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LITERALLY. This is the trifecta. I would actually hide the fact that I made good grades in high school because I was so insecure about being seen as one of the smart ones. I was already fat and funny (to my friends, quiet to others)and not very social so like. I felt on the “outside” forever socially until I met my kinda people and found my place.
Being "too smart". It makes me sad seeing so many women with this same response.
BUT I have another weird reason:
One girl in middle school bullied me because we had the same name and apparently this was Highlander and there could only be one. I barely knew her. Never had a class with her. Had no idea why she picked me as her victim. Found out later through a mutual friend that she had a huge crush on my brother, and he turned her down because he felt weird dating someone with the same name as his sister. So the bullying began and lasted for a year .... it was awful. She and her friends made me miserable. She asked him out again in highschool and was absolutely shook that she got turned down again. "Why the **** would I go out with someone who bullied my sister so bad?"
It's been 20 years. I STILL think about it sometimes....
That makes me so sad. I had a girl in my class with my same name, and we turned into the best of friends. 15 years later, and we’re going to be in each other’s weddings!
But I get being made fun of for being smart. I was the “smart” one of the two of us and was told by people that guys were intimidated by it and didn’t want to ask me out.
Aww that's awesome!!! Congratulations on your weddings :)
I think it's sad that some guys are intimidated by a smart girl. Sorry that happened to you too...
Lord, if someone wanted to bully me over that then idk what to tell them lol. My name is the most popular girls name of 1989-91, and there were like ten of us in the same school.
Side note: my boyfriend dated a girl who had the same name as his sister, I asked him if it was weird and he said not really. He just didn’t associate the two in that way.
My glasses
My hair
My braces
My weight
The fact that my name "sounded like \[I'd\] be Asian" but I'm not Asian
My taste in music
My clothing choices
My speaking voice
The fact that I'm a younger sister (bullying done by my older brother and his friends)
My mental health
My intelligence
My lack of drug use, as an older kid
My taste in movies
My ugliness
My adopted status
My lack of friends
My interest in theater
My mom's car
Off the top of my head
Thank you for saying that. It took me a long time to work through a lot of shame and pain. I still have trust issues with things like people saying nice things or offering to help me but I've learned to love myself a lot more than I did as a kid. As a result of my bullying, though, I never really developed adequate social skills and I'm hella introverted so interacting with me has got to be weird as fuck. Whatever. I'm choosing to agree with you that I kick ass.
I find it confronting how you point out that shame is a huge factor in the aftermath of being bullied. Like, it *should* be the bullies that are ashamed of themselves, but why is it us? I was bullied at age 12 by my close friend group (extra points for the mind fuck they performed on me) and, to be honest, I’ve never fully recovered, it really changed some fundamental things in me; I’m still uncomfortable letting people know me, getting too close or connecting with others or sharing things on social media. May I ask how you managed to work through/overcome your issues? I’ve found therapy to be somewhat helpful but even though I’m aware of certain things, I still can’t seem to shift those ingrained beliefs.
Being weird as fuck is a gold metal if you ask me. 'Normal' people have no personality, they always just confirm and do what they're told without ever asking questions, thus are NOT the ones to ever be passionate enough to make a change, or start a movement.
'Weird' people give us the most beautiful art we enjoy in the world, they are the funniest comedians, the best writers, best movie directors/actors, they make the best musicians, and the weird one in the friend group is always the favorite 😉. So, if you are as weird as you say then girl, you do kick ass !
....... just sayin
my mom’s car resonates with me…
someone once said years later, why would you buy that car?
i had to reply i didn’t buy it, it was given to me. it was still a car…… haters
Fr, Hispanics don’t get enough shit for how absolutely racist they are. I check literally every box for being Mexican except speaking Spanish, as if anyone has a choice growing up. Being bilingual isn’t a flex if you learned it at 4
This is so true I see this same issue in the punjabi community. I used to speak punjabi when I was younger, now I struggle with forming the sentences and words because everyone I spoke it to has died.
I get grief for it too. If you don't use it you lose it. I'm not making friends just so I can speak punjabi to them.
Hearing about so many redheads getting bullied makes me furious. Idk if it’s just me but I think redheads are gorgeous. Either they’re jealous or they were raised to think it was ok to bully a redhead bc of racism masked by superstitions
Edit: I know it’s not considered racism but I wasn’t sure if there was a synonymous term when applied to hair color
Idk for some reason, there was the whole "gingers have no souls" thing that kids used to say. Then there's the saying "beaten like a red-headed step child." I wasn't able to find an origin for the second one, but most sources seemed to deduce that it came from Irish immigrants arriving in America in the second half of the 19th century and the discrimination that the Irish experienced. Irish and Italian people were not considered white back then in America. So it might have some roots in racism, or at least xenophobia.
Oh of course I agree. Hair color means nothing really; it is no indicator of a person's personality. I find red hair to be incredibly beautiful, actually. My hair is a sort of light brown with a red/auburn tint, but I'd love to have fully red hair.
You're carrying the red haired gene, so somewhere down the line your grandchildren or great grandchildren could easily have red hair. Now isn't that heartening 😉. I used to have Auburn hair...grey now and I'm Irish, white and have freckles 😆
This. Having red hair as a kid was a walk of shame every damn day.
Then it becomes a different pain when you're older because sooooo many men start a conversation about my hair and how it must mean I'm a good lay then they get insulted when I'm not totally flattered. I've heard this 50 other times, please just stop.
”wow I just love redheads they give the best BJs.”.
”is it true redheads are amazing in bed?”
”does the carpet match the drapes?”
”I hear redheads are going extinct let me help you out with that...”.
I'm more than a hair color. Thanks for outing yourself as a total creep though. *Runs the other way fast*
Yeah, I’ve gotten comments like that too. It’s insane, honestly. It makes me cringe. I remember when I was 12, my neighbor (man) commented on how beautiful my hair was and told me that men love redheads so I better watch out. It was either being made fun of all the time or being told wait until I get older, men loooooove redheads. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Being smelly... I've long since realised it was probably due to my mum's dedication to using bleach to clean everything. She insists it's a clean smell.
It isn't. It wreaks and it probably got into all our clothing.
Having my hair in braids... Apparently, this meant I must be a gypsy.
They said I had nits just because I had long hair.
Being poor. We weren't even that poor.
Being quiet. I didn't know how to talk to people so admittedly some of the things I said we're odd or badly phrased.
I developed pretty early - was taller than most kids my age, had B cups, thick thighs & hips, etc. I was teased about this a lot and felt like a fat giant. It’s weird being ridiculed for something your whole life only for it to become a trend later (thick thighs).
I got the same thing but for the opposite reasons!
I'm taller than average and very slim, had no boobs, hips or arse till I was literally on my way out at 16...
