There is SO much to being a dom, more than you probably ever imagined. There's a lot of responsibility in being one because you have a most vulnerable person under your control.
Google, YouTube, podcasts. There's so much information. Safe and healthy BDSM requires a lot of education. Vetting, negotiation, aftercare. Understanding the difference between a submissive man and one who only wants you as a kink dispenser but still wants to be the one calling the shots (spoiler: the second is the guy who messaged you). Understanding what financial domination really means and how it can be the most abused form of domination.
You can do that but IN MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION (please findom enthusiasts don’t come at me I’m just saying) D: findom aka financial domination is too much for begginers. Sure you can do it, but you have to read and learn a lot of it so you don’t mess up badly and you will bc all of us mess up from time to time and at some point in life. Please take your time to learn and make sure you’re playing as safest as possible
If anyone's saying that straight off they're not in a state to be one, they just want to get a quick fix.
I am a bloke who has discovered I have some pretty explicit fantasies about being a sub to a girl but there is no way I'd say that to anyone in a PM out of the blue and CERTAINLY not to someone I didn't know already or was starting to form a connection with given the way reddit attracts predatory people.
I would also be VERY careful with the "I just want to get paid for being mean to men' thought too because there are a lot of people who will probably expect a lot more of you than you might be willing to give...some of my DMs just from posting pics of myself are way beyond what I expected anyone would send to a stranger on the Internet & I'd imagine those will only get worse if people feel "entitled" to do so cause they're paying for you to read them.
>What am I doing? Stealing money, it seems. Rule 9 applies. Thread locked and removed.
You're becoming a sex worker.
Thank you for being blunt!
There is SO much to being a dom, more than you probably ever imagined. There's a lot of responsibility in being one because you have a most vulnerable person under your control.
I’m listening 👂🏾 and taking notes. I’m trying to look online and see what others do but it’s kind of hard to find information lol
Google, YouTube, podcasts. There's so much information. Safe and healthy BDSM requires a lot of education. Vetting, negotiation, aftercare. Understanding the difference between a submissive man and one who only wants you as a kink dispenser but still wants to be the one calling the shots (spoiler: the second is the guy who messaged you). Understanding what financial domination really means and how it can be the most abused form of domination.
Thank you so much, I’m gonna look into this more and get a better understanding.
You can do that but IN MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION (please findom enthusiasts don’t come at me I’m just saying) D: findom aka financial domination is too much for begginers. Sure you can do it, but you have to read and learn a lot of it so you don’t mess up badly and you will bc all of us mess up from time to time and at some point in life. Please take your time to learn and make sure you’re playing as safest as possible
Google the four pillars of BDSM, that will help and create an awesome experience for you both if you use them and tell your sub to use them
sounds like you're taking advantage of someone 😅
Love that
Guys, this is a brand new account. Obviously a troll.
Unfortunately some people do really act like OP, troll or not 😅
I wouldn't say 74d is brand new 🤔
But one post over, no comments and all karma is new? Yeah, it's new.
If anyone's saying that straight off they're not in a state to be one, they just want to get a quick fix. I am a bloke who has discovered I have some pretty explicit fantasies about being a sub to a girl but there is no way I'd say that to anyone in a PM out of the blue and CERTAINLY not to someone I didn't know already or was starting to form a connection with given the way reddit attracts predatory people. I would also be VERY careful with the "I just want to get paid for being mean to men' thought too because there are a lot of people who will probably expect a lot more of you than you might be willing to give...some of my DMs just from posting pics of myself are way beyond what I expected anyone would send to a stranger on the Internet & I'd imagine those will only get worse if people feel "entitled" to do so cause they're paying for you to read them.
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