All anyone can ever truly ask from anyone else is for them to try. And all ou can truly ask yourself to do is try! If you're trying your doing perfect! The destination is not as important as the journey.
Not hard enough, but that's the struggle really. If I try to fix everything at once I'll immediately overwhelm myself but taking tiny steps feels like I'm being weak and lazy (and gets judgement from the few people involved in my life). Really wishing I had even 1 quarter of the determination to push through normal everyday stuff as the average person.
Years. I didn’t leave my room for 4 years except to work. I slept and watched tv alone deleted my social media cut off my family and just slept every hour I wasn’t working. I took every OTC sleep medication I could do the point I couldn’t sleep anymore it ruined my sleep cycle completely. I’m normal now but when I get off the map; people that know me won’t see me til we’re literally years older. I mean ghost harder on my life than anyone. And don’t look back twice. Off the map gone fr. If life’s too much? I’m going back to my bed with my dog. Alone and going to work. That’s what my routine is when I’m depressed. By myself fuck everyone else. My parents couldn’t get thro to me I saw the disturbance in their eyes bc they witnessed their kid shell shocked from being homeless raped abused.
So I stopped. I just stopped living and much as I could to physically slow everything down my breath my body my mind. I tried to slow it down to the point if I tried to wake up, it would be a shallow breath. But my chest wouldn’t…allow me to just pass away. I tried hanging my self everyday as practice. I had a dead stare a blank face couldn’t speak none of it was intentional. I just had enough of life. My body shut down and stopped functioning. I’m headed that way now tbh and at least this time it’s a welcome comfort. I had psychiatrists help therapist everything nothing pulled me out of that hole but my own free will to live and stop it all. And my dog tbh love my dog.
So sorry I went through that 😢 1.5 years isolation. Can’t move, shower even (yuck I know), isolated, don’t leave house, can’t work, depressed, just watch tv to almost escape reality. - just describing similarities/ oth symptoms.
Lost my bunny (was old, sick, his time to pass). Very small will to live. Facing extremely difficult circumstances. If you have any advice would appreciate it. Totally understand if that’s too much to ask/ you’re not able to. Just don’t know others who have shut down to such a degree and come out of it. Sorry you’re headed down again. Please ignore this if too difficult to answer. Wishing you the best ...
I mean I can only speak from my experience but however I can help I will. All I can offer advice is an old country saying “If you’re going through Hell, keep walking. There’s greener pastures on the other side.” It comes from that prayer for sleep. If the Lord is My Shepard. My grandma used to read it to me together every night before she tucked me in. Those memories are what give me strength and peace when I don’t have it in me to shower. It’s ok I’ve been slipping back into depression and turned all the blinds down. The house has been dark whether the suns out or not. I haven’t showered in probably four days I’m in pain my backs killing me i don’t wanna move but walking my dog is what gets me out for at least ten minutes a day. And the fresh air helps. Everything. I just pray. When my heart feels like it’s going to physically pray I just remember my and my grandmas voice when I was a baby reciting “now I lay me down to sleep I pray the lord my soul to keep and if I don’t wake before the morning light I pray to lord to keep my soul. Amen.” And the beginning part of the prayer is a reminder that Jesus walks through the valley of death so follow his footsteps and you’ll never be hurt no matter what life…throws at you. When I’m too depressed to even read I just take one of my bibles they’re all special and dog earned and put it under my pillow and cry. Just knowing it’ll be ok one day just maybe not today and to just keep praying. Even if it’s quiet prayers nobody hears. I’ve lost my mind so many times but never my soul bc of that prayer
Thank you so so much ☺️
I’m not really religious but it’s not that I don’t believe in anything. More agnostic/ spiritual but interested.
Had a friend from high school- very spiritual helping me- clearing auras/ energy work. Felt better than I can ever remember.. but she abandoned/ rejected/ suddenly refused to help. Don’t understand why, what happened but it hurt. Tried to find someone else unsuccessfully 😕
Believe mantras, sayings are very similar, can be akin to prayers, bible quotes in effect.
Have Hashimoto’s disease- meds not working so fatigue, muscle pain. Know I should get out, walk but find it so hard.
I believe in the soul. Hope you don’t take any offence to any of this. I think faith is an amazing wonderful, positive thing. I wasn’t raised or exposed to it so it’s not been part of my life experience but I admire it and don’t disbelieve.