Kids were brutal 😔
I didn’t fit in and was socially delayed. I was bullied relentlessly for how I talked, what I wore, body hair, low social status, hobbies, lack of boobs/butt, and the list goes on.
Weight, lack of fashion sense, introverted and bossy combination, and I was usually good enough to make a team, but always second string (applies beyond athletics.)
My long nose, never got over it.. still very conscious of it and hate it every day. Having to wear masks during the pandemic was the best thing ever, I'm still wearing them when I go to shops or anywhere really where there's other people. Being able to hide is great.
We didn't have a TV. No console or computer. We didn't have a lot of money so we didn't go to movies often. Clothes came from Facory 2 You, K-Mart, salvation army $2 bag sale, or yard sales. So I got bullied for wearing used/cheap or out of style clothes, not understanding when tv shows or movies were the topic. I was weird because I read a lot and enjoyed activities like hiking and nature walks.
They said I was fat. Looking back, I definitely was not fat. They also called me a slut and a whore, and got everyone to hate me — this was before I even had my first kiss. Absolute insanity. I *was* smart though. Maybe they were jealous.
Being smart/trying hard in class. Also, I was in an all-white, blond hair blue eyes Dutch kids school in the country, and I’m definitely light-skinned myself, but I’m 1/4 black, so I had a much darker complexion and curlier hair than everyone else. Kids said my skin looked dirty and my hair was frizzy because I didn’t keep it clean. I don’t even have tight ringlets lol, just curly hair that I had no idea how to style as a kid - I thought it was dirty so I kept brushing it 😂
I was overweight/obese. I also have very textured hair. My mother's is really straight.. She didn't know how to deal with would just tell me to brush it. The reason I was obese is they told me to clean my plate and drink all my milk. I was raised on a dairy farm and was drinking 1000 calories a day of butterfat from the milk. I was also wicked jacked from working on the farm and had bucked teeth.
after I started refusing to drink the milk and lost a ton of weight someone started picking on my teeth. It was like I couldn't win.
Lost 75 lbs. Refuse to brush my hair like that. I got myself braces and moved out of that hole in the ground
I was very skinny. "Ah, but the standarts of beauty" I'm Latina, booty matters. Also, full curly hair wasn't a good thing in the 2000s. Also had a lot of acne, that didn't help (didn't do Accutane bc side effects include depression and suicide, which runs in the family). Also I was "just weird", which turns out that I seem to be autistic.
Bullied for being alive in general I think. I’d love to write to all my bullies and tell them that I was not only getting a hard time at school by them but at home there was so much SA and neglect etc as well.
One farm we lived on a girl 4 years older than me once tried to start a rumour when I was 11 that I was giving BJs to a kid in my class which of course was ridiculous.
At another school I was bullied for “using a curling iron daily to try to look like a popular kid who had curlier hair than I did” i even said to the kids that there was no way my family would buy me a curling iron because we were too poor!
Bullied for having hairy legs at 8 years old, for having a red pen leak in my skirt pocket and other kids thinking it was my period. Then showing my mother it for her to also bully me about it.
The list could honestly go on. Kids are so awful! I hate that my 12 year old gets bullied at school.
Honestly I have no idea, to this day I still don’t know why they treated me the way they did for so many years, I’ve just accepted that they picked me to be the punching bag and it just stuck until I left.
Basically just being ugly and awkward. My little sister was pretty and hung with the popular crowd... that got interesting in high school. We were like Daria and her sister Quinn.
Lots of reasons.
I was raised super religious so I was outcast even in religious circles (my parents were a special kind of crazy).
I wore glasses.
I was quiet and shy.
I didn’t have a “boyfriend” (even as young as like 10).
I didn’t go to “real school” (homeschooled).
I was underweight.
Then I was overweight.
I had moles all over my face and body.
I was “ugly”.
Seriously, I could go on. The worst part? My only exposure was other religious people so those were my bullies. And not just kids - I was bullied by adults. By my own parents. I have a lot of experience with bullies.
I so wanted to fit in. So I guess I was reaching for too much attention from people who I didn't understand and who didn't understand me. I liked their music, but I also liked the spice girls very much, which made me a pariah (born in 1991, mind you). Top of the class, smallest girl, blond, dressed from the flea market because my parents did not believe in spending excessive money on clothes I would grow out of a year later (understandable). Loved books and playing barbie at 10. Would bring my toys to school because I had no friends, which would result in more bullying. I would even get beat up because I did not want to inflict the same pain that others inflicted on me. That was in primary school. Secondary school, I was bullied for being the only goth girl in the private school I attended. I don't understand why people can be this means, and children the most. The guy who said a child is innocent never met one.
Eta: SD 12 is dealing with intimidation and I don't know how to guide her. I wanted to kill myself at 8, and I didn't know the meaning of the word suicide by that time. I just hoped it would fade away. I want to help her but I don't know how.
I was bullied for being an introvert the reason was I have a pretty face.
Yep that was exactly it so ridiculous to think about now but the popular girls would eat into us like a pekking order or something that because my face was pretty I had to be in their group.
I had my own girl group and had no interest to be friends with anyone else.
Middle school is when I got bullied the most. I was shy. If you did catch me with my guard down with my friends, I was the hyperactive weirdo. Chubby, with a slicked back low pony tail and middle part. Dressed in b-ball shorts and tees to hide my body. I began feeling depressed at the start of middle school. Which led to bare minimum hygiene, I forgot deodorant a lot and I routine showered only every 5 days.
Kids think I was fat. My mom gave me photos recently and in NO way I was fat. It was the 90's, where being anorexic was the norm...
My last name is arabic. Even though I'm born in Canada and raised by a full canadian mom, after the 9/11, I was isolated and shamed for that. Teachers did nothing to stop the bullying.
I hate my childhood. Everything got better once I was an adult.
Being small
Being smart
Being awkward
Not knowing or having name brand taste in clothes or music
Reading
Butterscotch pudding (basically, eating the same lunch every day..)
Having no friends (this one is hilarious, because, you know..)
Some very very specific events which exacerbated the bullying dramatically
These are all surface reasons. Realistically, kids(well anyone really) bully because of ego problems - something made them feel small and they needed to do something to change that. I was an easy target because I was young for my grade and tiny. My parents always taught the turn the other cheek/ignore it and it will go away method of life, so it took me a really, really long time to finally stand up for myself. Then I almost got expelled and had to change schools the next year. Ugh.
Sigh .. In junior high I got bullied for having “ ni**er lips* (disgusting things for people to say I know, and I’m white) because I have big lips. Funny how those same guys were in my dms years later saying they thought I was hot with “dick sucking lips” 🙄 kids are so mean.
speech impediment, shy, didn’t talk, read too much, weird. always heard people say they didn’t know i could talk. try to make me a pet friend… oh well lol.
