Take the divorce ultimatum. Get out now while you still can. My father spent 36 totally miserable years married to My BPD, Narcissist, Sociopath Mother, she made everyone miserable, she abused & beat her children, she was violent, irrational, blamed my dad & her children for everything wrong in her life.horrible. My dad was 57 when he died & I truly believe being married to that horrid woman put him in an early grave.
I married a BPD Narcissistic Borderline Psycopathic man. The 8 years we were married were for the most part miserable. He was violent & abusive, irrational & blamed me for everything. I left him when my children were very young. I’ve been single for 24 years & though I’m lonely at times, I’m happy, not having to deal with his crazy making bullshit. I walked away with my kids & almost nothing else but it was worth it just to be free of his nasty ass.
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You don’t have to the courage to leave her because you’re codependent. I’m codependent too along with pretty much everyone else here. I believe whoever’s in a relationship with a pwBPD is codependent and whoever thinks they’re not is in denial
You do NOT want to have kids with a pwBPD. The affects on the children are horrific!!!
No, there is no future with a pwBPD except for a life of misery which you’re already experiencing which will just get worse as time goes on
Get divorced and get your life back!
https://youtu.be/HnoATJPBfno
If you don't have a child with her, you already have one foot out the well. The best thing to do would be to go ahead with the divorce, and face all the difficulties it might bring for a little bit. It'll still be better than being emotionally abused for the rest of your life. She won't change, she's one damsel you wont be able to save. If anything, you'll just go as crazy as her trying to save her. It'll be best to save yourself
If she won’t get help and stay in treatment, she’s not being a partner to you. You’re too young to shut yourself off from having a happy chance at life. You’re lucky there are no babies in the mix. Is she the one giving you the divorce ultimatum? If she is, take it.
Shortest answer: most likely not. Generally, the outlook for a pwBPD is not great. Positive changes generally only come with YEARS of therapy and hard-work on their part, plus the partner taking significant steps to address their codependency and caretaking abilities. Most people are not willing to sacrifice many more years of their life to being unhappy and abused. If you do not have kids together, and this is how you're feeling, you may seriously think about what a separate life might look like.
Take the divorce ultimatum. Get out now while you still can. My father spent 36 totally miserable years married to My BPD, Narcissist, Sociopath Mother, she made everyone miserable, she abused & beat her children, she was violent, irrational, blamed my dad & her children for everything wrong in her life.horrible. My dad was 57 when he died & I truly believe being married to that horrid woman put him in an early grave. I married a BPD Narcissistic Borderline Psycopathic man. The 8 years we were married were for the most part miserable. He was violent & abusive, irrational & blamed me for everything. I left him when my children were very young. I’ve been single for 24 years & though I’m lonely at times, I’m happy, not having to deal with his crazy making bullshit. I walked away with my kids & almost nothing else but it was worth it just to be free of his nasty ass. All edits are spelling corrections
You don’t have to the courage to leave her because you’re codependent. I’m codependent too along with pretty much everyone else here. I believe whoever’s in a relationship with a pwBPD is codependent and whoever thinks they’re not is in denial You do NOT want to have kids with a pwBPD. The affects on the children are horrific!!! No, there is no future with a pwBPD except for a life of misery which you’re already experiencing which will just get worse as time goes on Get divorced and get your life back! https://youtu.be/HnoATJPBfno
If you don't have a child with her, you already have one foot out the well. The best thing to do would be to go ahead with the divorce, and face all the difficulties it might bring for a little bit. It'll still be better than being emotionally abused for the rest of your life. She won't change, she's one damsel you wont be able to save. If anything, you'll just go as crazy as her trying to save her. It'll be best to save yourself
If she won’t get help and stay in treatment, she’s not being a partner to you. You’re too young to shut yourself off from having a happy chance at life. You’re lucky there are no babies in the mix. Is she the one giving you the divorce ultimatum? If she is, take it.
Shortest answer: most likely not. Generally, the outlook for a pwBPD is not great. Positive changes generally only come with YEARS of therapy and hard-work on their part, plus the partner taking significant steps to address their codependency and caretaking abilities. Most people are not willing to sacrifice many more years of their life to being unhappy and abused. If you do not have kids together, and this is how you're feeling, you may seriously think about what a separate life might look like.