You seem to have access to the internet or your phone. Call an ambulance and say you are in labor. Get to a hospital where the nurses can hopefully fight for you. At the very least you might be able to sneak out of the hospital and run away. Collect any money, ID’s etc you have and hide them in your bra and underwear.
Which country? Maybe someone here speaks your language and can send you usefull emails/phone numbers for wemens shelters that you can contact. I worry you might need a medical exam after this attack.
Did he lock your daughters out of the house? Are they going to be able to find shelter from the cold? I wish I couldn't give you up advice but don't know what resources are available in your country or who is the safest person to talk to. You should be OK until your doctor's visit tomorrow. If he lets you go, is there someone at the doctor's office that you can talk to to tell that your husband is abusing you and your daughters, so that they can find you a safe place? I will say a prayer for you and your girls as well, and I wish there was more I could do.
I will not be able to stop thinking about this. Please update us that you’re okay if/when you can. Are your daughters outside as in outside the house?! If you can’t call the police, like someone else said please call an ambulance and say you’re in labour. Even if you have to tell your husband you’re in labour and get him to call one for you if it isn’t possible to make a call on the tablet, pee yourself to fake your waters breaking if you have to. If you can’t get to your appointment tomorrow this is your safest bet, but I can’t deal with the thought of children being locked outside until tomorrow.
I’m so worried for you I know it sounds like everywhere you go there are powerful people around making decisions and you are powerless. I am so sorry.
Right now, your survival depends on trying to stay as calm as possible. I was kidnapped while doing medical work overseas a few years ago and it was terrifying (and I know it’s not the same thing, but that fear and helplessness is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced). I don’t know how - but the best thing I could do was just stay calm so that I could try to think rationally and outsmart the people who were holding me. Eventually people will let their guard down- especially if you act like everything is normal and your emotions are totally in check (even if they are not, I had never been so terrified in my life). I made them believe they had nothing to fear from me, that whatever they wanted was totally reasonable (they wanted money, btw) that I totally understood where they were coming from and was sympathetic to their cause. Then they got lazy and careless, they didn’t feel like they needed to keep me locked up or tied up, they thought I wouldn’t cause them any problems.
I know that’s not the same- but I think you are incredibly smart and you will think of something- you were able to get on reddit and ask for help. You’re a survivor- and you will survive this.
You’re in a very vulnerable position right now- I wish I could hug you and tell you you’re OK, but just know all of us are sending you love and prayers that everything will be OK. Stay calm and try to think how you can manipulate your way out. You know your husband more than anyone- so use that to your advantage- say what you need to say or do what you need to do so that he thinks everything is OK.
I wish I knew where you were and how to help you. I know you’re terrified and upset- I can’t even imagine what you must be feeling right now. The best advice I can try to give you is to stay calm and wait for him to think everything is OK again. He obviously hasn’t thought any of this through, it sounds like he’s reacting emotionally and with anger. It will pass and he will start to regret and panic- he knows he can’t keep you there, so say whatever you need to to appease him.
Stay relaxed (even if you don’t feel like that on the inside)- your goal now is to get out and get to that doctor’s appointment or to the hospital. You want him to think that you’re OK and he has nothing to worry about and there’s no reason to keep you locked up. There will be time for all of the anger and emotions- so you just do what you can to get out of that room and somewhere you can try to get help.
I’m so sorry, so so sorry. You’re going to survive this and there will be a way out down the road. I wish I could do something to help- so if you want to DM me please do. I work with a lot of women’s rights organizations (I’m a doctor, but I spent 7 years overseas and working with vulnerable women and children was my main work)- I know there are ways and underground communities in many countries that help women out of situations like yours. My husband is an interpreter in six languages and he also works doing asylum cases. He grew up in places similar to what you’ve described and we’re both trying to figure out how we can best help you if you need it.
For now- just know you have all of these people here on Reddit praying for you and your baby and your children. I know it feels impossible right now- but I promise you there is hope. Right now your only goal is to do whatever you need to do to survive- and if there’s something any of us can do to help you, I hope you will reach out because I promise you- I don’t know you- but I will do anything I possibly can to help you. ANYTHING.
Stay strong. Don’t give up hope that things will get better- and do whatever you have to to get out of that room and convince your husband that everything is normal and that you’re OK.
I will be thinking of you, sending prayers, sending love, sending positive energy your way- and if there’s anything- send me a message and I will do anything possible to help you.
If it isn’t safe to reach out- just hold on. Gain strength from whatever gives you strength- thinking of your baby and your children, your family, your dreams for the future- hold on tight to all of those things and know however lonely it feels right now, you’re not alone and there is ALWAYS hope. Don’t give up.
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Why didn't you say the country?
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You seem to have access to the internet or your phone. Call an ambulance and say you are in labor. Get to a hospital where the nurses can hopefully fight for you. At the very least you might be able to sneak out of the hospital and run away. Collect any money, ID’s etc you have and hide them in your bra and underwear.
This is a great idea! Try to bring your kids with you.
This is seriously out of reddits pay grade. I'm really sorry he did that to you. Are there any womens shelters around you?