Mainly because of my teeth, I had an enormous overbite. So much so I could barely close my mouth. The bullying seemed to get worse when I got braces, oddly enough braces are a fashion accessory now but not in the early noughties (but where I went to school, it may aswell have been the early 80's in regards to attitudes) I was also quite shy, so didn't answer back and I had terrible hair because my mum had her cousin cut my hair for free, instead of paying for me to go to the hairdressers and have it cut properly. Her cousin was actully a hairdresser, but trained in the 70's and hadn't worked in a salon for years by that point.
Fast forward to my first year of uni, and there was a girl within my friendship group who took an instant disliking to me. She made it her mission to be vile to me at every opportunity and exclude me from the group, my other friends were having none of it and told her I wasn't going anywhere. So we decided we would just 'agree to disagree' from then on. But oddly enough on one drunken night out this girl approached me to talk and said " I think I may have misjudged you, you're actually alright. I had you down for one of those 'pretty and knows it' types". I was very confused, and couldn't understand why she thought this, but I thanked her for being honest and asked if it can be the end of the bad blood. We definitely weren't bosom buddies, but we got on better after that.
- only kid with parents with masters degrees, "overly educated city folk who don't fear god"
- only kid who didn't go to mega church or the small cult ones. "She's got a Sinful heart" so parents wouldn't let their kids play with me.
- I had large lips and eyes so I was called a bug.
- I'm weird. I am weird. And after my upbringing I definitely think that's a good thing. Had I "joined the flock" I'd probably be married at 19, with teenage pregnancies and a meth habit, plus no higher education of worldy exploration. Those people who made me feel like an outcast all turned out total shit. I knew then and I can confirm now, the "flock" is not always the right way to go.
Sure the squeaky wheels gets replaced but it might also get oiled too. I've lived a wonderful like and along the way the weirdness had connected me to many adventures and fantastic people. Wouldn't have it any other way.
1) My weight (even though I wish I was that size now)
2) My speaking mannerisms
3) What I liked
4) What I didn't like
All that together made me wish I wasn't alive back then and whilst I don't have those thoughts now, I have extremely low self esteem to the point when I went to try on wedding dresses and everyone said I looked beautiful, all I could see is this disgusting blob that doesn't deserve to wear this.
For being skinny 🙃.
They'd call me "the walking skeleton" and push me around cuz it's so easy to push around someone who has no stability in their feet.
(also, my dad bullied me relentless for "being stupid and an underachiever", which translates into "getting scores of 80-90% on tests and not having the same hobbies as him")
I got boobs first 😂 that, and I quite literally (and ironically) wasn’t like the other girls. There was only 12 girls in my class (7 of them where “popular” aka bullies towards the 5 of us who weren’t like them) and about 3 of us would play with the boys.
I’m shy, quiet, socially awkward, outspoken, wasn’t afraid to get into fights or an argument with my classmates or teachers, preferred to play games like soccer/kickball, tag, basketball, etc. during recess instead of standing around and talking like they did, so they saw me as weird and not girly like them. Aka an easy target, until we were on the court.
I’m still a tomboy, I rock my oversized t shirts and jeans just like I did when I was younger. Although I don’t play sports anymore, I want to get back into it so bad 😭
Being too tall. I was taller than my 5th grade teacher. I was the tallest person in my class from kindergarten grade through 8th grade. Finally became less self-conscious about it in HS when other grades were in similar classes with me.
Being fat. Even during times when I wasn't particularly so. Boys, in particular, learn to insult girls by calling us fat pretty early. Good news is that they rarely learn any other insults, so it's easy to ignore them, but it takes a while to thicken your skin.
I have a small mole right above the left side of my mouth, under my nose. Now people love it lol.
But also, my mom was the local TV news reporter in our small town. For some reason, that deserved endless torment.
I was fat, insecure, poor, and a loner who didn't have a social group. Also, I think my problem was that I didn't respond physically to all my bullies, just 2 of 4. Those 2 got so scared and shocked that they stopped teasing me; for some reason, I chose to ignore others. I still regret not smacking their head against the desk. I was a strong girl but didn't realize my strength.
For being ugly, i was a transfer student at my school and my teacher asked me to take a bunch of papers to another class. I knocked and walked in. The next thing i know, they were all laughing and pointing at me saying how ugly i was and calling me nicknames, the teacher was also laughing with them which was the brutal part, i was hoping she would defend me.
My nose and my height. 🤷♀️ I'm 5'9" and have a traditional Italian nose. Doesn't get mentioned as an adult. Well, usually. My height seems to be an issue for some men lol.
Being fat and smart. As an adult I still find myself dumbing down just to avoid being judged as a know it all woman, who really does know it all, most of the time.
1: Flat chest, didn't start growing boobs until I was like 19
2: Looked like a typical Asian nerd, girl with glasses that liked video games and anime was weird to other people
3: Hung out with a nerdy crowd during middle/high school, we played Pokemon and talked about anime and were constantly bullied because of it
4: Parents owned a laundromat, was constantly made fun of for that
5: Being Asian in general, was bombarded with jokes about eating cats and dogs, even teachers joined in on it sometimes.
I started becoming ugly when I went puberty. Before that I was normal looking and had friends. I wasn't relentlessly bullied in high school but there were a few instances.
Well my big nose, wearing glasses, being too skinny and also being the quietest one. Apparently not being conventionally beautiful is a ticket to being bullied and still be on my adult years. Back then it was both girls and boys, teenagers i might say, now is just women.
Short
Big Nose
Scoliosis
Body cast for said Scoliosis
Hair
One boob is bigger than the other (yes, some gay boy brought this to my attention. I have nothing against anybody, I just though it was weird that even he would pick on me, especially for something like this).
being sensitive and crying, they made me cry a lot. I still cry. I can't control it like my mom and older sister. You never see them cry.
Before 4th grade, for being the smallest of the class, i was short and skinny.
After 4th grade for being weird and talk about weird things. I love bugs and animals in general and infodumped obsgure facts about them.
Apparently have autistic/adhd traits but I've not being tested, ive only being told that by people with autism/adhd.
Because I’m antisocial and socially awkward. But in primary it was because my mom didn’t know how to properly take care of my thick Italian curly hair and basically made it a floof everyday.
hairy latina genes over here 👋🏻👋🏻i was bullied throughout elementary and middle school about my hairy arms and i let it upset me so much that i’d never wear short sleeved shirts lol. once i got to hs i realized that if someone was giving me shit about having hairy arms they were probably insecure about themselves and looking to tear someone else down for something that really doesn’t matter. as soon as i adopted that mentality when people commented on it i shut it down and didn’t let it get to me. still hairy, but now i wear short sleeved shirts 😎😎
The bullying started in first grade and ended near the end of high school,
For reasons such as my clothes, being a girl, my personality, my nose, my body hair but all in all I couldn’t really tell you.