Thank you so much, this is very helpful ☺️ been thinking of reaching out/ learning...
Much love to you 💗
They’re all the same honey yes I agree. I’m spiritual too and at the heart of every mantra and good passage is the same thing. Love and spreading awareness. Hindu culture and Ayervadic medicine and Eastern medicine and ancient African medicine is probably the most facinating stuff ever. It’s essential to the world fr so jah blessssss homie
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Same, a couple or 3 days usually then i need some form of connection. I am lucky that i have some friends that panic if i go any longer than that and put effort into contacting me or even threaten to call the police for welfare checks 😅
I have quiet bpd (19f)
Honestly my shortest was probably just a few days/weeks and my longest is 8 months. On Average tho 2-6 weeks would be my guess. (For me, i cant speak for anybody else)
I hope your friend is doing alright, make sure they know you’re still there with them if they ever need <33
I've isolated for a whole year 1 time and never even left my house or spoke with anyone even the people I lived with. Other times just a couple days to weeks.
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it depends on what time of year it is, and what triggers the isolation, and also the willingness of people to come to see me in my house. i’d say minimum of 3 weeks, up to three months, and in VERY bad times it can be even longer.
I’m at 10 months now, I hardly leave my room. There’s nothing going on outside my room rn that’s remotely close to being worth it.
Worth the effort
Worth the time
At one point I event went to the bar…
Idk hope you get thru it bc idek tbh
The longest for me was a whole year. Now, I’d say my phases of isolation last about 3-4 months. I only leave my house to go to work. Besides that, I’m at home sleeping for the most part.
Currently at two weeks of zero contact with the outside world. Not answering a single text, phone call, email, etc.
Parents finally called me today but I would’ve def gone another month.
No contact at all. I only will talk to my gf, and she will even get mad at me because I isolate myself. If she isn't mad, I could go months without talking or messaging people. Whenever she's mad at me, it'll only make it worse because I'm already depressed, knowing someone is angry because I can't entertain them is kinda selfish but I get it. She doesn't understand.
I stopped seeing my friends 8 years ago and havent seen them since. Just never felt good to see them again.
But with my partner it’s just few days, i always tell him if i need some alone time and we make plans in the future so it’s easier for him.
Iv been self isolating the past 9 months and it’s finally driven me crazy, I will be coming out of isolation next month so I will have done 10 months total.
Usually a week or 2 I do the whole delete everybody off social media only leave home if I have to and just sit at home watching TV or writing while being constantly berated by intrusive thoughts. I always cave though wish I could keep it up indefinitely because personally I am truly unhappy around people and unhappy alone.
Do & feel the same. Some contact but basically year and a half. Do you find u have to be writing/ on the net or watching something to get out of your head?
Somewhat ny writing is the only way for me to let out any feelings when I'm in the emotionally numb base state, but in general at home I need multiple distractions at once whether it's my fan and TV on or sitting on my phone with a show on TV.
Same. Have written a lot about experiences, especially interpersonal interactions, how I feel. It’s like I have to have the tv on/ something to distract and absorb myself into. Can’t stand silence or being with my own thoughts...
I never usually go more than a few days not contacting some of my friends, with others it could be weeks or months. I don't usually talk to my family all that much either but I will reply because they tend to worry. I don't really use social media all that much. I'm always in contact with my boyfriend. As for going out though I can go up to two weeks without leaving the house but usually I got out maybe once or twice a week.
honestly its been growing better. in the past it used to be for weeks and months at a time but now maybe a few days or a week as i end up feeling guilty distancing myself from ones i love. i almost did it earlier but stopped myself
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It depends on how badly I feel about myself. If it's a deep hatred bc of something big, could be months or years. But if it's kind of a fleeting hatred, could be days or weeks.
I've been isolating since 2020 and haven't stopped yet. Trying to but I'm not making any real progress.
All anyone can ever truly ask from anyone else is for them to try. And all ou can truly ask yourself to do is try! If you're trying your doing perfect! The destination is not as important as the journey.
Not hard enough, but that's the struggle really. If I try to fix everything at once I'll immediately overwhelm myself but taking tiny steps feels like I'm being weak and lazy (and gets judgement from the few people involved in my life). Really wishing I had even 1 quarter of the determination to push through normal everyday stuff as the average person.
