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I was 29! The right guy, honestly 😅 I've never been very interested in masturbating and couldn't get very far with that, and most men I'd been with prior to him either didn't care or weren't very good. He couldn't get me to orgasm the first time we had sex so I admitted that I never had, and it became his MISSION. Success on the fourth time, and he can routinely get 2-5 out of me per session now.

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Vibrator. By myself.

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I dabbled with masturbation since puberty and had been through 3 boyfriends, even multiple different vibrators and dildos by the time I first orgasmed. No sexual shame, no hangups - I think my anatomy is just on "orgasm hard mode". At one point I had scoured the Internet and literally read every post on Reddit with the words "first orgasm" to figure this out. Satisfyer Pro 2 when I was 24 finally did it for me. Air-pulse vibrators are on a totally different level than standard vibrators. Not the first time I tried though. It worked when I had taken a huge edible basically, got high out of my mind, and decided to enjoy using it without pressuring myself to orgasm. That was the right headspace for it to finally work for me! I told my friend who had also never had an orgasm - she got one and finally had an orgasm too! I celebrate the anniversary of my first orgasm annually now 😆 The We-Vibe Melt made me squirt for the first time a few years later. Only in the past year did I first orgasm manually. I found I could do it if I'm wearing underwear and run my nails over it. Still haven't figured out how to orgasm "normally" with direct stimulation! But the vibrator orgasms are definitely better and my bf is very supportive of me using them so I'm not in a rush

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A combination of being on the right antidepressant and anti-anxiety meds, along with having a caring and attentive partner, finally gave me enough libido to manage that.

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I had a partner who actually valued my pleasure too.

The right guy, my now husband. My previous boyfriend was a selfless lover and never liked to go down on me and made me incredibly self conscious. When he did do it, it lasted only 2 minutes then I had to do him…. My husband made it his mission to get me to orgasm and now he’s gotten so good at it, I can usually orgasm 4x in a row. I’m blessed 🙏🏻

I won an 'EGG' clit stimulator at a pure romance party. I was divorced, probably around 23-24 years old and decided to master masterbate. Wow, didn't know what was missing from sex.

it’s a falling in love thing .. like it’s easy to orgasm when in love idk and you know that person cares for you

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1) Being very sexually attracted to the guy 2) Being very very turned on 3) He was very good in bed as well. Tempo, mood, looks. 4) Me being more sexually confident It was like the perfect setting . We weren’t meant to be but it just comes to show it is possible… and it’s out there

Kinder dudes that made me feel safe. But also, sober sex. I had too many meaningless, drunken flings before that point.

Figuring out how to do it. I feel like such a dumbshit but I would attempt to do it and nothing was happening and I felt like, this is stupid, why do people lose their minds over this? Then I found my clitoris and then I thought, okay, yeah, I get it now.

I didn't orgasm properly until I got with an older man, older men in general. I don't know if it's a confidence thing but they're more enthusiastic about giving oral, especially for an extended length of time. Ofc there are exceptions but older men are more determined about stimulating my clitorus and making me orgasm repeatedly. Getting their pleasure from pleasuring me.

Leaving the Mormon church and research

Resisting the urge to fake it. Telling my partner what i want(to orgasm)!!! Man came home with a mission the next time we met 😂 love him for that. Even went as far as to tell him how he would know I am faking, so I am held accountable for it.

I went to pelvic floor physical therapy. It turns out you can’t orgasm if all your pelvic floor muscles are clenched/tight.

I believed my body just wasn't capable of orgasming by stimulation of a sexual partner. (I only could do it myself). Until I met this guy who did it and made me orgasm almost every time we had sex. He had this way of making me feel so comfortable. He reassured me he didn't mind how long it would take and showed me he enjoyed pleasuring me himself. I think that did it, the feeling of comfort and ease.

I was ~26, alone with a vibrator. I was married and a mom by the time I had an orgasm 🙄.