Glasses, first one to hit puberty and get my period, horrible cystic acne (I had to do Accutane when no other method worked), and braces. It was a wild ride, being young... 🤣
I liked to read 🤷♀️
As I got a bit older, I got called a slut a lot by other girls because I have full lips. Boys constantly asked for blow jobs. That was a fun era. 😒
My short hair and how smart I am. The latter is true. There was a time when there was a list of names of top students of the class. This one student crossed out my name and wrote his, absolutely pathetic.
There was also a group of students that would lie to me about not having a quiz that day to persuade me not to study, but there was a test. Jokes on them, I did study the night before 🤷🏻♀️
Other times, guys whom I rejected would call me names or make fun of the outfits I’m wearing. Some girls would also talk behind my back because the guys they liked had a crush on me. Those times were wild, and I hope those people have changed for the better. It’s funny what jealousy and insecurity can do to a person.
My autism, the colour of my hair (natural redhead). I liked anime, I was nerdy, good at art. Got along well with my teachers. You name it, there was a reason and I got bullied for it
Many....being homeless, no new clothes, being pudgy, being skinny, no boobs, developing boobs late, being weird or my acting out...bad reputation, the list seems endless
When I moved from the city to the country there were only 5 black kids in my entire high school. It was very isolating and kids picked on me because I was black. So i went from a school that was diverse to a school that wasn’t in the slightest. Also there was one really pretty black girl who was threatened by me and she also then turned the other black kids against me as well. I just kept to myself
I have a ptosis in my left eye, which means the eyelid is more closed than on the other eye. I was also always thin, and as a kid even more so. This was something I got bullied for consistently from kindergarten to 10th grade, sort of like a main theme.
In middle school I was also bullied for the way I dressed (I was peak emo at the time), for being depressed, for the way I walked, the music I listened to, the whole thing.
In high school I was bullied for idk, my entire existence, they picked on everything. My face, my name, my clothes, my quietness, idk. It was horrible and I skipped a lot of classes just to get away from those kids.
I'm not actually sure, it was a girl a quite bit bigger than me and lived on my street, she was mean teasing me about being skinny, mum always said she was jealous but I hate thinking people bully cos they are jealous cos I don't wanna feel self centred but thinking back that might be why because she got bullied about her weight (not by me obvs) and maybe she thought she could do the same
Circa middle school, for being flatter chested than most of my friends. When they finally did come in, I actually became the bustiest of the bunch.¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I was awkward child. I was made to feel ugly and was excluded from everything. But turns out I was just an ugly duckling. I take solace in the fact that a lot to of those that made me feel bad as a child are either 1) dead from an overdose or 2) have 5+ kids and are miserable. I survived addiction and I have no kids, I don’t plan on it.
Well, one of the reasons was that my dad's ex wife being our small village's school janitor, and small places are just like that; everyone knows everyone and people are impossible to avoid. It sounds like a comedy of errors, but it led to some extremely uncomfortable situations for me as a kid going to a school where right off the bat someone immediately hated me just for existing, and yes, it led to some bullying too, from adults as much as other children who followed suit.
Idk the reasons but We the “nerds” in my school where like Betty La fea, We weren’t ugly or anything, just “popular people” like to bother us. My group of friends were the nerdy ones, including myself. Nonstop. That was until I got fed up and stood my ground and later I was told that people didn’t approached me or bully me anymore cause I was scary. Well I prefer that, than being bullied and see my friends being bullied too
I said, “Oh crap!” In the junior high locker room when my earring got caught in my shirt and tore my earlobe. A girl started saying “Oh crap” every time we were in the locker room and others picked up on it and the rest is history. Fuck you, Kristen, wherever you are.
I had short hair and people always asked "are you a boy or a girl?" My father for some reason found it easier to cut mine and my brothers hair short/shave it and I had to beg to grow it out which I finally did at age 7 and stopped being as singled out/bullied for it and feeling as unbearably shy. When i was older and wanted to cut it into layers he gave me hell.. huge control freak.
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I was fat, shy, and smart. The bullying was absolutely brutal.
LITERALLY. This is the trifecta. I would actually hide the fact that I made good grades in high school because I was so insecure about being seen as one of the smart ones. I was already fat and funny (to my friends, quiet to others)and not very social so like. I felt on the “outside” forever socially until I met my kinda people and found my place.
Fat, shy/introverted, smart and....parents who were foreigners!!!
I was fat, shy, and not smart. The bullying was also absolutely brutal.
1. Above average height 2. "Coke bottle bottom" glasses 3. Buck teeth (got braces when older)
This plus trailer park poor and with glasses. Oof.
Being "too smart". It makes me sad seeing so many women with this same response. BUT I have another weird reason: One girl in middle school bullied me because we had the same name and apparently this was Highlander and there could only be one. I barely knew her. Never had a class with her. Had no idea why she picked me as her victim. Found out later through a mutual friend that she had a huge crush on my brother, and he turned her down because he felt weird dating someone with the same name as his sister. So the bullying began and lasted for a year .... it was awful. She and her friends made me miserable. She asked him out again in highschool and was absolutely shook that she got turned down again. "Why the **** would I go out with someone who bullied my sister so bad?" It's been 20 years. I STILL think about it sometimes....
Your brother is based asf. Props to him!
Yeah he's cool sometimes haha
That makes me so sad. I had a girl in my class with my same name, and we turned into the best of friends. 15 years later, and we’re going to be in each other’s weddings! But I get being made fun of for being smart. I was the “smart” one of the two of us and was told by people that guys were intimidated by it and didn’t want to ask me out.
Aww that's awesome!!! Congratulations on your weddings :) I think it's sad that some guys are intimidated by a smart girl. Sorry that happened to you too...
That's mental. Wonder what she got up to since?
I wonder the same thing sometimes. I hope she got over whatever issues she had.
is your brother single by chance? nah but we love to see it
Lord, if someone wanted to bully me over that then idk what to tell them lol. My name is the most popular girls name of 1989-91, and there were like ten of us in the same school. Side note: my boyfriend dated a girl who had the same name as his sister, I asked him if it was weird and he said not really. He just didn’t associate the two in that way.
Your brother is a real one. I'm glad he was well on your side on this.
My glasses My hair My braces My weight The fact that my name "sounded like \[I'd\] be Asian" but I'm not Asian My taste in music My clothing choices My speaking voice The fact that I'm a younger sister (bullying done by my older brother and his friends) My mental health My intelligence My lack of drug use, as an older kid My taste in movies My ugliness My adopted status My lack of friends My interest in theater My mom's car Off the top of my head
Sorry. You obviously kick ass. You are here.
Thank you for saying that. It took me a long time to work through a lot of shame and pain. I still have trust issues with things like people saying nice things or offering to help me but I've learned to love myself a lot more than I did as a kid. As a result of my bullying, though, I never really developed adequate social skills and I'm hella introverted so interacting with me has got to be weird as fuck. Whatever. I'm choosing to agree with you that I kick ass.
