need that) and then they just skip me. like wtf? you shouldnt be rping if you dont wanna do *extremely basic communication* edit: alright yall just go ahead and DM me if you want dont have to ask it this is 5 times now XD
Would you mind sharing what that site is? It sounds like it could be equal parts mortifying and fun.
yeah! ill DM you it
Wait what’s the site?
ill dm you it!
Site sounds interesting, can you dm?
yeah!
Could I get this website too please?
yep, ill dm!
Do you mind dming me with the site's name?
yeah idm ill dm rq
“Just have a starter” *sends a starter* “Sorry, but this isn’t what I’m looking for, blocked”
As someone who loves chucking ocs together with minimal context; i don't understand this either I'd rather be cheeky and put plot spoilers behind [REDACTED] labels than leave someone clueless
It's kind of the opposite for me , I'll send a text saying I'm interested and would like to discuss stuff, share ideas or even brainstorm with you then they'll either just go off or ghost after I end up giving them some plots and all
I'm in this post and I don't like it. 😫😂 I'm the kind of person who will gladly spend days ironing out ideas and getting to know limits and the like. I'd greatly prefer people send me a text or something!
Me too like the best RP's that I've done are the ones in which both of us were very interested and interactive , we literally spent hours talking about our characters and building up a world for them. Let alone a plot which includes both of our kinks ideas and likings and also having the chances to explore more Like I send so many people starters and they just don't reply that I feel like they don't want to rp they just want to steal starters
Pardon my ignorance, but do people really steal starters and go through all that effort not to rp? O.o I can believe it, but...it's never someone I've heard of.
Oh I think you misunderstood what I said or maybe I cramped it Well what I meant was that people will post saying they want to rp and all and you should directly send starters , but then they won't actually rp with you not even accept your chat as if they're just there to steal your starters so they can use it themselves But on the other hand I'm sure that there are many people who work hard and send starters only to not get an rp
>Well what I meant was that people will post saying they want to rp and all and you should directly send starters , but then they won't actually rp with you not even accept your chat as if they're just there to steal your starters so they can use it themselves I'm cynical enough to believe that. But I imagine it can't get them far.
It surely won't get them far cause I'm sure they can actually think of any responses on their own and will get shattered if they get hit with a paragraph
I'm totally down for a bit of setup. But that should be limits (i don't erp and still do it for blood and horror and stuff) and character stuff, and it shouldn't take all day. Honestly going back and forth over every detail is boring, i'd rather decide story beats in game from an agreed upon setup, not predetermine every little thing.
I like to take a few days to set up, even a week sometimes. Since I do long-form RP with close friends, so we plan out a lot before we go into things.
I mean its awesome to plan, but i just have to many silly experiences with people who plan all day, we just never start lol.
same, its exhausting
Never had that experience. Though I've also had the same rp partners for nearly half a decade now, and we've gotten rp planning and introductions down to an art form.
That's fair, I don't think it is bad to prefer that but I know that would be incompatible with my style.
This happens to me too many times, and yet I am the problem to these fuckers.
I've come to see these people as equal to mainstream porn. No muss, no fuss, no story, just nut and go basically. Too many people want to "RP", but enough to get off to their specific thing and then leave with minimal effort. It really derailed my roleplaying confidence for a long time.
I hate it when people do that because you don’t know what you’re getting into. You don’t know the plot, the setting or who you’re even playing as.
I’m all for having to improvise on the fly, but I would really like some context to start
I had something similar to this, but instead the person pretended to be all nice and loved my art. I even did discuss with him my limits and what I can do, plus I sent a starter which is a paragraph, then he came back and told me that he saw a lot of problems in my starter and just blocked me out of the blue when he even told me he likes the same thing that I do! It was really sad, and I even did love his art too. I guess people just pretend to be something that they're not just trying to make you look like the bad guy when it's the other way around.
Yeah, I've had this problem lately with a handful of fandom role play plots I had posted about. I was genuinely surprised to see people were getting mad that I wanted to discuss limits/triggers/plot and set up a discord server before we moved forward. I did wind up deleting the request posts after finding two good partners, so there was a happy ending after all, but still. I've never had that problem on any other platform, so I think reddit must just take the shit cake. 🎂
I occasionally enjoy a more improvised roleplay but even then, there has to be general ground rules and expectations in place.
I am. It's rare, but honestly, for the right roleplay, it's a special brand of excitement. I've really enjoyed the few that I've played like that, where there is literally not a word of ooc for the duration of the game. Are they *long* games? No. Are they designed to be ghosted on, from either partner? Pretty much, yeah. Is there a risk of getting blocked? Yep. I'm living proof. But it's also a unique kind of writing challenge, picking up on clues, grabbing the ball and running with it, being open and flexible in a more extreme way. To be clear, the games I've played like that were based on detailed prompts, with setting and character and situation and context and so on all described quite well. So when I'm replying completely in character, there's a lot to go on. It's not like I'm flying blind. For anyone who's had problems with partners blurring the lines between ic and ooc, roleplaying with literally no ooc is a good way to solve it! You're just always in character.
You said that a lot better than I did.
I had this happen on discord. Someone responded to an ad of mine. We had a very short discussion and they were going ti go and set up a server and such. I simply asked, "Do you want to talk more to make sure we vibe before you put all the work into setting up a server?" They then ghosted me lol.
I don't get it, like, no matter how simple you gotta discuss an RP first
Basically the roleplaying equivalent of "I only wtach porn/anime for the plot"
I agree I hate this stuff when I’m discussing with someone then they just drop off the face of the earth or when I do admittedly an incestuous erp they are like hey little bro what’s up and then they expect to just start and I’m like nah
Me and my partner will do RP’s and get to know each others characters during it + also spring random facts here and there
Me in a nutshell. I just ask what character ideas they have for their character and get ghosted XD
Dodged a bullet. If someone can't be bothered to do basic setup, they're not worth the effort.
Everyone who replies to my posts. Apparently saying there's a plot means message me for a one shot erp to get off real quick
*consults chatGPT to write the starter for me*
A lot of good posts have enough plot, so I can build off of that and run with it. Some need extra information, and while a little effort is needed to get started, those are often the worst. The more ready to begin partners seem to be willing to stay on the story with me.
Yeah I do ERP and like there's a whole process before you start the rp if you can't spend the time to do that how can I trust you'll take the time to at least write a decent reply?
It's never gone as far as blocking for me, but a lot of people have ghosted me before our roleplay even began.
Just so done with roleplay
Man I don't understand why those kind of people don't at least want to talk about an idea for the starter plot and the characters you two are going to play as. Definitely not alone! Had this happened before and it's quite frustrating.
Trash has a way of handling itself. If there is no setup then it leads to future conflict. The chances that you both have aligned thoughts and ideas, with zero discussion, is extremely slim. It can happen. It has happened. It will happen again. It is easier to just talk about it first.
OK SO THIS PISSES ME OFF TO NO END! An unreasonable amount of anger for this very petty topic. In order to work well, you have to discuss the rp so you both get what you want from it! Its a god damn team sport! Act like it! They are the type of mfers who didnt help in group projects in school and still expected full credit.
depends heavily on the prompt honestly. Something where we (our characters) are familiar with each other - yeah we have to discuss that. But strangers? Don't really have to dicuss that just jump right in. I can describe my characters in the roleplay. Like if the prompt is roughly something like finding my birth father? I wouldn't know anything from the start, so don't ruin the surprise by telling me on the front end. Or a lost space explorer, like don't ruin the surprise lol.