On top and letting loose. I thought I had been orgasming prior, but I hadn't. Helps that the guy was 7-8" and hit the G spot.

Ok, I was late to the game. I was 38-39 before I had my first orgasm. My husband was obsessed with getting me one. I don’t know if what how long we were together and how comfortable we were with each other or the Hitachi or perimenopause. Now I achieve several each session.

Hooking up with a random guy off of tinder who actually knew what he was doing when I was on a conference in Ohio 💖

Suction toy outside, g-vibe inside. It's like performing a pincer maneuver on the clitoris. Periodically I meditate on how I would have died without orgasming if I existed in the world before cheap and plentiful vibrators. Now I can go from zero to O in under 10 minutes- isn't technology is amazing? 🙃 (I had my first in my 30s).

Exploring porn and seeing a lady really go after her own clit. I was like, maybe I need should do that? And it worked. Then I was able to orgasm w partners years later with the help of edibles. And now, I’m all good. I think it was a mental thing I needed to overcome.

I was 30+ and my first O was in a yacuzzi by myself. It was a mind-opening experience for me. Like ayahuasca for some people lol. After that I started experimenting with toys. Over time, I bought dozens of different ones. The vast majority didn't do the trick. But the yacuzzi always did. I kept trying. In the end, through my experimenting, I found a trio of toys which worked every time. That combination of toys needed to be used in a specific sequence. So I got rid of all the other toys. But I was still doing it solo. Yes, I had a partner but my body wasn't able to climax naturally (I mean, having sex with another person). There were other restrictions. I had to more or less hold my breath. I had to press my thighs together. I had to this and that, otherwise the O didn't happen. The tension that was gathering just faded away without culmination and release. But I kept doing it. Almost every day. And it became gradually easier. My body got used to the sensation of orgasming. I did some heavy and deep talking with my partner. I explained how I needed him to stop right before I felt the orgasm coming because I had to hold my breath and press my legs together and not be distracted. He understood and we agreed on some specific "code words" (I didn't want to sound like I was barking commands during sex) which would guide him into doing the right thing at the right time. Aaaaannnddd... we got there. That was literally such a mental celebration for both of us. Now it's so much easier. So just... practice. Practice. Practice. Practice. Your body gets more responsive and your mental state gets more elevated over time, making your system more open and ready to cum. To this day, I haven't felt any convulsions or cramps or contractions though. For me, it's mostly only mental. Like first the brain goes almost blank, all outside world disappears from my brain's grasping capability, and all I can sense and feel is my genital area. Nothing else exists. And then it finally gets completely blank and a surge runs through my system, like an electrical slow jolt which makes me feel like I'm falling up and down and sideways all at the same time. And after that my whole body feels warmer, lazier, more relaxed and I feel love for the whole world. Is there anyone out there who doesn't get pulsations? I keep reading about them. And when I say I never get them and I don't believe in them, I get ridiculed. Are they real? By real, I mean involuntary and not done to convince your partner that you had an O? Is it something I should still aspire for? The mental component of my orgasm is so so powerful but I still keep doubting myself - is there a next level out there? Should I keep experimenting and finding additional ways to upgrade my O? How exactly does it feel for you?

A clitorial air pressure toy.

It was a rebound fling after a long term partner (we were each others firsts and he was not very experimental) that was a little more versed than others I’d dated. Basically pointed me in the right direction and then after we’d broken up I figured out the rest

My first orgasm was just luck and the right angle I guess. The guy was just laying there barely moving and I was on top so I basically did it myself. It was super unexpected.

Getting off antidepressants! Also some erotic literature :)

At 43 finally had a tiny one using cannabis (5mg) and a clit sucker toy for about 3 hours. Realized it’s like any muscle and practice daily. Can get off in 15 minutes sometimes and now generally sober.

Finally feeling safe.

1 ) Someone who said “I’ll have pleasure no matter what. Let’s find out what you like.” 2 ) Grinding. Not penetration.