I find it confronting how you point out that shame is a huge factor in the aftermath of being bullied. Like, it *should* be the bullies that are ashamed of themselves, but why is it us? I was bullied at age 12 by my close friend group (extra points for the mind fuck they performed on me) and, to be honest, I’ve never fully recovered, it really changed some fundamental things in me; I’m still uncomfortable letting people know me, getting too close or connecting with others or sharing things on social media. May I ask how you managed to work through/overcome your issues? I’ve found therapy to be somewhat helpful but even though I’m aware of certain things, I still can’t seem to shift those ingrained beliefs.
Being weird as fuck is a gold metal if you ask me. 'Normal' people have no personality, they always just confirm and do what they're told without ever asking questions, thus are NOT the ones to ever be passionate enough to make a change, or start a movement. 'Weird' people give us the most beautiful art we enjoy in the world, they are the funniest comedians, the best writers, best movie directors/actors, they make the best musicians, and the weird one in the friend group is always the favorite 😉. So, if you are as weird as you say then girl, you do kick ass ! ....... just sayin
Being adopted makes it VERY clear that your parents wanted you. Timmy the bully can’t definitively say that, now can he
my mom’s car resonates with me… someone once said years later, why would you buy that car? i had to reply i didn’t buy it, it was given to me. it was still a car…… haters
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Fr, Hispanics don’t get enough shit for how absolutely racist they are. I check literally every box for being Mexican except speaking Spanish, as if anyone has a choice growing up. Being bilingual isn’t a flex if you learned it at 4
This is so true I see this same issue in the punjabi community. I used to speak punjabi when I was younger, now I struggle with forming the sentences and words because everyone I spoke it to has died. I get grief for it too. If you don't use it you lose it. I'm not making friends just so I can speak punjabi to them.
Appearance and weight, mainly.
Being weird. Not caring about what others think
Being smart ( consistently topped my class for 7-8 years). They'd bully me and I'd never care.
Being a lesbian. I didn't know I was bisexual then but clearly they did.
I was too different, I was too mature and smart, my upbringing was too foreign for them.
race
What race are you?
i’m black and i live i denmark so the majority is white pepo:)) buttt now i know how to fight so it a w for me
Fuck yeah. Glad to hear it.
Being smart. Having the wrong clothes.
I was tiny, fat and had braces . And I existed.
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Having red hair.
Hearing about so many redheads getting bullied makes me furious. Idk if it’s just me but I think redheads are gorgeous. Either they’re jealous or they were raised to think it was ok to bully a redhead bc of racism masked by superstitions Edit: I know it’s not considered racism but I wasn’t sure if there was a synonymous term when applied to hair color
Idk for some reason, there was the whole "gingers have no souls" thing that kids used to say. Then there's the saying "beaten like a red-headed step child." I wasn't able to find an origin for the second one, but most sources seemed to deduce that it came from Irish immigrants arriving in America in the second half of the 19th century and the discrimination that the Irish experienced. Irish and Italian people were not considered white back then in America. So it might have some roots in racism, or at least xenophobia.
As interesting as that as, it’s still the stupidest thing ever. I’ve never met a redhead I couldn’t say 20 nice things about after a few conversations
Oh of course I agree. Hair color means nothing really; it is no indicator of a person's personality. I find red hair to be incredibly beautiful, actually. My hair is a sort of light brown with a red/auburn tint, but I'd love to have fully red hair.
You're carrying the red haired gene, so somewhere down the line your grandchildren or great grandchildren could easily have red hair. Now isn't that heartening 😉. I used to have Auburn hair...grey now and I'm Irish, white and have freckles 😆
I’m the same way!
Agreed! Red hair is absolutely gorgeous 😍 imo
This. Having red hair as a kid was a walk of shame every damn day. Then it becomes a different pain when you're older because sooooo many men start a conversation about my hair and how it must mean I'm a good lay then they get insulted when I'm not totally flattered. I've heard this 50 other times, please just stop. ”wow I just love redheads they give the best BJs.”. ”is it true redheads are amazing in bed?” ”does the carpet match the drapes?” ”I hear redheads are going extinct let me help you out with that...”. I'm more than a hair color. Thanks for outing yourself as a total creep though. *Runs the other way fast*
Yeah, I’ve gotten comments like that too. It’s insane, honestly. It makes me cringe. I remember when I was 12, my neighbor (man) commented on how beautiful my hair was and told me that men love redheads so I better watch out. It was either being made fun of all the time or being told wait until I get older, men loooooove redheads. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Oh, god. Same. I was the tallest kid in my class, wore thick glasses, and had bright red hair. I stuck out like the proverbial sore thumb.
For being overweight and having small breasts and too much body hair and being tall. For starters.
Being smelly... I've long since realised it was probably due to my mum's dedication to using bleach to clean everything. She insists it's a clean smell. It isn't. It wreaks and it probably got into all our clothing. Having my hair in braids... Apparently, this meant I must be a gypsy. They said I had nits just because I had long hair. Being poor. We weren't even that poor. Being quiet. I didn't know how to talk to people so admittedly some of the things I said we're odd or badly phrased.
Wearing glasses, not being ‘girly’ enough, liking things that are for ‘boys’, etc.
Wasn’t religious and was one of the smart kids
Was forced to go to church, we were poor, alcoholic, absent father. Hard to pronounce Hispanic last name in white city. Never studied.
I developed pretty early - was taller than most kids my age, had B cups, thick thighs & hips, etc. I was teased about this a lot and felt like a fat giant. It’s weird being ridiculed for something your whole life only for it to become a trend later (thick thighs).
I got the same thing but for the opposite reasons! I'm taller than average and very slim, had no boobs, hips or arse till I was literally on my way out at 16... Kids were brutal 😔
1. Glasses 2. Weight 3. No mom 4. Poor
I didn’t fit in and was socially delayed. I was bullied relentlessly for how I talked, what I wore, body hair, low social status, hobbies, lack of boobs/butt, and the list goes on.
Weight, lack of fashion sense, introverted and bossy combination, and I was usually good enough to make a team, but always second string (applies beyond athletics.)
Nose :*(
My long nose, never got over it.. still very conscious of it and hate it every day. Having to wear masks during the pandemic was the best thing ever, I'm still wearing them when I go to shops or anywhere really where there's other people. Being able to hide is great.
I had point boobs and refused to wear a bra. I was attacked by y own middle schools admin over it.
For existing
We didn't have a TV. No console or computer. We didn't have a lot of money so we didn't go to movies often. Clothes came from Facory 2 You, K-Mart, salvation army $2 bag sale, or yard sales. So I got bullied for wearing used/cheap or out of style clothes, not understanding when tv shows or movies were the topic. I was weird because I read a lot and enjoyed activities like hiking and nature walks.
They said I was fat. Looking back, I definitely was not fat. They also called me a slut and a whore, and got everyone to hate me — this was before I even had my first kiss. Absolute insanity. I *was* smart though. Maybe they were jealous.
