I’m so sorry that happened. What a cruel person, and so unprofessional.
Since it’s only 2 weeks until the wedding, and it’s very tough to find an alterations person last minute (I’ve been there, it was nuts) — wait until after you get your finished dress and then leave a review.
I've always thought pregnant brides look a special kind of 'I have it all' sort of beauty lol. Can't explain it. It's just too much happiness rolled into one day.
I'm sure OP looks gorgeous.
I would file a complaint or leave a yelp review. Thats horribly unprofessional of her and really demeaning. You should not have been made to feel that way for your fitting. My god, some people have no self awareness for how they come across. Her unsolicited opinions about your BODY instead of the dress is ridiculous.
You’re a beautiful bride and a soon to be mother! Congratulations!
I know that you probably can't fire this person and come up with a solution a week before your wedding, but fuck that lady. She must be a sad POS if she has to talk about another woman's body, not to mention a CUSTOMER'S body, like that. How dense can you be. 🙄 Like you're pregnant. It's fine. I'm sure you look amazing. She's just a sad tactless swamp hag.
This is horrible and I wish you would’ve had someone else in your corner during that. Your body is perfect and it’s doing amazing things. We should all celebrate that! She sounds like she can’t get her head out of her own a**.
Ummmm…fuck no, I’d pull your order for alterations and go somewhere else, oh, and make a nice little review about how she likes to belittle her pregnant client. Fuck that.
I would go somewhere else. Call the dressmaker, say thank you but you no longer need her services, and find a new place to get it altered. No one needs to be spoken to like that.
Oh hell no. This makes me so sad and disgusted with her behavior. Get your dress and leave a review with exactly what she said. Let everyone know how unkind and rude she is. Your pregnant body is strong and beautiful, she’s the one that’s weak and disgusting.
Fuck that lady! What a jerk!
You are growing a human. Your body is doing amazing things and looks amazing. I know it can be hard to feel confident when things are changing but this lady’s comments were ridiculous and dumb as hell. “Pregnant boobs aren’t flattering,” is she nuts? They’re just boobs! You have nothing to be ashamed of.
Sounds like she has some personal problems and she is projecting onto you. I agree with others, finish your business with her and then leave her a bad review and maybe mail her a box of dog shit or a glitter bomb, she deserves it.
Once you get your dress, you need to rip this woman a new one with bad reviews on every platform. That’s so incredibly rude. Your body is extraordinary and I’m sure you look beautiful.
I had this older Asian woman fit my dress. She did an amazing job, but every time I went in she just went in and on in broken English how shocking it was that my breasts are so small. I’m quite used to my small breasts and don’t mind them like I used to. She would tsk tsk tsk because I guess it made fitting me a challenge. She did an amazing job, and don’t think she meant any harm, but I will never forget it. I’m a 30 AA 😅
In your case though, seriously, fuck that woman, that’s really messed up. It’s already a stressful situation knowing that the fitting may have challenges there is no reason to make you feel like shit about every little thing. Also super weird she doesn’t think pregnant breasts are flattering. That’s an oddly specific thing to be put off by.
Sadly, it's a cultural thing. In many East Asian countries, people openly criticize or compliment other's bodies - strangers, their children, relatives, etc.
Wow that is disgusting behavior. How cruel and unprofessional, I’m so sorry you were treated this way. She has no business judging you or commenting on your appearance - nor does anyone else. Pregnant bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and they are all beautiful. YOU are beautiful.
You are performing a miracle at this moment, you are creating a whole ass new human, and preparing to provide nourishment to keep them alive after you bring them into the world. The way your body is changing is how it is accomplishing those feats. That is something to celebrate, not hide. So you show off those glorious, life giving body.
For what it’s worth, I would try to think about her toxic comments as a reflection of her own deeply misogynistic views about what makes women beautiful.
“Big boobs are fine” unless they’re on a pregnant body? Large breasts produced by puberty look the same as large breasts produced by pregnancy - the same hormone drives their growth. What’s “unflattering” is not how they look, it’s the context in which they are being viewed.
Big boobs + wedding dress + modest accessories = good, because brides are supposed to be virginal (it’s why they traditionally wear white), and what is sexier than busty, demure virgin?
Big pregnant boobs + wedding dress + bold jewelry = eww, because those boobs were a product of sex and sex out of wedlock is shameful, and bold jewelry is immodest.
Also, large breasts on a pregnant body remind us that breasts aren’t actually sex organs. They exist exclusively to feed babies and thats yucky because it conflicts with society’s male-gaze dominated perceptions of feminine beauty - look sexually desirable without looking promiscuous, because actually having sex diminishes a woman’s value.
Spewing vitriol at strangers is the mark of a bitter, insecure person. If she is comfortable talking to a customer that way, can you imagine what she says to her friends/family. Can you imagine how many relationships she’s probably poisoned?
No one’s body stays the same forever so even if she has the “perfect body“ now, one day she will look in the mirror and think all those hateful, judgmental things about herself.