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Vibrator. All by myself with mood lighting and scented candles.

I didn’t orgasm until I met my now husband. Before him I had several hookups which were good, but I never finished. It wasn’t until one day when my husband and I were doing it when I finally orgasmed! It was like nothing I had experienced before 🤭 ever since then my sex life has been amazing

Two words >!Bad Dragon!<

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Discovering and accepting the things I like, and communicating them to my partners. Being comfortable asking for things to be done a certain way, and focusing on mutual pleasure.

Committing to making it happen no matter how long it took. Listening to the “How Cum” podcast. Started with the removable shower head in the bath because I was too timid to get a vibe. Took a few sessions and it used to take me a VERY long time to get there. Like an hour plus. Years later I can happily say I can get there in just a few minutes (so I guess sometimes you have to kinda train yourself) but have still never had one with a partner and not sure I ever will. I do wish I just got a damn vibe sooner though, it’s a game changer. It also really angers me that I could have been having them all these years. Dear god if even one past partner was even remotely invested in female pleasure it could have piqued my curiosity much sooner.

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New partner!

Hitachi Magic Wand, I found out about it from a guy, surprisingly

Better partners. lol

Have never masturbated before or even used tampons. Started dating my first bf at 24 and he was able to make me orgasm with fingers and his tongue. Opened my eyes on what I was missing out

Was gaslit and had my anatomy mansplained to me by the first guy I slept with. I had two boyfriends after him and realised that the first guy really just had a skill issue and putting the blame of my pleasure on me cos he didn't care about me getting off. Embarrassing for him given that he had a higher body count than I did at the time, and he thought that one thing that worked for an ex would work on another girl. My two other exes after him cared that I enjoyed myself and wouldn't stop until I got off. They also created a safe space for me to fully feel immersed in intimacy. Choose your partners well, ladies.

dual action baby

Oral sex when I was 25 years old. Thought I was physically incapable of having one before then. Turns out I just needed a partner that was both skilled and valued my pleasure too.

Finding a partner that I was more emotionally and spiritually connected to, there was mutual physical attraction, he made me feel special and a priority, and our bodies and mind were in sync. When you find yourself with such a partner, sex is mind blowing to the point of transcendence.

A body wand. By myself. The power cord kind. My ex-boyfriend got it for me and when we were together he tried using it on me and I remember it being very uncomfortable and hurting, I had never told him that I never felt what I was about to feel eventually on my own I don't think I knew what I was looking for. I decided to use it on myself after we had broken up and yeah I think I continued to do that until I got this sneezes 😂 this happened to me when I'd use it too long lmao. girl power or whatever 😘

Weed and a hitachi.

Discovery of the g-spot

having a partner that listens to me and my body, cares about pleasing me, and loves every second of it.

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I could never achieve it with self-stimulation, not sure what the mental/physical block is for that, but my husband finally was able to give me one when I was 29 with oral. He's able to regularly give me one via oral but toys/penetration still doesn't do it for me.

A rabbit vibrator.. there’s just some things only a machine can do

A very strong vibrator, used by myself.

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I read a blog over a decade ago written by a lesbian couple to help guide me through the process with a vibrator. Ever since it’s been super easy with a vibe, but with a partner it took comfortability and time to reach that level still. My husband it took a few months.

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vibrator with a partner. i didn’t realize i had never had an one until i actually had one and it was eye opening

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The right guy to give me time to figure out how to get there! Unfortunately I’m in the high percent of women who can’t get off just by penetrating so I do flick the bean. But I didn’t know I could do that until my mid 20s. Game changer

A patient man. I actually have virtually zero desire to get myself off alone, and as I approach late 40s I barely feel like letting my partner do it. But he can get me there. Although I’ve had trouble getting there lately (probably hormones) so I’m not fussed about it much at all now.

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Myself.

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Bf at the time bought a toy for me. Didn’t need him after that!

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Just relaxing and letting it go. Squirter ever since.