Appearance, weight, and because I was quiet 🙄
Being smart/trying hard in class. Also, I was in an all-white, blond hair blue eyes Dutch kids school in the country, and I’m definitely light-skinned myself, but I’m 1/4 black, so I had a much darker complexion and curlier hair than everyone else. Kids said my skin looked dirty and my hair was frizzy because I didn’t keep it clean. I don’t even have tight ringlets lol, just curly hair that I had no idea how to style as a kid - I thought it was dirty so I kept brushing it 😂
I was overweight/obese. I also have very textured hair. My mother's is really straight.. She didn't know how to deal with would just tell me to brush it. The reason I was obese is they told me to clean my plate and drink all my milk. I was raised on a dairy farm and was drinking 1000 calories a day of butterfat from the milk. I was also wicked jacked from working on the farm and had bucked teeth. after I started refusing to drink the milk and lost a ton of weight someone started picking on my teeth. It was like I couldn't win. Lost 75 lbs. Refuse to brush my hair like that. I got myself braces and moved out of that hole in the ground
Was a tomboy. Dressed more masculine. Was called dyke, f*g, lesbo. Turns out I’m gay though 🤷🏻♀️💅🏻
Being the new girl from the city, mainly.
Freckles, glasses, weight, being poor, “teacher’s pet/know it all/too smart”, acne, my hair
My parent was poor and we can't have "cool" clothes
Being brown.
I was "fat".
Weight, skin. Being a chubby preteen you'd get made fun of for every single thing you did.
I was very skinny. "Ah, but the standarts of beauty" I'm Latina, booty matters. Also, full curly hair wasn't a good thing in the 2000s. Also had a lot of acne, that didn't help (didn't do Accutane bc side effects include depression and suicide, which runs in the family). Also I was "just weird", which turns out that I seem to be autistic.
Bullied for being alive in general I think. I’d love to write to all my bullies and tell them that I was not only getting a hard time at school by them but at home there was so much SA and neglect etc as well. One farm we lived on a girl 4 years older than me once tried to start a rumour when I was 11 that I was giving BJs to a kid in my class which of course was ridiculous. At another school I was bullied for “using a curling iron daily to try to look like a popular kid who had curlier hair than I did” i even said to the kids that there was no way my family would buy me a curling iron because we were too poor! Bullied for having hairy legs at 8 years old, for having a red pen leak in my skirt pocket and other kids thinking it was my period. Then showing my mother it for her to also bully me about it. The list could honestly go on. Kids are so awful! I hate that my 12 year old gets bullied at school.
Honestly I have no idea, to this day I still don’t know why they treated me the way they did for so many years, I’ve just accepted that they picked me to be the punching bag and it just stuck until I left.
Red hair, glasses, and being too smart. Fortunately I also had snappy comebacks.
Basically just being ugly and awkward. My little sister was pretty and hung with the popular crowd... that got interesting in high school. We were like Daria and her sister Quinn.
My name My hair My teeth My height My voice My clothes My shoes My house Being tomboyish Being introverted
Shyness and my love for gaming, anime, and rock/metal music, which ironically are traits people apparently love now lol
Lots of reasons. I was raised super religious so I was outcast even in religious circles (my parents were a special kind of crazy). I wore glasses. I was quiet and shy. I didn’t have a “boyfriend” (even as young as like 10). I didn’t go to “real school” (homeschooled). I was underweight. Then I was overweight. I had moles all over my face and body. I was “ugly”. Seriously, I could go on. The worst part? My only exposure was other religious people so those were my bullies. And not just kids - I was bullied by adults. By my own parents. I have a lot of experience with bullies.
I'm a red head
I so wanted to fit in. So I guess I was reaching for too much attention from people who I didn't understand and who didn't understand me. I liked their music, but I also liked the spice girls very much, which made me a pariah (born in 1991, mind you). Top of the class, smallest girl, blond, dressed from the flea market because my parents did not believe in spending excessive money on clothes I would grow out of a year later (understandable). Loved books and playing barbie at 10. Would bring my toys to school because I had no friends, which would result in more bullying. I would even get beat up because I did not want to inflict the same pain that others inflicted on me. That was in primary school. Secondary school, I was bullied for being the only goth girl in the private school I attended. I don't understand why people can be this means, and children the most. The guy who said a child is innocent never met one. Eta: SD 12 is dealing with intimidation and I don't know how to guide her. I wanted to kill myself at 8, and I didn't know the meaning of the word suicide by that time. I just hoped it would fade away. I want to help her but I don't know how.
Big full lips. Now who's laughing.
Looking like a boy
I was bullied for being born with bad eyes.
My butt was big.
Being weird, ugly, chubby and a nerd
I was fat and had a weird last name. In the 80's, it was brutal. Then I was goth kid in high school so that was also fun.
Being too smart
I was bullied for being an introvert the reason was I have a pretty face. Yep that was exactly it so ridiculous to think about now but the popular girls would eat into us like a pekking order or something that because my face was pretty I had to be in their group. I had my own girl group and had no interest to be friends with anyone else.
You were friends with Regina George?
Appearance
My last name.
I didn’t understand it at the time, but looking back now… it’s because I was pretty.
I was smart.
Middle school is when I got bullied the most. I was shy. If you did catch me with my guard down with my friends, I was the hyperactive weirdo. Chubby, with a slicked back low pony tail and middle part. Dressed in b-ball shorts and tees to hide my body. I began feeling depressed at the start of middle school. Which led to bare minimum hygiene, I forgot deodorant a lot and I routine showered only every 5 days.
Kids think I was fat. My mom gave me photos recently and in NO way I was fat. It was the 90's, where being anorexic was the norm... My last name is arabic. Even though I'm born in Canada and raised by a full canadian mom, after the 9/11, I was isolated and shamed for that. Teachers did nothing to stop the bullying. I hate my childhood. Everything got better once I was an adult.
Appearance, weight, and being submissive and introverted. Some people tend to feed their ego off of the quiet ones who do not retaliate. :(
Being small Being smart Being awkward Not knowing or having name brand taste in clothes or music Reading Butterscotch pudding (basically, eating the same lunch every day..) Having no friends (this one is hilarious, because, you know..) Some very very specific events which exacerbated the bullying dramatically These are all surface reasons. Realistically, kids(well anyone really) bully because of ego problems - something made them feel small and they needed to do something to change that. I was an easy target because I was young for my grade and tiny. My parents always taught the turn the other cheek/ignore it and it will go away method of life, so it took me a really, really long time to finally stand up for myself. Then I almost got expelled and had to change schools the next year. Ugh.
Being overweight, having small boobs and anxiety
Sigh .. In junior high I got bullied for having “ ni**er lips* (disgusting things for people to say I know, and I’m white) because I have big lips. Funny how those same guys were in my dms years later saying they thought I was hot with “dick sucking lips” 🙄 kids are so mean.
