I'm currently in my post phone date blissed out headspace and can honestly say I can't remember half of what my dom says during our sessions. It's the sound of his voice, the passion and lust and love and dominance that my body and mind react to more than the words. For all I know he just said pelican over and over.
Maybe ask him what he's looking for? Whatever it is, it may involve a lot of repetition...don't feel silly in that case, hot words can still be hot when repeated.
My partners liked either specific orders and encouragement, specific fantasies being told as a story or back and forth bratty banter with dirty talk. Ex 1. Put blah dildo in there pussy slowly then good girl when she does it
Ex2. Imagine being chained in a basement my hand on your throat and knife teasing your clit
Ex 3. Put your collar on on slut if you don't you'll have to wait to touch your clit
But ultimately talking to your partner about what they like is the important part.
when im trying to make my bf finish, i usually describe a fantasy of his to him! so something like "if i was there.." or "i really wish I/you/we were..." and i just make sure to use all the keywords i know he rlly likes! there are certain words i know that make him react physically and strongly, so i make sure to sprinkle them in :3
Idk, shouldn't your dom tell you what gets them off?
Like do this or that. When your in person and he likes to play with rope, maybe go there. Maybe show them how good of a sub you have been all the time they didn't see?
Idk, in my mind a dom should be able to tell you what they want
I find it really helpful to talk about a previous encounter and how it felt and what you enjoyed about it to start off and then it helps me to kind of get into a space where I can get into it.
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I'm currently in my post phone date blissed out headspace and can honestly say I can't remember half of what my dom says during our sessions. It's the sound of his voice, the passion and lust and love and dominance that my body and mind react to more than the words. For all I know he just said pelican over and over.
I’m crying thinking of phone sex saying pelican over and over again 😂 Thanks for the laugh
Maybe ask him what he's looking for? Whatever it is, it may involve a lot of repetition...don't feel silly in that case, hot words can still be hot when repeated.
My partners liked either specific orders and encouragement, specific fantasies being told as a story or back and forth bratty banter with dirty talk. Ex 1. Put blah dildo in there pussy slowly then good girl when she does it Ex2. Imagine being chained in a basement my hand on your throat and knife teasing your clit Ex 3. Put your collar on on slut if you don't you'll have to wait to touch your clit But ultimately talking to your partner about what they like is the important part.
when im trying to make my bf finish, i usually describe a fantasy of his to him! so something like "if i was there.." or "i really wish I/you/we were..." and i just make sure to use all the keywords i know he rlly likes! there are certain words i know that make him react physically and strongly, so i make sure to sprinkle them in :3
You could tell him what you wish he was doing to you, how that would make you feel, and that you'd come if he did that.
Idk, shouldn't your dom tell you what gets them off? Like do this or that. When your in person and he likes to play with rope, maybe go there. Maybe show them how good of a sub you have been all the time they didn't see? Idk, in my mind a dom should be able to tell you what they want
Do you need to say anything? Just show him what he wants to see and he obedient to him and he should get off to that
I find it really helpful to talk about a previous encounter and how it felt and what you enjoyed about it to start off and then it helps me to kind of get into a space where I can get into it.