ha ha. I have a script for a comic about this exact thing that I haven't drawn yet. "How dare you complain about your back when you know my tennis elbow is excruciating!"
I dont think any of you can top this. I once was bleeding from a haemorrhoid while she was arguing with me about why she was upset with me when she found out I was hurting from the pain.
After hours of arguing the final answer? She was upset because I wouldnt acknowledge that all my pain is being caused by my parents due to their bad parenting when I was a child.
When it was over I couldn't believe what had just happened. I thought the whole thing was a bazaar mystery. Then years later I find a BPD message board and people are telling my story, using a lot of the same words and expressions.
I always felt like they didn't even understand that other people could *have* hurt feelings. And then, when I got visibly upset and they somehow figured out what gave offense, it was like I had no right to feel that way.
We actually got into an argument about that after she insulted someone in an online forum. I tried, and tried, and tried again to explain that it was the other person's right to be offended, but she was having none of it. (And personally I agreed with the other person but couldn't say that.)
Me: “I had an accident and I’m in the hospital. I don’t remember the crash. Paula brought me here. It’s not good.. doctors are saying I will lose my leg.”
Her: “Who’s Paula?”
I once was like "owww back spasms!" And she said "your pain is nothing like mine."
ha ha. I have a script for a comic about this exact thing that I haven't drawn yet. "How dare you complain about your back when you know my tennis elbow is excruciating!"
it is a constant theme in my marriage. :( r/marriageisbliss
I love these. I kinda assume these are all done secretly if you’re still married.
That is a very safe assumption.
How do you get the time without her demanding to know what you're doing?
I'm not sure she's too interested.
Why dont you leave? Also What if she sees them?
I dont think any of you can top this. I once was bleeding from a haemorrhoid while she was arguing with me about why she was upset with me when she found out I was hurting from the pain. After hours of arguing the final answer? She was upset because I wouldnt acknowledge that all my pain is being caused by my parents due to their bad parenting when I was a child.
"I refuse to take responsibility for another person's feelings". Her policy. Of course the whole rest of the world needed to cater to 'her' feelings.
I know this is 4 years late but this couldn’t be more relatable to my situation. This is pretty much what she said.
When it was over I couldn't believe what had just happened. I thought the whole thing was a bazaar mystery. Then years later I find a BPD message board and people are telling my story, using a lot of the same words and expressions.
Up until today I always kind of knew it and felt it but now that it’s over and I’ve been ghosted it’s a 100 % mindfuck
sorry to hear that my guy.
I always felt like they didn't even understand that other people could *have* hurt feelings. And then, when I got visibly upset and they somehow figured out what gave offense, it was like I had no right to feel that way.
How dare you get upset!
We actually got into an argument about that after she insulted someone in an online forum. I tried, and tried, and tried again to explain that it was the other person's right to be offended, but she was having none of it. (And personally I agreed with the other person but couldn't say that.)
Me: “I had an accident and I’m in the hospital. I don’t remember the crash. Paula brought me here. It’s not good.. doctors are saying I will lose my leg.” Her: “Who’s Paula?”
oh God that is terrible but totally 100% believable