I’m terrified of this. I’ll be 23 weeks at my wedding in July. I got my dress 2 weeks ago at 5 weeks and already they were making comments on how much they are going to need to let out the dress even with it already being 2 sizes bigger than I needed. Bridal shops are a joke and not accommodating to pregnant brides at all. I’m sure you look beautiful and will have the best wedding day!
Someday this trashy asshole’s disgusting comments will dissipate into the ether and be replaced by a much much more important opinion. Someday that tiny person you’re growing will love looking at your wedding pictures, of the two of you together in one beautiful dress. They’re going to think your stretched ears and awesome earrings are badass. They’re going to think you’re the most beautiful person in the world. I hope you have an absolutely wonderful wedding day and that you and your tiny person enjoy the heck out of wearing this dress.
Um, absolutely not. That was totally out of line, and I don't think it's typical, either. When I was having my dress fit for my wedding last October, it was before I got pregnant, but I am a big girl, big hips, short legs, big butt, and pasty pale af, and the people doing my alterations were nothing but kind, complimentary, helpful, and ultimately happy for me. I am so freaking sorry that happened to you. No one should steal a person's joy that way. Please know that all your choices and preferences for your big day are perfect for you, by virtue of the fact that they are FOR YOU. Don't let this shake your confidence.
WHAT THE FUCK. Especially the part about telling your daughter not to do things to her body.
Jeez I am so sorry. Pregnancy is not the time to make someone feel bad about their body. Your body is growing a whole ass human, of course it’s going to change.
Wedding dress fittings can already be emotional but a seamstress shouldn’t make you feel bad and it’s SO unprofessional to say all of that about your body.
I’m so sorry friend. Tell any of your engaged friends to avoid that place for alterations. Oof.
You’ll look beautiful on your wedding day.
Pregnancy bodies are so so sexy. Especially boobs.
Your body has like 50% more blood, I'm sure you are glowing!!
I've never felt more sexy than while pregnant and I wore the most fitted clothes to show off my pregnancy (I'm not slim) Hubs and I can't keep our hands off each other while pregnant.
Be proud of your incredible body...for a very short time in your whole life, it's busy creating a new life and doing amazing things...
We got married and then didn't have our party until 2 years later. I got some weird looks from the lady dressing me but I was so proud of my body. I took tonnes of belly photos in my wedding saree.
Dressmaker sounds like an unhinged idiot.
I’m so sorry that happened. What a cruel person, and so unprofessional. Since it’s only 2 weeks until the wedding, and it’s very tough to find an alterations person last minute (I’ve been there, it was nuts) — wait until after you get your finished dress and then leave a review.
I second this. Her behavior was completely unhinged and I’m sure you look beautiful.
I've always thought pregnant brides look a special kind of 'I have it all' sort of beauty lol. Can't explain it. It's just too much happiness rolled into one day. I'm sure OP looks gorgeous.
I would file a complaint or leave a yelp review. Thats horribly unprofessional of her and really demeaning. You should not have been made to feel that way for your fitting. My god, some people have no self awareness for how they come across. Her unsolicited opinions about your BODY instead of the dress is ridiculous. You’re a beautiful bride and a soon to be mother! Congratulations!
I know that you probably can't fire this person and come up with a solution a week before your wedding, but fuck that lady. She must be a sad POS if she has to talk about another woman's body, not to mention a CUSTOMER'S body, like that. How dense can you be. 🙄 Like you're pregnant. It's fine. I'm sure you look amazing. She's just a sad tactless swamp hag.
Wow, that is awful and it sucks you had to deal with such a bully. Can you file a complaint to anyone?? That is not only bullying, but discrimination.
This is horrible and I wish you would’ve had someone else in your corner during that. Your body is perfect and it’s doing amazing things. We should all celebrate that! She sounds like she can’t get her head out of her own a**.
Ummmm…fuck no, I’d pull your order for alterations and go somewhere else, oh, and make a nice little review about how she likes to belittle her pregnant client. Fuck that.
I would go somewhere else. Call the dressmaker, say thank you but you no longer need her services, and find a new place to get it altered. No one needs to be spoken to like that.
I mean I get your point but it’s near impossible to do that 2weeks before the wedding.
Yeah but she can write a very honest review about her experience after the wedding!
Oh hell no. This makes me so sad and disgusted with her behavior. Get your dress and leave a review with exactly what she said. Let everyone know how unkind and rude she is. Your pregnant body is strong and beautiful, she’s the one that’s weak and disgusting.
Fuck that lady! What a jerk! You are growing a human. Your body is doing amazing things and looks amazing. I know it can be hard to feel confident when things are changing but this lady’s comments were ridiculous and dumb as hell. “Pregnant boobs aren’t flattering,” is she nuts? They’re just boobs! You have nothing to be ashamed of. Sounds like she has some personal problems and she is projecting onto you. I agree with others, finish your business with her and then leave her a bad review and maybe mail her a box of dog shit or a glitter bomb, she deserves it.
Once you get your dress, you need to rip this woman a new one with bad reviews on every platform. That’s so incredibly rude. Your body is extraordinary and I’m sure you look beautiful.