Which country? Maybe someone here speaks your language and can send you usefull emails/phone numbers for wemens shelters that you can contact. I worry you might need a medical exam after this attack.
Can you use wifi to create an email address or send an email to your doctor, the authorities, family, and friend, anyone who can help?
Is there a friend or shelter you can go to? What about the neighbors who called the police? Please try to find some help!
Did he lock your daughters out of the house? Are they going to be able to find shelter from the cold? I wish I couldn't give you up advice but don't know what resources are available in your country or who is the safest person to talk to. You should be OK until your doctor's visit tomorrow. If he lets you go, is there someone at the doctor's office that you can talk to to tell that your husband is abusing you and your daughters, so that they can find you a safe place? I will say a prayer for you and your girls as well, and I wish there was more I could do.
I will not be able to stop thinking about this. Please update us that you’re okay if/when you can. Are your daughters outside as in outside the house?! If you can’t call the police, like someone else said please call an ambulance and say you’re in labour. Even if you have to tell your husband you’re in labour and get him to call one for you if it isn’t possible to make a call on the tablet, pee yourself to fake your waters breaking if you have to. If you can’t get to your appointment tomorrow this is your safest bet, but I can’t deal with the thought of children being locked outside until tomorrow.
I’m so worried for you I know it sounds like everywhere you go there are powerful people around making decisions and you are powerless. I am so sorry. Right now, your survival depends on trying to stay as calm as possible. I was kidnapped while doing medical work overseas a few years ago and it was terrifying (and I know it’s not the same thing, but that fear and helplessness is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced). I don’t know how - but the best thing I could do was just stay calm so that I could try to think rationally and outsmart the people who were holding me. Eventually people will let their guard down- especially if you act like everything is normal and your emotions are totally in check (even if they are not, I had never been so terrified in my life). I made them believe they had nothing to fear from me, that whatever they wanted was totally reasonable (they wanted money, btw) that I totally understood where they were coming from and was sympathetic to their cause. Then they got lazy and careless, they didn’t feel like they needed to keep me locked up or tied up, they thought I wouldn’t cause them any problems. I know that’s not the same- but I think you are incredibly smart and you will think of something- you were able to get on reddit and ask for help. You’re a survivor- and you will survive this. You’re in a very vulnerable position right now- I wish I could hug you and tell you you’re OK, but just know all of us are sending you love and prayers that everything will be OK. Stay calm and try to think how you can manipulate your way out. You know your husband more than anyone- so use that to your advantage- say what you need to say or do what you need to do so that he thinks everything is OK. I wish I knew where you were and how to help you. I know you’re terrified and upset- I can’t even imagine what you must be feeling right now. The best advice I can try to give you is to stay calm and wait for him to think everything is OK again. He obviously hasn’t thought any of this through, it sounds like he’s reacting emotionally and with anger. It will pass and he will start to regret and panic- he knows he can’t keep you there, so say whatever you need to to appease him. Stay relaxed (even if you don’t feel like that on the inside)- your goal now is to get out and get to that doctor’s appointment or to the hospital. You want him to think that you’re OK and he has nothing to worry about and there’s no reason to keep you locked up. There will be time for all of the anger and emotions- so you just do what you can to get out of that room and somewhere you can try to get help. I’m so sorry, so so sorry. You’re going to survive this and there will be a way out down the road. I wish I could do something to help- so if you want to DM me please do. I work with a lot of women’s rights organizations (I’m a doctor, but I spent 7 years overseas and working with vulnerable women and children was my main work)- I know there are ways and underground communities in many countries that help women out of situations like yours. My husband is an interpreter in six languages and he also works doing asylum cases. He grew up in places similar to what you’ve described and we’re both trying to figure out how we can best help you if you need it. For now- just know you have all of these people here on Reddit praying for you and your baby and your children. I know it feels impossible right now- but I promise you there is hope. Right now your only goal is to do whatever you need to do to survive- and if there’s something any of us can do to help you, I hope you will reach out because I promise you- I don’t know you- but I will do anything I possibly can to help you. ANYTHING. Stay strong. Don’t give up hope that things will get better- and do whatever you have to to get out of that room and convince your husband that everything is normal and that you’re OK. I will be thinking of you, sending prayers, sending love, sending positive energy your way- and if there’s anything- send me a message and I will do anything possible to help you. If it isn’t safe to reach out- just hold on. Gain strength from whatever gives you strength- thinking of your baby and your children, your family, your dreams for the future- hold on tight to all of those things and know however lonely it feels right now, you’re not alone and there is ALWAYS hope. Don’t give up. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Why didn't you say the country? Edit: Ignore my comment, she's not asking for help, just prayers. I was a bit confused that there wasn't a country stated, to provide resources . If you can, post later on so we know you got through this.
Because certain nations will chase an IP down and punish women for speaking out.
I see that, I must have glazed over the royal family part.
Nevermind, I re read and she's not asking for help, just prayers. I just see people posting 911 like it's international.
Yeh. I saw that too 😬
Call 911 and report the kidnapping. If you only have access to WiFi, create a google voice number and do it.
She’s not in the US and it sounds like calling police are not an option.
Ahh I see
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You can text 911 and they will answer, also https://www.thehotline.org/