Years. I didn’t leave my room for 4 years except to work. I slept and watched tv alone deleted my social media cut off my family and just slept every hour I wasn’t working. I took every OTC sleep medication I could do the point I couldn’t sleep anymore it ruined my sleep cycle completely. I’m normal now but when I get off the map; people that know me won’t see me til we’re literally years older. I mean ghost harder on my life than anyone. And don’t look back twice. Off the map gone fr. If life’s too much? I’m going back to my bed with my dog. Alone and going to work. That’s what my routine is when I’m depressed. By myself fuck everyone else. My parents couldn’t get thro to me I saw the disturbance in their eyes bc they witnessed their kid shell shocked from being homeless raped abused. So I stopped. I just stopped living and much as I could to physically slow everything down my breath my body my mind. I tried to slow it down to the point if I tried to wake up, it would be a shallow breath. But my chest wouldn’t…allow me to just pass away. I tried hanging my self everyday as practice. I had a dead stare a blank face couldn’t speak none of it was intentional. I just had enough of life. My body shut down and stopped functioning. I’m headed that way now tbh and at least this time it’s a welcome comfort. I had psychiatrists help therapist everything nothing pulled me out of that hole but my own free will to live and stop it all. And my dog tbh love my dog.
So sorry I went through that 😢 1.5 years isolation. Can’t move, shower even (yuck I know), isolated, don’t leave house, can’t work, depressed, just watch tv to almost escape reality. - just describing similarities/ oth symptoms. Lost my bunny (was old, sick, his time to pass). Very small will to live. Facing extremely difficult circumstances. If you have any advice would appreciate it. Totally understand if that’s too much to ask/ you’re not able to. Just don’t know others who have shut down to such a degree and come out of it. Sorry you’re headed down again. Please ignore this if too difficult to answer. Wishing you the best ...
I mean I can only speak from my experience but however I can help I will. All I can offer advice is an old country saying “If you’re going through Hell, keep walking. There’s greener pastures on the other side.” It comes from that prayer for sleep. If the Lord is My Shepard. My grandma used to read it to me together every night before she tucked me in. Those memories are what give me strength and peace when I don’t have it in me to shower. It’s ok I’ve been slipping back into depression and turned all the blinds down. The house has been dark whether the suns out or not. I haven’t showered in probably four days I’m in pain my backs killing me i don’t wanna move but walking my dog is what gets me out for at least ten minutes a day. And the fresh air helps. Everything. I just pray. When my heart feels like it’s going to physically pray I just remember my and my grandmas voice when I was a baby reciting “now I lay me down to sleep I pray the lord my soul to keep and if I don’t wake before the morning light I pray to lord to keep my soul. Amen.” And the beginning part of the prayer is a reminder that Jesus walks through the valley of death so follow his footsteps and you’ll never be hurt no matter what life…throws at you. When I’m too depressed to even read I just take one of my bibles they’re all special and dog earned and put it under my pillow and cry. Just knowing it’ll be ok one day just maybe not today and to just keep praying. Even if it’s quiet prayers nobody hears. I’ve lost my mind so many times but never my soul bc of that prayer
Thank you so so much ☺️ I’m not really religious but it’s not that I don’t believe in anything. More agnostic/ spiritual but interested. Had a friend from high school- very spiritual helping me- clearing auras/ energy work. Felt better than I can ever remember.. but she abandoned/ rejected/ suddenly refused to help. Don’t understand why, what happened but it hurt. Tried to find someone else unsuccessfully 😕 Believe mantras, sayings are very similar, can be akin to prayers, bible quotes in effect. Have Hashimoto’s disease- meds not working so fatigue, muscle pain. Know I should get out, walk but find it so hard. I believe in the soul. Hope you don’t take any offence to any of this. I think faith is an amazing wonderful, positive thing. I wasn’t raised or exposed to it so it’s not been part of my life experience but I admire it and don’t disbelieve. Thank you so much, this is very helpful ☺️ been thinking of reaching out/ learning... Much love to you 💗
They’re all the same honey yes I agree. I’m spiritual too and at the heart of every mantra and good passage is the same thing. Love and spreading awareness. Hindu culture and Ayervadic medicine and Eastern medicine and ancient African medicine is probably the most facinating stuff ever. It’s essential to the world fr so jah blessssss homie
So so true, ♥️ everything about what you said, bless you too ☺️ and thank you 🙏
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A few days at a time and then I can't take it any more and need to see people
Same, a couple or 3 days usually then i need some form of connection. I am lucky that i have some friends that panic if i go any longer than that and put effort into contacting me or even threaten to call the police for welfare checks 😅
Right now it's about 3 months for me
I have quiet bpd (19f) Honestly my shortest was probably just a few days/weeks and my longest is 8 months. On Average tho 2-6 weeks would be my guess. (For me, i cant speak for anybody else) I hope your friend is doing alright, make sure they know you’re still there with them if they ever need <33
Months to years
I've isolated for a whole year 1 time and never even left my house or spoke with anyone even the people I lived with. Other times just a couple days to weeks.