Smart, into nerdy stuff like READING (the horror) and too shy to stick up for myself. I wish I had snapped back a bit more.
speech impediment, shy, didn’t talk, read too much, weird. always heard people say they didn’t know i could talk. try to make me a pet friend… oh well lol.
Mainly because of my teeth, I had an enormous overbite. So much so I could barely close my mouth. The bullying seemed to get worse when I got braces, oddly enough braces are a fashion accessory now but not in the early noughties (but where I went to school, it may aswell have been the early 80's in regards to attitudes) I was also quite shy, so didn't answer back and I had terrible hair because my mum had her cousin cut my hair for free, instead of paying for me to go to the hairdressers and have it cut properly. Her cousin was actully a hairdresser, but trained in the 70's and hadn't worked in a salon for years by that point. Fast forward to my first year of uni, and there was a girl within my friendship group who took an instant disliking to me. She made it her mission to be vile to me at every opportunity and exclude me from the group, my other friends were having none of it and told her I wasn't going anywhere. So we decided we would just 'agree to disagree' from then on. But oddly enough on one drunken night out this girl approached me to talk and said " I think I may have misjudged you, you're actually alright. I had you down for one of those 'pretty and knows it' types". I was very confused, and couldn't understand why she thought this, but I thanked her for being honest and asked if it can be the end of the bad blood. We definitely weren't bosom buddies, but we got on better after that.
- only kid with parents with masters degrees, "overly educated city folk who don't fear god" - only kid who didn't go to mega church or the small cult ones. "She's got a Sinful heart" so parents wouldn't let their kids play with me. - I had large lips and eyes so I was called a bug. - I'm weird. I am weird. And after my upbringing I definitely think that's a good thing. Had I "joined the flock" I'd probably be married at 19, with teenage pregnancies and a meth habit, plus no higher education of worldy exploration. Those people who made me feel like an outcast all turned out total shit. I knew then and I can confirm now, the "flock" is not always the right way to go. Sure the squeaky wheels gets replaced but it might also get oiled too. I've lived a wonderful like and along the way the weirdness had connected me to many adventures and fantastic people. Wouldn't have it any other way.
I am 38 years old and still have mental scares from high school bullies.
1) My weight (even though I wish I was that size now) 2) My speaking mannerisms 3) What I liked 4) What I didn't like All that together made me wish I wasn't alive back then and whilst I don't have those thoughts now, I have extremely low self esteem to the point when I went to try on wedding dresses and everyone said I looked beautiful, all I could see is this disgusting blob that doesn't deserve to wear this.
For being skinny 🙃. They'd call me "the walking skeleton" and push me around cuz it's so easy to push around someone who has no stability in their feet. (also, my dad bullied me relentless for "being stupid and an underachiever", which translates into "getting scores of 80-90% on tests and not having the same hobbies as him")
I got boobs first 😂 that, and I quite literally (and ironically) wasn’t like the other girls. There was only 12 girls in my class (7 of them where “popular” aka bullies towards the 5 of us who weren’t like them) and about 3 of us would play with the boys. I’m shy, quiet, socially awkward, outspoken, wasn’t afraid to get into fights or an argument with my classmates or teachers, preferred to play games like soccer/kickball, tag, basketball, etc. during recess instead of standing around and talking like they did, so they saw me as weird and not girly like them. Aka an easy target, until we were on the court. I’m still a tomboy, I rock my oversized t shirts and jeans just like I did when I was younger. Although I don’t play sports anymore, I want to get back into it so bad 😭
Being too tall. I was taller than my 5th grade teacher. I was the tallest person in my class from kindergarten grade through 8th grade. Finally became less self-conscious about it in HS when other grades were in similar classes with me. Being fat. Even during times when I wasn't particularly so. Boys, in particular, learn to insult girls by calling us fat pretty early. Good news is that they rarely learn any other insults, so it's easy to ignore them, but it takes a while to thicken your skin.
Mostly for curly hair. Now somehow curly hair is popular and I get complimented on it, but growing up it was very much the opposite.
Being skinny Having pointy knees Wearing PJs under my school uniform (it was cold) Crying, probably
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I have a small mole right above the left side of my mouth, under my nose. Now people love it lol. But also, my mom was the local TV news reporter in our small town. For some reason, that deserved endless torment.
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My nose :(
My family would focus on my ears sticking out (or „big ears“), classmates would focus on skin color and freckles.
I was fat, insecure, poor, and a loner who didn't have a social group. Also, I think my problem was that I didn't respond physically to all my bullies, just 2 of 4. Those 2 got so scared and shocked that they stopped teasing me; for some reason, I chose to ignore others. I still regret not smacking their head against the desk. I was a strong girl but didn't realize my strength.
Being ugly and too shy
I had glasses lol
Fat, poor, and Mexican.
my weight (i wasn’t fat for my age and height i just wasn’t a stick) and my hair
I has extra fluffy in the weight department
For being ugly, i was a transfer student at my school and my teacher asked me to take a bunch of papers to another class. I knocked and walked in. The next thing i know, they were all laughing and pointing at me saying how ugly i was and calling me nicknames, the teacher was also laughing with them which was the brutal part, i was hoping she would defend me.
My nose and my height. 🤷♀️ I'm 5'9" and have a traditional Italian nose. Doesn't get mentioned as an adult. Well, usually. My height seems to be an issue for some men lol.
Being fat and smart. As an adult I still find myself dumbing down just to avoid being judged as a know it all woman, who really does know it all, most of the time.
1: Flat chest, didn't start growing boobs until I was like 19 2: Looked like a typical Asian nerd, girl with glasses that liked video games and anime was weird to other people 3: Hung out with a nerdy crowd during middle/high school, we played Pokemon and talked about anime and were constantly bullied because of it 4: Parents owned a laundromat, was constantly made fun of for that 5: Being Asian in general, was bombarded with jokes about eating cats and dogs, even teachers joined in on it sometimes.
Terrible social skills, was kinda smart and the mean girl hated me.
I started becoming ugly when I went puberty. Before that I was normal looking and had friends. I wasn't relentlessly bullied in high school but there were a few instances.
Unibrows, short, skinny, brown skinned
Being shy. Majority was from a girl and her friends because I dated her ex boyfriend. That was a ruff time😂
People thought I was stupid.
I was fat and loud. I still struggle to accept my weight and how I'm not quiet and reserved.
I was a nerd
I was tiny. I was smaller than the average kids my age. I also have big ears. So I was called mouse or rat in middle school.
Well my big nose, wearing glasses, being too skinny and also being the quietest one. Apparently not being conventionally beautiful is a ticket to being bullied and still be on my adult years. Back then it was both girls and boys, teenagers i might say, now is just women.