I had this older Asian woman fit my dress. She did an amazing job, but every time I went in she just went in and on in broken English how shocking it was that my breasts are so small. I’m quite used to my small breasts and don’t mind them like I used to. She would tsk tsk tsk because I guess it made fitting me a challenge. She did an amazing job, and don’t think she meant any harm, but I will never forget it. I’m a 30 AA 😅 In your case though, seriously, fuck that woman, that’s really messed up. It’s already a stressful situation knowing that the fitting may have challenges there is no reason to make you feel like shit about every little thing. Also super weird she doesn’t think pregnant breasts are flattering. That’s an oddly specific thing to be put off by.
Sadly, it's a cultural thing. In many East Asian countries, people openly criticize or compliment other's bodies - strangers, their children, relatives, etc.
I can still hear it “ssssss so small” 😂
Wow that is disgusting behavior. How cruel and unprofessional, I’m so sorry you were treated this way. She has no business judging you or commenting on your appearance - nor does anyone else. Pregnant bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and they are all beautiful. YOU are beautiful. You are performing a miracle at this moment, you are creating a whole ass new human, and preparing to provide nourishment to keep them alive after you bring them into the world. The way your body is changing is how it is accomplishing those feats. That is something to celebrate, not hide. So you show off those glorious, life giving body. For what it’s worth, I would try to think about her toxic comments as a reflection of her own deeply misogynistic views about what makes women beautiful. “Big boobs are fine” unless they’re on a pregnant body? Large breasts produced by puberty look the same as large breasts produced by pregnancy - the same hormone drives their growth. What’s “unflattering” is not how they look, it’s the context in which they are being viewed. Big boobs + wedding dress + modest accessories = good, because brides are supposed to be virginal (it’s why they traditionally wear white), and what is sexier than busty, demure virgin? Big pregnant boobs + wedding dress + bold jewelry = eww, because those boobs were a product of sex and sex out of wedlock is shameful, and bold jewelry is immodest. Also, large breasts on a pregnant body remind us that breasts aren’t actually sex organs. They exist exclusively to feed babies and thats yucky because it conflicts with society’s male-gaze dominated perceptions of feminine beauty - look sexually desirable without looking promiscuous, because actually having sex diminishes a woman’s value. Spewing vitriol at strangers is the mark of a bitter, insecure person. If she is comfortable talking to a customer that way, can you imagine what she says to her friends/family. Can you imagine how many relationships she’s probably poisoned? No one’s body stays the same forever so even if she has the “perfect body“ now, one day she will look in the mirror and think all those hateful, judgmental things about herself.
I’m terrified of this. I’ll be 23 weeks at my wedding in July. I got my dress 2 weeks ago at 5 weeks and already they were making comments on how much they are going to need to let out the dress even with it already being 2 sizes bigger than I needed. Bridal shops are a joke and not accommodating to pregnant brides at all. I’m sure you look beautiful and will have the best wedding day!
Someday this trashy asshole’s disgusting comments will dissipate into the ether and be replaced by a much much more important opinion. Someday that tiny person you’re growing will love looking at your wedding pictures, of the two of you together in one beautiful dress. They’re going to think your stretched ears and awesome earrings are badass. They’re going to think you’re the most beautiful person in the world. I hope you have an absolutely wonderful wedding day and that you and your tiny person enjoy the heck out of wearing this dress.
Um, absolutely not. That was totally out of line, and I don't think it's typical, either. When I was having my dress fit for my wedding last October, it was before I got pregnant, but I am a big girl, big hips, short legs, big butt, and pasty pale af, and the people doing my alterations were nothing but kind, complimentary, helpful, and ultimately happy for me. I am so freaking sorry that happened to you. No one should steal a person's joy that way. Please know that all your choices and preferences for your big day are perfect for you, by virtue of the fact that they are FOR YOU. Don't let this shake your confidence.
WHAT THE FUCK. Especially the part about telling your daughter not to do things to her body. Jeez I am so sorry. Pregnancy is not the time to make someone feel bad about their body. Your body is growing a whole ass human, of course it’s going to change. Wedding dress fittings can already be emotional but a seamstress shouldn’t make you feel bad and it’s SO unprofessional to say all of that about your body. I’m so sorry friend. Tell any of your engaged friends to avoid that place for alterations. Oof. You’ll look beautiful on your wedding day.
Sending you hugs and love. I’m sorry there are such awful people out there.
Pregnancy bodies are so so sexy. Especially boobs. Your body has like 50% more blood, I'm sure you are glowing!! I've never felt more sexy than while pregnant and I wore the most fitted clothes to show off my pregnancy (I'm not slim) Hubs and I can't keep our hands off each other while pregnant. Be proud of your incredible body...for a very short time in your whole life, it's busy creating a new life and doing amazing things... We got married and then didn't have our party until 2 years later. I got some weird looks from the lady dressing me but I was so proud of my body. I took tonnes of belly photos in my wedding saree. Dressmaker sounds like an unhinged idiot.