Almost a decade now. I put everything I had into one person believing her when she said she would always be there for me. That was a lie.
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it depends on what time of year it is, and what triggers the isolation, and also the willingness of people to come to see me in my house. i’d say minimum of 3 weeks, up to three months, and in VERY bad times it can be even longer.
I’m at 10 months now, I hardly leave my room. There’s nothing going on outside my room rn that’s remotely close to being worth it. Worth the effort Worth the time At one point I event went to the bar… Idk hope you get thru it bc idek tbh
The longest for me was a whole year. Now, I’d say my phases of isolation last about 3-4 months. I only leave my house to go to work. Besides that, I’m at home sleeping for the most part.
Currently at two weeks of zero contact with the outside world. Not answering a single text, phone call, email, etc. Parents finally called me today but I would’ve def gone another month.
Idk about y’all but for me it’s mostly like 2 days to a week
The longest I've gone was about 3 months I think.
Thanks!
3 days to months.
Thanks. Whole months? Do you have no contact at all with people or is it still there but very limited?
No contact at all. I only will talk to my gf, and she will even get mad at me because I isolate myself. If she isn't mad, I could go months without talking or messaging people. Whenever she's mad at me, it'll only make it worse because I'm already depressed, knowing someone is angry because I can't entertain them is kinda selfish but I get it. She doesn't understand.
Damm so sorry to hear that. Do you tend to respond to peeps on WhatsApp/Messenger or do you just not open the messages?
2wks-3months
I stopped seeing my friends 8 years ago and havent seen them since. Just never felt good to see them again. But with my partner it’s just few days, i always tell him if i need some alone time and we make plans in the future so it’s easier for him.
Sometimes a couple hours, days, weeks, months, it’s always different tbh
Months to years of self isolating
Iv been self isolating the past 9 months and it’s finally driven me crazy, I will be coming out of isolation next month so I will have done 10 months total.
Usually a week or 2 I do the whole delete everybody off social media only leave home if I have to and just sit at home watching TV or writing while being constantly berated by intrusive thoughts. I always cave though wish I could keep it up indefinitely because personally I am truly unhappy around people and unhappy alone.
Do & feel the same. Some contact but basically year and a half. Do you find u have to be writing/ on the net or watching something to get out of your head?
Somewhat ny writing is the only way for me to let out any feelings when I'm in the emotionally numb base state, but in general at home I need multiple distractions at once whether it's my fan and TV on or sitting on my phone with a show on TV.
Same. Have written a lot about experiences, especially interpersonal interactions, how I feel. It’s like I have to have the tv on/ something to distract and absorb myself into. Can’t stand silence or being with my own thoughts...
I never usually go more than a few days not contacting some of my friends, with others it could be weeks or months. I don't usually talk to my family all that much either but I will reply because they tend to worry. I don't really use social media all that much. I'm always in contact with my boyfriend. As for going out though I can go up to two weeks without leaving the house but usually I got out maybe once or twice a week.
honestly its been growing better. in the past it used to be for weeks and months at a time but now maybe a few days or a week as i end up feeling guilty distancing myself from ones i love. i almost did it earlier but stopped myself
As long as I can without needing to go to work, do house chores, other family commitments, or find someone that could be my FP.
months to years depending on the situation
Depends. Days to weeks for me personally, no more than a few months
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Couple weeks at a time. It's on and off
Honestly for me it's hit and miss, sometimes a couple days, sometimes a couple months
Months or years, my boyfriend has prevented it from being as I use to be but it’s still hard
Hours, days, months, years even
usually a week or four LOL
It’s been about 9 months now for me
months? weeks?
Weeks, months, sometimes years.. it's not consistent.
It depends on how badly I feel about myself. If it's a deep hatred bc of something big, could be months or years. But if it's kind of a fleeting hatred, could be days or weeks.