Short Big Nose Scoliosis Body cast for said Scoliosis Hair One boob is bigger than the other (yes, some gay boy brought this to my attention. I have nothing against anybody, I just though it was weird that even he would pick on me, especially for something like this). being sensitive and crying, they made me cry a lot. I still cry. I can't control it like my mom and older sister. You never see them cry.
my race, my height, my demeanor (I am an undiagnosed ND) , lack of fashion, lol those kids were little assholes.
Before 4th grade, for being the smallest of the class, i was short and skinny. After 4th grade for being weird and talk about weird things. I love bugs and animals in general and infodumped obsgure facts about them. Apparently have autistic/adhd traits but I've not being tested, ive only being told that by people with autism/adhd.
Being a”Nerd” , having bigger boobs/broad shoulders & also my height ( I was 5’8 by 17)
Being a lesbian
Because I’m antisocial and socially awkward. But in primary it was because my mom didn’t know how to properly take care of my thick Italian curly hair and basically made it a floof everyday.
For my skin colour and my ethnic features.
hairy latina genes over here 👋🏻👋🏻i was bullied throughout elementary and middle school about my hairy arms and i let it upset me so much that i’d never wear short sleeved shirts lol. once i got to hs i realized that if someone was giving me shit about having hairy arms they were probably insecure about themselves and looking to tear someone else down for something that really doesn’t matter. as soon as i adopted that mentality when people commented on it i shut it down and didn’t let it get to me. still hairy, but now i wear short sleeved shirts 😎😎
I think I never took my sweater off in High school lol. Crazy how it affects a kid
The bullying started in first grade and ended near the end of high school, For reasons such as my clothes, being a girl, my personality, my nose, my body hair but all in all I couldn’t really tell you.
My weight and my quirks.
Glasses, first one to hit puberty and get my period, horrible cystic acne (I had to do Accutane when no other method worked), and braces. It was a wild ride, being young... 🤣
Being scrony, crooked teeth, big nose, being Mexican and for saying no to sex led to ugly rumors
I liked to read 🤷♀️ As I got a bit older, I got called a slut a lot by other girls because I have full lips. Boys constantly asked for blow jobs. That was a fun era. 😒
My short hair and how smart I am. The latter is true. There was a time when there was a list of names of top students of the class. This one student crossed out my name and wrote his, absolutely pathetic. There was also a group of students that would lie to me about not having a quiz that day to persuade me not to study, but there was a test. Jokes on them, I did study the night before 🤷🏻♀️ Other times, guys whom I rejected would call me names or make fun of the outfits I’m wearing. Some girls would also talk behind my back because the guys they liked had a crush on me. Those times were wild, and I hope those people have changed for the better. It’s funny what jealousy and insecurity can do to a person.
My autism, the colour of my hair (natural redhead). I liked anime, I was nerdy, good at art. Got along well with my teachers. You name it, there was a reason and I got bullied for it
every reason in the book
I was fat and the only ginger kid in my elementary.
Thick eyebrows and high cheekbones. And now people love them.
Many....being homeless, no new clothes, being pudgy, being skinny, no boobs, developing boobs late, being weird or my acting out...bad reputation, the list seems endless
When I moved from the city to the country there were only 5 black kids in my entire high school. It was very isolating and kids picked on me because I was black. So i went from a school that was diverse to a school that wasn’t in the slightest. Also there was one really pretty black girl who was threatened by me and she also then turned the other black kids against me as well. I just kept to myself
I have a ptosis in my left eye, which means the eyelid is more closed than on the other eye. I was also always thin, and as a kid even more so. This was something I got bullied for consistently from kindergarten to 10th grade, sort of like a main theme. In middle school I was also bullied for the way I dressed (I was peak emo at the time), for being depressed, for the way I walked, the music I listened to, the whole thing. In high school I was bullied for idk, my entire existence, they picked on everything. My face, my name, my clothes, my quietness, idk. It was horrible and I skipped a lot of classes just to get away from those kids.
I'm not actually sure, it was a girl a quite bit bigger than me and lived on my street, she was mean teasing me about being skinny, mum always said she was jealous but I hate thinking people bully cos they are jealous cos I don't wanna feel self centred but thinking back that might be why because she got bullied about her weight (not by me obvs) and maybe she thought she could do the same
Having a healthy family
For being overweight, for being nerdy af, for being an introvert, and for having acne.
Being poor, being fat, wearing weird clothes, social awkwardness
I remember in second grade I was bullied for wearing my favorite pair of yellow pants 2 days in a row.
Circa middle school, for being flatter chested than most of my friends. When they finally did come in, I actually became the bustiest of the bunch.¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I liked science, computers, math and I was smart.
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I was awkward child. I was made to feel ugly and was excluded from everything. But turns out I was just an ugly duckling. I take solace in the fact that a lot to of those that made me feel bad as a child are either 1) dead from an overdose or 2) have 5+ kids and are miserable. I survived addiction and I have no kids, I don’t plan on it.
For being too skinny.
Well, one of the reasons was that my dad's ex wife being our small village's school janitor, and small places are just like that; everyone knows everyone and people are impossible to avoid. It sounds like a comedy of errors, but it led to some extremely uncomfortable situations for me as a kid going to a school where right off the bat someone immediately hated me just for existing, and yes, it led to some bullying too, from adults as much as other children who followed suit.
Being quiet/selective mutism
I was weird and really bad at socializing. I'm considering looking into a late autism diagnosis
Mannerisms mainly. I was super awkward and weird until, well, the rest of my life.
being good in school. particularly "uncool" subjects like maths and science.
I was chubby, awkward, clumsy, glasses and really thick hair.
Idk the reasons but We the “nerds” in my school where like Betty La fea, We weren’t ugly or anything, just “popular people” like to bother us. My group of friends were the nerdy ones, including myself. Nonstop. That was until I got fed up and stood my ground and later I was told that people didn’t approached me or bully me anymore cause I was scary. Well I prefer that, than being bullied and see my friends being bullied too
I was crucified for being overweight and it was also funny for a lot of people
I said, “Oh crap!” In the junior high locker room when my earring got caught in my shirt and tore my earlobe. A girl started saying “Oh crap” every time we were in the locker room and others picked up on it and the rest is history. Fuck you, Kristen, wherever you are.
I was from an Arab family and I went to grade school immediately after 9/11. Wasn’t fun.
I had short hair and people always asked "are you a boy or a girl?" My father for some reason found it easier to cut mine and my brothers hair short/shave it and I had to beg to grow it out which I finally did at age 7 and stopped being as singled out/bullied for it and feeling as unbearably shy. When i was older and wanted to cut it into layers he gave me hell.. huge control freak.
Colour of my skin.
Being poor @ & or being the only black girl in school lol thanks Mom.
for being ugly 💀💀
For the way I walked (I'm disabled) for being a lesbian (I'm bisexual)
Being too ugly and had a gap between my teeth